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Monday, 17 July 2017

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
FRIENDSHIP GONE SOUTH

Dear Stella,
Am a good fan of your good works, thank you for the wonderful opportunity to express my feelings.

Please don't mind my English bvs,am still a leaner....

My story goes like this,I am a 23 years old girl and I am in 300level in one of the federal university in the East.

I have this childhood friend; a girl that recently got admission in the same school I am studying and I am accommodating her.

I have known her for the past 9 years now Infact we both looked for admission together but I was lucky to get before her. To cut the story short,we are having issues now and what caused it is that I advised her to read her book and told her she is taking it for granted and my school rarely allows sorting courses If you should fail..

 Instead of heeding to my advice she stopped talking to me.

 
She just left the next morning to a Friend's place and she didn't tell me where she was going to and when she later came back,she still didnt talk to me.

There is this guy that stays close to our lodge that is her friend,I guess she goes there to sleep because the guy doesn't talk to me again too. 

Please I need your advise as she is the type that does not apologize even when she is wrong. The last time she a picked quarrel with me, I took her to chitis and bought chicken pasta and drink and asked her to forgive me although I didn't do anything to her and what she did was to tell that her friend that I took her to chitis and begged her for forgiveness, can you people imagine? that is one of the reasons I decided not to apologize to her again. 

Please I need you people's advise,every to knows about our friendship even her mum.


87 comments:

Daenerys_targaryen(For your organic soap and cream���� what's app 08112237061) said...

Hmmm

Anonymous said...

Mtchewwww


You too dey worry @Poster


I tell you



.
@Anonymous Orubebe

Blackberry said...

Mtchew!
You are behaving like, she has d key to your happiness.

AGELESS T said...

You spoilt her now? Chicken pasta for what?

Leave her alone. She will soon learn the hard way.

Rocky said...

"Chitis", definitely UNN.

Your friend is a grown ass woman, allow her and mind your own business

SWEETIE said...

Ignore her till she comes to her senses

Brandedme said...

ignore her

Anonymous said...

Let me just give you this advise my @Dad gave me years ago when I was in your shoes

He said, just keep loving her.. ..keep showing her love, because that is what @Jehovah asked us to do

It was so hard for me when my @Dad told me.. ....Now I know Better

Keep showing her love




@Anonymous Orubebe

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

This poster sef..
What's your business if she reads her book or not?...
Are you her parents or are you in any way contributing to her welfare?...
Fuck off abeg...
I hate your type of friend..
Poke noser!..
Jealousy jeloma!...I'm sure she is finer and hotter than you..
If you like,take her to Emily restaurant this time around,She should stay away from friends like you...

Doppelgänger said...

Friendship is not by force and you should never force anyone to be in your life. Some people are meant to be in our lives as lessons and only for a while. God has given you signs to cut this girl loose but you keep grasping at straws.
Ignore her and focus on your studies. If she talks to you, respond since she squats with you but do not make her feel like you can't do without her. Friendship should be reciproted and this girl is clearly taking you for granted. Free her, you both have your lives to live and you've been a good friend to her.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Mind your fucking BUSINESS

IamMoore said...

I pray d friendship doesn't go to d North.... You both have different reasons for which you re in school. If she decides to let her ID rule over her EGO and SUPER EGO, pls let her be.

U stick to ur purpose... My dad would always say that a man killed by train, died by his ears...

Although, u should not stop praying for her as her life could depend on it.

Anonymous said...

There is hardly any girl to girl quarrel that is not centered about "dragging for a boy's attention". Look in well;
Are you interested in the male friend?
If not, leave her to her fate.
It is dangerous though seeing that both of you share the same roof.
You don't need a "friend" that is a threat. Love is not selfish.

sexy Daddy said...

Children chronicle!

Madam Small Chops said...

Mind your business,You both are adults and you've tried to look out for her the little way you can so let her be.

Sometimes people learn from our attitude and not what we say.If she sees how serious you are with your studies she "might" change but if she doesn't you have nothing to lose.

At the end of the your certificate won't be given to her.

Bianca BRUNO said...

Keep apologizing. Small child like that get sense pass u.what consigns u if she fails? Are u h er mother abi u haven't heard salvation is a personal race.

Chronicles folder dey empty nor mean say una go dey ask us to solve how many Maggi una go put for ur soup oh

Anonymous said...

She knows you love her and would do anything for her hence her stupid behaviour. Let her be just your thing and ignore her. She will come around

Anonymous said...

Hmm is she tied to your destiny? For your peace of mind since you want to apologise, go ahead and do so after she has accepted the apology pls tell her to pack her things and leave yo place, maybe she can go and stay with her friend. Tell u like being her friend oo and u dnt wish to have anymore misunderstandingsssss

Anonymous said...

This is the reason why I no longer accommodate friends , 80% of them are so ungrateful! U accommodate them and they begin to feel they have a right to your home , had a friend like that also but I had to drop her because her problem was too much .

2muchjuice|2muchsauce said...

Hmmm Sorry if I sound queer..But you talk as if you are lesbians..Well there is more to this story sha except you have decided to leave those details out..Also if you are telling her the truth, why do you have to apologize?? Abeg face your front and know that 9 friends can never be together for a whole 9 years..You lose some, you make more friends that is L.I.F.E...

www.couplingsingles.com said...

Your friend is a mooch, a narcissist and a selfish cow. People like her are users. She's using emotional black mail on you and waiting for you to apologise again. Just ignore her and get rid of such friends

Anonymous said...

All these petty UNN girls! Make una face una book.

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

Kids problem!
You're still in school, face your studies and forget about one unserious friend who doesn't takes her studies serious.
Stop bothering yourself about who she sleeps and doesn't sleep with, she is not your sister. Let her make mistakes so she can learn.

As for you, face your book, befriend other serious students and stop stressing yourself out over your friend who's just been released from the cage.

Anonymous said...

Let her go abeg...nah by force 2 make frdz...ur life depends on her abi wetin..i Don vex sef

Cynthia Iyede said...

Let her be and face your life.

Fidel Castro said...

Pls discard her like you discard menstrual pads after use.

Everly Rockin' said...

Ignore her!!! Don't discuss anything with her. Don't tell her to leave your room but she on her own, choses to leave, let her go. Don't even ask her why she's going. It was because you apologized the first that gave her the guts to misbehave. Blank her out. I wish you are around so that I can give you tutorials on how to proceed. If she decides to tell you her annoyance with you, you two can talk things through like matured adults. And if eventually she starts talking to you again, (without airing her grouse) answer her politely but let the distance be there so that she will get the message that you are not a push over. As for the guy helping to keep malice with you, don't ever talk to or have anything to do with him again. If there's one thing I detest, it is people who join others to keep malice over a quarrel they didn't know when or how it started. If I make up with the person I had the quarrel, I don't ever have anything to do with the "helper". Move on with your life. Nothing lasts forever and you both must not be friends forever.

NNAMDI HENRY said...

chitis.....Obodo nsukka!

Love.Eating.Pussy said...

Poster Forget her and watch things unfold. Stop your advice and mind your business henceforth.

Sometimes some people need to learn their lifes lesson the hard way.

Dnt wish her bad but henceforth concentrate on just your own life and make new friends, shes not worth the stress you are giving yourself

Anonymous said...

Forget her jare. Dey your lane n totally ignore the bish!

Anonymous said...

let her be for now till she comes bk to her senses.....I have a roommate like that too but me I be professional in keeping malice

Pastor's Daughter said...

move on girl. stop worrying bout people who dont care for themselves. if you cant slap or flog sense into her. do the one you can and leave.
she seems like a distraction to you. get rid of the distraction fast before your GP drops.







*am going to go hang my leg*

Ed said...

Madam friendship is not by force biko... On top my rent fa...smh

Anonymous said...

Take her to Chitis and buy her chicken pasta and drink,that will make her come back to you...

jelly said...

She de feed you? Abeg forget her jare

QUEEN AMY Loves ACCESS BANK said...

Look for a way to stay away from her if possible ask her to look for her own house. Before you do that, make sure to make peace inugo.

Anonymous said...

Thank you very much

You nailed it




"9 friends can't play for 9 years"......My @Grandma dey talk am






@Anonymous Orubebe

Anonymous said...

Lol!

Nwunyedoc said...

Hahhahaha, lol, used to have a friend like that. My friend was cool but had a noisy bf that knew I didn't like him. He encouraged her to stay away from me. I stayed away for over a year although it was super hard cos she was my bestie for over eight years, guess what, she broke up with the guy, and we continued our friendship after our parents mediated. What am I trying to say? Abeg don't let anyone treat you like trash but don't keep grudges.
Cheers.

Anonymous said...

Queen, please don't be too hard on her. She's just 23.

I.d noble said...

Hey poster, I used to be like you with a room mate of mine then. She'd do something out of place or wrong and then she'll expect me to apologise. Of course because I was a peace loving person, I'd apologise. But it got to a point and I had to give myself a tad bit of brain and I'd leave her to do whatever when there's another round of disagreement between us both. She'd leave the house and go places for days but I stopped caring. Didn't take her long bfr she started trying to make things right on her own when she saw I stopped caring.
I ll advice you to leave her be, they did not tie your placentas together.. If she wants to come back, accept her. If not let her be, nothing wrong in advising a friend mehn. Don't let her cause you headaches cos that's what friends like that do.

Anonymous said...

Is she not the one accomodating her? Read and be well!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Yes she is contributing to her welfare, because she gave her a roof over her head, and am sure even share her food stuff with her. Did you even read the story at all!!! Before rushing to comment. Mtchewww. Dear Poster, I have been in your shoes before and I know exactly how you feel. My 2cents, Ignore her and next semester tell her to look for another accommodation, because she can never change

Anonymous said...

Exactly. Do you really need this type of friend? Just face your own life to prevent stories that touch...

Anonymous said...

*yimu

Anonymous said...

Exactly. BEWARE OF USERS!

Anonymous said...

Without her leaving I doubt poster will have peace of mind.

Anonymous said...

Exactly! She is not worth the stress. Just got rid of one ungrateful mooch, and I am free mehn!

Anonymous said...

Ignore her 100%. That's the only language people like her understand.

Anonymous said...

by CHITIS, you mean UNN. yes, i am a superlioness. instead of you to buy her okpa, LOL. they do not advise anyone to read his/her book in UNN, by the time result show, she go know how far. mind your business and read ur own book. if her trouble is too much, do not renew rent with her the next year. Very simple. Face your own Front and do me a favour go to chitis and eat their porridge bean and plantain on my behalf.

Empressitta

Blossom said...

Madam,that She doesn't want to read her book is her headache. At the university level,people want to be free and independent,allow her and if she sees wrong in her actions,she will by herself make ammmends.

Friendship is a choice,if she isn't talking to you,stay on your lane. I don't think it's that hard.

Doppelgänger said...

*reciprocated.

Just Glamour said...

@23 you don't know your stand in relating With friends,you tolerate a girl like you pushing you around it's either you are in love with her or you have low self esteem,leave her to make her decisions and stop advising her,if you paid the full rent of your place asked her to move out cos she still speaks ill of you behind you,friendship is not by force,my younger brother will always say 'life na per head'.

Sabali said...

Hahaha I had a friend like that I met In UK during my masters.My dear she will keep malice at any slight issue I will be begging I will even call my husband lamenting.I called him one day he said come are you foolish can't you see this girl does not regard you despite all the good things you do for her. He said ignore her she will come begging 😂😂😂it was hard but I did and she came begging the almighty girl 😂😂😂that is life for you when you ignore them they will correct their foolishness.😂We are still friends but she knows better now.

I am the queen and the boss of this blog(CHIEF) said...

She gave her a roof under her head and so fucking what?...
How much is accomodation in the east if I may ask?...
Poster,is she your lesbo partner?...
Give me her contact lemme warn her to stay away from you!...

Anonymous said...

she must be the air you breathe ooooooo

Miss Ess said...

Stop worrying about her, obviously she doesn't care about you.

Anonymous said...

As in eh,chitis just gave out the name of the sch sharply, poster pls free her already,is friendship by force!hia

Jeni_zee said...

The girl sef nawa, so she told people u took her to eat nd begged for forgiveness? Just give her space nd face front

Jeni_zee said...

Bianca love, pls I want to cook jollof for two, how many magi should I use? Lol

trish said...

You are beggin her to forgive u "say u no go do it again" and even took her to an eatery..biko am askin are u pple lesbians?then y are u bothered when u are not her mother..Better start mindedin your business in jenifas voice!joke apart mind ya damn business gurl.

Anonymous said...

YOU ARE DULLING. THE BABE WANT MAKE YOU CARRY HER AND HER BOO GO CHITIS AGAIN. IF YOU TRY IT...

BONE HER

Anonymous said...

I know who you are. Keep lying you hear?

sholetoga said...

Poster.......I can figure out how you feel at her behaviour but biko she's an adult, let her be. If she's not staying with you anymore please let her mum know so that you won't be responsible if anything happens to her.
Let your conscience be clear that you're a good friend for telling to face her studies but its her choice to do that or not as grown woman. Don't apologise directly but if you walk into her greet her like nothing happens......huh
See the issues you're having with her are normal issues that have when women stay together.......They're experience that will help you to be stronger as a person.
Stay happy dear and face your studies

Chikito The Professional Fire for Fire a.k.a 'Anike' 😂😂😂 said...

Hmmmm!
I used to have a friend in uni and i loved that babe die. We were friends from our younger years. Similar thing that this your described babe is doing and really I used to be sooo into friendships that i can give my last money sef. But can boys allow my babe see road? Follow bae soteey she no graduate, relocated with bae and did university in his house and bae didnt marry her after about 6 years. After slashing kponyor that he didnt pay bride price for, said that his family said he must marry a graduate by that time her file had already been closed. Meanwhile all of us her friends don finish NYSC by then. Retrospectively, She had daddy issues sha but At the time i just didnt gerrit, I will be talking and talking even calling her for lectures wey we no even dey the same class. Years later she mailed me an apology on fb but by then, our lives were soooo far apart. We still exchange friendly mails and i learnt how to mind my business thenceforth.

MY ADVICE IS THAT YOU CUT OFF MOTHER THERESA MOVES AND LEAVE HER TO HERSELF. IF YOU ARE RIGHT, ONE DAY TIME WILL TELL. All this friends energy sef is it not draining? Shebi its school that you are supposed to be in? Face the school and leave such issues. Don't worry, as you grow older you will realize that friendship isn't what is in story books. There are times when you MUST go separate ways cos everyone has to grow. What we grow into, we can't say right now. But dont loose yourself trying to make someone have 'your type' of sense. Your priorities are different, even though your backgrounds are similar.

The Lifted said...

It is your type people use their head anyhow. how will you be petting her & taking rubbish from her..anyway if u don't act fast & take decision like the adult that u are,then u are on ur own
My advice is this: Sit her down & talk to her,make an arrangement to send her packing from your room as long as she didn't pay part of the rent,let her go & live her life the way she pleases.

anonymous donor. said...

My dear, I was once in your shoes loonggg ago. What I'm about to tell u requires strong mind. First accept in ur mind that shhe is not good for u. Friend u are always begging for forgiveness and slaving ffor, is that one friend?. Ask her for forgivenes. Yes, I said it. For ur own peace of mind. Act like y'all are cool. Henceforth mind ur business. Smile when u have to, greet when u have to. Stay more in class reading. Yup. U are a fugitive in ur. Own room. Next semester, ttalk with ur parents, tell dem everything, then tell ur friend that ur dad disapprves of u squatting her. Yes. Tell her that he believes that's where lesbianism startts from, nd that u have begged him taya.either that, or that ur pastor saw vision and disapproves. Stick by ur stry. Tell ur friend that ur dad has some of ur classmates number that spy on u, and u don't know who dey are. U can start this semester by telling her that ur dad heard u wwent out the other day, nd that u don't know who is feeding him info. Thank me later. If u like when it's time for gettting accommodation again, fall for her tricks nd niceness and squat her again. Na u sabi. She fit kill u sef.

Candid BFL said...

Nne she can't mind her business....she lives under her roof,there is nothing wrong with a friendly advice only depends on how it was put to her...besides she could influence her, people tend to grow on each other when they live together....
Poster you sound like the type that can't be at peace if you are not in good terms with a person..just apologise for your own sanity, next semester she should jejely find another lodge

Joyoba said...

Gr8 advice

lbeneme jayne said...

@ anonymous donor, u are so onpoint. That was how my cousin who squatted with me acted d only difference is i snubbed her till she got tired,do as she instructed shikinah

wideawake naija said...

Take this advice from anonymous donor

Pacy yoga SDK blog addict said...

God bless you doppel..I'm currently facing one here and I have already told her to look for her accommodation before month ending or latest month ending as soon as we collect alawee. Poster I understand you. Just do as adviced by doppel okay

Pacy yoga SDK blog addict said...

Queen, I'm ur fan but on this issue, you were too rude and insultive. She hasn't done anything wrong for talking to her instead it is her friend who is paying evil for the good being rendered to her. Pls poster do not take what Queen has typed to heart okay. Just do as you are advised by doppel and co. Next semester, tell her u can't accommodate her anymore. Let her get her own space. After all she has already made new friends for herself. Those friends should help out and be far from her.

Anonymous said...

Poster dem tie una placenta together?abi she be ur lesbian partner? Abi she give u one of her kidneys? Wats ur problem? Are u lives tied together?is she feeding u? Wats ur stress?u no go allow her live her life?free her jor! Let her be! Face ur own studies! Mind ur own bisness! If she has carryovers,is it ur carry overs? Allow her be!u not her mother or her father so free her!shes not just into u anymore!she does nt want or like ur friendship so let her be! Face ur own studies and live her alone!mind ur own bisness and let her live her life!let her make her mistakes and learn in a hard and bitter way!face ur studies and graduate!just let her be!

Cassandra Carter said...

Wow@anonymous donor! You are a very wise person. I was gping to advise her to withdraw from such a manipulative person that could put her in trouble. People like that can kill. But tge best approach is to gradually drop her.

Cassandra Carter said...

Love her from afar! I loved my former best friend like that! We went to the same secondary school and the same tertiary institution. She slept with all my boyfriends. I couldn't keep a stable relationship till i left her. I had to move out of the apartment i rented for my own sanity. Until i left her, my life didn't take shape. We are still acquainted, we still chat on watsapp sometimes, but that is where it ends. My dear, LOVE FER FROM A DIDTANCE. SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. PERIOD.

Cassandra Carter said...

Lol.

Mystery Queen said...

Abeg tell her to leave your house. What nonsense! mtcheww.

Ani Innocent mum said...

But truly what's her biz whether she is reading her books or not

Monkeynofine said...

Nope she ain't a lesbian she's weak in spirit!, I use to have a friend like her that almost turn me into a bully, any small thing even if I'm the one that was wrong she will come over to beg me, me I am at home thinking of how to go beg her with my pride, next thing Zoom she's here begging already, I borrowed sense then cut her off because I have a very thick skin and I love to mingle with people like me! Na witch them dey see people like them, weak during the day and strong during the night! Me and my "alomba's" will fight now and in the next seconds we will start gossiping again. ...... dis is one of the reasons I don't like debie rise of bbniaja

Push up said...

My dear sometimes it's not a thing of loving her or having low self esteem, some people have had good friends all their life so they know how to keep and appreciate friendships, I had friends that were always bringing one drama or the other, it was like they were always trying to favor a particular one, at the end of the day I told myself I have other friends I can survive, I asked myself the gain in the yeye friendship sef, mostly this person gossiping the other, at the end of the day there was nothing I was going to miss, I made sure we ended on a cordial note but deleted all their numbers, I am sure they couldn't believe it cus the push up they know can never keep marlice, but I just needed the space myself at the end they started reaching out, it just taught me that whoever wants to be your friend would be never force it and stop begging at the end of the day if they don't want to stay then it means they were never good for you in the first place, now ask yourself how does she contribute positively to your life

Anonymous said...

UNN childish mentality! I see it is in vogue. Kick her ass to the curb

Stella Igbokei said...

Make I follow u say HMMMM

Anonymous said...

Umuazi, imagine ur problem is that another umuazi does not talk to u. Beta hunger never catch una two b4

lizyyaminu said...

Hmmmmm am learning a lot frm all d commenters..we are 3 childhood frnds one had misunderstanding with the oda and dey refuse to forgive each oda I have bin trying to bring dem together rada d oda one deleted me frm ha Whatsapp due to disturbance..nkw I now frndshp dnt last freveer

Bold Marehi said...

My dear friendship is not by force, As long as your conscience is clear that you are not at fault, continue greeting her, when she is tired she will come around. Don't tell her to read her books again, she knows what is good for her cos your advice wont be useful to her.

Anonymous said...

So friendly/sisterly advice is now a crime? Can u honestly say, as a parent, u won't be happy if ur children have friends who can give them good advice? Nothing person no go hear.

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