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Tuesday, 15 August 2017

Domestic Violence Ends Fatally For Heavily Pregnant Nigerian Qoman

This is the shocking story of a pregnant woman, Chinyere Sylvia Akaleme, who died after she was allegedly brutally beaten by her husband, Obinna Akaleme on the day she was due to give birth.




Read her shocking untold story as shared by Ukan Kurugh on Facebook


“DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:THE UNTOLD STORY OF ENGR. CHINYERE SYLVIA AKALEME (NEE IGBO)
The menace of Domestic violence in Nigeria and it’s implications on the families of the victims.


Late Engr Sylvia

Unfortunately for Sylvia or Chinyere as she was fondly called by family and close friends, she did not live to tell her own story. She was cut down in her prime by the man she loved till death did them part Obinna Akaleme, her husband. She died on the day she was due to give birth after series of miscarriages in her husband’s house.



A brief biography of the victim

Chinyere Sylvia Akaleme (nee Igbo) was born on 27 april 1981 into the family of Mr and Mrs Reginald Chiaka Igbo. The second child and 1st daughter of the family with six other siblings, Sylvia was raised in a middle-class Catholic family residing in Ajao estate, lagos where she had her nursery, primary and secondary education. She was a very bright pupil and her position in class never went below the top three. She gained admission into the university of Ilorin in Kwara state where she read electrical engineering and graduated with second class honours. She started a career in information technology and quickly got several professional qualifications including sisco into her academic profile. She started her working career with Karox computers before moving on to reliance info systems ltd where she became a product and sales manager



Sylvia at work

Her last job was with the Wini group, an Ikeja based corporation.
In 2012 she met and married Obinna Akaleme a farmer/ chef/ kitchen assistant and thus began her journey to an untimely death in the hands of the man she loved so much and catered for. She died on the on the 29th of march 2017 and she was committed to mother earth at the Ikoyi cemetery on the 19th of july 2017.

Engr sylvia is survived by her aged grandmother, her parents, siblings, uncles, aunties, nephews and nieces. May her gentle soul rest in peace, Amen.



What Happened?

Her parents and siblings never knew Chinyere endured several years of abuse in the hands of the man she called a husband. She assumed the role of a typical Nigerian wife who must always display a non-existent happiness in a marriage filled with sadness and regrets. The only clue about what happened to her during her over five years of marriage was the account of the neighbors who narrated how on a particular night Obinna her husband beat her up and she ran to their landlords house for safety. Also the little girl who lived with her revealed that Chinyere warned her not to tell her parents that her husband used to beat her up even while she was over eight months pregnant.


 

That explained the reason behind the series of miscarriages she had before her last pregnancy which was full term. Her parents got worried that their daughter had about four miscarriages in less than four years decided to take her to come stay with them when she took-in after her eight month old miscarriage. She lived peacefully with her parents and her pregnancy advanced with Chinyere in good health and high spirits anticipating the birth of her child. Unfortunately for her, on her due date, Obinna, her husband came to pick her up from her father’s house at 10 am to the hospital and as a dutiful wife she was, she obeyed him and went with him. According to the doctor, the mother and the baby were confirmed healthy on arrival and Doctor asked her to go get her bag in preparation for delivery that evening. 


Obinna took Chinyere to their matrimonial home. Sadly for Chinyere, he got into an argument with her over money, beat her up so badly and left her unconscious in the house. He left the house and switched off his phone and her phone so no one could reach them. He left her in the house and every attempt made to reach them was futile. He later returned and took her to the hospital when he discovered she was dying at about 4.30pm and did not deem it fit to contact her parents or siblings, he did this so as not to run the risk of her coming out of coma and telling her family her ordeal at the hands of her husband, it is also worthy to note that the hospital were she died is less than a hundred metres from her parent’s house. Obinna eventually came to her parents house around 8.30pm to tell them she had passed on. Further findings from her siblings and the doctor’s confirmation revealed that Chinyere was brought to the hospital lifeless (practically dead). The doctor decided to do a cesarean session to try and save the baby but it was all in vain




Sylvia and her daughter laid to rest

Chinyere’s sad story is one among millions of Nigerian women who fall victim to sexual and emotional predators because they want to be accepted by the society at large . They hide their ordeal from the very people that can rescue them. Their families. Women nowadays​ pretend that they are in happy marriages even when the obvious signs says otherwise. For how long will we keep up with this trend of pretending all is well when it obviously isn’t? Must we live a lie for societal acceptance? Let’s come together and say no to domestic violence and spousal abuse. There are many families like Chinyere’s who wish their children had remained single and lived with them instead of getting married and killed by their partners. Enough is enough!”


95 comments:

Miss Ess said...

I saw it on fb yesterday and I couldn't hold back my tears.

Chickyclassy Mee said...

God,so many ladies are suffering, this is sad

sexy Daddy said...

Oh God!What has our today's marriage become? How are we going to teach the next generation the sanity in a marriage?

May God help us!

Anonymous said...

This idiot must be a cultist with instructions to sacrifice the unborn babies. RIP pretty lady and lovely baby.

Chelsy said...

This is heartbreaking 😢 😔 I hope d HEdiot roots in Jail

Doppelgänger said...

I saw this story yesterday and I was weak. Walk, run, crawl away from people or anyone who gives you shit. Divorce or broken relationship is better than death.
We say this everyday yet many stay back sighting silly excuses, may God give you the strength and sense to know when you've had enough.
May her soul rest in peace and God should grant her family the fortitude to bear the loss.

Pipi Lee said...

😢😢😢😢
Why why Why?
why go back home with him?
Why stay this long with the devil?

RIP!

we will still ask 'Why' again.

GOONs Mi said...

Omg!

This is so sad.
Her soul rest in peace, hmmm.

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

I read the wife's history yesterday and felt bad. Why do women keep staying in loveless marraige all of because what the world would say. What will she tell God now that she has passed away. Will she say i was trying to keep my marraige without the world knowing what was happening.

Patapata the man will get 10 years or 15 years and will come out to leach on another woman. Women lets try and be wise. Dont allow the world to push you to your grave.

RIP Sylvia.

Intelligentsia princess said...

I saw it on fb this morning
God have mercy
Am..speechless..

Pure Nigerian said...

Gbam @ your first paragraph! What's going on?

Anonymous said...

Blame her family, blame her parents.

My ex can insult my mum all he wants but she took the right step to make sure I left that bastard. Now, I'm happy and flourishing.

Isolde Fontaine said...

This could have been avoided...its clear the man's intent from the begining was to kill her, he was never interested in having kids with her. How else can you explain 4 abortions and her/her baby's final death

Cute hajia Omo Mummy said...

Oh no! Not again

Joy Elem said...

Saw this on Facebook yesterday.
This is really saddening.

Anonymous said...

All ye chroniclers, see?. She married in 2012 Coss shhe was 31. So she settled for a beast. Just to answer mrs

Anonymous said...

So sad! Women pls learn!!!


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Chidinma Grace said...

It's obvious the man is occultic. How should we explain why he only came the day she was suppose to give birth to pick her up? What has this world gotten to. Please ladies run from violent men and vice versa. Rip Silvia. That man should be made to rot in jail.

Anonymous said...

So sad! Women pls learn!!!


SDK'sQUEENETTE

danny fisiye said...

seen





#GOAT™

zamfy said...

How these women go back to sleep with these same men that abuse them is totally beyond me.

SANDY YO said...

Tooooo weakening a story! I almost cried when I saw d woman and her daughters lying in state pix. Gosh!
Cute useless scumbag of a man.

Anonymous said...

I know this useless man he was my colleague, chef Obinna may u see no peace. You are walking freely now even chatting and dating different girls but don't forget there is no peace for the wicked!!! Am really pained

prettyi said...

See me am done talking about domestic violence for both male / female. I'll just pray they rest in peace. Let the family deal with the beater as they please.

Anonymous said...

These stories are sad but sometimes, it is difficult sympathising with dv victims.

Do they even love themselves?

If I am going to die, let it be a natural death but not from a man I married who swore to love me.

How can I stay with someone that beats me? Who even touches a pregnant woman no matter the provocation? Someone carrying your baby?

This bastard you refused to leave will marry some one else in a jiffy and has moved on.

Who lost in all of this? Your parents and family because they will never get over your death.

It is better for your marriage to fail and the society mocks you, at least you are alive than die being a Mrs.

Same way I can't deal with infidelity, I can't be infected with an incurable disease when I am faithful in marriage. If you don't want to leave better stop having sex with the dog or maybe insist on a condom..

Rhoda Rex said...

I still don't understand why she stayed with that beast of a man. 😥😥

Imoh Sandra said...

What happen to the love they they once have?a lot of people out there pretend to be happy while they are not,because they don't want society to laugh at them,the same society will blame you tomorrow when this type of thing happens...women be wise and know when to take a long walk.

Anonymous said...

I sincerely hope the man will be charged to court! This is wicked.

BEDS AND ROSES said...

What manner of devil is this.
Infact I'm speechless..............

Bee10(mummytwins) said...

I read this on my WhatsApp group and the story was really sad! Rip

Anonymous said...

Walking freely ke, abeg let us carry the matter on our head. Stella, justice for this woman and her unborn baby abeg. Dude should be arrested and prosecuted.

How do we go about this?

Teddy said...

Why do we keep doing this to ourselves. Leave, leave, leave, you are saying what will people say. When he kills you will people be buried with you? Please leave. Haba

Pure Nigerian said...

I have a very low threshold for pain, I therefore cannot imagine being constantly pummeled by someone else and staying

Simply Divine said...

Such a sad story, the man never loved her, why beat up a woman in labour? God forbid bad thing. The man is very wicked and inhumane.
RIP FINE WOMAN.

Shantelle's Empire said...

You echoed my thoughts.

Gold Taken said...

It might not be. The guy is broke and feels the lady has a tree where money grows but she being focussed might feel he doesn't make good of what he has been given in the past and baby on the way, she refused and he beat her up mercilessly leading to her death. Sometimes, an eye for an eye should be served but God knows how he will serve the best judgment because a few years imprisonment is not enough and this is 100 degrees murder.

Shantelle's Empire said...

Anon 10:16,blame her family and parents when they wern't in the know of what she was going through?

Pipi lee,xup baiby!

olaedo said...

Obinna, may you never find peace of mind.
May pain,bitterness and affliction be your daily bread.
May they rest in peace.

Shantelle's Empire said...

This is beyond physical. She musnt give birth under his roof. He is a cultist.

brisbane said...

This is heartbreaking. RIP sylvia

Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere AKA Mrs Always RIGHT said...

Vindication at last for our yoruba men. No so-called 'yoruba demon' bears the name 'obinna'. Oluwaseun.

Eka Joy said...

You can't blame the parents. Don't forget she didn't tell them what she was going through.


And what about the man, hope he was arrested and sentenced accordingly

BLOGBRITY said...

All these just to be accepted by the society who cares less about who you are and how you feel. May her soul RIP

Anonymous said...

Really, he is dating already??? Oh God, let justice prevail!!!

Anonymous said...

Desperate women everywhere...settling for beasts & bloody animals as husband in marriage due to societal pressures & stigma of being labelled aunty gwez... in nigeria.

Thank God I'm 46 yrs old single & never married mother & a grandmother today, very highly educated & successful & healthy & beautiful glowing in good life. Citizen of 3 countries & enjoying my life globally to the fullest today.
Thank God for saving me & blessing me with strongest mind to persevere & survive all plots & plans by enemies where I would have ended up today like this.

LOLO IDEATO said...

This can only not happen when you marry a BROKE ASS BASTARD, a GIGOLO, a fuckboy with low self esteem.

Now the anon is back to living. Life like a bachelor l no everlasting memory of her (Kid)

Gaa nke oma chinyere

Eka Joy said...

All u did after the story was to go calculate her age. Shame on you. For shame.

Esther Mgbolu said...

Oh my God!!!That man will never know peace,he will so suffer eh that he will look for death,pray to die but death won't come.RIP chinyere

Anonymous said...

Exactly
Societial pressure of a lady being married by 30.
Better be single and have peace than being married and die like that

Mrs.R SDK blog Official BFF said...

That man is a monster! Why did he married her? Oh God, I feel so bad right now reading this story.

How can someone be so wicked to the extent of beating your wife who is carrying your baby! Some people's atrocity just can't be pardoned like that, even though we sin differently; but this here is the height of it.

He should be charged and sentenced immediately! He deserve to rot in hell.

Mummy B said...

She had to his the abuse from her parents until she died.This is really sad

IJAY said...

OMG, this is s sad, I really don't understand why a man will take a woman to the alter and turn her to a punching bag, this is really bad, may her soul RIP

Anonymous said...

Men are just bastards.You can imagine, useless man, may he wrath in hell. WOMEN PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE for the sake of GOD, leave a dead marriage, no be by force biko! Kai, if they dont abuse you physically, they would emotionally and they are always insecure, even when they see a woman who succumbs, loves and respects them. What a pity. No wonder most ladies wld prefer being lesbians, men are just something else, yes, women have their flaws too but most times they are being pushed to the wall and would rather not take rubbish and prefer to act smart or fight back. This is because of the stories they have heard. This is really getting too much. Marriage is sacred and this is what God wants for His children, but it has become another thing, do we continue in this new generation type of marriage that we witness these days. GOD HELP US. Even in relationships, women are are not respected anymore and the guys believe they have the right to treat their ladies as they so wish. We need to stop emphasizing that men can cheat cos they are men, nowhere is it written in the bible that a man has the right to cheat on his partner. MEN PLEASE RESPECT AND TREAT YOUR WOMEN RIGHT. Everyone deserves the right to love and be loved in return.WOMEN PLEASE RESPECT YOUR HUSBANDS TOO, never talk to them in a harsh tone, air your worries and concerns in a loving way, ensure you do your best in resolving issues, we all know what we are supposed to do, but please if its not working LEAVEEEEEEEEEEEE!

Yori Yori Princess Loveme Jeje said...

Alter - Altar
there - their
lieing - lying
cain ----- cane

hahahahaha abeg make una leave me jare

Anonymous said...

Anon 10:57 *high five* tell them please marriage is not everything. I can't wait to to be a single grandma and travel the world with my grand kids.

Anonymous said...

Mrs. R. Gbagaun 1 of SDKB! there's no one like you ma'am! Kisses!

jelly said...

May this man never ever find peace in his entire life.RIP

AGELESS T said...

My dear, I must confess I have never seen pictures so touching, ever.

I saw the baby and imagined what she could have become in life. I imagined how bubbly she would have become. Her smiles, her sweetness et al. I then imagined how life was being sniffed out of her. The heart of a man is indeed DESPERATELY wicked!

Then to add salt to the injury, I read on Nairaland where a guy said it's OK to beat his wife. But it must be in a place that is safe, like what the hell is really going
on?????!!!!!

Anonymous said...

Are we thinking of pension claims? Has somebody asked her husband how much he received at her demise? Sometimes let's try to reason pragmatically. Money is a great motivator in issues like this.

Chameleon said...

rot in jail abi die by hanging

AGELESS T said...

It can't be as low as mine. I can't imagine someone beating me. How do these women endure this beatings? Like how?

Pipi Lee said...

Shanz baby, I'm good boo.
how are you?

AGELESS T said...

Like how do people meet this kind of men????!!!! How?

Anonymous said...

This story is very true I was at the same hospital for treatment, the doctor asked the husband to go and bring money for her delivery and both of them left the hospital together not up to an hour the husband brought her lifeless body back to the hospital at Ajao Estate where she was confirmed dead. RIP Chiyere

Anonymous said...

Thank God this story was published this happened since March this year and no body said anything about it. Thank God for the hospital that contacted her family members and the little girl that was living with them also confirmed that the husband beat Chinyere to death.

Anonymous said...

Thank God this story was published this happened since March this year and no body said anything about it. Thank God for the hospital that contacted her family members and the little girl that was living with them also confirmed that the husband beat Chinyere to death.

Anonymous said...

Thank God this story was published this happened since March this year and no body said anything about it. Thank God for the hospital that contacted her family members and the little girl that was living with them also confirmed that the husband beat Chinyere to death.

Down to Heart Chic said...

Chef Obinna? He probably works in an hotel. May you never find peace the rest of your life chef Obinna.
The sad truth is while dating there are signs but some women will just close their eyes to it. When they pray for you that you will not mis-marry, you better say amen wit all your strength.

RIP Chinyere.

THELMA'S CAKE WORLD said...

Pathetic I must say....I read about it and saw the heart breaking Fotos of d dead lady and her baby...
#becoming a Mrs is not by force
#run for your life women
#saynotodomesticviolence

Adadioramma said...

And many will read, ignore and continue collecting beating from their husbands. Ladies no man worths our life, say no to domestic violence.

Anonymous said...

These monsters are everywhere, my marriage is about 2months and I just discovered that I married one. I really can't cope. I'm 5weeks prey and planning to abort it then run away..... I no marry again ooh.

Stella maris Baby said...

Amen to your prayers.

He is wicked, very heartless man.

May him reap what hr sowed

Stella maris Baby said...

This man☝☝👆is heartless..
Monster of a man .



Rest in peace Chinyere and the little baby.

ukwu dimond said...

Is well.

Anonymous said...

@Ageless,
I'd answer your questions;
they meet them through opening of legs.
Most times, once the men score goals, the girl will be pleading for marriage to be accelerated.
That is if she wasn't opening legs to "trap him" in the first place.

Anonymous said...

Obinna heartless idiot after beating her that day he left her there only to come back and bring her lifeless body to the hospital for the doctors to perform magic and bring her back to life, Anuofia Chukwu pkogi oku

TheLagosShopper(Goods and services 4rm the popular Lagos markets to anywhere in naija?07030493148) said...

Hmmmm,it is well!!!

Anonymous said...

Obinna killed Chinyere on the day she was supposed to have her cesarean section of the baby, God bless the publisher of this story, it happened in March and they confirmed her death at one hospital in Ajao Estate I don't want to mention the hospital name the story is very true.

Anonymous said...

Chichi Nwannem Ndoo Obinna bu ekwensu he told you he doesn't have money for your cesarean section and still went ahead and killed you on the day they booked the Cesarean section. Chinyere RIP.

BEDS AND ROSES said...

This anon is saying the truth. After 30 so many women just marry any man because of pressure. Even men that are below their standard.
I know a lady that was in a rush to get married. She said she must not clock 30 in her father's house.
Relationship and wedding plans was rushed. She got married Dec before she clocked 30, March of the next year.
7 years and 3kids later. They are divorced.
The man could never keep a job. She was the breadwinner and he keeps accusing her of sleeping with her boss and colleagues.

Anonymous said...

How you open your legs after a black eye and broken bones,I don't know.
Because i can't even get wet, not to talk of allowing the monster to mount me. The man will be irritating me.
Then some women enjoy make up sex.

BEDS AND ROSES said...

The most important decision you will ever make in your life is your choice of spouse.
It is more important than what school you chose to attend. What profession you go into.
It can make or break you. It designs the path your life will take. It affects any important decision you will take. Either positively or negatively.

Women let's choose wisely.

Anonymous said...

Ehen, dating already? Wonderment! No this guy needs to be located, and his FUCK UP treated.




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Anonymous said...

Where are the people that were insulting Amara???

Anonymous said...

Anon 10:57,* runs towards you and gives you a big fat hug* this has now given me a ride or die attitude towards what I am going through, I am gonna make it with my son. It is the silly married women that would always try to look down on a sista SMH.

Anonymous said...

After the beating he told people that she fell down while she was taking her bath. Shameless man #JusticeforChinyere

MERCY E. U said...

Anon 13:18, pls don't abort. Abeg, you are blessed, in 6 weeks of marriage u re already 5 weeks pregnant, what many are looking for

Anonymous said...

Hmm, domestic violence, a lady did court wedding with a guy and after that he starts beating her, she still went ahead to do traditional rites , he continued beating her, she got pregnant. He continued beating her, she out to bed via CS, he still maltreated her...... True life story. Pls ladies, let's keep praying and don't tolerate any form of domestic violence, it starts with a slap.
I usually feel bead and had low self esteem for years because my parent were separated, I rmbr a scene of domestic violence between my parent, my mum landed in the hospital and from that day she said bye for ever to my father. She singlehandedly trained me with the help of God. Gave me d best and was there for me.
When I feel shy to say my parent are separated reading such stories just makes me have a rethink that if my mum hadn't left and domestic violence continued only God knows what she would have amounted to and I may not have such a beautiful life. Pls don't encourage domestic violence and don't be quick to judge victims. Most parent don't listen to their children, they tell their daughter's be submissive even when she is a victim of domestic violence.

Anonymous said...

An engineer married to a kitchen assistant? And she catered for him? I'm sure inferiority complex consumed him & he thought the best way to make himself feel bigger was to cut her down. Probably didn't want a baby to come and reduce his share of her money

AmakasNews said...

Sad!, sad!!sad!!!. May her soul rest in peace.I can't even imagine the pains she went through before she died.Heartbreaking story

Anonymous said...

My dear blog visitors, on why women stay with their abusers it is cos those men have killed their self esteem. When that is done it takes yrs to build back. But once u get it back no one can stop u. It's not an easy decision to leave. With all the societal laws and all. The man gradually chips away at ur self worth. I pray God gives all women the strength to toughen up. Another thing an engineer marrying a chef/farmer??? I hope he has qualifications if not this na serious desperation. Parents pressure their kids too much and it's mainly in Igbo land. Sylvia Chinyere RIP

Amacastel said...

Saw the beast @ Bar Los Santos Ajao estate on Sunday with one girl like that you are right he is walking freely

Anonymous said...

Let's learn from this story. If you are in an abusive relationship and no one knows, please tell someone today

Anonymous said...

4 miscarriages not abortions.

Lola said...

So sad .. can't imagine I was dere on d day of d wedding so sad

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