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Friday, January 05, 2018

New Wife Cries Out Over High Cost Of Bride Price In Igbo Land

Nkiruka Akpovili, igbo Bride who just tied the knot with her Isoko husband is angry about the cost of her traditional wedding.she says they are now broke and debtors after their traditional wedding.








*Wow,so how much is the Bride price that one make one broke and a debtor?
Beautiful bride for my isoko brother abeg!!!

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    1. Well,what can I say?...There are always many ways to one end.
      For those wey never do am, if dem try pressure you too much, use 4muLeR-2 on them. No be drug, na the other way to get to where you dey go.

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    2. Nawaaaah..its high time this nonsense of high bride price is abolished. Am sure the bride is from mbaise.

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    3. It’s your family’s fault! They are broke and needed away out. Not all families are this way, this are only stories you hear from not well to do families.

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    4. Yorubas will ask for the highest naira denomination for bride price, collect it and then return to the husband's family that they are not selling their daughter.
      Na so we dey do.

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    5. Godbless you oh! @ anon 9:25, I keep tell people it all depends on the Family. Her family is selfish and inconsiderate! PERIOD!

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    6. Well we the igbo guys aren't complaining! U couldn't find an igbo guy to marry that understands how to be a man instead u are here ranting with a stingy isoko man!

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    7. Girl u shouldn't hv called a Makeup artist if u know ur husband is a church rat! Igbo guys are known to be rich and hustle hard.goid fathers and excellent husband.they take care of their wives real good.anyman that doesn't spend to marry you would definitely marry another wife since its too cheap.to marry isn't for the boys but men.isoko are know for their stinginess.u hv entered 1 chance

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    8. Wch would u value most..ur 1o naira earring or your 50k ear ring.continue falling cheap as to ur bride price not getting oaid

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    9. Well Igbos charge all alike.that u maried non igbo wouldn't make the bride price change .u just wants to trend

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    10. I am Yoruba but I admire ibo culture.in Yoruba our men marry lots of wife because marriage here is not expensive but I rarely see ibo guys marry 2 wives

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    11. Come to East Africa where I reside..all the Uganda n kenyas are wishing to get an ibo guy cos they say out of all the tribes in nigeria its ibo that take care of their wives

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  2. Shame on you Nkiru
    Why didn't you call off the wedding instead of disgracing your lineage?

    Her husband would be feeling like one thing one thing reading this

    No you should have asked your parents not to collect your bride price and just give you for free to your husband.

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    1. You dey mind her. Useless rant that is very uncalled for.😏

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    2. I don't know why she's blaming the whole igbos for her families hunger, why dint you oppose when they gave you the list, why dint your father stand up to the elders? It's not our fault your father felt he could use this opportunity to chop some money. You were given the list before that day, why dint you counter it. No Igbo father wants his daughter to stay at home, all you needed to do was discuss it. Bride price on the other hand is what your father accepts, it could even be a thousand naira.
      Furthermore, knowing other things were expensive, why dint you reduce the cost of your personal things? Don't make it seem like everyone is hungry in Igbo land, it's just your family, next time stand up to them, after all carpenter dey marry

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    3. She just disgrace her family.
      Why the rant @ Nkiru

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    4. Don't mind her. Maybe she's Mbaise cos i hear their bride price is something else. Not all Igbos take huge bride price. My mum returned some momey to my hubby during my marriage rites(the requirements given to them was even small)and my hubby's people were all like 'wow!'
      Let her speak for her own part of 'Igbo'

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    5. Abeg vomit Mbaise for this matter.
      That girl is nothing but a poor church rat. If the husband can't afford bride price, I wonder how he's gonna feed and take care of her. Ugly and dirty looking something.

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    6. This chic no get sense. Why didn't she discuss with her family to cut everything for her man? If she had told them that her Hubby's hands were not that strong this shouldn't have been... Amamihe by kwanu I've Nile.

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    7. Chi you are right... She is part of the problem. A lady has the negotiating power to influence her family in order to minimize the contents of her list. But some ladies will just sit down and do nothing. Some will add to the list cause they want to impress their friends.

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    8. Her dad and his brothers are greedy. this doesn't apply to all Igbos it's about the family.
      Happy New year boo boos

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    9. Ego lag abeg nor vex. Na ur mama collect ur bride price?

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    10. Yes it depends on the family plus state.heard some part of imo are no go area.

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    11. @tessbabe no. She wasn't the one that collected but we made sure we close mark my uncle that did cos my dad is late. If she or I see anythng i don't like, I'll call her attention and she would talk to my uncle that she isn't selling her daughter.

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  3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚,over to the sellers😎

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  4. Your papa wants to collect all his monies he used in training you from kindergarten to Uni. Why did you marry a man that cannot match what your father gave out. He thought he will pay like N50k for everything.

    Tell him to give you food jare afterall he saw the list and agreed to do the needful. So go and enjoy your marriage.

    It depends on the communities and states. My own place the list is long but it is not a must you must finish everything they sent to you.

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    1. Don't mind her...
      She went for a stingy Isoko man!..
      My Igbo brothers are not complaining!...
      They are equal to the task!..
      I escorted one of my cousins the other day to get a wife in Mbaise..
      Guess what?...
      He payed and bought everything required without complaining cos he love his wife!...
      Any man that loves you won't complain about your village marriage lIst!...
      Your wife and inlaws would always respect you!...
      Igbo women make the best wives!..
      We endure and make sure our marriage works!...

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    2. 😏😏😏😏😏😏😏😏, Hiaaaaaan.

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    3. Honestly our brothers are not complaining. If you want to marry my sister, prepare well that's all.

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    4. Nonsense. Na that Mbaise wife go kill your cousin. Women dey scarce. Mbaise and one yeye town called Omuma in Oru East? I no do. Bunch of hungry bloodsuckers.

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    5. @Queen and fellow IGBOsians, who says your brothers are not complaining? And what of he loves her but cannot afford it should he go Malaysia or kidnap because thats what most of your brothers do to meet up.

      Instead of you to address the issue now, you are here with your igbo cohorts supportin nonsense.

      Continue! Shebi you have three boys na. They had better marry Igbo ladies. You will feel it soon. Oro rada rada

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    6. You endure and at the same time commit all sorts of atrocities in the same marriage under the guise of enduring e.g having lesbian relationships and sugar boys.smh you make me laugh!

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    7. Anon 11:34... Guys that are not well to do are getting married. Whether money or not if you are capable of taking care of her no one will stop it. Now, marriage is cut your cloths/coat according to your size/measurement.

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    8. Anon 10:53,
      Not all Mbaise people are bad!...
      From what I saw,the girl is a very good girl from a decent home!...
      They treated us nicely and I can't fault them....
      As for me,I don't have any problem with any tribe or whom ever you want to marry!...
      I'm not gonna live with you guys!...you went there with your koro koro eyes so what's my business?..
      My own is to support,follow you to the place if I'm less busy,have fun and go to my house!...

      Anon 11:34,
      There is something called cut your coat according to your cloth!...
      If you can't afford a girl's marriage list,please leave her alone!...
      Look for your class!...
      There are so many fishes in the water!...
      The same way you claimed most igbos goes to Malyasia and kidnap people is the same way your people are killing innocent people in the name of yahoo plus and money ritual!...
      Hahahahaha my children can marry who ever they want!...
      I will support them wholeheartedly!!...
      If any of their wives mess up,I will deal with her my own way!...

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    9. Na Mbaise go kee you last las. Since you won't allow us be. Yeye anon

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  5. May be she is from Ngo Okpala....does people are crooks lol

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  6. Lols
    Its almost 2years my husband is still boosting about how expensive my people sold me to him oo😁..
    Abeg if he no reach to marry why not just do as he can afford..

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    1. And you aren't ashame to type to the world that you were sold off like a commodity and your husband still tease you on that

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    2. Boasting that he bought you or what exactly do u mean?

      Were u Auctioned highest bidder ?

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  7. You shouldn't address this here na , y didn't u two tell your parents the size of ur pocket?

    You two could have pleaded with your family to slash the price list, stood ur ground.

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    1. But why you they be giving out an expensive list to an upcoming couple? Not fair at all. That's why most Igbo women want to die in their marriages even if their husbands are beating them every day. I heard if they are no more interested they (the parents of the bride) must return what the man used to buy their daughter

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    2. That's not true anonymous!,,.
      The only thing the guy collect is the bride price not what he spend on the girl!...

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    3. Is that really the Queen..so courteous these days and dishes reasonable advice. O di egwu really...ife ne me seriously

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  8. Nonsense when you people saw the list, you could have turned you back instead of this rubbish you are talking now.

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    1. You dey mind her.
      The rant no carry weight

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  9. hhhahahahahah Rant Hq don reach sdk, saw this post the day she made it and the backlash she received no be here.. I still say it that bride price is solely on the family one comes from.. you go borrow money to do wedding, sorry for you.

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  10. Not all the Igbos, because where I come from, we don't sell our daughters. Most of the things (foods&drinks) use in the traditional marriage are being provided by the brides'families. Apart from this the brides' families settle their daughters wich is called ' idu obi' All the monies come from the brides' families.
    All brides are all the same price whether a university graduates or a primary school dropouts.
    So not all Igbos and we all the parts of Igbos that do this nonsense and tomorrow they would want to pack all their family members in the brother-in-law's house without shame.


    chim-oma a.k.a Miss Kapusu

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    1. Which part? Owerri and Mbaise do not collect high bride price.

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    2. Nne biko which part are you for reference purposes?

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  11. Nkiru but why are you disgracing us here now?
    See as shame leave you dey catch me. Why didn't you people do the marriage according to Una pocket? O kwa ima Na adighi emesi ihe nwanyi emesi? You should have cost costs by doing the necessary things now? It's not by force. The last time I checked,"poor" people still get married in Igbo land. Bottom line is do everything according to the size of your pocket
    *covers my face in shame * Ewo!!!, nwa nkea etee mmadu ure.

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    1. *cut costs
      *doing the necessary things only

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    2. Exactly!!! I just tire for d geh and this rant of hers..

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    3. She should go and tell her Umunna DAT.The cost of Her marriage will not be different from her part of IBO.
      Her husband will not be the first or the last to pay such amount for bride prize and every every.

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    4. E na eye ya onu. Nwata bu nno onye iberibe. Apara kuru ya nke ukwu. Ga je luru nno onye 'akpuru achie'come here de talk nonsense. Ezinulo ya nwere nno akpiri ogologo. Nna ya na nne ya joined together. See as her name even resemble 'Akogheri'πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    5. The lady intention is to trend and also inform her circle of friends that her husband spent a lot for her. She is trying to build up her low self esteem. Nkiru we know your format.

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    6. Shyla oooohhh πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  12. Buhari price wedding.

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  13. Instead of Nkiru to talk to her father, she is generalizing.
    It is news to me that ‘Igbo women’ are suffering in their husband’s houses and ‘Igbo girls’ are babymamas.

    Nkiru, What exactly are you calling bride price because I have seen lists of several villages and sometimes the bride price is as low as 5Naira and as high as 10 thousand Naira.
    Some fathers even return the token and just tell the son inlaw to take care of their daughter.

    Instead of coming out ignorantly, why not make your investigations and state your points properly.
    Firstly, what people refer to as BRIDEPRICE is really a list which contains tobacco, a crate of gulder and malt, salt,etc.
    This list is subject to reduction depending on your kindred.. Some are high too.
    Now, most brides usually find is tough when their father is dead. This means that horrible incles take advantage if the opportunity to frustrate the bride and her soon to be husband especially if there is bad blood.

    Lastly... The matter of traditional wedding. Nkitu this is solely yours and your families business!!!
    If you decided to host 1million people, hire a makeup artiste who charges 200k and kill cow worth 150k.. This is your decision and you must account for it.
    Do not confuse traditional wedding expenses with BRIDE PRICE.
    A reasonable woman will always make sure she does what is ideal for her and her soon to be husband.. there is no crime in having a ‘Parlour setting’ Trad wedding.

    Parlour setting trad: This is a small, intimate traditional wedding where the groom and his people fulfil everything on the list, cook a cooler of rice, share drinks and every body goes home happy.

    Ps: I tried to simplify things step by step.. If you left your brain in 2017, don’t come under my comment.
    If you have experiences contrary to what I stated.. do share politely. We are all here to learn.
    Peace.

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    1. That parlour setting trad for me come this 2018. Simplicity is the best.

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    2. Iphie, You couldnt have said it better. The generalizing part is where my anger lies cos our bride price costs nothing where I come from. Traditional marriage nko? All depends on you and ya pocket.

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    3. She can politely ask and we donate foodstuff here to carry them till they balance back. She even sew dress join body. Better hunger never catch both of you. Your family are the ones that put you in this condition. Household enemies within.

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    4. Well said Iphie. Happy new year to you.

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    5. 30B Likes @Iphie. U get reasonable comments only on SDK and Nairaland. If you don't ve enough money to host a big Traditional Marriage,simply do same on a low key. Chai, Nwata nwanyia ekwue alu!!

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    6. A million likes @Iphie.
      @Anony 9:34, you mind her? She neva see hunger.
      @becky, that's just it. Unless, you want to splurge. I shared my sis story (down here). Parlour ceremony did it. Sent the village people their own share. That's all. They're married today. Dont let greedy people coman reap where they did not sow!

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    7. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘... Iphie God bless you.

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    8. Nkiru wants to trend so bad this be year that she forgot to carry her brain along with her into 2018. rubbish post.

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    9. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘, spot on iphie. She will trend in a very wrong way. Small girl with fish brain...

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    10. Thank you my sister. I did parlour trad and white two days later. Under one hour all negotiations finished, I was still doing my make up when they called me to come give hubby wine. My dad made things simple and easy for my hubby, his uncles were surprised, cos immediately they heard where I am from they came with their best negotiators. Alas! They had nothing to negotiate as they even had more than enough change from the money they came with.
      Bottomline, it's a family thing, and because the hubby is not Igbo they decided to milk him (very unfair). She should take it up with her father.
      They think Igbo bride price is expensive, they should try some families in Choba Rivers state, especially if their daughter is graduate.

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    11. Gbam! I did not know we are suffering at our homesπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Marriage no be by force and fire. She cld have saved that money she used for professional make up and attire for food nahπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  14. It shows the level of illetracy that runs in her family. If ur dad is well educated he would have control and cut the demands of the kinsmen. It's bad for her not to know the financial capabilities of her husband and succeed in disgracing her lineage.

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  15. You have been sold. Shame on your people. Hope the guy treat you well

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    1. How will he treat her well. Their marriage started on a bad note. Dude is bitter about the money spent and he is gonna take it out on the Igbo bride. Pele Nnayi or is it nna or nne hahaha

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  16. Correct the queen. Your head is really correct. Any man that loves you should not complain of how much they imposed on him.

    Na buhari recession cause am. The Isoko man think say na ogogoro list he will collect. hahahhaaha no offence to Isoko Wado people

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  17. Thank you iphie
    I don't get why people confuse bride price with traditional wedding. Even the bride price in my place is the same for every daughter in that family. The marriage list is with the secretary of umunna. What an Igbo inlaw pays is what a non Igbo inlaw will still pay. And the money they even collect as bride price will still be used to buy kitchen utensils like motar and pestle,nwanyi nodulu okwu chair and other modern kitchen gadgets for the bride as send forth gifts. What the elders enjoy sef are the drinks and kolanuts then snuff. I don't understand this girl at all

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    1. Speak for yourself. You come from a good family that's why.

      There are greedy in-laws who never supported their daughter's wedding to a non Igbo so they make up for it by over charging their son in law so he can run.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. Yes oh!. GOD bless my family. They are not greedy at all

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  18. The cost of bride price depends on the community and the family involved. It's not all that demand for crazy fulfillment of the list given.

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  19. My babe of life😘😘😘😘
    Hope you spent your holidays well?
    LinLin you don start this year with your crazy advice😳
    I read one last night on a chronicle, I weak.

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  20. What kind of uncalled rant is this? It is not a must that you provide all the listed items that's why as the lady (bride ) you talk to your family to cut down the list to the size of your husband's budget.
    I am believing you just want to trend hence this rant

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  21. Thank you Iphie, nkiru should have discuss the size of her husband pocket with her parents. She is just making uneccessary noise here because am sure that the husband will be hitting his hand on his chest that I married igbo girl. Any outside igbo man getting married to igbo knows what he is getting himself into.

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  22. I can't even laugh abeg. Why doesn't your husband save up properly instead of this complaint. You seem young, not by force to marry 2017/2018. You can do it next year when you have the funds.
    One thing I don't like is entering marriage broke. it causes so much problem in a young marriage.

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    1. Was your husband a billionaire when he married you?

      He was probably and could still be a banker or a civil servant. Calm down abeg.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. Pls pls pls go back and learn manners before coming to perch under my comment because it is obvious you lack manners.
      What does my husband have to do with this? And it is my opinion ppl should adequately save before marriage.
      I have my opinion you have yours.
      Please be guided.

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    3. Why didn't your husband save up... Thank me later@ beds and roses.

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  23. this is an unhealthy issue that could have been resolved and averted before ur traditional wedding but since nothing was done then why come on social media to disgrace ur generation to come.... Mitchew



    Mc pinky

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  24. Nkiru I blame you for this! So you mean to say you couldn't influence your parents to reduce what was on that list?

    Most ladies are the architects of their own problems. I can see you want to belong. Unless, that makeup was done by a friend (or yourself), I know how much that alone will cost you and even that beaded cap on your head too. You may ask what do I know but shey you're the one crying now ba? Madam i-must-slay-by-fire-by-force!

    It may interest you to know that my sister had her trad here in Lagos, in our house with few relatives that stay here in lag. My parents know what they were avoiding by not taking it to the east (I don't know where yours happened). My point is, everything about the list was trashed out by my relatives here (men and women had their sections separately). At the end of the day, the guy didn't pay up to half! What is half sef? Money for bride's mum was 5OOk aside other stuffs, he didn't pay kobo.

    Imagine taking that thing to the village and having those greedy fellows determine your fate. It would have been disastrous cos that list no be here. I'm from IMO, from that part where the bride price is 'dreaded'. So I know what I'm saying.

    I blame you cos my sister (on her part) was on ground monitoring to make sure they don't overstep. You're here talking trash. Nonsense!

    With less than 1m, both traditional, and church wedding was done. And yes, it happened last year before you give me that 'it cannot be possible in this recession' bullshit.

    People like you give us a bad name and scare potential suitors away from our ladies.

    Please let me boil water and drink green tea. I'm really angry now

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    1. What if her parents are not as understanding as yours.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    2. Please shed more light this "Money for bride's mum was 5OOk aside other stuffs, he didn't pay kobo".

      Please who collected the 500k?





      *Larry was here*

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    3. You dey mind her! Folks going bankrupt just to belongπŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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  25. I am sure when she talked about the bride price , she meant the whole traditional list that an intended groom has to fulfil before the traditional wedding.

    Before we get our panties soaked up by defending our tribes when it is unnecessary, the fact is, did she make sense? Yes she did. In some villages in Igboland, the list can be quite outrageous and exorbitant. Yes the bride price may be small but they make up for it in the outrageous demands listed on the list. We know marriage is not for the faint hearted but some men in other to cover up will pay everything then go home to starve.

    There are some aspects of our culture that needs to be reviewed. If you understand that marriage is a partnership and you are going to build your future together and both parents understand, you wouldn't overcharge your son in law and your motherinlaw(husband side) won't be a pain in the ass.

    This is what obtains in most villages in Igboland and is caused by umunna who never contributed a dime to the brides education and may not even know who the bride is.

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  26. It is obvious most of stella BvNs are Igbos. No one should cause the girl, she is being truthful. I know man that married from IMO State, 5the requirements was wicked. He paid every thing, after a year the girl had not conceived, his family shoes her pepper, constantly reminding her of what their brother coughed out, unfortunately she left the marriage after 3 year of TTC, the verbal abuse was too much to bear. Her parents went to his house to tKe the wife back, it was so bad that the guy refused to pay for fibrous operation for her. Told her to go take from the money he spent marrying her.

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    1. Na so. Almost all her bvs are Igbos that's why tribalism thrives here. I am so glad Don is here to check them if not they would have been out of control

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    2. Yes they are it is very obvious, they have to defend their outrageous bride price, before the bride turn them all to gwens

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  27. Another angle is

    That is the reason Igbo brides are meant for Igbo men. Igbo men who understand the culture and how expensive the marriage list can be. When you are non Igbo and you come from a place where women are given out free , it will be hard for you to fathom the culture of expensive marriage list.

    I can see fashion designers with one sewing machine and housewives bragging. So your husband paid for all that and couldn't even open a company for you(a real company)..talking about misplaced priorities.

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    1. Stop saying women are given out for free. In the first place are women to be sold? Two people fall in love and they want to marry. You now give them an expensive list, that alone can destroy the marriage.

      Instead of you Igbos to address this issue now, you are insulting the bride. Continue, you all have sons who would experience same thing in the future if they marry Igbos ladies.

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    2. Hahahahahahaha @king xoxo on point.
      See no need to Finnish d babe with insults, she was looking for an avenue to rant, vent out her pain,d bitter truth is DAT marrying some Igbo ladies are expensive.
      August last year, my mother in law and some elders in d family went to marry a wife,on behalf of her younger brother in America,meeeen they spent hell.so I quiet under where d girl is coming from.

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  28. I remember when i made a comment on sp post on how expensive the list and traditional right was just b4 my traditional marriage. Some anon came after me with insult and insisted i Was lying. One anon even went ahead and said my family members are wicked and greedy thats why my list was expensive. The person is obviously not an igbo bc the list does not come from the brides family but from the village council of elders. Ok na . Make una continue, the difference between me and the lady above is that we plan toward it and we even had change left. We are not deptors after the wedding and to God be the glory everything went on well. The list cannot be reduce for your information. You either decide to pay all at ones or break it into 2 or to many part. You can go with the woman and come after 1 year to pay the rest. Nothing feels as good as everything being done at ones. It makes your mom and dad proud. You can also have a parlor trad marriage.

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    1. I want to ask a question : a man that hustled to meet the demands, will he not use the anger to react to his wife. Like any little mistake she makes, he will keep referring to how much paid so the woman had better be perfect

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    2. Na wah oh. In my place,each umunna have their own marriage list and trust me their list is not outrageous. Thank GOD for my umunna,though my father died a long time ago,they didn't"kill" my husband with outrageous bride price

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    3. You are very right, Igbo bride price is outrageous no wonder their men,marry other tribes more

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    4. So they don't marry because of love, it's now because bride price is expensive? Hahahahahahaha!

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    5. @anon 12.01,no if you marry a man that loves you much it won't happen. in my own case my hubby loves me somuch he didn't see it as a big deal infact when I married him he had nothing we managed all through not even one car but today by God's grace we have 4cars, duplex of our own, properties in the east, west and south.

      My people don't charge much 100k is the list's worth and the items on the list are things they will use to cook and merry on the ceremonial day too. The villagers will donate from food stuffs to money to your family so there will be plenty of food that day. Infact my stepmother couldn't finish left over stuffs 2months after even though she was so wicked and wanted to turn my father against us (my mum is late) to increase the pride price but my uncles and elders put them in their place that their daughter is not for sell. So it depends on the family, community and also the couple involve.

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  29. Nothing like negotiation to reduce the list . During my own trad, my dad did not collect the requirement meant for him and my mom. That is the only way they can reduced it. The other requirement which is for the men, women, youths,mothers family must be complete. List alone in mbaise for my friend was 450k. She leaves in diaspora with the groom and could not come to Nigeria. Ok this is for someone who just paid for the list o. Just imagine doing a party and wine carrying. Some people abusing the lady are just bitter biko.

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    1. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘,wehdon

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  30. I AM SURPRISED THAT CHI EXOTIC AND SO ARE INSULTING NKIRU WHEN SHE SPOKE THE TRUTH. DO YOU GUYS KNOW THAT IBOLAND HAS THE HIGHEST NUMBER OF UNMARRIED FEMALES ABOVE 30YEARS? I AM IBO SO I KNOW HOW FAR. THE FAMILY OF THE BRIDE WILL ALWAYS GIVE VERY EXPENSIVE LIST AND STILL EXPECT THE GROOM TO FUND THE TRAD AND WHITE WEDING. I AM VERY SURE THAT IBO GIRLS ON THIS BLOG ARE THE MOST WHEN P-ARTICIPATING IN SINGLES AND MINGLES. HAVE YOU GUYS ALSO NOTICED THAT MOST IBO GROOMS ARE ABOVE 40 OR VERY LATE 30s? WHY DO YOU THINK THAT IS SO? THAT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE TRYING TO SAVE ENOUGH MONEY. SOME OF THESE MEN END UPBEING FORCED TO MARRY JUST BECAUSE AGE IS NOT ON THEIR SIDE. HOW MANY YOUNG IBO GROOMS HAVE YOU SEEN? MOSTLY THOSE MARRYING OUTSIDE IBOLAND. THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE. YOU THINK A MAN WHO SPENDS TOO MUCH ON YOU WILL VALUE YOU?
    IN THE END, MANY IBO LADIES ARE BECOMING GWEGS WHILE THEIR MATES OF OTHER TRIBES ARE MARRIED WITH KIDS WHO ARE ALMOST IN SECONDARY SCHOOL. BE THERE WAITING FOR MILLIONAIRE INSTEAD OF TALKING TO YOUR GREEDY FATHERS AND RELATIVES. THIS CHALLENGE IS CAUSING MANY GIRLS TO BE DEPRESSED, FASTING, WAYWARD, ETC BECAUSE MEN ARE NOT PROPOSING. INSTEAD THE MEN WANT TO BE CHOPPING FOR FREE. I AM SOLIDLY BEHIND NKIRU. TILL GOD OPENS YOU PEOPLE'S EYES BEFORE YOU WILL KNOW THAT OUR TRADITION IS CAUSING IBO BABES SETBACKS! HOW MANY OF YOU ARE SINGLE AND SEARCHING AND PRAYING TO MARRY? HOW MANY MEN'S SALARIES CAN AFFORD ALL THOSE EXORBITANT WEDDING LISTS IN THIS ECONOMY?

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    1. Truth talker,God bless you

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    2. Thank you, genuine hard working young guys can't afford these lists but from the comments above some of them don't mind marrying druglords to prove to their village that they married well. Una continue.

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    3. My hubby is Igbo and he married at 30 same with most of his friends.

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    4. What is this one saying?..
      No girl In my family got married below 25!!...
      Infact,Most Anambra men can't marry a girl above 30!...
      My husband was 32 when he married me!!...
      None of the men in my family married above 35!!...
      And yes!..they make sure they make money before bringing in a wife!..
      You can't bring someone's daughter to come and suffer in your house all in the name of marriage!...
      Infact,I would rather you marry well at old age than to marry wrong at a younger age...
      Most men that married in their 20s can't keep a marriage!..
      Before age 40,Most of them are in their third and fourth marriage!...
      The only people that does not marry early in Igbo land are Abia and few Imo people madam Ibo!...

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  31. Why do other village members put what they need in the list of a bride? Greedy villagers will be listing things that they have never eaten in their life. Is the man marrying the village? or her Kindred? STUPID CULTURE

    Imagine a certain groom had a laptop in the list. I think ibo ladies have a fault too. They tell their relatives that the man is rich so their village start adding their own things into the list. When a list is given to the parents of the bride to pass to the groom, the brides parents should cross out stupid things like 100 iron buckets, 40 brooms, etc

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  32. The more they publicize that ibo weddings are expensive, the harder it is for ibo girls to get married so you ibo girls, as you are enjoying your stupid culture, think about your daughters, sisters and yourself

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  33. I hear a lot of complain about this but is it not best you all for a movement against this exploitation

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  34. This is the reason most grooms dont want to have anything to so with their wife's family after marriage.

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  35. Stella, na igbo people full your blog o.....ogaju

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  36. She said "non-igbos". My family friend's suitor was dealt with by her greedy uncles because he is from Cross river state while she is igbo. Bride price is not the problem. It is list that is the wahala and the family involved.
    I have told my Edo fiance that, if my people try nonsense( God please keep my dad alive), Just comply. Once the rites have been completed, buy bottled coke( they don't deserve more than this), tell them this all we can afford. No white wedding, just go do to the registry and have my peace Biko.

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  37. As a follow up comment, to the one πŸ‘†, the sister of my family friend got married to an igbo guy, the list was nothing to compare to what her elder sisters husband paid. It is either the family is greedy, the kinsmen are greedy or the tradition is the problem. Have you asked your self how their village men get married? If it is the same list, it means that there would be no marriage in those places

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    1. GOD bless you anon. This problem is with her family or village people. It's not in all Igbo land biko. And I just read laptop as part of bride price,who does that?

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  38. ANOTHER COMMON THING IN IBOLAND IS THAT UNLIKE OTHER TRIBES WHERE THEY DO TRAD AND WHITE TOGETHER, BECAUSE OF THE COST IN IBOLAND, YOU SEE THE COUPLE FIXING WHITE WEDDING A YEAR OR SO AFTER TRAD. BY THEN, THE BRIDE MAY BE PREGNANT OR HAVE A CHILD SEF. IF IT WAS CHEAP, THAT WONT HAPPEN

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    1. Shut up and stop telling lies!...
      I know how many trad and white wedding fixed together i attended this season!..
      You are a pathological liar!...
      Your type don't visit home!...claiming I'm Igbo in Lagos!...
      Fuck off!...

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    2. Nah. Anon the major reason this happens is because majority of Igbo trad weddings are done in their villages.. Then the white is where the couple are based.
      Most times because of the numerous trips back and forth asking questions, visiting uncles and familiarizing with both families(Introduction) which we RARELY do outside our villages.. They eventually go back to where ever they live to conclude the second part.
      Soemtimes though, couples go to the bride’s villa and just get both done. White wedding in the morning, Trad and reception in the evening.

      BLESS YOU SISTER/BROTHER.

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  39. Make una dey there. Bride price no cost for Igbo land. People still de marry de born pikin,so na wetin? If time reach,I go select one correct Igbo girl from this blog marry. If na Yoruba girl wey enter my eyes,then okpari na. Na there love sweet pass. Their bakassi yansh go make me no price dowry self. Abi na Hausa girl? Me wey don plan to go marry Hausa girl. Highest na 40 strokes of the cane,nothing like bride price. Sharon Aminu will explain better. If na onye nmonwu or imi nkita,Calabar style na die for where bride price dey,so na wetin?

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  40. Anon with capital letters why are you SHOUTING? na we do you?

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  41. This is an igbo blog. I'm truly shocked at the comments. You can take people out of the village but never the village out of them. Dear igbo bvs please re-read the comments. You think alike and its a cultural thing as evidenced by the comments. You are entitled to your thoughts, culture and opinions. Now for a minute drop the village mentality I'm sure some or even most of you are educated. Now think about this issue objectively, you are women, beautiful and intelligent dont you think its wrong that you are being objectified? Instead of insulting Nkiru why not reason and see that it's a bad circle that my be broken. What I see is you feel because you or your husbands paid ludicrous bride price then everyone must and those that cannot are not man enough and not ready for marriage.please think deeply just because things are in a certain way does not make them right an if people that should take a stand and make things better think like this what is the hope for the future?

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  42. Its tradition. They shouldn't have gone as far as borrowing to, like we say ije nwanyi bu uzo nmiri, oburu o nzo nku, anaro emecha ihe no na nwanyi, do the ones you can, tell your in-laws you will be back, trust me nobody will stop you from taking your wife home provided you pay the bride price.

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  43. In India, it's the bride that pays for the groom to marry her. Any man wey no get money to marry Igbo ladies fit go India: gaskia...

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  44. πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„akuko
    Cut your coat according to your cloth. Gbam!!!

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  45. I’m sure ur dad has been chopping other people’s own so as ur time arrived he could not say no to his kinsmen. All I can say is sorry enh. Meanwhile ur make up artist did not do ur lipstick well. There is a line.

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