STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
FEELING DUMB AND USED..
Hi Stella, I am soo broken.
My fiance has been cheating on me. I got to his house from work with the hope of spending the week with him.
He refused to pick a call from a girl (T), and went ahead to block the girl's number. I got curious and checked, I realised this girl had sent a message to him earlier insulting me, like I he hasn't been picking up her calls because of me. I confronted him, he walked away.
While I was packing my bags to leave his place at 11:20pm, I started crying and then he started crying with me too.
He decided to tell me everything, he slept with (T) at his place while I was there(I guess I was at work then), he slept with another girl 'A), last Friday, A also brought her friend to a hotel and he slept with A' s friend. He's begging an saying he won't do it again.
I thought he was broke and foolish me got groceries for him, but my Bobo I was pitying had money to Lodge two girls and fed them. I am confused. I'm pained because for once I have never cheated on him, I gave my all because I thought he was good. He kept saying it's me he loves and those girls know he has a gf. Find attached pictures of surprises I did for him on his birthday and I also attached my picture for your eyes only.
Why would he want to cheat on Me? .
I work and earn a lot, I have never asked him for any money, I feel used. Please pardon any typo, my head isn't calm at all.
*So what do you want to do?leave him ''Because he cheated'' or what?Spending money on a man doesn't make him Faithful to you my dear...it was your choice.
If you cannot stand what he has done or will not be able to forget then please end it and move on...
But if you can forgive and give him another chance,don't being this up again...Until you catch him again ...THEY HARDLY EVER CHANGE.
Stop spending your money on men, you will not listen. He's not even your husband o. I'm not saying you shouldn't move mountains or surprise him with gift, but at least, do that for a man that has tgr spirit of giving. Before you give 10naira, let him give you #10,000.
ReplyDelete#your stingy boyfriend is another babe ATM machine.
I don't even know if I should advice you or not because we have advised you tire and you won't listen.
But, I will say my own. That guy you call your bobo will never stop cheating. He even starts crying with you and you people did crying competition. He won't change and he will continue to chop your money, kpekus and bwess free of charge. He won't even marry you!.
That is,that part of him crying with her really cracked me up.
DeleteHe is a game boy, he knows how to play his card. He even had sex with his babe's friend.
My dear poster, if you marry him, you are in for it cos he won't ever change and might even bring them home to sex with them while you are there like the one I read some days back.
Cheats hardly change and most of them only change if something really bad happen to them.
You said it all. A word is enough for the wise. He is a serial cheat. He would never have confessed if he wasn't caught. Run now when your legs can still move fast. A broken engagement cannot be compared to a broken marriage
DeleteU spend on them at ur own risk, a 48yrs old useless bastard i dated was worst, irrespective of their age, they are not worth it. Why cry? Dont spend a dime of ur mpney on him again
Delete@Stella
DeleteI put up a comment here about how my husband and I manage our finances just to correct those who were chanting about "spending money on me". You did not seem to have uploaded that comment. It is just a piece of opinion that can help someone. Even if it goes contrary to your own opinion, the blog is meant to be a place to share constructive opinions.
Thanks.
Hmmm this type will bring girls to his matrimonial bed. If you like yourself, better leave.
DeleteStop spending on him , he feels you like him too much thats y hes cheating..
ReplyDeleteYour main problem is never asking him for money, you don't know that if you give a man heaven and earth without asking for anything he must find another person to give. They were created to be providers, if you don't need it, they must find someone who does, you must be new to this blog or you are just silly, why would you tell a guy you are not married to that you earn a lot? Forgive him but my dear, tell him they demoted you so he will not be expecting anything, start asking for things as well
Delete@Push up
DeleteI don't know whom you are quoting but opinions made on this blog and wherever else are not sacrosanct. The fact that you always look for hoes to give money does not mean that every man does same. Talk about what works for you and others will also talk about what works for them. You are not anybody's spokesperson.
Oga why is it paining you na? Are you eating any girls money? Is it that you don't want anyone asking you for money? So out of all the comments here you decided to take mine? Uncle something is definitely wrong with you, and if you are a woman you must be foolish for giving your man money. Please stay off my comments and for your info this is the ONLY blog I come to, I am not a blog ashawo like you
Delete@Push up
Deletemust you curse?
@pushup Even your blog owner goes to other blogs. Loooooll. Jokes on you. Be there forming blog loyalist. Hope it fetches you biscuits at Christmas. Local ekuke.
DeleteLol @ I started crying and then he started crying with me too.
ReplyDeleteLmaooo that got me laughing so hard.
DeleteNna men all these your mantra of "stop spending money on men" hope you don't mean "husband".
DeleteI have been married for nine years and right from the moment he popped the question, we made
our accounts "joint" with either to sign and alerts on both phones. I know of every cent that
drops in there and every expenses or withdrawals more than 20k hits my phone immediately.
My husband does not cheat (we were both Christians -not "I go to church type" before we married).
So please if you have "your money" and he has "his money", then take the thing as you see it. He will
be living his "own life" with his money and you will be "living your own life" with your money!
It is the reward of a greedy lifestyle.
So that is what you saw. I am sure you did not read it finished
DeleteNa too much telemundo dey cause am, these men re useless. If u earn that much spend it on urself
Delete@Yori
Delete"read it finished?" sic
How about "read it beginning?" sic
Whichever way you look am, ya English dey sick.
You no sabi nak pidgin, you no sabi English
Wetin you sabi sef; spreading legs?
This your boyfriend must be a serial cheater and can never change. I bet he must have slept with a lot more girls than he admitted. The question you should ask your self is will you be able to condone his cheating ways when you get married to him? If yes stay with him, if the answer is no, dump him and move on.
ReplyDeleteListen to this poster!
DeleteIf you two are crying now, soon it Would be you 3, gather sense and leave him!
Earning a living means nothing . that doesnt mean your worth.. Show him your real worth and value as a person aside material things
ReplyDeleteAnon... E go better for u,tankiu
DeleteRaise ur standard poster, stop this yeye love & treat him like he deserve
Cry for wetin na? Onions enter my eyes ni
Crying Freeman!!!
DeleteWhats the use sending ur pic to Stella?? Have u seen what Beyonce looks like?? I'm sure u know her husband cheated on her! So its not about how gorgeous u look.
He will NOt stop cheating if u marry him, it'd even get worse cus ure bound to go nowhere even if hes caught.
Make your decision now.
@erased ink, aswear you have killed me with laugh. me i have stop advising people about their cheating men in this blog, them no dey ever hear word. The yeye bobo will come and tell her sorry, kiss her, tel her sweet things she want to hear and pet her for a few days and gbam she will lower her gaurd again and go back to square one. I no dey mbok.
DeleteForgive and but don't forget. Be alert and shine your eyes. You all will be fine Las Las
ReplyDeleteBabe abeg, any vacancy for your side. Help a sister.
ReplyDeleteI don't get this "I feel used" talk ladies always say.Will you say he didn't do anything for you too. decide if you want him or not.
ReplyDeleteChange. Do people really change? Males and females alike, I feel we all learn to compromise if we have the welfare of those we love at heart not that we change and have a total over haul. If he has cheated ,there is a tendency it can be repeated though he may make an effort not to but don't expect "I am sorry" means it will never happen again.
ReplyDeleteIts up to you,if you can cope with what he has to offer stay put.
If you can't cope please move the hell on.
Always remember, we all have baggages ,no one is perfect but then stick with a baggage you can tolerate.
Don't stay put ,thinking if you give your all he will change and be exactly who you want him to be.people don't change that way except God intervenes for the religious ones amongst us.
That said, all you did for him was because you chose to, except you are saying he compelled you to do it though..its wrong for you to spend money on a guy or a lady just cause of what you hope to get in return that makes the love a business transaction.
Well what do I know.
Sorry dear , it hurst now but then you will be fine. E hugs
The annoying thing is those who cheat can't bear being cheated upon. That kills them
Call it a quit, because it's never going to end. He's simply using you because he thinks you are desperate (spending your money on him). Oriegwu.
ReplyDeleteYou need to take him for a test if you must continue, (because I know you will)...you never know if he used protection.
ReplyDeleteHe slept with A, and A also brought her friend along??? Your fiancé is probably a sex consultant & his office is at the hotel...
ReplyDeleteAnd that's how they'll be lining up, with hands on their neighbour's shoulders, outside the hotel room waiting for their turn...
You better walk away now it's not too late. He's not gonna stop & this is just the beginning...
St francool respect yaself oo....before i fall n wound myself😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHahahaha very true. Nothing for me to add but laugh
DeleteSt.Frankool, you have killed me with laughter here oh😂
DeleteAbi o..... Lmaooooooo
DeleteConsultant of life
lol@ hands on their neighbours shoulder
DeleteThem go hear?
DeletePray you are std free,it's his cheating that is paining you,your self worth nko?
😂😂😂😂😂😂@hands on your neighbors shoulders. I really came for the comments cos I know BV's won't disappoint me..
DeleteWerey guy. Lmao
DeleteLol. For once, you commented instead of giving wise quote
DeleteLmao! St Frank Cool nothing do you.
DeleteSorry you hear? You're with a very confused, ungrateful and irresponsible guy. Pity....
ReplyDeleteWtf was he crying for?
ReplyDeleteThey always cry, Looool
DeleteHe was tryna play with her head.
DeleteThe fuck crying for the sharing fuck o
DeleteCrocodile tears, i can do it..
DeleteI'd just think of a sad movie, works like magic
Hiv/Aids is loading for u if you don't quit that relationship poster.If you are planning to get married. Get married to someone you can cope with his weakness cuz everybody have their weaknesses. But as for me I can't cope with a community penis and a serial cheat.
ReplyDeletePlease leave this guy, even if he marries you he will never be faithful..Marriage itself is enough stress talkless of adding a cheating spouse. Abeg STD’s are real.. Run fast God will bring a good man your way...PLS DONT COMPROMISE..
ReplyDeleteAnd he now cried on top. Typical!
ReplyDeleteDarling dont do it ! Its the same way he would do girls when you arw married and sa tbeg know he has a wife .run as far as you can. I believed and forgave my boyfriend then and now though ive not caught him,wheb he travels for work i wonder if he is cheating ony reason i dont regret forgiving are me lovely twins. Marriage without trust is pretend.
ReplyDeleteThis is very painful.. I know the feeling.. Please if you can't handle it,take a walk.you'll find someone better
ReplyDeleteForget it he will cheat again and again. Be wise before he gifts HIV instead of cash.
ReplyDeleteIn an adult relationship, whatever you do for your partner should be from your heart. He did not use you, you gave freely out of love. There is nothing wrong with that. Now that you know he is not a serious man, FIND YOUR WAY FROM HIM. He cried means nothing, You are working so it means you should have some sense and street smarts. All the crying is for effect. Women love with your head all the time or you will continue to suffer in the hands of useless men like this one. Respect yourself and leave him. You deserve a man with common sense and self respect. A man without self respect is as useless as one kobo.
ReplyDeletePoster all men cheat. And cheers don't change. I married my cheating bf and I'm sure he still cheats coz he now passwords his fone. But I've told him...anyway he gives me HIV or he gets a girl pregnant outside, I'll POISON him. Mourn him and move on with my life without guilt...some will say I'm heartless. YES I AM. just like all men are and he'll hath no fury like a woman scorned...
ReplyDeleteU no well at all
DeleteU see say war dey village u go build house there, how u wan get peace?
Wait for the hiv to come
There's no sense in ur post
Shut the fuck up. Look at your mouth all men cheat. Your husband is a wandering and the confirms that all men cheat. Women of self low esteem. I’m a married ma of 9 years and I have never cheated on my wife.
DeleteTalk is cheap madam!!
DeleteYou think its easy to kill the father of ur kids?
Even if u birrow courage from ur neighbour and go ahead with sniper, the guilt will tear u apart way way longer than the marriage lasted.
You better zero ur mind from all that garbage ure thinking, nobody send u to open eye enter one chance then xpect them to give you change.
Really "no young person can keep his/her way pure except by giving heed to God's word" (google this text please).
ReplyDeleteLet me ask the poster, he is still a "fiance" and you are "staying with him for one week:" And even going to work from his house?
Or has he paid your bride price?? It appears, you belittled yourself by that single act and he began to belittle you. The sad truth is that this kind of relationship where trust has been murdered is very difficult to put back on track. There is a resentment and innate hatred that is brewing in your heart already.
Foremost, you have to forgive; irrespective of whether you will stay on or move on. Whichever is your decision, please draw closer to God to be able to keep your own way pure; i.e is not acting out your resentment even to another man in a different relationship/marriage. Do not think that the next man will not cheat if he too is not giving heed to the word of God. Hope you've googled the first statement I wrote?
From what she wrote sef,it seems d guy isn't wrking and is feeding himself on her earnings...on top of it cheating... The truth is that majority of men cheat,for those consoling themselves that their husbands are not cheating cos they have d fear of God,as if the ones cheating have d fear of the devil... A man yu are feeding and clothing is doing charity with other ladies,ma dear he's not worth your tears. Don't get fooled with his cries cos a real man will never cry with you bcos yu are crying that he cheated on you. Gosh! So many overgrown baby elephants! That guy is cheating personified and would always rub it on your face wen he marries yu. Put a worth on yourself and walk away. It's not gonna be easy but the earlier the better. A word is enough for d wise:so d bible says.
DeleteLEAVE HIM ALONE. there are better guys out there you deserve better
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha. A man that can lodge two girls in a hotel for pleasure is a pervert . Men cheat but not with two girls at ones. It rain every Where but know that this one will cheat on you in marriage like Abc. N he will use your money to do that . Ok bye
ReplyDeleteThe one that lodge three nko? Perverted!
DeleteIts normal these days, better for d poster to move if she cant cope. Na stupid boy
Experience is d best teacher,life is a lesson,dnt repeat ur mistakes again, wen ur real man comes u would kno wit a ring to show for it
ReplyDeleteChai. Onidokudo ni bobo yen, walahi
ReplyDeleteIf I had told u men cheat n u should be careful with d love n spending, you for say 'eeeeeeeee my self esteem is low'..u for swear say he's among the 2% t don't cheat, lol, my dear walk way or stay, be rest assured ur next guy will also stray, guard ur heart well, don't mind 'not all men cheat' gang, na dem dey cry pass when shit hit fan.
ReplyDeleteDon't project your reality on others. Not all men cheat isn't a gang. After all there are men who have said themselves that they don't cheat on their wives. There are many men out there who don't cheat or who used to but no longer cheat. Don't be deceived. Whatever you believe is what works for you.
DeleteNa so one girl see me and she knows very well that i had a girlfriend
ReplyDeleteand we are cool together and still this girl want me so bad and the day
this girl know that i was with my girlfriend she show up and pretend that
we are friends and my girlfriend become angry with me saying i was cheating
without knowing that girl plained everything to upset her so that she can fight me
and move on,,na so i tried to explain things to her but she refused to listen to
me and move out,i went to ask the other girl why she did what she did but she
got naked and push me on bed,na so i enter another relationship the same day,,
i hate the new girl cos she realy destroyed alots about me,just becos she
wanted me and cos my exgf,was always telling her every good thing about me,,
,,never leave your husband or boyfriend to any girl out there till your
husband or boyfriend says he dont want you again with a very good reason,,
cos alots of girls out there use many tricks to put problems in a happy
relationship,,they like going for a good guys,,alots of men are weak to fall
in there tricks,i wish i lock myself inside house that very day,i wish my
exgf,did not leave with anger that very day and stay,, i did not know that,that girl plained everything to push my exgf away,,but now i have learnt
my leason,i dont even help to give any girl a lift or allowed one who is not
even my blood sister inside my house,,even my sister will never bring any of
her girlfriend to my house,,case close
Wat an excuse! Yu started dating d other girl as she pushed yu to d bed😂😂😂😂oh my God! Wetin person no go hear for this blog. My friend yu really need to grow up! So as many ladies that push yu to d bed ends up sleepin with yu and as such yu start new rships? Anuofia!
DeleteSee his English sef smh
You, your English and the girl are confused. With this english, why won’t your ex girlfriend leave you. I’m sure she wanted to leave you since but opportunity presented itself by bringing the other girl. Kwakwakwakwakwa
DeleteEd,,
Deletena idiot like you dey cover the truth,,maybe you are one of such
girl that like a man in a relationship to destroy,
evil girl,wonder who paid ur school fees
What wont we read on this blog, Hehehheh. Men and cheating are in the same watsapp group, except a few decent ones though. Poster your boo is a fucklicant. Better moveon, asap or stay if you can cope, for the StDs insist on protection.
DeleteAnon 18:50,you are a 'werewolf', she pushed you on the bed and raped you abi?that's what you are trying to say,your girlfriend never meant anything to you,see excuses,so your JT has turned to pit latrine? Chai continue,better go get tested for HIV and it's associates,dear poster love your self more and dump your randy boyfriend,you deserve a lot better.
ReplyDeleteJUST GLAMOUR,,
Deleterealy you sound like a very bad witch
Poster.....The ball is in your court...follow what your intuition is telling you.....
ReplyDeleteFollow what your intuition is telling you, it's always right, believe me.....
ReplyDelete@ anon 18:50, you're just a clown. Oya clap for yourself.
ReplyDelete