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Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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Greetings Stella and bvs. 


I sent you my Chronicle last November, here is the LINK
I told you of how my wife's family was against our marriage, threatening us. 

Also how I fell into financial difficulties after marriage and my wife no longer respects me. Thanks for your advise bvs.


Pls there is still fire in my home, I don't know where you will post this.
She travelled to her village in December after I took our child to my mum's place like some of you advised. Then January to my surprise, she came back with her mum.


Her mum is in her sixties and a pensioner.

Later they both travelled to my mums place without telling me and fought her and brought back our child. Since then, the chaos in my home has increased. 


The abuses have taken a new turn, she and her mum are dealing with me seriously. Sometimes she doesn't give me food claiming the money I dropped was not enough. 


Stella, I am now a shadow of myself. I'm also hypertensive.

Yesterday, I was down with serious malaria fever, I gave her 1k and begged her to get me antimalarial drug. Stella this woman went and bought #150 drug for me, I found out when I took the packet to the hospital. I attach it here for you to see. I was relieved for an hour or two and then the high fever came back towards evening, I couldn't move . She and her mum left me alone in the house and went to her friend's house. I managed to call a neighbour on phone who took me to the hospital and also paid the hospital bill of 6k after I promised I will pay him back.


Stella, this woman did not believe the man paid the hospital bill, she said I have money but hiding it from her. I try my best from the little menial jobs that I do. I don't have anyone else that I spend on, not even relatives. She and her mum has been keeping malice with me since yesterday despite the fact that I'm still weak from sickness. No food, nothing. 


My wife sleeps in the room with her mum and our child since January while I sleep alone in the parlour, we live in a room and parlour.

Stella I always sit outside with a barber waiting for mother and daughter to go to sleep before I enter inside the house around 12:am. If I stay indoors they will be mocking me and laughing at me. I now live like a stranger in my own house.


Since over a year that I have been canvassing for sales on the properties I have for sale, no single buyer. At least I would have used the commission I would get to start a small business and get back my respect in the house. She and her mum always say I am cursed and I can never make it in life. Despite this, I try not to sit at home doing nothing.

Pls how do I send them to the village and arrange my life? I may just slump and die one of these days with the way things are going. Since she doesn't go to church since the beginning of this year that she came back with her mum, I don't know who else to report them to as her relatives don't like me. 

Her friends too are just like her, they don't greet me when they come to the house.

Our house rent have expired since March this year and the landlord will come and throw us out any moment from now. I wanted to go and plead with him for more time but a friend advised me against it, he said I should leave the house for them so they should live there alone if they did not throw them out. 


Even if I had anywhere I can run to, I can't do it because I love my child so much, I don't want them to have something bad about me to feed with. Pls fellow bvs, I need your advise on how to handle them. What should I do? I'm tired.



*OMG OMG OMG! What a poisoned atmosphere!..Please forget about how much you love your child for now....send her a message that you need to go and hustle for your future and that you will look for your child when things are ok...Please leave that environment now..
SMH at your mum in law....She moved in to help her daughter deal with you?who does that?Please leave that house and an applause for avoiding any physical altercation .

95 comments:

  1. I didn’t read your other mail but Oga,is there something you are not telling us?...
    How can your wife treat you like this?...
    Stella,you need to hear from the wife!!...
    Oriegwu oooo!!!..

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    1. The wife followed your advice here. The man is a broke ass horseband

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    2. Mumu, read the first Chronicle before u start dey talk anyhow.

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    3. Thank God the rent has expired, oga please give her some space, you can go to your mums, people take others for granted when they see them too much, let her stay with the child, a child would always look for his/her, you can be sending money when you get something doing but for now this marriage is not by force.
      Il give you the same advice even as a woman, you can’t keep wallowing in this kind of environment, not all marriages must work, tell them you are no longer interested or you can simply just leave without informing them.
      I believe you have friends, so when you come back stay with them for a while until you are able to raise money for your place even if it’s a face me I slap you compound at least it’s yours. I can never sell my happiness and peace for anything in this life

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    4. DEAR POSTER, IT SEEMS YOU'RE ENJOYING THE SUFFERING. HEAR YOURSELF "I LOVE MY CHILD SO MUCH" I MAY SLUMP SOME DAY AND DIE" GO BACK TO YOUR PREVIOUS POST AND READ THE ADVICE. GET OUT OF THAT HOUSE NOW THAT YOU CAN! BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING, LEAVE THEM AND THE HOUSE ALONE. FIND FRIEND TO STAY WITH AND LEAVE. EXCEPT YOU'RE REALLY ENJOYING THE SUFFERING. NA WA

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    5. Oga Stella ha given you a platform. Along with your chronicle I see you have properties for sale. Advertise it. Beg Stella to help you advertise am. Ppl like me live abroad and I read Stella's blog religiously and I think it will be a brilliant platform to advertise your properties As long as it is legitimate o.... Ppl must definitely show interest. I personally am interested in properties in good locations... Anyway I digress sha. Oga the best thing right now for u na t find your squareroot. Its sad that your wife is not a ride or die chick or a supportive woman which is sad. She just marry to bear Mrs. Dem dey forget the through thick and thin bit. They say the best revenge is always success... You need to leave her to find your destiny by yourself. Marriage is not by force. I be woman too by the way so I am not biased in my opinion..

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    6. Wow. Please leave that environment. Who knows, she may be the bad luck in your life.

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  2. Oga there was no marriage with what I just read. Find a way to return her bride price. After that leave the home for them after all the rent is expiring soon. Your child is your child you would find a way to be seeing him. somehow. God would make you smile again.

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    1. Lol.. Comprehension is difficult for you. The lady's family returns bride price not the man.

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    2. Let me laugh abeg. Make una no vex

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  3. Please leave and don’t tell them where you’re going to. That environment would kill you faster than the malaria you’re treating and your child would be fed all the lies that you’re trying to avoid by staying. Just disappear but keep tabs on them so you’d know the where abouts of your child. Don’t compromise your life and well being for a woman who is clearly possessed and under the influence of her bad mother who should be against her act. Go and hustle harder so that you can be stable enough to care for your child. Sorry about all you’re going through.

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    1. You are still asking if you should pay rent, Pay house Rent for Who pls? You better pack your bags and leave them there, Are you staying because of your child? He or she will be alright, find your way hustle and come back with a good lawyer to pick your child...

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    2. Oga the toxicity is too much. Do not pay any rent let the landlord throw you people out so you can go your separate ways. When you have money you can look for your child forget the lies they may tell your child truth will always prevail. Don't stay there till you die young . So sorry for what you are going through this too shall pass.

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  4. Oga runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

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  5. Lady T/ am worth more than a thousand dollars23 May 2018 at 15:09

    The woman wants to kill you. Don't younhabe where to stay for sometime? Leave that place. It doesn't sound good at all.

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  6. May God send help to the helpless. A lot I'd happening

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  7. Kai this is bad and I feel for you. Don't pay the rent. If you have a little money please look for a one room for yourself. Don't let her know about it

    If you leave your wife, I tell you there will be a turnaround for you.

    Leave her now and keep praying to God

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  8. OMG! Dear poster, pls move out of that toxic environment.. Leave that child for now cos if u die, ur wife ll remarry and give ur child a step father. Go and fix ur life then u can come back and collect what belongs to u. As for ur wife and MIL, KARMA awaits them.. Geez! some women are so mean!

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  9. Such a pity. A broke man is not respected by family, inlaws and wife.
    Uncle leave the house for them let them be paying house rent. Forget your child for now. You need money to be a good father to him or her. May God be with you

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  10. I am not sure the poster of this chronicle is a man.
    Like WTF!

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    1. Viva ciara, he is a f*cking man with erections. They may have knacked queen and boss' pigeon on his head.
      Kwakwakwakwakwka
      Jokes aside, there are some mumu men like this especially if he is broke like this one.

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    2. As in men dont behave like this abi, but there are some men who are so weak in body and soul.

      Tife is here

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    3. This life is funny sha. Leave and don't let them know your whereabouts until you can fight them legally. Meanwhile if there is a girl you broke her heart to marry this she-devil locate her and ask for forgiveness.

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  11. oga is it her pensioner mother you expect to bring out money and feed you or its your wife you expect to bring money meant to feed your child and give to you? There are lots of people doing ponpon in lagos....join them and you ll make at least 3k a day or even if you join conductors you ll make something per day.
    Theres also taxing or keke napep...speak to one of the "otunba"s or "chairmen" in your area who may be willing to give you their car for taxing or link you up with someone who has a car for taxing.

    Your blood pressure is because your financial condition not your wife's.....meanwhile, madam wife, well done. feeling funky on a broke ass 18k a month salary you think you have arrived.
    I will say separate for a while because its clearly a toxic enviroment for hubby, wife and child. There is no love in this environment
    Wifey is clearly frustrated that marriage life hasnt turned out how she expected. Whilst she may be your first love, taking her child away to your mum's shows me a peek of another side of you.....waiting for wifey to return from work so that she can buy malaria meds for your employed ass (who has been home all day) may be a bit nitpicky.
    complaining that she bought 150naira drug for you might be her way of managing resources so that theres enough money to last.
    Unemployed men often expect women to still have libido but the reality is your wifes libido is probably non existent and thats why shes sleeping with her mum so you dont disturb her.
    your focus should be getting back on your feet and creating a good today/tomorrow for your child.

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    1. @Sylvia...U mirrored my thought.In as much ad I don't like how his mother in law came to stay with them,I think d guy is a lazy man..since last year he hasn't found Something doing..I'm sure his wife is angry bcos of d way he is lazying at home sleeping all day expecting manners to fall down from heaven.. Is real estate business d only business one can do all his life? I know someone who used to be in real estates but d business is nolonger booming,he had to find other hustles instead of staying at home all day..

      Oga poster get up and go out to hustle..If u are my husband I will do d same to u..Isnt it such a shame that papa lolo like u is always home sitting outside barbers shop gossiping instead of going out to look for food to put on d table..Ur wife is not ur problem..Ur problem is urself..Even if u leave them and move out,in d next 5yrs,ur story will be d same.. Get busy man.

      If we have to hear ur wife's side of d story,we will all be shocked..I won't be surprised if I discover ur wife is d one taking care of the home and u are there giving her miserable 1k to buy u malaria drug..She tried sef by buying 150 naira own..She for use am buy bobo and biscuits for ur baby.
      Go out and make money and stop sleeping at home and reading blogs all day..
      Awon Sexy Daddy oshi!


      ***Chy Ozo***

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    2. A million gbosas for this comment.i was also confused when he said he sent his wife to buy drugs for him
      (azin you have no neighbour to assist before she came back or what,you had malaria..you were not dying...a little bit of self respect for yourself would have ensured you got those drugs on your own) ..i agree she went overboard with her family and mum drama but oga..u are no saint in this situation. a man always handle his shit and when things fall apart like it is now,your wife will be more than willing to support you till things go back to normal.now you are saying your rent is over due and you are waiting for the landlord to chase you out.YOU ARE A MAN,grow some balls and figure this out..if people dont buy your properties then enlist the help of people u can work for.your goal and bottomline should be 'i must make money'.you claim you love your child so much and yet you cant even afford to put a roof over her head,forget your wife in this matter now..what are you doing to ensure your child stays fed,clothed and housed in a happy and comfortable environment...if your efforts amounts to nil..then you are no better than a sperm donor.and you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to blame your wife ..this is 100% to do with you and the fact that you have failed woefully in your role as a father and then husband.but stay positive ,things will only get better if you GET UP AND WORK.

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  12. Stella why tell him to leave his home and run away? Later the wife will come here and cry for help that her husband ran away like that other woman did that time. Let him man up and send the mother inlaw packing. If the wife want to follow her let her go. Mshceeeeew

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    1. thats anoda good idea. the man na weak man , i trust some men

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    2. Exactly my thoughts too. How can a MIL move into a man's house and gang up with the man's wife to maltreat and insult him?

      Oga poster, please pick up your balls where you abandoned it and send your MIL out of YOUR home immediately. If your wife wants to go with her, so be it. This can never happen to my type of husband. Please get busy!

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  13. you are a strong man. favour will meet you soon but kindly leave the house first.

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  14. A man who can't provide for his family is worst than an infidel. Pls leave your child with her then go get your finances together. I will advice ones your money is back, don't ever agree to marry her again. A woman who put money first b4 her family is not worth calling a wife. Pls b4 she kills you one day. What happen to her being a help mate. Your true wife is still out there. Her family will never respect you.

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  15. God give us kids to be guardians to, to care for. but I don't understand why some people make their kids more important than themselves. they will survive. I love my kids but when my life is threatened I will leave and keep them in prayers or find a way to always watch over them. if you eventually die, won't the kid live.

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    1. what a selfish and terrible mindset,so when you brought this innocent kids to the world,you didnt think of it that they would need constant care and love till they come of age.where you abandoned as a child ,do you think its ok to leave vulnerable children to 'survive' as u put it.isnt this what breeds criminals and contributes to the moral decay of the society in addition to other ills.no need to keep them in your prayers..because it will be a futile exercise.now i see why some kids 'abandon' their parents when they get older.its called karma.

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  16. change the locks on your house door one day when they leave. Take your son somewhere safe and wait for the drama. Let your landlord be on standby to ensure that they are chased from the house. Pack their load well we’ll outside the door and just wait by the window for the drama they want to do. Ensure your neighbors are on your side.

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    1. I can bet the woman pays the rent. This man can't go no where, cos he can't get free rent anywhere else. He is only using that child as s cover. Too many lazy men these days, the woman just got tired. Women are the bread winners in most African homes today...The woman is just frustrated. The woman lrobapro decided not to pay rent this time around

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    2. @anonymous 15.23 how exactly does this solve the problem at hand.he has already brought shame to himself with this constant back and forth and drama.so the landlord and the whole street should watch more free show of shame abi.how about he MANS the fuck up and brings food to the table and see a 360 degree change in his wife and MIL attitude.i dont support kicking a man when he is down but honestly his wife is fed up hence the reason she is acting out.

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  17. Sir, PLEASE TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY, YOUR WIFE AND MOTHER IN LAW ARE WITCHES AND MOST LIKELY BELONG TO THE SAME COVEN. MOVE OUT ASAP DON’T LOOK BACK. IF YOU DON’T, YOU WILL LOSE EVERY GOOD THING THAT SHOULD COME YOUR WAY AND YOU WILL DIE BEFORE YOUR TIME. GOD ALMIGHTY WILL RECONNECT YOU TO YOUR DAUGHTER.

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    1. Anon15:24 will you shut up your dirty mouth!!!!!!!!! Your mouth smells like poo of someone who ate beans and groundnut and has not gone to toilet for days.

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    2. thank you my dear. them be big witches

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    3. Anon 16.20 I put it to you that YOU ARE A WITCH. May the fire of God burn you as you fly at night for your useless meetings! Oloshi !! Oloriburuku!!

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  18. Poster, most of the advice you got was to let them go to her family so you can get back on your feet. You were foolish enough not to take the advice forgetting that sometimes God uses people. See your life. Can you look after the child you love so much now? I hate when people are being unreasonably stubborn. You better find your level and disappear from that house now. If you are using this to canvass for aids, remember that any financial help you get now will get to waste. Better disappear from that house now before they bury you. Mtchewwww. Hot temper just dey worry me.

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    1. Hello Anonymous,
      You just spoke my mind. I went back to read the chronicle and all the advices from BV... Most of the advise given was to let her go with the child but instead OP took the child to his mother and the wife came back with her aged mother.. Now things are turning upside down.

      To OP,
      Leave the house... Don't renew the house rent. If you won't take this advice, then Man up and send your mother inlaw back to the village. You may not survive upto a week in that house if you don't act right away.

      Who knows if they are even planning to poison you

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  19. Brother just as your friend advised. Don't meet any landlord to beg. Quietly pic things that are important to you and leave at your friends house. Find your way and leave them. You said you love your child so much and if you really do you have to do anything to survive for him/her. Leave your child now, he will understand when he grows. Just try and find your way and make sure they don't know your whereabout. Just leave, leave them, leaveeeeeeeeeeeee and make sure they can't find. You are really soft that is why they treat you like this. So save your life and leave. Disappear and make sure they don't know anything about you.

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  20. please leave,find something to do,arrange your life first then you can come for your child,if not you will die and not have the oppourtunity to be there 4 your child.

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  21. This thing happen to someone I know but his own graduated to her bringing men home. This was a man who sacrifice all he had for her. He was brave enough to leave her n the baby. Now he is in money n she is regreting. He has refuse to marry her again n is looking for a good woman. He sends money for his son upkeep n the disappointment on her face when she sees him in money keeps him going. Do this n let karma do the rest

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  22. Please sir for God's sake follow Stella advice and leave that house. If u die now ur own don finish,u will not see ur beloveth child again and ur wife will remarry,so if u love urself forget abt ur child for now leave dat house nd go to a place where they can not find u, start a new life nd get urself another wife

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  23. Please sir for God's sake follow Stella advice and leave that house. If u die now ur own don finish,u will not see ur beloveth child again and ur wife will remarry,so if u love urself forget abt ur child for now leave dat house nd go to a place where they can not find u, start a new life nd get urself another wife

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  24. What daughter ??? Receive sense to save your life which is Paramount now, go out hustle and make money, be alive first and everything will fall into place.

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  25. This is really sad.Please leave the toxic environment,it is better to be alive and hustling and see your child grow than dead.Please leave.Bvs,can we contribute something for this man?even if it's 1k each?

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    1. No we cannot..may this beggi beggi spirit leave us one day in naija.he should go and hustle.thats what Real Men do.dont you see pregnant women hustle in the rain and sun ,yet we are supposed to contribute money for a grown ass man..an adult for that matter,last time i checked he is able-bodied.Poster go and work.

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  26. Bro MONEY OVER EVERYTHING,DOUBLE YOUR HUSSLE

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  27. What?? Poster, please do at your lines, set, go! Forget about your child for now. What if they eventually kill you, what will be the fate of that your child? Run now that you have leggs. That your wife and her mother are evil. They may even be cause of your set back. Change state if possible, change your phone numbers and don't relent in prayers. Come back for your child when you must have bounce back financially.

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  28. May the good lord help you in this your situation.

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  29. I was about saying leave the house until I read that your rent has expired. Oga this is your time to runnnnn.....find a self con and leave her and her evil mother to keep dealing with themselves. Shey if landlord chase them she will pack to the village with her mother. Useless mother that cannot stay in her husband's house. Since January.

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    1. oshey dear. nice advice. let him just move out jejely and not tell anyone where he is. if them like make them go meet him mama. make him mama disgrace them

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  30. My own na the hypertension. It might kill you before your wife. If the drugs u were given finishes, go to d chemist and buy more. Even if your bp comes down, don't stop using the drugs. Your life is in your hands oo. Bp drugs na for life.

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  31. People don't just change overnight. I guess there was a time things were good and smooth. My question is when and how did things get this bad? There are always three side of a story and not until I understand why your wife and mother in law took this path, I can't apportion blame to anyone. But like Stella said you should leave the thought of your child for now then go and hustle. Change environment so your sanity will be restore

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    1. no matter what he did, they are just witches.

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  32. Oga if your story is true, abeg waka your own go, they will take care of the baby or return the child to your mum.

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  33. Are you not the head of the family again? Or is there something you are withholding to say? House expired since March and you are still asking whether to go hustle or remain with empty stomach/mockery.

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  34. Are u a man or a controlled robot?

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    1. Hes a robot with tiger battery.. 😂

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    2. Stella please add this to Saturday or Sunday Laugh

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  35. Please leave that house for them. Leaving your home doesnt make you a coward or less of a man, it gives you sanity. If you remain in that house you may end up doing something you will regret. So before we start hearing stories that touch, please leave that environment.

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    1. everybody keeps on saying he should leave.you dont need to be told if somewhere is toxic afterall you are not a tree and to think he is taking advise from a blog..i shudder at this man's reasoning.the bottomline is ..he is not a provider and his wife is fed-up.its hard to call the shots when u dont play your role as a father and husband.

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  36. I can't believe this is happening to a man. Please leave that yeyenatu relationship

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    1. U can't believe this is happening to a man? Who is it supposed to happen to? A woman? Oya go dash him money nah. Mtcheeeeewwww!


      ***Chy Ozo***

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  37. Beautiful Anonymous23 May 2018 at 16:09

    Dear Poster,

    This is the result of bringing your marital problems for strangers to advise you on. Bear in mind they barely know you nor your situation and so their advise would be somehow careless and not thought through. And knowing human beings, we will definitely take the advise that suits us and not necessarily the right one.
    My dear Poster, you should NEVER have prevented her from travelling with your child and worse still taking the child away from her to your mum, wrong move!
    Pls, find the wife you married. She's somewhere in the midst of that horrid monster that you've painted. She's there, just waiting for you to rescue her. Most women are understanding, and can fight for you till they drop dead. Poster, i really want to believe you try your best, but look inwards and see if you haven't created this Frankenstein all by yourself.

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  38. Oga are you sure your hands are also totally clean? Because some men can be outrightly lazy and that annoys women a lot, like how can you be sitting at home with them when you're supposed to be out doubling your hussle... Is there no motorcycle you can ride that can be fetching you money? Maruwa nko? Conductor nko? Can't u also get bus on hire purchase? At least any which way you will still be taking nothing less than 2k home per day and that will take insults away from you.

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    1. thank you ooo.common okada he cannot ride..he now had the audacity to carry the child to his own mother.i am sure it is the wife paying the child school fees and thats why she could go and pick her child up.after taking care of my child ,one person will now be dragging the child with me..hmn..thunder will fire you first.

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  39. I can't believe this is happening to a man. Please leave that yeyenatu relationship

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  40. Poster, please what of your family members? So, they can't help you out? What of friends _ good friends? Please you have to source for fund to start up something for yourself and if you can, call your wife and discuss with her. Let her understand that you're making efforts to make things work out.
    In your story you didn't mention prayers. Please as much as you're making efforts try and pray more especially midnight prayers.

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  41. What life.
    See, its time you assemble your kings men to do something about that marriage.
    Dont wait till it cost you your life.
    You need space away from that toxic environment to re-focus your energy on making a decent living.

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  42. Oga, l remember reading your first chronicle. You have a bad Mother in Law and a bad wife. Your wife has decided to listen to her Mom. One of these days after God calls her Mom home, she will come back to her senses.
    Where is her Father?? Can you go talk to him one on one??
    You need to leave them. You can always look for your child when the dust settles but for now, think of yourself. If you drop dead now, the child will live.
    They might even be the cause of your financial issues. Leave them now. Go look for a friend to stay with and hustle like never before.
    I hope you feel better. May the Lord stretch His Healing Hands upon you in the name of Jesus. May He open Doors for you and make a way where there seems to be no way. May He give you favor wherever you go.

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    1. they might even be na understatement. they are

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  44. Dear Poster, pray and fast. Watch war room. The enemy is trying to steal your joy. Do not allow another man reaped were you sowed. Talk calmly to her and her mother. Remember marriage is for better or for worse

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  45. Don't renew the house rent. They know your weakness and they are exploring it. Get your daughter or leave her with then and find your way far from them.
    Your daughter will look for you at the appropriate time, don't die now because you love, live for her and yourself.
    Leave the house and let them sort themselves out from there. I wonder where you find a woman that's making life so hard for you. It's not by force to marry, Seems you're a timid man and too soft to give order and stabs by it. Be a man and stop been a whim.
    How did you managed to surrender your life to your wife and her mother, don't you have family that can come to your aid since you're not man enough?
    Pick yourself up and be in control of things, walk away from them and go somewhere to start all over again.

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  46. Will love to hear your wife's side of the story

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  47. wow no one telling him to pray for his home and fight and endure. No one even asked him why he doesnt have a job and blaming him for it. When a man suffers we all remember his health as a victim. No one telling him to think of the kids and people are even telling him to send his away. We know now that divorce is an option. No one asking what he did to deserve it hmm. Hope the poster leaves the environment.

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    1. Anon 15:56 you have a point. It just goes to show how mean we are. African believe women are supposed to suffer. It is something subliminally ingrained in our culture.

      I read it and when I got to the part that he said both wife and mum were mocking him I felt bad. But I wonder how this guy was behaving when he had money, maybe he was not really that nice to his wife.

      He said he loves her, has he really called her and say her down to tell her that ? Anyway, once there is no money for even house rent she will not want to hear about love.

      Op, I’m not judging you. You can still make your life a success with or without your wife. Stop attributing the evil things your in laws said to your downfall. Even if it has something to do with it, try and focus on God’s promises for your life. You married her out of love and that alone has a reward but people don’t know. Focus on that, focus on the love you have for your child. No matter how many times a man falls, it doesn’t matter, what matters is how many times he is able to pick himself up.

      Your wife may be acting wicked but some women are not really designed to withstand a certain level of difficulty. Some can cope but trust me, most can’t and then they begin to change towards you. It’s not peculiar to your wife so if you make it tomorrow you shouldn’t hold it against her.

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    2. dont mind Nigerians...hypocrites ..someone failed as a father and husband but becos he has mentioned his health which by the way i believe is a lie to garner sympathy ,the wife is suddenly a witch.withcraft he did not notice before marriage abi.

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  48. the Mother is simply a witch. the wife too is a witch. no matter what a man does highest they will take their daughter away and not this. pls leave them all alone. you can go stay at your Mum's place till you are balanced emotionally. dont even continue with the marriage. record all their doings and take it to her family. dissolve the stupid marriage before they kill you becos this is too much.

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  49. Thank you anon 16-56 but sometimes walking away wii make things right

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  50. Please leave the environment so that you don't die there.

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  51. oga,
    im moved by your story and can employ you as lon as you are a good person. I will send stella an email privately so that we can speak.

    Regards

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  52. Oga may we not come back here and read your obituary...you love your child so much, of what use are you to the child if you die from misery? use the sense God gave you and leave that evil atmosphere to breathe in fresh air. Stop doing suffering and smiling it is leading you no where! forget house you're selling for now and find something else do o..a word or two is enough for the wise

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  53. Oga, it sounds like a very pathetic case, my suggestion to you if this story is the whole truth; STOP FIGHTING AGAINST THE WIND!
    You cannot force an adult to stay with you if she has had enough. You need to sort out your life; go on a personal quest to rediscover your self—- like prayer seclusion ( not running after men of God from pillar to post). Those recurring dreams you have need to be addressed. If this battle entered your life as a result of marriage, you need to overcome to be able to get ahead in life and achieve your God ordained purpose. Call on the Almighty God on your own and ask Him to send helpers and people to you. Let things in your home be for now. As for your child you need to be alive and well to raise him/her well. A toxic home environment is far worse in some cases than separation and divorce.
    Run the the Most High God and find yourself , I wish you all the best.

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  54. Poster u re a capital fool. I don't think you are a man. U re just a woman in a man's skin. U re asking us for advice. Keep on staying there with them until they kill u

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  55. Oga first and foremost,you need deliverance. Look for a quiet church and pray out the spirit of poverty and delay. Secondly if something is not working,try something else. You haven't had a buyer in one year and you haven't thought of any other business or job? IF you can drive,apply as a driver or get a bus on delivery basis. You can look for a route far from home if you're too ashamed. People are steady looking for uber/taxify drivers. You're the kind of man that looks for respect (which is not bad) but in this life,building a reputation is not hard,keeping it is the hard work. Your past wealth cannot command the respect you're looking for. Let's face facts, even papa wey dey feed you go tire for you if you no hustle your life. You're focused on the wrong thing. That woman's respect cannot feed your child. Take it or leave it,they are feeding the child and sending him to school. I warned an uncle of mine in your situation never to disrespect his wife again,though the woman is mad. Your child dey eat,go school and wear cloth na d same wicked woman. Baba stand up and find another biz if the one you're doing is not working. The barber yu sit with , can't you learn from him? Can't you even get some creams to sell to his clients. You just siddon dey find respect. You're a man. You need it but you gotta work for it. Stand up and move

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  56. Poster are you close to God? It seems not.
    Even though we have wise BVs here who gave you good advice in the last chronicle (which you neglected to follow by the way and did what you wanted to do). This time, BVs may give you good advice HOWEVER, in order for you to win this battle and come out victorious, you need to go the way God directs you to go. Have you knelt down in sincerity and asked him in prayer?? You know He gave us his Holy Spirit as our helper; our standby. Do you understand the meaning of standby? Google it and you will shake with wonder. He is standing by, waiting for you to call on him, to ask him. Whatever he leads you to do, will definitely end in peace. It could never go wrong. Do this so you won't have to send in a 3rd chronicle, and even if you do, it will be one of testimony to God. Help is available. In such dire situations, seek the counsel of God before men. Even if you read some good comments here which you think may help you, still commit it to God before you take one step! God will never leave you confused nor lead you astray. 1 Peter 5:7 says - Cast ALL your anxieties on Him for he cares. You may feel like you have prayed and no answer is forthcoming, go in to his word and stand on the word that has to do with divine direction, peace, restoration, strength, guidance etc all the things you lack right now. When God sees that your heart is inclined unto him, he will begin to speak to you. Wake up every morning and read and meditate on the word of God, ask him to show you the right path/place for you in life. Don't go hustling left right centre without hearing from God. What you need most first is the peace that comes from God which the world cannot give. Jesus has given it to you. Receive it by faith and hold on to it. If your mind is restless and worried, you can't hear from God. As for MIL and wife, refuse to fight flesh with flesh, you will never win. Report them to God and leave them there. Be still and know your God! He fights all our battles and has never lost any. Goodluck

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  57. Poster stay awake every night from 2-3 a:m and pray, this is your battle hour. Do dry fasting for 3 days, and each day pray from 2-3 am and then break the fast. Its not going to be easy but you have to try

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  58. Poster stay awake every night from 2-3 a:m and pray, this is your battle hour. Do dry fasting for 3 days, and each day pray from 2-3 am and then break the fast. Its not going to be easy but you have to try

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  59. How can we ahelp this man Stella? Can you send his details?

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