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CHRONICLE UPDATE
''Stella, I am the chronicle poster of 4th May, 2024.
I work and my salary is 100k per month. We are not rich to the extent of husband paying me 20k/ month not to talk of 100k. He does his own part by taking care of school fees, feeding and house rent while I on the other hand use the saved 50k to do things for the house like buying curtain (old one don tear finish), my girls hair and mine, lotion, .Infact, they only have one canvass each which is a little old.
50k can’t do much again in this country. I also buy bread, cornflakes, biscuit from the 50k. I don’t go about buying toys, jeans, tops every month, I don’t have such money.
From the 50k also, I sew cloths for them and also buy things needed for school like sport wear, shoes, undies. Funny enough, I don’t buy same things every month because it depends on what the month brings on. Like now, we need pots in the house because our pots have holes, so I am saving to buy good non stick pots (those types with glass cover) like 3 sets of not more than 60k
I don’t know how to explain much, but I want you all to know that 50k is nothing again. I save 50k from my 100k salary in order to be of help to husband in case we want to pay rent or do something unexpectedly, I can give my own quota to assist.
I don’t collect any money from husband , I even tell him to let us save small amount from his own money too which he oblige because he has some of his money saved in my account which I will never spend or touch.
''Stella, I am the chronicle poster of 4th May, 2024.
I work and my salary is 100k per month. We are not rich to the extent of husband paying me 20k/ month not to talk of 100k. He does his own part by taking care of school fees, feeding and house rent while I on the other hand use the saved 50k to do things for the house like buying curtain (old one don tear finish), my girls hair and mine, lotion, .Infact, they only have one canvass each which is a little old.
50k can’t do much again in this country. I also buy bread, cornflakes, biscuit from the 50k. I don’t go about buying toys, jeans, tops every month, I don’t have such money.
From the 50k also, I sew cloths for them and also buy things needed for school like sport wear, shoes, undies. Funny enough, I don’t buy same things every month because it depends on what the month brings on. Like now, we need pots in the house because our pots have holes, so I am saving to buy good non stick pots (those types with glass cover) like 3 sets of not more than 60k
I don’t know how to explain much, but I want you all to know that 50k is nothing again. I save 50k from my 100k salary in order to be of help to husband in case we want to pay rent or do something unexpectedly, I can give my own quota to assist.
I don’t collect any money from husband , I even tell him to let us save small amount from his own money too which he oblige because he has some of his money saved in my account which I will never spend or touch.
I told my husband that my type of woman is rare and he should thank his God for giving me to him. He’s salary is not more than 200k.
Thanks all for your advice, I really appreciate you all. God bless you!
Thanks all for your advice, I really appreciate you all. God bless you!
Hmmm. I like that you have a plan B up your sleeves...... You are a smart woman and your hubby is indeed lucky to have you.If you dont colect any money from him, does he not appreciate you now and then with even 10k or small money? or buys you a nice gift? Please teach your man how to appreciate you if he doesnt know.....Well done for all your efforts but let your man be giving you money every month until it gets to time for school fees or rent, you do more with your little money than he does with his
Don't take Stella's last advice. The man is doing a lot already Don't pressure him. Over expectation kills relationships. God give you all better paying jobs amen
ReplyDeleteMy dear you tried. 100k is not enough for me in a week. I honestly don’t know how people are surviving in Lagos
ReplyDeleteTeach Nigerian man how to buy gifts? If you like bring Havard and Oxford lecturers to teach him, if it's not in him, you're teaching in vain.
ReplyDeleteGbam. This is my husband. It’s frustrating honestly but I’m learning to care for me and put me first. I’m tired.
DeleteDear poster you are a very lucky woman
ReplyDeletePoster you are really trying, just like Stella said. I mean you are still doing a lot. I'm single and 70k disappeared in a week over a few essentials like food. 50k is almost peanuts in today's economy. I hope God elevates your family and you can find something more tangible to do to help. As to none stick pots, research has shown that they are not too healthy to use. Because the plastics in them deteriorate with time, and can release carcinogens into what you are cooking. But this is just a suggestion. Wishing you all the best.
ReplyDeleteYou are right on the non-stick pots and frying pans. I have stopped using them when I noticed a different kind of foam each time I used the last one I bought.
DeletePoster go for the good old thick aluminum pots or anything better. Not non-stick please
And please don't be careless enough to have more kids for now.
ReplyDeleteThat advice won't be adhered to. Them go say na God dey give pikin. Person wey get kids for this their salary Naim you dey advice.
DeleteI give it up to you dear, you are a good woman keep it up.
ReplyDeleteIt takes a man and a woman to build a home. Your husband is playing his roles and you are playing yours as well, you are not doing your husband any favour by contributing 50% of your salary towards the household. Just like he is lucky to have you, I would say you are lucky to have him as well especially in these days that there are loads of deadbeat husbands and irresponsible wives.
ReplyDeleteAs long as you are on the same page, all is good.
Please if you want to go about throwing it at your husband's face how rare your type of women is, do so carefully and respectfully. Minimize any form of bragging right in your marriage. In a marriage where both parties are responsible and both are playing their roles well, both should be appreciated and encouraged. I pray GOD turn the finances of your family around positively.
100% on point.
DeleteShe’s doing him huge favor normally is the role of the husband to provide everything for the family, so yes she’s doing him huge favors is not her job and she’s doing too much ooo, poster some months do some don’t save your money oo
DeleteYou have said it all
DeleteKudos to you you re doing well may God elevate you more
ReplyDeleteyou are doing well
ReplyDeleteyou did not explain well in your chronicle that was why we assumed you are wasteful
you are a great woman
keep supporting your husband
your husband should be giving you 5 to 10k for your hair
he is doing great but he should include you more in his spending.
Dear Poster, if you are based in Lagos, go to CHINA TOWN in Okota you will buy that non-stick pots and pans for 30K. There is a depot there where resellers go to buy in bulk and they also sell to those who wish to buy in pcs.
ReplyDeletePoster take this advice..those beautiful sets aren't more than 40k at that certain depot in Chinatown.
DeleteWhen you get there;ask them and you would be directed to that warehouse,they are one the largest suppliers of kitchen and household items in Nigeria.
You can even start dropshipping as a side hustle with that connect😉;you get the point abi?
Wish you all the best.
@MARTINS
Well done, poster. The Lord will bless your home the more.
ReplyDeleteI'll also suggest you don't buy non-stick pots cos the stuff used in coating the inside part of it, peels off with time. Get good aluminium pots, they are better. That's what I want to do too.
Don't take any advice from people asking you to disturb your responsible and reasonable husband to spend more on you..
ReplyDeleteThat's why must of them are yet to be married and the ones married are having a very toxic marriage..
You're doing great, same as he.
No one is doing another a favour.. don't go and take bad advice and mess up this good thing you have.
She’s doing him huge favor, the man is not doing well she’s doing better, poster pls stop doing all this monthly else the man will leave everything for you one day , na so my own take start today am training 3 kids alone and he’s not dead, using your money to mantain yourself is a lot because is still his responsibility
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