Comedienne Wofai Fada fell in love and announced her engagement to Taiwo Olakitan Cole ( the man who stole her heart) and all hell broke loose as his family do not want her in their fold and issued a press release rejecting her on Saturday May 4, 2024 when the traditional marriage reportedly held......
The Press release says....
“Images and videos come to our attention showing our son Taiwo getting married to a Wofai Ewa in a traditional ceremony in Ugep, Cross River State. This serves to notify all acquaintances, family, and friends that the Cole family of Victoria Island Lagos are not aware of any marriage ceremony of our Son Taiwo Olakitan Cole, neither did we grant permission nor support in this regard. As such, person(s) parading themselves as new members of the Cole heritage by virtue of this purported event, are not known nor accepted by the family. All publications and documents being circulated about this are to be disregarded.”
*Grant permission indeed as if they are dealing with kids..
This family have no right to do this as both are adults, what a disgraceful move to shame her!...Look at them releaseing press statement as if they are the Royal family of Nigeria.........Wofai hold that their son well well !!!
I hope this man loves her enough to withstand the problems that are to follow
ReplyDeleteThe family is a joke. The one's that give permission how far with the marriage. If wofia and hubby's love is strong enough, then they can withstand any thing best they relocate if the guy is not depending on daddy's money.
DeleteNo I won’t advise she stays with him without sorting out the embarrassment. If they are this much against you, then you better watch your back well. Were his parents or elders at the traditional engagement? If not then you have a problem oo.
DeleteI don't think it is wise forcing yourself where you are not wanted. I mean this could also affect their kids. I hope the elders of both families can come together to reconcile the families. Inbred hatred and family feuding is an ill wind that will blow nobody any good in the end. Stuff like this usually have far reaching out consequences.
DeleteStella don vex!
ReplyDeleteWahala everywhere, haba!
E reach to vex. They should geddifok!!! Imagine them releasing this smelly disclaimer, mtscheeww.
DeleteDo they have to wash whatever family discourse they have in public?
Such a disgraceful move.they think they can disgrace her? They have just disgraced demselves.wat a family.they should getaat jo.disclaimer indeed.
DeleteGod abeg ooo,what kind of family is this,issuing a disclaimer,nothing wey person no go see.
DeleteMay God help Wofai and her hubby.
Like it or not, they disgraced her. Hence the plenty pictures released online. So far, none here shows family elders.
DeleteWomen regularly rubbish majority of Nigerian men as husbands. The comments on this post therefore confirms the saying not to take to the heart the insult of a woman.
What a family. God forbid. Babe fling him and move. You deserve better. They are not ashamed of themselves. Issuing a press release on a grown up son. Mtceeeeeew
ReplyDeleteHonestly, she should fling their son.
DeleteNo issues marrying each other as adults.
But where my fear is for her is dat u marry family also
She should not fling him afterall he is on her side and married her without their consent. Not too many men have the balls to marry their choice when their families are against them.
DeleteWe die there, he show me loyalty then we ride until the wheels fall off.
This is the best she has gotten. Hence... All that glitters is not gold.
DeleteBit hoe would she marry without the guy's parents and family members present. How?
ReplyDeleteIf she thinks the guy did it out of love then she is married to a guy no one can talk to. Even her parents are guilty of giving her out without the groom's family consent. I wish her well
Do you know how long this battle must have gone on before they decided to go ahead and marry.?
DeleteThey should have issued that their son is no longer their own and not issue a disclaimer on her...Nonsense!
wicked family!!!
Stellz, what they did was wrong, she is someone’s child too. Even if they think he married down and her profession is beneath their standards or fitting with their family, they could have ignored them quietly. No need to publicly humiliate another person’s child and make it seem like she squeezed her way into their family by force and fire to be one of them. Even if she did, there still was no reason for any disclaimer.
DeleteI hope she has enough self-worth never to step into those ppl’s house or go around them. Even if fences are mended one day how do you ever feel comfortable around them? How do you trust them? I don’t think I ever could be at ease when it comes to them. I hope she has a good support system of her own.
His father is claiming she's older than him. That the bomboy is just a whole 30yrs nd wofia na 38yrs.
DeleteHis father is claiming she's older than him. That the bomboy is just a whole 30yrs nd wofia na 38yrs.
DeleteIf she squeezed in, she did. If said in public, nothing bad. Even herself can use it tomorrow to word the man and his family.
DeleteTill date, Madam Deputy Governorship Aspirant still tell to wide applause from women and derisive laughter from men and women how she paid her own bride price. Maybe that is why they stole a march on her - "we no want you, that is why we did not bring bride price na you force yoursef enta here o".
Stella, relax. If you have more insider story, bring it out. From time immemorial, both families or one family on either side have been against some marriages. What is important is the reason. So long as families are involved in marriages this side of the world, issues like this will continue to be.
Hold that their son well abi leave their son? God forbid I enter any union that the family hates me like this. They will use problem to finish your life. You're risking your life, your future kids, your peace of mind, everything because of love? Nah, not me.
ReplyDeleteIf they go to this level to shame me, i will hold unto that man to spite them and drop him when mission is achieved, this will no longer be a love battle but one to teach them a lesson.....Imagine what any woman this man marries will go thru? GOD FORBID ABEG!!!
DeleteCan never be me too
DeleteNot worth holding on to anybody to spite anyone…
DeleteI dey tell you, Fidel. What will I be doing where I'm not wanted? Na only their son God created? Please, please!
DeleteNot all love battles are worthy it. In a marriage it's already a lot of work to adjust,accommodate, tolerate and yet loving your partner, add full throttle fight with inlaws and the love will disappear.
ReplyDeleteHmmmn. True, she should have just freed the guy. It's not worth it because they will come charging even after the wedding and its the new bride they will charge at. Some families are too deep to have issues with, even when dating look and pray well before you leap. I know a family that started tormenting a party to a relationship when she broke up with thier son, it was only God delivered her and that was a relationship that was cinsent3d to talk less of the one that wasn't agreed upon by parents.
DeleteConsented*
DeleteI think she would. She just wanted her unborn child to be legitimate. Cos i think she's pregnant. Check thetrad pic,where she wore white.
DeleteSo what is at the root of this? Cause in all my years, first time I’ve seen a press release issued on wedding wahala. Is it tribal wahala?
ReplyDeleteI think obasanjos wife also issued a press release..I'm not so sure.
DeleteNa wa ooo. So who followed the boy to Ugep to marry wife? This kain family sef
ReplyDeleteIt's not by force abeg, she could just bounce! If the family doesn't want her why still go ahead with the marriage? Gosh! I hate issues like this
ReplyDeleteSame here finest. Wicked family. 🙄🙄🙄
DeleteShe can only hold their son well well if son loves her enough and there's assurance, if not eeh she's on her own. Family that can go this length can do anything to frustrate her.
ReplyDeleteThis family will disturb this drama free lady
ReplyDeleteThe groom father said his son has a child in the UK that he the father is taking care of.
I hate family dramas
She should flee from this type of family
The release makes it sound like they are old money people or a family of some influence who has strict rules of who gets into the fold. If they are such ppl then they will prefer to marry within their own class.
DeleteQuiet as it’s kept, some of these old money ppl don’t even want to be married to wealthy new money ppl, it’s all about the family name and the power behind that name. Wealth alone does not open every door.
This was entirely wrong of them to do. No reason for a publication. Folks take this earth life business too seriously. We are all just passing through.
10:19 you know the drill. Well written.
DeleteI wish them marital bliss but one thing i know is stuff like this is usually hectic, my cousin's wife is a victim of the above written.
Shebiiii @ 10:19, the disclaimer was a completely unnecessary move. They are equally disgracing their son in that way.
DeleteIf one of us is the mother of the child the man is allegedly not taking care of in the UK or she is our younger sister, our comments will definitely be different
DeleteI think at this point the Coke family should accept her since their son insisted on marrying her, I don't know why some families like to choose who their son will marry and who he will not marry,
ReplyDeleteAbeg which one is Cole family of Victoria Island, na them get Victoria Island?
They're probably the one bankrolling the guy..
DeleteThat's the only explanation I can give for this audacity..
To those ladies looking to marry into certain families with big names, you better make sure your man has his own thing outside the family and not living off them,. If not, you go smell your bum bum
I agree with you,Dante. The guy may be a trust fund baby hence this much brouhaha from his family. I wish wofai fada well.
DeleteChai! No be small thing ooo. E reach to ask. Royal family of V. I. aye! 👐🏾
DeleteI'm just wishing her marital bliss and safe delivery
ReplyDeleteSafe delivery ke? Is she pregnant? 😯
DeleteRead she's 3 months gone
DeleteHehehe
ReplyDeleteE be like say this family don too watch duchess and queen movies😂😂
E sure me say na woman drop this nonsense disclaimer to shame another woman,. There are some evil men don't phantom,. The family is also filled with S!mp men who leave their women to run wild..
Nonsense..
Abi the babe na 'retired' hoelosho?
Even though, na the guy them suppose disown for wanting to bring shame to the family, that's how it's done
She was friends with them Jane mena and korra obidi. I now see why she has not been associating with them.
DeleteMy in-law did worse ,but not publicly. My mother in-law in sighting me on my wedding day, turned to her friend as said , see what my son brought up to us, not knowing my mum was hearing and my mom replied her that he brought good thing to them, my mother in-law was so embarrassed, they treated me like thrash when we were dating, saying I'm too flashy for them, but at the end nko? 14 years and we are getting along but I never forget those hurtful words or the letter my father in-law wrote to my husband saying he should forget marrying a prostitute not knowing their son was my first.
ReplyDeleteWell, they're trying to make up but we can never get close like close, we gist and all that but I don't see them as my parents, and now anytime she tries to get into me,I change face for her immediately ,I'm no longer that naive girl of those years o, age sef don know sha, but I allow the son to perform his duties wella for them and he does to my mom too
My God!!! If u had chosen not to forgive now, ‘ever righteous Nigerians’ will still choose to blame u
DeleteWow,u try oh!!!! U took a big risk Sha but am happy u guys are good.kip it up.
DeleteHmm I don't want to imagine what she is going through right now.
ReplyDeleteIf she can fight them, I wish her goodluck. If she can't let her opt out ASAP.
When I saw that press release I felt bad, the family has no right to do such especially when their child made the choice. May I never have such a family who will disgrace me publicly 🙏
ReplyDeleteAmen 🙏
DeleteAmennnnnnnn
DeleteAmen
DeleteWhy embarrassing her like this.
ReplyDeleteThis is not fair.
It's totally bad.
DeleteThis is too much now,why this kind of embarrassment?
ReplyDeleteWell they should just brace themselves because the battle has just begun.
I wish them goodluck because they will really need it.
Sometimes or even most times, there is no battle after this especially if the family is not dependent on the man as it appears in this case.
DeleteThe worse that may happen here is that the family will ignore them to their good or bad.
All now falls on the man. If he does well, they may come around.
If he does bad, the woman will hide the shame for as long as she can bear.
If her strength is small and the man is lazy and or bad, the marriage packs up to their both shame.
But you know among us, the woman, the public figure, will bear the bigger public shame. She is likely in for a ruff ride of covering up if the man is not up to his name.
Weather we like it or not, this is Africa oh, Nigeria for that matter. Here, you are not only getting married to your man but also to his family, the earlier ladies get this the better. Forget all this it's me and my husband alone.
ReplyDeleteMarriage that has not even started and they are dragging her like this. She better think twice before marrying this man.
This is a peace of mind you have when you know that God is in support of your marriage and your husband's family accepts you completely in love. If you want to stay in your husband's house for sooo long you need peace, unity and togetherness. They must accept you towo tese (with hands and legs)
@Lagos Mainland Girl
DeleteGod bless u for these few points of urs.
This is Nigeria, some things still work.and are still working.
If anything should happen in the future the family would say "shebi they tell them" and eventually shift all d blames on the wife
Which one is this is Africa? Was it in Africa that the UK prince was dragged for marrying a black woman? It happens everywhere in the world even today. Unless the guy is still dependent on his family (which should even put off Wofai) and perhaps doesn't really love the lady, I don't see why they shouldn't overcome this.
DeleteWofai run o! , Can she stand all the wahala? , what of her peace of mind? Is their love strong enough to see her through, cause at the end,He's their son, who is she again?
ReplyDeleteWofai, it's better you run. This people will give her plenty wahala in the marriage. And when things are not so sweet, who would she report the man too when the family doesn't want to smell her. It's not worth it at all and love isn't enough to sustain a marriage.
ReplyDeleteKai wofai baby girl runooooo, nne putaba na uzor adiro there oooo
ReplyDeleteI could remember wen i.was in sch, i met a guy i love with all my heart, when i met his family, the first question they asked me was "who is my father? Bla bla bla and with their body languages, i quickly coded they dnt really want me. It is a big family n WELL.to do family.
ReplyDeleteI digged into d family and saw how they treated a wife dat married one.of them cos fhey saw her as gold digger. before u broke my heart , i din do b4 u do.
I broke up with d guy sharp sharp.cos my mental health is so important to me fa
With this your poor grammar, poor punctuation and poor capitalization sha, next time, don't 'digged' into wealthy family until you are properly schooled.
DeleteThe groom's family are not mad, something must b wrong for them to disclaim her.
ReplyDeleteNa she suppose use her tongue to count her teeth
you and the people who gave birth to you are stupid.....something like what? idiots like you who are ill bred with no values think what they did is ok? you are mad...very very mad
DeleteWho tell this beautiful lady say if she kno marry their son she no go make am in life?
ReplyDeleteAbi.she no go survive am?
Anyways, mayb d guy John Thomas is the sweetest (on a lighter mood)
The story below is odd, but it is true.
ReplyDeleteMy parents were against the lady I fell in love with for two reasons:
1. I was in America and was expected to marry an American for citizenship.
2. My parents are well read and richer than my in laws.
It was a serious battle between the two families as we lived three blocks away in Nigeria. My wife's parents insisted that my wife (then a girlfriend) should break the relationship and prepare to go to the U.K.
I sent word to Nigeria that I would get rid of them on both sides so I can marry the lady I love. My parents got the message and stopped victimizing my girlfriend. Her parents too stopped mounting pressure on her.
Downside:
I tried but without success to relocate my girlfriend to America because she did not have the support of my parents and she was not rightly exposed.
After living in America for nine years I packed my bags, moved back to Nigeria, and got married to my wife in the month of March twenty years ago.
I remember there were seven people in attendance at the registry. Only my mother stopped by for a few minutes to look at my face. No fan fare or drums or any noise. Snacks were served and everybody went home.
Note:
Met my wife in 1986 when they moved into our neighborhood and were friends for eight years during which I fell in love with her.
We started courting in 1994 October before I left Nigeria in May 1995. War broke out in 1996 when a letter I wrote to her about my plans to bring her over was given to my father by a family friend who visited home from the United States.
Any cause for alarm:
Yes!
There is absolutely no human being on earth that my wife can discuss about me or my decision.
Please note: I do not misbehave or maltreat my wife and children but I notice the fear in my wife that if something should go wrong with our relationship, no family member on both sides is strong enough to talk to me.
You are not truly liberated until you start living on your own terms.
Story from the man (guy) who didnt want to travel abroad because of love. He cried for hours non stop on board airplane until he arrived in New York.
There are no two persons like me on earth.
Do not copy my lifestyle.
Cheers!
Wow 👋👋
DeleteDid you come to brag or comment on the topic? They say if you tell the truth you dont have to worry about forgetting details. Liberated and living on your own terms yet you still couldnt relocate your wife to the US without your parents. Gerraroye jor. Long hiss!
DeleteI don't know why I almost always feel like you're a woman😁😁.
DeleteI can only imagine the battle you both went through, it's not for the faint hearted.
I would have ran far away, I don't have the strength for that kind of wahala.
The fear of not having anyone to report that kind of spouse to is very valid. I hope Wofai does not regret getting married to this guy.
You sound like an old man with a Gen Z vibe. Something wrong with the fact you needed to mention you do not misbehave or maltreat your wife and children, or do you? You sound like a narcissist, God help that woman truly.
Delete@13:04
DeleteMy post is intended to highlight the pros and cons of an independent action.
The couple has taken the narrow path whivh unfortuinately is not without disadvantages.
To every action, there is equal and opposite reaction. Weigh your options, take a stand, and live with the consequences.
Cheers.
@Anon 13:04,
DeleteWork on your mind and evolve.
There are no two persons on earth like you, except if you choose to copy people or your are copied.
How many people have same finger prints as you do?
I thrive pushing my individualism which earns me utmost regard in a crazy and backward society.
@13:06
DeleteI mentioned that I do not misbehave or maltreat my wife and children to get a message across.
We do have squabbles at home once in a while, especially about my social life and total distegard for our culture in favot ofcvivil rights and pursiit of happiness.
As a psychologist I understand the silent pains my wife and children endure whenever I refuse to follow them to social events.
Bless your heart @Dainty T.
DeleteAs good as idividualism is, there are trade offs. If one of the parties should go astray, the relationship is as good as dead.
The saving grace for my wife and Is that both of us live to please God on a daily basis
We are both committed to God and to each other.
I talk am, man with balls of steel!!! I salute your courage. No one deserves to put their rules on adults who have made up their mind to be together.
DeleteProudly foodie, I get you. You are like me; though female.
Delete18years ago I went through same.
I am from a rich home, hubby family not poor; but not even average. Budgeted salary home kind of.
My parents especially mum refused. We battled and battled. But I stood my ground because I knew I had coconut head and could only be with someone who loved me beyond what everyone sees.
We later eloped and got married and have been married for 17yrs now.
Family grudgingly later accepted; but the gap is there.
I will do it over and over again if you ask me.
But I later observed things. After the first 5yrs, reality of not having any1 to report him to was my 1st nightmare. I nearly died! But knowing we both can go mad if we hurt each other because of love, I started matching up his energy.
If he keeps late night, he will come back the next day to wait for me till 2am. After fighting; we will make up.
So yes; such decisions have downsides; but it's worth it. Living your life to the fullest on your own terms is pure JOY!
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
DeleteWhat a family.😏
ReplyDeleteSome families are a disgrace. Honestly why do you want to control who your son marries. You've controlled him from birth. Now release him, let him go. Smh. How can people so be so stupid. Like how? 😔😐
ReplyDelete*How can people be so stupid"
DeleteHaven't we read the story of the guy that married who his father imposed on him and he kept cheating throughout the marriage. He had to use adultery to mask his pain.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't they allow him to marry who he loves .
Smh at rich families making money their God.
Well, she’s pregnant, what’s now gonna happen? As for me o, forget say u get Belle, dust ur Dunlop and run! Bcos if later in the future the guy starts to misbehave, who do u want to run to in his Family?? And to think y’all met just 6 months ago (allegedly), hmmmmmn!
ReplyDeleteKelvin Dat Edo Boi (Stellz Cousin)
So the problem is Wofai is 8yrs older than the guy.
ReplyDeleteSeems Africans have not left this mindset of the man must be older than the woman in marriage.
Two she's pregnant with his kid.
This is a big mess. I just hope she didn't marry because she's pregnant for him.
Smh. What condom could have prevented even they wanted to gbensh.
Both men and women luxuriate in this age factor thing. That is why women say here regularly about punishing wayward husbands in old age. If a a couple are both 23 years old or 25 and 24 years respectively, who will talk about not caring in old age for the man as revenge
DeleteThis family will transfer the rejection to her kids eventually, ladies pls do not force your self where you are not wanted o, abeg o
ReplyDeleteThis family be doing stupid sh*t.
ReplyDeleteYeye family trying to form rich. Osino of “ Victoria Island”
If I were she, I will run four forty, you don't go where you're not wanted, to issue a disclaimer tells a lot of family she's getting married to, talking from experience.
ReplyDeleteThis kind family dikwa rare..
ReplyDeleteDisclaimer on top of marriage.
Hmmmm!!!
I pity her and her future kids. They wi transfer the rejection to the kids in future and alienate them
ReplyDeleteCole Heritage 😂
ReplyDeleteNeesolah
They have put her on the spot. Na she go carry the marriage to success. If the man is cleverly wicked, na double wahala. Unless she quickly exit immediately after childbirth. Even that would be used against her by the public and the man's family. The man may also use that against her as per I was told but I didn't listen to my family. Ground zero situation for her. The marriage has to succeed.
ReplyDeleteThe burden is on both of them, he too has a point to prove. Controlling families are not it at all, no respect for their son at all
DeleteI don laugh tire hereooo
ReplyDeleteSDK with her way of words when piss
Royal family of Nigeria indeed. As if we care. Can someone please remind me agàin how old the boy/man is 13years?
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