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ADVICE NEEDED
My people I need some advice
I met a man 5 years ago and on our first face to face meeting something happened that didn’t involve me but scared me so I ghosted him as I recognise he has some mental problems
Fast forward 5 years later we reconnected and I decided to give him a chance because he told me he has changed and back then he hated women and was angry that he has changed.
Please note over those 5 years our path crossed maybe 3/4 times but I always ran away immediately I know it’s him.
Anyway So we moved, Omo a week later his true colors started showing, this man is even more damaged, verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and lies a lot.
An incident happened 2 weeks ago where he embarrassed me on a night out with his brother and his brother’s friend. Since then I ended it all and blocked him. He has started calling me on private number talking rubbish, he won’t acknowledge hes wrong, he is trying to manipulate me, I cut the call and told him to leave me alone.
He won’t leave me alone and deep down I pity him, I swear no jokes he is a lun-antic no woman can ever stay with him, I was raised with love and honestly this man is always giving simple response with harshness and anger, even the segz is rubbish he cannot hold an erec-shon and he is single and childless.
There is nothing I’m enjoying being with him but I really want to have children also and marry but I just cannot marry this luna-tic or have kids with him I know I will regret it.
We are both the same age and in our 30s....
Anyway So we moved, Omo a week later his true colors started showing, this man is even more damaged, verbally abusive, emotionally abusive and lies a lot.
An incident happened 2 weeks ago where he embarrassed me on a night out with his brother and his brother’s friend. Since then I ended it all and blocked him. He has started calling me on private number talking rubbish, he won’t acknowledge hes wrong, he is trying to manipulate me, I cut the call and told him to leave me alone.
He won’t leave me alone and deep down I pity him, I swear no jokes he is a lun-antic no woman can ever stay with him, I was raised with love and honestly this man is always giving simple response with harshness and anger, even the segz is rubbish he cannot hold an erec-shon and he is single and childless.
There is nothing I’m enjoying being with him but I really want to have children also and marry but I just cannot marry this luna-tic or have kids with him I know I will regret it.
We are both the same age and in our 30s....
Wetin we wan advice you again? Sebi you don run? Keep running and dont look back cos the werey will unalife you if he cant have you...Please whatever you do DO NOT MAKE THIS MAN YOUR BABY DADDY!!!
So why’s this chronicle here ? Because it’s like after everything you’ve narrated above , your desperation makes you want to reconsider him as an option.
ReplyDeleteYou’re lying , you are not loved at home or you’re equally mentally unstable like him .
You’re very one low esteem girl , my fren clearoff!
I am wandering why you are still with this person to the extent of sending chronicle
DeleteYou don't need advice but a reset slap.
DeleteSo what should we do for you? Abi you want us to tell you to go ahead and manage a mad man because you are in your 30s? Make desperation no kpai you sister.
DeleteSo, after your first horrible experience with him, you circled around for 4 whole years and still got back with this "lunatic" over claims that he changed. Okay o, thank God you did not ask for advise in your chronicle because it would have been a waste of advise.
DeleteSo what's your question?
ReplyDeleteI sha know you will go ahead and marry him. Goodluck.
You’ve already said everything and even concluded on how you feel about him, so I’m not sure what more you expect from us at this point.
ReplyDeleteBut I do have some questions: You were aware of his unstable behavior from the beginning, yet you still chose to be intimate with him.
That decision, especially knowing what you knew, makes it seem like desperation may have played a role. It raises concerns about your judgment, would you really consider having a child with someone whose mental state is so questionable?
Maybe the issue here isn't just with him.”
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteWhat is all this energy you are dissipating around this man? So why did you date him when you knew all these about the man as you claimed is a ''lunatic''....You take part of the blame and you should take accountability for not standing firm in your decision to not date him....
At this point, advise yourself and make better decisions and learn not to like what you dislike.....
All the best....
Runnnnnnnnn, this one will kill your peace and in no time you will also have mental breakdown.
ReplyDeleteI am speaking from experience, he will apologize and still later blame you for his reactions.
Your self esteem and self worth would be dragged through the mud.
Don't pity him my sister, block him before you start pitying in yourself in years to come.
All the best!
Women eh no one should advise her I know you’ll end up with him.
ReplyDeleteWomen eh no one should advise her I know you’ll end up with him.
ReplyDeleteYou know what you want and he doesn't fit, so keep blocking him and never reconnect with him. Simple!
ReplyDeleteYou know what you want and he doesn't fit, so keep blocking him and never reconnect with him. Simple!
ReplyDeleteThis situation is wild, sha. You noticed he's struggling mentally, but you still want him to be the father of your kids? Doesn't that seem contradictory?
ReplyDeleteChildren need stable role models, and ignoring these red flags could impact their upbringing. Prioritize your kids wellbeing, not just your desire for them to have a father. It's really unfair to bring kids into that dynamic.
Not telling you to leave him, but bringing kids into this dynamic might not be the best idea. Think carefully to avoid future regrets.
Better change address before he kpai you!
ReplyDeleteYou already know what to do, because this is one of the most important decision of your life,stress on the most important decision
ReplyDeletePoster, you have listed all these and ran away, what do you want bvs to advise again? To tell you to be patient with the man and take him back? Please keep running and don't look back. Go and look for a sane man to have kids with. This one is not it at all.
ReplyDeleteAre you still waiting for our advice?Let him go.
ReplyDeletePoster what are you waiting for. Better run and don't look.bsck. Stop being desperate
ReplyDeletePoster, there's an Igbo adage that goes this: "No matter how you cure madness, you can never cure the murmuring that comes it". The trait is there and can't be completely removed.
ReplyDeleteThe hand writing is already on the wall. You noted that he has mental issues judging from his rash reactions elicited by simple conversations
You went back after some years and noticed his situation has worsened.
My take; flee and while at it, don't look back, stay very far away from him. Cos the way he doesn't want to let go, it feels he's obsessed with with and you know how grave the outcome of obsession can be.
Poster,please let him go,thankGod you saw the signs and even acknowledged it,don't go back please
ReplyDeleteDon't be desperate for marriage. Keep running.
ReplyDeleteThat's how they'll birth another set of lunatics
ReplyDeleteHe might not want to marry you, just to gbensh and move on from you. He might have a child somewhere with his baby mama but wouldn't want to disclose it to you
ReplyDeleteHe can't keep an erection, the sex is horrible. Hmmm.... It is like the universe is trying to tell you something. I wonder what that might be.
ReplyDeletePoster keep it moving, there is no need looking back.
ReplyDeleteIn anything you do, make sure you don't go back to him either because of loneliness or desperation, you will regret it if you get back with him.
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing good for you there pls, just flee from him everywhere.
ReplyDeleteTo avoid stories that touch.
Don’t you get pregnant for him by mistake (as you will term it), if not, you will inherit part of that madness from him the the way he will treat you and your child. This one you are already intimate with someone you know is mad
ReplyDeleteYou are even more lunatic.
ReplyDeleteYou gave him another chance thinking he would change, in this life?🚶
Run and go away from him ,your own man will meet you
ReplyDeleteRun and go away from him ,your own man will meet you
ReplyDeleteIs it because you did not meet anyone in the five years that you are still contemplating him even after writing all that?
ReplyDeleteYou better leave that misogynist alone and value your life. Having children is only half the battle, you need to be alive to raise them. The only reason you sent this in is because there is something itching you, the spirit of desperation is creeping over you and you sent this in to receive some confirmation that you did the right thing. Why haven’t you changed your telephone number? If you were serious about escape your number would already be changed and you probably would look to be moving somewhere he doesn’t know.
You better not let desperation play games with you. The devil has been alive for million of years, he knows us better than we know ourselves. If he is planning destruction for you then you better flee like a woman trying to escape a fire and run for your life.
Continue running 🏃♀️
ReplyDeleteI don’t really believe you are loved at home. If you are, that man has no business seeing your nakedness not to mention you considering him being your baby daddy because of desperation.
ReplyDeleteMove on pls, commit all your worries to God let him fix it all for you.He is the master in match making.He will bring the right one who will compliment you.
ReplyDeleteThis will destroy your life. If you know the evil involved in getting with the wrong partner! I'm not exaggerating. This behaviour, multiply it by 1000 if you continue with him.
ReplyDeleteBlock him and never consider him again, even as a friend. I believe you sent in the chronicle as God's way to save you.
This is ridiculous, you have all the evidence that he is complete NO for you.