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Hi Stella
I am a lady and a civil servant. I am on GL 09 while we have 2 people that on grade level 08 in my office. We all come thrice in a week. I use my free days to teach as a per time teacher in order to augment my income. Now the issue is they need two secretaries in the director's office.
The director's office is mainly meant for single ladies, men or elderly women that are no longer nursing babies. The director's office is demanding. Our closing time is 4pm in our office. But in the director's office, they can close by 7pm depending on how demanding their job is. U can't close as a secretary posted to director's office except she closes. The secretaries in director's office come every day and there is no allowance. The director is a strict woman who is quick to give query to whoever she deem fit.
The head of human resources is contemplating on posting me there because two of the secretaries in the director's office are retiring. I don't want that bcus it will affect my side hustle because my registry boss told me the head of HR's plan to post me there. They go every day in the director's office. The juniors in my office are avoiding deployment on the premise of being married with kids. In civil service, it's usually by hierarchy,
The head HR said because I am a single lady which I find annoying after all, I have other two juniors to me who wants to hide on the guise of been married to avoid deployment to the director's office. In civil service, it is mostly by hierarchy
The head of human resources is contemplating on posting me there because two of the secretaries in the director's office are retiring. I don't want that bcus it will affect my side hustle because my registry boss told me the head of HR's plan to post me there. They go every day in the director's office. The juniors in my office are avoiding deployment on the premise of being married with kids. In civil service, it's usually by hierarchy,
The head HR said because I am a single lady which I find annoying after all, I have other two juniors to me who wants to hide on the guise of been married to avoid deployment to the director's office. In civil service, it is mostly by hierarchy
What do I do?
I questioned God for been single besides I live with my parents to avoid rent payment. I can't be closing by 7 pm. Should I accept the posting or tell the director I can't cope with demands of her office or should I lie I have a child to cater for too.
You cannot close by 7pm because you live with your parents r what?STOP COMPLAINING and take the Job in the directors office.Go there and give it your best shot and you might just soar from there...Do you know if this is a blessing in disguise that they are by passing two of your senior colleagues for you?do you know the people you will meet? the opportunities that will come your way?Go for it!!!
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on this golden opportunity.....So many would gladly trade places with you (side-eyes at Abionah😂😂)!
This is one of those moments where you may need to compromise and carefully consider what works best for you in the long run.... I am sure the promotion comes with a salary increase; take time to weigh your current earnings against the new offer, including any other added benefits or future prospects.....
If you are currently engaged in teaching, consider moving those sessions to weekends so you can still support others while embracing this growth opportunity.....Don’t shy away from challenge; they often shape us the most......
From my experience, I have learned that you grow more under "tough" leaders than under those who constantly shield you......The former are often the ones who mention your name in rooms that matter like boardrooms, top management meetings, and when opportunities arise......
Who knows? This could be the stepping stone to becoming a Permanent Secretary, heading a parastatal, or even a Minister who will one day correct systemic wrongs from the inside out......
Pray for clarity and wisdom......Wishing you the very best in whatever decision you make.....
Congratulations in advance!
Such a poorly written narrative.
ReplyDeleteWrite your own make we see. Rubbish
DeleteStella may oil never dry on your head! well said. poster follow her advice!
ReplyDeleteNo more giveaway o
DeletePray about it and if no other options, accept it. Don't resign unless you get another job.
ReplyDeleteYou have enjoyed being a civil servant and I must say congratulations.
ReplyDeleteNow it's time to know how the real corporate world rolls. 😄😄😄 That's on a light note by the way.
Poster, it's not gonna be as bad as you painted it. Your only worry is the side hustle that will be affected.
So try to think of other things to do, to augment your income.
Moreso, why should others be deserving of the role, but not you?
So you see, at
Please take the job and give it your best.
ReplyDeleteLeave the rest to God to take care of.
All the best in your new position.
I didn't finish my comment and it published.
ReplyDeleteSo take up the role, someday you might close late, but definitely not every day. You will also be paid over time for work done outside official work hours.
You also get to gain experience that might land you your next big job.
Who knows if that's where the husband you are waiting for, will come around to see the director, and the fire will spark.
Everything is not a disadvantage. Some things are blessings in disguise.
Your mindset Nd attitude to it, will determine how it will turn out for you.
I have worked In a professional body where I willingly gave my all, won't even go for my breaks, do even the jobs of my GM and till date, I'm grateful for the opportunity. When I left, for more than 6 months, they couldn't find my replacement...
Life is not always about taking. Learn to give too, serve, etc. It prepares you for your future ahead and build character in you.
who said you will remain single and in that office forever, you should accept that position for now and do your best. You don't know what is waiting for you till you get into that office. You could get that office and work schedule will change for your madam, just make sure you are cool headed, you observe and smart with your work. Have good relationship with her and you could be lucky that the work will change for good.
ReplyDeleteDon't know why you're skeptical about this promotion. All promotion comes with new challenges,that you must conquer. Please don't reject it.
ReplyDeleteAll that and more opportunities only if the Director is a good soul and not a sadist, narcissist and power drunk boss who is not afraid of a subordinate's light.
ReplyDeleteTake the job prayerfully. You never can tell, your case might be different.
ReplyDeletePoster are you stingy, petty or what? You're single, you're working, you're teacher too yet you can't pay rent? You're afraid of taking up a higher role in your office because of a side hustle that pays how much? Do you know the kind of opportunities you could get working in the Director's office? Abeg ooo change your mind set
ReplyDeleteTake the job, and get more experience.
ReplyDeleteWorking with a good director exposes you to the movers and shakers most of the time. So do it.
No don’t take the job
ReplyDeleteIn government jobs, you must insist on getting what is due to you. There is no extra honour for letting them give the job they give to a lower person to you. Tell HR person that it is your understanding that that assignment is by hierarchy and you are not next in line. Be polite but firm.
You might also regret taking the job because no good deed goes unpunished. If that woman keeps querying you, you will probably get fired anyway so try to resist as much as possible
It’s in the movies that this type of acceptance always goes well
In real life, if you join the wrong department, sometimes that’s the road to you exit
You said you questioned God for being single. What if God has now decided to answer your query by sending you to a place where you will meet your husband? God’s ways are past finding out.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, tell them you're marrying soonest, after they deploy someone there, what's the worst that will happen. Where I'm presently working, I can't wait to be posted out, I have seen ween in the hands of these woman called Director.
ReplyDeleteAI or witchcraft? Make I go ask...
ReplyDeleteI am the POSTER. There's no perks in been in the director's office. Majority of them are extremely stingy. And u won't have time for yourself. I won't love to be closing late hours and I have other legit side hustles
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
ReplyDeleteRemember, some are qualified but have no job, while others are unqualified but have a good job. Some are out there paying to get this same government job, yet nothing has come forth. But there you are with a government job, and reasonable hesitation for growth. I agree that the reputation of the would-be boss may not be kind, but there is something to learn, even within an uncomfortable environment.
From your narration, it shows you’re not afraid of the job nor the boss - you’re afraid of what it’ll cost you. But don’t let fear dress itself as logic. This isn’t just a posting - it’s a crucible that could refine or consume, depending on how you carry the fire. Anyhow you sit with it, remember growth rarely asks for your convenience; it demands your discomfort. You can’t build a palace and expect it to feel like a hut.
If you keep dodging weight, you’ll never develop muscle. Don’t fake a child to escape duty - that’s not strength, it’s sabotage. Don’t lie or hide behind any other excuse either; deception has a way of backfiring when truth knocks. Try having an honest conversation with HR, not through whining but by strategic reasoning. And if hierarchy rules, insist on fairness. But if destiny is knocking disguised as drudgery, answer it.
That 7pm close time might bring a breakthrough that your 3-day workweek never could. Either walk into that office with fire in your bones - or stay where you are and make peace with what you’ve chosen. You can't plant tomatoes and expect strawberries. I will suggest you embrace this storm and let it refine and reshape you. Yet, I understand that your peace of mind comes first, and that should be your priority.