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Please i need advice on this issue that has made me depressed for months...
I am a single mother of a 7yrs old child, my baby daddy left me when my boy was 3yrs that he is no longer interested in the relationship, my child stay with me but his daddy is the one paying all the bills...
So early last year I decided to give love a chance and met this single guy in the state I went to serve, I told him from the start that I have a child and he said no problem that he is fine with it.
During the middle of the year, he told me he want to marry me and I said hope you remember I have a child and I want my child to continue living with me once we marry because I want him to bond with his other siblings and he agree with me even told me he will start looking for nearby school to enrolled him.
So few weeks to the introduction he called me on phone that his people are ready to perform all the rites and I asked him have you informed your people that I have a child especially your mum and he said no and I told him to inform his people ooo before they will take any step and he said okay....
I noticed he stopped calling for some times and one fateful day he called me on phone that he don't want my son to live with us that Esan culture doesn't accept it, he even said the child will make me be communicating with my ex and I say okay what if I take up the responsibility of the child without the father he still insisted that what if something happened to the child I will still have to call his father that he doesn't want another man child under his roof....
My child needs motherly care, I can't drop him with my parents....I feel betrayed and the only thing in my mind is to placed a curse on him because he makes me loose other guys that was actually interested in getting married to me
I have heard a lot about Esan men..Just be glad that you didnt marry him...Go and do thanksgiving..he would have married you and made your life hell....Thrown out your child as well....
Please i need advice on this issue that has made me depressed for months...
I am a single mother of a 7yrs old child, my baby daddy left me when my boy was 3yrs that he is no longer interested in the relationship, my child stay with me but his daddy is the one paying all the bills...
So early last year I decided to give love a chance and met this single guy in the state I went to serve, I told him from the start that I have a child and he said no problem that he is fine with it.
During the middle of the year, he told me he want to marry me and I said hope you remember I have a child and I want my child to continue living with me once we marry because I want him to bond with his other siblings and he agree with me even told me he will start looking for nearby school to enrolled him.
So few weeks to the introduction he called me on phone that his people are ready to perform all the rites and I asked him have you informed your people that I have a child especially your mum and he said no and I told him to inform his people ooo before they will take any step and he said okay....
I noticed he stopped calling for some times and one fateful day he called me on phone that he don't want my son to live with us that Esan culture doesn't accept it, he even said the child will make me be communicating with my ex and I say okay what if I take up the responsibility of the child without the father he still insisted that what if something happened to the child I will still have to call his father that he doesn't want another man child under his roof....
My child needs motherly care, I can't drop him with my parents....I feel betrayed and the only thing in my mind is to placed a curse on him because he makes me loose other guys that was actually interested in getting married to me
I have heard a lot about Esan men..Just be glad that you didnt marry him...Go and do thanksgiving..he would have married you and made your life hell....Thrown out your child as well....
Listen up, any man that cannot make up his mind about decisions and has to listen to what people say is a red flag, do not marry him at all.
What is wrong with allowing another mans child in the house? this is why the Oyibo man is better, he will marry you and adopt your kids as his if you allow him.....A woman with three kids was thrown out by her man and was not able to find love.....Last year, she met someone who married her and accepted her three kids....She is presently in the diaspora with them, all enrolled in new schools and she also went back to school.
Nigerian men are very annoying with the way they have branded and labelled baby mamas...
Please dont stop telling anyone you meet how much you love your son, do not marry a man that will ask you to remove your child from his house when you both have an altercation....
Move on but don't give up on love.
ReplyDeletePlease, do not drop your child with your parents. He NEEDS to be with you. A man that loves you, loves ALL of you. Guyman knew from the onset what he was going to do the moment you told him about your son. A better man will come along.
ReplyDeleteGuess he finally told his family and this is their advice
ReplyDeleteRubbish
That is a huge lie, he doesn't want to marry you anymore.
ReplyDeleteLet him go, being single is not a disease. In all that you do, do not ever leave your son behind all in the name of marriage.
God has better plans for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Stella,you have said it all,dear poster,that man was not meant for you,don't worry someone better will come.
ReplyDeleteGod will bring you a man that will accept you and your son. Do not drop your son for him.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, God just saved you from the wickedness of that man.
ReplyDeleteBe happy that you escaped a very wicked man, He would have made your son's life a living hell, So take it easy ok. You will see a better man.
ReplyDeleteDon't bother cursing him..
ReplyDeleteGod will give you a better man..
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteAbeg he is not man enough! Forget his tribe and whatever....He is a liar! Which Esan culture says that? Instead of him to man up and say he no do again......Do you even need his parents to give consent to take the child of the woman he 'claims' to love....Look! Any man who doesn't love your child does not love you at all....So there is no room for compromise here....God saved you and God will give you your own man who will love you and your son.....
See when you meet a real man, he will feel slighted that you ask to get consent from his parents because he is man enough to make his own life decision and chart his life course...His parents will come to accept it.....Please date men not boys tied to the aprons of their parents....
All the best.....
Don't blame him we have seen bbymamas go knack their exes over and over again. Reason why Nigerian men aviod alot of them. Poster can you tell us your attitude that made a man walk out after having a child bond with you before you marry baby mamas plsssssssssssssssssss ask questions. I watched a video recently a baby mama advised his son never to marry a woman with a child that only weak men do, she said create a family as a man not join a family. This was coming from a white woman so stell not only Nigeria even some women here will not advise their male child to settle for bby mamas . All these cut and join stories eslf
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