Tuesday In House News

 Hailings.....

TUESDAY MEMO...

I salute everyone and wish you have a good day!
I am going live with an actress soon, so no time for long talk...The cookathon winners will be posted tomorrow...winners will get 10k each...

God bless your day and heal me from these covid like symptoms oooooh...LOL

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KNOW THIS

NO ONE sets out to marry without their parents’ consent. NO ONE.
Every son or daughter longs to walk into marriage with their family’s blessing.

But sometimes that consent never comes, not because the person is wrong, but because of selfish motives, tribal or denominational stereotypes, pride, or social status on the part of parents.
Too many people have settled for the wrong partner just to please their families.

Parental consent is good, yes, but let’s be honest, it’s NOT THE GLUE that holds a marriage together. Compatibility does. 

Many had full parental blessings and still ended up in pain, abuse, or divorce.
Some are struggling right now, wishing they had stood firm and married the person they were first led to.

So yes, consent is valuable, but it’s not a divine guarantee of success in marriage.
It is compatibility, obedience to God’s design, and the willingness to work through seasons together that keep a marriage healthy, wholesome, and full of joy.

Let’s stop making consent an idol because it is not what sustains a marriage....

To The Parents.....
It’s time we put aside our own self-interest and start considering the true welfare of our children.
It’s wrong to withhold consent for reasons that are purely self-serving:
- “They’re not from our village.”
- “They’re not our tribe.”
- “They don’t attend our church.”
- “They don’t have the right job, or a car, or come from a wealthy family.”
Yes, you can show them the implications, if that’s your fear. Then give them room to ponder on what you have said. Your role as a parent is to guide, not intimidate.

Don’t weaponize consent as a tool for control.
After all, the Bible says, “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing,”
not “He whose parents find a wife for him.”
No be so?
And then we say, “A child cannot see what an elder sees, even from the top of a tree.”
Yes, that proverb speaks of experience, but tell me, did you marry from that tribe and see something deeply harmful yourself? Or are you judging from one or two stories that you heard in passing?
Do you not know that there are people who married from their own village, gan gan, and cry themselves to sleep every night? The fact that you are a parent does not automatically make your words wise, not if you refuse to broaden your perspective.

That’s not wisdom. It’s control, disguised as care. It’s not love. It’s trying to live through your children’s choices.
And then we twist Scripture, using “Honor your father and mother” to keep the control going on reasons that don’t hold water. That’s not honor. That’s manipulation in church clothes. Because WITHHOLDING CONSENT ON THE ABOVE GROUNDS makes you a tyrant, not a father or mother.

The same control you exerted during their childhood, must it now stretch into choosing who they spend their life with? Why are you so concerned about what will work for you, and not what will work for them?
If you say it’s not so, please tell me: how will marrying into that tribe ruin their marriage?
How will not being from a wealthy family destroy their happiness? How does insisting on an outrageous marriage list and bride price that chase prospective spouses away help them? How, biko? How? These are repugnant to natural justice, equity, and good conscience.
And to those who gave consent, but your children are now sobbing behind closed doors,
struggling in painful marriages, what have you done to ease their pain? Shey, you agreed for them to enter?

We are in the twenty-first century. Let’s rise above limited thinking and choose wisdom over tradition.
 True love deserves support, NOT SABOTAGE!

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WEIRD FACTS

---octopus’s arms contain nerves that allow them to taste anything they touch

---When your eyes move, your eardrums move also
However, scientists discovered that the eardrums move about 10 milliseconds BEFORE the eyes do, and they’re not sure why

----“Proportional theory” suggests that time seems to speed up as we age because every year we live is a smaller percentage of the total amount of time we’ve been alive

----Walking is actually controlled falling

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BIRTHING A BABY IS BIG DEAL

If you, as a woman, make the decision to PUT YOUR LIFE ON THE LINE(because that is what it is) by getting pregnant for your husband, hear me clearly: That is the biggest thing you bring to the table. Period.

I don’t care how many women give birth daily. I do not care how ‘normal’ it seems. I hear people say, ‘Even mentally unstable women give birth too. What’s the big deal about childbirth?’

The big deal about childbirth is that it is literally a fight between life and death. It is a journey through hell and back. For some women, there is no return from that journey.

And just because it is common does not remove from the direness of the situation. Common does not mean casual. Common does not mean safe. Common does not mean easy.

Just because women have been doing it since forever does not make it any less terrifying. Just because our bodies are biologically equipped to nurture and birth a child does not make it any less risky.

Do you know how many women lose their lives from childbirth on a daily basis? I’ll tell you:

As of 2023, over 260,000 women ‘daid’ from childbirth-related causes. That’s about 712 women every single day. Every. Single. Day.
And do you know the country leading that number?
Our dear country, Nigeria.

A lot of these women pass on on the operating table. Some smiled at their babies once, just once, before closing their eyes forever. Some of them developed complications that took their lives hours after welcoming their bundle of joy.

Some women are SCARRED(not only scared) for life because of the trauma from childbirth. Some may never walk upright again because of epidural gone wrong. Some have CS scars that have chipped away at their self esteem, but they still keep their heads high because ‘My child is worth every scar’.

I even read the story of a woman whose limbs had to be amputated because of after-birth complications!

Do you know how many children are being raised by aunties, grandmothers, or foster mothers because their own mothers lost their lives while ‘giving’ them theirs?

And society still has the audacity to ask her what she brings to the table ‘APART FROM CHILDBIRTH’.

Excuse me?
The nerve!

And oh! Some of you even have the temerity to body-shame your wives whether subtly or openly for how their bodies are after childbirth.
Awon ‘she is now loose down there after “JUST” two kids’.

‘Her belly is covered in stretch marks that are just unsightly’.
‘Her belly is now wobbly and I don’t find her as attractive anymore’.
Only God will help me and punish you.
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