STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEPRESSED
I am so afraid of future and old age. I am now 50, no husband ,no child but very comfortable with good job.. No family. I mean no mother, no father, no brother, no sister, no cousin. . The person I lived with as a child adopted me and died and left me feigning for myself from 15. I am well learned. Trained myself in school.
But I am depressed
I have been trying to get a suitable man since but none came my way. Most of the guys came just to chop , promise marriage and leave me disappointed cause of my background. . I went through lots of heartbreak and tears. I tried adoption ,but wasted money.
I have given up on marriage. I am just looking for a grown up and responsible person to mentor so she can bury me when it's time. I have enough to give her including houses.
Marriage is even overrated these days. Just get a child by any means.
I regret not doing that in my fertile years.
my adopted mother was not married too. And died at 76. I single handedly took charge of the burial.
She was buried in her father's compound. The only two people remaining in that compound are old and are liabilities. They can't even fend for themselves .
They used her lifetime to drain me. . After she passed on, I am all alone. I was her only adopted child. We grew old together. I took care of her in her lifetime.
DEPRESSED
I am so afraid of future and old age. I am now 50, no husband ,no child but very comfortable with good job.. No family. I mean no mother, no father, no brother, no sister, no cousin. . The person I lived with as a child adopted me and died and left me feigning for myself from 15. I am well learned. Trained myself in school.
But I am depressed
I have been trying to get a suitable man since but none came my way. Most of the guys came just to chop , promise marriage and leave me disappointed cause of my background. . I went through lots of heartbreak and tears. I tried adoption ,but wasted money.
I have given up on marriage. I am just looking for a grown up and responsible person to mentor so she can bury me when it's time. I have enough to give her including houses.
Marriage is even overrated these days. Just get a child by any means.
I regret not doing that in my fertile years.
my adopted mother was not married too. And died at 76. I single handedly took charge of the burial.
She was buried in her father's compound. The only two people remaining in that compound are old and are liabilities. They can't even fend for themselves .
They used her lifetime to drain me. . After she passed on, I am all alone. I was her only adopted child. We grew old together. I took care of her in her lifetime.
You dropped half of this chronicle on another one, so removed that and use the other one you sent to form this chronicle for you....
I understand that you are depressed and its a pity but you can still live happily...Just adopt someone with kids and you can also adopt the kids as your grand kids....Do your homework very well and dont waste your time being depressed or living in regret.
If you sit there in regret who will inherit your properties? strangers that dont deserve it....... Adopt a family and will your wealth to them or give it to charity.
Please study the blog IDs and choose someone and we will go thru the process together until you find the right one...
I honestly wish you all the best.....
This is quite touching. May the Lord come for you through these times; I am very sure you will receive comfort and miracles. Nothing is impossible even at age 50.
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you poster. May God lead you to the right heir
ReplyDeleteMy mother's friend is without a husband, children and relatives. She said she took care of her nieces and nephews got them all jobs thinking they would be there for here later but when she lost her job they all ignored her. I told my mom we will all take care of her like an adopted sister for our mom and adopted aunt for us. She is a good person and alone.
ReplyDeleteSo Poster, if you have good friends. Treat them like family including their kids and you never can tell what may come out of it.
DeleteStella, with some of your blog viewers being "magicians", ready to do anything for awoof money,is it really fair to expose this already desperate poster to them? Just asking?
ReplyDeleteHonestly, the woman gave out too much information. If only she had said she is alone and looking for someone who will bury her when old without mentioning other things then it would have been safer for her.
DeletePoster when you meet someone. Don't act comfortable don't even let them suspect you are looking for someone to mentor or you are lonely without a husband or children. Don't act vulnerable. You can still get married. Be on the look out for a widower with kids. Go to churches and events and be discreet and pray. God will show up for you .
You mean you singlehandedly took charge of your late mom's burial at 15?
ReplyDeleteYou have gone through a lot . May God send you a good man and give you lovely children.
Sorry dnt feel desperate....... OK create your love and live the moment.......
ReplyDeleteAbeg you fit adopt grown up man with beard..... ???ah Muah is available ooooo
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DeleteMadam,don't pick anyone from.this blog o. They already know your situation, they will pretend for as long as they can to milk you and make you more miserable.
ReplyDeleteGet a surrogate and have babies, you'll see how your whole existence will change once you get a child. You have the means, explore na.
Just 50 and you are giving up? There are people who had babies in their 70s and lived a beautiful life.
Please, consider using a surrogate.
It's well with poster, sending ❤️ and 🫂
ReplyDeleteMay God come through for you.
ReplyDeleteDon’t expect a husband to cure ur loneliness; be active in church& programs… u can adopt a child if u can afford it…
ReplyDeleteIt well with you Poster, Stop being depressed and take charge of your life. I pray you meet good people.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to adopt anyone who has an idea of your life details or has read your story;just be realistic to yourself and understand that majority of humans especially from Nigeria our country would come closer to you simply because of the benefits they would be getting from you;and not because they truly care about you or can give their life for you if it comes to a test of loyalty..
ReplyDeleteHelp if you wish to help and because you love helping the less privileged;that’s what humanity is about;but don’t help if your expectation is that the person/people you are helping today would be there for you in old age as a form of reward or appreciation to you.
Lots of people are only loyal to their emotions,hence don’t understand what gratitude,loyalty or appreciation means towards a benefactor;for them it’s all about what they can get until they have no need for whatever you tend to offer them..
Help,but have no expectation to get same kindness from those you offered a huge generosity/kindness to.
You can adopt a child legally and train them;that’s great and would keep you fulfilled.
You can also find love;it’s never late but you need to put yourself out there for your partner to see you..
Attend events,conference,weddings and all..my friends mum remarried in her 50s;don’t wish to go into much details but they are really in love and enjoying their marriage.
Wish you all the best Ma’am;please use wisdom and beware of emotional and financial scammers at this sensitive stage of your life;don’t be desperate and just flow with life and Gods plan for you.
@MARTINS
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ReplyDeleteMa'am I don't know about Nigeria but I know the Catholic Church adopts people like you. Can you enquire from them? They will send you people to pray with you every month and visit you often. They will tend to you when you are sick and bury you when you leave.
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