Married to a serial cheater who is not repentant and gives you the option of leaving or staying?what would you do?what did you do?........A cheater that disrespects you but uses condom.....
''I am about going crazy, a marriage that is barely 2yrs is already frustrating. I got married to this man I thought was the love of my life. But now am looking for a way out. This man stays abroad while am here in Nigeria trying to complete my uni education.
We have a baby together but any time this man comes back to Nigeria I regret ever asking him to come. He smokes like there is no tommoro, drinks heavily, stays out late and d worst of all is that he is after everything on skirt. this man is short tempered and beats me at any slightest mistake.
I have been trying to endure but his unfaithfulness is killing me, I dont care if he does that abroad but the main thing is that even when he is with me here in Nigeria for just a short period of time, he stills cheats.
Today I will see condom in his pocket and tommorro he has taken it wiht him whenever he goes out every night. I have tried confronting him but he snobs me and said if I can't cope I should just go.
Am a very beautiful lady still in my 20s and I get advances from men, now hes gone back am thinking of giving love another chance by having extra marital affair.
I really need to be happy again, I want a man to cherish and love me. I have cried to God severally to change him, been to chapel and cried myself to sleep there to no avail. My life and marriage is miserable, he calls and text girls in my presence, but he fulfils his obligations as a man, I never lack anything from house to cars, clothing, going for shopping, holidays in fact he stocks his money in my account am like his bank, but when it comes to love he is the worst person on earth. Please I need your advice whether to leave or stay for the sake of my daughter''.
*this is what they call one chance!
you wanna cheat too? thats what they call from frying pan to faya!
didnt you know he was like this before you married him?if he isnt hiding it now,he must have been open with you before he put a ring on it.
You probably thought he would change after marrying you right?
you dont mind that he cheats abroad?
You know what to do.......you know,you just need someone to tell you.....
BOMBASS TEA!
did you jazz him to marry him and him eye don clear? all these things did you not see them before you married but you thought he will change? e jor start praying. you want to reward wickedness with wickedness. oya you want to bring more spirits into your marriage.
ReplyDeleteHe hits you too? Well you saw all this before getting maried to him init..i have nothing to say to you. Deal with your shit! Nobady got time fo ds.
DeleteMake sure you stay because u stated that what hurts u d most is that he cheats not that he bests you up! You are already a wasted person.
Deletemeanwhile this can be like the yobo's and the uche's. hehehe. money aint everything. e be like say karma don visit you.
ReplyDeleteSince u have monies always in ur acct,scheme and collect more money from him,prepare urself and then leave the marriage!hes never gonna change d fact he's violent and disrespectful abt it makes it totally unacceptable!...dats y pple should marry for d right reasons!God help us
DeleteShe said they didn't court so she never knew his character..This is a warning to ladies,how can you not date someone and study their attitude b4 sayin I do?Marriage is a lifetime institution and you should get to know your partner well to avoid stories like this.Smoker for that matter,ewwwwwwww!!
DeleteChai, no be small thing o! He even calls his girlfriends in your presence ? *faints* poster this man doesn't respect you as his wife. Meanwhile didn't you notice his drinking & smoking before marriage? Cos you can hardly change that now. Anyway continue to talk to God about it don't stop until GOD intervenes. It's well with you.
ReplyDeleteMy sister help me ask oooo....didn't you know he was like this before you used your clear eyes to marry him. Cos a serial cheat can never pretend. You were probably desperate to marry . Not my bia. You're in an unhappy marriage obviously. Some ppl will come here and start talking pray...take it to God. I'm sure even God showed you signs that he was not right for you but you ignored it and still went aheadto marry him.anyways.hhope you're working so you can leave him.
ReplyDeleteGreat advise stella. @ poster am sure u wud ve seen all what he is doing now when u guyz wr dating but am sure u over looked it bcos of d financial benefits u wr getting den n hoping he would change. We telling u to go ve a man won't solve it, just hope he changes or u ask for divorce.
ReplyDeleteHey Poster, I feel your pain and it aint easy being married to a serial cheat. But what happened to relocation and schooling there? Na so you like naija?
ReplyDeleteThere is this saying that all men cheats, whether we wanna accept it or not. But what's important is that it aint rubbed in your face, but in your case, the reverse is the case.
The ball is in your court, as the last advice I will give you is to dissolve your marriage, neither will I be churchy about this issue. Before marriage, you must have seen the hand writing on the wall like Stella said except that u choose to ignore it.
Anyways, buy a carton of condoms and stuff a few in his wallet. When he is going out as usual, offer him packs of condoms and never hesitate to advice him to play safe. With time, if he has a conscience, he will appreciate what he has, YOU. Whatever happens, DO NO CHEAT. Two wrongs can't make a right.
Cheers!
Gbam, Gbamer, Gbamest
DeleteAijay stupid comment as usual.... Y should she buy him condom? So some of u fools here know some men hide their true colours? A long distance relationship won't give u the chance to know his true nature...you have made the mistake correct it by getting a divorce. Fools here will be preaching don't cheat when they do worse, u cannot keep living like that without falling into the hands of the nearest guy to show u attention...... Leave him before u get HIV..... H are not gaining anything by staying
DeleteAijay, u've said it all.
DeleteChinyere whalai u b fool#Lol# which 1 b Gbamer n Gbamest again can't stop Lol.
DeleteHe has a wife abroad I guess, back to the matter, my hubby is a german,i live in lagos,we see like every three mnth,i ve never had extramarital affair,he wll ever come home and go clubbing,he sees pple doing that as kids, he has never he has never tasted another punani in naija apart frm mine,guys coming frm abroad always want to fire as many punani as possible so as to get their flight ticket worth of fun, they talk abt how many girls they were able to Do on each trip, buh mine is different cos I married a man,not a boy and my oga no get acct here too,am his bank... our house and cars r in my name...
DeleteD diff Btw u n d poster is dat urs is well hidden. So babes stop runnin ur mouth n tank God uve a man who respects u. Dat U haven't seen or heard doesn't mean it's not dere.
DeleteAnon 8:55 who asked u all these? N how will that help her?
DeleteNa real bombass tea on a bombastic level. I musto marry obodo oyibo husband be this naa. Nne na serious one chance you enter. Infact na u and conductor go even share that seat sef. Na "I gat the feelin husby you de see so". Deal with it or find ya square root mehn!
ReplyDeleteAbeg I tire for these stories, don't you people read similar stories on this blog? Why send in yours to get recycled advice?
ReplyDeleteStart saving since you mentioned that you are his bank, finish your programme ,m if he doesn't change you can either choose to live with the cheating and beating or Leave the Marriage.
Prayer is the key..... There is nothing Our God can't do. It might take time, but God must change him like Saul in the Bible.
ReplyDeleteRemember, your vows....... For better or for worse.... Good luck sis...
Which stupid vows? U can divorce on grounds of adultery so u better find your way out..... Cheating, beating, no love, no sex then what is still keeping u?
DeleteHahahaha prayer is the key KO, prayer is the roof ni sigh....Even God will tell her my daughter I showed u difrt signs but u b olojukokoro oya now face the ever after what have u.
DeleteWhaoooooo... dis one pass me o! Dont stop praying tho!
ReplyDeletePoster.....please kindly go and sip some of stella's bombass tea! make sure you take it hot, and while at it....dont forget to add more milk and sugar! no comments for u...mtchewww.
ReplyDeleteHmmm! U re jst feeling terrible today dt is y u are crying out. U probably married him cos'f his wealth. If u rly wnt to leave, take ur time n plan it well. Get enough for urself n build ur emotions up. Then take a walk. May God help u
ReplyDeletePoster.....please kindly go and sip some of stella's bombass tea! make sure you take it hot, and while at it....dont forget to add more milk and sugar! no comments for u...mtchewww.
ReplyDeletePoster,I would have advised you to endure but I hate when a man hit his woman...
ReplyDeleteIn marriage,I can tolerate anything so far the money is there but will never tolerate you using me as your punching bag.....
Poster,for your own happiness,get a divorce...you can't continue suffering like this biko,marriage is mearnt to be enjoyed not the other way round...
You obviously married him for the cars, money and holidays so enjoy your "prize".
ReplyDeleteHe must have been doing same while dating and you must have felt you won some award snatching him from all the others.
Apart from the goodies what else is there for you in that marriage?
You knew what you were getting into and entered, why this long lamentation now?
Till women learn to love and value themselves and understand that those things they cling to men to give them they can get on their own with work of their hands they will keep jonsing. A woman who loves herself values herself and earns her keep will NOT settle and stories that touch will be far from her. Carry your cross do what you want abeg. Is it strangers that will tell you what to do? Them dey beat you, humilate you cheat on you but dash you money and goodies wetin be our own?
NIGERIAN MEN TIRE ME..
ReplyDeleteHE DOING THAT SHIT COS UR NOT ABROAD WITH HIM.,THERE'S NO RESPECT FOR AFRICAN WOMEN AT ALL. OF COURSE HE FEELS HE'S DOING U A FAVOR BY MAKING U BEAR THE REVERED 'MRS' TITLE, THE HIGHEST TITLE A WOMAN IN NIGERIA CAN BEAR, LOL. MOVE WITH HIM TO ABROAD AND SEE HOW HE'LL CHANGE , COS HE'LL BE AFRAID OF DIVORCE PROCEEDINGS, SPOUSAL/CHILD SUPPORT ETC. CHEATING IS A NO-NO, AND FOR A SERIAL UNREPENTANT ONE, HE GOT NO RESPECT FOR U, U MIGHT AS WELL LEAVE BEFORE U GET THEM STDS. DON'T U HAVE A LIFE/CAREER/HOBBY OUTSIDE HIM, IS MARRIAGE THE END? NIGERIAN WOMEN TOO TIRE ME. OUR MEN ARE THIS WAY BCOS OF US.
I GOT NO ADVICE FOR U, THINK IT THRU AND DO WHAT THE HELL U WANNA DO!
Tell him there is Ebola,he shld come and try nonsense
DeleteMadam oyibo,he made his move that's why he didn't marry abroad,so God catch you for that side. STDs,did u not read the condoms part? Nigerian men tire you,pls get a white man...at least after two years he can divorce u so he can cheat.
Delete@Chikito so u wan tell us America men nor dey cheat? DV nor dey Oyibo land? Sometimes I wonder why we kp saying Nigeria men, dis tins re everywhere pls.
DeleteTessbaby, I don't like to cuss people out on blogs but what you have said there is really really really dumb, it's cretinous!. So because as you said oyinbo people do it, she cannot complain if her hubby does it to her?!. Maybe she wants more, she doesn't want to be beaten and cheated on even tho 'white men do it too!!' . Give her constructive ways to resolve her problem, instead of the usual Nigerian crap, it's so annoying, how can you be so ignorant!
DeleteIt's like u don't understand grammar, go back and read what she wrote. Ur comment should be directed @ chikito not tessybaby. Abi u no do GNS for school? Smh!!!
DeleteStart saving,cos you will need it later...Adaora
ReplyDeleteThis one is asking for advice can't you see the writings on the wall,wait how old are you? Well if you have the mind to cheat do your own back as long as you don't lack anything from him.
ReplyDeleteMr Lyca
Like stella said u know bt u obviously married him for his wealth
ReplyDeleteI never married him for his wealth cos it was a long distance relationship. I had wealthy men coming to me then but I chose him cos of d lov I had for him
DeleteTalk true, u chose him cos he stays abroad, its either u join him there cos he dares not treat u like trash or he loses everything or u divorce him period. Marriage isn't the end of the world.
DeleteHey yah anony poster.... U actually rushed the whole thing truth b told. But u knew he was smoking drinking and all that before u went ahead. If not that he beats u up, It would ve bn better to endure and b hopeful, he may change someday. But he hits u.. Mehnnn start getting lot of cash now and one day talk to ur feet, run for ur life..u need to stay alive to care for ur daughter... Wish u all da best
DeleteNa wah oo
ReplyDeletewas he like that before marriage or u didnt take time to study him or u guys dod long distance dating and courtship? if yes then u were so wrong bt if he wasnt like that earlier or never got the tendency of cheating during courtship, then something must have gone wrong.sit him down and ask hm to forgive u if u ever do anything wrong to him, or he shld tell u what u v done that warrant hs behaviour towards u.it might be that he has heard or seen something abt u that made him change
ReplyDeletedont he have close family that u know he respects? talk to that family member to plead nd ask on ur behalf if u v done wrong
it might be a spiritual attack (also if he s not like that b4 marriage).so keep praying for him.night prayers work wonders nd fast also.
if after everything he doesnt feel any rorse or try changing then my dear carry ur kaya (load) nd go back to ur parent house alive b4 they will come nd tk ur corpse (God forbid) frm d series of beating he is giving u.
U be asking stupid questions, didn't u read what she wrote? Ode
DeleteAnonymous July 30 @ 8:38am, how ironic! You query someone of asking stupid questions then go further to use an abusive word. Perhaps, if you took the time to "read what she wrote" vis-a-vis the comments of Forever Young, and take particular notice of the time the reply was made, you'll realise the folly in your hasty "attack". A lot of us commented on the facts as provided by the poster initially but in response to numerous comments, the poster thought it wise to furnish the readers with a "further and better" account of the facts. You can, if you care to, scroll down to where the poster revealed more. So please read comments with the clarity of mind and resist the compulsion to haul out insults which may backfire.
DeleteEnjoy his money. Broke ass men cheat too. Ask ard u go see say some womEn no deey see money even oga too. Nnem @ least his money shd cool u down lol. Iga awu ogbenye wuru amusu? Lmao or what do u want me to say? If u not happy, save enough quid establish and take a walk. Life is only once u deserve to be haPpy.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!!
DeleteI so hate cheaters
ReplyDeleteMy dear he h
as told you if you can't take the heat leave the kitchen
It means he is not ready to change SO
Hmm......so you have a husband that cheats, drinks and womanizes. So he couldn't pick one he just had to do all.
ReplyDeleteWell pls where are your family members? Your mom? He even beats you on top. Did you fall from tree?
To be able to get all the happiness you are looking for you need to divorce him, so you could be in healthy new relationships but if you feel you will lose too much by leaving ..... Hmmm. ..me I don't know. Try to be independent first of all.
The Lantern
My dear I hav family but am afraid of letting d cat out of d bag
DeleteWhich cat are you afraid of letting out? The cat already came out the moment he struck you! You dont follow domestic violence with silence, you face it head on by speaking out and backing it up with actions. All the best in whatever you decide to do but make sure your head is safe.
DeleteBabe, whatever happened d did is already done. Don't mind all these hypocrites saying u married him for money as if they wouldn't do it too. My advice for u is to remove ur mouth from whatever he does so d beating can stop, be a good wife to him whenever he's around, concentrate on ur child, so u can enjoy his money, save enough to start up a business then dump d idiot. Nigeria women are all hypocrites, all of them. In ur shoes they'll do worse, they'd have even started cheating without asking anyone for advice.
DeleteMy dear d important thing is to be happy, whatever makes u happy. This life is too short for one idiot to be beating u. So just be his mumu whenever he's around so u can save cos u can't stay in that kind of marriage forever!!!
hmmmmmmm, am pretty sure u know wot u've gat to do. Am In slightly in same situaton. But no cheating, beating involed.
ReplyDeletehmmmmmmm, am pretty sure u know wot u've gat to do. Am In slightly in same situaton. But no cheating, beating involed.
ReplyDeleteMy dear am a man but I can feel your pain's. Plz don't try having an affair outside your marriage am begging you. Instead you can ask for divorce and again do not think that God doesn't answer prayers. You are a good woman plz don't change one day he will realize you're
ReplyDeleteu definitely marry him bcos of money bcos u know before now dat is a cheater, why complaining now?
ReplyDeleteLol
ReplyDeleteI can bet my left yansh that you saw it coming...
Money is good for the body buh money is not everything
You knew you can't have it all b4 you married him and i'm sure he kws you kw (if there's anything like that)
Now take solace in the shopping, holidays and your baby.
Don't cheat o
U want to travel to obodo oyibo,not until u are infected with HIV,then u will know what to do,better run for your life biko
ReplyDeleteLater una go dey blame the men.This aunty go don get one person wen love am DIE, but oga Bring Bring dey provide so Love appear sharply.You cannot eat your cake and have it.Stella You talk this one wella
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you dont have to Cheat though.Prayer still changes things.Again you must not accept less simply because that is what obtains. Make him see how you are hurting,Yes he has a short temper, but there is a way about these things. Stop living short of what you deserve, love him more, it conquers all things.Dont forget, marriage is a covenant and its for better or worse. So since you are here, work it out with Love, something will eventually give. But I must say, its not a one day thing, be ready to have it both ways, be prepared to suffer pain and humiliation, but above all, love always prevails. Work it girl, Yes You can.
ReplyDeleteI just hope he is not the one who you gave your virginity to. Not all husbands deserve it. Secondly make sure you don't procreate with him any more. One is enough. Thirdly, I'm sure you are a beautiful young lady so please try and start looking for a better relationship. Lastly I wish you good luck in all this.
ReplyDeleteMy dear he was almost lik d one that brought me to d world of sex. Cos after my first experience I vowed to preserve myself till I met dis my hubby
DeleteOh Puliz @madam poster aka anon 6:41 just SHATTAP! Such a stupid comment. "U vowed to preserve urself" for inside freezer abi?!
Delete*offers anony 10:31 some koolaid* temperatures must be 4000°c where u are right now! Drink up hun, while u r @ it LET THE Poster EXPRESS HERSELF!
DeleteServes you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. No one eats their cake and have it back hun. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
Dear Mr C, please stay single and try to work on your resentment from your past before you wreck your future. Clearly you are hurting because you have been used and abused by women but having that mindset before you even get married is like drinking poison with the hope of affecting someone else. Sweetie my words may not hit the target now but trust me, it will hit it later. I only pray it hits early enough. Don't close your heart to love because if you do, the girls who hurt you will still have the upper hand. Why allow some ignorant girls mess you up for life? They may repent and end up will wonderful husbands while you wallow in so much resentment and end your marriage before it starts? Honey my prayer for you is that you find a proverbs 31 lady who will wrap you with her loving warm embrace and fix your broken spirit. A woman who will make you realise you dodged major bullets when those ladies walked away. A lady who will be so loyal to you that you can't help but love her in return. A lady who will draw you closer to God because only God's love can make a wounded soul whole again. #e-bearhugs.
DeleteNna u are cheating yourself.n hurting yourself by sayin u wont b faithful in marriage cos women dealt wit u.
DeleteMy man thank you for this comment. They will never even believe there is something called love without money.
DeleteSweetheart Ronalda (if you're a guy sorry oo no homo intended), cheating on my gf or future wifey doesn't make me bad or what have you. I don't enjoy cheating per say but can't do without it. Yea one woman can't satisfy me I am sorry. And as for when I get married my wife may not have reason to complain like this poster, she would have everything she could ever imagine (sorry not like bragging) my time and attention will be hers and I would not rub my promiscious lifestyle on her face, neither would I ever think of laying my arms on a woman #Godforbids but if she can't condole cheating then she can take a walk. Fact is, even if I didn't had terrible experience from women when the road was narrow I will still be cheating today just as most guys does. This is a natural thing for us. And that a guy cheats doesn't mean they don't love their woman/wifey. Telling a guy to stick to one woman is like telling a girl not to apply mary kay. Its impossicant. Research has it that men who cheats are a better and caring hubby to their wife's. Study shows that men who doesn't flirts are more likely to suffer depression than those who do. Please not all men cheats but at least 90% do. Sad reality hun.
DeletePS: No disrespect to the womanhood here. Just my kinda person!
That's ur business Mr C. By God's grace u'll meet a woman who's ur match and u'll regret ur decision. Abeg which woman did u men didn't deal with? As u go into marriage with thus thots and decision may u also never meet a woman that'll give u peace, as u cheat on her so may she cheat on u then both of u'll take from there. May u never marry a good girl that I'll destroy her life. Ewu gambia, anupama!!!
DeleteNa one chance true, true you don enter. That I can advise you, I can't. Lemme think. I beg cheat on him. You got money in ur account look forr your mate and nack yourself.
ReplyDeleteMsewwwww. Yeye
ReplyDeleteGetting love advances from other men doesn't mean that you are the Ish. Your husband gives you money, takes care of he's responsibilities still you are crying wolf. Let him catch you cheating then you will knoe what's up after a child.
ReplyDeleteHow smart of you! So cos he gives her money and all sorts makes it right for him to cheat without respect and equally beat her? Really?
DeleteSpot on. Most girls erroneously regards numerous advances from men as being that they are beautiful or say the ish like you said. Them guys just wanna get under any skirt and nothing serious. Even ugly mgbeke in the village gets admirers. And let her try cheat nobody dey beg am. If he finds out be ready to go solo and out of his life. Ask around in Davido's voice let the single mom's tell you how far. Its a man's world when there's cash. We can cheat and do loads of things and go away with it unlike women. My only grouse with her hubby is rubbing his cheating lifestyle on the wife's face and laying his hands on you. That to me is not acceptable!
DeleteLike seriously Mr C, u're speaking like u're God's gift to women. Anyway na women self dey mumu themselves for men. What are u guts good for? Just sex and to have kids. Who said a woman cannot have as much money as men? Do u know how many women cater for their family while d man earns little or nothing. So I'll be washing ur cloths, cooking ur meals, taking care of ur children, satisfying u in bed and u'll still go out and cheat on me? I laugh u, just know that ur death us drawing near cos u'll never leave to brag about it with ur friends. Stupid Mr C, ugly mofo with inferiority complex!!!
Deletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
Lmaoooo.... Yu gat what yu deserve girlie, i can swear with my life yu knw he is like this but yu choose to fall for him bcos he stays in abroad and he gat the dough and yu think thats love.... I no fit tell yu sorry make i tell yu my church mind but all i gat for yu is NTOOOO, lmaoooo.......
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Pls to what extent did you go b4 u land this "big but rotten fish?" That's what came to my mind immediately I read your story poster. I don't know you but with what ladies do nowadays just to be called Mrs somebody, they shouldn't expect anything except misery in such marriages. Check your foundation, what went wrong? How many home have you destroyed? How many woman have you made unhappy (if). Dear bv's let's watch what we do, Karma is real. Bv I hope/pray God have mercy on you. CHECK YOUR FOUNDATION.
ReplyDeleteIts sad.but who said u can't have the best of both world?.find a man who will love & adore you.life's too short 4 bullshit!!
ReplyDeleteAre you a learner? Is you self confidence so low that you are condoning all his excesses and disrespect? Better get out of that sham cuz that is no marriage.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Lady, do not delude yourself that if u cheat u will feel better, no u wont..U will feel used and unappreciated by the other men you may cheat with, get a divorce if u still feel your man cannot change, then u can look out for love,not whilst u are still in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteAbroad husband, the man will say he married a girl from home because girls at home are submissive. Dear BV I am so sorry you have to go through this and I will not ask why you didn't study him a little. He definitely showed himself before, was it the money that blinded you. Awon Naija girls will say he shows me "love and care" because he gives you material things. Like Stella said, you know what to do ...you don't need us to tell you.
ReplyDeleteThe rest of you wey dey form girls in Naija are more submissive, let thunder fire you. You want a woman that will shut up and be chopping money and chopping beating and cheating too. My dear sisters, when they come for you like that and they use the excuse of back home girls are more submissive...PICK RACE. He knows you can't sue him for half, you can't run because of judgment at home.
Its not about nigerian girls being submissive. Its first and foremost that nigerian guys prefer marrying home these days and leave their wife's back home. If she comes abroad she start being fed with women rights and divorce compensation which bloats their ego and start challenging the men. So best thing is let her have the cars, the money, shopping spree or even visits you but never apply for a residents permit for her, she can come with visas and go back. That's okay but the day she cheats and by which time she's a mom kick her ass out of your life. If you want a rich dude one consequence one must be ready to face and condole is cheating. Money is meant to be spent and there's little or no way a guy can spend his money without having lots of beautiful ladies around. That's the reality of life. Guys are polygamous in nature.
Delete@mr c u seem to have forgotten dat all fingers are not equal, same applies to both male and female....u need to chanel all ur resentment to happiness. Forgive dos gals dat for hurt and betrayed you in d past.kip an open mind.., and let love flow...all I can sense frm ur notes is someone who is in pain.,, and hates women.which is not nice...
DeleteMr C sugar...you are a serious damaged goods! Those women in your past must have hurt u real bad. Jesus take the wheel You are some serious emotional "baggage"
DeleteMr C it is obvious you are very young. Please with all respect, keep quiet. No not all men cheat, some of us get discipline and self control. You be dog? I married my wife and brought her abroad. I am not so insecured that I will leave my wife in Naija because she will come here and flaunt freedom in my face. See what Anon 5:35 said is true, some naija men marry women at home ad treat them like trash because you don't know your rights. Mr C nna grow up.
Deletei dont even know what to say ....most tyms if u had long distance relationship bfr getting married....it will b hard to know who u r dealing with ... just pray hard but if u feel u lack that love...pls leave dt marriage nd move on instead of cheating! @xclusiv
ReplyDeletei dont even know what to say ....most tyms if u had long distance relationship bfr getting married....it will b hard to know who u r dealing with ... just pray hard but if u feel u lack that love...pls leave dt marriage nd move on instead of cheating! @xclusiv
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, poster you know what to do,if u still wanna be with him and cheat dts ur choice bt think abt ur daughter
ReplyDeletePoster. You married for money. Person dey beat u and inside it, you remember to say you lack nothing from money to holiday trips to shopping. You're a penkelemess. What ever that is. I'm gonna say this the umpteenth time here. If a man beats you, you need to GO or you will end up dead one day. This is not even about cheating. He is even telling you if you can't cope you should dust your ass and hit the freeway. Nne, nigga done did you a favour. It's time to wash your eyes with your early morning urine and be smart. You truly know what to do because you know what you want. Cheers mate.
ReplyDeleteLMAO @ penkelemess. U no well at all
DeleteThanks for the advise. I have been begging my wife to go and she has refused. I married a banker 4 years ago. We had one child and since then she is too tired or too busy for sex.
Delete18 months now and no sex. Sometimes she comes home smelling of sex. Gossips say she is doing her ED and some customers. I begged her for divorce and she refused. She will cry and say she will change but whosai. I have been wanking for 18 months. I am beginning to hate myself. I need to live again.
I will beat her this night for the first time and I really hope she will go afterwards because I dont know how else to get my life back.
Thanks julit. I have never hit a woman but if it will deliver me from this adulterous wife, I will do it.
Ha! Abeg no beat ya woman o. Ogima! Pls do not beat your wife. Just enjoy your life. Enjoy it. Stop wanking. God bless u
DeleteJulit never advised you to hit your wife I wonder why you are saying thanks to her.
DeleteLmao @Julit...penkelemess lol...really??? I remember a secondary school mate we called penkelemess...haha.
Delete@Emma don't hit your wife biko.pack and leave instead.or you call her family naa
Is dis d same emma i knw, lol, take consolation in d 2boys u hv, shebi na u wan marry her wen u had a btr choice,ntoiiiii, u sef easy wit her 2kids in 2yrs, na only u waka come
DeleteK u have 1kid, not same emma, sori
DeletePlease don't compound the issue my laying a finger on your wife
DeleteDon't allow anybody make you commit murder
Btw, if you beat her that is what she will use against you (trust me, I kw)
Just make sure you catch her red-handed, then you will have ur divorce
You need evidence....
God help you
Emma, am so glad a man has come out to say his own version because women are fond of always playing the victim.
DeletePlease don't hit her.18months of no sex? She is definitely getting it from somewhere!
Pack your bags and leave the house for her! Take your child to your parents or her parents. Get a lawyer to file for divorce.
I REPEAT,DO NOT HIT HER BECAUSE SHE WOULD START TO SAY DV AND WE WOULD SYMPATHIZE WITH HER.
Please ogima how does sex smell. Does sex has an odour or fragrance
DeleteNne sorry for your predicament, i must tell you 70% of the so called husbands staying abroad without their wives CHEAT, just have it at the back of your mind, you don marry be that, kneel and keep praying God will change him one day but it will take time. I have a friend that has the same problem, but her own is that the husband is married to a white lady who gave him a daughter , yet he came down to Nigeria and married another person without letting the girl know, it was through his best friend that the lady got to know, so I will advice stay and do not cheat Biko. EBOLA is REAL
ReplyDeleteIm sure u wanted to trap him wt a child.that shit doesnt work anymore.my dear u are nt married o u are single.there is nothing u can do abt his behaviour, save ur prayers for yourself nd ur daughter...if you are catholic go for annulment.if u are not dissolve that relationship u call marriage,safeguard ur future now bcos of ur baby and leave the beast the hell alone
ReplyDeleteNever trapped him wit a child cos my daura is just 4months old nw
DeleteOsasere stupid comment from u a usual.... How do u conclude from the story she used pregnancy to trap him? U are just an idiot whose brain is just for decoration..... Idiot always forming oversabi.... Stupid Loudmouthed bitch
DeleteNne ee u know all this yet you accepted the marriage because of money.women and greed have u seen it.now listen,dnt ever cheat cus that will be ur worst nightmare.open a new account,divert some of the money into it and leave that marriage. Go for a divorce and free urself,cus your daughter will grow up and still come for you cus men no de go omugwo.Thank your God that you dnt have a male child.pls dnt incure d wrath of God by cheating,just do as I say.when u are done with divorce ,biko package urself well,life no de two oo
ReplyDeleteShut up so men who cheat don't incur the wraught of God abi....
DeleteStella aswear she knows what to do, she just wants someone to tell her. Poster, I beg u no cheat, continue to endure, but if u can't endure anymore, take a long walk n never come back to d marriage. My sincere opinion.
ReplyDeletePoster, something has to give if u want to remain in that kind of relationship. If u are not complaining about the money he spends on u, the holiday trips and all that makes u happy, I don't think u should complain about his prostituting ways! If u are tired carry ya bag n waka comot!
ReplyDeleteWell u can't eat ur cake and have it, u either enjoy his cash and holiday and keep shut or walk away without all the good life u enjoy. If u fuck outside he will fling ur things away so manage am u hear?
ReplyDeleteNa wah!!! Mehn use his moni and groove ur life!
ReplyDeleteNa wah!!! Mehn use his moni and groove ur life!
ReplyDeleteThis is Hiv/Aids raised to power Ebola..!
ReplyDeleteWhatever you decide, i wish you happiness.
Marriage mata dikwa risky.
Do you have your own money madam?
ReplyDeleteHope you are saving money apart from the trips here and there??
If it was just the cheating and other issues,i would have said stay and work on the marriage...they always say the first 5yrs abi na 2yrs of a marriage is usually somehow...Mana the beatings???? No No
I know cheating on him is not the answer...it won't even give you peace,especially if you still love this guy!
I want Ezenwayi's input on this cos I think she has seen it all and has experience!
Dear poster, so sry. Please you dont have to be like him and cheat. Stay put and keep yourself busy. Your husband thinks money solves everything.
ReplyDeleteYou are married to a man who stays abroad while you stay in another country ----Error #1
ReplyDeleteHe is a womanizer ----Error #2
He is a woman-Beater ----Error #3
His unfaithfulness is killing you ----Error #4
He cheats on you and YOU KNOW IT ----Error #5
You are a young lady in a marriage of less than 2 years with all this drama ----Error #6
You are thinking of being an adulteress ----Error #7
He sleeps outside and sleeps with you and to you, he is 'fulfilling his obligations as a man' ----Error #8
Do I need to go on???..........You don't need any advice...you need a bitch-slap!
I could kiss you for this!!!
Delete@Erniesha Tibs, you are the best. ekiss for this ur advise. You are a BlackBerry for me. (Beauty and Brain)
DeleteIf I may add are you married? Because I am searching oh.
Only fools will call erniesha beauty n brains.... Stupid bitch who doesn't process her thoughts .. U think all women r touts like u? Nothin wrong in trying to seek solutions before ending a relationship and in your juvenile mind u think 2 years is too long? I don't blame u, u are not married and from the comments u always spew out here no man in his right mind will marry u.....anyway keep soliciting for men on this blog n u might be lucky.....silly juvenile bitch
DeleteDidn't u see all these b4 u guys got married? I guess u did but allowed money to becloud u. So deal wit it or get out. U, goin to cheat too wuld only make matters worse for u.
ReplyDeleteI want to believe that he wasn't a pretender while dating you. And I guess you were carried away by the flamboyance of everything that's why you married him.
ReplyDeleteAll these uni gals that want to show off with 'abroad' husbands, okwa anya n'efo gi kita?
You'd better put on a charming smile for the public and bear his cheating ways in private while making yourself happy with his money.
And mind you, cheating is out of the question. If he gets wind of it, I piry you.
Stories that touch the heart *yimu*
Ha! Stella, my sentiments exactly! Was he like this while you were dating him or did he turn into this "stranger" after you got married? Extra-marital affairs is not the solution to an unhappy home. I wonder why we, women, are so gullible. Often we mistake sex for love. I'm not for extra-marital affairs at all but I'll rather a lady strays because she has an unquenchable fire in her belly or she just wants "fun" but what I find really sad is when ladies cheat on their hubbies out of spite or loneliness. Don't allow a man make you compromise your values please! Unless you had none to start with. What makes you think the men you'll sleep with will love you? Most men are ever ready for sex without commitments. A man can have mind blowing sex without emotions, it's like sports for them so please bear that in mind if you must begin a quest for love.
ReplyDeleteMy dear cheat and enjoy life jare nonsense. The next guy you meet would do the same thing.
ReplyDeleteMen are all useless. One day his body would calm down. The good thing is you know he is using condom.
If you cant take it any more abeg waka. After all na only you waka come..lol
"Cheat and enjoy life"? Seriously? That's your idea of enjoyment? If all men are the same(according to you) why leave one useless man for another? How logical is that? Dear poster if you claim to love him the way you do and you cheat on him, the emptiness you'll feel will overwhelm you! You will feel so worthless and may never be able to forgive yourself.
DeleteHope u know ur dat isn't excluded from all men?
DeletePlease don't cheat on him, if you're unhappy then leave him.
ReplyDeleteYou know what to do but you like the life of comfort he provides.
All these "super story" BV's no go let person drink water put cup down sef, asking stupid questions...
Ha! Stella, my sentiments exactly! Was he like this while you were dating him or did he turn into this "stranger" after you got married? Extra-marital affairs is not the solution to an unhappy home. I wonder why we, women, are so gullible. Often we mistake sex for love. I'm not for extra-marital affairs at all but I'll rather a lady strays because she has an unquenchable fire in her belly or she just wants "fun" but what I find really sad is when ladies cheat on their hubbies out of spite or loneliness. Don't allow a man make you compromise your values please! Unless you had none to start with. What makes you think the men you'll sleep with will love you? Most men are ever ready for sex without commitments. A man can have mind blowing sex without emotions, it's like sports for them so please bear that in mind if you must begin a quest for love.
ReplyDeletebabez, don't leave him. get something that occupies you. channel your love to ur girl. all these men ain't worth the trouble mbok. even when he returns, act like you are not bothered. don't ask him any questions about his movement. look your best, not for him, but for yourself. since you have the money I'm sure that won't be a big deal. train yourself, stop snooping so you can be at rest and alive for your baby girl. with time, he'll adjust himself.... who knows, he might have married someone else there and is looking for a way to frustrate you to leave. place be calm, time would tell
ReplyDeleteI never really dated this man we met in 2009 but I never agreed to dating him then. So in 2011 he called me on phone frm abroad telling me that even if I refused him back then that he still wants to marry me, I told him we can just b close friends and after 6months he proposed on phone , we planned d traditional wedding and all he does was to send money from there y I did d preparation. He came back december 2012 and we got married both wit the court wedding and white wedding. I never knew he smokes cos all d while am wit him he never light a cigarette in my presence, he promised me his faithfulness and loyalty. He was such a caring guy without me knowing that he was just marrying to bear children
ReplyDeleteMadam you have entered one chance!!!
Delete1st and major mistake. You didn't spend a week straight with him. I mean waking up to him beside you everyday for at least a week. I said at least meaning you shoulda spent more than that before accepting his proposal. There is no way you won't have noticed any of these aforementioned bad characters.I mean in this modern age???? People still date and propose over the phone?girl you've got to be kidding me. You made a whole lotta mistakes on this and seemed desperate to marry and listing them would just make me take unnecessary space. So the first major mistake you made was to not have studied him well before marrying him.
DeleteSo in essence you married a stranger who only spoke on phone and sent in money and somehow it suprises you that all he wanted was kids and a silly naive home girl? You are your parents deserve flogging, is that how they marry in your village? When you were collecting western union and marrying a man you didnt even know did you call us for advice? Now you are living with the consequences and it has become our business.
DeleteSisterly, were you desperate?
DeleteI don't like the idea of one guy coming from nowhere to marry me
Some people even do replacements (especially igbos)
They will make the groom's brother replace him during wedding
Even guys you court for years turns out to be something else after marriage
Just get enough money from him and start yourself up for nw
You can dump his ass as soon as ur feet is grounded
You accepted him because he was abroad you didn't even pray to God. Sorry ma.
Delete*chokes on ur foolishness * my friend get out of here! Dull ram! Oya. Cheat now! Coz. Cheating will solve ur problem! Msheeew
DeleteMy dear...most of d readers tongue-lashing u r most likely in worse situations dan u r,dey r just here acting all ITK(i too know)...so asking for advice here isn't a good idea. I don't av any solution for u either. We r humans,we r all prone to making mistakes, u already did n so d best thing u cn do for urself is Sit n analyse d situation, u will definitely no d rite decision to make. Ure d one in d midst of all dis n u no where it pinch u d most. Stay strong...
Delete10:40pm in all your wisdom a kind word escaped you? sad
DeleteAnd I bet you gave a testimony when you married. I recently read a testimony on this Facebook group that is almost exactly like your story. She fasted and prayed then suddenly she got a call from abroad and it was an old friend promising marriage and she accepted. Halleluyah! Na so.
DeleteYou were prolly attracted to his riches than you forget his uncountless flaws...
ReplyDeleteYou chose wealth over his flaws,so enjoy the money,make youself happy,throw a party or sometin and be merry..
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He's prolly with any woman enjoyin,while you roast away here in 9ja..
Like stella rightly said "you know what to do"
Bombass Tea!!!!
Serves you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
This Mr C. What's your own sef. Your girl dumped you obviously cos you didn't have money and went for a richer dude. Get over it duuuh!!!... you're busy sounding like one immature animal brooding over silly shit. Instead of you to plan how you will get richer and better than the dude she left you for so that when she sees you she'll regret over and over why she left you....you're on SDK blog talking trash about how you will never be faithful and bla bla bla...
DeleteMtschewwwww.....
Mr C is in need of psychiatric help ..he has deep seated pain within this post just UNLEASHED THE DRAGON
DeleteSylvia dike u obviously a slut...preferably prostitute suits you. He shud stop brooding like a child,u hurt a man u expect him not to grief,major reason I hate women,but of he dumped u for a Curter chic,ur friends and consuls wud insult and curse him,and pet u. #oponu..
DeleteMadam Stella pls post dis comment,am tired of having my posts not shown.
You were prolly attracted to his riches than you forget his uncountless flaws...
ReplyDeleteYou chose wealth over his flaws,so enjoy the money,make youself happy,throw a party or sometin and be merry..
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He's prolly with any woman enjoyin,while you roast away here in 9ja..
Like stella rightly said "you know what to do"
Bombass Tea!!!!
Serves you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
Serves you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
Dear corrective fluid cheater is a word.
DeleteServes you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
Serves you right. I am sure what attracted you to him is his wealth. If he had no money you wouldn't have looked his way. Stella is right, you knew he's promiscious but thought he would change after marriage. You're in a deep shit mehn. I am not yet married but I would never be faithful to anyone I get married to. Reason being that I was dealth with by women when things were rough for me. Now everyone claims to love me coz of what they stand to gain but I am not falling for it. Oh you want to cheat as well? That's fine but be ready to get your ass kicked out from his life whenever he finds out. I have read responses from most of nigerian ladies that they prefer a rich and cheating man than broke guy who's faithful so why complaining. You can't have it both ways sweetheart. Show me a rich guy and I show you a womanizer, ever heard that quote before? My advice for you is to stick with him and enjoy the good life you yearned for or cheat and get out. Period.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella there's no term as cheater, it's cheat dearie. Please post my comment oo
Madam, we don hear ooooo... abeg remain space for otheres. lmao
DeleteWe have heard o! And Stella has posted all your comments.
DeleteAnd your pain still shows Mr.C speak to someone fast
DeleteNotice how poster kept hammering on her husbands wealth. That is why she married him, abeg let her suck it up. Someone doesn't suddenly start acting up like that. The signs, madam, they were there. You, madam, decided to ignore.
ReplyDeleteShut up how does telling u the whole situation mean hermmering on his wealth? She told u about other things so u fools just decide she married for money? So a guy who has money cannot meet a nice girl to marry for who he is? So u fools saying all men who have money have married gold diggers? Don't get how u lot reason.... Some men don't even spend so much on u till they married. He might just have mAarried her just to have children which some men do... They just give u money to keep urself and kids then carry on like they are single with no respect for the marriage..... Stop judging and concluding about what u don't know...... Anyway I blame ple for coming to blogs to find answers, it's the most stupid and unserious place to do that with every arsehole having an opinion...
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ReplyDeleteCome, O girl! Don't annoy me o! Didn't you notice his wandering eyes and philandering ways before you married him? I'm so sure you did. But in our usual wishful thinking as women, you prayed,"by God's grace when we marry he'll change". Well tough luck! He hasn't changed and will never change except he makes that decision himself/sees the need to. Dr. Phil says "you teach others how to treat you" YOU taught him that it was okay to cheat on you. YOU taught him that his philandering ways were acceptable by you. No one else did it, you did. So accept the decision you have made. You probably were to carries away by the shopping sprees and travelling, you forgot to cross check your list before saying "I do". So now the shit has hit the fan whatchu gonna do?
ReplyDeleteMy two kobo on this,
1) file for a divorce citing irreconcilable differences and join the singletons in search of Mr. Right. This time with your eyes wide open
2) Talk to the son-of-a-dog. Sit his sorry ass down and give him an ultimatum. Draw a list of what he stands to loose if u walk away-a list if gains and losses. (make sure the losses out-weigh the gains, go legal if you have to)
3) Join cheaters club and earn yourself a bad name and make your child the butt of everyone's jokes in the future. If u must seek a new relationship, end the present one.
4) stay and lay in the bed you made for yourself let him mama-pound you! Endure!
That's Pam's Submission
Stella's blog...
ReplyDelete*Where married women come to affirm their bad behaviours, decision to become bad, by giving one sided narrative
*Where men are demonised YET the ladies are fixated on the men folk
It keeps getting interesting as them go dey shoot themselves for foot
Haahaahaha
DeleteDear ones am sorry to deviate. My six years relationship is on the verge of collapsing. I gave my bf ultimatum to make a decision abt us...dunno if it is a right decision. whenever I bring up the issue of marriage, he starts going defensive about not having money. He have a small biz, do contracts which he gets in each nothing less than 5million.... I am confuse over his delay tactics and the most painful thing is I have no man seeking my hand in marriage, am over thirty years old. I have been praying and still prays and trust God, but I am depressed right now. What do I do with this rshp that is not yielding any fruit? Am a good and beautiful girl from a good family background, educated and working too... I need advice incase there is a way am not doing good. Aunty Stella pls post this...I no fit shout!
ReplyDelete6 years relationship
DeleteOver 30 years old
5mill contracts
Your boyfriend is wicked or he is scared of marriage or he has another younger girl he wants to marry in mind.
Why not get pregnant for him?That's the only way to get such men. Please wake up, especially at 30 something.
DeletePray harder....
DeleteThat guy doesn't have your interest at heart
6years and you are over 30?
Don't think that is your husband o
Just broke up with my bf of the same age, I love him so much
I looked at my life, my age and my plans, asked him when he think he will be ready..
His answer was not satisfactory, I spoke to my legs...
I can't keep waiting for a guy till I am 30 without any hope of him marrying me o
Sisterly, I bind every time waster biko
Mtchw, bobo wey na me dey spend my small change ontop
Make e go make fresh air blow me..
Anon 6:50. I have a name for you baby. DESPERADO. Am sure you know what that means huh?. Be carefuluuuuu.
Delete6 years kwa.... oh!. 3years is even too much for me. He doesn't want to marry you I'm sure. He gets 5m or more per contract and you two have been dating for 6years... yet no proposal. OK. Contunue. Na only you go waka come SDK blog again
DeleteIf you will listen I will say this once : I. Have been where u. Are presently so I am in the best position to answer you. 1. He will NOT marry you. (don't ask me y, ask d devil) 2. He. Will lie to you about reasons he is yet to marry you 3. Even if you do break up he will come back to beg and give excuses and dead promises /lies (if you take him back. I am sorry but u re a FOOL) 4. BREAK UP THIS CHARADE YOU CALL A RELATIONSHIP NOW! (I don't care if you're 60! If you don't break up u will never get anoda. Better relationship). I pray you listen to me, coz if I had dis advice -and took it- 2 years ago I would have been better off. Please walk away from the sorrow, frustration, depression, madness and drama. You have no other man now, yes! But walk away!!!! I promise you 6mnths u will have someone better. Remember, I'm telling u this from my own personal experience. I beg you
DeleteNa only you waka go there na only u go waka comot. U dey hear me so. U wan answer my hubby lives abroad lmao, Nne u are on a long thing o, no help for u here. Men are making advances at u lmao lekwanu uche o, go do na make e be one one. As u no see niccas for Nija here PLEASE ENJOY UR TEA.
ReplyDeleteBlog visitors here amaze me with the way they comment stupidly... Y do u all jump to conclusions that she married him for money? Is it every one who lives abroad that has plenty money? Anyway I blame people who being their problems here for idiots to give advice.... I married my hubby who lives abroad not cos of money but cos I had know him way back.... Long distance doesn't give u the chance to know much about someone n some men pretend.... They don't want to marry white women do they come to have a relationship with someone at home.... But some hide their true nature just to marry first n start having kids then when they feel u don't have anywhere to run too they start misbehaving..... Poster just leave him and move on with your life, u deserve better than what u are getting......
ReplyDeleteEmma darling, you don't need to beat her.Just get your lawyer and do all the divorce proceedings and hand her the papers and tell her it's over! Simple and short.Take her by surprise,the life you just explained is not life Biko.Leave her and rid yourself of misery.Good guys always end up with horrible women and good women with horrible men! It's so sad.
ReplyDeletePoster silent treatment is the best! Occupy your mind with the things of Christ.the problem with us human beings is that we always want our happiness to depend on others and such kind is fleeting and transient, only Jesus gives true and genuine happiness.thank God your baby is 4mths,please face her and ignore him,he will get tired get a job if you don't have and try to build your life like it's just you and your daughter,your hubby would reset.
poster that the bf has been stalling for marriage,please let him go and free yourself.A man doesn't need anybody to tell him he is ready for marriage,when he's ready he knows,don't be surprised be will make more money and in front of your eyes he will marry somebody else.please leave him!
Buchi you are an idiot.... If if was the man cheating u will tell the woman to keep praying and don't divorce till The Lord changes him..... Has he told us the truth about what he did to her? Do we know if he is the one who started the whole wahala? Bloody hypocrite, you are telling the poster whose husband is a dog and even beats her to hold on cos he will reset but the guy whose wife is supposedly cheating should divorce her cos she is a bad wife...... Stupid mentality u Africans have...... Done men are bloody jealous and just suspect their wives every move, more so he has made himself sound like a saint yet he should divorce her..... Shut up big time abeg
DeletePlease don't judge her, you are not in her shoes so u need not judge her. Some men are very evil and pretentious, they will hide their bad behaviours from you until your married to them. Am a living witness to this, and I didn't marry for money because am from a well to do family. So give her the advice she needs or keep your harsh comments to yourselves.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o madamu, this your issue no be here oooo. U can redeem yourself sha by doing these:
ReplyDelete1- ask for money for a huge project since he is money miss road then invest it wisely.
2- report the matter to your family and his family.
3- if he doesn't change divorce his ass.
4- whatever you do, DO NOT CHEAT!
But hey you won't do any of diz cuz ure greedy, lazy, a wanna be, and you lack will power.
Shout out to all the ladies in the house being inspired and motivated by Linda Eze and ezewanyi gist about affluence and the good life! I pity you all. They don't have same destiny as yours and their private battles they will never share. Much love!
Don't I just love u?
Deletesori poster buh i myt jst sound insensitive..u met somone in 2009,3 years lata perhaps cuz he nw had csh,he cald again n u said frndshp,6mths lata he proposd,wow is dat hw frndshpz mature?..i gues u wer eatn d moni n hapi uv landed a big boy witout chckn hu d man hmslf was...he was sndn moni dwn n u wer plannin.no coutshp whatsoeva n i guess u didt care to study hu u wantd to spnd d rest of ur lyf wt cuz he had d csh to thrw arnd...to tink u r stil in skul n stil vry yng..u didnt wana lose d big boy...sori to say buh u r a millenial fooool..u av laid ur bed..sleep on it...grls n wealth.tufia.....jenny
ReplyDeletePoster since your account is where he puts all his money, open another account and save up something substantial for yourself and also start a very good lucrative business, cos a brazen cheat who doesn't even hide his infidelity is an unrepentant one, should the marriage break down, you'll have something to fall back on, and no, don't cheat, its better you divorce him than be married and cheat
ReplyDeleteare u sure u wer nt a conquest to him?plz it has happnd buh e no spoil finish..forgt d holidays n shoppings for nw...all d moni wey u for use.strt dey save am,use it to establish a vry viable business and plz b discreet.dnt tel a soul nt evn him.ignore hm,evn wen he is arnd.plzn ur escape..wen ur business has stood well,jst tak a walk..dnt evn b in a haste to file for divorce..wen he says u cn leav as usual..fake ur tears n tel am say u cnt tak it anymr,u r leavn..tak a walk n den file..he ll tink he has hurt u nt knwing u gt back up quid somwhr...sollct child support sef.no let am knw say u gt anitn or he may frustrate u.....jenny
ReplyDeleteThe man that will cheat and rub it in like that has lost respect for you completely.
ReplyDeleteBuy a rabbit,a vibrator and a dildo.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is married abroad,you chose this life.
If it's too hard,you know what to do just be discreet
@anon July 29, 2014 at 6:19 PM you are a fool and need to update your knowledge. there is a word like CHEATER shogbo.
ReplyDeletei think you knew he was cheating but for some reason you kept quiet. Nigerian women do it a lot, you keep quiet cos he is rich and when you marry him, you discover a branch of hell fire is located in your house. Goodluck Madam, just keep praying.
ReplyDeletei think you knew he was cheating but for some reason you kept quiet. Nigerian women do it a lot, you keep quiet cos he is rich and when you marry him, you discover a branch of hell fire is located in your house. Goodluck Madam, just keep praying.
ReplyDeleteAll these irritating things that Nigerian men do! If he married a white woman, he would treat her like gold, but an African woman he treats like dirt. When she leaves now, he will regret it and start spreading lies. Married Men on this blog and in Nigeria at-large, a happy wife means a happy life. If your wife is happy you will be happy, if she is not, you will be sad, crappy,depressed ...
ReplyDeletePoster hear me well! What is the source of your husband's wealth? Why is he putting large amounts in your account. Make sure he is not 419 because na both of una them go arrest.
ReplyDeleteStella for a proffessional journalist your English is pathetic..... There is nothing like a cheater. It's called a cheat.. Take note pls we are tired of your gbagauns on this blog...
ReplyDeleteProfessional, a case of remove the log, smh
DeleteMadam or mister English language when i started this blog,i didnt send u a memo that you would see perfect English here did i?
ReplyDeleteopen your own blog and continue in perfect English.
The word ''CHEATER'' exists and i used it in the context that suits my post.thank you for your correction.if you are tired of my gbagauns,go to bed or browse along.
one love!
Head mistress. I guess everyone is entitled to dia own opinion. As a professional blogger u shld develop thick skin towards criticis, people cant agree wit u all d time stella.
DeleteIdiots, cheater is a word. Upgrade your English words. Mr. C what a small pricked loser you are. Rose witch take your witchcraft away from here. Demon.
ReplyDeletemy friend, cheater is a slang. Cheat is what it is. Stop using all those okrika dictionaries biko, use oxford diko.
DeleteThis is a clear case of a desperate girl that needed to get married cos her peers are married. Am 101 percent sure she didn't date this man. She was all about the money. And baby boo u got the money and not the man.
ReplyDeleteThis happens to be a trend in Nigeria. Deal with your problems hunnie
PS. I am not insensitive