Olorogun of facebook Alibaba Akporobomerere has spoken,please read and carefully digest.
He calls his write up 'Singleton'.Read up and tell us what you think.
Singleton
Every now and then, I meet and get messages, from ladies, who either lost their jobs, widowed, pregnant and no job, the guy who impregnated them absconded, or is around but doesn’t give a hoot, or working but can’t meet the financial demands of raising kids on their own, or the guy agreed to having the babies and to support with their upkeep… But things happened and he couldn’t come through with the promised support.
Single mothers are increasing in numbers consequent on one or two of the reasons mentioned above. And this always makes me ask, is it not possible to avoid being caught up in some of these tough situations? I know its impossible to know if you will be a widow and left with 2 or 3 kids to raise by yourself, as a mother. But when it happens, what is the solution?
Some ladies just want to have kids, because they attended a birthday party and they saw Kemi with her 2 lovely kids. They also know Kemi has no visible source of income.
Wake up!!!!!
Kemi has sources of income. Ruff n Tumble DOESNT dash kids clothes weekly… To be honest, you don’t want to know what she does to make those kids look desirable enough to make you want to have yours. Maybe Kemi has a job. Maybe she has a rich husband. Or maybe she has a loaded boyfriend. Saved up wealth.
She could be the “saving grace” of a guy who has been looking for a child. She may have rich parents. She could be a surrogate mum. Who bore the kids and is caring for the kids for the true parents…. Maybe, just maybe…
But, hey, nobody can stop you from wanting to have your own child or children. You ought to. And if they don’t come naturally, adopt. There is no issue with that. Only problem is, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO PREPARE YOU FOR THE CHILD OR CHILDREN YOU PLAN TO BRING INTO THE WORLD?
What are your plans towards taking care of them as they grow… Knowing that it cost more to bring a child up now than it did when our parents had us. That is not to say it was any easy on our parents. But hey, kids’ fees these days for a single school term, is a total of alllllllllllllll our primary up to university fees, plus allowances.
So lets say your bobo agrees to you getting pregnant. And you got pregnant. And he bails on you. What will you do? Lets even suppose you have a job. What will you do when you resume after your maternity leave… Good Nannies cost a lot. Bad nannies even cost more. Minimum subscription for a nanny now is about 25k…
That DOESNT include her upkeep and consumables… Abi she no go dey chop for the house?
Okay… Before you guys begin to say WHATS ali baba’s own sef… Let me just say, I get whatsapp, twitter, Facebook and text messages from single ladies who are pregnant or have kids, but do not know what to do to take care of themselves, not to mention the kid or kids they have… Because of some of the reasons I mentioned in my first paragraph. I have helped when I could and advised when it’s advice they want. But, with the access and opportunities social media has opened up, these request for assistance based on the challenges of raising kids by single mothers, have become a regular feature in my inbox, DM, whatsapp and even one on one.
So I ask again, what can single ladies do, that will prepare them for when the kids come and there is no bobo, sugar daddy, father, husband or the equivalent… Or do to support what she earns even when there is such a person who is a significant other?
DONT get me wrong o… There are ladies who can hold their own and even still put the guy who they are with on a monthly allowance. They are not “among of” what I am about here. So zip it.
I know someone will think I have nothing to do, that’s why I am writing this… But trust me. There is an epidemic out there. It’s not EBOLA but single ladies are going through this daily. And it’s how to be a single mum and still hold your head high in the face of school fees, house rent, parental demands, sibling responsibilities, looking good, career pursuit, peace of mind, remain sexy and responsible,…
You may call me whatever… But soon you will be wondering why abandoned children are flooding orphanage homes..
*I hope you read this well? let this be a flashback in your medulla oblangata the next time you attempt to have unprotected sex..SELAH
BTW Singleton only happens in some places.In Germany every child gets a monthly allowance from when they are born until they officially become adults and good Education is practically free here.
Gbam! Gbamer! Gbamest!
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Aunty Stella,2day is my bday, would have sent my pix but I Neva chop liver reach. Blog family complete my day by wishing me a hbd
DeleteI live in a not so posh area in Lagos.. u need to see all these wicked children of as young as 13 yrs wat igbos will cal Ajo nwa si owerre baa nne ya afo.. They know their parents are struggling to take care of dem and dia siblings oh but they will go and carry belle.. how do they want their poor parents to cope.. d worst thing is dt dy are nt ashamed u look at dem once they will look at u 20x.. Chai uwa mmebi..
DeleteDatz how one man was advising mi yesterday to hook a man with pregnancy, dat he will eventually marry mi, I told him dat I can never do such, I will wait till God locate mi my husband, btw will be 31 soon
DeleteIf a woman has a man in her life and still pays the bills abeg she also falls in this criteria,somemen are not just worth the trouble! @anon 4.08,pls 31 is not the end of the world my darling.look inwards and try and achieve all the things you ever wanted to achieve and don't even give it a second thought that u are single..your man will come sooner than you think if you apply this advice in your life. Men can perceive desperation a million miles away even witout u knowing it...just take a chill pill nne,being single is more fun than you think.."carpe diem" seize the day while it lasts!
DeleteAli baba is a hypocrite.See kettle calling pot black. Wen dis Ali baba impregnated Mary he left her all alone 2 suffer and cater 4 their daughter it was after so many years dat he later married Mary cos she struggled and climbed up d ladder of success to become a bank manager in Bank PHB then.He married her cos she became rich. Wat abt his other baby mamas? How well is he taking care of those children he fathered? Leaving their mothers 2 toll day and night. Pls dat man shd shut d hell up. He shd not allow me 2 expose him here. Mtchewwwwwww!!!!
DeleteChizzy
@ Fej ; Happy birthday sweetie and many happy returns.
DeleteLoving your comment @Queen Gelis. Very nice.
Delete@fej. Happy bday dear. I wish u all the best. Enjoy ur day.
Delete@fej. Happy bday dear. I wish u all the best. Enjoy ur day.
Delete@ anon. 5.09 pm. Wow!!! You took the word out of my mouth Dearie. Ali Baba should shut the hell up. He have no right touching this topic. He is an hypocrite of the highest order. Is this guy for real??? Coming from a guy that abandoned his baby mama - Mary to be a single mother for years . He left Mary to fend for their child and got married to Patricia the lady from Trinidad and Tobago and came back to Mary when she was successful. Honestly this guy should go away . How dare he opened his stinky mouth to talk about single mothers? Hypocrite and opportunist man
Delete@ anon. 5.09 pm. Wow!!! You took the word out of my mouth Dearie. Ali Baba should shut the hell up. He have no right touching this topic. He is an hypocrite of the highest order. Is this guy for real??? Coming from a guy that abandoned his baby mama - Mary to be a single mother for years . He left Mary to fend for their child and got married to Patricia the lady from Trinidad and Tobago and came back to Mary when she was successful. Honestly this guy should go away . How dare he opened his stinky mouth to talk about single mothers? Hypocrite and opportunist man
DeleteThk u queen
DeleteHappy birthday fej....longest life n may u prosper I wish u.
DeleteNice work sir,,,it may also interest u to know dah half of these problms, women face were invented with their own hands, thinking dah it will be fine as they get along in life, no one falls in a pit n expect to land on a bed,,women need to be more decisive consciously than let their emotion decide 4 them thanks.#dahs my analysis
ReplyDelete@kelvin u r beginning 2 comment sensibly...keep it up
DeleteI just love this guy's write up..The question is who dey give them bele? ?? Can't these men take responsibility for their actions.
ReplyDeleteBest Oracle.
Stella what is he suggesting now? There will always be single parents, even if everyone wears condom as part of their daily regalia. There is always death and divorce or separation. Some married couples are even living as single parents. What he should I've advised is that every woman, no matter how good you have it going for you should learn a trade. Don't depend wholly on your husband or your white collar job. There should be at least one thing that you can do with your bare hands that produces income. It could be soap making, pastries, sewing, decorations etc. There are single dads everywhere also.
ReplyDeleteSpots on...God bless u.
DeleteChizoba, the correct word is "Spot on" and not "Spots on".
Deletehmmmmm....
ReplyDeleteOh well, nobody bergains to be a single mother but shit happens. Atleast, SMs are responsible and strong enough to carry their child and birth them instead of seeking the easy way out.
ReplyDeleteI respect single mothers cos its no joke playing double roles and it cud very well happen to anybody and our society needs to stop that stupid stigma against them. Marry them already and stop thinking what the society would say.
I respect them too.
Delete@ Swerve, I'm sure you meant to say "Bargains" and not "Bergains"
DeleteGbamest!!!. May God lead us in doing the right thing(s). Hmmm, It's so sad that our government still can't cater for the needs of the people with all the riches and resources in their care. Smh. #OnlyInAfrica #ThirdWorldProblems
ReplyDeleteOk his point is: if u can't take care of a child, dnt make one.
ReplyDeletePoint taken
Too many girls wanting to be baby mamas, some just want to hook the guy with pregnancy which usually don't work out.
ReplyDeleteImagine my 23-year-old cousin, HND final, got pregnant for a ND 2 (20 years old boy). And when she was asked why, she said I just want to have a baby, I don't intend to marry him. I laughed! And people wonder why I didn't visit her and her baby? God forbid! That child or his mother will never see my 5 naira. Too many girls with 'misplaced priorities' forgetting there is a time for everything. Time to zip up, use condom, time to get a job, have a career, make some money and time to plan a family. What's wrong with girls these days?
U are a very wicked and heartless person...How can u judge her like dat? Are u God? The way u dream about owning a car and buying one is d same way she dreamt of having a baby..To her its a dream come true...It doesnt matter who she had d baby for...80% of women fantasize about having their own child daz why d desperation to get married is on d increase..If dat baby makes her happy so be it...
DeleteU can keep ur stinking peanut u called money in ur pocket...Has she not been surviving without ur money? Mtchweeeeeew! By d time u get married tomorrow and becomes childless u will start moving from church to church looking for miracle without knowing u brought curse upon urself with ur wickedness.
Bia chizoba, did u giv birth outta wedlock, abi u don't know ur dad, since when did child outta wedlock become a trend, abi na belle u take catch ur hubby. My dear kol a spade a spade, if u can't take care of a child don't bring it into the world, Hain ooh misplaced priorities indeed.. Nini
DeleteSupporting chizoba on this!
DeleteChizoba, we understand you lack training from home but you don't need to tell us that every time you comment or reply. When God was distributing sense for free in Heaven, you just had to go and collect foolishness from the devil. It's not too late to ask from God, He's ever merciful. All the best in your quest for some sense!
DeleteFYI: Don't ever reply my comment again. I won't be nice the next time.
why 23 year old go dey dream of baby like that, Chizoba the screws in your brain don loose finish
DeleteThis Chizoba IbebuNyansh, the person wey put you for house na bad market e buy I swear down. How are you gonna raise up your daughters? You are so foolishly foolish and so daftfully daft.
DeleteUseless woman. Irritant
Omg JayEm, dat was harsh but good anyway cos I wonder why someone would compare craving to buy a car with wanting to have kids.
DeleteI fantasize a lot about having my twin babies even more than having a husband. Children come with a lot of responsible but they are awesome. They bring joy to the world so 4 ones I understand chizoba very well.
DeleteI fantasize a lot about having my twin babies even more than having a husband. Children come with a lot of responsible but they are awesome. They bring joy to the world so 4 ones I understand chizoba very well.
Delete@Jayem what was dat ur cousin finking of sef....she is in a world of her own o
DeleteJayEm she made her choice n u made urs no one shld judge u. A 23 yr old has all d tym in d world to make babies if that's her "dream" n 4 a 20yr old wit no source of income. U said it well misplaced priorities.
Delete@JayEm:Thunder fire u dia..i have replied u..pls do ur worse...PIG..I'm sure u have a babymama out there suffering to raise ur child..U are just a waste of sperm..Idiot.
DeleteChizoba or whatever ur god forsaken name is. U re a fool!!! Ur sense of reasoning is highly despicable, is so obvious ur a bastard, am sure u neva had a fatherly love, plus u continued ur generational curse by giving birth to bastard children. By all reasoning jayem made perfect sense, wy would a 23yr old knowingly deny her unborn child d fatherly love dt her child deserves. A lot of nonentities in dis world today.
DeleteChai!
DeleteAnd I used to think dis Jayem Couldnt talk...
LMAO
So I paid my boyfriend a surprise visit in his house very early on Saturday morning. And I met him and his friend gisting outside. And look on deir face was dt of shock as if something was fishy. I entered d house to go inside to d room, only for my boyfriend to tell me dt I should pls stay in d parlor. My first instinct was maybe dere was anoda lady inside. Only for him to go into d room and come out and a lady and a man came out. I av never met d lady before,but d man is my boyfriend's friend and he is Married! In short his wife just gave birth recently to a beautiful boy, deir first child togeda,barely 2yrs marriage. U nid to see d way dis girl was all over d married guy, he was feeling very uncomfortable cuz I know his wife! But d bitch did not get d scope. In short I was mega shocked, dis is a man dt sends me bible passages frequently on bbm,cuz he is one of my contacts. Married men wen will u stop dis fucked up shit u guys re all up to. D most irritating thing is dis girl is not even half as beautiful as his wife,she is fat and shapeless. Gosh I feel so pissed rite now
ReplyDeleteOff topic and off point.
DeleteShe might be fat and shapeless but do you know how good she's on bed compared to the boring wife
DeleteDo you intend to marry that your bf??
DeleteSame thing ur boyfriend will do to u when u guys are married. Birds of same feathers......
DeleteSame thing my ex did. My ex told me to follow him to stroll down the neigbourhood to a garden/bar at maitama. I never knew he gave his friend the key to his house.
DeleteI wanted to go to toilet I told my ex it was very urgent but he kept on trying to stop me. I told him it will soon fall out of my body. Then he agreed. I asked him 4 the key to his house he said he wasn't with it that his friend is with it. I knocked the house for 30mins. With all the pressure I was tempted to relief myself at the gate man's house. When he eventually opened the door I rushed to the room that had a toilet only 4 me to see a girl dressing up on the bed. I felt like strangling my ex. His friend came to my ex house to have sex with a girl. N this guy is promiscous. He changes gf weekly.
My ex did it again. The last straw that broke the camels back was his badoo page on my ipad. I can't believe he could be so foolish to download badoo on my ipad and use it to chase girls. N I am not into badoo shit. He lied that the girl wanted to give him contract.
They are bird of a feather. He will do it to u even now b4 u get married. He will so cheat on u.
Good question Iphie.
DeleteAtinuke, I put it to you this day that your boyfriend is no different from his married friend. Remember, BIRDS of a feather flock TOGETHER.
DeleteBirds of the same feather flock together,
DeleteSpot on Alibaba! As a single mum, I know how disheartening it can be especially when you are jobless and loveless.... Itz well! #i want to use this forum to thank Blog visitor "Skabcakes" for being such a wonderful and benevolent woman! I was called this morning to come pick 2 bday cakes for my niece and daughter!!! Yippeeeee! God will bless "Skabcakes" boku boku! May your customers demands be endless! May ur brand grow beyond your expectations! May all your heart desires happen sooner than you imagine! *gratitude*
ReplyDeleteGod is ur strenght...Ur child will bring u happiness tomorrow..
DeleteAwwwww! How sweet! God bless you Skabcakes and enlarge your coast. Congrats Bennie, I pray God sends more helpers your way and settles you and your kid(s) on every side. #e-bearhugs.
DeleteSkabcakes, thou art BLESSED!
DeleteOk! Not like am dumb or stuff..but what is actually THE MESSAGE behind his message.
ReplyDeleteVery Pointless and Unintelligent write up..like TF??
ThatGirlLaura
Useless writeup..Dont mind d jobless Ali baba.
DeleteN Chizoba Ibebuike u r as jobless as Alibaba for replying almost all the comments... Will u get a life off blog or r u here incase of free airtime...... Go read ur bible if u r jobless
DeleteCommon sense is not that common actually. I wonder how you pass SSCE that's if you actually deed and Olodo like you @Chizoba is seconding you. Let me summarize for you " if you are single and don't have enough money to train a kid, then use condom when hanging you leg on protector." Its simple english not swahili
DeleteZip up if u aint ready t b a mother!
ReplyDeleteWORD!!!
DeleteWell that's why we have child support here. Naija is different ball game entirely. Na God dey provide for single moms, and it sure ain't easy. It is well.
ReplyDeleteHappy Sunday blog fam.
He's so correct.
ReplyDeleteOk
ReplyDeleteE.g??
One of the example is his wife Mary before he married her.
DeleteNa so politicians dey get busted! U get plenty skeleton 4 ya cardboard Oga!
DeleteHe hit the nail on the head so hard the carpenter is jealous of the finish....
ReplyDeleteGuess life would be much easier for a single mum in Germany...when will the Nig govt make its citizen's welfare a priority..?
Not just in Germany but most if not all developed countries.
DeleteReally complicated.......speechless
ReplyDeleteWell said Ali..
ReplyDeleteThe era of babymamas.zip up,sex is more enjoyable when is done with your spouse
ReplyDeleteEven with your spouse, once u start having kids, be FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT! Life happens, don't wait until it happens...
DeleteTrue but na dem sabi
ReplyDeleteShut up Ali baba..Are u now telling them to abort to avoid being a baby mama? What about those married couple that doesnt have money to take care of their child? Its better for a lady to suffer and raise her own child for posterity sake than abort and die childless..Every human being need to raise a child dat will grow up to take care of them..
ReplyDeleteAli baba have u forgotten ur wife Mary was a baby mama of ur first child when u dumped her to mary Patricia d Sierra leonian woman? If not dat u divorced parricia and went back to marry Mary akpobone d banker,she would've still been a baby mama...Dis ur writeup is more like kettle calling pot black..Face ur comedy work..
Was president Obama not raised by a single mom? If u dont want to help a single mom asking for ur help,kindly tell her and stop talking like a dementia...I have friends who are single mothers and i know its not easy for them....but NEWS FLASH for u,They all love their babies like crazy...Ur advice came rather late..
Shout out to all d single mothers on dis blog,u all are wonderful and superwomen...i love u all...I'm planning something for u on dis blog...I pray d contract my husband is pursuing to mature so i can dole out our tithe on u all...ONE LOVE.
God bless you dear.
DeleteYou just said it all.
Aliibaba never said being a single mother is a crime,he only said if u must be a single mother since dats what's trending for most single ladies,make sure u have a means of Income so u won't turn urself to a beggar on internet!and if u must have sex use protection,to avoid unplanned occurrences.for me I second to his advise,cos gals be messing up and around coming out with a baby and expect the world to pity' cos she's a single mum,thats blackmail as far as I am concerned!as they say,get out of a kitchen if u are not ready for the heat.#enuf said#
DeleteIs someone impersonating Chizoba bcos I can't bliv she has anything nice to say..
DeleteMy dear God bless u jare, he's making it look like every1 chooses 2 b a single mum, a man like him married me and asked me not 2 look 4 work so we could build our business, after I gave birth he realized it was hard work and left on a journey, only 2 call and say he wants a divorce, he has collected d company, even baby milk he doesn't buy... In dis case did I choose it? Abeg allow him 2 talk jare, every1 has mouth, feel free 2 use it as u like mmtchew
Delete@Queen bee;What was Alibaba's wife doing when she got pregnant for him as a teenager? He should've adviced her then instead of coming out now to talk anyhow.
DeleteChizoba is maturing o..hehe.
DeleteAnonymous Chizoba is actually intelligent but she's still an Ass and avery mannerless one at that
DeleteChizoba so u are married? D kind tinz men marry as wife... God help us
DeleteChizoba pls sit up and act as 1, agboro
Chizoba so u are married? D kind tinz men marry as wife... God help us
DeleteChizoba pls sit up and act as 1, agboro
Chizoba Ibebuike!!!!
DeleteMrs know all!
FYI, Patricia Leon is from Trinidad and Tobago and not Sierra Leone. She's a Trinidadian
Those who have ears...let them hear.
ReplyDeleteMost Nigerian women are not single mothers by choiz.
ReplyDeleteSome are desperate; and dis az nothing to do with age, some gals dia ultimate dream in life is to marry as soon as dey drop dia pen in sch. Som are tired of dia fathers house, som are just inlove wit the idea 'marriage' and den dey meet dis poor strugglin gy wu isn't redy, and tink dey cn trap him.
Som na greed: probably d guy is frm a wealthy fam, she wz lucky to av a fling, and den she wan turn mario ontop.
Som oda gals are plain stupid; fine u met the guy, uv seen d signs, dis guy is a layabout, he az no prospect, e still dey stay him papa, dey chop 3square meal dia, n yet u open ur legs witout protectn.
Some gals dikwa too dull, d guy tells u, carry belle first, den I wld marry u, the babe takes in, all of a sudden the guy realises, omo mehn, na ronke set lik dis, ase dis ma babe no make am. Leaving the gal stuck.
Make God dey hlp person. Me I no dis for sure, character is like smoke, dia is no how a woman wld nt see signs.
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DeleteYeah character is like a smoke really,there is no how you can make a good wife with you vile made for curse tongue. You'd better repent.
DeleteDt's what happens when woken keep spreading their legs anyhow 'hang one 4 buglary proof' and be collecting priqq like d anon of yesterday without even confirming condom!!
ReplyDelete*lips sealed and watching*
Bwahahahahahaha.
DeleteThis burglary proof thing will trend for a while, its so funny :D
Deleteits my birthday today y'all. Though the day started rough its looking better! i don dey old small small sha . pls bday mates holla
ReplyDeleteChinma, is that you?
DeleteHappy birthday Anon!! Bigger u, I pray!! Pls get an id!! Have a blast!!
DeleteHbd, God blessings
DeleteHappy birthday anon....enjoy!
DeleteHow many baby mamas does Alibaba have? Yeah he's one to talk about single mothers. Alibaba you need to sit your trifling, impregnating women and dumping them, sugar mummy having ass down. Everybody wants to write now. Remove the tree from your eyes first.
ReplyDeleteGod bless this commentator! Can you just imagine?The way some people re write their past is overwhelming,especially when they start to believe we imagined it. Makes me wonder if amnexia is a fallout of the good life. Ta!!!
DeleteHis writeup is like kettle calling pot black....Joblessness at its peak.
DeleteTake the message and leave the messenger. That's why your level of stupidity is alarming @ Chizoba
DeleteWORD!!!!
ReplyDeleteTo take care of a child now costs sooo much!! Good schools,clothing,food,nannies...Before you think of trapping an uninterested guy into marriage,make sure you earn enough to take care of that child incase the dude bails(and most of em always do). SALUTE!@Alibaba..Shout out to all the single mothers out there holding it down!! I respect you for not getting rid of the babies!To the widows,chukwu gbaa unu ume.
@chizoba... I don't think holding your urine for that long is good,causes damage to bladder and kidney,infections too...maybe a little and then pee buh not all night dear...I did it during my pregnancy and it helped me hold myself from pushing when it was not time but not all night tho
ReplyDeleteAre u serious? Fear don catch me oh...i wont do it again oh...hian!.
DeleteWell said. but it is funny aw dis is coming frm u considering u av also contributed your own quota 2 d "singleton".
ReplyDeleteAli baba your head dey there..Why bring a child into this world to suffer..the worst is that single mothers are constantly increasing in numbers...
ReplyDeleteOyibo people that we are following their footsteps are getting benefits from their government..
You will see a young single girl pooping out babies as if its childs play..
Oriegwu!!..
Me that has 3 kids is crying fowl talkless of them..I don't even know how they manage sef..
School fees alone for one term can buy a comfortable camry 2.2 not to talk of food,drinking water and cloths..its not easy mehn..
Ladies easy with the fucking...I know its sweet but abeg ohh its not easy out there..
'Singlemotherhood' is not an oyibo culture..It has been with us in africa right from d days of our fore fathers...atleast i know one of my paternal grand uncle whom was born outside wedlock...
DeleteTrue words
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ReplyDeleteLinda, u dey complain n I bet ur children neva enter senior secondary school.
DeleteU never see nothing, my 2 sisters are in one of the most expensiv private univ in nigeria.
See as my papa dey apy say the last schfees wey him go pay na dis year as dey wld be tru by june nxt year(5yr courses each).
My fada doesn't even no I pay sch fees (15k wich az bin increased to 35k)
Ppl don't realise dat bsides the money sef, e no izy to raise pikin alone, esp boys, no wonder most single modas are bitter.
@ Linda, that's eh!! Especially in lag, their school fees is smth else!!! @ alibaba, well spoken and well written... Keep telling them oh!!!
DeletePinkshell, why are your sisters in expensive private universities while you are in a public one where you pay only 15k?
DeleteWomen r d cause
ReplyDeletePls visit my shoe blog
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Madam, you are only interested in moving traffic to your shoe blog. The blog owner asked you to stop with the advertising yet you refuse.
DeleteSo i finally visited your shoe blog and i'm so disappointed, at least add more text to the pictures, if you don't know what to write, copy and re-write, there are other shoe blogs to copy from.
DeleteWell, am in no position to judge anyone, I have no issues with anyone being a single mom, sometimes life throws the unexpected at one and you have to take the bull by the horn.i respect them for not aborting those kids.
ReplyDeleteHaving said that, don't just sit down there and keep lamenting that you are a single mom expecting people to always come to your aid.We all have our issues.If you can't get a job, learn to do small chops, cocktail, make up, beads, buying and selling, anything but just find something to do.
I remember one time I was in the uk for holiday, I went for an Owanbe party, held my gele cuz I couldn't tie it, there was this lady at the entrance of the hall tying gele for ladies and collecting 5 pounds each, there was a queue, she must have tied for at least 50 ladies.
More often than not, we are too arrogant to do certain things.
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DeleteStella,if only we have good governance in Nigeria too may be just may be single mothers we cope with ease too. Knowing fully well the children's future is secure and there by they won't give a damn what our naija men does because all the listed reason's are bound to occur in some ladies life. My women folks lets shine our eyes well well before we open our laps.
ReplyDeleteGbaaaaaaam!
DeleteOur govt doesn't even care abt disabled ppl,not to tlk of abled body.
DeleteWat u r asking for, is like waitin for awolowo to bring jollof rice.
Well said
ReplyDeleteStella, We are not talking about Germany here. We know that they get monthly allowance from when they are born, We are talking about Nigerian Single Mothers.
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
ReplyDelete.
This dude is always onpoint and to be frank ladies love skin to skin than we dudes.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
"We" guys ??? Tell me about it Mr Doodie.
DeleteSo on point
ReplyDelete@kelvin happiness, drop your email below my comment lets talk.
ReplyDeleteHehehehe!
DeleteYinmu!
Jaymore whr have thou been? I missed u biko
DeleteSome of them are just plain stupid, they get pregnant for married men with the hope that he will leave his wife and marry them then the whole thing back fire Hahahahahahaha...
ReplyDeleteMoi Moi....plainly stupid I taay u
DeleteMoi Moi....plainly stupid I taaay u
Deletea resounding shout out to Chizoba Ibebuike u took d words outta my mouth ! Bullshit talking Alibaba
ReplyDeleteMy 20 year old niece is getting married in 2 months time and no she no carry belle. This girl has only WAEC result and did not write jamb this year. She has no handwork and no source of income. Her parents that should know better are busy disturbing every one with wedding preparations prancing about like peacocks.
ReplyDeleteThe parents say she will school in her husbands house afterall no matter how much a woman goes to school she ends up in the kitchen!
What if the husband throws her out tomorrow? God forbid but what if anything happens to him or his job? Life happens! SMH
Chei
DeleteThis single mother issue should be placed on an equilibrium.
ReplyDeleteAli baba is partially right cos some ladies with eyes open wide agree to be a baby mama when the so called baby daddy hasn't even talked about marriage. ehen the guy bail out, they scream blue murder. meanwhile you gave in cheaply like you've got no self worth.
some others, it just so happen as an unfortunate circumstance and the fear of God and abortion made them keep the baby regardless whether they can fend for the child or not.
Single mothers are everywhere for one reason or the other, Alibaba has no right to judge, face only those that came to you. Singleton isn't an epidemic, Ebola is! Even married couples can't cope with some present responsibilities. A woman just told us in church how she lost all she had in like a month and was owing! God is settling her back but before then, her children didn't die! You are just tired of been disturbed- people need help all over and you should try your best instead of judging. I don't support free sex, abortion or child's abandonment but shit happens as we are not all born to be strong willed. You have your own issues, we don't judge. Christ didn't judge, he helped. May God bless those that are helping rather than judging. I was born with a silver spoon and was caught unawares when things fell apart- these things happen to everyone, na only God dey help and restore. Ali, I hate your post!!!
ReplyDeleteMay Almighty bless u loads
DeleteShege anonymous..'Singleton aint an epidemic,Ebola is'. My dear u dey vex o buh nyc P.O.V
DeleteD point is wheda single moda by choice or by mistake find sth doing.Well said Alibaba.
ReplyDeleteD point is wheda single moda by choice or by mistake find sth doing.Well said Alibaba.
ReplyDeleteI wonder when people will learn and love to hear the truth, he didnt condem baby mamas, he only said dont start what u knw u cant finish.
ReplyDeleteIf u think u want to be a mother, sit down and plan how its going to make u well not turn u to a beggar, d problem is most naija ladies are lazy and dont want to work, they believe the ultimate thing is to finish school get married and their husband will take care of the house.
If u love sex, use condom and if u want a baby get a good paid job, or have ur baby and suffer!
shikenah!
Very true Ali...am a single mother and I have decided to just be like that forever even thou am suffering wit the child for now drinking garri and biscuit
ReplyDeleteWell said but u don't blame single mothers thou cuz I know most of them didn't wish/plan it this way
ReplyDeleteHe has a point, women find something to do, whether single, baby Mama, married or widowed
ReplyDeleteAll d single mother's in d house ,,God's ur strength ooo,,@fej happy birthday,a bigger u i pray,,@ bennie may God decorate u & ur daughter,,,@ chizoba,,God wil see ur hubby thru,,more contract to him..happy sunday to al bvs..Stella happy sunday..
ReplyDeleteAlibaba dont judge,,face dose dat are coming to u for help.
ReplyDeleteoften times when we r guilty of something that is when we become great preachers n philosophers abt those things.but who died n made us judge over anybody?IMO alibaba is right but not right all the way hes right in the sense that singlemums r everywhere we cant deny that but at the same time hes not so right cos most of those singlemums didnt choose to be single mums.All id say is single mums r humans for those that circumstances befell may they seek help and find and those that brought it upon themselves eg d poster that said she met mr sweet dick n had a one night stand with him nne i wish u n ya type well
ReplyDeleteAnyone one who thinks this local rat chizoba is intelligent must be a dunce..........back to the matter, except you don't understand English alibaba is not talking of single parents by widowhood or other genuine reasons......am a woman and sorry to say most women open their legs too quickly theses days......men 95 percent of men are dogs and self centered, they will not think of protection when their dicks are hungry.....you women need to watch out for yourselves......if u want a baby then be sure u have a source of income......if u are sleeping with a guy then your brain should tell u anything can happen.....stop giving your self easy to these randy dogs running riot all over town......men are self centered and at the end of the day u will be the one saddled with the baby after going through 9 months stress.......ladies watch out for yourselves.....
ReplyDeleteWhat breed of Dogs is you father and brothers???? Just asking ni.
DeleteTRUE TALK. I'M SURE ALI BABA IS NOT REFERRING TO THOSE SINGLE MOTHERS THAT FOUND THEMSELVES IN THAT SITUATION THROUGH NO FAULT OF THEIR OWN. HE SAID THAT IN HIS WRITE-UP. HE IS TALKING ABOUT THE ONES WHO KNOWINGLY AND WILLINGLY BECOME SINGLE MOTHERS.
ReplyDeleteEG, THE MAN YOU'RE SEEING HASN'T SAID ANYTHING TO YOU ABOUT MARRIAGE BUT YOU GET PREGNANT TO TRAP HIM INTO MARRYING YOU. HE BAILS ON YOU AND YOU BECOME A SINGLE MOTHER. OR YOU SEE WIZKID'S EX FLASHING PICTURES OF HER SON ON SOCIAL MEDIA AND THINK ITS THE COOLEST THING. ALL OF A SUDDEN THE URGE FOR MOTHERHOOD HITS YOU AND YOU DECIDE TO GET PREGNANT FOR YOUR JOBLESS BOYFRIEND. RUBBISH. DONT BRING CHILDREN INTO THIS WORLD YOU CAN'T CARE FOR. PERIOD!
Uncle Ali, welcome....The Caps gave you away.
DeleteFood for thought i guess.
ReplyDeletebut AliBaba has baby mamas,so why did he not use his own advice?
ReplyDeleteWere there no condoms when he was making those babies?
This guy likes sounding unnecessarily intelligent. The small money wey him get dey enter him head.
Am a single mother and my child has been my source of inspiration. You need to see the way hustle... Most friends calls me tomboy.. Having my child again has made me a responsible woman. Else! I for don turn to big runs babe in Lagos. But I give God the glory in my life.. my messy situation was turn in to a merciful situation. .Although, it's not be easy.
ReplyDeleteAm a single mum.. And it's been God. It's not easy in this side of the world. If baby father doesn't support u, the dude walks away peacefully. And before any family can accept u to marry their son, my sisters na war. They probably think you've bn a bad girl all your life and their son wonna settle for a second hand good. A man prefers to marry a woman with no future than to marry a woman with a past.. it's really sad. BUT BEING A SINGLE MOTHER HAS MADE ME MORE RESPONSIBLE AND VERY CLOSE TO GOD. My child will be 8 next month.
ReplyDeleteU have nothing to say. Face your marriage and your kids u silly man. Instead of you to talk about the useless men that abandon their kids ur talking about single moms. Do u know how and what it takes to raise a child on your own? People will respect you more if u encourage them knowing is not easy other than talk trash.anyway your just as useless and hopeless as those men that are not man enought to be responsible.
ReplyDeleteA lot of folks seem bitter ere, perhaps they are single mothers or personally know such women. I don't even care if ali baba made Mary a single mother once(that's besides the point 4me) anybody can repent n preach on d ill of their past sins; ask ur pastor. He is talking of women empowerment here - how can u hate on that? Lady koikoi
ReplyDeleteTake the message ans leave the Messenger. As for CHIZOBA, you are just a pendulum bulb seeking for attention. I hope you borrow sense soon and grow up.
ReplyDeleteHe's an IDIOT.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how u look at it,having a baby outside wedlock is something our culture frowns at.child out of wedlock is the fruit of fornication. A friend i know was chased away by her hubby because she could not give him a child after 5years of marriage,not that she was not conceiving but she was having miscarriages,u can imagine the pain and trauma when she was kicked out of her marriage by hubby and his people.4yrs after,her hubby came begging for her to come back,he(hubby) already have a child with a desperate girl who was quick to open her leg inorder to take another woman's home,but alas she was not married even with a baby.and they are all at the mercy of the my friend who has her own children now. Ladies please think before u open ur legs. Single ladies not widows or rape victims but single desperados who wants to hook men at all cost,a child comes with a responsibility not just materially but morally and spiritually too.how can somebody who can not differentiate btw what she want and need train a child.
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