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Saturday, February 21, 2015

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative


So long a sjhocking narrative...!






STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

SHOULD I OR SHOULD I NOT?


When i was writing this chronicle, i was scared that this might be the longest chronicle ever. But apart from giving advice, the essence of a chronicle should also be to learn. So if there was someone out there with a similar problem who would benefit from this, then i don't mind. Let it be lengthy. Please post it for me in chronicles of blog visitor narratives.


I read this blog everyday. I have never commented but i have a blog id, i have been on this blog before chronicle, IHN and doctors in house session started. I really love this blog.
I am a Beautiful 35 year old female living in Abuja. I am single. I run my own business. 


  My mother had me when she was 16, and single for her supposed "boyfriend". (He's still alive but doesn't even want to keep in touch, trust me i have tried) After my mother had me, she left delta state to Lagos to "find work" she stayed with a relative then. I spent the first 6 years of my life with my grandmother in Delta state, before my mother got married to my late step dad and i joined her after much persuasion from my grandmother. 


  My step dad was a very nice and simple man. He was a banker and was about 20 years older than my mum, he made sure she wrote GCE and entered a polytechnic where she obtained her OND. My mum had two kids for my step dad, a boy and girl presently 28 and 25 respectively. 


  My stepfather died 5 years after he married my mum, my siblings don't even remember him. I understand that my mum was young with 3 children, a widow and needed help then. She did things I'm not proud of to make ends meet. Later on she met a Lebanese man that had a business in Nigeria and she had a baby for him. my 20 year old sister. The story about what happened to the Lebanese man is another jist for another day, but just know that the man was very much married to his Lebanese wife who was very rich and he was under her control. He could not marry my mum, in fact my mum was disappointed that he wasn't so rich after all.


This brings me to the main gist.

My mum is a VERY MATERIALISTIC WOMAN. 


right from when i was very young, i was taught to love money so much. in fact, i don't know how to explain this?growing up,  she had a bar, and anybody that called me "fine girl" she would instruct me to be the one serving him and never minded if they touch me. As a teenager, she would tell me not to waste my beauty the way she did. She would encourage me to date any rich man on the street.  she would say i should be "wise".


 I disappointed my mum because on several occasions i never agreed to do the things she wanted me to do. I was never the girl she wanted me to be. I always wanted to protect my sister, I even lost my virginity like 24. My mum hated me so much.


  I am a hardworking girl.  When i was in school, i was working and sending money home, i singlehandedly told her to stop bar business and sponsored her shop in balogun market where she is even till now.


  At 28, i met a very wealthy guy. he was too rich. he has 4 houses in Lagos (I'm not joking) he got me my first car, my first international passport Na him, the first time i took a flight outside naija Na him. my sister travelled to Canada to study nursing on his expense,she's happily married now. 


He expanded mummy's shop and also added a Jewelry shop to the shop where she sells lace.

  My mum was already planning our wedding, even before he proposed. She loved him dearly he was the in-law of life. She kept advising me to get pregnant, but I'm wiser than that.

Now you would wonder what happened to the guy? why we are not together. Our relationship was for 3years. in those three years, i couldn't see a SINGLE BUSINESS that was bringing in money.The source of his money was too questionable...yes he spent some on me i wont lie and my big business in Abuja today is courtesy the money i saved while dating him. But really this guy was doing the shadiest business deals ever. 

As at then, I was too scared to confront him, the only way out was for me to break the engagement or i might have lost my life in the marriage. I saw and experienced many scary things i cant even start to mention here..but i left him.
My mum kept malice with me for more than a year because of that guy. She cursed me and said if i can be that wicked to someone that helped me i will never marry. (She till hasn't reversed the curse, and the ex sef has a baby mama with 2 kids painting instagram red and making girls green with envy I don't want to say i pity her but i hope he has changed).



 I explained to her times without number that the guy was doing very bad underground deals. but she called me a liar and a cheat. In fact She slapped me twice for that very matter.
Now the guy is history, I moved on a long time ago. i have dated after then but my recent ex felt i was too much for him and low self esteem issues made him start acting up. God will send me my own. 


You know whats happening now? My mum has completely captivated my 20 year old half  sister with her spell. The exact thing she was forcing me to do when i was younger, my sister is doing it for her. She was expelled from covenant for her behaviour, She clubs and parties daily. She cant carry a bag if its less than 50k. I paid her school fees in convenant but everything has now gone down the drain. 

  I told her to come to Abuja and stay with me, she refused and said my mum would be lonely. but this girl is never at home and my mum supports her to the latter. now a 53 year old man bought her a car and I'm even suspecting shes preggy but my mum wont tell me. (my mum has aborted a pregnancy for her at 18 for a married man) I heard the man comes to our house and my mum entertains him well. Hes married with 5 kids!


  what kind of mother do i have? do i go to Lagos myself and drag my sister here? My brother slapped her recently and my mum called the police to arrest him. This is a serious matter o. The videos she posts on IG sickens me. Should i face my life and how i would get my own husband?  because my mum is already calling me old hag, saying I'm jealous of a young girls progress. I need my sisters life on track, my other sister in Canada has called and cried on the phone and is already giving up. What do you do, when you discover your baby sister does her own masturbation videos and sends to men for money?


But Stella dearie, please don't sit down and read comments on that your funny chair please, join hands with bv to help advise me, before i book a flight to Lagos and surprise my sister and mum( I need to talk sense into her and bring her here with me, i love her and i know she will go far, shes very beautiful and can earn a lot from modelling or acting, i have a lot of friends who could manage her, i don't want this high street runs life for her) *crying*  

I'm not jealous of my sister, and I can't mind my business because my heart wont let me. What do i do?




say what!!!!





OMG...Babe please i am too shocked to comment,i will comment when my shock is over in the comment section.I need to carefully re-read this again.









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    1. Look who is here!
      just remembered u like an Hour Ago and wondered where u went!

      Glad to have u back babyy!

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    2. Poster book r the next available flight to lagos, drag her to Abj if possible! Just don't leave her with your mum cause she will eventually live a wasted life. Good luck

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    3. Awwww, been extremely busy with an addition (a baby girl).... Thanks for remembering me.

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    4. TGW i love u Nne.. pls dont be talking to dumb ppl who think this short passage is too long..

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    5. Omg!!! This is really a narrative.
      The 1st n most important thing is to pray 4 her to come to her senses n 'Keep talking'. Btw poster I didn't read where u said u hv taken her case to God. A girl of her age isn't a minor n as long as she is concerned ur mum is her no 1 fan wich 'seems' to her as d most impt thing. She stayed more wit ur mum who probably has been brain washing her alot of times so u may sound like a jealous sis or even an enemy of progress wich ur mum wud also hv concurred 2. My opinion is to keep talking n talking n praying n praying wit luv n giving her examples of 1 or 2 pple of who lived dt way of life n how it didn't pay off. You knw we all have a conscience n probably smday it jst dawns on her dt her way of life won't lead anywhere but destruction. Training a gurl child is difficult n even more difficult these days where men can do anything to confuse us gurls. And also if u try 2 b forceful abt it she may remind u that she is a grown up n that u both have ur lives to live wich is true cos sm1 at her age who Has also been washed to think that its easier to use wat u hv to get wat u wnt rather than wrk 4 it hmmm u really hv a bigggg role to play in changing dt mind set of hers . Always call her up n send her texts to show you care, hopefully she'll cm back 2 her senses. God bless

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    6. Poster: plz talk to her.....and pray 4 her ohh...cuz even if u talk to her so far as ur mum is behind her she mite tink wat she is doing is rite...if is possible to take her to abj even if it will b by force it wud b good...some modas I just evil tank God u did not fall for her trap......ur man will find u soon

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    7. Indigo, stop it. You are the fool.

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    8. Poster,u hv never commented on any post. Now you have brought ur story. What if no one comments?.
      Anyways,is your mum Mama G?. lol

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    9. Irene you're plain stupid

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    10. Madam, first and foremost, you should pray. Pray for her, tell God exactly what you want and then leave her in his hands.
      Secondly, the girls eye Don tear finish so what you'll do is talk to her, sometimes gra gra won't solve anything. Be calm with her ( with some knocks here and there to shift the brain to the correct position) and always advice her. Don't be over harsh. Its possible she's even doing all these things because she wants to please your mum. Just show her love and show her a lot of care.


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      Dear ladies, no girl snatches your boyfriend...... The boyfriend chose to go!!!!!!
      @Mosi_Tash_Jazzy

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  2. Some mothers are worse than a devil!
    Dear poster,I will advise you to think of yourself for once,ignore your bad mother and your wayward sister.All you need to do is to pray for them and focus on yourself.
    May God help them both!

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    1. In these times of HIV? Hian!

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    2. Yea I agree with u


      Club in PH where Ladies take off their Clothes to Entertain Customers

      PH city has decided to take entertainment to the next level
      WATCH HERE

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    3. The poster is a kind hearted person, but if I may say, the damages has been done beyond your own reparation. Face your life, let your sister and mum face their life. You should be more concern on how to get marry and have kids. God even knew you've done your best, thanks goodness, not all your younger ones are that wayward. There's no how you will do it that there won't be one among you who will follow your mum's step. My own cent is, stay away from them till you've sorted your life out first or you came to this world because of them? Assuming she's pregnant now, what would you do? Abort it or keep her with you still?

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    4. @starry larry, if u can sit back and watch ur blood continue ruining her life then u must be a really wicked person

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    5. Posters mother is making money from the mixed girl cause she knows that's what sells. Too bad , when she realizes her mistake it'll be too late. Poster take her to God in prayers and go to Lagos DNS speak to her when your mum is not around.

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    6. If you see this send me an email, give me Ur sisters details I will become her friend and believe me I'm even sure I know this girl cus I stay in lekki and I'm into club bizness, I will tell her stories that she would end up crying and come over to Abj and be with you on her own, I have a cousin sister like her and my gfs younger sister was doing same thing she complained to me I put the girl through various therapies that she had to move back to delta to stay in her parents house and concentrate on her school and now she just completed her nysc , my gf was asking how I did it cus the girl started from queens college to igbinidion and there dad is late and died when the sister was still very small and they don't have brothers .

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    7. Some mothers are not even worthy to be called mothers. Hmmm.

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    8. Poster,

      Please put her in ur prayers and thread with caution. I understand the zeal to help ur Lil sis, Buh trust me; she'll hurt u badly in this journey u wanna take.

      Be nice to her and focus on building ur own life. Take it or leave it, she'll be calling u names in her mind. She already has a bad orientation and is not ready to listen to ur criticisms for now.

      Let ur actions direct her, not ur words!!! Sometimes we are too stuck up in other people's business that we forget our own lives. God'll direct u on how to follow her without hurting ur own self.

      All d best

      Ps: u may want to look into what Ezenwanyi said. Ur family may sincerely need prayers for a breakthrough. This is Africa, things we can't explain happens sometimes. If u must do this, pls go the way of GOD ALMIGHTY!

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  3. Obara Jesus!!!

    What did I just read? ? Haa!!

    I don't know what to say.

    Lemme hear from experienced BVs.

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  4. you all should ignore ur mum and concentrate on talking to ur sister, keep talking to her, send her text messages, talk to her about ppl such lifestyles have ruined. you all should do an intervention (yea, like they do in those foreign movies). i wont advise u to go to lag now before both of them join hands and beat u up. wait till u have someone to go with then u can plead with ur sister to come live with u.

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  5. Haaa am speechless ooh,don't even know what to say,but that ur mama sha.

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    1. Those men you sleep with the n the DownLow couldnt buy you a computer after all the dick sucking? Did she ask your opnion on her mother or how to fix her mother's life? She clearly stated she has turned her life around, so which one is before all of you will follow suit. Calm down to understand what you read/ before you respond...Oh! You always reply with a dick in your mouth,that's why! To even think you went to school to study anything computer related is appalling beacuse the internet footprints you leave is terrible! You call someone a whore when you know damn well your life on the DL is worse than that of a whore. Boy please! Go suck a dick!

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    2. Lmao! @always reply with a dick in your mouth. Cant deal! I wish I read what this gpharm typed that incurred anon 15:20's wrath....so hilarious. Wikid entertainment

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  7. Your sister has chosen the life she wants. Your mom will definitely not let her follow you, even if you appear in Lagos this evening. But you can still give it a try and if she decides not to oblige, let her be. It will be recorded before God and man that you have tried your best. She will learn from her own mistakes and I hope by then it will not be too late for her. The kind of mothers some people have ehn.

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    1. *sigh* let me begin with my own point of view. The idea is that ur mum has orientated her on the way u made success. That's first. The truth is that, there is a cause somewhere in ur bloodline and with me reading all you've said, you don't sound like a religious person and that's the problem. Sometimes we need to pray to cure and clean something. Ok...onto the next. this girl is beautiful? Fine. Ok. You're 35 and financially stable, I bet you're also mentors to some people out there which u myt not know. Ok. Don't go to lagos and drag anybody, it just won't work....like me, i'm stubborn and no sibling can force me to do what I don't want to do. *note that*. what I will advice is communication. You're a big sister, you should have scopes and experiences. Don't shout at her, call her, message her...cook stories for her that will make her sympathise with u or ur friend's situations. she's a girl, she'll eventually understand. One thing with private university girls are they like to form one big thing...you're a lady, you should know how to turn her around. don't shout, don't bully. Be matured. Well I have lots to say bt right now it's impossible. Ba3 is draining. Latr

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  8. Idiegwu...
    Chaiii...how can a 20 year old who does not seem to lack the basic things in life be selling herself to men and the worse part is that ur mum is the chief supporter.
    Just go to Lag one more time and talk to her, if she refuses, let them be. Don't drag or force her to Abj, she's not a kid.
    May God help you and bless you with your own husband

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  9. SO SORRY PRAY SERIOUSLY ABOUT IT BEFORE TAKING ANY ACTION

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  10. Sorry hun.
    Don't give up.
    Pray for her before taking any actions. I never saw in your narrative where u said you have tabled her matter before God. Do that first. Take time out to fast for her. Also do deliverance to break d curse your mum made on you.
    God is still in the business of doing wonders.

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  11. Eyaaaaa those conclusions brought tears to my eyes...

    It's good you still wanna help your sister retrace her steps but really she has gone way to far.... Thank God your other siblings are doing well. If thatz the last option, you can go take her from lagos but if this doesn't work, even heaven knows you have tried your best.

    I wonder why she choosed to behave like that! So all the fees@covenant jst went down the drain? Smh

    God will give you your own husband.....cheers

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  12. Ur Mother is an Eze Nwanyi!!!
    She defied her spiritual backers and that was d reason for her badluck with men.

    U are also an Eze Nwanyi, but U ain't handling this matter well....

    Ur family is under spiritual bondage and unless U break it, nothing good can come out from Ur family.

    D guy U dumped, don't be surprised he does legit business, but those "people" made U paranoid !!!

    Go and meet with a spiritual person, I don't mean charlatan pastors or ashawo priest oo.....U need an exorcist priest or U go through an Eze Nwanyi but those Eze Nwanyi can also compound Ur problems.

    If U ve questions, I will answer U.

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    1. What are you saying?

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    2. Have you used your meds today ezenwayi? You are fast going off again madam!

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    3. Ezewanyi anuanagbegbe yana tan nii ,you will kill sombori one day

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    4. Ezenwanyi are you talking from experience? Becausr you are Ezenwanyi too

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    5. Haaaa! E no get wetin persn no go hear 4 ds blog o

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    6. Anon the person she is talking to understands.

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    7. Eze, I am not the poster but my story is somehow similar and I have been told to see a spiritualist but I have been duped in the past.can you help me pls? Stella pls help me in God's name.

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    8. Her comment cracked me up

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    9. what does an ezewanyi mean?

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    10. Juju priest??,do they even exist? Apart from movies sha. Anyway poster, better pray to your God o. Don't go anywhere like that o, better go to a bible believing church for counselling and prayers. You can go and see any pastor in Winners for prayers. Counselling is everyday. They'll advice and pray with you. Its well o.


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      Dear ladies, no girl snatches your boyfriend...... The boyfriend chose to go!!!!!!
      @Mosi_Tash_Jazzy

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    11. Ezenwanyi you have spoken and you have spoken well. I have a question for you, two of my suitors died as soon as we fix a date a marriage, we have gone everywhere but it's pretty much the same, what else can I do because I have another one that wants marry me by easter. Urgent biko

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    12. What is killing them???
      Family deity???
      Spiritual husband???

      ...are U d only one affected in Ur family???
      Which part of Nigeria are U from???

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  13. No b msfrancesca for ig??friends with mildbear

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    1. Sigh! Both handles u mentioned are on private *crying* lol

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    2. I knew someone from here would surely know the sis on IG.Poster,pray for her & continue talking sense into her head.I know how you feel,i have a younger bro who wants to live life as he wants,we have talked & talked but still he seems to be getting worse.My mum says we should continue praying for him,that he'll change some day.So keep praying for your sis,God will intervene.

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    3. francesca didnt go to covenant and she lives in ph and schools in owerri. definitely not her.

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  14. Oh come take à hug darling!

    CHAI....
    AND some mothers pray for sensible children and dis one wants to destroy her children!

    Why is Life cruel??
    buh Poster darling,dry Ur tears and listen up.

    You wil do what u can do to Save Ur sis before its already too late.cos as it is now,e don dey late small small...
    U can do this Boo!

    Ur mom isnt behind u on dis....

    buh Ur brother and sister are
    and we Ur blog fam are too!
    God and His Angels are rooting for u to Save Ur Beautiful sister.

    So u see?
    You can do dis Boo! U can!
    and u know wot? All dese pains wil be à thing of d past...amen.

    Ur Boo of life sball locate u and u Two Shall live happliy ever after....amen
    Ur kid sis wil be saved ok?

    Just know dis....
    One With God Is Majority!..

    I am cheering for u Baby!!!

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    1. You can talk ehnnn.
      Chai.
      I just love you.


      Poster, you know the comments to ignore and the ones to heed, Yeah?

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    2. Nwunye General nwanyi oma kedu ije?
      Saw your shout out but was too busy to reply.Thanks for checking up on me darling. May God continue to bless and prosper you and yours. Keep keeping it real with your wise comments.
      Love you much.#Hugs#

      Poster go to Lagos just to satisfy curiousity but i doubt if she will agree to come with you.
      My advice is that you keep praying for her and your mum.
      Focus your energy on realising your own dreams. You owe yourself a duty to be happy first hopefully God will touch their hearts someday and they will change for the better. It is well with you poster.

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  15. Hmmm nawa oo ive heard of similar stories before. Dont know what to say but that your mama no be mama. Na to go lagos drag your sister. God help you

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    1. Some people are stubborn o, trust me. Force won't work. Since she genuinely cares, she should be soft on the gal.

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  16. I love your mum...
    She's the hottest mum in town
    Worth emulating
    I so love her
    You yourself are a sore loser
    An angry spinster that has nothing more to offer other than envy...
    Let your sis enjoy her youth n chop any rich bastard's money!

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    1. Are you okay?

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    2. Jesus wept. I don't believe this came out of your mouth.

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    3. Babe I thought u re an angel... Hmmm

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    4. Your husband sha ....greet him for me his trying

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    5. Mamie oh Mamie.. onye mere gi ihe a.. anwugo since.. No mekwatalism again

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    6. Why in this world would stella endorse your comments??? I don't get it, how old are you? You act like a child.. Lord! I wish you stayed somewhere in London and i swear to God i will pay you a visit and deal with you the way your materialistic mum refused to.. God! U make my skin crawl!

      *am out*

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    7. Cocaine is working at Mamie Water

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    8. Errhm, I think her acct was hacked!

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    9. Mami water, you are a tramp,you make me puke! Damn

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    10. Give that advice to your daughter ok.

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    11. When you have a daughter, give her that advice. Are you sure you are alright? Nawa 4 u

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  17. What kind of deal does your ex do?i have seen your kind of mum that owns beer parlour in lag.hmmmmmm,let me be sincere to you.discuss with ur sis in Canada so she can carry her over.for now try to move ur sis to Abuja but pls dnt fight your mum just be wise about it

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    1. Efe, dicus wit who? To take who to Canada? She will just go der and seduce canada sista's husband...biko let dem not compound diia problems...dey shld find her solution her in naija witt prayers

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    2. Which Canada? She'll just maybe go and sleep with her sister's husband o.

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  18. This one pass my jurisdiction

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  19. Leave her for now and continue to pray for her to come back to her senses and I know God will answer ur prayers. No matter wat u do now she can't change bcos ur mummy is supporting her and u know her thought will be mother can't be wrong. God will give u ur own husband face ur life.

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    1. This is the best Advice so far @ poster leave them alone and concentrate on your self, believe me those scales would fall off your 'step' sisters eye one day, and she will come begging.

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    2. True, even if you take her to Abuja will it change anything. She will make your life unbearable to the extent you kick her out or she leaves to continue her akunakuna in Abuja. HBP is real my dear, if you die na your mama go inherit all you labour for and not mourn you. So please face your lane and maintain it with prayers. It cost nothing to ask God for intervention which is what you need now. Stay strong.

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    3. Spot on @oluwatoyin. Poster pls take it to God in prayers. Take care dear.

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    4. If she moves to Abuja she will become worse. Cos na senators she go begin follow. Give your life to Christ. Pray for her. You cannot change anybody.

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  20. Poster,leave your mum and sister alone and start fighting for your own happiness...
    Focus on your own life biko....
    Puberty is still shacking your sister and she will get her self when it's late....
    There is nothing you will do now that will make her change...and she will soon start insulting you on top of it...

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    1. May God forbid. She won't get herself late. Why do ppl always think by the time one gets himself/herself it's always too late?

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    2. Poster, you need to be extra careful with this. She already has a deep root in this thing so getting her out won't be easy but it's possible. Someone of her nature can actually follow you down to abuja and paint the town red, green, yellow and black. If she doesn't see the wrong in the things that she does, there's little you'll be able to do.
      This might seem cliché but pray for her. Its only God that has all our hearts in His hands and can break us and remould us again.

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    3. Gospel thruth.

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    4. Chikito a.k.a FinalSay22 February 2015 at 11:08

      Thanks for this. You have said the truth.

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  21. Hmmm sad story...live and let live...your sis is an adult at 20, you can't change people no matter how hard you try...it's her life, her choice, her call....let her live it however she chose to...you can only try which you already did...let it go and face your own life...people close to us will always live out the fate they signed up with God...you can only try...C'est la vie....

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  22. Sorry to say,but your mother isn't fit to be called a mum..she is a bad influence to your sis..thank God you resisted her ways..just got me thinking about a naija movie,where Patience acted like your mum n d girl in question was Stella Damasus..despite the advice from her sis and dad..she insisted on following her mum..@ d end,she learnt her lessons..back to the ish..go to lagos and get your sis..before she messes up herself,blames ur mum and maybe kill her(God forbid)..get her out of lagos..and bring her 2 stay wit u..she needs some serious talking to..for Christ's sake,she is just 20..Success dearie..

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  23. My dear,there is nothing too small for God to do,bring it to him in prayer,look for a way to talk to ur sister alone(without ur mum's consent) together with ur sister,d one in canada,put her on phone,do not paint her black instead talk sense into her,hold her if possible,let ur emotion show,explain to her d danger ahead,and dat she can make it without dat life she is living,and also look for a strong man of God to join u in prayer,and I bet u will come back here to give us testimony,yes testimony! Be strong dear

    ********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*********

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  24. Hian - family drama. this one don pass advising someone to b e careful. Make I siddon abeg and put on my thinking cap. I no fit shout.

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  25. Na wa O! Abeg make I read comments. Oriegwu!

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  26. Poster the best u can do is direct her 2 God by praying fervently for her. She's too deep into it and u just can force her out. She's an sdult already n with d support of ur mum she's so covered. If u like shout frm nor till eternity it won't change a pin. The only thing that can change that girl now is "a narrow escape from death". Yes I said it, cos she now belong 2 d category of people who only learn from their own mistakes. Just keep praying and sending her msgs with sweet words of advice. God will do it 4 u. Trust if u force or try 2 nag her out it will only get worse.

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  27. I sincerely don't know what to say.

    *deep sigh*

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    1. Manna bee, me just type the one I fit type. You can drag the horse to the river or water hole but you can't force it to drink. My two kobo. How na, hope you're good.

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  28. Wow! Let me read comments first.



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  29. This life! Please she needs God intervention

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  30. Dear Poster, u really have a big heart, God bless u 4 dat. D way ur sister has gone can only be returned back to normal with deliverance. May God save you people from your evil mother.

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  31. i need help...i am in a tight situatin
    i need money to pay for my course reg and materials...it costs 30thousand naira
    i av only 5thousand...
    please someone...anyone help me

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  32. In life, we all need to be taught a number of lessons by experience. Am afraid there is nothing you can do to change her. She has already imbibe what she has being taught, that is, her principles in life are already written on her conscience. It will take reorientation to help her. This, only experience can do.

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  33. Ur mum is a wicked selfish woman but den ur lil sis is not a baby,I bet u she had dat tendencies and luckily for her she has ur mum's support and shadow to hide under!my advise :pls leave her alone,dont go to lag for this issue,they might lock u up too like they did ur bro.let her be!infact don't talk to her abt d issue again ever,act like nothing is happening but be on ur knees praying fervently for them.
    Wish u all d best

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  34. What a story!

    What a douche of a Mother!

    Poster, concentrate on living your life.

    Your porn star sister is already set in her ways.
    She's far too gone.

    Visit occasionally and keep advising her but I doubt you will make any change in her lifestyle.

    Your mum groomed her for too long.

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    1. Nobody, I repeat, Nobody is ever far too gone .

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    2. Gold scent is so right.. Poster even if you go to Lagos, tie her up and drag ha back to Abuja with you.. It wont change a thing.. Someone who is already a porn star and bcos of the colour of her skin her business will be booming.. until she has a near death experience will never listen or believe anything you say.. Unless you can take her for deliverance.. I will say forget u have a Mother and Sister and move on with ur life ..

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    3. @ Indigo,Buh she can at least TRY.

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  35. Omg!! What what is happening??? @posterI feel your pain dear.. there's nothing you can do but pray to God for a change of heart from what I read above!!
    Some children do have some mothers like that!! Its such a sad situation!! I am happy you made those decisions too.
    Sending you my heart felt prayers as well * be strong!!

    **listening to fighting temptations***

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      Meanwhile, get a blog I'D let's do this face to face or still I can send you my house address so we can settle scores!! *kish**

      ** listening to take me to church **

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  36. Oriegwu!. @poster, yes u should go to Lagos and talk sence in to her head but taking her with u, am not sure she will follow u. Remember you can force a horse to the river but u can't force it to drink water. Keep praying for her, nothing is impossible for God

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  37. Ms Bee says;

    (1) Go and get your sister, damn the consequences! Although you shouldn't have let her become an adult without being extremely close to you first that she should be able to confide in you no matter how gross the secret may be....

    (2) If you want to go about this the longer and more effective way, I suggest you try building your relationship with her one step at a time, let her begin to trust you, don't judge but don't support the lifestyle either. Help her financially and influence her little by little... start from her fashion upwards towards mingling and getting to know her friends then gradually she can now begin to depend on you the same way she does with your mum... morally your mum and you to a certain degree are to blame for her exposure you were with someone who lavished you with money that brought you respect and adulation from your mum, she is only trying to do the same seeing that you have been in the same shoes font try anything rash because it will backfire... anyways Goodluck to you and if your business is hiring in future please post on sdk blog, I need a job

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  38. Nawa o. U should keep talking n talking. Don't ever stop advicing her, am sure one day she will av time n think about all u av told her, she will see d better part, ur side or ur mums. U may go to lag now n de will gang up n beat u. So it may not be a good idea. Just keep praying fr ur mum n ur sister n never stop calling to advice her. I wish u goodluck in finding ur ideal man soon. Take care.

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  39. Wow! Sweetheart, you've come a long way indeed! If I understand you correctly, your major concern is whether or not to intervene in your baby sister's life? Because there seem to be a lot of issues intertwined in your story, so I'll address that of your sister's.‎

    Honey, you have to be very patient and understanding with your baby sister. You wouldn't get the desired results with hostility and anger. Remember that lifestyle is all she knows and your mum is an enabler. When a mother supports her daughter's decisions, good or bad, it's more of a challenge breaking one from the grip of the other. Your sister is an adult and will  become more obstinate if you treat her like a child, she may even shut you out of her life. You have to be tactful. You can't force waywardness out of a person who enjoys the life style. Let's face it, it's her life anyway. This is another case where tenderness is more effective.

    Try to purge yourself of all resentment towards your sister. Start by being her friend, call or text her regularly to let her know you care. When she sees your concern is genuine, she'll begin to open up and let you into her life. You can then invite her over to spend some weekends with you. This is not the time to be judgmental, take her out and show her she can have fun with her legs closed. Play the big sis' role perfectly till you break down all her defences. Then and only then should you start advising her to lead a more responsible life. You too must may sure your life is on track and you can be a role model to her. It's only logical that your feet are planted firmly before you stoop to pull someone up, lest you fall. If you succeed in winning her over, your mum's hold on her will be ineffective. ‎

    Like Sun Tzu said, "the wheels of justice ginds slow but grind fine". Be patient, it may take a long time but it certainly will be worth it. In the interim, keep praying for her and your mum. It will end in praise. 
    #e-bearhugs. ‎

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    1. Rubbish as usual.

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  40. Am speechless.... How can a mother scatter her family?? My dear poster, there is nothing you can say to your sister that she would believe because she has tasted the money and she now believe your mum is her angel.. God sent.

    I would advice you seek for God's face and intervention because you sister goes down the bad drain...

    Chi zoba anyi .....

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    1. Without wisdom, plenty ignorance and the devil taking lead, people can sscatter hood things, may GOD protect us in JESUS MIGHTY NAME, AMEN

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  41. Oh my God!!! Lord have mercy!

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  42. Poster I think the guts your sister has is courtesy ur mum and she won't realise the part she is trading until she wants to cause she is the only person that can advice herself not you or your siblings. I know of a girl that had a similar experience and it was a near death experience that made her change her mind. Just pray for her.

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  43. poster is really a pity at the kind of behaviors that your mother exhibit but what can you do to her.pls just know that your man will come at God's appointed time.just continue being happy and live your life.be happy and prayerful.for your sister pls just go to Lagos with hefty men that will help you hold your mum without hurting her; while others bundle your sister into the car; sit with her till you reach abj.let two guard her in the house and also when she goes out. with specific instructions on where to go and no man should come near her.let her not stay out past 6 pm.as she stays with you; always talk to her and counsel her. make her see reason And always ask her if this is the kind of life she wants.before you go to Lagos; if your mother knows where you live and where you do your businesses; change all addresses. change your home and shop in order for your mother not to come disturbing. you have to go that extra mile. then when you want to travel to Lagos; don't tell her so that everything will be done swiftly. take care

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  44. Loool, abeg what's her handle? I don't send all these instagram babes anymore. Majority of them are runners. How are they funding their lifestyles?
    There are too many failed parents in this country. That's why we are like this as a nation. The value systems have been destroyed and parents are not passing anything good to their children. Your mother is an allout money grubbing whore, but even the so called decent' parents aren't teaching their children any better. I suggest you leave them to their fate and help the ones who want to be helped. After all, the hoes are marrying billionaires even though they are crying from beatings, diseases and side chicks

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  45. Dear poster,
    All you need do is pray. Was once like your sister, not as bad but not good either. I did things! But God must have heard someone's prayers (probably my mom) cause I've seen the light. I can't explain it but believe me I'm not the same person that I was before.
    I pray God puts your sister in the right path.

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  46. Stella abeg correct your English na. Don't you know how to spell shocking

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  47. Chai...as in I dunno what to say. My dear u can't abandon her o,ur sister needs u more than ever so pls book that flight to Lagos now n go save ur sister. Ur mum also needs to be put in her place cuz whatever she's doing affects u also..for now just save ur sister pls.

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  48. My dear, talk to your sister once more. If she refuses to listen,let her be so she can learn from her mistakes. you know experience is d best teacher.She would reap where she has sown n realised what a wasted life she has lived.Then she wld be ready to leave a decent life.Just pray for her as often as possible.

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  49. this is the first time I would comment for the past 1 year I discovered sdk blog, please poster concentrate on urself and allow your sister, your life cant be in a standstill becos of your family, your sister is an adult at that age n would definitely come around(hope it wont be late thou)but pls concentrate on urself, find love and have a family, With God all things are God ...God be with you.*******Asasty*******

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  50. You'll have to quit condemning her to her face if you want to win her over.
    This is a tricky situation and you need a tricky plan.
    First go and apologize b to your mum. Make her feel you're sorry for always going against her wish. Tell her you still love her.
    You need to gain her trust. She needs to trust you're on her side. That's the only ground she can influence your lil sister to atleast visit you.
    Dampen the option of she coming to live with you immediately, negotiate on a 2 weeks visit.
    In that visit you can arrange with those model manager friends of yours to put the prospect of modelling to her. They'll pint the finest picture for her to believe.
    If she gets a catch while on visit, don't ever condemn her but show her love.

    May I also add that you need to learn(learn because first daughters always have that over selfless spirit) also to concentrate on your own self.
    You need to engage in prayers as well. There's someone for you out there all you need is for that divine connection.
    And know that you can't afford to go into a man's home with all this baggage so you need to start letting go in your spirit even as you help.

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    1. You are so on point

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    2. Beg her mother, you no read say the woman na die hard whore groomer. The mother till date refused to reverse the curse placed on her after much begging and explanation, the lady received hot slaps trying to do so. She should let the mother be biko... A woman who refused to mend her ways at her age will reap all the evils she planted.

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    3. Arianna,y wont i love u more..ehug

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    4. This is good arianna i just love your reply. More wisdom i pray your way ljn amen.

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  51. Even if you decide to take her to abuja,that will not change anything,might continue even when she gets to abuja,canada or any where,just keep praying for her and make sure you check on her from time to time,advice her and make her see reasons with you that there is no gain in that life she has choose for herself,i pray for God's intervention upon her life.it is well.

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  52. Ihe n'eme shaa
    I don't think your sister will listen to you..She's at the peak of her life nd rocking it well
    Just keep saying your prayers,God will arrest her soonest

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  53. Try being friends with her first because I believe you are not close to her. Let her.trust you and stop castigating her. When you see that she trust you by confiding in you, you can start talking to her gently about her ways.

    Lastly, pray for God's intervention.

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  54. a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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    Ur mum is the devils incarnate i swear.....
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    ***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***

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  55. Better leave her in Lagos. You want to bring her to Abuja where she will service all the politicians abi? If you think she's bad in Lagos, you think she will become a saint in Abuja abi? Poster leave matter for Matthias. When she runs to you for help, just be ready to accept her.

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  56. Omo mehn! This your mother is a sorry case! @Poster, u obviously have a good heart to even consider the welfare of your sister. But I'm afraid, she might not be able to change just like that. Where u stay (abuja) is another place where she can continue her runz even on a higher level if u are not around with her most of the time.

    I would suggest u try to establish a rapport with her first so she can be convinced u are doing this out of love and not envy. Its not something that can be done so fast! Its a gradual process.

    Meanwhile, don't forget to pray and then!!!! Find a way of making ur mum reverse that curse, even it means pretending to be concerned about her.

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  57. Taking her to Abuja will not solve the problem. She's already in- deep in what she is doing. Living with you in Abuja might even make her have richer clients. You should always pray for her and give her words of advise without castigating her. Unfortunately, something shocking will have to happen for her to change then she will begin to see things differently. Goodluck!

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  58. Poster i have come to understand that in this life from the age of 18 you are responsible for yourself ,you have tried your best for your family ,face your life ,leave them alone .

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  59. Hmm ridiculous,what a mother do something fast to save the life of your sister.biko nunu

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  60. Keep praying and fasting for your Sister and Mummy.
    Invite your Mummy's relative to speak to her.
    Talk to Men of God to stand in gap for them.
    Keep advising your sister and Mummy as well, I no soon or Later she will regret all her Actions. I pray by then it won't be too Late.
    Its Well.

    God will bless you soon with your own companion.
    E Hug in the voice of TGW

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  61. And lastly if u bring her to abuja you won't use rope to tie her at home na... She wld Kuku be inviting her clients over to the house......

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  62. Abuja ke! Abuja is centre of business na , Biko poster listen nd listen good, only a " Near death experience can change her" pls keep praying while u concentrate on ur life bikonu. Pls I beg u in God's name u have just prayers to offer trust me don't go wasting moni for ticket.

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  63. I think you should do all you can to help her get out of that lifestyle. If you feel bringing her closer to live with you, away from the influence of your mother will help, then do it.

    Discuss with, and enroll the help of your other siblings in your plan, so it doesn't seem you are alone in this, trust me, such task can be overwhelming.

    If you have trusted male role models around you (Your sister's husband, your brother's trusted friends - emphasis on the word "trusted") get them to talk to her from a male's perspective; a part of this probably resulted from not having a good male influence in her life to counteract the mother's bad influence. Make sure you do all you can do within your power to help her, but most importantly pray, pray and keep praying for her. If you can fast, do that also.

    I have been in situations before ( Not this bad though) where I had so much concern for a younger sibling who was going in the wrong direction, I kept talking to her and did all I could, but prayer was the best weapon, trust me it works.

    When you have done all that you can and still no change, let her be, afterall you have your own you life to live. Whatever you decide to do, continue to pray for her.

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  64. Is the gire above 18? Yes, let her be...get ur own man and make your own family

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  65. God knows I don't know what advice to give right now.
    But I pray God visits your mum and sis and turn things around in their lives.
    Poster you are really a strong person.
    Pray for both of them while you continue talking to your sister.
    Find time and concentrate on your life too.

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  66. Pray for her , also keep in touch with her daily, just to show love. Avoid criticizing her often.

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  67. It is only the hands of God that can turn things around in this situation.am sorry to say there's something like a foundational curse in your family.go for deliverance and then get yourself closer to God,you have to be able to redeem yourself first before you can redeem others.if you don't mind you can visit redemmed church (central parish) just by Glo every Wednesday from 11,30 to 1ish,trust me you won't regret it.There is God there,your life will give you a new meaning,Try it and testify .

    Nwanyi Owerri

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  68. Wide eyed gave an advice full of wisdom.

    Well my dear, being materialistic doesn't happen overnight. Most often it's due to rejection. And you have to note that words are spirit and can be sowed into your spirit if you are not a christian with discernment. I have met several materialistic people and they words they have spoken. I reject in Jesus Name. Some are aware of what they are doing some are not. Most of them are Jezebels some don't even know they carry that spirit some are aware and those ones who r aware I call them witches or wizards or mermaids.
    Yes a lot of them are strange women as they always put it.
    Living with your mum that has that stronghold it's not strange that the same spirit is lurking in your lil sister. Who knows the pressure she entailed from your mother. Some mothers might become mean to manipulate you. I always note that the youngest sibling always has this tendency to want to fit in. My sister just because you had courage and resistance doesn't mean your sister has.
    The only thing that can break your sister is Love and Love from God. Praying for her and your Mum. Midnight prayers, Break the spirit of lust. Command the spirit of lust to get out of your family. Lust also entails materialism. Command the spirit of poverty perversion. Be consistent in taking communion. Jesus is next to you so be conscious you are redeem and blessed. No beating will control your sister. Peace and Love to you all. You can say Ps91 X10 and Ps140 X10 straight on daily basis and thank God Ps150 x10. Stop fornicating also. There is no difference btwn your fornicating and masturbatin they all fall under sexual perversion. The Lord will give you strength + wisdom. The reason I said you should say those prayers ten times is because words are spirit and the word of God counteracts all lies of words sowed into your spirit and your love ones. God bless

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    1. God bless you for this comment
      Poster please your sister is under the influence of the spirit of lust
      Break the power of the devil over her life and you too repent, Fornication and masturbation are d same
      Poster come and read this comment

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  69. my advice is that you leave all of them and concentrate with your life.you cannot live anybody's life for them .dont give yourself high b.p for nothing.your mom has lived her life.once in a while talk to your sister and advice her.you can take the horse to the river but cant force it to drink the water.those things you tell your sister will one day touch her especially if you leave her alone.you keep disturbing her,you become a pest in her lie she will hate.just keep praying and focus on your life. i understand you want a perfect family but life's not what you always want.concentrate on your life,so you can be healthy for your husband and kids when things come around.believe me there are worse mothers and siblings than what you've just said.at least you can still voice yours.somepeopel's own are so bad they cant open their mouth to say it.LIVE YOUR LIFE AND PRAY FOR THEM. BE THEM FOR THEM WHEN THEY NEED YOU NO MATTER WHAT.STAY IN ABUJA.DONT BOTHER GOING TO LAGOS.PRAY FOR YOUR OWN FAMILY SO YOU CAN PUT THIS MUCH ENERGY IN THEM.

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  70. Your mum na case study ......your sis needs mountain of fire in her life.

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  71. A very dicey situation. Your sister is no longer a kid and you can't force her to go with you. Apparently your mum has brainwashed her in using what she has to get what she wants, which is not always the case. Another thing is that if you drag her to Abuja, it might turn out to be your undoing cos she might put you in trouble. Bringing all sorts of human beings to your house. You will eventually fall out with her. She needs to change by herself and for herself. Na only God can arrest her case. Try and be calling her up at any possible time you have. Keep speaking with her. Play the ' good cop, bad cop' thingy with her and with time she will look up to you as a mentor or something of that nature. Good luck.

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  72. As long as your sister is under your mother's roof, she will not change (for now). Mothers have strong influence on their children than fathers.

    Plan with a rich man in Abuja to woo her and bring her there, then you can take over. There is nothing God cannot do. Many mothers have destroyed their children's lives. I wish you success in this endeavor. Rose

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  73. Poster your sister is far gone, and truth us it will take the grace of God for her to change her ways. Unfortunately you did not mention if you were a born again christian. I would have said you should go on your kneels and pray for deliverance for yourself first then your family. Bringing your sister to Abuja will only worsen the situation as Abuja is a much bigger environment for her to explore her internet porn. And if I may ask, are you bringing her to just come and stare at your face or do you have something that can replace her present lifestyle.

    Travelling to Lagos will change nothing as you can't force her. There is nothing God cannot do, only if you can go on your kneels and pray.

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  74. Poster, one thing I want you to know is that your sister is an adult and your mother wants to live her life through her.

    I will advise you to concentrate on your own life for now and simply put her in your prayers. Go for deliverance at MFM to cancel the curse your mother placed on you. This is beyond your physical power, let GOD fight the battle for you. You should still be in contact with her to know how she fares. Best of luck.
    Nitty.
    www.thenitty-gritty.com

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  75. @Poster; What/whom do you believe? Have you known Jesus; if so this kind of matter calls for fasting. Really, you sister is an adult and your brother wasn't right to have "slapped her" no matter how wayward she has become. Praying, fasting . . . advice, that's the way to go. Pray also for your mother. Taking a flight to Lagos and yanking off your sister to Abuja may spell doom; for there are very high class "runs" in Abuja; the political levels of it!

    @Stella; it is high time you "delete" that "Marmie" from you comments. What crass irresponsibility; Yuck!

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  76. Ur mum has seen hell to get u guys a life. She sold her dignity by avin kids for diffrnt men as her own "lock down"... Aunty poster, nt every1 shld b holy like u. U chse to do tins rite,may God help ur family....fce ur business,wen d time cms,its nt u who wld see hell.

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  77. Dear poster,you are too judgemental!
    See where ur self righteousness has landed you.You were once married to a man who was successful in shady deals but you left him after saving his ill gotten wealth for yourself!Pls stop judging your sis and ur mother aka kris Jenner,they are enjoying their life...go and get married and stop feeling like a saint!You want single male Bvs to patronise you but no man would want to end up with a self righteous bitch like you.
    And b4 I go, don't even think of taking your sis to Abj oh,her market go sell too much!All the politians who are obsessed with half caste babes will rush her. Find your own way and stop being jealous!

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    1. Having a heart to see that the shameful path her sister is taking will lead to disaster is not a bad thing, it is selfishness that is gradually ruining this world whereby even siblings will throw way face when the other is grooving to destruction

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  78. Pray for her and ease up with the condemnation cos she's at a critical stage of life right now(peak period)... only God can change her,and ur mom too.
    Keep showing her love but forget about forcing her to leave with u for abuja....
    Oh dear,I really do feel for u...
    U hv a heart of gold,but then u must live ur life.... seek God,n allow urself to be found by a worthy man to marry u....

    XoXo,Sassy.

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  79. I wish I have s big sis that can pay my sch fees and take care of me the way you do to your little sis, most people don't value what they have until they loose it, I will advice you keep on talking to your sis and make sure you pray for them daily, things will get better in family by HIS GRACE.

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  80. Sweetie are you high on drugs or you are the sister in quedtiom because I don't understand this bitterness and anger. The poster is not a saint, because i want to ask her how she was able to do business and school in Nigeria university that she had more than enough to open a shop for her mother in balogun market before her 28 year old ex boyfriend expanded the shop into jewelry section. The business I know students do in schools is to meet basic needs, so I am interested to know so I can tell my cousin. Poster please help a fellow sister biko.

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  81. double wahala.


    www.udokajane.nlogspot.com

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  82. Ezewanyi is right on this: some ladies are suffering for the sins and mistakes of their parents and forefathers idol worshipping and covenants. Do you have sex in the dream? Do you see children in the dream? Do you see an image of a man in the dream? Do you eat in the dream? Are you given money in the dream? If you experience some of this, you have affiliation to the marine world. Depending from the river you were initiated to, some are very wicked! Mine was from the Mississippi river.They are known to be the most wicked! I underwent so many deliverance! I have seen Medusa. The trouble our parents and grand parents put us through, because of their ignorance is so annoying!

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