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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

FAMILY BROUHAHA AND THE CONSEQUENCES.

Good morning Stella,I was born June 1990,second child in a family of

five.(4 girls and the last born,a guy).my mum has a beer parlour and I

happen to be the only one of her children who works there everyday

since I was 8years old.

My mum and elder sister have always disliked me and every time my parents quarrel, my mum will take it out on me maybe because am a carbon copy of my dad..my elder sister wasn't allowed to stay in the shop cos she steals and lies.

After school,I must go straight to the beer parlour and we don't close till midnight.I was one of the dirtiest student cos I don't have time to wash my uniform but I was brilliant which made my sister hate me more cos my dad always praised me.I have been contemplating suicide since I was 10 cos I felt I was born to be a maid.

I gained admission in 2009,my dad opened a hotel 2010 after leaving the banking sector.while I was in school,my younger ones will call me on daily basis that they have not eating since cos my mum leaves the house without leaving a dime,my elder sister will tell them she can only sort for herself.I reported to my dad cos he had separated from my mum.

my dad and my elder sister also had a fallout cos he found out she was collecting triple of every school bills and she got pregnant the year she graduated.every holiday I come home,my mum and siblings will fight me.I came home finally in November 2014,I called a family meeting and apologised to every one that I had offended.

January this year, my dad opened another hotel and made me the manager of the old one since I usually work there every holiday and NYSC was

postponed till May.

I felt my life has ended,nobody ask me if I was interested,i work there 24/7,I dont even go to church again.sales is not really much and I have to struggle to send money to my two siblings in University cos this is our only source of income since the new hotel has not started selling well.my elder sister just comes everyday to collect feeding allowance,she is too spiritual to work in a hotel.

My uncle came last Week and said my elder sister told him that I want to

take her glory,I want to take her position,that she has told her

pastor and our neighbours yet she smiles and plays with me,i felt bad cos am struggling for my family yet they are plotting my downfall.

My mum cant help cos she is busy following PDP party all over and she said she

didnt come to this world with children.my school has started clearance

yet nobody has asked me anything,i don't have the money to pay,this

pressure is too much, from family, customers asking for sex (still a

virgin only by Gods grace) will I ever be free?who will want to marry

a  hotel worker. my life has ended.What do i do?

OMG!..I am at a loss for what to say!

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

INTERFERING IN LAWS AND THE CONSEQUENCES OF A CONFRONTATION

Hi StellaKORK

Thanks for this medium.You are doing a great job.

Please I need your advice and that of my fellow BV's

I got married just a year ago... same week we wedded my hubby younger

siblings (Twins. A boy and a girl.I am some months older than them. We are 26yrs ) moved in with us. They just finished schooling and were waiting for NYSC. At first I didn't want to bother cos I felt it will be for a while since their parents are buoyant enough and can afford to rent a place for them.

Hubby and i never discussed how to manage relatives while courting and I

didn't want to bring up the topic after our wedding cos they were already living with us and my take would have been ' No Live-in relation' which will automatically translate to 'send them away' .

First they will never help out with any chores in the house. I sweep, clean, go to market, cook, then they eat n leave the dirty dishes. I clear the sink. Most times the guy will come in very late take food from the freezer. After eating he will still keep all the dirty dishes on a cleared sink. I told hubby about that.  I guessed he warned them. But once hubby is out of town for business trips they start dumping dishes again. 

 I have even stopped complaining to hubby so he doesn't feel I have a problem with them. Then the boy started bringing different women to the house and will take them upstairs to the room where they spend hours.  I find it difficult to overlook that one. Hubby is not always at home when he brings them so if I tell DH to talk to him about it the boy will know I told him and might start acting

funny towards me. Am trying to avoid squabbles as much as possible among us. Told my mum about it,she just said I should continue being nice to them but I should pray to God to make a way so they move out of my home peacefully.

( lol...does God even as that kind prayer)

I hate that since I got married I have never had privacy in my home.Hubby and i are already living like old couple always having sex only in the room.Imagine them telling my mother in law that I don't cook often meanwhile DH was the one who advised me to always cook in bulk so I don't have to cook regularly. Ever since, I feel so uncomfortable before them. Most times when am with hubby now and they come downstairs I just leave them and go upstairs. Then I will now be fighting depression inside. before they will hear one and go and tell their family.

Just this Val that passed. Hubby called me to dress up that we are going out. Was so happy cos we haven't gone out on a date for a while.Only for me to enter the car to see his sibling at the back. Hubby told me they were bored so he decided to tag them along.

Stella I just stepped out and went back to the house. Sent him a text that when he's done having a date with them and still has time for me he can call me. He didn't reply. They drove out.i was in the house all alone crying my eyes out. They came back at night and none of them spoke to me. Next morning hubby started asking me why I acted the way I did. I didn't talk to him and kept on crying. He travelled but has told me that we needed to talk once he's back this weekend.

Please your advice I need now: should I open up all the way and tell him I no longer feel comfortable with his siblings living with us. Do i ask him whats his plans for them as they have already lived here for 13 months and still has up to one year of service. Will he think am an evil wife that's trying to come between him and his family? DH just acts like its cool cos am nice to them so i guess he doesn't know I do have a problem with there stay here.

And to think he has 2 elder sisters and 2 brothers all married,doing fine and living in the same lagos.why can't they even rotate.

Please I need your advice. I am always depressed ever since and we have been

trying to get pregnant and i am beginning to think my mood is not

helping matters.

The siblings haven't spoken to me Since that Saturday.

OMG...which kind Wahala be this?I cannot deal,i cannot deal oooh

so upset!....WTF.

Let me read comments cos if i advise you,i will do so out of anger.