Na wah!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
A CHRONICLE FOR MEN
Dear Stella,
Thanks for the good work you've been doing on your blog. I stumbled upon your blog two years ago and I've been hooked ever since.
I don't know where exactly this fits but all the same, I'll just make my contribution and allow you decide whether to post it or not, please I wish to remain anonymous.
I'm in a relationship with a very beautiful and matured lady (let me call her A), though with her flaws, she's all I want in a woman. I can proudly say I've found the one for me.
Before we became serious, I had known her for several months and she was in a relationship and we were just friends at first until her relationship ended. We were still friends but gradually got closer and all and she said no sex and I agreed. Then we began dating.
There was a time when we had a break and I met someone else (let me call her B) and we kind of bonded. We go to see movies, take ice cream, a few drinks here and there and stuff like that. We don't see often because of work but when we do, we really enjoy each other’s company.
In all this time, I never 'toasted' her because I didn't want to jump into something else when I still had an unresolved relationship.
I finally got back with my girlfriend and we were all good and I love her to the moon and back.
Now I met with B a few days ago. I had to lie to my girlfriend to be able to make the meeting and we just hung out. When I got home, I couldn't just shake the feeling that I just cheated on A and to what end. I just jeopardized my relationship with A while stringing B along for no good reason.
This brings me to the reason I'm sending this in. Guys, it is very easy for us to just mess up things for ourselves and our partners. When you have something good already going for you and you are not content, greed sets in. We let our friend’s talk and gist get to us and we finally throw away what we have while chasing shadows.
Anyways I've learnt my lesson and I'm hoping to pop the question real soon before she go go change her mind jor.
Have a great week Stella and BVs. Thanks for this opportunity.
*sides eyes*
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
WHEN THE SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH HURTS
Stella thank you for this platform. There's always a lesson to learn here. Please hide my identity.
Mine isn't about love, marriage or betrayals. I hope it won't bore the BVs. I'm born into a family of six. I'm the fourth and the only son. Recently, I've been wondering if I'm being foolish. It's a long story but I'll try to make it short.
My mom is the kind of mother anybody would wish for but she has a very ugly past. Out of the six of us in the family, only 2 have the same father. She wasn't lucky with marriage. Right now, I'm 32 but don't know who my biological father is. Don't know if he's dead or alive.
My siblings are all ladies so they don't seem to bother. But I'm a man and I'll be starting a family soon. What will I tell my kids? How do I even know the woman I'm going to marry isn't my blood sister since I don't know my father?
Now, I've tried bringing the issue up several times with my mom but it's always like driving a 6" nail into her heart and I hate to see her hurt. She won't tell me anything about the man's identity. She's too scared. I've talked to my pastor who is also my Uncle and he thinks I shouldn't dig. He thinks there's no need.
He used the bible to drive home his reasons. But Stella, Am I being foolish? Is there something I'm not doing? Should I step things up and care less about who gets hurt? Is the knowledge useless?
Well, I guess I'll leave my fellow BVs to answer these questions.
You should know that I'm currently not in talking terms with one of my sisters cos she learnt I went to seek advice from my Uncle concerning this. She blocked me off and deleted my number.
Stella I'm glad you've resumed commenting. Please do justice to this one.
Thank you.
There is something your mum is trying to protect you from ...the truth might shatter you so my dear,please let go and assume you do not have a father.
Your sis who deleted you probably knows something and hates that you are pushing your mum.let it go.
Just negodu
ReplyDeletePoster one. Since you have found the one. Do not let her go.
DeletePoster two. Im with stells on dis. Let sleeping dogs lie.
P1 u nor get problem
DeleteP2 just let it go cos u may not like what u find.
Poster 2, getting answers is very easy, you are the one dragging. One, take a knife to her throat and she will spill. Two, take a walk from home and threaten to never come back. One of these will work. It worked for me. I have a feeling your father is within your family. Good luck .
DeleteAnon@19:02 are you crazy or just encouraging madness,knife ke!what if it all goes bad and someone gets a "throatcut"and then we read a post on SDK that goes thus:Son decapitates mum over unknown father.I agree with you on the fact that father is likely a family member.He may not like what he finds.
DeleteMy thinking too. The supposed uncle/adviser might turn out to be the father. It will be in your best interest to know the truth now or be embarrassed in future(maybe during electioneering campaign)
DeleteThat uncle might be the father o. Hmmmmm!
DeletePoster 2 please dig and find out biko. I cant wish tht kind of psychological torture on anyone cos there is a void in ur life that u need to fill. If its so important to u then find out. If ur mums happiness is more important to u then leave it. When its time to marry do a blood test. Pele.
DeletePoster 2 please dig and find out biko. I cant wish tht kind of psychological torture on anyone cos there is a void in ur life that u need to fill. If its so important to u then find out. If ur mums happiness is more important to u then leave it. When its time to marry do a blood test. Pele.
DeleteI don't agree with you Stella. This man is an adult and as such deserves to know who his father is. The way the mind works is to keep starving it of information it seeks more. We all have some sort of curiosity about us. What exactly is his mom shielding him? Does it seek to embarrass her? It is his right to ask about his father especially as he is a man - nothing wrong with that. His mom is being very selfish! The day of reckoning is close by o.
DeleteLet him ask her even involve more family members and Pastors if need be. If any sibling or family member doesn't want to communicate with you anymore then that's fine! They are very manipulative anyway. Your mom has laid her bed and so she must lie on it while she still has time to adorn it with the finest linens!
Why do I feel like your 'pastor uncle' is your father....
DeleteNawa o
ReplyDeleteUna no go kill man pikin
My sweet Lord !You don't have problems biko;don't bore us with is again
DeleteIjeoma call me sharply...
ReplyDeleteJesus fix it.
ReplyDeletePosted 1 long hiss and don't try this next time.
ReplyDeleteThis is for people with serious issues not people who want to brag.
Na you sabi if you like don't pop the question, blow popcorn.
Poster 2 sometimes the truth don't always set us free. Mothers know best.
You're 32 not 2 years old, do you need sweets from daddy? If he cared about you he would have looked for you too.
The two comments/advice u wrote don't make sense doppelganger. Before u talk or comment put yourself in thee other shoes. Mumu
DeleteYes he's 32, the more reason why he can handle the truth. He didn't fall from the sky, he has a father and some people don't really give a damn about things like this while some do.
DeleteHis mum has done a great job raising 6 of them. All he needs is information, a name... What will he tell his kids? It's obvious the issue with his dad is causing mum a lot of pain but she need to also give her son some consideration.
My 2 kobo
Poster 2,...
ReplyDeleteWhy is your mum behaving that way?...it's like your biological father dealt with her..she should open up and tell you mehn...continue begging her...she might open up one of these days!...
Poster 2, i think you should let it go since ur uncle and sis have told you so. You could share your concerns and if they still insist then please let it go. May God be with you and see you through.
Delete@Poster 1, follow your heart.
ReplyDelete@Poster 2, it's better you let the sleeping dog be, the truth might break you down.
But if you insist, just have it @the back of your mind that, your father might be your grandpa, uncle or other close relative, I've seen such case. But to be candid, it's not easy @ your age, but take heart bro
*Larry was here*
Poster one, u r just being a man. Ya blokus is doing the thinking not ur head, excess Kongi is ur problem. *cheatinggenes
ReplyDeleteBut why should your born born six children to 5 different men!...am sure she is a Yoruba woman cos na dem dey foolish like this...
ReplyDeleteEwoooo...God this lady haff finish me with laugh
DeleteYou are foolish,I will not abuse your mother cos mine taught me well. But just know you are very foolish person.
Delete*your mom..
DeleteSo if his mom is yoruba then she is foolish right? I won't blame you cause the pregnancy you just carried to term is still affecting your brain. Stupid girl
DeleteHaahaa this Linda eh. When I saw your 1st comment I was like this one linda no abuse the person. Only for me to see this one lmao
DeleteAbi kalabara or brass woman
DeletePoster two! Tell ur kids ur dad is late. Are u from the riverine areas? Cos ur mom might not know who ur dad is. So pick a struggle.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, at 32 you are old enough to know the truth about your paternity. I hate it when parents keep unnecessary secrets. I'm kinda in the same boat with you, my mum won't give me the full details and am beginning to resent her for it. Always giving me bits and pieces. It pains me more cos all my other siblings look alike and am the different one, my mum was married though she only had me after her husband died and I still bear her husband's name. (Because according to the igbo culture, so long as my mum's bride price wasnt returned, im still her husband's child). I'm planing to rebel big time soon maybe then they will know how serious I am. I'm female btw
ReplyDeleteWhy are you disturbing yourself.
DeleteYou know your dad or his people . Go there and get details . Females usually have it easier as they marry and change names.
For men it's tougher . It's like being a bat . Not accepted as rat and not truly a bird .
Sometimes we need to remember that our mothers are human and were young once. Have you never done anything you were ashamed of? She may not be sure who the father is or he might have been a one-night stand. I know it's difficult but please don't bring sorrow and greater shame to that woman by pressing further. Please.
DeleteIf you are igbo.. let it go.
DeleteEven if she tells you who impregnated her you will not be accepted in that family..
So dont go stirring the hornets nest for nothing.. You already know the culture so relax where you are and chill..
Poster 1, thank God u realize ur mistakes on time. Ojukokoro is ur weak point. Please free lady b bbefore ssomething happens.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,it's only normal for u to want to know ur dad
But the fact ur family is hiding it from u means it's serious. But one day the truth must come out
Poster 1, propose to A already if U re convinced that she's d one.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, me I'm a curious person so I will ask my mum if I were in ur shoes o.
Hmmm chronicles, chronicles! !!
ReplyDeleteI don't know where you are from, I mean ur tribe. Why am I saying this bcuz u said ur sisters aren't worried. They should be more worried esp.when they want to get married. Secondly I strongly feel ur mom have got a lot to hide which to my opinion, no matter the hurt it will cause, u have the right to know; it's after this knowledge of truth, then if u choose to forget fine, if not fine. But you deserve to know.
ReplyDeleteSorry Poster 2, i don't wish for ur kind of mum, now that i have that outta the way, i must say, your mum dsnt know, if she did, she'd have told you, the fear that you'd see her as a loose or cheap woman keeps her mute. You hv the earthly and human right to seek out ur biological father, ure right on track *Hands poster 2 a flash light with new duracel batteries* keep it up.
ReplyDeleteFool. People with ur mentality lose in life
DeleteYea I agree with Stella no go dey find watin no lost abeeg
ReplyDeletePoster 1,you are not serious.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,you are a very foolish somebody.Idiot. What gave you effrontery to say your mother has an ugly past?
U are just useless. No one can say dat about my mom and go scot free. I will deal with the idiot severely .Go ahead and make ur yeye family and leave the woman live her life peacefully.
So if your mum had 7 of you for seven fathers you will say she had a velvet past I guess? You sound so foolish for a man.
DeleteMoneymaker I don't understand, does your own mother too have such a past, like poster 2's mum? Why the provocation? Why u dey para like Dis? Take it easy o nna, o? Odiro fele
DeletePoster 1, side eyes @ u too! Be carreful oh, dnt go n break A's heart cos of "1 stupid friendship" oh! Wat if B has started liking u n u now tell her ure in a relationship, aw would she feel? Take ur time oh!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, there's a reason y ur mom is hiding d story... But u av to force out d truth! Dats d consequences of her waywardness! She MUST tell u who ur father's is! She has no choice! Force it out b4 u go n marry a sibling/relative!!! Wat if it's d president..., abegi make she tell u b4 u marry ooooh!
How did you know she was wayward. If you are a woman and you are talking like this, then I pity you. It's not your fault but the poster's that's allowing all this people with dirty mouth spew trash about his mom
DeleteUgly past doesn't mean wayward... Dts a harsh statement. U don't knw if she was abused,if she was forced into a life style she didn't want. Anyway na u poster dey gv ppl wey don do countless sins to get mouth call ur mother wayward... Pls leave her alone, na ur own even better as a man, u don't need any dowry payment on ur head. Pls free d woman, u don't need d info. Move on with ur life.
DeleteAnon18:00,don't mind the idiotic poster .Since his mother doesn't want to tell him. It means that he is better of not knowing .OK Malam poster will you feel happier if she tell you that was raped by masked armed robbers.
DeletePh, sorry for using the word waywardness, poster n anonies pls forgive my use of Language
DeleteGuy let it go joor. Why do men want to know everything? If she feels its necessary for you to know she will tell you.
ReplyDeleteHow can u say that? Even if d father is an armed robber, everyone deserves to know their dad, even donor sperm kids are allowed to meet their dad at 18 years
DeletePoster one what's the point of this story of yours now???
ReplyDeletePoster two your mother is hiding something. She should tell you who your father js
His mother is hiding something? No, idonbilivit!
DeleteNot commenting today.
ReplyDeleteBut Stells,likr he said What if he mistakenly Date,Sleep or about 2 Marry his Family from his Father side?
ReplyDeleteThis is almost happened 2 me,i was about dating a "Fine Boy" I met in Calabar, Luckily I asked him 2 come/ c my Mom,note that it was jst Dating ooo,Lo/ Behold wen he came home,after Mumsy had Interrogated him,we found out he was my 1st cousin(My father's Younger Sister Son.
Word of Advice Poster, Since ur Mom doesn't want 2 tel u about ur Father,u ve 2 be very careful, b4 having any Sexual relationship wit any Lady.
Let go wetin? poster 2 make sure you dig into that matter. She must tell you who your biological father is so you won't truly end up marrying your biological sister. Ah ba she should care about your feelings na. Orishirishi chronicle
ReplyDeleteLet it go oga,don't killed ur mother for noting sake,so u won't loose completely...
ReplyDeletePoster two,please this is Africa,you need to know who your Father is.As a man,it's very necessary.Make every possible enquiry.Dig dip,disturb your mother to tell you.Whatever she's trying to protect you from,you're no longer a kid,you should be able to handle it.Whatever happens,make sure you find out who your Father is.
ReplyDeleteJust like one of my ex friend in owerri she just keep having children from different men without considering d effect it will have on these children future.
DeleteNo I do not agree. No matter how ugly the story might be concerning this matter my brother u deserve to knw the truth.
ReplyDeletePoster one:Happy you learnt your lessons
ReplyDeletePoster two:somethings are better left in the past
BVs pls don't cuss me out oh, I have a serious problem & I don't know how to send chronicles, so I decided to write it in d comment section... I LIKE white guys (Caucasian, mongoloid etc) but the problem is that I'm ina place where I can't have access to them & this is affecting my dating life, due to the fact I've not been able to be in any relationship because it's only blacks I see... what do I do? *sobs* I'm aging & people keeps expecting me to bring someone home... I hope I'm normal or is there something wrong with me? Or is it psychological... Stellz you can use your red pen, I don't mind! Pls is there anyone going through this? You can say I'm advertising oh & you can say whatever you like but pls advice me with the way forward, thanks in anticipation...
ReplyDelete@anon15:29, I am a white guy. Pls drop your contact under my comment. Mumu
DeleteOne, you can move your sorry ass to where you can find a white person even Chinese since its the skin color you are after or you can remain in that your village until you start using zimmer frame then you can marry a black man. Poverty has made a mess of your mind. Anuofia
DeleteMove to lag, abj or ph. Join dating sites like tinder. Or if u r dat desperate get visa.
DeleteNa high exchange rate cause your feelings... Just when dollar come down ur body go come down too.
DeleteOh please you guys should leave her alone !
DeleteWe all have preference..same way some people would want tall,short,fat,slim,light skin,black skin etc..
Anonymous there's nothing wrong with you ..You have your own preference ..all the best.
Thanks for d advice @ anon 23:00 & you guys dat cussed me out tnks too, but I pray u will neva b in such a situation, amen! & James may God help u, d only reason y I won't reciprocate ur foul lang. is bcos u bear d same name with my dad, bro & uncle. R all white rich, dat u say my mind is messed by poverty? Or do you think I'm desperate to get a visa, maka y nah, & lastly wat has d price/exchange rate of $ & £ have to do with my iss? Well, no problem
DeleteP1 u are such a truth sayer and I don't want to believe the saying that goes"all men cheat" anyway my advise; stick to the one that makes u happy.
ReplyDeleteP2 I know its hard for your mum to start digging her past plz find the right time to ask her about it,ask her if there is something horrible about him,that u just want to know or she should show u his pics. Because u are a man u need to know
I disagree with Stella. How can you advise anyone to let go of their roots no matter how hurtful finding out may turn to be? He is entitled to knowing the truth about his identity. If the mom knows, she should share the information and everybody will move on. As he states here, imagine that he is dating his own sister? My friend, look for your dad and be man enough to handle the truth, even if it comes with disappointment and rejection.
ReplyDeletePoster what if your mum had you as a result of rape by a masked armed robber what do you want her to tell you? I think you should let go if she doesn't have any answer to give you.
DeletePoster 1 ndo.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 ill advice u damn all consequences n make ur enquiries. No matter how bad it is u ve d right to know. Inshort u must n should know where u hail from. U cnt live d rest of life not having an identity.
Poster 1, side eyes @ u too! Be carreful oh, dnt go n break A's heart cos of "1 stupid friendship" oh! Wat if B has started liking u n u now tell her ure in a relationship, aw would she feel? Take ur time oh!
ReplyDeletePoster 2, there's a reason y ur mom is hiding d story... But u av to force out d truth! Dats d consequences of her waywardness! She MUST tell u who ur father's is! She has no choice! Force it out b4 u go n marry a sibling/relative!!! Wat if it's d president..., abegi make she tell u b4 u marry ooooh!
Poster2,I have a feeling u were born out of an abominable relationship or circumstance.either she was raped,or had sex with a blood relation.that will be d only thing that can make one so scared to tell.ur Pastor has also seen something with his spiritual eyes,dats why he's advising u to let it go also.its wisdom to let go in this case,cos knowing the truth might turn ur life around upside down forever.if u are scared of marrying ur sister,be close to God and beg him to lead u as u take such decision.it works!
ReplyDeleteI think same too about poster 2's mom
DeleteThat pastor uncle might even be his father self
Deletestella let what go?*side eye*I beg bro kip on digging o jare.
ReplyDeleteP1..na now ur head correct abi?..p2..let go
ReplyDeletePoster2: I get you want to know your "root". But frankly, are you prepared to know your dad. Being 32 may not assure you would handle the truth maturely. If you ask me, i would say drop your inquisition......... but knowing how important this is and how set your mind is on it....... Well ask harder. Possible scenarios could be:
ReplyDelete1.You are a product of rape.
2.Your sister could be your mum and you were taken into the family as a child.
3.You were bought from an hospital or adopted illegally.
4.You are a product of incest.
5.You are a child of the native doctor or pastor who took advantage of your mum while she sought a male child.
6.You could be a child of a mad woman and your mum stole you since you were male.
7.You just fell from the sky.......no explanations.
Whatever the scenario........if it creates problems on asking, it will create a much bigger issue on disclosure.
Whatever it is, focus on being a present father for your future kids. Having an absent father doesn't make you less a man. Pray for strength and get to the root of how you came about. Goodluck.
@ Empress, you don finish work for the matter. Guy choose an option from above cased closed or better still copy all the options and ask your mum which category you belong.
DeleteThere is a bitter revelation about your biological dad that your mother is hiding.
I would prefer she tells you the bitter truth and console you, person no go die, nothing is new under the sky.
Gbam
DeleteBV to bad gheeeeee
Poster one,thats how stupid some men canbe.'Butuwhy' did you have to lie to your girl only to go and flirt with another bitch??I just hope she catches you next time. Poster two,i dont know what to tell you right now.I know you ve every right to know who your father is.You can try talking to your mum in her happy times.Let her know you ain't gonna do anything stupid.If she persist,pls give her time.Time will tell.
ReplyDeleteP1 let it goo let it goo.if u dnt let it go u will gt hurt in d end
ReplyDeletePoster one: You're not serious, thank God you stopped yourself from cheating
ReplyDeletePoster two: I understand the need to know your birth father and I feel you deserve to know but I feel your mom has a reason she's kept you from your dad. But you honestly need to know who he is no matter how it hurts her. I pray for wisdom for you to go through this phase
Poster 2, end time child.
ReplyDeleteU are the only son so what. Dat one na achievement? Make something out of your life and don't bother your mom again.
Steve Jobs was raised by his foster parents. And he still changed the world.
Sharrap there Mr James. He was raised by his foster parents doesn't mean he didn't know his parents . He knew them and circumstances made his case like that .
DeleteIt's different when you dint know at all. Not all children even claims to their parents BT they know them nonetheless.
It could just be that her dad got her pregnant (ie) her dad is your father....just wide guessing tho...don't take my word for it
ReplyDeleteI think you deserve to know the truth.What would you tell you kids if they ask about grandpa?Mummy have to tell you the truth even if it gonna hurt. Atleast she should tell you who your father his.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1........
ReplyDeletePoster 2. How can a mother not tell her son about his father, there's something fishy about it if you ask me. He's a grown up man, @ 32? C'mon he can handle it. Please poster keep asking your mom, she should have told you about the man sinc, you never know, your father might be dangote, and she's preventing you from the massive wealth (winks)
Poster 1-na una full lagos nau!! Mscheew!!!
ReplyDeletePoster 2- are you really sure you can handle the truth?
Poster 1:I wish the men will learn from your narrative. They should stop making women shed tears.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Your mum is the only one that can unravel the mystery. Beg her, cry if this does not work bring in threat. Wake her up in the middle of the night, let I know you appreciate her care for you and the fact that she raised you up all by herself but without the truth he might lose you.
Poster 2, there are some things people don't need to tell you before you know what to do about it. It's inevitable, you will do something about it, but the question you should be more concerned with is can you handle the details( sordid) or whatever. Can you really be man enough about it, or will it shatter the reality as you know it to be?
ReplyDeleteDo what your heart tells you and seriously commit it into God's hand, you wouldn't want to come back with chronicles of despair or regret later, besides how would you feel if you slept with a blood relative? I wish you all the best.
Stella, let it go ke!
ReplyDeletePoster two. The reasons u gave for looking for your dad are very cogent. Still keep talking to your mum till she agrees. How can you not know ur father?
Whatever it is, I think they should let you into it, and with time, you'll be fine.
Does your other siblings know their father? If they do, why is your case different? If they do not, mumxy has to start talking. Y'all let her know you are not going to judge her for her past.
One evil spirit on my left hand side is saying that ur uncle might be.... *Gift what is wrong with you???*
@poster1 : you are foolish.
ReplyDelete@poster2 : let go
Poster 1, you are in a confused state of mind and I advice you put yourself together and decide on who really want in your life and go for the person and stop confusing yourself.
ReplyDeletePoster you re very stupid for wasting my time, Instead of you to go n hustle hard. make money u wan die bcux of woman. Mtcheew i will soon pop d question soon. if u like pop bottle na ur cup of tea.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. It's good you've realised your mistakes before you cause further pain. However, it still doesn't exonerate you from being a selfish human being. I don't know why guys do this. Only Karma will punish guys like you who string women along and expect to get away with it.
ReplyDelete2. Confront your mum coz until you do, you'd never be an peace within yourself.
Dear poster 2, let the sleeping dog lie my dear, some truth are better left untold. Let your mother be, I think she's gone through enough emotionally and psychologically, make peace with your sister and strive to be a better person in life.
ReplyDeleteOne of those life secrets ur mum may die with. The lesser u know, the better for u. This may be ur destiny. Live with it
ReplyDeletePoster 2 be careful what you wish for, you may just have it all. Are you ready for the truth. Let go please.
ReplyDeleteNo.1 your chronicle is different because you are telling us about your experience and giving us advice, so I guess I have nothing to say to you than that you should stick to your lesson.
ReplyDeleteNo.2, I don't blame you for wanting to know the truth. I would too if I were in your shoes. At 32 you are an adult and should be able to handle things so I think your mom should tell you the truth. As for your sister, she may know something, but it's not clear why she should delete your number and pin out of annoyance. Why is she annoyed? She should spill jorr! I believe ultimately that the truth will set you free. Call me crazy.
So many women here are in the same scenario so no biggie. There is nothing dirty about her past, some women are not just lucky with husband isshh and in the bit to try again they end up unlucky again. Leave your mum alone and tell whoever wants to know that your dad is dead and his family are not good people hence you are not close with them. An uncle can rep him in any dealings that need be. Ramsay Noah said till date he does not know his father and he does not care, so? Please leave the poor woman alone.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Go ahead and know whats bothering you. Even if you are not gonna have anything to do with man, as in your father, your mom owe you an explanation.
ReplyDeleteShe need to tell you once and for all, you have come of age and you have the right to know who your father is.
Your sister and your mum knows the story about your biological dad. Be courageous to hear the truth that might shock you and evn cause resentment as you put her and members of her family under pressure to reveal the identity of your dad even if you were stolen or born as a result of incest. It will help you in building your own family foundation and deliverance prayer if the need arises.
ReplyDeleteLol so I think I got a yeast infection recently, so I went to buy mycoten. The pharmacist told me the vaginal tablet is better than the cream bla bla. Ive been struggling since to insert it, i can't. I have a very low threshold for pain, it's sad. I just wasted my 1k.
ReplyDeleteIs it possible to pick up std from toilet? Google says no, but I recently used someone's toilet, she's sexually active. There was a splash up, I washed with soap and put undiluted savlon on it, which I never do; I panicked. That's probably what gav me the yeast infection, but im paranoid still. EPP me please
How old are you?...
DeleteHow can you use a disinfectant and soap to wash your vagina?...
Na all these small small children like you dey get all these orishirishi disease...
Go and see a doctor biko...
Madam can you read? I said there was a splash up, an I panicked. So I cleaned with that which I never do?
DeleteIs it that hard to comprehend?
The question is can you pick up an std from the toilet seat? I know I have yeast from using soap.
What is the full meaning of std?! And theres your answer!!! I wan call you olodo but today na sunday...never ever put anything stronger than water in your vagina...even water sef is unnecessary just clean the outside and you are good...
DeleteMeanwhile go see a doctor
Yeast infection or any other vaginal infection requires you seeing a medical doctor. Prolonged infection could lead to something worse so please see a doctor quickly. Most likely a sample of the exudate from your vagina will be taken to know the type of organisms causing the infection and the appropriate vaginal suppository and antibiotic will be prescribed.
DeleteAll of you asking if he can handle the truth . Can he stay without the truth ?
ReplyDeleteHe may have been born out of incest . That's the worst case scenario but without it being revealed and dealt with . The man has a lot of challenges to face both spiritually and otherwise .
I'm not saying it's incest but let her tell you and those that want to bar you from their life can go ahead . It's hard but truth must be revealed else those that know it will always laugh at you .
D Queen. Ur comments will not kill person
ReplyDeleteSorry to say, what if your mum was raped by some robbers and she took in with a decision of no abortion? How would you feel if you're told this? Am sure more miserable but if you insist, then you can look for some family members who could share somethings with you about that.
ReplyDeleteAt first read i thought to myself what is it with all these children searching for parents who are not looking for them? Na wah. But on second thoughts i thought in my almost 58 years of existence I have seen so many children searching for their mothers or fathers and the accompanying pain that the thought of not knowing who birthed you brings. So I do sympathize with poster 2. However your mum holds the truth and it's clear it is a painful truth. Perhaps if you gently let her know your fears about dating your blood sister or cousin - may
ReplyDeleteshe might be persuaded to tell you
. However be prepared as the truth may be worse than your ignorance.If you could let it go I would have said please do- but I know you won't. So pray well about it and good luck with your discovery. Your mum will eventually tell you when the pressure gets too much. We all eventually do. But good luck son. You'll need plenty of it.!
You are a man.
ReplyDeleteYou need the answer, if anybody says you don't, they are lieing to you.
In cases like this, you need to show Mama plenty love and let her know u are not planning to av anything to do with him but you just need to know.
She might be scared of losing you to them after all the labour on u.
The assurance she need to have and be convinced of is that KNOWING DOES NOT change the fact that SHE IS YOUR FATHER and MOTHER.
If Pastor set aside he your Uncle said you should not askplz don't ask. Ask God to fill that void you crave with His love. As you can see your Dads identity is no good news. But you r special blessed and highly favored. Shalom
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ReplyDeleteThis ur case is serious I,but one first advice is to put this in prayer for God to guide you and give you better wisdom on how to go about it so you don't offend any of it family members,I wish you well on this situation,God's truth shall prevail in ur life cos way its going true is a phase and it will pass bro!