STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE SHOCK OF LOSING FAITH
Good Day Stella,
I had to send in this because I'm loosing it gradually!
OK, I leave outside Nigeria with my kid sister, she is my friend and confidant. I have a boyfriend that doesn't stay in the same country with me and I'm more like an introvert.
I recently met a girl who is a tailor here, someone introduced her to me. I asked her where she was from, she said Lagos and very close to my area. We immediately clicked and became friends, that period I lost my job and she didn't have a job either so we became close.
it's either we are in her house or mine because we live very close to each other.
After a month of meeting her, I lost my dad and it was a tough one for me, my world came crashing. This same girl (let me call her Faith) was with me the night my brother broke the news to me, she consoled and stayed with me, helped with cooking and other things. During this period, Faith had a cough which we thought was a normal cough, my sister who works out of the city we live, came back home when we told her about my dad so the 3 of us were together.
After the prayer for my dad, my sister went back to work in another city and Faith and i became very close, we were sleeping in the same house for 2weeks.
All the while she was in my house, we gave her cough medication because she was broke. Faith never told me anything about her past life but I never bothered, even when I lost my relationship of 4years, Faith was there to give me courage and make me laugh.
Some weeks later, she was called for a job and I went back to work too, we work as stay-in nanny where we go to work with a family, stay with them for 26 days and come home for 4 days vacation, I was at work when she called that the job is too much for her, I told her to leave the job if it is something she couldn't manage.
I kept calling her to know how she was doing until I couldn't reach her for 2days, I had to send a friend to go check on her in her place, when the guy got there he found her very weak, stooling and vomiting, so the guy had to rush her to the hospital, pay the bills which I told the guy i would refund.
Later that day, she was discharged and left alone at home. I kept calling her to know the situation of things with her, after some days my sister came back from work for 2days vacation and my sister's boyfriend was with her, I had to call my sister to go pick Faith from her house so they could all stay in my place together for the 2days to cook for her and at least cheer her up.
That night they were together, they cooked, ate and laughed with my sister's boyfriend, Faith and my sister's boyfriend are from same place, so that night they all went to bed and by 3am, they heard her shout from her sleep, they all woke up to find her vomiting blood and mucus saying I want to go, that was how they started prayer ooo, put a spoon in her mouth and after sometime she went into coma, the 2 people they called that night pastor and one other person left, so my sister and her boyfriend were the one carrying Faith from one hospital to the other.
They called me but the wicked boss told me she won't pay me if I dare leave and I was broke that period and working in another state, I had to keep praying and calling them to know the situation of things, they were with her for 2days and she came out of coma.
Few days later, she was discharged home, the doctors told us she was depressed, had liver and chest problem, that we should ask her if she smokes. My sister asked her and she said yes, when they told me I was shocked!
She went home hoping for improvement, after some days my sister went back to work and her boyfriend was to travel to Nigeria, that was how we started calling some of the contact on her phone and her old friends; everybody denied her expect one of her best friend though they had a fight and wasn't in good terms, her name is Chioma, she went and took Faith to her house since no one will be with her.
Few days later, Faith started having a swollen stomach so Chioma took her to the hospital again, this time we had to call her family in Nigeria to inform them.
She was discharged and brought home again, this time around it got worse, I almost couldn't recognize her, at this point there was no money again for treatment, we kept looking for funds but no one came to our aid until her family sent in money so she could travel back to Nigeria but Faith refused traveling saying she'll be fine.
At some point, I wanted to hands off but couldn't; everyone started withdrawing, her illness became worse that she couldn't stand anymore, yet she is so secretive. When it became so serious, she agreed to travel so the family sent money for her ticket. We got her ticket, packed her things and stayed with her till 5am. We all left to go catch a little small sleep so she could travel.
The next day, Chioma took Faith to the airport to fly but the airline rejected her saying she was too weak to fly but Chioma already left her there even before she could board. No one was with Faith, so the airline had to call the embassy and she was admitted to intensive care because of her critical condition.
At this point, I went back to a new job since the embassy had taken over and everyone was sacred the police could be involved. After some days, the embassy called me that her condition was very critical so I told them to send me the address of the hospital that I would leave work to come see her in 2days time.
On the 3rd day, I received a message on my phone from Faith's sister in Nigeria telling me to "please go witness the burial of your friend for the last time", my phone dropped!
We lost her!
Immediately, I called the embassy, they said they have been calling all her contacts since 2days that no one showed up that they had to bury her, I was shocked!
Since then, I've not been able to sleep, it's like she's beside me all the time. I have prayed and fasted yet same thing ooo, I can't close my eyes at night. Last night, same thing happened; my boss and the kids went out and I was left alone at home to sleep but I couldn't. I opened my eyes till 6:59am, I see Faith in my dream holding my head and the same head has been paining me since we lost her, I even went to the doctor they said it's lack of sleep.
I don't know what to do anymore. I'm so disturbed, depressed, worried and scared. Has anyone experienced a similar case?
*The profile of her illness is suspicious and i hope all those around her before she passed did not get infected.....Looks like she passed from complications arising from the big sickness with the small name.
Sorry about your loss and take heart,I am sure you are reacting from the shock of losing her.You will be fine okay?
It is well with you
ReplyDeleteRIP to the dead
DeleteI'd advice you light a candle for her or take a flower to her grave side if you can then try and distract your mind from thinking much about her. Make a new friend if possible
Is it well
Nneoma Signing out from here....
Stella AIDS is not the only sickness with those symptoms. I beg stop all that pls.
DeleteYour mind is playing tricks on you.
ReplyDeleteI know someone who experienced same after she lost a sister. It will fade after some time. It's happening because you ferl you could have done more to save her and you could have been there for her during her hard times.
Trust me you will be fine and many people will tell you to go spiritual but don't as long as your hands are clean.
Guilt is the thing disturbing you. May she RIP
ReplyDeleteFriends sha
ReplyDeleteWhy been so secretive
I will read comments
Sorry poster, with time the disturbing feeling would pass, don't dwell on it much.
ReplyDeleteThe hospital didn't tell u what was wrong? Hope it ain't TB, a complication arising from hiv.
Sounds like HIV to me
ReplyDeleteNa wah oh!,..
ReplyDeletePoster,hope this your story is the truth!...
Are you owing her?...
Did you snatch her boyfriend?...
Are you using her things?...
Search your heart well!...
Rip to faith!...hope she is not a blog visitor...
So you think everyone is heartless as you, even if she's not owning her
DeleteHian....
ReplyDeleteI jump and pass biko
Hmmmmmmnnnn!
ReplyDelete"Sorry about your lose"! Jesus! Choi! Now I know the inspiration behind the 'gbagauns' that have metamorphosed into an epidemic on this blog.
DeleteStella, sorry about your "LOSE"? hA!
ReplyDeletePoster, you have to get the NEW TESTAMENT AND read and trust the Lord Jesus for safety; nothing else. Fast and pray like he taught and read the scriptures.
ONe thing I've come to realize is that when a woman hides a secret, you can only find it if you can touch the sun!
Hmm.. Big sickness with the small name would have been detected during the multiple hospital visits. What a turbulent life, may she rest in peace.
ReplyDeletePlease pray very well, she is dead now should have no connection with you. The living and the dead are a world apart.
take heart poster.
ReplyDeleteplease does anyone know Turkish airline policies about carrying red oil? do they accept it and if yes/no how do I package it? should I put it in my hand luggage?? must itbbe frozen and cellotaped?? thank you in advance
Red oil inside hand luggage? It will be thrown away so fast, you won't even know what's happening.
DeleteCheck it in with your luggage. The quantity doesnt matter as long as its within your approved kg.
Hide am well inside cloth make dem no see am ooo dats how i package mine
DeleteHow can you carry oil in hand luggage. Liquids carried in hand luggage shouldn't be more than 100mls or so, I think.
DeleteYou must be as stupid and insensitive as your bastard palm oil. Foolish maggot.
DeleteSomeone just lost a friend.
After sparing 3 words you proceed to write an epistle about cello tape, Palm oil and Turkish Airlines, GTFOH Gorilla.
Anon, put it inside morning fresh container and cellotape it..... .dats how my siblings do it. De use Turkish airline
DeleteCan u imagine? Is this the right place for this question? Na wa o
DeletePele let go it is well get some liquor
DeleteLoss** Stella, be corrected...
DeleteYou have to disguise it somehow. Definitely not in your hand luggage oooo. Haha
DeleteCarry 20 litres,very quality one,then call me when,'Miss Ajo' @the counter won't let you go with it,don't forget to give her#500 as tip,cos she won't hesitate to claim it,my mom bought 10litres last year,cos my sister was behaving as if she can't eat another food over there 30 minutes after I left the airport,my phone rang,my mom was shouting please come back,come and carry the oil don't let my money waste,tasted so good with my favorite"onugwu soup"
DeleteMy dear u are not d one dat killed her, so flog her spirit with koboko anytime she appears to u again, u even tried for sef, I hate friends who are very secretive, plz get rid of dat fear.
ReplyDeleteI think is a normal scenario when u are close to someone and they die..it will stop in due but take necessary precautions not to be alone and also go and run some tests
ReplyDeleteAfricans and their stupid mentality..You callingg your boss wicked cos he said he won't pay if u leave, like Why should he pay if u leave? Some folks can also call you wicked for not going to see your friend cos of money...That is just by the way though...So sorry for your list, hun...You will be fine
ReplyDeleteLike someone just called a ticket controller wicked because she was asked to pay or get off the train.
Deletelol@Anon 17.02.....TheY know the right thing, but won't do it lol and call people wicked later on
DeleteHave you heard of compassionate leave?
DeleteIm 23 Le boo is 29 he wants to get married now.im telling him wait a bit i don't want to get married now.marriage is not a priority for me now.and i don't want to loose him
ReplyDeleteI think ur faith did something and she refused to talk.
ReplyDeleteU miss her a lot. U'll be fine
Hmmm, serious story ooo. Pls go for tests and never stop praying
ReplyDeleteSorry
ReplyDeleteHuge hug you will be fine
This story is depressing.
ReplyDeleteTake heart dear, cry no more. Stella of life abeg which one is the big sickness with the small name again?
ReplyDeleteMy dear it's shock.you did your best.i suspect HIV.too bad she died like that.Relax and try to rest.contact your people.in Nigeria and let them.see a man of God on your behalf.mainwhule pray and fast.your goodness no go kill you.
ReplyDeleteOh God.. Rip to faith. Poster, please be very prayerful at this point, I hear it's a bad omen seeing the dead in our dreams.. just be prayerful. Pele
ReplyDeleteso sorry for the loss, but i am just curious, all the time she was been treated in different hospitals, what was she diagnosed of. she was coughing, vomiting blood. then doctor said she was depressed, and she has liver and chest problems. you said you guys are living outside Nigeria, if it is a country in Europe, they don't treat blindly, bcos they have good healthcare facilities, they must have ran several tests to come up with a diagnosis, its either she knew what she was suffering from but refused to tell you all. from the symptoms, its either she had upper or lower GI bleeding, or upper respiratory tract infection, or complications from the Big one with a small name which Stella thought of. but certainly those hospitals were not treating her blindly. may her soul rest in peace. stay strong and i suggest you all go for some medical tests too.
ReplyDeleteDont u think the said lady had lung cancer with liver metastasis..classic picture...smoker, haemoptysis etc. I doubt it aids though
DeletePls bvs, how do I register my ID on this blog. I dnt know.
ReplyDeleteThanks
Google is your friend.
DeleteDid the do hiv test on her? Which.uselless country are u ppl that they can't conduct a proper medical test on her to determine the cause of her illness and also place her on medication. U had better come back home,cos Nigeria is better off that that place
ReplyDeleteMay her soul RIP
ReplyDeleteStella get life abeg...so anyone who is very sick n weak must die of that sickness.
ReplyDeleteAsk again ooo I wonder for her sef!!!
DeleteHope it's not complication to HIV?😨the doctor wud have mentioned it tho
ReplyDeleteComplication to? This blog sef. E be like say na razz girls full am.
Delete*Complication from*
DeleteMention to who? The only person who had a right to that information was faith herself...
DeleteBlame it on d weed. Her ID says it all.
DeleteLol
Nawa o,dis is bad,book mass for d repose of her soul.
ReplyDeleteVery sinister story. I suggest all of you who came in close contact with her should get tested.
ReplyDeleteShe probably had a serious illness that she was ashamed to share because of the fear of being ostracised. Most terminally ill people desire to die with their dignity in tact. They want to spend their final days with their loved ones without having to endure a pity party.
Poster find comfort in the fact that you and your sister were there for her when no one else was. Where ever she is, she's grateful to all of you who helped her.
Poster please take heart... it is well
ReplyDeleteNo airline allows it. The scanner at d airport will still reveal it.
ReplyDeleteFear catch me sef... Let our health be our number one priority
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ReplyDeletePoster like stella said...your friend passed away from HIV. She might have been involved in prostitution before you met her. I hope you all get tested to be safe.
ReplyDeleteis it only prostitutes who gets infected by hiv? smh
DeletePoster u just have to be strong. Read your bible and pray. Fear not! RIP faith.
ReplyDeleteStella ooo hit the hammer on the head. They should all go for HIV and tuberculosis test. Simple. She's secretive and you threw your s of to her. Dragging your sister along. Now you don't know what to do, eh? Sebi you are a prayer warrior? Better pack your self to a good deliverance church for deliverance. Na waaa.
ReplyDeletePlease poster go and do HIV and hepatitis B test. Please don't hesitate
ReplyDeleteTake heart .I hard a similar experience with a childhood friend that passed on after going through a lot. Although I didn't see her for a long time before her death. But she was my closest friend in my estate while growing up.went to the same primary and secondary school. But I moved from my estate and God into university before her and graduated before her. I was working in lagos when the news of her death got to me. i kept seeing her in my dream for over a year because i kept thinking about her and i was so....scared of seeing the the dead in my dream.
ReplyDeleteSorry for your loss, may her soul rip. It seems your friend had TB
ReplyDeleteI have not had peace since the day I told mum dt my boo gave me 2m to help keep till he realises the business to do with it. Mum says I should use the money n go do masters afterall he loves me n ready to marry me. How can I betray his trust like that, please whichbusiness can one go into with 2 to 3 million in this harsh economy, boo laboured so hard to get this money n am tired of holding it before this woman brainwash me. I need boo to be stable so that I can be with the love of my heart legally.
ReplyDeleteYr mother is not a good woman. D 2m is not yr own, so do not spend it. Fear God.
DeleteYou can use the money go for your masters in the UK. Make plans before and as soon as you get there to do care work. Seek for schools that give that leverage like University of Salford. (You don't need to attend classes everyday). You could get paid up to 120 pounds (12 hour shift). You can also combine it with other jobs like hospitality and co. Before you know it 1 and a half year is gone. By then you could have savings up to 2million naira and a masters degree. Tell this to Le boo.
DeleteU better go transfer that money to anoda account and tell dat ur yeye mama say ur guy don collect him money. If na her son girlfriend spend dis kind money how she go react, some mothers ehn.
DeleteYour mom is wicked
DeleteThat your mama na enemy of progress. God will judge her
DeleteBetter respect your self and keep the money,what if he is testing you?don't betray the trust he has for you,and stop telling momsy every thing,tell her he has collected it back,you want to go for Masters and you don't have the fund and he is capable,ask him instead of stealing what he entrusted in your care,how many le boos gives their babes money to hold for them?my dear be wise.
DeletePlease don't mind your mum. She obviously mean well for you but allow your boyfriend reap the fruit of his labour. If you pass this little test, God will lift you higher than whatever your masters will yield you now with someone else's money. Ps: you re not doing this because your boyfriend will eventually marry you(to avoid pains of expectations-never-realized), you're doing it for God's sake, integrity and for humanity sake.
DeleteGoodluck!
Don't touch that money! Open a separate bank account for it. The account should not even have an ATM card. Your boo trusts you so much for him to give you money to hold for him. Hold fast to that trust. Once that trust is broken, the love he has for you will die. You should not have told your mum. Tell her that he has collected the money back from you. I am even married and I don't give out that kind of information to my family. It's only money that I am to spend on them that they know about and that's even on a need-to-know basis.
DeleteAs for business, anyone can give you a list but your boo needs to find one that he can get a mentor that can teach him the tricks-of-the-trade. He should not plunge money into a business without someone to guide him.
God bless you in your plans for your future together.
How old are you ? Can't you keep a little secret or must you tell your mother everything ? Better return his money to him or you transfer it to another account and make it clear to your mom that he collected the money back from you. Sorry, that your mom can't even be trusted.
DeleteThat guy is testing you. Do not let your mum push you away from your destiny!
DeleteHaba!! She can't send you for your masters, she want you to steal another person's money. Yes,its stealing!
I fear who no fear Ur mama! How can she advice to do such???
DeletePlz don't! He will never forgive u
Ewu go and put that money in treasury bills for one year.. that way you cannot touch it plus you will chop 15% interest on the total sum..tsk tsk lack of info na serious disease sha
Deletebeing too secretive has sent lots of pple to early graves.take heart and be strong,you will be ok
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! Hiv
ReplyDeleteSo the hospital could not detect, what was wrong with her,na wao,which country is that, they even buried her without autopsy. Nigeria is even better than that country
ReplyDeleteRip to her
ReplyDeleteDear poster, the living are conscious that they will die but the dead knows nothing, therefore she can't harm you regardless of your dreams. try and get over your loss, move on.
ReplyDelete*God bless my Angel in human form*
Anon 16:27. Your mother is very wicked. She is the type of mum that will break her daughter's home. I pity who will marry you. She is a witch.
ReplyDeleteStella its not the big sickness with small name. Its obviously hepatitis B. Since the doctors mentioned liver problems plus she had swollen stomach. How do I know this? A friend lost the hubby last year and I lost a cousin last month. Same symptoms. @ poster go and yourself checked. Your sis, her bf and all those that came in contact with her. Hepatitis can be gotten via body fluids like sweat, blood etc. Stay strong dear
ReplyDeleteRip to her
ReplyDeleteRip to her
ReplyDeletePoster watch war room. It will help u heal. Chai
ReplyDeleteSo touching rip to the death
ReplyDeleteTB had eaten down her blood stream. She didn't dictect earlier else she would have survived. All symptoms listed arising from TB.
ReplyDeleteTB had eaten down her blood stream. She didn't dictect earlier else she would have survived. All symptoms listed arising from TB.
ReplyDeleteDear poster Faith didn't die a normal death. The reason it's disturbing your subconscious it's because if you press on with prayers the truth will set some people free. You are the one that can help. Esp as you showed unconditional love to her.
ReplyDeleteEven if the diagnosis is Aids. May she RIP.
Poster you are simply having adjustment disorder. You will be fine. Just pray and try to distract and make urself happy
ReplyDeleteFaith didn't die a normal death. Poster, a sickness which you're yet to know killed her. And secondly, are you sure the Embassy didn't kill her quickly just to get rid of her?
ReplyDeletePoster, your Faith didn't die a normal death. A sickness which you're yet to know about killed her. And secondly, are you sure the Embassy didn't quickly kill her just to get rid of her? Fear humans ooooo. In this our present world, anything is possible.
ReplyDeletePoster, your Faith didn't die a normal death. A sickness which you're yet to know about killed her. And secondly, are you sure the Embassy didn't quickly kill her just to get rid of her? Fear humans ooooo. In this our present world, anything is possible.
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