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Sunday, November 05, 2017

Wife Of Unpaid Kogi Civil Servant Who Killed Himself Tells Her Own Side of The Story

Mrs. Grace Soje, the wife of the Kogi State civil servant, who committed suicide on October 16, 2017, says her husband’s death remains a shock.

The widow told Sunday PUNCH that her husband, Edward Soje, showed no signs of depression the last time she saw him alive.

Mrs. Soje, who is a federal civil servant, was still in a private hospital in Abuja as on Saturday. According to her, Although her husband took his life on October 16, it was learnt that she was only informed of his death on October 31.

Still struggling to come to terms with reality, the widow said, “I learnt of my husband’s death on Tuesday. I was not even informed because my phone was taken away from me after I gave birth. But on that particular day, I saw my phone lying around and it was switched off. So, I turned it on and saw my brother-in-law’s text message in which he said he had gone to pick up his dead brother’s corpse. It was at that point that I started screaming that they have killed my husband.”

Mrs. Soje stated, “We did the naming ceremony at the hospital on October 14 and there was no quarrel whatsoever. We only asked him to go home and rest because the hospital was filled up and the nurses were driving people away. So, I told him to go home to rest and return in the evening so that we could plan how to move our car and some other things from Kogi. That was the last time I saw him.

On Sunday, we waited for him to come but we never saw him and his phone was switched off. So, my cousin, who was staying with me, went to the house but didn’t tell me anything but she told my elder sister what she saw in the house such as the cardboard where he left a message. He said God would preserve me and that I should take care of the boys. It was on Monday that my elder sister called me to ask if I saw what was in the house but nobody was explaining anything to me.

Mrs. Soje said her husband never showed any signs of depression, adding that on the day the triplets were born, he was rolling on the hospital floor thanking God for finally giving them children after over 17 years. We never quarrelled. In fact, my blood pressure was high and he was the one who calmed me down and asked me to rest and keep my phone aside. He never gave me any sign of anything; nothing!

On Tuesday, his nephew, who lives with us and happens to be a civil defence official, called me, saying that my husband came to his house and was saying some things that he didn’t understand. He said my husband was complaining that he didn’t own any property and that all the properties belonged to me. So, I asked him, when my husband was saying all these things, why didn’t he take him to relatives’ house or lock him somewhere?

When asked if it was true that Edward committed suicide because he had not been paid by the Kogi State Government for almost a year, Grace said she could not say.

The widow said, “I don’t know if it is because of salary because I am not a Kogi State civil servant. After all, he has not been collecting salary since January but we have been managing my own salary. So, I don’t know.”

Making a concerned plea to the Federal Government, the National Assembly, the Kogi State Government and well-meaning Nigerians, Mrs. Soje explained that the hospital bill had run into millions of naira and she needed assistance.

Nigerians should assist me so that I can take good care of the children. We have not been able to settle the hospital bill. We have been given a bill of N1, 627,000 by the hospital but one of the triplets had to be taken to the National Hospital for a surgery and I don’t know how much his own bill is right now.

When asked if she suspected foul play in her husband’s death, she said, “I leave everything to God.”


  1. This is very sad.
    But he shouldn't have taken his life.
    Where there is life, there is hope.
    Who knows? his newly born babies might just be that open door of blessings to change things for their good.
    May God give his wife the grace to move on.

    1. He must have felt like a failure, who don't feel comfortable depending on his wife alone especially now that they had extra mouths to feed. Please where is that brother in law that said the kids weren't the mans, Cus in a way it still boils down to being poor which was as a result of being owed salaries since January

    2. Triplets after 17 years, most likely IVF. Could it have been donor sperm???

  2. Grace is your name and I believe Gods grace will see you through. Be strong.

  3. I don't even know what to say about this story; than to say depression is real.

  4. I don't even know what to say
    After 17yrs of childlessness he killed just when God gave him his desire? I don't just get it.poor kids will never know what fatherly love feels like.
    I hope kogi state governor will make a move to help?

  5. Kogi state should pls assist this woman with her hospital bills.
    1.6m is nothing to the Governor . I wonder why governors and senators salary and benefits is never owed.
    If it's to host Mercy Johnson in the state house, they know how to do that one.

    1. M telling u . they spend money on stupid things

  6. Haba!! Imagine owning 10 months. I go carry gun oh.

  7. Something is fishy in this story.

  8. This woman was living beyond her husband's capacity. Why will you go to a private hospital to incur 1.6m debt. Federal civil servants always believe they have money more than states cos of egunje.

  9. Its obvious the man killed himself in despair,dino melaye should look into this,no b only rice.

  10. it could be reverse psychology. maybe he sacrificed himself to get sympathy and donations for the kids. obvious mental illness so sad

  11. Anonymous 15:05 you are bloody freaking you know the risk with multiple births? Living above her means how? Married 17 years and they should risk things with triples? Do u know them personally? Do u know if it was the husband who even suggested it? Next time use your brain.....idiat

    1. Honestly, some people just hide behind computer thinking they are safe? How can you @anon 15:05 say such? As if you were part of their lives? Ok ooo


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