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Saturday, February 17, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....

The OATH AND MOVING ON AFTER A SPOUSE'S DEMISE..


Hello everyone, Estee don't know where this will fall into.Keep away my identity.

 I grew up in a home where domestic violence was the order of day. My daddy, beats my mum,if not because of his numerous girlfriends who he'll send money or recharge cards to and when we ask for money for fees or pocket money he' ll tell us that theres none, or it will be theres no money to feed us.


 I saw all the tellers and recharge cards he sends to them . I regret the day I stumbled into those things and letting my mum know. I was young and naive. I should have let my mum be in the dark.The home is usually peaceful when mum has money , ranging from feeding everyone to paying bills and buying wears for my dad, was on her.But once she's out of cash and ask dad for money for the home, it becomes war. Im not saying he does nothing, but it's usually hot for everyone.


 Dad believes bathing soap is luxury if he's the person to buy it for the home. You can now understand the kind of dad I have. My dad is just too cunning. Remember my younger brother telling them the day he was beating my mum that if any of them dies, the other person should forget about remarrying.He told an aunt that my mum must leave his house dead or alive.

 If we had known.Now mum is dead.

 She had fresh wound on her scalp which dad inflicted on her using tea mug before her death.On the burial day, my brother asked my dad to place his hands on my mums casket and tell her he wasnt going to remarry, if not, there would be no burial.


 He did what my brother asked him to do and we buried my mum. Dad stopped paying my fees in school and that of my siblings, so they all stopped school.my friend,who is now my hubby saw me through school and when I graduated, he sent my siblings back to school. We have been managing and by God's grace, the remaining one will be done with school this year.


My dad told everyone that I'm accusing him of killing my mum, this is after 10yrs of my mum's death, I tried telling him and the people that he reported me to that I never said such but he refused to listen to me, that I should come home for a meeting with his friends and kinsmen. Which I refused, because he kept on taking my mum for all these meetings, till she died. I don't want to die young. He stopped talking to me for about 2years now no matter the avenue I tried to reach out to him.He only started talking to me 3months ago, after I bought things of about 200k and sent to him through my brother.


 Now the gist, he sent me a text message this morning that he is getting old and wants to remarry, I should understand the situation. He is 72years and retired. I guess he is scared of that promise my brother asked him to make to my mum. He usually does things without asking for anyone's opinion. So why this?We don't want any woman in that home because he didn't take care of the woman who laboured for him. 


So all his plans was to push her away and flex his life. Please stella and Bv's,how do I go about replying him the text he sent to me, without us quarreling. How do we(his children) say No to him or do we accept his demand? Thanks everyone.


*Your Father should be in Jail if Nigeria wasnt so lawless....

Let bygones be bygones and release him to move on.....I think he is kinda scared  of breaking his word without your approval...
Wicked man but please let him move on!

44 comments:

  1. Romans 7:2 For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law that binds her to him.


    What has prevented your dad from re-marrying is CONSCIENCE; he knows that he is not guiltless with regard to your mother's death. Do not reply "text" with "text", such delicate matters should not be texted. Call or visit him and let him know that you've forgiven him and that he should live his life according to his wish. Encourage him to give his life to Christ.

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    1. He must suffer o, he practically killed your mum, when you tell women to get out they will not hear word, he wasn't even giving her money so why stay.
      Please do not attend any meeting, before they turn you into a mumu, what he doesn't know is that he made the promise to the dead not you guys so he has to go back to her and cancel it

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    2. @Push up
      So your life revolves around money? If he was giving her money she should stay and be murdered in cold blood?
      Please re-arrange your priorities in life and know that no amount of money is worth a life.

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  2. What a wicked man. He's old and life is lonely for him.
    He should remain that way till he die. Tell him to remember the oath.

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  3. Stella which move on???
    He can never move on!!!in fact God is keeping him alive so he can suffer for all his wrong.
    Why are u buying things for him?did he buy any for u?ur mother that did all the suffering, he killed her so u people will be sending taking care of him alone...he has not changed at all.has he ask for forgiveness? What about making peace with God?
    So marrying is now his problem? So u and ur siblings will be feeding them both...

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    1. My dear I felt as angry as you sound when I read it and Stella's comment. Some men ehnn,after killing the innocent woman hrs now reaping Goodies where he did not sow. But then we are not God,so poster forgive him and let him do whatever he wants to do with his life. Na him sabi

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    2. Exactly! Same rage I felt reading Stellas comment. Of what use is re-marrying at 72? Abeg!
      Forgive him and tell him to use his last days and reconcile with his creator. Marriage shouldn’t even be on his mind but making peace with his family and after life journey

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    3. A million likes to your comment Stella, your blurntness often stand you unique. To err is human but to forgive is divine, I join in saying you people free him & leave judgement unto God, in due time he will pay for his crime.

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    4. This is very annoying,I just dey vex as I dey read this post. May the soul of your beloved mom rest in peace.

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    5. @Sharon you're not as angry as I am with the poster. Why is she looking for his good side? Someone who should be begging all of you to at least pick his call. He refused to train any of you and you're still there begging for everything. Please stop picking his calls




      *Larry was here*

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    6. Let by gones be bygones ..its difficult but u all will be fine

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  4. Let him remarry, hopefully to a younger woman, who know, she might even be his karma.

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  5. At 72? Tell him its none of ur business!

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  6. Dear poster, do not visit him. Reply d text he sent, tell him to do whatever his conscience tells him to do. Let him decide himself, dnt tell him what to do and it's better you let him know you will not take up responsibilities if he fathers any more kids.

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  7. I truly would have told him it is none of my business and meant it. I won't show up neither will I be the one to take care of him and his wife. If he truly killed your mum and you are sure of that, he should be chilling in jail meditating on how he spent his miserable life.

    Young parents help us have a sane generation to come. Let your son's know it is weakness to hit a woman any woman not just wife and girlfriend. The girls too though the tigresses are few compared to their male counterparts in the domestic violence industry.

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  8. Poster dont b afraid of a quarell cos if u want to treasure ur mums memory in dat hawz deaz likely to b quarel between ur father n ur siblings. Speak up, tell him how you feel about the whole remarrying ish, about how he treated u guys n ur late mum. Tell him everything!!! Your an adult now, u need not be afraid.

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  9. I don’t know how you can take care of, or even talk to a person that killed your mum. Even if it was my mum that killed my dad and did all that to us. The whole world will know, he or she will surely die in prison and I will not take the person’s calls till they die. The last time I will see the person is at the burial and even then, it will be a paupers burial where they will be buried in a mass grave with rags or burnt to ashes and the ashes thrown into dustbin. You and your siblings are very forgiving. That parent will see fire and brimstone. Marriage is not by force.

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    1. In fact I am so angry right now why would she send money to that kind of man.she better don't let her mum deal with her from the grave.

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  10. This your dad thinking of remarrying at 72 .. Text him back to follow his heart and should not depend on you for anything.

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  11. Tell him to do what's he wants to do but please stop buying things for him. Make him understand that you and your siblings won't take up financial responsibility if he should have kids with his new spouse.my father is like yours only my mum lived and he should thank his God for that. Whatever helps he gets from us is cos of my mums constant begging for us to forgive him, me I only give him shikinni money so he won't use witch eye kill my mum if she is enjoying alone cos they still live together.

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  12. he wants a wife at 72!! which pwick he go take service her? abeg he should go and rest joor. Assuming he is a good man I would have suggested either you or any of your other sibling bring him in to stay with you so that loneliness won't finish him. He maltreated his wife till she died and now he is thinking of bringing in another woman. Tell him NO to remarrying and see if he'll listen.

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  13. Stella you have a good heart. God bless you

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    1. Abeg stella heart dey vex me sometimes,her heart too good Abeg.

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  14. Don't text him. Call him instead. He will keep your text and be showing anyone that cares. Call him and tell him whatever you want to tell him. God punish him for what he did to your mom. I wonder why he wants to remarry at 72 sef? Yeye man.

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  15. I stoped talking about husband beating his wife every time and
    the wife refused to leave knowing very well that those children she stay for will still
    living happy if she ever died in such marriage becos of the beating from her husband
    but then again i tried to find out some secret about some woman that has refused
    to leave the abuse marriage,,
    1,,,some woman use juju african magic to get her husband to marry her and the juju man will always warned her early about the backfire of those juju and those woman
    will still go on to do the juju and hoping everything will get better after children has come,but the forget that juju dont last longer ,and after some years
    when that juju has broken from the man eyes he start to see his wife and an enemy
    and nothing she does can pleased the husband,if the man is happy and see the wife
    he will become unhappy for just no reason,,he can even hate his children as well
    and any of his child that support the mother is also an enemy to him,,
    must of the mothers knows the truth and the reasons but they will never open up
    to her children about it and how he native doctor warned her about the juju,,
    the native doctor,juju man will even warned her that her problems will be worst
    and too bad to bears anytime she leave her husband becos of the abused and beating,
    that is the reasons every wise child out there must make sure you ask ur father
    the reasons why he always beating ur mother and ask him how he meet ur mother before he married her ,,sometime some woman that use pregnant to caged a man suffer
    too later after marriage,,must time some men dont even know the reasons for beating up his wife,,,,marriage is for love and not for hate,,,,shallom,,

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  16. If I were you I will keep away from him. Play your responsibility as his child. If it's sending him money he can feed with monthly do it,a small amount for his welfare.
    Pray for him,forgive him. But keep away. Such a man can break your home and all you have achieved. This one he is reporting you to family all around he doesnt know he is opening up his child to evil to those he is reporting to.
    Pls keep away for him. Send him upkeep money. Call him on his bday,wish him happy new year. But pls keep you and your family away. Let him marry if he wants to abeg. Before he starts carrying your name to prophets and alfa.

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    1. Why do you encourage her to send him money? What if he didn't have any child? It's situation like this that make bad spouse continue their evil behaviour because in the end people will encourage the kids to overlook their past behaviours. So anyone can have kids,treat them poorly and still deserve to be taken care of just because they are parents?

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  17. Some people do not deserve to be husbands, fathers, mothers or wives as the case may be. Haba! Poster, you were even magnanimous to have sent gift to him work 200k... The moment your mum died, he should have been dead to you. Thank God you all got educated...

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    1. You dey mind the poster 200k that she would have used to setup a business for a widow or a distressed young boy or girl.

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  18. Hian........ Please don't reply any text message, he's looking for an accomplice, let him talk to your brother and not you if he wants to remarry..... Face your front and take care of your home, those are you family now!!!

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  19. Don't ever follow him to any meeting. You didn't have a father, your husband is your father now. What would your life be like if he hadn't sent you and your siblings to school. Just reply him that you will not be responsible for taking care of him if he remarries. He is a very self centered man.

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  20. Marry Who? Another woman he can kill? I am surprised you will even watch someone marry the person you described above. Better let him remain single before you have another burial. At 72 his wickedness doesn't seem to have diminished, for him to still think of taking you for meeting.

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  21. There shall be no peace for the wicked. He sent u a text abi? Reply with text too. Don't say yes or no. Tell him to do his wish. If he marries, don't attend...that's all u can do for ur late mum now. Kaii. ..God shd neva allow any woman to die young and not reap her hard work. Ur mum is no more alive...But ur dad still owe u guys apology for all doz yrs.

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  22. Poster don't make dt decision for your dad and don't let anybody push you into Making such. Oath does work and I saw an effect thus Christmas. Tell your father you have no issues with him, do what a child should do for parents but don't involve yourself when it comes to marital matters. Tell him it's his personal decision and warn your younger ones as well.

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  23. Marry for what? Torr if he insists, you look for a 72- 80 year old woman for him to marry. Shebi he needs a companion?

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  24. this is one of the reasons i thank God for separating my mum and dad. if not, one of them would have be dead by now... My sister, free your dad to do whatever he wants with his life... if you are bothered about property, let him hand over all documents to you guys before you give him the go ahead... Men sha, it is well.

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  25. At 72 years? He wants to remarry? How will he cope?

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  26. where is that aunty that was telling tonto to go back to her husband Abi save her marriage? shebi it's until one partner drops dead, I must remain married people will receive sense? can u imagine what this poster's mum went through all because of marriage? may God rest her soul. As for your father, tell him if he likes, he can marry same sex sef, it's not your problem and business. I don't know why u are sending him gift/money? what if u married a no good man like him, u for see money send to him?

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  27. Well I think I approve of Stella's advice/suggestion.
    Forgive him.
    But make it CLEAR to him, that IF he fathers another child/ren with this new one, that he is on his own.
    It's high time becomes responsible!
    Help him with once in a while.
    May God bless your husband who stood by you and your siblings, nothing like education! God bless him real good.
    May the soul of your mom continue to rest in peace 🙏

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  28. Poster, I agree with the majority here, let him know to do as he desires, as it is none of his business. Your dear husband has labored for you and your siblings, please respect his Labour and do not waste his money on your father. Why would you give to excess on a man who did not do shit to help you get where you are today? Your amazingly decent husband took up what was his responsibility and you want to take his money lavish on that brute of a father who sent your mother to a quick grave. I am not saying let him starve, but 500 Naira a month is all he would get from me, just the bare minimum for him to eat and not die from starvation. Please limit all communication with your father to just the bare minimum. Do not attend a damn meeting and he shouldn't even know where you live. He does not respect women, see him carrying your name up and down for anyone who will listen. I bet you that he paints himself as the one who schooled you all. I bet you that he paints himself as the forgotten and ill-treated father. Girl, understand that this type of person shows one face to the public and a very different one at home. The people in the community likely do not know how truly diabolical he is. Keep your distance!

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  29. Allow the man to do as he please. Don't prevent him from getting married bcos the next woman is sure going to be his karma bet me, God is already on d thrown. Personally I feel u should cut cash flow to him, maybe bcos he has enough and thinks he can marry. May God bless your husband in every of his endeavor and grant you guys long,prosperous and healthy life in love and peace in Jesus name.

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  30. Do Nigerians really fear God? All this talk about Christianity but always quick to swear oaths, visit mediums and knack pigeons. You cannot serve God and mammon. Change!!

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  31. Omg...Anonymous 4.36, you just described my daddy. Thank you Estee and bv's, i decided to ignore that sms he sent to me,till he tells me to my face. What I posted is just a tip of the iceberg. What sort of father tried sleeping with his daughters and house girl. My mum suffered.I'm old enough and I know better now. R.i.p my Mummy, we miss you so much. You laboured in vain, without staying to reap. we could have alleviated your sufferings, not because we are rich now but at least reduced your suffering to the barest minimum. We know you are up there smiling at how much we have become. We'll make you proud. Love and miss you my mummy.

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