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Friday, March 09, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

Hmmm...Annoying ISH!!!





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE 
A ''THIEVING'' RELATIVE


Dear Stella

I am I dire need of your red pen and that of my fellow bvs. 

Straight to the point.

5 years ago my mom brought a young boy of about 11 years from the village who was an orphan saying she wants to raise him and train him through school. We (my elder sister and I) were cool with it because we felt he will be around to keep her company and reduce the risk of travelling back home every weekend to spend time with her due to the nature of our jobs. 


 He was enrolled in school and we were optimistic he will pick up as he wasn't really sound ( you won't blame him he grew up in the village) We grew fond of him and took him as the brother we never had. He grew into a nice young boy until about 3 years ago when he started stealing. 


When I heard he stole 2k from my moms pigeon hole for the first time I was shocked to my bone marrow. This is a boy who doesn't lack anything, he wanted a bicycle my sister got him one, he wanted a laptop i got him a mini, he wanted a PS game abi wetin them dey callam sef i bought him one. He wanted a dog, i went through hell to buy him the breed he wanted but this boy wont stop stealing.

 he graduated from stealing small amount to 5k, then 10k, then 30k Chai! What was he gonna buying with 30k mbok? We usually grounded him from playing games, watching Tv or going out to meet friends but even that wasn't enough to stop this boy from stealing. And I don't have energy to come and beat someones child like a goat. 


 I went over sometimes and have a long talk with him whenever he steals as to why he steals but he wont say a word. I sat down and asked my self if that's how we will end up having an arm robber in our family. This boy has never for once been maltreated or starved a day in his life, so what does he do with the money he steals? In fact the only house chores he does in the house is feed his dog, water the flowers, pump water,wash the car and go to school.


 Is that too much for him to do? He doesn't even do the dishes, the help does the cooking and keeps the house clean. The latest one is the one he stole today .. this boy has the guts to steal 50k from my car which i was suppose to pay the driver who will be bringing goods for me tomorrow. (I know he hasn't spent the money yet so he must bring it out tho he denies stealing it).

  Stella and my fellow bvs in this buharia? What will a young boy of 16 be doing with 50k for heaven sakes? I was mad that I gave him a dirty slap ( i lost my temper, and i regret it deeply) now my hands hurts. What do I do with a thieving relative? Is he a wizard sent to torment us? My sister thinks he should be put in cell for a day or two to teach him a lesson but i Steffysofynsofly honestly don't have the liver to send someones child to spend the night in police cell knowing how bad Nigerian police cells are.


 My mom is tired as he has been stealing money from her store and purses frequently and is already thinking of sending him back to the village. ( you can't blame her, the woman has tried to put up with his stealing behaviour for so long and has had enough) But what will happen to his future? I know we can send him to school from the village but what about training him to become a good and responsible fellow?

 Can we even compare the schools in the village to what we have over here in the city? Won't he become worst if sent back to the village? Will we even be talking about sending him to the village if he was our blood brother? How do we stop this boy from stealing? Because at the rate he is going now he might end up stealing outside and get lynched to death or even arrested. Can we handle the shame? Has anyone been faced with such issues before? Biko help me before I get I high blood pressure. I am too young to come and go and die on top person pikin.


Biko all the English professors in this blog pardon my typing or grammatical errors I know una sabi English well well. But please don't forget to drop your suggestions after the correction/ criticism. Nagode


*I don't know if I am correct to say this but it looks like stealing in his genes.....If you ask around his Family members I am sure you might hear a similar thieving story...
He might soon graduate to armed robbery or bringing them into the house....Take away all the luxury and Send him back to the Village to go and stay for sometime,let him experience a different life again from what you guys have given him,maybe it will reset his brain....

He is probably stealing these monies and giving to outside influence...

As he grows older in that house ,it might not be safe for your mum at all

76 comments:

  1. It could be genetic. Pls, return hiim before he sends your mum to early grave, especially since you guys are not always around.

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    1. Return the boy

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    2. DO YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY THIS BOY IS STEALING?

      "This is a boy who doesn't lack anything, he wanted a bicycle my sister got him one, he wanted a laptop i got him a mini, he wanted a PS game abi wetin them dey callam sef i bought him one. He wanted a dog, i went through hell to buy him the breed he wanted"


      You girls spoilt him! When you give a growing child everything he/she craves, you are paving way for stealing. He feels he should have everything life offers; including other people's wives/girlfriends if there is no intervention.

      And what's the intervention; the gospel. If you are saved, begin to preach to him/fast and pray for him. Send inspirational messages/movies to his email so he can be useful with his laptop. That is where to begin. install inspirational movies in his laptop etc.

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    3. Sending him to "jail" in Nigeria is the easiest way to initiate him into armed robbery
      or the Evan's type of kidnapping for ransom.
      I have been a minister in Nigerian jails for years and I know exactly what I am telling you here.

      You, your sister and mom did not do well in not depriving this young boy of "anything he so wished for"
      That is not training in discipline. I don't think your mom trained you that way.

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    4. Yes you should take him to the station, he doesn't have to sleep there but let the officers threaten him so he will first return the one he stole, that's how the 17 year old that is doing apprentiship work in one of our shops stole almost 200k we dint notice he had been stealing lesser amounts until he got two phones the house help caught him with, we took him to the station straight, it was there we figured out the huge amount he had been taking, he even stopped eating at home and was taking pepper soup at work (as a big boy). So take him to the police station or kindly take him back to his people

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    5. I agree with Push-up. Get police involved but discuss with them. It is like ‘scared straight’. They wil threaten him and she’s w him what the cell looks like. By the time they’re done with him, He will have the fear of God. They should come early so he spends the whole day there but get him back home and let him know next time, you’re not showing up to bail him.

      And then take back everything that is extra! Everything! And tell him until you see a change in his behaviors, then that’s how it will stay.

      It’s often the case with children who stay with older people. Your mother that was probably so stern when you were growing up doesn’t have such energy anymore and some of these children just take advantage of that.

      Plan for therapy. See a psychologist. Orphans are sometimes the worst kind of people to help. Esp if they’re family and still young. No matter what you do, they’ll be doing like their parents would’ve done better had they been alive. You’ll be surprised at the therapist would uncover


      One more thing, , be sure it is not the maid that is doing the stealing and letting him take the blame since he is the original thief!

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  2. He is mingling with bad people believe it or not. He should be in SS 1, 2 or 3,that's where the peer pressure is high.

    Don't let him stay in your house any further, before he will arrange better robbery for una head. Imagine 50k, a 16year old, that's crazy.

    Find the black goat ugbua ihe di...

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  3. OMG..pls send him back to the village.. Simple

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    1. Maybe he is a member of a secret cult. If he is not lacking anything, then some people outside are instigating the theft and using him as a pawn. He probably doesn't know that going back to the village would spell doom for him because life in the village will be demoralizing to him, after tasting life in the city. But if he doesn't change, try the option of sending him back to the village. People prefer to learn the hard way at times....

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    2. Life in the villag r is not as bad as you guys paint it to be,many villages in my state is far far better than many areas in Lagos and they have some good schools in Nigeria outside major cities. He will soon be old enough for University or Technical School,arrange for him to move to a boarding facility.

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  4. Send him back,before he graduates into armed robbery or harm u guys.

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    1. Or if u won't send him home, Beat the thief out of him, hide all ur money, let him lack n feel there's no money again. Let him start washing plates...no more kid gloves treatment...since love n care no work, try Cane.

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  5. Does he have a girlfriend?

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  6. My cousin that was stealing from my mum didn't even steal this much before we sent her to the village.

    You guys mean well for him but the only choice is to send him back before he gives your mum HBP. If you take him to cell or he steals outside and anything goes wrong, his family won't see reasons with you guys.

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    1. Poster just return him back to the village. Taking him to cell might make him more hardened because he will meet criminals that are worst than him.

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  7. Poster, lets look at it from another angle, what if its not the boy that's stealing all the money? Agreed, he has been stealing, but what if someone else( e.g your house help or gateman or any other person) has been stealing these monies too and setting this boy up cos he has already been labelled a thief before? (Its possible)
    Not defending the boy sha, but i just want you to be more vigilant of others.

    But, if its the boy doing this, I think the first step is finding out if he is into this betting thingy cos betting is gradually turning into an addiction among our youths and they will do anything to get the money to keep betting. If this is the case, then your family has a lot of work to do changing that lifestyle.

    Sending him back to the village is not a solution either

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  8. To avoid stories that touches the heart, i think he has stolen enough before he steals your kidney join. Please send him home. I don't care if it's a kpleto issue or just an attitude issue before anger makes you kill him one day for stealing something very valuable to you or something even worst than stealing. He is such an ungrateful fellow, a 16 year old teenager isn't a child any longer. I believe he knows what he is doing, perhaps saving the money for himself, giving it to family members or even spending it on a girl. Biko take him home with immediate effect and give your reasons to people in the village before they give you a bad name since he is not your child.

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  9. Do send him back to the village.

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  10. I guess he is playing Baba Ijebu.
    If he does not stop stealing now, I hope he won't have the nerve to organise armed robbers soon.
    Have a long talk with him today.
    Tell him you are sorry for hitting him today(yes that's necessary) but let him know he is really getting on your nerves with his attitudes.
    Remind him of the reason you that made you guys bring him to the city which is education.
    Tell him you promise you will still do that for him but he will have to move to the city so as to avoid further hitting.
    Watch his reaction and take it from there.
    May God help you.
    Besides he needs serious prayer and counseling.

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  11. You all are chanting 'send him back to the village'. What if he was her brother? Have you considered that his problem might be spiritual? I just feel a lot more is going on here than the physical eye can comprehend.

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    1. But he is not her brother. So yeah he should be sent to the village. His family should go and handle his thieving ways. Don't blackmail people into taking care of other people's problems when they have theirs. Is it until he kills their mum before they will send him out of the house??

      Steffy send that boy back to the village for your mother's sanity

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    2. Which stinking spiritual problem? Be looking for external forces to blame. Better send him back to his people

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  12. Please send him back to the village

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  13. From experience...it could be spiritual..villa people knowing he's going to do well living with your family may invoke spirit of stealing in him so that you can send him back...also his mother or someone he communicates with from the villa may teach him to take money and send to them..send him back and pray well cos he has lived with you enough to do you harm with all the information he has about tour family cos he won be happy going back

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  14. Dear poster your onlu sparing the rod and spoiling him... Either take him to the police for some days or send him back to the village let him see what life on the other side feels like.

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    1. He is 16 therefore a juvenile offender, what possibly can the police do?

      Pls send him back ASAP

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  15. Poster poster poster..... How many times did I call you. Send that boy back to the village or send him to boarding house in city if you are concerned with his studies. Holidays let him go to the village.
    I am sure your mum is very precious to you. That boy will graduate to planning kidnap for your mum one day. I can see the signs.
    I know a lady that brought two relatives from the village;two girls like age 14/15. The parents have been begging for years for this woman to help them train them. Since she is rich and lives in Lagos. For proper education. The woman has trained quite a number they have left her house and are now married. With one in Canada.
    She's a widow living in VGC, her only son is living abroad. So that one encouraged her. They were sending this girls to school. But once school closes God knows where they do. They won't come home till late evening. One in particular was fond of that. And they found out she has a bf in the estate. She use to even sneak out when the woman sleeps and carry this woman's food to give the bf. Till she caught her one day and started keeping the house keys inside her room. Not leaving it at the back of the door.
    The woman usually takes tea before she sleeps. That is how the evil girl told the second one that there is a drug they can buy at the chemist and put in her tea to make her sleep so they can be going out at night. That she won't remember anything in the morning.
    That is how the good one told the woman the plans o. She immediately sent the girl back. Because such girl can kill. That woman is hypertensive and is on drugs,she's close to 70. what if the drug they plan to put in her tea counters what she is on and kills her.
    Poster you people need to send that boy away. He is bad news.
    Take care of him from afar. Pay his school fees,send him feeding money and pocket money. His parents must have siblings still alive. That boy is bad news especially as your mum lives alone. Had it been you are in the house with her it is better.

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    1. anonymous donor9 March 2018 at 16:23

      B3st comment. I have someone like this. They will never change because they've seen u as weak and they know u ain't their immediate family. Their true sense of loyalty lies in d village. Imagine the impunity of not answering for te use of the money? Who born am, yet u let him eat food and sleep . Why won't he steal another day. You are spoiling the child .abi you HAVE spoilt thee child. Send him to d village asap. His people will beg, normal. When theey beg, send him to boarding school. Pay his fees to the school directly and give his people money for his provisions and up keep. Do not visiit him in school. Do not let him visit you for whatever reason. Let him go directly to the village and taste life. Moreover and more importantly, be very very security conscious. His type will steal and harm. Cos he is used to money without hard-working with an inflated sense of entitlement. Just be there, he might be planning on how to inherit all ur stuff when ur mum is gone. Keep personal info to yourself and family. Don't tell him or his people of your movements. Dont get carried away by their smiles and humility before money. Hatereal, if u doubt watch BBA. He already let his guard down by this displays. I really feel like slapping u for. Not taking it seriously. After all d crimes Stella profiles here

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    2. Anonymous donor...u sound like someone that treats people with disdain especially ur helps (if u have any)...ur words are too extreme...

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    3. anonymous donor9 March 2018 at 23:48

      I'm just security conscious. I play with my help , she eats whatever, travels abroad. .etc. some of us were not raised as spoiled kids 7

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  16. There is nothing genetic with stealing. There's no prove. To agree with that is to also agree that being a prostitute, or a hoe is in the gene. These vices culminate due to jealousy (so try to find out the type of friends he's keeping, they might be having such money and so he wants to blend along).

    HoHowev,I can see you've along with your other sister and mother good hearts.

    Your question that if he's your own brother would you return him to the village, is a manifestation that you people have good plans towards the guy. Please, don't return him to village. That wouldn't solve the issue. Put every effort on him like you would have put if he's your biological brother. This chronicle would have been of joy and pride if he's bringing home achievements that could shoot him to national limelight. And you guys would have been the one partly receiving the glory. So you've got to bear the negative developments.

    If you birth a child with measles, you don't discard the child, you treat him through patience of his measles and have him whole and healthy. Likewise, this.

    It's not going to be easy, but the good news is, you people can pull along. Having taken him from village, you've got to bear the pains for now and keep counseling him. If possible, arrange so he can see a physiologist

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    1. Well said, Steff, take this advice.

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    2. anonymous donor9 March 2018 at 16:30

      Counsel ke. You think say u dey Yankee. This dude has hate in him and no remorse. Imagine stealing annd not begging and confessing wetin u use am buy when u are caught. That boy hates u lot. Y'all just blinded by stupidity. Naiveity is a sin. Shine your eyes. Help from far. Shikena. That boy is very unappreciative and has a sense of na *our* money. Put him in boarding school before he Tkes more of his money. This one will sell your mama house or car one day. Btw, let him holidays in d villagge for proper brain resetting. Although, life is a choice given to us by God. He could get better or worse. None is your fault.

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    3. Poster, just imagine if he was ur kid bro, would u throw him away? My advise is for u take all benefits from him. and if possible put him in boarding school where life is hard. Let him encounter some difficulties.

      Sending him to the village might spelt doom for u people. Cos he would be waiting for u guys when u travel to the village and the outcome might not be good.

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  17. You didn't mention anything about a man in the house. I think this is where his problem is coming from.

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    1. You are not well at all. Run off and take your meds

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    2. anonymous donor9 March 2018 at 16:32

      I swear. The boy has zero respect for you or your mum. Imagine

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    3. What has man in the house got to do with this mumu

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  18. Might be giving to a girl he is trying to impress or involved in cult/peer pressure, buying beer for friends etc.


    Get him to confess and know what exactly he did with the 50k so you know what you guys are up against as his cohorts may already be seeing your mum's house as a fertile place for stealing, get police that will threaten him to confess,after which you send him back to village.


    No buy market wey big pass una abeg.

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    1. anonymous donor9 March 2018 at 16:32

      This one pass girl, if it's not cult, then it's his people in d village or personal saving

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  19. Someone or some people are influencing him to steal and taking the money from him and they may be threatening him too. I have two suggestions:
    1. Take him to the barracks and have army boys deal with him for a night or two (tell them not to inflict too much injury o but just to scare him). He will confess.
    2. Just take him back to the village stating to his family his offence and wash your hands off him.

    Whether or not you pick an option, you have to act fast because he might invite those "influencers" to come and rob your mum and they may do worse. Your mum is not safe with that boy o.

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    1. I'm suspecting it's his people that are influencing him. Poster, if you don't have a brother annd you are Igbo, get ready cos that little devil is planning a hostile takeover. He has zero respect cos he knows u won't do jack and u ain't his real parents. And he sees u don't have sense. U just slapped him once for 50k? Someones 2 months salary. Send him to the village and help from afar. He will beg. Don't listen. Even oyibo people send kids to boarding as treatment

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  20. Send him back

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  21. Hian ! End time village thief!!!

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  22. Thank you for all you and your family have done for him.Please, before you dispatch him back to the village. Give him another opportunity by taking away the goodies you people have given to him, have a deep heart to heart discussion with him and also engage him in prayer and fasting for like three days. Please don't give up on him. maybe, the forces that made him an orphan at 11 years might be the powers manipulating him to misbehave in order to be disgraced out of where his life would be better.
    Pray for him because things do happen in this life.

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  23. What are you waiting for? Send him back and change your locks.
    A 16 year old who is bold enough to steal 50k is a time bomb.

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  24. Funny enough Steffysofynsofly, I was in a similar situation years back, mum went to bring our step cousin from village to stay with us, though he wasn't stealing but he started being stubborn and rebellious and demanding we increase his pocket money cause his pairs at primary school then we're given 1k per day asides food. But one December when we traveled home, we found out that he had a box of new clothes, shoes, perfume, books, even indomie saved for his younger ones back home. We were shocked. His father was proud, it's like though he told him some words, when my dad who is his step brother complained about his son bring rebellious, he waved it aside and said "you go discipline am na". The next year he didn't change, so when we were home the next year, I told my mum to leave him behind, it's better we send him money for school and upkeep than to be causing trouble for us.
    His room is still intact here with some of his books and pictures. Now 7years later he wants to come back but it's a big No! That's the solution to this issue.

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  25. Sorry to say this, I think you gave him too much liberty to do as he want. If a child demand for something and you know you can afford it you don't have to hurry and get it for them.
    Pls tell what a child of that age is doing with laptop? Instead you should have bought an educational gadget.
    All he needs is a firm hand or better still return him to wherever you got him from. He can't seem to see the bright future you want to offer him.
    Haba 50k!! before you know it you'll start looking for ur debit/credit card

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  26. Do an underground investigation on him, find out who his friends are both in school and at home. Check his stuff and if you guys send him to the village, change environment asap if you guys want your mum to live long. May he encounter Jesus . amen

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  27. Hmm.. There are so many questions to be asked and answered. First, let him realize the dangers of being a thieve. But if he denies stealing at all, then you can hardly help him. Prayers can help too and make him fast and pray.

    #Atagara

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  28. poster, you people have a kind heart in your family. God bless you for taking care of someone that is not your blood,but is a shame that the boy does not appreciate what he has.please send the boy to the village. God bless you really good.

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  29. Poster, l have a feeling the boy might be bullied in School and trying to buy his way out. He is definitely giving the money to someone else. Please send him back before he gives you guys an epic disgrace. He should have enough sense to remember where he came from and the difference you guys have made in his life.
    I remember years ago my half Brother came to our house and l always gave him money wherever he was leaving. My Uncle had given me 30,000 which was rent from our late Fathers house in the village. In 1997, that was a lot of money. Do you know my half brother stole that money?? He went to Diobu and was hanging out with bad boys there. Well l sent word to him that l know it’s our Fathers house but since l am the Captain of the ship, running and feeding everyone, he was no longer welcome there. This boy eventually graduated to committing rape, etc l am glad l kept him away. When he was five years old l begged his Mom to let him come stay with us in Port Harcourt but she refused. Once he turned 15, he dropped out of high School and became uncontrollable for her. She came to me asking me to take him as the older sibling. I was going to but once he stole that money, l felt his character was already formed and he wasn’t going to change. Please send him back.

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  30. No strength to type right now cos me i have plenty experience with village people and helping ish. Was it not here I told you guys of the one who went to call police for my parents in January? 不不不 or the ones who almost ruined my sister's neighbours marriage?
    Steffy, DETACH. I see alot of emotions in this chronicle. You've really taken the boy as a sibling but he doesn't see you as his big sister or your mum as his. Detach!! Erase all emotions and start using your head.
    Send that boy back before he kills you guys. Take all you gave him, especially if a phone was involved. Buy him another phone and send him back. This is because as you're sending him back, you don't want him to send his new friends to come and harm you while he's away.

    Steffy, how many times did I call You? Leave story and send him back!!

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    1. Gbam!! Very well said. Steffy, You know we all love you so much on this blog. We don’t want to hear months down the road that this boy has done something worse than this. Please, send him back Steffy.

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    2. There was one we got. Brought him here, sent him to school. He went and joined gang and started drinking. Then he will make me go late to work, cos my dad insisted I drop him on my way. He would be balancing and I will be horning cos he knows if i leave my dad would be upset that I don't have empathy. And he liked it when my dad shouts on us because of him. Evil thing!
      The straw that broke the camel's back was when he failed first term exams with huge F9s and instead of coming with us to church on 31st night, went out drinking and showed up drunk in church as we were blowing knock outs. And he knows that peopel respect my parents alot as elders in church. He just started talking drunkard talk and ended up throwing up on the peopel that were trying to calm him down. My mother kept saying: he's my husband's distant cousin (to emphasize that he was from my dad 不不). Cos we don talk tire, popsy no hear say the boy na small winsch. Well that was his last week in the house.

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    3. Another one was pooing in my aunty's parlour. She would wake up and poop there by morning the whole house will stink. My aunty won't be able to receive visitors for days, cos na rug. A house with 4 toilets and only 5 people. Na parlour she go poo. The final gbosa was when she pee'd in my small cousins drinking water and gave the girl to drink. My small cousin is partially deaf, so her speech was funny until she turned 5 but her sense of smell is strong. She coudlnt tell her mum she just carried the cup and went to tell her mum to drink it. Only for my aunt to smell wee wee inside. She almost fainted. The girl knew that the child's speech wasn't so good so she thought she would get away with it.
      My aunty called my dad and told him that she can't die because of family please. Evil children! This is someone that was going to the same school as my aunt's children and was eveb positioned as a big sister. By aunt was planning to relocate that time and had done adoption papers for her, citing that she had 3 children. So the girls life can be better for her own mother. For wia! We sent her back. Two years later she carry belle born, my aunty sent babies clothes to her. Lol

      Should i go on? Steffy, send him back! Pikin wey no get head no get. These children can be very ungrateful. No matter what you do for them they won't love you or Have any empathy towards you.

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    4. Thumbs up Chikito.
      I laughed hard at the first story.
      You always nail it and drive it home with real life cases.

      Steffy listen to the voice of reason. Your mum needs peace not headache.

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    5. @bvs and poster sending the boy back to the village will only make matters worse. Trust me . It never ends well for those kids . A distant relative came to live with us many yrs ago . She started misbehaving my mum sent her back due to suggestions such as these . Guess what happened,she got a boyfriend,got pregnant and was living with the boy . When she was eight months pregnant she had argument with boyfriend he kicked her in the tummy and she died before she got to the hospital. Her mum was regretting that she should have stayed with us. They made the boyfriend marry her corpse. . What I’m saying is if that boy is sent back to the village his life won’t amount to much he’ll end up the village thief.

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  31. Poster you guys are compassionate and tender hearted which some people will always exploit. Treating him well is not a crime but allowing him to take advantage of you is not wise. Plus I am alarmed to read that his behaviour is escalating. He could be on drugs for all you know. Very soon he will graduate to armed robbery. Send him back to the village and don't let him take anything with him. Care for him if you must from afar. Also, change the locks on your mum's house just to be on the safe side. His type regrettably are never grateful or appreciative.

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  32. My dear,that boy needs to see a psychiatrist. He has antisocial personality.it has no cure...counseling and some pharmacological agents will help.

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    1. Please educate yourself, chikito. It would have taken you but a minute to look up antisocial personality rather than exposing your ignorance.

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  33. Steffy we have experienced such things before in my family...was even our relative...grew up with us but my mum n dad sent him back to the village when they had enough...funny enough now he still call n thank my mum for everything she did for him and wished he never misbehave...just send him back or send for someone to come take him back...when he sees the other side of life he will regret

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  34. This is serious! Steffy, sending him to the village will sound like the best option for the family but it won't in any way help the boy. If he goes back, he'll join a bad gang in the village, Infact he'll live a more wayward and disastrous life. Please take him to the police, let them threaten him, discipline him but don't jail him. Stop buying him everything he requests, you're spoiling him. Above all, pray for him, God CAN fix him. He's still young, he'll change.

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  35. Please don't send him back to the village yet. What if he were your child or brother? It was wrong you guys gave him everything he wanted. He might have formed a click in school where they compete among themselves.

    The 1st step of handling this is change his school. Then ground him for a term before he begins a new school. During this one term make sure he has nothing new. No new cloths, shoes or whatever. Let him do all the jobs there is in that house from cooking to what have you.limit his access to television and take his laptop away. Sell his dog if possible. Make him aware that he is of a bad behaviour hence doesn't deserve good things. Let him know those things are for only kids who behave well and are not shame to their family. Speak to his conscience and let him know it's not an obligation you bring him to the city to take care of him but it's just favour so he must use it well. Aside church, don't allow him out.

    After the one term of grounding, Send him to another school but make sure he goes with old uniform to avoid him forming rich kid and concentrate on his book. Don't give him back luxury at once but little by little. I pray the Lord touch him.

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  36. Pls send him back. This used to be our story until about 3 years ago. The boy in question is our cousin. He did all sorts, almost killed my mom, she was admitted, then he had the guts to sell her properties while she was still at the hospital (he is pure evil). Momsy got well, and sent him packing. People came to beg, money stood her ground. Then momsy's pastor took him in, less than a month, this boy raided this man's house, he went to a bet naija store to steal hundreds of thousands. He got arrested and was sent to kiri kiri , this boy was 18years when this particular incident happened.Momsy brought him when he was less than 2 years. Alot of atrocities he committed, i can't type quater. So, pls help your family.

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  37. Steffy send him to a boarding school and let him holiday in the village and please also remember to change the locks o the house also he may have done duplicate of keys




    #mummyisaac

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  38. Please send him back and also move out of your house if rented cos if he has a gang he can hurt your mum or any of you guys cos you can't trust him. And he can also poison you guys through food or any available means.

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  39. Please send him back to the village.

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  40. Send this boy back. Anyone who steals from you has no love for you. Dont kid yourself. A boy I kept with me too started stealing. I did not waste time. The message he was sending was clear. "I dont love you. I dont wish you well". I sent him back to where I got him from. Period. No sentiments about it. Poster stop being sentimental. He isnt going to stop. His loyalty is in the village. Return him and help him from afar. He isnt part of you. It's just as simple as that!

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