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IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE IN THE FRIEND ZONE

Good day Stella,
Greetings to you in all regards. Kindly help post this on your blog, I need BVs clarity on this issue of mine, almost similar to mondays chronicle. But in my case we are not dating. Let's say I friend-zoned him. But I'm having second thought, at the same time scared.


I met C on your blog, in one of the numerous single and mingle posts some 2yrs plus ago. And we got along so well. Although I made the contact, I made it clear I needed only friends as he pushed for a relationship. So we stocked on friendship. At some point, we broke off but found a way reconnecting as we never left. We hanged out a couple of time on my insistence, to get to know him personally. Other than on BBN and Whatsapp. Such a peaceful loving friend, that I have never had or met before.

 Each hangout was always a memory for, as simple as they were. He is a good soul. A nice guy, calm, intelligent, humorous and knowledgeable. Gradually he has become my best friend without him knowing it. I looked forward to our chats. 

A day without it, is always as if I lost something big. He doesn't know I feel this way because I have boyfriend.

Its now two yrs plus, and his effect on me is frightening me. The problem I have is that, he seems too clean without flaws and a near perfect. Something I find deeply troubling and worrying. I can't claim to know him too well but I do to an extent. He comes off with this air of a simple easy going guy. He gives me peace of mind, something don't experience with my boyfriend. Yes, chat naughty, dirty and all, but it always comes off very educative and incisive. 

I have learnt a lot from him, than from a male friend. My boyfriend inclusive. And he had helped me out many times, even as broke as he is. He is unemployed, managing a small hustle. Although I always pay him back. I on the other hand had never reciprocated. Except when I give him friendly gifts. Not that he ever asked anyways. Except at the beginning of our friendship, which I ignored. I work and earn a decent salary.



I do visit him once in a while, he stays with friends. So I prefer him visiting me instead because of distance. S'x is not involved in this o, not that I'd mind (make una no crucify me o). The most that had happened was a simple kiss, I initiated (side eyes), and that was a long time ago. Most times, I want him to stay over, he never does. Even when I intentionally delays him, he calls a cab or finds his way home. I don't know if its love I feel for him or just infatuation. 

Yet I cant bring myself to make the move, because we understood and respected our friend zoning. It eats me bad. I told an aunt and some friends, they think I should gradually unfriend-zone him (if theres any word like that).

My boyfriend has broken up with me, partly because of him. And my I him, asked me to apologise. And wants to meet my bf and apologise. With a promise to reduce our communication, and restrict his visits to only when bf is around if need be. Hell no, that's something I cant handle. Recently, I have taken steps to review both relationships. And I came to the conclusion that while both nice guys, my bf as always is too possessive, proud and easily offend.

 Maybe because he drives a big car and work in a big organisation. C is a 360• opposite, he has improved me in all good ways. Confidence, self esteem, poise, style, personality and work area intelligence. He has taken bullets my bf takes for granted. for.

I am writing in for opinions and suggestions, because I'd be joining my mom in the abroad soon (both do not know my parent live outside). And C is making plans to travel out next year, if PMB wins. According to him, he has never been this poor and reduce all his life. Than in the last 3yrs plus. I cant leave him without letting him know what burns me inside. Will he understand? Am I being too forward? I know he doesn't have gf, cause we talk about almost all the time.

 Does such relationship ends well? Am I unnecessarily worried about his near perfect personality? I know he gets angry and jealous too, but less than two over ten. Are there guys like this who are a joy to be with or is it pretence? Or I see him with from a troubled female perception, that a guy cant be this flawless without a dark side.
Thank you

*Why not just let it be the way it is and relocate to start a new life....trying to force this into a relationship with he is yet to sort out himself financially might not be a good idea.....I dont even understand why you would let this break up your relationship..

you might eventually end up losing both.