STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CLOSURE NEEDED URGENTLY
Oh Stella God bless you for all the good works you have been doing. So I was among the people with TTC testimonies after the TTC 21days prayer. When I got pregnant I was so happy. I was already having some pains before my missed period.
When I got pregnant, I thought it was the pregnancy. But my joy was short lived when after just 5days, I noticed I was spotting. Went to the hospital and did scan but they said they cant see anything yet that it was too early they gave me cyclogest to insert in my vjay and come back after two weeks. Within this two weeks, the pain and bleeding increased and I could swear I lost consciousness one day for some minutes.
After 2 weeks went back to the hospital and did scan. They said there s a sac now but there s blood outside my womb. That my body may absorb the blood. I should continue with the cyclogest and come back after two weeks. Some days after the pain was getting worse and I was feeling dizzy. Then I went to the toilet to pee and passed out something like tissue or thick blood with like lizard like skeleton inside (don't know how to describe it). Rushed to the hospital and the blood was still outside my womb. The doctor suggested it was ectopic. I had blood work done in 2 different places and my pcv was 40%. The doc was shocked because I had lost so much blood and my abdomen was tender from internal bleeding.
I had the surgery and one tube was removed because it was ruptured. The doc said about 2 pints of blood was removed from my abdomen and the blood was already clotting. Its been over a year now I had the surgery. I have done hsg and my other tube is fine. My 2 ovaries are intact.
Why this story? because I have been TTC for over a year and I am slowly going into depression. I am confused. My marriage is almost 3yrs... I just need explanations on all that happened. Was that actually my baby that fell out of me? Why was my pcv still high? Why just after 5days of pregnancy all these happened?
I just need explanations so I can find closure. Thanks and God bless....
*Oh Dear!!!
I think you were already pregnant and losing the baby when you thought you were pregnant.....How come some Nigerian Docs don't do proper tests before they give drugs?you could have died!!!
I am not a doc but i do know that you cannot be pregnant within five days and pass out anything less than blood with a little clotting and not something skeletal or even frog like.....
Oh dear Lord! I think that was the baby that fell out in it's early stage of forming. Please be strong, be prayerful, only God gives. You will surely be pregnant again carry it to full term and birth your baby to the glory of God.
ReplyDeleteThe docs are to blame, they dint do a proper test and started giving drugs to incert, if it was etopic from the start they would have seen it during the initial scan (that’s if they even conducted one) they would have had the operation immediately not telling to go and come in two weeks over and over again. I don’t know what we are practicing in this country and calling it health care
DeleteSee why people struggle to get medical care outside
DeleteIt is well dear
You were pregnant for a long time but didn't know. Your baby will come soon, just enjoy sex with your husband and stop thinking about getting pregnant for now, it will happen. Best of luck
ReplyDeleteI'm not a doctor but you had a pregnancy but the baby was forming out of your womb, that was ectopic pregnancy and it caused the rupture.
ReplyDeleteGive yourself peace of mind, you will still get pregnant, just stay positive, healthy and be prayerful.
You are correct! That was an ectopic pregnancy. It means the pregnancy was growing outside the womb. Poster, to answer all your queries : for an ectopic pregnancy, the scan would not see the pregnancy in ur womb at that age of the pregnancy. Cos it was outside .the 3 hallmark signs of ectopic pregnancy are vaginal bleeding,abdominal pain and amenorrhea. Bcos the pregnancy was growing outside the womb, it will rupture when it gets to certain size depending on the location cos no other organ is built to accommodate pregnancy except the womb. When it ruptures, u bled into the abdomen.that's why 2 pints of blood was evacuated from your tummy. The Pcv that was 40% was bcos u were already dehydrated from all the loss of blood into your tummy.dehydration increase PCV.it will give a supurious result. U were unconsious momentarily cos of hypotension. It could have led to death if surgery was delayed. Don't worry, will take in again. Relax ur mind and trust God. Things like this happen and many women have died from ectopic pregnancy complications. When u miss ur period again, do an early scan to be sure of the location of the pregnancy cos it could reoccur . All the best
DeleteI had a first hand experience that's why I know about it.
DeleteAwwwwww,God will restore that which you lost in double folds Amen.
ReplyDeleteIf not that someone I know with the exact scenario you described up there is still laying in the hospital as I write I would have sworn she wrote this chronicle.
Just like I told her,don't worry it doesn't matter how long it takes but one thing is certain; your Isaac will come!!! Your Samuel will come.
Be strong dear...God will come through for you and everyone TTCing.There is hope for the living.
BY THIS TIME NEXT YEAR YOUR STORY WILL BE GOD GAVE ME DOUBLE FOR MY STRUGGLE IJN.
ReplyDeleteAmen. She will carry her babies and give God all the thanks.
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DeleteAmen!
DeleteAMEN!!
DeletePoster, do what you did during those ttc prayers point posts. The God who did it before will definitely do it again. You are pregnant now in Jesus name!
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteBut this time, start with intense praises. Some people died with ectopic pregnancy, but you didn't. Thank Him cos he will do it again, and this time devil has no say.
It shall be well.
By 5 days pregnant do you mean from the date you missed your period? Pregnancy is calculated from the date of your period so you were likely 4 or 5 weeks pregnant. Because after ovulation you need 2 weeks before you get a missed period . If the doctor said it was en ectopic pregnancy, then where did they see the sac? For extopie pregnancy the baby emplants in the fallopian tube and not the womb so if it was really ectopic pregnancy they should have noticed it immediately they did the scan and saw the sac. Because they would have seen that the baby was in the fallopian tube and not the womb.
ReplyDeletePlease stop over thinking during TTC. You stress out yourself and it affects fertilisation. The moment you stop thinking and just living your life that's when it will happen. Most pregnancies are unplanned. The ones that the couple plan and put so much energy is the one that delays the most .Just enjoy your life, take care of your self (mind, body and soul) and it will happen for you.
Wish you all the best
"**Pregnancy is calculated from the 1st day of your last period
DeletePoster, it happened to me before. I was pregnant, and the baby came out when I went to pee. Was 6 weeks pregnant.What u had is a miscarriage. Got pregnant again after two years though. Got two kis now..You will be fine...
DeleteSorry ma.
ReplyDeleteHave u tried boosting your chances with banana combo or tumeric,ginger,garlic n cloves combo?
God is your strength dear
ReplyDeleteI once experienced something like your's but mine was not pregnancy it was an Ovarian cyst after i missed my period for a while. Being TTC also, i thought it was pregnancy but results came out negative. I experienced severe abdominal pains, which were so much they gave me fever chills and running temperature, it was really bad. Then it followed subsequently like what looked like an abortion cos i was bleeding for a while which followed the ejection of flesh like particles of different sizes, i mean real flesh so i thought it was the baby coming out. I even argued with the doctor continuously. I was given Vitamin K injections to cease the bleeding and then sent for a scan but not the normal one, the one they insert an instrument in your vajayjay to view your ovaries. It was then they found i had 2 ruptured cysts and it was bleeding out into my stomach, hence the pain and bleeding. I was given drugs and told the bleeding might stop or i might undergo surgery to remove the cyst after i had undergone myomectomy to treat Fibroids as you can see there are similarities in our experience, just that your own they had surgery and even removed tube. It is well with you dear you will carry your baby.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about it dear. The child had formed already, I think early second trimester sef, but it happened when you just found out you were pregnant.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why the doctors didn't carry out a proper scan and the diagnoses very well, thank God you are still alive, ectopic pregnancy causes a lot of issues but all glory to God on your behalf. Just give yourself rest of mind, be at peace with yourself and just stay positive. Be strong, Believe in God and keep your hope alive. Don't give up on God because he hasn't given up on you, everything that happens has a reason and we will be more than amazed if God should start showing us the reasons for it. Pregnancy can happen when you least expect and also if you have the money, go for IVF.
You are in my prayers dear, God be with you.
Poster it is well with you. I had a similar experience. Getting my first positive after many trials was one of the best day of my life but I lost it the day I went to check for fetal heartbeat. Infact I was on the Queue when the blood started. It was a bad day for me, while the clots were still coming out with pains I can't even describe, my mother inlaw called and asked why I was weak I was like I'm having a miscarriage. The first thing she asked was am I sure? She ended the call. Called me back and said she's not sure it's miscarriage it's like I have orinwa a worm with big head that eats foetus. I died and woke up. But you know what I wiped my tears and told God I will be a mother no matter what. I stopped asking God about it and he did it. Ask God for inner peace first. When you make love don't have thoughts of will it produce a child? Just enjoy yourself. Anxiety will not help your hormones. You have been certified fit now don't worry very soon you will be saying I'm ok. I'm on number 2 my baby is almost 3. You will Surely have your own. Shallom!!!
ReplyDelete👀👀👀👀👀 orinwa what ?
DeleteChaiiii some mother in-laws sha. I remember my friends mother inlaw that use to bring her all sorts to drink while TTC and she always refused them.
This woman went to report her to her parents that the girl doesn't want her to have grandkids.
They finally did get pregnant after 6yrs without any concoction.
Poster just relax your miracle is on the way.
It was the baby that fell out . God will come through for you very soon. Don't think too much about this. Just relax and keep praying. God will answer your prayers very very soon
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Poster, i'm so sorry. It is well. This December will make it 5years I have been on this TTC journey. I dread Christmas!!! My in-laws are not making it easy at all. Blackberry please can you explain further how the combo is made? Thanks.
ReplyDeleteThe banana combo is
Delete2 pieces of banana
1 tin of liquid milk
2 raw eggs
1 tea spoon of bicarbonate soad
Blend all ingredients together and drink on empty stomach a day after your messes in the morning .remember to back it with fasting and prayers
The garlic combo
DeleteBuy #100 worth of garlic, ginger, turmeric and cloves
Pele and put all in a Eva bottle water,add water to fill the bottle.
leave for 3days to ferment. It's advisable to take it during your mesese to clean your system .your hubby can also drink it.but hubby cannot drink the banana combo
The side effect is you fart frequently and your messes might be darker or more blood during your period.
Ask those house selling garlic in the market they have all the ingredient
Sorry my darling. Are you doing any fertility treatments. Ivf etc
DeleteB4 doing d banana combo u must treat infection first,cook bara and paper water together, drink it from some days b4 taken d banana recipe,u can join DIY on fbk
DeleteWhich one is bara and paper water?
DeleteDon't worry dear God that did it for will do it for you just stay positive and enjoy yourself I it's not easy. But I can assure you that all will be fine in no time.
ReplyDeleteTake your burden to Jesus and leave it there. He did it for me. He will do it for you. Not every struggle is physical. You can attend our healing n delivrance service every Tuesday at dunamis church international. Or locate a living bible ch in your area .Take the matter to God.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for your loss.. I know it's tough ttc in our environment with all the pressure from 'concerned' members of the society, but please, do not lose your mind.
ReplyDeleteRemain yourself. Do not let this define you.
I hope you have a loving husband. Relax and enjoy your marriage. Getting upset or depressed has never served anybody any good. Don't turn yourself into an object of pity and don't give anybody the opportunity to use you to feel good about themselves. People have different challenges and yours is not the 'Chief' as the society presents it.
Life is too short to be wasted depressed. Take it one day at a time. Don't worry too much about tomorrow.
Get busy. Do the things you enjoy now that you have the time. Learn new skills, improve yourself academically.
You have to take charge of your life. Don't apologise for this delay. You don't owe anybody any explanation and It's not your fault.
If you fall sick or become depressed, you'll just be cheating yourself from enjoying this beautiful world. If you die as a result, your loved ones will be sad, but the world will go on. Pray and seek treatment.
It's not within your powers to change this, so, trust God and be happy while waiting. Be thankful. Count your blessings.
Hopefully, your babies will come soon..
It's a tough journey, but one you can go through with God and the right attitude.
I've been ttc too..
I know how it feels.
Btw, Stella, how about just saying- some doctors- instead of adding Nigerian to it.
So sorry dear. I don't know what went wrong but God knows and have answers to every thing. Just hold on, relax and trust God , for He won't let you down.
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you ask the doctors after this happened??? A medical professional will be in the best position to know what really happened. I don't think this is a question for BVS unless you just want encouragement and support. May God grant you the fruit of the womb. Make God your number 1 and all His blessings will flow into your life.
ReplyDeleteDear poster relax and trust God He will do it when you did not expect it. Just eat well, get enough sleep, avoid stress
ReplyDeleteI think you had a miscarriage because of the sac that fell out. That was d foetus. You didnt need to have a surgery i believe. All you needed was blood transfusion and some medication to xlot your blood to prevent further blood clots.
ReplyDeleteIT WAS ECTOPIC BECAUSE THE BABY WILL NOT FALL OUT FROM THE VAGINA, ECTOPIC MEANS GROWING IN THE TUBES OR OVARY OR ANYWHERE OUTSIDE THE UTERUS AND THE SAC WOULD HAVE NEEDED TO BE REMOVED SURGICALLY BY GOING INTO YOUR ABDOMEN/PELVIC AREA. The should not have operated on you, now you lost your tube. However, you can still conceive normally. Just be relaxed and patient. Or you can try artificial insemination if you can afford it. Goodluck
I meant it was NOT ectopic
DeleteDont say what u dont know.It was an ectopic. The intrabdominal bleeding of about 2 pints, where did it come from? From your blocked head I guess!if they hadn't done the surgery asap and clamp and cut the ruptured tube, she would not be alive to write this chronicle. Read up ectopic gestation and be informed.
DeleteThe doctor that didnt know how long someone was pregnant. Giving vaginal tablet. How can i trust such a doctor's judgement talkless of operating and excising my tube. Decision was hasty and unneccessary. She needs ro investigate the scans to have closure
DeleteThere's no problem that is bigger Our Almighty God. Just put your mind at rest and keep keep trusting God.Very soon you will sing a new song.
ReplyDeletePoster I have not been there before but I know God alone will console you, don’t worry God will double your lost for you, please next time don’t depend on one doctor in situations like this, try to see two or three good gynecologist to check you, the three of them will give you advise then you follow two and dump one.
ReplyDeleteYou fall pregnant before that time, you didn’t know about the pregnancy. Some doctors are wicked, some are careless but in all thank God you are alive and have chances of getting pregnant. I feel you should worry less, hold onto God, enjoy your marriage, take off your mind from what has happened. Keep in praising God, soon you will share your testimony.
I have missed my period now for exactly two months and I don't feel any symptoms except painful nipples which goes off and on...just few minutes ago,I feel like am spotting...I pray its spotting oo...I am TTC for 18months now...haven't even been to the hospital or done any test cos I don't have money..Father,make it happen for me dear lord..
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry dear. Do not be afraid, affliction shall not rise a second time. You would have babies in due time.
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