This topic is something that should be repeated and reto
lf every time because some lovers ignore this and end up with sick babies that they cannot cater for....
When love strikes and it comes with the genotype problems,don't look for a solution,take a walk!!!
Are you a victim of this type of love?did you walk away or still in it looking for solutions? Or did you marry and have kids and currently biting your finger wishing you had taken a walk?
have NEVER seen of heard of two people who remained in love after they birthed children that are Sicklers....
Lets gist!
If there is proper courtship, this issue should not be any problem. Apart from knowing each other's characters, knowing each other's genotype, blood groups, relations etc. are part of a well planned courtship. But going by the things we see, the chronicles we read, the anonymous night posts, it is like what a lot of girls understand as "courtship/dating" is to have sex, just open legs and collect babies even before thinking about who the man is. Why do I say "girls", yes, it is the girls that decide if sex should take place. The man asks her out, the girl can say yes, no or give conditions; like we both have to go to the lab together for our genotypes, hiv status etc. and we stay there for the results -no games". Yes, if otherwise, when the chips are down, the women suffer most. They are the ones saddled with child care.
ReplyDeleteSo I guess the men aren't intelligent enough to ask beyond asking a girl out what her genotype is becz he is doing the girl a favour, abi? No be him know whether na tumbo tumbo him wan play or na wed him wan wed the girl?
DeleteEven your comment shows how dense you are for a man.
It is for both of them to show mutual interest in such matters cuz it ends up affecting both of them and not one of the parties alone.
@Shugargirl
DeleteMmmmhhh, this ya name, if I pour water, you go dissolve?
Anyway, I no know weting that "dense" dey do for that ya sentence.
I no even see space put SIC.
And how you carry know say na man write am, you be winch?
And the grammar no say the men no dey suffer, it said "the women suffer most"
That one na true talk. The man fit say im no dey marry again come go marry another sisi next day.
The horseband fit score goals outside hide am. But for madam own, common
lab test go catch am.
What is this anon babbling?
DeleteOff point
DeleteMy own opinion is that government should ban AS/As/Ss marriages except they sign an undertaking that the man will do vasectomy before the marriage. If any couple birth SS children, they should be prosecuted and sent to jail for a minimum of 5years while government takes the children from them. And you that will say 'you thought' 'he said/she said' because of marriage and selfishness, do the tests at 3 different hospitals that you will choose randomly. There is no way 3 of them will make mistakes at the same time. Go together and let your result be wait and get. Not the one dat one partner will go and manipulate result behind. There really should be no excuse for birthing SS children anymore with all the awareness except that some people are just selfish and wicked.
ReplyDeleteTotally off point.
DeleteWill you also do oophorectomy; have your ovaries removed?
Offpoint when do you start making sense?
DeleteAnon 15:36, he/she is right especially in this our Africa that the man will go behind to have healthy children with a mistress. The wife will not know because men don't get pregnant for eyes to see. Let the man do vasetomy truly otherwise the woman should let her number six work well before love will make her enter one chance. I know two men who have children with other women while there wives are running helter skelter for their SS children. African men and their fomilic can not be trusted.
DeleteGovt should take the children from them? 😂 take them where? Govt that hasn’t finished handling issues like good roads, better health care etc. it’s now to take care of people’s children. I laugh in Spanish
DeleteAnon: my advice is for foolish women who do not know that love vanishes or diminishes in the face of too much sorrow or stress. At least with vasectomy you are guaranteed that he will not have midlife crisis at 55 and go and marry someone else when you have hit menopause and cannot retaliate. Those who have ears let dem hear what science is saying to selfish couples who want to be playing kalokalo with innocent children's lives.
DeleteWhat concern government with marriage? Things I read here sometime. Like you have to involve government in everything, even when it requires you to use your brain..
Delete@Worried Soul: When you complete your medication for mental disorder. Anuohia.
Delete@Don: is it every time you'll be reasoning with your biro cover penis? Abi na your village ancestors dey give marriage certificate in nigeria ni? No be government dey give? Mumunachi.
Offpoint is making sense. Hahahahaha
DeleteShoot!
This AS nightmare be spoiling sweet marriages.
God give them strength to pull through.
Oh well...its a tough situation!! But it worked out for me fine.As/Ac
ReplyDeleteAc is not a blood group but an abnormal haemoglobin. Even tho it does not cause any clinical problem but you will pass the C gene to your kids and you could have kids with Hb C disease which can cause enlarged spleen or mild anaemia. So no, it did not work out for you fine, you Still need to be very careful who you marry.AA preferably
DeleteAS and AC are similar...but AS is worse...patients with AC still come down with crisis though not as serious...they are both conditions with abnormal haemoglobin... And they both have nothing to do with blood grouping...when you talk about blood grouping ..you are referring to ABO compatibility plus or minus the Rhesus gene
DeleteGod bless you Stella for educative topics like these.
ReplyDeleteBut wait ooo
All these girls go hear? Before them see men -tohtoh don already dey drip water like fountain. Them go carry bele trap am kpakam. . . come begin dey write chronicles. Even if the man agree marry am, everything don dey rush because madam get bele na.
Una no read anonymous bomb post? I thank God say I survive them bombs.
Stella, this your new character na wa ooo. You just swallow my comment only to vomit am when everybody don sleep. That doesn't make for an engaging discussion that I've known your blog for over these seven years.
Deletemadam or oga...i just went into spam to release comments......What comment is it and why will i swallow it if it makes an engaging discussion which this blog is known for?...go figure please...
DeleteHahahahahhahaha!
Delete@Stella, you too no sabi ghost gender?
Okay thanks for releasing my comment. Wish it was earlier.
But why my comment go enter sperm abi wetin be that thing wey you write there?
Make you no vex oh.
Mhhhhhh, I don't think the stress worth it at all. But some people will not learn from other peoples experience and take a walk,. I remember one of my secondary school girl that time!!!! Very brilliant girl but then she died because of sickle cell crisis. Ohhhh UGOCHI EREGBUONYE!!!!! Continue to Rest in peace. Amen
ReplyDeleteI know of a couple that got married two months ago guilty of this...The hubby is Sc and the wife is As..They were both aware and they decided to go on with the wedding,the parents don't know but the brides siblings are aware.People are just selfish
ReplyDeleteWow!
DeleteI am crying for them already..
DeleteNonsense love
.
Sc is a milder form and they dont have crisis often so its managable than SS
DeleteSc is very mild, they don't have crisis at all, my son is SC and you won't know he's a carrier,never had a crisis. he runs, plays, jumps, in fact very very hyper active and he is on penicillin and folic acid
Delete@sexylove, this is a very wrong assumption. Some SCs are worse than SS, that your son hasn't had any crisis doesn't mean he'll never have. Pls register him in a special clinic for sickle cell around you so he can be well taken care of and prevent complications
DeleteWhat's this one saying , Google the difference btw as and sc and you'll have your answers, you my friend is ignorant, for your info SC is a milder form of SS and they usually don't have crisis, and some don't even have in their lifetime, because they are not SS. The C in the S kinda neutralize it, and for your info, my son has his doc here in the UK, he's seen every 6 months , routine checks , blood test done etc. So keep ur advice to urself
DeleteIt happened to me. I never thought i could be with another man in my life. I was more than in love..in fact obsessed about him and i wantrd to marry him nothwistanding...not even marry..i just wanted to be with him forever ..not even marry. It s been 20 years..this nov makes it exactly 20yrs and i cant still get him off my mind. he is in my blood...and he married my 2nd cousin..i went through a lot of pain...i was mocked and made jest of...but i survived! i am married but still i miss the kind of love and chemistry we had and sometimes i hate him..but a part of me still miss him and the memories are still frsh. Sometimes out of the blues i dream about him and then the memories flood back and i am messed up for days. I wish i could see him and see if i feel the same...alas he is on facebook and probably happy with my cousin...who knows..but iam..curious to know if he still feels me ..like i do him.a part of me will probably love him forever ..but who knows.i will like to look into him eyes and see...
ReplyDeleteAwwwwww.......e- kisses your way. I am in your shoes but not as besotted. I think I got lucky. My hubby loved all my exes outta my system so I can't even remember who they are.
DeleteIt happened to me too. It was heartwrenching
DeleteThis is a clear case of 'monkey dey sleep...
DeleteMadam you want to gbensh abi?
You have married, he has married, you want to see him and look into his eyes and see if he feels same way, somebody's husband o. Your husband's eyes, have you finished looking into it? Go and look into his eyes let him too look into your tohtoh and then you carry badluck home to your husband.
That adultery that is beckoning to you will soon show you
This one you dey enchanted like this, if two of una jam, na fork o.
DeleteMake you preserve ya marriage.
Sending this Link to a certain "brother" of mine who has always claimed to be AA only to discover about a year ago that he is AC. The lady has always known and told him she is AS.
ReplyDeleteThey broke up, or so they told us, and we were all trying to tell them, they will be fine.
Until he ran into a couple who had damned the consequences and got married though they are both AS. He started sending me links of medical studies proving that they could work around it.
Finally, they got back together and now he has proposed.
He's not a very young man, infact he should be older than me with nothing less than a decade so I expect a sense of rationality and maturity.
But here we are...
Theirs isn't bad, at most they ll have SC which is a milder form of SS, and they might not. SC's don't have crisis so it's nothing deeply to worry about. I'm Ac while hubby is As and my boy is Sc while my girl is As, and everyone is fine. It's AS that shouldn't marry themselves
DeleteMy uncle and his wife still married for 45 years now and have 4 kids, 2 AS and 2 SS but one SS died and one still alive at 40. They flew him in SA in the 90s to have the surgery( bone marrow transplant) and he is no longer sick, married with 3 kids.
ReplyDeleteMy childhood was so traumatic watching him cry in pain, i stopped going there for the holidays at a point but we thank God for his life and the fact that his parents could afford the expensive surgery.
It’s no longer a problem sha, people select children through ivf and they can also go for bone marrow transplant. At the end of the day when money talks things happen.
DeleteNawa o. One child always dies why ? I have a friend too who is married to a man that is AS. They are 4boys. 2AS and 2 SS and one of the SS died at 21.
DeleteShe is AA while her hubby is AS. First baby girl AA like her. Then her boy is AS. Do you know this my friend was crying at the hospital when test came her son is AS. That now he has to selective of genotype when he's older and ready to settle down. I just said this girl isn't serious. Just be happy your boy is healthy and not SS. The future will take care of itself.
Push up
DeleteIts no longer a problem you say?
How many of them can afford those things you mentioned up there?
They come to the blog everyday to cry. If only they have the common sense to save for these procedures instead spending money on big wedding ceremony it would have been better. Instead they do big wedding and get pregnant without savings. When the sick baby comes, they won't be able to save a dime. Instead they will even be borrowing to treat him or her. Senseless people
Anon 15:54 Combination of AA and AS cannot result in SS. Just not possible.
DeleteSomeone is not speaking the truth.
Yes i know. I know AA and AS can't result in SS.
DeleteI was just wandering what her tears about her son being AS is for. When her son is healthy and some even give birth to SS and don't start crying in hospital. One of her bro inlaw is even SS and one is dead. So she should be thankful for just having a healthy baby.
@mama baby...there are two scenarios here(2families)
DeleteI haven't been there cos I am Aa, but a course has and she refused to let go, in fact both of them, they got married and had a set of twins and luckily for them, non of the twin were Ss and since then they haven't birth another child and she said they won't.
ReplyDeletestella, my older sister found out she and her partner were AS a week to their wedding and she went on with it without my parents knowledge. They already did test and she was told she's AA only for them to discover dat d test was false. Anyway, their first child is SS but u would hardly know Cus he doesn't look it one bit. He only falls sick once in a while and Dats wen he gets blood transfusion. She says if she had known this was going to be her reward she would have called off d wedding. She has a daughter who is fine though. They are saving up for bone marrow transplant.
ReplyDeleteAS and AS is a big no. its mostly unfavorable and the couple will always live in fear and uncertainty each time they want to have kids.
This thing is simple but we choose to make it hard & most people that are been judgmental about it are mostly AA's. some people are already compatible but had to break up because of genotype @ the end some get married to people they barely even know, Arguments arise almost every time. Even the kids needs a happy home/parent. Why don't we acquire more knowledge instead of just accepting a rule. i am not in support of bringing SS into this world neither will i tell people who are truly in love to breakup because of something that has a solution. PGD,IVF,CVS are available if u can't afford it save up for it if the relationship is worth it. U will see people who have committed a lot of atrocities also criticizing CVS. Judge no 1 we all will carry our cross individually on the judgement day
ReplyDeleteI know someone that kept aborting several times after getting pregnant and doing the CVS test. It will be discovered that the baby is SS and she will abort until she couldn't get pregnant again . Hubby went and impregnate another woman who is AA of course.
DeleteSo its better one just cut the relationship to avoid future pains
As for these procedures, most of them cannot even afford them in their dreams, even if they save for 50yrs. We see them coming to the blog to cry yet they will not hear. mstcheeeew
See wetin Pontiff been call "hired assassins?'
DeleteSee as this one dey advise make them make plans to execute kids? Aru.
This is a very serious topic and all I can do is bring paper and pen to jot...
ReplyDelete#learner#
i decided to get married and i am not biting my fingers. i have two cute but troublesome boys. Thanks to CVS
ReplyDeleteI'm AA and my Bae is AA. We've got no worries
ReplyDeletesee wasting of genotype o. How can 2 AA's be getting married? Do u realize how difficult it is to get AA?
DeleteMalaria is bae.
DeleteThe malaria is something else, but I noticed not all aa get frequent malaria.
DeleteI am AA but I haven't been sick in over 15yrs.
Delete@Anon 15:24. I tell you. Malaria no de gree person rest. For me, I am always scared of going outside in the evenings cos before I stand sef, the way wey mosquitoes de rush me sef. E be like my blood is sweet. And it’s only me here oh that it becomes embarrassing. Lol
DeleteBut on a more serious note, this SS of a thing is not going away anytime soon cos the way guys and babes are knacking and getting pregnant at random, it’s only the grace of God cos they are busy increasing the chances instead of reducing it.
I once had a squatter in school then that looked so healthy, only for her to wake up in the middle of the night writhing in pain. I had to go call my mum as she told me she was SS. I wonder how she is faring now btw. I was so scared for her then from little I knew about this SS thing cos our opposite house neighbour’s kids were dying at random due to the sickness.
God help them but I don’t pity those that claim they married for love knowing fully well what they are gonna make the kids suffer. It’s not fair and it’s not right.
My Bae is AA. And he only falls sick whenever he visits Nigeria. I'm AA and I treat malaria every single month. But for the past 2 months I've been malaria free
DeleteDH and I are both AA.
DeleteMalaria fever is far from us because I'm good in Preventive Measures.
We don't treat malaria because I know of The Pineapple and Lemon Therapy. No bouts at all.
Explain how you use pineapple and lemon
DeleteI don't fall sick. My mum and sister does like every month. Hubby doesn't too.
DeleteNo matter the few positive stories trailing this topic, AS to AS or SS is zero, zilch, nil, no, MBA, laiye.
ReplyDeleteI can't even risk it. I am AS and I broke up with my ex cos of this genotype ish. I've been so scared of dating a guy who is AS ever since I lost a very dear friend back then in uni. The guy was SS but I didn't even know until the day he died. Too bad. RIP Lambert.
ReplyDeleteIt a No No
ReplyDeleteMy parents are AA so we all are AA in my house. Though during their time, the test was not a prerequisite for marriage and they didn't even do, but thank God for his grace.
ReplyDeleteHubby is AS though but I have not checked my baby to know what hers is.
I remember the day i found out my husband(then boyfriend) was AS,i cried my eyes out cos i was thinking after all this years of dating,he always said he was AA..i am Ac,how would this work..we went to see a doctor, infact doctors and we were told the probability of having an ss child is low cos i am Ac.to God be the glory we are married,Ac and AS and our daughter is AS..after second child,thats the end,no more babies
ReplyDeleteThe Lord will honour your wish.
DeleteI'm AA, ex AA, current AA.
ReplyDeleteSISI Na AA dey rush u OH
DeleteHaven't been there. Hubby and I are both AA. I am glad my kids wont have to pass through the stress of AS/AS love wahala.
ReplyDeleteI am AA so I don't have any worries as to genotype of my spouse. But I would prefer my spouse to be AA as well though
ReplyDeletePlease o, I’m not trying to sound ignorant or anything, I’ve seen a couple comments saying “they’re AC,” I have never heard about that one before. I did anatomy 1&2 and currently doing advanced anatomy but I’ve never heard of it. Is it a new discovery? I will be glad if someone will kindly explain it to me thanks.
ReplyDeleteThere are four types of genotype namely AA,AS,AC and SS.you can google it for more clarification.
DeleteGo and collect ur school fees
DeleteGoogle is still active the last time I checked 🙄🙄, I'm AC btw, older sis is also AC , and my dad is AC too
DeleteMary success, you forgot to include SC genotype
DeleteAnatomy is not haematology. Blood grouping and genotype are courses in haematology
DeleteThere are way more than 4 types. Google is your friend
DeleteI meant to say that there are four common types of genotypes including AC in response to Stella's bae comment. Genotypes are more than four including SC as rightly said by sexylove.sorry.
DeleteMary.success thanks for answering and not being rude with and about it.
DeleteI have not had free writing time in a long while, been meaning to write to inform all the AS/AS lovers of the danger of their decision to remain together.
ReplyDeleteToday is the day I finally get some breather.....
It was a while ago when a woman of about 56yrs walked into my consulting room. We finished our consultation and in my normal manner, decided to ask her how life was going. She told me all was good and she was trying to adopt a second child, her first adopted child was already 10years old and she needed to get another. I was happy that finally there were Nigerians that embraced the adoption thingy and asked about her husband and how he was taking it. Then the real story started.....
Many years prior, she was married to her husband. They were both AS and they were both aware of their genotypes. He claimed to love her so much and couldn't imagine life without her, so he convinced her to marry him, in his words "God won't allow us to have SS children". They were so in love, they tied the knot. Not too long after, she had the first child, then the second and third (2 boys and a girl). Then it started.....
The crises, bone pain, chest pain, in and out of the hospital. The worst nightmare was now a reality, all three children were SS!!! One after the other they all died, all three kids.
Then our "lover man" says to her "you are not giving me living children".
They eventually separated and divorced and in less than a year he got married to a fresh young graduate(AA) and immediately started having children.
As at when she was telling me this story he had 4 healthy children with his 2nd wife.
She picked up her life, adopted the first child and moved on...
The essence of this story? No matter how deeply "in love" you feel today, if you and your spouse are both AS please stop and reconsider. There is a 25% chance of having an SS child for each pregnancy. Like my patient you may be so unlucky to have all SS children. The trauma of watching you child in pain during crisis is totally not worth it. It even gets worse having to watch helplessly while your child dies.
Don't be selfish, end it before you bring a child into the world to suffer. If you must get married, then maybe adoption from onset should be the plan.
I met another young lady crying that her boyfriend was "suddenly" AS and that it must be the handiwork of her village people that didn't want her to succeed!
And if you do not know your genotype, ermmmm, pls go and find out. It's very important.
Thanks
I heard one about SE,I know Google is my friend but please can someone explain. Is there any genotype like SE? Doctors in the house over to you.
ReplyDeleteMy friend always thought she was AS(her mother told her she was) so before she says yes to any relationship, na lab two of Una dey go, no stories,lol.
ReplyDeleteI have seen very Rich AS and AS marry and they do early genotype detection in early pregnancy. They terminate the pregnancy if it's SS and they went on to have 2 kids(AS and AA).
I also heard of a couple both SS, they got married for love, they decided not to make babies, adopted instead.
My mum is a product of AS, she got married to my dad AS, they didn't realise till they had the 3rd child they still went ahead to try for the fourth who happens to be AA, while the rest are all AS. Met someone I love with my life, he is AS we broke up cos of it, I won't lie I've not been able to love another, same with him, we make up our minds not to communicate with each other, and bam just a little hi from either of us and we chatting like no mans business, we both download what has happened in our lives and encourage each other, he's the first man that I'll stay with in a room and we won't do anything just gisting and playing, he sings me to sleep and misbehave around 'he is uptight in public'' our sex life was out of this world, first and only man to give me multiple organsm... I feel emotional right now. AS sucks!!!
ReplyDeleteI keep thinking of I'll meet a man like him.
Eyah I feel for you
DeleteIf you are both working, you can be together but before getting pregnant, plan and save for the procedures up there, CVS, IVF and the rest. Instead of big wedding, do small wedding and save money to use and have healthy kids. Don't mistakenly fall pregnant without being ready for the tests. Discuss with him and you both can google more on the solutions. All the best.
Both our parents will kill us. His parents already warned, mine did as well. I don't want to bring up the topic with him, so I don't get my hopes dashed. I know he has done a lot of research on it, read about cvs on this blog as well. Thanks a lot Anony 21:38
DeletePls let him go God will give u a better man .IVF is fucking painful and there is no guarantee u will be lucky the first time. Most people end up not marrying their first love that is the reality of life .Wish you the best
DeleteHonestly I can't thank God enough! My parents are both AS and we are five children but none is SS. Big risk yes! That's why it's a miracle!
ReplyDeleteI know a guy who was with a lady for 9years,, loved her to a fault,put his life on hold for her, stopped schooling so he can afford her school fees only to him to find out they can't get married because of their genotype...the good thing is he let go of her but he's broken... she's married now and he's trying to patch his life, the first thing he ask any lady hr intends to even ask out now us her genotype.....i feel got him...
ReplyDeleteNa Wa Oh My Opposite Neighbour Has 3 Kids A Boy And Two Girls. The First Daughter And D Boy(last) Are So Slim Infact Too Bonny They Eat Very Well But Always Falling Sick.. Yellow Eyes.. Always Tired, Body Pains.. Everyday D Mum Fast And Prays Say Its Attack... Attack Ke? Attack Ni? Both Parent Didnt Check Their Genotype Till Date.. Now Their Kids Are Suffering
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI met a wonderful guy, on this blog but genotype decided to make us part ways.
He will be getting married soon to another lady. It was painful but I had to let him go. Especially, when I've experience the stress from my sisters that are SS.
Taking care of an SS child is draining(emotional,psychologically,financial,etc). Especially when you have 2 'warriors' in one family.
The best option is to walk away. It's painful tho. But I don't have a choice.
I pray love finds me again.
And this time, genotype ish won't separate us. Amen!
Love you Stells!
Hmmmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteI met a wonderful guy, on this blog but genotype decided to make us part ways.
He will be getting married soon to another lady. It was painful but I had to let him go. Especially, when I've experience the stress from my sisters that are SS.
Taking care of an SS child is draining(emotional,psychologically,financial,etc). Especially when you have 2 'warriors' in one family.
The best option is to walk away. It's painful tho. But I don't have a choice.
I pray love finds me again.
And this time, genotype ish won't separate us. Amen!
Love you Stells!!!
I'm dating a guy and we both know that we are AS, so we're just enjoying our selves, no plans to get married to each other cos we know the implications of getting married and HAVING SS babies, I lost a beautiful, tall and intelligent cousin to sickle cell 8 years ago and till date I still cry when I remember her.
ReplyDeleteMy relationship with my boo is just temporal, no getting married I'm just enjoying his d**k game plus he has a 9 inch d**k and oh my it's so sweet. I never really did understand the pleasure derived from big d**k till I tasted it.
P. S judginas and judges leve me be especially abortion minister.
Oops hope I'm annon on this my comment sha I no fit for all these unpaid fbi agents/ record keepers.
You may be anonymous to abortion minister but you are not anonymous to God the creator of everything including the body that you are abusing.
DeleteThese stories will not scare some people.
ReplyDeleteSome young people some where are planning to get married even when their genotypes are saying NO.
The pains of nursing and losing an SS child is one that can be better witnessed. I still cry when I remember one of my childhood friends who died after youth service. Imagine all the money spent on treatment and education since birth. Her mum never recovered from the heartache. She too died two years after.
The issue isn’t really AS-AS marriage but bringing an SS child to this world.
ReplyDeleteIf AS want to marry each other that’s fine as long as they know bringing an SS child is a NO NO.
Technology has gone far through wisdom from God. The same wisdom that brought the CVS procedure eliminated the abortion method and brought PGD (this is IVF such that the embryos are tested before implantation, embryos with SS, Down syndrome and other diseases are gotten rid of)
If you find someone who is worth the stress of the procedure and you are at peace with it sure go ahead. Make sure you save up to do procedures that completely eliminate the possibility of having an SS child.
Couples genotype is only relevant at child bearing stage after which it doesn’t count. If you find someone worth it and you have made the necessary provisions go ahead.
But remember don’t play the Odds, love is not enough to sustain an SS child’s crisis and it’s selfish to make a child go through that.