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Tuesday, December 04, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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After my Service year I came to port Harcourt to spend time with my aunt.
I followed a friend for a Family function .

I met a guy who was all over me we exchanged contacts and we started talking.
He works in an oil company in port Harcourt. He took me round town showing me places and introducing me to his friends as his girl.

We started dating though I dint love him but I was bored and needed company. Months later he got me a job, got me an apartment and placed me on allowance, I hardly touch my salary. We have been together for 1 year 8 Months and am still struggling to love him, I don't really know why but he is a very nice guy. 


Fast forward to 10 months ago we had Audit were I work
One of the auditors dropped me home cos I worked late we got talking I found myself loving and wanting to see him everyday. He told me he is divorced and has a daughter. He proposed but I was calm and couldn't say a word.



 I explained things to him, he said I should take my time and reply him at my convenience. But my problem now is the other guy he knows I don't love him but he has always told me things will fall in place. My birthday is in 3 days and he wants to propose (found out through his conversation) please how do I turn him down. My aunt said I should marry him that with time I will get to love him but for how long. Because I don't see it working....




*You dont see it working with someone who has loved and cared for you,you want to throw it all away for someone who comes with Baggage?Its your choice,might work out,might not but you have taken away so much from the first guy,what if he invokes the law of retributive Justice on you?
Think well before you reject the right proposal and accept the wrong one...*tongue click*

128 comments:

  1. Exactly my thoughts stella....think very well

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    1. I just de pity the 1st guy like say na my brother, chai *grips shoulder*
      I pity your puna too, that divorcee go lash away your remaining dignity. Last last you must lose all corner plus board. Tulapia brain.

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    2. Think very well, you don't love him and you allowed him to get a job, rent a house and do everything for you? You would have told him from the beginning... Poor guy

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    3. Please dear poster, ya post post is not that bad. Me i understand you very well oh but i want to ask you to please pass me the guy lemme test myself if i can love him, lemme try just to check my heart and brain if its working well towards love triangle becos i see you have checked ya own and you have confirmed its working well cos for you to know who you love and who you are managing to love my sister you don pass Tofl like this oh. Kudos am in ph too just reply my comment.

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    4. You are a foolish fool and so annoying, why did you keep accepting things from him if you dint want him? It’s your business, if you marry that guy with a child please don’t frustrate his daughter out of hate that’s just my own

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    5. Poster please send to Stella guy1's phone number. I think that guy needs a real woman in his life.
      Are you very sure that guy2 is a divorcee? Abi he is one of the numerous married men in town that keep their marriage intact and yet mess with the future of single girls with their lies from the pit of hell?

      Cuz you will have only yourself to blame if you throw a way this beautiful soul you have for a scumbag. Imagine you are already catching feelings without proper background work. SMH
      many married men lie about their marriage o FYI. Stop feeling important cuz you don't even know if this guy2 is half the man that guy1 is to you.
      The lies that married men have told me ehn! Just cuz of sex.

      Please go and do your check before you jump into hot oil. It would scar you for the rest of your life.
      Meanwhile, Stella please collect guy1's number from poster if she still wants to let go of him. I am interested.
      I wish you good luck, dear.
      Some have cap but no head to wear it.

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    6. So he just let you and proposed and you don’t know he wants to chop! Divorcee kikikiki you better chill cos that guy ain’t no divorcee and if paraventure, it is true that he is.. why would you want the baggage? Ah I tire for some girls ohhhhhh

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    7. Well, I've learnt from experience that girls like this won't value or think they love the first guy until another girl starts loving the first guy and they are stuck with the second guy, whom they thought was the better option. For you to take so much from the first and still claim you don't love him, shows the type of person you are. Please leave the guy alone so another can show him what true love is.

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  2. So women are also users? It's amazing!!

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    1. The who village and 10 neighbouring villages are beating drum on your head. Hian for you.

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    2. You no know before? at least she told him she didnt love him, he chose to keep spending & hoping money will buy her heart, he was wrong!

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    3. Fan fan, you see as shame dey leave them dey catch me
      Users and time wasters!
      See as she go open legs dey collect two rods and
      that second one fit never divorce o,"he told me he was divorced . .."
      is the key to open silly holes . . .
      When the madam go soak you for acid, that time ya eyes go clear.

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    4. Fan Fan
      NNE hapu the poster maka na iberibe na enye ya bu onye ala morale.
      Poster my people will say that na "ife onye nzuzu mere onwe ya ka nke omere mmadu"(wetin mumu do em self pass the one em do people)

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  3. YOU ARE A VERY GREEDY FOOL. YES I'M SHOUTING. What's wrong with your brain? Is it paining you or what? You don't love him yet you allowed him spend so much on your ungrateful arse. Sense fall on you. Tueh.

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  4. What exactly do you want? So you prefer a man with divorce baggage to a single man who picked you from the scratch and polished you?

    My dear, forgforget the divorce man and face your man before it'stoo late




    *Larry was here*

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    1. No divorce is not a crime. She was always honest with the first guy. She can't marry him if she doesn't love him. It's not a conteaco. She told him she doesn't love him and he said live wil come. Well it has come but fr someone else

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    2. you are so silly @ starry... since when divorce become baggage? that is how you unknowingly say things that hurt people. Dear Poster, please let this other guy go even if you decide not to have anything to do with the other man.Peace..

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    3. Chai.... see as divorcees de attack starry. Make una no vex

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    4. Whether you accept it or not, divorce is a baggage. It takes healing blot be able to move on and succeed in a new relationship. Let’s not pretend abeg. Just like growing up in an abusive home or or a broken home.

      The single guy looks like a better option at face value but might not necessarily be. The divorce guy looks like a less desirable option at face value but might not necessarily be.

      But I would say, if you wanna go for the second guy , don’t take his word for it about his divorce, former wife and how it ended. Find out the facts. Real investigation! Do not be overwhelmed by feelings. This is marriage we are talking about. All those feelings will vanish after a couple of years and you’ll be left with the true man..
      And that one you’re saying you don’t loveight give you peace of mind and will be willing to work hard to keep the marriage going..

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  5. Please dear can I have the oil company guy thank you

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    1. Gbam! Please give us his contact. I am hungry for such man so I promise not to fuckup like you

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    2. Yes o, mail me his contacts pls.

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    3. Poster pls drop his contact here...I will love him on your behalf. You can go with your divorcee as you don’t have sense..

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  6. Think well about Stella's red ink oo

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  7. Poster if you are being sincere that the first guy knew you didn't love him and still stayed,then you don't have any reason to feel guilty about anything.

    I always say love should never be compromised,Always follow your heart!
    you need to have a very deep conversation with the 1st guy and tell him the situation at hand, plead with him if possible so you guys reach a mutual understanding.. I feel for him though cause an unreciprocated love can be depressing!

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  8. Pls accept the first guy. You will enjoy your marriage. Free the baggage man in his confused state.

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    1. She will cheat in that marriage, shes already cheating.

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    2. This divorced man is just the devil tempting her. There’s nothing to it. If she can pray hard she will see it for what it is

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  9. He got u a job, u didn't turn it down, he got u an apartment , u didn't turn it down. He placed u on allowance,u didn't turn him down. Now he's might be given u a ring, u want to turn him down. Girl where is your conscience?.

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    1. She's very greedy. She doesn't love him yet she allowed him to upgrade her life, spending his money and all. Rubbish. Just look at how long she's been with him. 1 year and 8 months o. Don't worry. Go for the divorcee and regret it later. These days we can't even tell who is truly divorced or not.

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    2. Honestly, this is painful.
      But why poster, why???

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  10. Sdk nothing like law of retributive justice anything. If she doesn't want the guy again let her calculate all the guy has spent on her and pay him back.. Since the guy knew the poster never loved him from the onset. You can't force love ooh. Na today yansh dey back? But if I would advice the poster like my sister I will tell you to marry the single guy without any baggage. Runaway from that divorcΓ© man ooh. Most divorced guys have very terrible attitude if not their first wives will not leave them to run away. Shine your eyes ooh. DivorcΓ© should never be your option. Let him go and look for divorced women,single mothers or widows to marry. But if you truly love him,na you sabi. Follow your heart and pay the first guy off.
    Case close.

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    1. Pay him off? What then happens to his heart? Let's be considerate please.

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    2. Pay him back,I now believe most comment here that says you are not intelligent.
      To you poster, you should have cut him off completely if you know you wouldn’t end up with him, I am sure the material things was what kept you till now.

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    3. After 1year and 8months? More than enough time for a foetus to develop into a full baby but not time enough for her to release the guy?
      Poster please forward the single guy's contact to Stella, thanks in advance.

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    4. Foetus abi foetuses!!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜†πŸ˜† I born my 2 pikin within 18months and 2 weeks lol

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  11. My story is,similar to yours.
    He loves me alot.opened a bussiness 4 me.
    Provides for me.
    But I still don't love him.

    He is a great Man have tried to love him but can't.

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    1. And you dey collect business and provisions and cucumber inside atu eh?
      Be ready to collect acid o.
      Naija girls!

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    2. Can u introduce one of your friends to him?

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    3. From day one, she should have turned down the guys affection and gifts. With that the guy will realise that he doesn't have any chance with you.
      Tblack

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  12. Sigh. You say he knows you never loved him and simply hoped it would fall in place. Well if you put it that way you can break up with him.

    That won’t stop me from voicing my irritation with you. Why did you string him along even up to meeting his family for two whole fucking years when you knew with each passing day you didn’t love him? Incase you are in denial your staying with him for that long and your loving actions would have made him feel that you had finally fallen in love with him. Do whatever you please with him but do it in a considerate and respectful manner because the truth is he deserves a better hearted girl than you. You even had the auditor and continued with the nice guy? Emotional Glutton!

    This new guy? All I can say is LoL. He even knows you’re in a relationship of some sort and he is giving you time to sort it all out? And he’s based in Port Harcout? Double LOL.

    I may be a bit harsh but I thoroughly hate it when people string others along for so long when they know in their hearts it can never happen. If he did the same to you you’ll be screaming scum and demon all over the place. Let’s learn to respect the golden rule abeg.

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    1. I think she wanted to love him too but especially now with this new guy, she sees what she has been missing. The heart is interesting. When you're with someone u love, u can't just go bsvk to enjoying a loveless relationship

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    2. Thank you oh, loud that Port harcourt!!! Thats why i asked how long shes known this divorced guy & why hes divorced, when ppl say Yoruba demons, i laugh cus i know what most ph guys are like, Riverine demons that swim deep!!

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    3. Lmaooo na sharks of portharcourt.

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    4. Mehn! This girl is definitely one kind. Oga got you an apartment , takes care of you and for one year and eight months you've been playing along under the guise of 'I don't love him'. Madam you know your intention was to chop and run so I wonder why the Jamb question. You just came to seek validation so look out for those who will tell you what you want to hear.

      Something you would have told the oil company guy since, you were playingthe I don't love him character. Pls follow your divorcee guy, after one year and eight months, come and ask us what to do again ehn, that another one has come. After that move to the next, thank you. Mtcheww

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  13. NA WAH OOOOOOOOO!!!! PERSON WEY GET HEAD NO GET CAP AND VICE VERSA. You want to marry a divorce because he dey sweet talk you. i pity you.

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    1. She never even find out why the wife run first ohhhhhh

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  14. My people will say that 'akwu na-amiri onye n'amaghi ata'. In other words, the palm fruit blossoms for those who don't eat it.

    I honestly don't know how I can't love a man that has proven to love and respect me.

    God please, the year is almost over without even a love interest. Do it for me just like you've done for other people.



    Poster, if you can't love him;let him go. Do not entrap him for the heart that will love him.

    God!!!! This much love and care from a man and you're still indecisive.

    It's well oo

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    1. Amen we are in same boat. Although mine i dumped the scammer and time waster i dated for 3years. I am entering 2019 single. Lord where are you, please answer my cry na so so married men dey approach me.
      I want my own home this 2019. Hear our cry o Lord.

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  15. It’s the people that want us that we do anyhow. What do you want to do with a baby daddy who is probably still married. The ball is in your court but I don’t like baggage because headache is not my portion on top of man matter. I’d rather marry a man that loves me more than the reverse, have you asked yourself why you don’t like that particular guy? His he lousy? Ugly or what? Find out why and maybe you’d find out you actually like him but his likeness for you outweighs what you feel for him. Are you ready to be the second best after a man’s child and his ex wife? Have you found out why he divorced? All this fairytale love is always fast and sweet but when trouble starts it would feel like you’re in hell and wonder how you got there. First guy knows you don’t love him but he is willing to wait till you fall in love with him. By the way, you kept letting the first guy do everything for you for over a year yet you know you don’t love him. How do you people do it? Collect stuff from people you don’t like especially when they are doing those things for you because they believe the feeling is reciprocal? You better take a break and reaccess the situation before you make irrational decisions with your heart instead of head.

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    1. Gbam! your head dey there.

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    2. Doppelganger, you have said it all
      Later they will say "men are scum "
      I don't know how to advice so lemme be going🚢

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    3. Don't mind the yeye girl. You want all these boys to give us bad names Okwaya?

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    4. Ahhhh! People have mind sha.
      Love grows.Choose one thing,just one thing you love about the guy and love endlessly.

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    5. lemme perch here. OSD so true, my mom's friend didn't like talk more of love her husband when he was all over her but she prayed about it and asked God to show her something she likes that the guy had and then she noticed he was hairy and she went on with the marriage. Their first daughter just got married and the Love between my mom's friend and husband is still strong . Poster pray about the first guy, fashi the second one for your own good.

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    6. Funny how he’s going to propose in 3 days.. that puts a question marks on that your statement that he knows you don’t love him. Why would he want to propose? What signs have you been giving him. Have you been sleeping with him, cooking, getting to know his family and friends? And now you met someone else ( I dare say, this new guy is all makes and mirrors) and he proposes? It is satan at work oh

      Better not mess up your future

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  16. Like seriously poster you are in this alone. I pray you don't regret the final decision you take concerning this issue.
    How do people break up, it's simple,good you already know about his plan to propose,do not wait till the day he planned to propose to you, now,today tell him it cannot work. Give him your strong reasons & pray he takes it well. But you knew from the start you won't marry this man ,you kept on collecting his monthly allowance, house rent, gifts, & all. Isn't that wickedness? You are the same with the guy we read about in yesterday's chronicle. You are about to dump him after he took you out of poverty &put you in a good place, maybe you would have been broke now if he weren't there for you.
    I personally think you should marry the first guy, but then it's your life & your choice!

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  17. You didnt mention how long youve known this divorcee before he proposed & ure seriously considering him or the cause of his failed marriage.
    Going by the limited info youve given, i'd say if you dont love that 1st guy even after all the live hes showered you & the time frame, you'd never love him, youre the female version of what that guy did to the lady from yesterdays chronicle, he helps you up the ladder & you get a better view of exactly what you want, very painful.
    A wise Nigerian i met smiling at the US embassy after a huge stamp of denial on his passport said to me "Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through high expectations"... he was right!!!

    Why do i have the feeling youre sleeping with both men, i hate to think of what that makes you, well done!

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  18. You don't love him but you have stayed with him a year and some months now
    Nonsense!!!!!!!

    You don't love him but he got you a job and you accepted it
    Nonsense!!!!!!

    You don't love him but he rented apartment for you and you still accepted it without saying no please don't.
    Nonsense!!!!!!

    Check yourself!!!!!!

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  19. If you don't love him don't say yes. Don't allow people to make you miserable by entering into loveless marriage

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  20. Una see TIME WASTERS here live?
    Make I ask o, did the divorced auditor come from abroad?
    Who be im wife and why them divorce and how many pikins?
    Una see as Naija girls dey do, "You no love am" but you dey collect allowance, no
    dey touch ya salary? Come dey ask us whether you go agree to a man wey propose on
    day one?
    Mmmmmmmmhhhhhhh Acid dey burn body o
    Fire dey burn tortoise o
    If Eagle enter fire, i go burn am o.
    Ekwuchakwam!

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  21. Your chronicles hasnt started yet. Start sharpening your pen as you will write many more chronicles when this "divorced man" turns your life upside down.
    Have you ascertained he is even actually divorced. Any man can propose,did he come with a ring and follow up with visit to your folks of his intentions ?.
    A married man with 2kids has proposed to me before asking to meet my family. When I caught his lie through my findings he claimed he is seeking a divorce.
    Years down the line he is still very married and added another child to the 2.
    You are still too young for this mess you want to get into.
    When you knew u felt no love for the other man why let him spend so much time, money and effort. You should have cut him off since but I guess your greed won't allow.

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    1. πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

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    2. Beds and Roses na true talk you yarn so πŸ‘

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    3. Thank you Beds and Roses! That man isn't divorced,Dude is still very married,with him your chronicles are just beginning. Just help yourself and breakup with both of them especially since you don't love Mr Nice guy. honestly except a guy has a physical or some other condition I can't bear, I don't see why I can't love them back

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  22. When the man been dey set up accommodation and allowee, why you come dey collect?
    You don use the man come dey wan dump am because you don see persin wey gather money pass eh?
    Before you say taa, two rods go dey drill hole in turns
    You girls are not serious at all.

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  23. I will advise you to stay with the first guy. You don't know 'Nada'. You got things easy in life and you think that it is by your doing. Just as I tell my Children, too much of milk is worrying you. You had better work on whatever the issue is and try to love the first guy. You are already biased , so I wont tell you to pray about it but use your sense, please. The second guy has baggage already, let him be.

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    1. I am sure that the reason why you love the second guy is because of his physical attributes. Just tell the divorced guy that you have decided to stay with the first guy. How well do you even know this divorced guy? Marriage is not all about passion o,don't get it twisted.

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  24. You see,when I say some women think thru their anus.they will talk .rubbish.u re collecting and enjoying...now everything has set for you..ur doing yen yen yen yen..Don be like sister I thy know'.

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  25. Tell him you think he us trying to proppose and that he should wait a bit. Don't wait for him to ask before you mention it. He may ask in front of others and you'd have to embarrass him

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  26. Poster don't forget he got you a job, got you and apartment and you don't even touch your salary because of the allowance you get from him every month.

    My dear look before you leap. The "devil you know is better than the angel" you don't know. With time you will get to love him.

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  27. @ Poster be deceiving yourself there,you don't love him but you have been collecting gift from him almost 2 yrs.
    Clap for yourself...

    May God open your eyes to see clear and choose right..

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  28. That auditor might not be divorced, he knows about d d other guy n still wanna chuk head, he will bang u ehn, without protection self, break your bed n scatter ur bedsheets, u see pH guys in oil n gas, moving onto d next babe ain't hard for them o, they are loaded n women aint their problem cos plenty dey pipeline.

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    1. Dnt mind her she See Single rich guy she no want haba After all he has done you still dnt love him, You are ungrateful..oh!ok is the Divorcee you love I pity your Situation.. your case should not be like HAD I KNOWN..

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  29. I wish you people knew how deep marriage was
    Then you will not make life long decisions based on flighty feelings.
    Marriage goes way beyond love
    You need a man that would respect you
    A man that stands by you, will never let family or friend speak ill of you behind or in front of you
    You need a husband that understands and accepts you warts and all
    You need a man that would mind his words around you
    Respects your decisions, values your family
    Loyal, there for you through saggy breasts, stretch marks and slack pussy
    You need a husband that does not feel complete without asking your say in decisions
    You need a man with a good family that welcomes you
    You need a man with a good head on his shoulders who values you enough to be faithful to you
    You need a man that will not respect you less even if you are not earning anything
    You need a man that you pick the building designs with, that can eat noodles or tea happily if that's what is available
    You need a man that derives joy in looking staying with your kids, who comes home on time and tells you before he leaves the house.
    Sadly, it takes more than love to be a great husband
    Women who understand this, make the best choices in marriage
    I hope you do whats best for you.

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    1. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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    2. God bless you darling. You don talk finish. Poster follow this advice if you what is good for you.......

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    3. Thank you RSQ for these tips.
      If only she knows...
      Love?
      Lmao


      Gee-z

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    4. RSQ, you have said it all.
      Poster, get the thoughts of that divorced guy out of you. Do not take the wrong step. A word is enough for the wise.

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    5. You are such a darling!!!
      Most advice i read from this blog makes me cringe but this is beyond lovely.
      Most people miss what marriage is all about. Love will clear from your eyes like flash. Mutual respect and friendship sustain it all.

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    6. Ladies don't like nice men. They take them for granted.If you marry that divorcee, he will soon become divorceeees. Mind your business. Kill that attraction you are feeling for him. You have the power.

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    7. Retired slay queen, i have much respect for you πŸ™Œ

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    8. They think marriage is beans, my hubby loves me more and I swear that’s why the marriage works, he can do anything to make me happy and a happy wife is a happy home, when your needs and that of your kids are met emotionally, financially, spiritually even the devil will fear your marriage. Marriage is very hard by its own, love is like the least problem sef. Aunty please marry the second guy so you will cry well well

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    9. Youre trully a retired slay queen, youve seen it all.

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    10. Wow!!!
      Thanks RSQ your comment has broadened my view on what qualities to lookout for.

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    11. Ah! Aiye mi. I wish someone had told me this years ago. Thank you RSQ

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  30. You don’t know much about this new guy ooo, don’t make the mistake of marrying him ooooooo hmmmmmm

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    1. just in case your village people no let you heed to all the advise wey our fellow bv dey give you, send me his email,I need such a good man.inugo

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  31. You need to think about this well, before accepting any of the proposals.
    You kukuma know the person wey you go pick.

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  32. After everything, love is not the only factor that keeps a relationship going. You can not be sure the 2nd guy's divorce is final. He may be using you to get over his break up. You did not state how much you know about the Divorcee. Double dating has confused you. Not every one can do that. If you had focused on the first guy, i think you would not even have this confusion in the first place.
    Even at that, stay where you are loved and cherished.

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    1. You have said it all. That's why i don't support double-dating. It creates too much confusion.

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  33. My Motto used to be: "If you don't feel it,don't fake it."

    So once I'm not feeling someone,I keep walking but with time I got to realise that "Love is not a feeling but a choice/decision".

    We decide who we want in our lives, that's why you see some people and wonder what's keeping them in an "awkward" relationship.They have decided to stay with this people even though "we" think they are not good for them.

    Without trying to confuse you,I believe you don't feel "butterflies in your tommy" for the oil worker but attracted to the divorcee hence you feel you don't love him..My dear you love the oil worker that's why you decided to be with him this long BUT you are not physically attracted to him.

    Don't confuse "Love" and "Attraction".

    (Yawns...hunger dey,kam bia kwa)🚢‍♀️🚢‍♀️🚢‍♀️




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    1. I wonder how they pull off that act.
      The way I discharge guys I have no attraction for ehn, in split seconds I make my mind up. It's either a yea or a nay, simple.
      No time for mago mago.

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  34. My dear,you had better shine your eyes oh.. What you have gotten on a platter of gold is what many are praying everyday for. Please stick to your single guy and marry him, that your divorcee will show you pepper and by then, it would have been too late.There is more to marriage than butterflies in the stomach.Be wise!

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  35. This kind confusion

    Personally, I cannot marry a divorcee.

    How are you sure this colleague of yours is divorced?

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  36. It's been long I visited, Hi stellz

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  37. Please dear, think very well before you make a very big mistake, what if the second guy is lying to you that he is divorce? Why did you allowed him to get you job, rent you a house and gives you money? Since you never loved him, you would have been rejecting things from him... I just pity the poor guy...

    Love alone doesn't sustain marriage, if you're frustrated and depress Nne, the love will die... Pray very well over this issue

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  38. Nawahoo, why do you want to leave God sent, please think before you make mistake of your life

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  39. In case you didn't read this advise with a clear mind,I'd strongly advise you read it again and receive sense. one more thing,just in case your village people are still playing with your head, abeg............ SEND me his email and detailed description of this good man. I need one good man like him. who knows he might just be the one i've been waiting for.

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    1. Lol
      I dey this queue o poster.
      Don't fail to send Stella guy1's contact for me.

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  40. Poster please focus ur attention to ur single man, every thing will surely fail in place once you give it a chance.4yr back I was in a similar situation,i made the wrong choice and currently single with my son,hopefully the double divorced fool,is on another girls case,as i type. Divorced ppl are always with baggage,is better to be single than giving d divorced guy a chance.

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  41. Poster, if you don't love Mr nice guy let him go!

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  42. all these wicked girls. you no love man yet you dey accept things from am? it is bad abeg. na so one medical doctor dey chase me, i didnt love him, i use style dodge am till he got the message.

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  43. Abeg where exactly do you girls see this Mr nice guy cos I want one in my life..dear Mr nice guy,do not worry I wont be confused like this poster or take you for granted

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  44. You are nothing but a thief, a gold digger and an ingrate.

    You knew since that you won't marry him yet you collected all his gifts, allowances, hard earned money, etc. He got you a job and you collected it.

    You gave him a false hope and was a leach eating from him as a parasite for almost 2 years. He made you go to places that you would never have been.

    You are a wicked soul.

    Finally, I guess you are still young and so, you dont know the difference between a good man as husband and a crush. You are here running on emotions like a teenager who is looking for Prince Charming in his shining armour. You may regret it if you leave this good man for a man you know has a lot of issues ( who may be deceiving you). Dont write any chronicle after 6 months when you discover he is not divorced, or that he has other children in other places.

    Many women are living with fish brain.

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  45. My dear if you can't love this man even after a year and eight months, you can never love him after marriage.you already made the mistake of not walking away long before now. You can still do that now. Love is very paramount when it comes to marriage and it's definitely not something you can fake.

    Good luck as you take a decision.

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    1. [sic.] spanner
      Love is PARAMOUNT

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  46. Poster, do not make mistake you will regret in future. First, have you tried to find out why he is divorced? Secondly, how are you sure he told you the truth about his failed marriage? Again, don't you think that there are chances of reconciliation if he is not officially divorced? If you had said he is widowed, I would have advised that you follow your heart, but divorced? Hell no, look before you keep.

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  47. Hmmmm "Portharcourt boys eeh " in Duncan Mighty 's voice, poster pleeease! be careful with PH men that will tell you that they are divorced. Its normal here in PH, just do your findings you will see that the second guy is still married, they derives joy in holding single girls captive. Shine your eyes nne!
    Sweet Jay.

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  48. Poster Biko drop dis man number with Stella Nwanyioma, u never can tell what will happen tomorrow. One man's meat na another man's poison.


    Make we no blame d BV maybe d guy no too fine. But hapu ya like dat! If u b correct girl drop him email for Mama Bambino's, we go help you love d guy.

    Make sure u marry d divorcee, abeg no come wicked that good guy. Bye bye Felicia

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  49. NNE,lemme advise u as my sister. If that first guy proposes on ur birthday, pls accept and love him. That place yaa eyes dey will never go well. Am speaking as an oracle now. Better dress fine and sexy,get a make over,look smashing and accept the guys ring. Cry small sef, kiss him and be faithful to him and all will be well.

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  50. Na so una dey create monsters leave for innocent women. You knew you didnt love him but you steadily collected allowance, added it to job and apartment. If you took only the job sef and told him at that point that it wont work, i would have respected you abit. But no... 1 year + and you are saying the same story. You are a user!! And i pray you get what you deserve with that baggage carrying man. Rabbesh!

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  51. You want to choose a portharcourt guy that told you he is divorced over a single guy that loves you like crazy. since you dont love the first guy please break up with him and set the nigga free, let him get his life back on track rather than stringing him along, do whatever you want with your life if your life. Just have it at the back of your mind that the single daddy will show you baba nla shege, you go use your naked eyes see your yansh.

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  52. If u don't love a guy...don't collect pin from him or lead him on...Sister u are wicked...Ika ni eeeh..

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  53. Dearr poster, im sorry for you. You don't love him and yet you allowed to larvish his attention and money on you and now a guy who does not know your origin comes along and you are confused. What will it take for you to love that 1st back. I think by the time this 2nd guy destroys your destiny, then you will understand the true meaning of love and by then it will be too late to return.

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  54. Poster, come back in the next 2/3 days to tell us if you accepted or turned down the proposal. Gracias.

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  55. Poster, in as much as you want to look at things from an emotional perspective, stick with the first guy. Love isn't enough in marriage. Until you get there, you might not understand. But let me put it simply that if love was enough, there would be no broken or bitter marriages. Be smart!!

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  56. I'm so pissed like wtf. I feel like dropping my good home training to cuss you.
    You deserve whatever you will get.
    Tomorrow now this guy will heap all th anger on someone innocent.e

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  57. You think you are smart abi? You will definitely get what's coming to you. Smelling story.
    For the record nobody is saying you should marry a man you do not love, the dismay being expressed here is because it took you 20 months to realise that you can't love him yet you opened your jaws like a shark and kept gobbling the goodies he brought your way. That is pure Yahoo Yahoo. Only for you to start talking rubbish now.
    Please set him free for a good person to love, and carry on with your life in whatever manner you please.

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  58. Poster never you marry a person you do not love, no matter how nice and caring they could be. Never you believe that shit things will fall in place, what if things do not fall in place? De not deceive yourself, not everyone who marry people they do not love end up falling in love with them.

    If you do not love him, let him know ontime do not give him false hope, have a heart to heart time with him before your birthday and tell him you are still not connected to him, ask him to give you sometime to see if you can get connected to him.

    For the divorced man, do not rush it with him, infatuation can carry your mind away and you will be thinking is real love. Watch him closely, find out why he left his first marriage, not all men are saint.

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  59. Dear poster, its ok not to have feeling for someone buy leading them on for this long is unacceptable. It shoes that you wete comfortable with him spending on you not comfortable to giving your heart to him. You should have stopped this a long time ago. My dear, i was in that same boat. In 2003 while in the university my husband kept asking me out for a whole year but i would not a accept him because i was running after the wrong guy i thought loved me. My husband was always there for me. He checked on me all the time, took me out for lunch,paid for my handouts. I loved his company but did not see him as someone to date. Then that year i had financial problems snd guess who bailed me out, it was my husband. The then boyfriend i had could not help despite the fact that i have never asked him for money. Since that time my eyes cleared. I said to myself, i have domeone who is willing to go extremes for me but i cannot see it. Since then i accepted to date him and todsy we have 2 lovely daughters and i will never trade anyone for him. He has not chabged one bit and still the caring and loving person i have know for 15 years now

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