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Saturday, January 05, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
GOD OR MARRIAGE ULTIMATUM 


Dear Stella, I feel bad writing this, but I need your advice and that of your BVs. I and hubby celebrated 10 yrs of marriage on Nov 15th. We were both born into one of this white garment churches that walks barefoot and do not pray in the Name of Jesus Christ. 


3 yrs ago I informed hubby of my intention to serve the real God. He swore over his dead body that I will not attend any other church. My parents and some of his sisters(not all) are still attending that church but his senior brother left the church long ago. 


Each time out of compulsion I follow him there, I always experience attack in my dreams, I don't know what is happening to me now that even the sight of their cloth affects me. While I was in that church, I used to experience dream husband coming to have s#x with me but ever since i discontinued going there the whole issue stopped. 


2 weeks ago he advised me to barb my hair,stop fixing nails and lashes if I truly wants him to be convinced  and join me. 

Stella, I have barbed my hair today,removed all the nails and lashes but while barbing the senior brother called me to meet with him immediately. The brother informed me that my hubby has come to tell him that he's no longer interested in the marriage again since I cannot join him in the church and that he has also informed my parents.


 For more than 2 weeks, hubby is not talking to me,he only laughs with our four children. The story of his attitude towards me should be for another day, from not providing for me to not playing or discussing with me. 


Now to those reading this, is it possible to serve demon happily when you know the true God? He has given me the option of choosing between marriage and that church. For the past 3 yrs of realizing myself, he has challenged me to pray let Jesus Christ reveal himself to him. I've prayed, fast, met pastors to help me in praying but he's always making mockery of the fact that my God cannot convince him.


 I need advice seriously coz I don't know anybody to share my problems with. 


He stopped me from keeping friends saying my friends are all prostitutes. I Feel bad that I've barbed my hair. I wish God can answer my prayers speedily. I wish he can show my husband signs that he's the true God... Please forgive any typos, understand my situation of typing. God bless you all...




*Hmmmm this is really really serious....Perhaps,it is you that God is testing?perhaps it is you God wants to deliver first?Is your Marriage more important than God?I mean,i ask this since you have been given a choice to choose between God and Marriage to man.
My dear if you cut your hair,that is not a problem,short hair is also rockable....look for ways to rock yours.
Let me also read the comments cause like i said,this is serious and not something anyone can just give advice....

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    1. Hmmmmmm...keep praying bcos I won't advice you to leave your marriage bcos of this. The Bible says if you're married to an unbeliever you can win him to Christ through your Godly character.

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    2. So white garment do not call Jesus Christ

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    3. There are different types of white garment churches pls,,,apparently this is not celestial, C and S or Church of the Lord(Tabiorer)I'm not sure I got d spelling right...these r the common ones I know nd they call Jesus...

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    4. Dear poster, it seems your hubby has even divorced himself from the marriage a long time ago! He is just using this as an excuse. You need to be convinced before you can take this leap because if you take this road, I don't think you can ever go back again.

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    5. “But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”
      ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7:15‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      Please read the preceding verses too and the ones after this. I only quoted this one because I didn’t want to make a long Bible quotation.
      This is a test of your faith. You must at every point in your life choose God! It is not your place to give God ultimatum to show Himself to your husband. It may even take a separation before your husband realizes that you are serious about God and that you will choose your salvation.
      The devil is trying to play with the light in your apirit. Also, stop going from pastor to pastor. This is the need to go deep in the Word. I don’t want to name a church here but you need a church that will keep you GROUNDED in the Word.
      Note; that separation does not mean you are divorced. Even if you are divorced, remarriage isn’t the way to go as a child of God.
      Note there where It is written that God called us to peace. This shows the mind of God towards marriages, because physical unrest will lead to unrest in your spirit and a falling away spiritually. God called us to peace, we should strive for peace and sometimes what will make for peace is something we may never have imagined in our lives.
      Again, the Better choice is always God and His righteousness... and God will do His own in due time!

      I wish you the peace of Christ

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      A man can only get away with manipulating you when you have handed the power to him to do so. Madam, you’ve taken a stand and are convinced in your spirit. Move to God. You have spoken, cajoled, compromised already in so many ways. Take a stand NOW and move out. Don’t be manipulated by family or friends into staying another minute.
      Tell him, it’s okay. You will stand with God that there’s no marriage in heaven.

      You will see that once you do that, that thing he used to hold as power over you will be taken away and HE will be the one to want to compromise because he will be shook. And maybe even your faith will change him .

      But first, take that power away! He is only doing that because he can see you are desperate to keep the marriage.

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  2. Is your destiny tied to that marriage? Leave the marriage and find happiness, after all, you've been the one providing for yourself even in that marriage, marriage is not a do or die affair abeg




    *Larry was here*

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    1. I watched a movie one about a lady that found Jesus but her hubby dint want to give in... it would have helped but I can’t even remember it’s name.
      My dear, if you are sure you are really born again, keep holding on to God, don’t move out just let God take control

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  3. Since you've already gotten the revelation and the conviction that you have to leave the devil and come to God,what are you still waiting for?my dear sister if he doesn't want you again,kindly leave him alone and move somewhere else to serve God,although you are going to be faced with challenges,but with God you will overcome, off your shoe and run please and don't forget to take your children along,rock your lowcut with pride,dress well and serve God,all will be fine.

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  4. Dear poster, you cannot serve God and mammon at the same time

    Choose God and follow him in truth and in spirit and your life will never remain thesame

    Keep praying for your husband and God will open his eyes to see the light

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  5. My God! This is expository!!!! So Cele people worship demons and not God? Hmmmmm! Thank for this blog that is really opening my eyes to a whole lot of things about this life. Atleast I now know.

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    1. The poster is not referring to Celestial Church of Christ.

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    2. So Cele is the only white garment church u know abi?my mum attends cele nd its a bible believing church,or did she mention cele?if una hear white garment like this na cele be dat.

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    3. That's not true...there are lots of white garment churches

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    4. The question you should ask yourself is,is it only cele that wears white.Think about it

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    5. @Gifted hands
      Keep deceiving yourself.

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    6. 'Cele bible church'Keep deceiving your self. White garments churches woship water spirits and demons. Keep defending them don't go and find the truth.

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    7. So you people did not read where she said the church members walk on barefoot? Please tell me another church that walks on barefoot if not Celestial church. You people claim to have read the chronicle and all you saw was only the mention of white garment

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    8. Haha! Watch them come for you.

      Me... i sha know I lived beside a staunch member at some point. And till we left that estate, they never told us why their priest comes to take them on a barefoot march after midnight. Always heading for the nearest waterbody to complete the prayers. I pass!

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    9. Olumba lumba walks barefoot too not only cele

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    10. Olumba Olumto Obu....do not call Jesus Christ. Unless, I dunno.

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    11. You people should understand that celestial church is owned by individuals. Not like Catholic that no one owns, just have have the pope as their head. Their sermons are same every where and they priests can be transferred.

      Unlike celestial church, it just have a founder Oshoffa. Now any individual can build his church and be the sherphard in his church, doing what he likes.

      I have been too two different celestial church and it wasn't the same, I had to run from one, there's no way, the worship God there. But the other, I have known peace ever since i started attending. Clearly there's a difference.

      Finally, not all celestial church are bad, there are good ones that worhship God genuinely and some, I don't understand.

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    12. Olumba olumba obu wear white too o with no shoes and they don't pray in the name of Jesus

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  6. Madam, my husband and I are serving "the real God" but for the past nearly ten years, we and our kids haven't been to any church. We have house fellowships with our kids, study the scriptures together, celebrate communion, give our tithes to the less privileged (widows, orphans, poor strangers and missionaries) just like in the scripture the "real God" specified; Deut. 14:28-29, Deut. 26:12-15, Matt. 23:23 Acts 6:1-6 etc. By the grace of God, we've lifted some families out of poverty and won them over to Christ; there is nothing as fulfilling as that. We tune in to gospel channels we choose online; there are many. We go on evangelism online. In fact as soon as I finish typing this, I am off to evangelism to reach out to folks online. We are fulfilled as Christians and we have peace. There are a lot of folks like us; some are experiencing exactly what you mentioned; the husband does not want her to go to church and she stays home and does exactly what we do.

    In many countries, like China, India, and middle east, Christians do not even have access to bibles talk less of meeting and they are waxing so strong. Tune to Youtube and see Christians in China meeting in secret -those that are not in "official churches".

    Do not pack up your marriage for trivial reasons. A lot of those churches in Nigeria are not serving the real God but money. The problem of Nigerians are not churches but too much of it. Teach your kids scriptures and you will be at peace.

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    1. Yaba left escapee5 January 2019 at 15:41

      This your sermon doesnt make sense, her husband has given her an ultimatum, walk barefooted to cele or walk with shoes out of this marriage".... & dont trivializ this issue by saying "Dont pack up your marriage for trivial reasons".... its a big deal, that house is no longer safe for her, even in her sleep a "spirit" comes to chop & clean mouth, she wakes up to reality, her husband wahala begins.... she should leave asap.

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    2. You see, this your advice is so wrong. She is a beginner, yet to find her feet. She will need a lot of coaching to be strong.
      Please dear,apostle Paul said that if you faith can carry eating meat offered to idol, no problem but for the sake of others not strong enough for it,don't eat it.
      Because you and your husband is doing it, does not make it right.
      I have so many things to say on how wrong you are, but let me stop for now.
      It is obvious, your type lives righteous without acknowledging the source thereof.

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    3. YLE walahi you are a clown but you made so much sense.

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    4. @Yaba left
      Thanks for correcting me; it is NOT a trivial reason. It is a big deal.
      Thanks immensely.

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    5. Uzu Anwuli
      I don't understand this your "Gbam"

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  7. Misogyny and chauvinism.
    Fanatics.
    Blatant bigotry.
    Lack of empathy.
    Emotional blackmail.
    Sectaniarism.
    False accusation.
    Character defamation.... etc.
    Your husband is guilty of all these & more, bow hes trying to imprison your soul eternally, dont give him that power!

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    1. So what does she do; beat him up?
      You have succeeded in taking the OXYGEN out of the room.
      Please say something meaningful or read comments.

      She can win him over with love and her pure character. Let him see the difference in you as a Christian serving that "real God'.

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    2. Anon 15:29 youve succeeded in polluting the air. Wheres the meaningful line in your own comment? After 10yrs of marriage to him & 4 kids, you think he doesnt know her "pure" character? All of a sudden she should start forming love abi? Most of you have no clue what marriage is like.

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      Your answer

      She can win him over with love and her pure character. Let him see the difference in you as a Christian serving that "real God'.

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    4. So she has been displaying fake character for 10yrs eh, and not showing him love, some of u dont have sense

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    5. No sense at all.

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    6. Anonymous 15:29, you've shown us with your comment that you do not really understand English words, what they mean and how to see or decipher them in a sentence or sentences. The husband is everything that Oxygen described him as and more, he's a bully and a manipulating one at that. Madam poster, run and run with your children or you might develop sudden and incurable illness . Those people are evil. Big up to you Oxygen, i like your mind and i think i have said it before.

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  8. Please go with the decision that gives U peace of mind...

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  9. I will advise you don't give up on the marriage yet. Moreover you guys were practicing the same religion before you saw the light. Still keep praying for God to convince him and let your character and attitude show that you now have a living God living in you.

    And don't hesitate to share your positive testimonies you have experienced since you found God with your family. may God help You.

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  10. Your husband has not asked you to choose between God and him but "church and him". So you are good to go. As a Christian, you must not go to a church to be one. Study your scriptures, meet with your kids and study the scriptures. Treat him well while he treats you badly (like Jesus taught). It is now that you have to prove if you love this man; his soul for eternal life. Do not give up but persevere for that is one of the fruits of the Spirit.
    Tell him that you have decided not to attend any church at all but be at home and learn the scriptures and wait for God to convince him to see the truth. All these behaviors of his is to discourage you from praying for him and make you hate him and in that way, you will not be able to stand before God for him.

    Stay strong.

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    1. Yaba left escapee5 January 2019 at 15:44

      Rubbish talk.
      Is God not the church?

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    2. God is not the church.

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    3. yaba apa osi escapee, dont be stupid. WE are the church not God.

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    4. @Yaba left
      Please, God is not a building called church okay?

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    5. God is the church and church is God

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    6. God is not church ... please read your bible before you write.

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    7. Okay, I get it, the "pastors" told you folks that that building you go to every Sunday is God?
      Jesus said where two or more are gathered in my name, I am in their midst. Matthew 18:20

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  11. It is well with you poster

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  12. Dear poster, I haven't commented in a long while but I feel led to encourage you. I'll advise you don't leave your mariage. Believe me, that is not God's will for you. Except your life is in danger. God will not put asunder what He has put together. And you have kids. As for the church issue, pray for wisdom. If you have given your life to Christ, then you carry something inside of you that is so much more powerful than anything on earth or beneath. I can assure you, that you can decide to be obedient to your husband and go to his church, sit there and pray all through! Sit there and display such peace that they'll be wondering what is going on inside of you. Smile, greet people, worship the true God from your heart (after all our God is omnipresent). He is everywhere and even inside of you, and He sees that your heart and worship is with Him. I'll suggest also that before going to that church that you pray, take authority and cover yourself with the blood of Jesus. Tell God, you love Him and you want to obey Him and until He tells you specifically what to do, you'll continue to love your husband and be submissive to him. God will go with you and come back with you. Such battles are not faught physical. Remember that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. Carry your bible self and be reading while the service is going on. Finally, remember that God loves your husband too and desires for him to be saved. Your attitude towards him will be a louder preaching than anything else. God's Grace dear. Chidinma in France.

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    1. Yaba left escapee5 January 2019 at 16:12

      So you just sit in france and assume its God that puts all marriages together abi? Weldone. Its easy for you people to sit in the comfort of your homes & type what u think, its not you getting **cked by spirit husband, or walking with 10 toes on the ground.

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    2. You can’t tell her to worship God in her heart, it’s like those that dress naked and say they are worshipping in their hearts, that’s nonsense, who is she deceiving? Deceiving God to please her husband...those three boys in the Bible chose to be burnt alive than bow to another god even if God was in their mind,
      Poster, God will leave you when there’s no choice, keep showing them being like Christ is different, let the love of God in you lead you

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    3. 😂🤣 ten toes on the ground

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  13. Yaba left escapee5 January 2019 at 15:32

    Only a cult will object to a member trying to exit, you shouldnt be held against your will or manipulated into keeping up, the show is over & curtains dropped, you've realized the poppet with the strings, & your husband wants u to pretend its real & keep walking barefooted? Dont try it oh madam, na now nail go chook your leg well well, cus youre no longer intertwined with their belief system, i'd have suggested u ask Toolz if its by force to stay but shes in a happy place right now.
    Madam, youre not a horse, who the hell drags you to the river and forces you to drink, and yet the definition of force in physics remains any interaction that, when unopposed, will change the motion of an object.
    A force can cause an object with mass to change its velocity (which includes to begin moving from a state of rest) to accelerate. Force can also be described intuitively as a push or a pull, SMH... see me deviating again, no vex.

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    1. The other time it is as mathematics now it's physics 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 I give up on you.

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    2. Phy... 😨😧😦😥😩😢😭

      But why are you doing this to us YLE? Why?

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    3. This yaba left escape you are not well at all 😂😂😂😂

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  14. These church matters are usually a matter of ego. Your man wants all to go to his church. Drop this issue and enjoy your marriage. SLvation is not in any church. Instead of fighting over church, look for reasons not to go to church. Play smart. You're an adult .Don't go to his church and don't go to any church. Pray at home. Let him change on his own. If the church will end the marriage, he's not a serious being

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  15. @ chidinma in France, God has spoken through you. Poster please read this carefully and may God lead you in Jesus name, Amen.

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  16. I fear for your life. It's like your husband knows the church deeper than you do. Pray and watch your back.

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  17. Poster, please wait on God and allow Him to guide you on what to do, He has His perfect will for you in this situation, seek His face He will guide you aright.

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  18. He stopped me from keeping friends saying my friends are all prostitutes. I Feel bad that I've barbed my hair. I wish God can answer my prayers speedily. ....no matter what keep your friends. He called them bad names. In his mind he suspect they are the one leading you on.

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    1. My dear some men are like that when you don't do things their way they will accuse you of all sort and say terrible things about your friends...this year i have made up my mind not to even bring any friend discussion and act as if I don't talk to anyone. I hardly go to church here but I have subscribed to daily mass, so I listen to mass everyday and read my bible. God sees my heart and that's what is important for me.

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  19. Must you lie to get sympathy on the blog? Which Celestial church doesn't call Jesus Christ? Habaaaa! Just say you want to leave for your own personal reasons. You got married there and had four children and demon didn't kill you. Since you have seen light madam, leave behind every thing you got while in darkness including your husband marriage and children. If you check well now, it's one of these pastors you are calling that wants to scatter your home so they can win you over to their own church. Good luck with your low cut.

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    1. Olumba doesn't call Jesus Christ..

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    2. Anonydumbdumb clap fih ya self. You're the dullest tool in the box.

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    3. Madam/Oga Celeatial did she mention your church's name?

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    4. Did she call cele? Is cele the only church that wears white ?

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  20. Poster you didn't indicate which of the white garment church you are referring to. Celestial Church Of Christ or Cherubim & Seraphim worships Christ Jesus.
    N.B : For those that asked

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  21. Dear poster,
    Although there is no marriage in heaven.
    After death it is hell or heaven.
    Hold God, follow God and allow him to lead you.
    Try as much as possible to save your marriage while sticking to the TRUE GOD. Believe me he understands and only HE can find a way out of this.
    After God na God!
    All the very best.

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  22. Please o poster what is the name of the church you are talking about because I attend celestial church and we pray in the name of Jesus Christ ( Jehovah, Jesus christ, holy Michael) please all you said is not true about celestial church, I was born there too and I attend other churches too like mfm and redeem my folks don't mind, please be specific about the church you are talking about

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    1. Which one is holy michael @ Anony 16:22? Doe it sound right to you at all? Please point out the verse or chapter in the bible that states we must pray the way you have stated? How can I...a beautiful daughter of the most high God whom the Lord has placed above the angels now pray to that same angel? Are you equating the angel at the level of the trinity? Interesting!!!
      I was also born in a Cele church but thank God for the Holy spirit that revealed the truth. The white garment churches only introduce spirit husband into your life or the life of your children. Also be ready to fight a great spiritual warfare the day you decide and are determined to leave. May your eyes open on time in Jesus name.

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    2. Please read Heb chapter 1 from verse 5-14
      “Are not all angels ministering spirits sent to serve those who will inherit salvation?”
      ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭1:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      That is what the Bible says about Angels.

      Now note about Christ:

      “For there is one God and one mediator between God and mankind, the man Christ Jesus,”
      ‭‭1 Timothy‬ ‭2:5‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      “to Jesus the mediator of a new covenant, and to the sprinkled blood that speaks a better word than the blood of Abel.”
      ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12:24‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      “Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me.”
      ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭28:18‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      “And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son.”
      ‭‭John‬ ‭14:13‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      “that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth,”
      ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭2:10‬ ‭NIV‬‬

      This Includes even the most popular of all groups who pray to other things and people and names and ideas! No where does the Bible sanction such, it is idolatry.
      Please prayerfully return to the Bible way of things.

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  23. Why is no one seeing that it is olumba olumba she's referring to? Are y'all blind ni? Ah-ah! Kilode gan to gbogboyin Kan go sha? Stay and do what in which marriage? O ga o...

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  24. Dear poster, congratulations on finding the light. Trust me,you will never regret it.

    You see my dear, your bible should be your best friend now. I am going to surprise you a little bit.
    Yes you found Christ, but being with Christ does not mean, life won't be difficult anymore. "In the world, you will suffer PERSECUTIONS and TRIBULATIONS but be of good cheer,I have conquered the world". These words are from Jesus Christ.
    The highlighted words are experiences you will encounter as you run this race.

    A lot of people today are in the church, attend programs and even pay tithe but they don't know Christ. What does it mean to know Christ then? If you are a Christian and you have not had a personal encounter with Christ, not convinced of who Christ is,then please you are still on your own.
    Apostle Paul felt he was with God,until He had a personal encounter.
    Peter thought it was by human power and zeal,until after denying Jesus.
    Being in Christ is not bread and butter,you will have days, you will feel persecuted but your conviction will keep you.
    Being in Christ does not mean that you won't be tempted, it will come.
    Trials too like what you have now will come but it will NEVER defeat you if you don't give up.
    It is scriptural to be challenged but unscriptural to be defeated. You have found the light,surrender to it totally. I mean don't go to church for just miracles or what you can get but also to maintain your relationship with Christ. You have only found that Christ is the light but you have not invited Him into your life.
    Give you life to Christ.
    Get baptised in water and holyspirit.
    Then let the holyspirit help you grow.

    As for your marriage with hubby, there is no impossibility with God. But get busy pursuing Christ and hubby will never stop pursuing you.
    As for God showing hubby himself, God is not man, He is God.He is I AM. Just relax and keep it up with Jesus. One day, God will perfect it.
    The hearts of kings are in God's hand and he turneth it the way He wants. Hubby cannot divorce you if God does not will it. So what if you separate from him to go get stronger in faith?
    But it does not mean it will happen. Once I complained about my hubby to God over what he was not doing right, and I was going to force him to do it right, but the spirit of God asked me to concentrate in my faith and leave hubby for Him to handle.
    When and how it happened, I don't know but he is transformed.

    So get busy,concentrating in Christ, read your bible to know about God,pray and ask God to always guide you and have His way in your life.
    Above all, trust God. Trust that He can handle it more than you can. Then relax and enjoy your new found faith.

    I hope I made sense because I am too busy that maybe I didn't make sense.

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    1. Even if God does not, you do your own. You follow Him and pay the price! Remember the words of the 3 Hebrew young men- Meshach, Shadrach and Abednego. ‘ even if our God does not deliver us, we will NOT bow to your heaven image’ . Choose God and tell Him to do a His will when it comes to the marriage.

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  25. Solomon said "speak lord for your servant is listening." I wonder what other sign you want God to show you when you're obviously living the life of a slave when you should be living the life of a companion. What you should pray for right now is the gift of self confidence so that you'll have the strength to speak your mind at all times.

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  26. like the Pentecostal church you have decided to go to is any better.

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  27. Does that triple zero place not walk bare footed also?
    Poster, if you can take care of yourself and your kids, l suggest you leave. He has already informed your family so how come they have not told you to return home?? How can you remain in that bondage called marriage?
    How on earth did you get married this man?? While dating, you thouotge Church was okay. Four kids later, it dawns on you that they don’t call the name of Jesus.
    Please, leave if you can. God wants to deliver you from those demons. That’s why you have the conviction now. Hopefully, your husband will get convicted too by the Holy Spirit. Good luck!!


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  28. Does that triple zero place not walk bare footed also?
    Poster, if you can take care of yourself and your kids, l suggest you leave. He has already informed your family so how come they have not told you to return home?? How can you remain in that bondage called marriage?
    How on earth did you get married this man?? While dating, you thouotge Church was okay. Four kids later, it dawns on you that they don’t call the name of Jesus.
    Please, leave if you can. God wants to deliver you from those demons. That’s why you have the conviction now. Hopefully, your husband will get convicted too by the Holy Spirit. Good luck!!

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  29. How can a grown ass woman be asked to barb her her, and not keep friends? I don't know how and where u girls meet these dictators. How do you guys communicate home?

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    1. Sign language and tactile communication.

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  30. Poster Don't feel bad that you cut your hair, you can rock your low cut and also wear beautiful wigs,
    As for hubby not talking to you, endure that for now till he comes around At least you have kids talk and play with too,hubby is using the kids to fight off the boredom of not talking to you so join the bandwagon if you work would be better cause you have work to take your mind off what's happening at home.
    On the church part if the new church you attend is same time with the white garment church hubby attends then all you need do is wait till he goes to church dress up and go to yours and try and come back before he comes back, keep praying for him he would change, it took you 10years to realise the light yet you want Hubby's turn around to happen in three minutes? Give him time, love him regardless its not easy but pray to God for strength.
    As for your brother that told you hubby wants to leave the marriage is he amongst those not in support of your leaving the church? If yes it only means he told you that to discourage you from your new found faith.
    For your not having friends you won't have cut them off easily in the First place, when he said cut off your friends you should have asked him to lead by example(he should cut of ties with his friends first) now that you both ain't talking If you start talking with some of your friends again I doubt he would have the mouth to ask you why lol, but if it would be an issue for now then let it be keep your friends out of the house and be with them when at work if possible,
    Going to pastors to help you pray for God to change Hubby's heart all I can say is be careful of fake pastors, in all ask God for guidance and direction
    God who started this work in you and your family would give you strength and see it to completion

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  31. 2 Timothy 3:12 In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted,

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  32. Madam you have children, you have been married, you want to serve true God who has given you Children and husband. Forget that your husband, look for somewhere and stay fire now, allow him to make his own choice. Your life is more important than that marriage, there is no marriage in heaven, your husband want to force you to continue worshipping demons.

    Your safe, happiness matters a lot, short hair cannot spoil anything, buy weavon caps na rock your short hair till you can grow your hair long,

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  33. Na wa o, if as christians you both are having such trouble what will become of an interfaith marriage?

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  34. After ten years and four kids. God Abeg oooo.

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  35. Madam in this your case, It is "either choose death or life". And not your caption.
    My question then to you is, "is your marriage worth your life?"
    Herein lies your answer.

    To God not answering or not fast enough, you need to understand how God operates. He has heard and has answered. At God's OWN time, He will show Himself mighty and strong.
    But, He will be right there, right on time.
    Kindly read the stories of the conversion of some of these great men of God
    Smith Wigglesworth, Daddy Adeboye, Jersey Duplantis (His mum prayed all her lifetime for His conversion. It happened after her death. But even on her dieing bed she told him he would not only be born again but will become a preacher. She never doubted that God would visit Him. Today he is one of the biggest and great Pastor of our time. Rugged for Jesus.) and a host of others.

    You can't dictate timing for God. At the perfect time, He will make all things beautiful.
    But would you still be in faith then? Would you still be holding on to Jesus still dearly then?
    Enough of inviting Pastors and praying he changes. Why? Because God has heard and answered. Just stay praising.
    In the meantime, don't force him to stay in the marriage. Leave him.
    If He chases you out or leaves the house, no problem. The God whom you serve has got your back.
    Remember Shedrack, Meshack and Abednego thrown in the fire, they never denied God. God showed up right in the fire. Not on d way to the furnace or at the entrace of it. But when they were actually thrown in it.
    You have to go all the way to show your love for God. Not mere words.
    They said "if we perish, we perish".
    They were ready to die for their faith in God and go meet Him in heaven than deny him and eventually die and go to hell.
    Lastly, they might start attacking you. So, keep building your faith and relationship with God. For the battle ahead.
    Pls read. I Corinthians 7:13-15

    Be rest assured that your husband will become born again and serve God; but only if you hold your faith till the end.
    The time I don't know. The circumstance, I don't know. Through who, I don't know. The process might be harder for you than imagined (separation or divorce or hardship). But God will come through.
    Pls choose life that you May live.

    Shalom.

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  36. I felt really sad reading your story poster.I'm not married so I can't understand what you must be going through with an unresponsive husband. What I do know is you have to pray. Don't leave your marriage,the devil is just trying to destroy your marriage and he's using "church" to destroy it.
    Watch this movie "war room" it will teach you how to pray for your husband and your family. There is nothing God cannot do, don't despair,the darkest hour of the night is closest to dawn.
    Your DAWN is COMING.
    I join you in praying that the good Lord will open the eyes of your husband to see the pain he's causing you and send the holy spirit to direct his heart and bring you all to a happy and united family in Christ. Amen.

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  37. Wish u were in an advanced country like uk, u for fit stand by your own o poster

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  38. I really don’t understand you guys on this blog including Stella. How do you tell someone to hold on to this prison called marriage. Her husband is abusive, all the signs are there. Rather you are telling her to rock the short hair and serve God from her heart. This man is clearly manipulative; he has cut her off from friends, trying to make her unattractive, give her the silent treatment, not catering to her needs, her opinion or choice doesn’t mean jack to him and the best advice you can give to a grown ass woman is hang in there? Abasi! One minute you’re preaching against abuse, next minute you’re aiding and abetting abusive men. Madam! Your sanity comes first, next to your happiness, do not let any man push you in to fire. You’re old enough to know what’s good for you, make that decision fast before that man and his occultic church hurt you. Leave him and go with your kids or else you’d remain unhappy for the rest of your life. You need to raise your kids the right way. Double your hustle because fending for 4 kids is no joke and strengthen your relationship with God because that man would fight you spiritually and physically. A word is enough for the wise.

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  39. Poster let me try come from a different point of view and bring opinion outside religion and let me read between the lines of what you wrote with the understanding that there are always another side to every story...

    First off, you started as saying you and him was born of same religion and belief system and the marriage was based on that understanding and that your kids will be brought up in similar way. So now you breaking the covenant and vows you took on your wedding day.

    Secondly, you said you realized yourself 3 years ago that you wanted to leave the church and he said NO.

    He's given you 3 years for you to prove and convince him that your new belief and religion, is better than his, and you couldn't prove it. So after your 10th year anniversary, hes run out of patience and has done the right thing by informing an elder of his intention to end the marriage due to your breaking the vows you took.

    Fact is, hes done nothing wrong. You are being the bully here and not him. He didn't stopped you from having friends, you did that on your own free will. You realized he was right by saying your friends were prostitute so you cut ties. If your friends weren't prostitutes, you would have defended them and kept them as friends. You didn't say he gave you an option to leave your friends.

    And for those cursing the man, you guys need to take it back. Women ain't always right you know. Both of you are birds of same feather brought up in same way with similar upbringing so now you want to break out which you have every right to by the way, and he's given you the option to; so why do you need to cry about it? He said he wants out so give him an out and go serve your God. What you should be doing now is having the conversation of the kids and how to handle the kids. The problem with us sometimes is we don't know how to have an adult conversation. This is the time to because whatever anyone says, you have changed and nothing can stop someone who wants freedom. All the money in the world now can't stop you from leaving that church and no matter what anyone says, your mind is made up and his too so now stop playing around and act matured. You knew when you made up your mind 3 years ago it will come to this and the time has finally come.

    Finally, let me leave you with this piece of advise my mother gave me as a kid. She said a time will come in a man's life where he will have to make a life changing decision and no one can advise on what to do because no one is right and no one is wrong and that decision is yours and only yours to make. It might be a decision that might change your life for good or for worse. She said in that time there's only one option. DO WHAT WILL MAKES YOU HAPPY. I hope you make the right decision and good luck.

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  40. Let the Holy Spirit convince your husband. You continue to do what you’re doing by praying. However focus on you first, strengthen your faith, surround yourself with bible believing Christians that will strengthen your spiritual life and support you. You really need support. Like few folks mentioned earlier, there’s no marriage in heaven. At the end of the day, everything ends here. You stand before God alone. It’s either heaven or hell and eternity is forever. So always ponder on this when the pressure gets too much. If you have to separate, I’ll suggest you do that as right now he’s not really there for you emotionally and he ignores you at home. So what do you really have to lose at this point? Coordinate a schedule time so he can spend time with his kids. If I were in your shoes, I’ll choose the truth, especially now that your heart is no longer in that white garment church. It’ll continue to be a struggle if you go back there when you know the truth. The truth shall set you free. I wish you the best!

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  41. i dont like die hard fans of any church. na my parents church therefore i will die there. why not agree with your partner and go to a new church. anything garment, count me out.

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