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Wednesday, February 06, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

Na wah!!!







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
AT A CROSS ROAD 


I'm at a crossroad right now. 

I come from a very rich family but married an okay man. Lately things have been tight for us and hubby wants me to ask my parents for assistance. Asking for assistance is not the issue but these men ain't loyal. He doesn't cheat YET.


 I stopped snooping years ago. I have dreamt severally of him cheating on me with various women both married and single.

I won't be angry if he cheats at the long run, but I will be mad at him biting the hand that fed him. I told him I'm not going to ask my parents for their help that we should manage our suffering like that, though he really works hard but business is not moving. We are not from the same tribe....




*Hmmmmmm OK since you don't trust him and its possible that your fears might become reality,make una manage una suffering like that .....

If you really want advice then i wanna encourage you to help him get the money but get him to sign undertaking on something that will put your mind to rest..or u get the money and give him only a half of it and watch him...tell him you would collect the rest later...just watch him...

The humblest of men are broke men.....

111 comments:

  1. JesusπŸ˜€πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜€πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜€πŸ˜πŸ˜‚

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    1. Sharon I follow you shout Jesus.

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    2. Your husband is not cheating yet,u are from a richer background,both of u are not from d same tribe blah blah blah....
      Why did u marry d man in d first place? U don't love dis man at all..See all u wrote about a man married with ur korokoro eyes..If u are tired of dis marriage pls let him go .U don't want to help him bcos u don't want him to get rich tomorrow and misbehave..Why did u notarey from ur tribe? Why did u not marry someone from a rich background like urs?

      Be there forming stingy and smart woman till he goes to another woman outside who will give him all that he needs and eventually take him from u..Some of u are d reason why ur husbands leave u for another woman..Continue ok

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    3. Anon, regarding your last paragraph, if he intends leaving, he will leave with or without her riches. Don’t say or dish advice that you can’t take. Stingy and smart...... are you kidding me *mschewwwww*

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    4. Anon is a typical Naija man trying to use emotional black mail as per usual. I did lend my ex a great deal of money and he left not up to one month later to move in with another woman. My instincts and head said no but I am glad I did not listen as it proved me right in the end. Looking back now I am thankful that what he borrowed is now chicken change to me.

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    5. Stella sometimes it’s not fears o, I always dreamt in my past relationships even before my then boyfriends start cheating so if I have that dream now in my marriage I will know Wassp... it never fails
      You can ask your parents but don’t give him everything keep half of the money so you can start something for yourself

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    6. What is this anon saying, so she should give him her all because he will go after another woman, what kind of entitlement mentality is that? Go and chase another woman now, broke nigga talking rubbish, you are sounding like you are doing the woman a favor ... I am so angry

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    7. Poster, because you love him for now and he isn’t cheating presently give him 1/4 of what he asked and see how he behaves. Give him from yours if possible, don’t ask your parents YET!

      Also, look at him with your side eye from time to time. I do not trust men and you shouldn’t too! They are very logical while we continue swim in emotions.

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    8. All these replies here just shows how little most women think, and their apparent lack of imagination. Your husband is in a financial quagmire and you have the power to uplift him, instead you bring up stupid and mundane reason for not helping him. Am baffled by the generation of women and young ladies this generation is churning out. Don't help him na, carry the suffering and tie around your neck like dog chain. Rubbish. Please have a rethink what if it was a guy who sent in this chronicle would the advice be the same?

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    9. Anonymous 23:13, a man will not send this chronicle cos men knows that when they are married to women and they uplift them financially in their businesses.Women will always remain loyal till death.Where she wan go? when she has kids for you?Broke ass men cant be predicted.You can only predict a rich guy cos whatever character he displays as a rich guy is his true character.

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    10. You know him more than us, you guys should manage, pray harder for an open door.

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  2. Don't give him ..have experienced that with a friend the hubby finish the cash still dey bailala...babilala...men aint loyal
    Ladybugsis😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎

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  3. if you are concerned about potential cheating, madam abeg snoop and put your mind to rest....perhaps you ll discover the reason you are suffering is because he now has a side family hes responsible for? Or maybe he is plotting to move to the abroad with your family's money *sideeyes*
    Bottomline is this, if he makes it tomorrow, be rest assured that whatever he will do, he will do, so your "controlling him with money" is only a temporal solution to a more complex future problem.
    all in all, na you get your husband and you sabi am pass us BVs

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  4. Just give him little to avoid stories that touch. Not giving him at all will cause trouble oh.

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    1. Why will it cause trouble? Is it his money? It’s not even her money sef, it’s for her parents. What kind of entitlement mentality is that? Soon they’ll start saying women are the gold diggers. They’ll say “Every other day na wire me money”

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  5. Stupendous stupidity!
    Tufiakwa!!

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  6. Sometimes ehn, before you marry, look back at where u are coming from. Forward ever, don't rotate in d same circle, aim high whether rich or broke.

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    1. Hmmm...It not easy to marry people from poor families. You might end up inheriting poverty. Your plans will be mainly for your nuclear family, their plan is for an entire generation,and even more. It very hard to succeed...A very sad situation.

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    2. Anonymous 15.46..My God apt description

      They are like vultures OMG!

      I intend to keep my children as far way from them as possible. I married for love into a poor family..the shit aint easy ...very entitled people.

      They have an inherent desperate need to overdress and show off.

      I bought a new car and they assumed their brother bought the car for me and they try to exercise their rights by driving the car everytime

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    3. You are very correct anonymous 15:46. That’s my story and I don Dey work for bank Dey collect arm robber salary then, unfortunately I no get sense, my money was our money and I didn’t have any secret savings. I was the apple of their eyes then but when money finish and hubby is doing very well I know where I stand. Imagine going totally broke but no one would believe you cos you are a “rich man’ pickin also married to a rich man. Ask for money you hear that his cousins sisters nephews daughter wants to rent a shop and he has sent the money. Another time it’s his uncles last borns mums step brother daughter that needs money for freedom. So upsetting but I’m wiser now though no money again but kobo I get from hubby now is into aggressive savings.

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  7. Poster that your husband is a lazy mosque rat. He's not even ashamed of asking you to beg your family for money. Tueeh. I reject and rebuke bad thing. Listen and listen good don't beg for any money on his behalf. He's a man,let him speed up his hustling spirit. His mate are building houses for their in-laws,they don't have two heads. Let him go and hustle more ooh.

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    1. Eish!! Did you read where she said he works hard. All these your mates don't have two heads statement is wrong. Everyone needs a little help in life.
      Poster only you knows the type of husband you have. Help him with something,maybe not all and if he's hardworking he'll be Able to multiply it. About he's cheating ways, even broke men cheat. Just do what you feel is best

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    2. Lol@ Mosque rat

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  8. Meanwhile my husband who doesn't have a job and just hustling, though with Master's degree will never agree for to this.

    Different strokes for different folks.

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  9. Do you really love this man at all? If you do, please help him and leave the rest to God. If you're not sure of his loyalty, split whatever you get from your parents into equal halves, give him a part, save the rest and watch his behaviour for some time. You should also have your own personal savings as you work or invest in businesses.

    If you say you guys should keep enjoying the suffering like that, do you like to suffer? Do you want such for your kids too? Think about it. He may turn out to do well.

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  10. If you make your husband to sign undertaken because of money then that your marriage will be doomed cos he will never forgive you.
    How can you and your husband even be suffering when you have an option. My friend do the right thing, pikin wey go die go die.

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    1. I don't understand the poster at all. I think the whole institution of marriage really needs to be re-evaluated, I'm not sure the original plan was for marriage to be like this.
      So because I think my husband 'may' cheat, I will see good thing for my family and close eye? God forbid

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    2. Come on close ur smelling mouth.

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    3. For once, Fan de talk sense!!! Adabekee, truth!!!!
      This is what happened when we don't understand the concept of one in marriage

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  11. Do you really love this man at all? If you do, please help him and leave the rest to God. If you're not sure of his loyalty, split whatever you get from your parents into equal halves, give him a part, save the rest and watch his behaviour for some time. You should also have your own personal savings as you work or invest in businesses.

    If you say you guys should keep enjoying the suffering like that, do you like to suffer? Do you want such for your kids too? Think about it. He may turn out to do well.

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    1. Only a married woman who truly loves her husband would write what you just wrote. God bless you.
      @Poster: abeg, stick to this advise. Fan Emmanuel equally hit the nail on the head. This is YOUR immediate family we're talking about here o. Do the RIGHT thing & stop preempting he'll cheat (except if you're seeing some signs already). Support his hustle since you attest to how hardworking he is.

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    2. Cynthia!

      You must have married a good and morally upright man

      Some of us married good men with permanently roaming highly indisciplined dicks.

      If you marry an irrational cheat who was poor and had no access to classy chics at a younger age once he jams money all he will do is spend ...spend and spend

      They spend to make up for their past poverty.Spend to make up for their inferiority complex...Spend to get the attention of the chics they had no access to in their past life

      Once the money drops their insecurities veer up and fiaaam they head out to prove they have arrived and the get more impoverished

      I married that sort of man..

      Kind ..considerate ...compassionate but VERY INDISCIPLINED

      I WILL NEVER EVER IN MY LIFETIME OR THE NEXT encourage my parents to fund his business ventures..If they fund his business ventures HE MUST BE THE ONE TO GO ASK THEM FOR THE CASH ON LOAN BASIS.

      I'd rather buy land and build in my parents name so my children do not continue the poverty line.

      I HAVE TRIED AND TRUSTED HIM so many times and he has FAILED WOEFULLY!

      I approached family and friends on his behalf for loans which were never paid.

      Yet he had women on retainership forming rich because you have a flashy vehicle and dress well ..yet I as your wife know that as a nuclear family we dont have shishi.

      POSTER if your husband is a perpetual cheat that spends outside on women foolishly DO NOT TRY to let him run you and your kids into perpetual poverty!

      Dodge the emotional shit and use the cash to open a billion and one business ventures for you and your children's benefits till he decides to advise himself!

      LOVE GBAKWA OKU!



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    3. Exposee.

      You sound pained though.

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    4. who wouldn't be charity

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    5. Charity she should be pained. Or you don't think so

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  12. Since you've snooped and haven't found anything, why not give him the benefit of the doubt and help him.

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  13. Dear poster, you have not caught him cheating but have had dreams of him cheating, I doubt if that holds water. If you are in a position to help, why not, wouldn't you be happy when he's happy?
    Even broke men cheat, they will still find "free givers"
    Help him if you can, you are a family, for better for worse. If I have the resources to help my husband, why not but with caution.
    Let it not be a free gift but a loan and please take your mind off him cheating because that's all you will see

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  14. MADAM YOU CALL SOMEONE YOUR HUSBAND AND YOU ARE SCARED TO HELP HIM OK O SINCE YOU LIKE SUFFERING ENJOY IT

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  15. Uhmmmm.... So what's the use of staying with a man you don't trust? a man that you would prefer he works like an elephant and eats like an ant just so that he can be yours alone?
    The man hasn't cheated yet, why are you waiting with countdown timer for him to cheat?
    If you would rather suffer than have you and your husband live in comfort, because of distrust then maybe you shouldn't be in that marriage in the first place.

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    1. Ada I love you, you so nailed it

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    2. You said my mind. I don’t understand her at all, the truth is she doesn’t love the man!

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  16. Nna mehn I don't blame this poster. Stella you try for your advice today. Poster insure your future jare this men are not loyal.

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    1. Why not just leave the marriage, if you don't trust someone that much then you're a fool still living with him, he could meet a lady who would change his life and he would go all miles jus to have you replaced.

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    2. Poster 20.01 please shut up. He should replace she too will replace him always trying to manipulate women

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    3. professional replacer! who e go pain pass? Rich kid or church rat?

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  17. I believe you married him because you love him. Love covers a multitude of sins although I don't even see the obvious sin committed. Pls if you can help, help him and have a positive mindset. You can only trust God not to disappoint as you can even disappoint. All the best.

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  18. Poster, how can you manage your suffering like that. Help your husband by asking for help from your parents. Anyman that will cheat will go ahead and cheat... if you like give him heaven and earth.

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  19. Hmmm...most men I know would prefer to suffer than ask their wives to ask their parents for help. And you said he is hardworking? πŸ€” This one he is the one that wants you to ask if you don’t there will be a bit of animosity. My suggestion would have been to weather the storm for a bit if there are no kids involved. It depends on how much you guys are struggling though.

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  20. Poster, you are not totally wrong in your assumptions. Some men can be very funny when money starts Rolling in.
    But you know the man you married if he has the tendency to cheat on you.

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  21. marriage sha.?when the man needs help you all whip up sentiments..if it is the other way you all be claiming entitlement.sister help your husband.he is your husband.haba.
    then why are you one? if immediate family cant assist,is it outsider? and it seems you feel comfortable.help the man please and stop assuming and creating thoughts of him cheating.just do your part if you have the will to assist him.

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    1. There's something called self respect, a man doesn't just ask money from His wife's family, any atom of respect they have for him will vanish...if it were me, I wouldn't dare ask for money from my parents to give my husband, mbanu, we go borrow from outside.

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  22. If you don’t help him and he eventually makes it, if he cheats, he’ll do so without any regard for you because he’ll remember your nonchalance when the going was tough. But why are you married to a man you don’t trust and believe he’ll eventually cheat? Isn’t it better to hope for the best rather than expecting the worst?

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  23. Please don't let him sign any undertaken, it will take a toll on marriage. But what if U didn't come from a rich home?! Men shouldn't put their wives through this kinda stress na.. Every good wife will want her husband to earn her parent's respect, rich, average or poor... Nne if U feel it will improve his business, please help him, it's for the good of both of U, heaven will punish him if he bites the finger that fed him...

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  24. No responsible man will ask his inlaw for financial assistance. People you promised to take care of their daughter. With which face will you even use to collect the money? Some men would rather hustle harder, borrow outside to save face and maintain their reputation.
    Anyway others will collect, chop and clean mouth.

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  25. Are there not other ways to boost his business....so what if your parents weren't rich?????

    You can get small cash from your mum for him... Without telling her it is for hubby'. Let him sign an undertaking with you to pay back anyway.

    He should not go and make your parents worried that he's not taking care of their baby oh. They may start putting eyes for you guys oh.
    Let him work out his salvation ooooo!

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  26. I think you should ask your parents for money, but when giving it to your hubby, you should let him know he has to pay back the money (a loan), also you both can do the business together so you won't be left out

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    1. Why give it to hubby, when she can start her own business? My sister, don't give that man kobo. Your husband is shameless.

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  27. Get it for your self and children, give him small.. live lavish on a low key or rather be comfy not suffering..

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  28. Stella's comment got me laughing

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  29. No normal man can ask his wife to ask her parents for money on his behalf. You were the one to suggest it, and him getting angry and all for you even thinking about it. This man is up to no good, trust me.

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  30. You can help him....If you were in the same shoe I believed he would help you.Whats the essence of your union if you can help or trust your hubby.Whatever you doing now is for your kids and God.

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  31. You can help him....If you were in the same shoe I believed he would help you.Whats the essence of your union if you can help or trust your hubby.Whatever you doing now is for your kids and God.

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  32. Your husband is very lazy, and married you for this reason. Some men have no shame. I know one like that, he has virtually asked every member of his wife's family for money. It started from him asking the wife to ask on his behalf, now the idiot have lost shame lol He does it himself.

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  33. Mine went behind my back, collected biz money from my brother in law and I got to hear about it when my in law asked me days later that hope the money my husband collected helped and I was like which money? Some men no be am!

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  34. poster you already have your reservations about your hubby that means you don't trust him fully. love alone is not enough and sometimes we must use wisdom. u know him better. if u feel he will squander the money then don't give him cos if he messes up then it will strain the relationship with your parents. is he asking for loan or dash? if loan then he should sign and say when he will pay back, that's just plain intergrity. if its dash let your parents give him what they can afford to loose in case he misbehaves. how he behaves you do give him the money would determine future actions. women have very strong insticts and intuition, trust it...

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  35. My dear trust your instincts. Your gut feeling is trying to tell you something. I was pregnant and on bed rest when I arranged a big loan for my ex husband due to undue pressure being mounted on me by him and his friends. He used the money to move in with another woman. My instinct was to not give him the money. But I needed to prove to myself that he was indeed what I suspected. I was proven right and that was my way of paying him off. Do what you think is best.

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    1. gbam!

      If the husband is an irreversible irresponsible do not try that shit

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  36. Dear Woman, kindly help your husband coz believe you me, if you don't, he will use it against you and every one will support him, even your parents will. Just try ok? Remember you signed up for him

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  37. i am glad u are honest to ursef. last last he will cheat. if u wanna help do that bcoz of u not him. like sdk said dont give him all the money. watch him coz a man is loyal only when he is broke.

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  38. From what I read here it seems you don't work nor contribute to the house hold. You are collecting money from your parents for both of you please. Don't be one of those women!

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  39. Enter your comment... Josephine. Ndo.
    Are you loyal?

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  40. Well I had that fear.things we're quite rough but gradually things have picked up.i thank God.my hubby did not change a bit.saves his money with me.now telling me I should go and open another account in my name where we both will be saving.so far to my understanding he has never cheated.i have Snoop tire.i have password to all his social media.for me Sha the man did not change at least .

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    1. God bless your swet husband ...mine is a complete " Otu puta ka mu d'aba" lmaaaoooo

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    2. Lol @ anony, your hubby needs deliverance

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  41. These days sef even broke men no humble at all

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  42. Madam,you are talking about your life partner here. Why marry if you can't trust?. Assist him if you can,There are still good Men. Stella when are you going to organize Single&Mingle Australian peps?

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  43. My dear if your heart does not trust him follow it 100% only if it's based on past traits he has shown. I borrowed money from my family to help my ex husband in his business. I collected the money in February 2017 and by June my marriage was done and dusted. Oga gave only two days after receiving the money and began to stay out late till, 2 am, 3 am, before u know he was disappearing for days, this was a man all lovey and staying at home cos he was broke. Every profit made were spent on prostitutes. I had to move out with all the properties. In exchange for my money. Check him well if u think he is a good man go ahead if not laye! Don't try it or test him with little.

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  44. My dear poster pls dont get the money for him. DON'T!!!!! No self respecting man will ask you to collect money from your parents for him or even go and collect the money, he has no shame and he is a gold digger. I repeat dont ask your parents for money for him. It is not even about cheating or not. I am talking from experience, story for another day

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    1. Gbam. That man is not responsible at all. He acted all this good for this moment. Girl, you both should hustle on your own. Don't collect and money from your parents. This man has no shame, and most shameless people are heartless

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  45. This man married you because of your parents financial status. He had plans for that money ryt from the start that's why he couldn't resist asking when it wasn't forthcoming. Gold digger alert!!!

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  46. I'm the chronicle poster. I married my husband for love. As a matter of fact he was jobless when we met. The issue is not him really but his people, my in laws.
    They don't like me because I refused to ask my people for help. They have lied and rubbished my name to whoever cares to listen.
    The siblings insult me to my face and hubby does nothing about it, instead he will say he doesn't want to spoil the image of his family as he is representing them.
    My fear is not even the cheating aspect but because hubby cannot defend me in the presence of his people, instead he will say no woman can come in between him and his siblings as they have a bond. I'm only trying to borrow myself brain.
    I'm trying not to go into much details because I introduced him to this blog. They have no respect for me so I don't want to make any costly mistake.
    Father inlaw story self is for another day. Stella please post.

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    1. Don't borrow or beg for money for him. Let his family provide it.
      May God guide him.

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    2. Don't give don't give don't make it obvious that you won't but don't give

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    3. Poster don't borrow any money from your parents for him. If your parents have ways of using their connect to get him good contracts then you can ask them for that but don't go asking your parents for money.

      With what you have said it looks like they look up to you to alleviate their entire family from poverty, Meaning they see you only as a meal ticket because No good family will ask their daughter in-law to solicit funds from her parents to take care of their son, what if you were from a poor home?

      Wouldn't they fend for them selves if your parents were struggling also. I hate to say this but women should never marry below their class financially as the wahala cisco always too much.

      They sound lie the kind of family that will ask you to will the portion of your father's inheritance to their son so as to show them that you are a good wife... poster stick to your instincts, you feel reluctant for a good reason.GET HIM GOOD CONNECTIONS IF YOU CAN BUT DON'T GIVE HIM MONEY.


      LEPπŸ˜›

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    4. Poster, I beg you in the name of God..don't give him. They don't like you, they only want your money. Most poor people family members are so entitled. Poor father's are usually the head of the gang, and they are usually illiterates. I'm going through this same thing, but I don't give them a dime, and I have started facing them, since hubby is weak. I asked them one time.."so the reason why you feel you can talk to me anyhow, is just because I am married to your fam member? What if my own family members decides to disrespect your brother on daily basis too? They were so shocked. Nobody says nothing to my face again. What I'm
      I gaining in this marriage, that I have to allow myself to be disrespected?

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    5. Instead of casing your parents for money on his behalf ask them for yourself, what every you get from them use it to start up a business so you can take care of yourself and your children.
      If you make the mistake of helping him get the money he'll use it to do father Christmas for his family.

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    6. With this tell him u asked but ur parents put money into a project.comeup with a story.so it does not seem u don't want to help him.or u conive with ur people to say they don't have.they invested their money.such a hubby is still married to his family and not u.he ain't mature.dont

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    7. Madam hold your πŸ‘‚ DON'T GIVE HIM SHISHI THEY WANT TO use you as their cash cow & escape from poverty rather collect the money start your own business with the money,keep your self busy & ignore the lazy poor church rat siblings,since he can't defend you from his siblings let them give him their pants & boxers for sale to get money, pls ignore these people totally

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    8. Ah, if that's the case, please don't!!! I thought this was a man who is at least loyal and you were only afraid of the future. If this one is already doing like this, money enter I'm hand now, his family will be in total control..
      Let.them go and find money for him.

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    9. Poster after reading this I say don’t give him anything

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  47. Poster borrow him but make sure the money is not much.

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  48. He's your husband not your boyfriend if you really love him then collect the money from your parents and help him. Will you keep suffering simply because you're afraid he will cheat on you? All the best in your decision.

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  49. He's your husband not your boyfriend if you really love him then collect the money from your parents and help him. Will you keep suffering simply because you're afraid he will cheat on you? All the best in your decision.

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  50. Borrow fire! what a shameless man.#spotremover#

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  51. Hmm borrow yourself brain nor give am ooo? Person wey nor fit defend you wey shinshin nor dey im pocket na wen money dey im hand e go help?
    All waiting d family and im dey do na scripts dem dey act, you go see reality wen you borrow am d money? Lazy man and shameless in laws

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  52. Build yourself. Who says you cant be rich too?

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  53. Poster that guy abd gis family married you for your background. Better your life with the money. Secure your future. He's told you, you are an outsider. When that money strolls in, it's his people first

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  54. so i would like to say this, we aren't talking about a bf/gf relationship here, this is a marriage so weather a man/woman cheats or not and you are in a posting to help him/her i think you should do it, also before any man would ask him wife to request for help from her parents then he must be in dear need. if this was written by a man i think the replies would be totally different here. (men/woman cheat) why punish a man for an offence he hasn't even committed yet because of your insecurities. you also don't know the dreams he has had about you. if you can help your spouse wholeheartedly without conditions attached to it then i think you should look for another man to get married to, you can keep living with trust issues and you knew he wasn't rich before you got married to him. i personally don't like accepting help from ladies because of statement like what our dear poster made "bite the hand that fed him". once you get married you're now one, no tribalism or feminism and all that stuff. if you can help him please do and get your mind off it. he's your HUSBAND

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  55. Even our friends and strangers, we help them if they need help especially when we are in a position to...
    I always tell anyone that is willing to listen, study the teachings of Christ often, He taught so much about love.
    Suspicion in any relationship is like a poison and it leads to the death of a relationship.

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  56. lend him the money. Tell him you got the money from a friend who doesnt joke with her money and would want it at the agreed time.

    Tell him you yourself cant even ask your parents for money.

    Ask him when he will return the money, how does he plan to return it. Let him know how serious you are about the money.

    When the time comes to get back the money ask him for your it and see how he behaves. This would give you a hint about the kind of person he is.

    You gave him the money to help yourself as a family, you cant continually live in fear of him cheating on you or him not standing up for you with his family.
    because

    He can do this and more even without the money
    He can do this and more using your not giving him money as an excuse
    He can do this and more even after you give him the money.

    So, if you can help him to get money (at least for the first time until you know what type of person he is in that area) do it . but not from your parent or siblings.
    Because if he doesnt use the first money well he would come for more. Those source are constant.

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  57. Poster, a guy in my street Married a girl who came to serve in ph. His family are so shameless.they couldn't even afford to buy drinks to present to this girl's family during introduction. They only carried one pack of canned malt. She covered his inadequacies n bought drinks herself to cover up. She paid for hotel in calabar for his family when they arrived n his sis had the guts to say she wasn't going to share room with no one, something she didn't even pay for. Their weeding iv was full of gifts request like 2 double seater sofa n a single one, deep freezer, microwave, mattress, oven, water dispenser, split unit acs and also included an account number. She's from a very rich home buy I'm sure it's the jobless hubby who influenced her to be that ratchet. His parents called family meeting on their jobless son n told him that now he's getting married, he has to tell the girl to complete their uncompleted house n roof it. When she got preggy, her dad bought her a car n silly guy is using the car to cruise around town n picking girl's now she's gone back to Malabar to give birth. Allow men to work hard n stop giving them freebies especially when they aren't used to such all their life. They end up micromanaging it and they see u as a meal ticket.

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