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Sunday, March 17, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative



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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DESPERATE TO MARRY


I need a very good advice, please no insult. Just tell me what to do. I'm 24 years old and seriously need to settle down.


Most of my suitors are men that are still starting life, you know like someone that just finished school and recently got a job. I'm not saying anything is wrong in that, but honestly I want more.

I read stories of women that married a man with vision and nothing really changed, or the person makes it and changes.


One of the men I prefer, is really young, still working, he doesn't even have a house or car yet, but he is really hardworking. 

 I know I don't have because I also recently graduated too. I'm really worried, how are we going to survive? I mean starting from the scratch together . Is it really worth it?

I'm thinking maybe I should wait for some time, hoping for a rich man that has really made money, because honestly, money is important for everything in this life. When you think of good schools,things that make life comfortable, I wish for them.

When I see rich people, I want to be like them. I know friends that their lives changed because of who they married, they have cars of their own, their own house, they are really comfortable. Why am I not getting that kind proposal. Did I come to this world to manage life? I'm so confused.





*stop frustrating yourself,it will come when it will come..........
An old proverb says that those who run into Marriage run out of that Marriage!

96 comments:

  1. You should be thinking of getting a good job

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    1. What is it with Nigeria ladies and marriage? You are not even talking about how to develop your self to be independent. You are looking for a rich man that will marry you and "change your life" and at 24yo really? Please set your priorities right.

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    2. Which good job, na marriage be the license out of poverty for Naija girls o.
      If loaded horsebands no dey, them go snatch one fiaaaaaaaaaaaaaam!

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    3. Its good to tell oneself the truth.
      Make una free the poster, not everyone is a feminist or cut for hardwork.
      Oya, start hunting for rich kids @poster.
      And when u get one, do like steffy and hang leg for ceiling fan, cook, clean, kneel for im mama, call his siblings uncle and aunty.
      You know the works.
      In other words , be a legit gold digger.
      BUT, dont expect to eat your cake and have it.

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    4. Let me quote her:


      Most of my suitors are men that are still starting life, you know like someone that just finished school and recently got a job. I'm not saying anything is wrong in that, but honestly I want more."


      Las las, na rituals dem go use you do.

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    5. Rich kids can smell poverty from far, they will chop you and clean mouth, they can only marry from a rich home too, thats what that nivea roll-on ambassador did.

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    6. Una dey mind yeye poster.u want already made as if you are made.

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    7. No mind that one. His anthem now na thank God i waited.
      As if he wasnt gallivanting upandan

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    8. She should actually be thinking of getting a job and making her own money. If you have no money of your own, people will have little or no regards or respect for you. Please be wise.

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    9. I don't even understand this girl!! Poster I graduated at 24 too and even though I had a boyfriend(now husband) who was quite serious then, I told him point blank I wasn't getting married this I had settled my career (that took me almost 4 years) and I'm forever grateful I made that decision.
      Wetin I dey talk sef, I trust my mama, it is not in her house that a jobless girl will open her mouth to say she wants to marry.

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    10. Can't you make money by yourself?
      Must your wealth come from man?
      You envy people that got married and has their status changed cos of the big cars and houses they own. Have you ever thought of the silent pains they go through? Some of these so called big madams are battling depression, caused by emotional, physical, financial, sexual, spiritual, etc abuse from the so called rich husband. Heard story of a woman that rides the latest cars but can't boast of 100k to her name cos the husband doesn't give her.

      You are still very young, don't be chairlady of lazy Nigerian youths. Work and talk to God to bless the works of your hands dear.

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    11. Loool. Kaiii. This is a very sincere chronicle. Poster i love your sincerity jare. Relax. Everyone has a starting point. Dont use the clock of ankther to weigh yourself. You are still young. Work on yourself. Get a good job. You dont need anyman to give you a comfortable life. You can give yourself the kimd of life you want by working hard

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    12. I hate reading foolish chronicles like this. I'm disgusted infact.
      At 24 you have no goals in life. All you are thinking of is a rich man to marry. I just SMH.
      At your age i was working in a school and my prayer everyday was how I was going to get a better job to start my career. Even my mother's daily prayer was me getting a good job.
      I hate lazy women with no goals or drive. Your mates are thinking of jobs, professional exams and some how to travel out to further their studies.
      Let me tell you the type of man you are looking for is also looking for a woman that has smth going and can compliment him. Except it's igbo trader or spare parts dealer you plan on marrying.

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  2. Marriage is supposed to make you a better person, not worse. Do not with your two eyes open jump into sufferness. I have said my own

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  3. You can be rich too you know.
    Work hard too.

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    1. If you are very beautiful with good shape you will attract a rich man...My parent live-in an uncompleted house because no money then to roof the all house, because if that most guys don't see me as a suitable girlfriend then due to my poor background but God bless me with a very good shape...My waist to hip ratio is good then I started dating this unemployed graduate then my friends were no king me then.....Anyways he traveled out of Nigeria and with God he filled for me now I'm a mum of two living peaceful here. My dear prayer is the key,that's the only weapon those of us from less privileged background haveπŸ™

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    2. My dear, get a job first and always pick a man who has conscience

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  4. 🀣🀣🀣 this girl, at 24 you are this desperate to get married? My dear, relax. Concentrate on building yourself. The man will come.

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    1. Young woman develop yourself and stop looking for already made.

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  5. If you like him and he has a good plan, go for it

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  6. The only thing I see here is GREED!
    A lot of ladies are in this category, they have very good relationship with nice guys they've studied while at school or NYSC but they are looking for "ready made" (no matter how -even if it is rituals) men.
    And they have brothers who just graduated and some of them are scouting for their friends to be married to their brothers; "he is a very nice homely guy and I know him from childhood".
    Very silly and insensitive girls. It is the social media that is deceiving you lady and you are not far from regrets when you have wasted your years and good choices.

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  7. U don't know what u want
    I know someone who the huby is very wealthy but no bond;no love;they don't celebrate anything;any issue he calls the world and reminds her she is a nobody.so is not always greener on the other side
    .someone u can feel it with; bond with;communicate with;have ur ups and downs
    U are not afraid
    U guys can grow and has a vision too
    Vision is importante

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    1. I also know a lady whose husband is poor like really poor, no bond and he cheats.

      Rubbish I wonder who told you you can't have it all;rich, loving and kind.

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  8. Stella, nawaooo for this your advice. I was thinking you would scold this child very well.
    Poster, so your own is to get married to a rich man without bringing anything to the table?
    What an entitlement!
    My friend sit up! Your mates are already CEOs of companies and you are here making excuses.
    Rich man kee you there!

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    1. She's being practical. Poverty is not easy

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    2. With this her mindset, she fit snatch person own, very desperate girl.

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    3. Thnks anon 15:18. Stella have a sound advice. It’s not everything you will be shouting on. Or is this the first time a story like this have been posted here? Poster just do your own thing. Work for your money bc even if you date a guy thts loaded, if you have nothing you will be ridiculed one way or the other. Please read more meaning into ‘one way or the other’. You are young as far as I’m concerned but still old enough to be married. Before you ask for a rich husband, what will you bring to the table too? Ask yourself that...bc trust me most rich married men marry smart people like themselves, forget o.

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  9. Must a man give you a good life. Why not get a job and give yourself the life you want.

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  10. Ahaaaaaaaaaa!
    Una see them; Naija (21st century) girls? 😊😜
    Na social mmebi dey destroy all of una so. Una wan marry Bill gate son, even if im no get son, una go turn to winches and snatch am from im wife okwa ya?

    When una egg count don dey finish, una go jump enter one kpako horseband whey go dey carry una do heavyweight boxing practice. Ahaaaaaa, una go begin write sdk say una wan elope with forkboy; "shall I include my daughter in the elopement". Na to deny little pikin im papa o.
    Whosai, we go dey read una chronicle, keep em coming!

    No matter wetin una yarn give this sisi, na yahoo or polithief she dey look for for now.

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  11. If you don't have your own money then you have no business in being married for now. Don't be deceived by with the flamboyant lifestyle.

    Money alone can not make marriage to be successful.

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    1. I married without shishi, but look at me now, I am an employer of labour courtesy my husband, so there's no harm in her wanting good d good life.

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    2. Well said at 15:49 I don't see anything wrong with the poster...She knows where she is coming from....I married without money too but by God grace and common sense I started to get serious about settling down at 22yrs and God send a Londoner my way....15yrs later still thanking God...At poster pls don't settle for less but reasonable,go for a guy with good family background...

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  12. small pikin mentality is still worrying you, don't even bother about marriage now cos from you write up I can tell you know nothing about the institution called 'marriage' or its dynamics. Also look for a steady source of income before you settle down cos banking on husband's money is out dated.

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  13. Why are you not telling us about how hardworking you are and the efforts you are making to also be rich?
    You know women are allowed to be rich too right?
    Don't frustrate yourself please. Nothing good comes easy. So start something for yourself and quit the entitlement attitude.

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  14. You what?are are you for real?
    It is well with your soul.

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  15. You need to calm down a little. The fact that you have graduated is not enough for you to see it as the very next thing left is getting married. Have you tried getting a job or starting a business so that no matter what happens you have something of yoown.

    Secondly you are comparing yourself to people you know forgetting that everyone's destiny is not tsame it's good to aim for a rich person but don't let certain things becloud your sense of judgment. Just calm down you're 24 by the way

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  16. You're just 24yo and desperate for marriage. You are just starting your life. There is nothing wrong in getting married early o but 24 is still young. Get something doing, start making your money and focus more on yourself. You may meet a rich man when you're going about doing your "thing".

    This life doesn't have any rigid formula.You may marry a wealthy man or an hustler and enjoy your marriage. On the other hand, you may marry a wealthy man or an hustler and still suffer in the marriage. Luck comes to play most times in this life.

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  18. Me I want to be a CEO before getting married. Hope I'm not greedy.

    But I must bring to that table mbok.

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    1. No you are not. You get good head on your shoulders.

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  19. Yaba left escapee17 March 2019 at 15:25

    First of all, you need to calm down, wheres this pressure to get married coming from? Wherever its coning from its NOT goin to help you. Anxiety has hardly leads you to where you expect.
    Youre not even looking for a good & compatible partner, your eyes are MONEY MONEY MONEY!!! Any hardworking & dedicated man can make money of you work with him as a team, and not every already made man will be compatible with you... keep your focused on the important things 1st, money is important but it doesnt come 1st when looking to get married.

    I typed in a hurry.
    Traffic is moving, lol

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  20. Hmmmm..may God grant your heart desires

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  21. Lazy poster.
    Keep waiting for a rich man.
    Build yourself. Nothing is sexier than a woman who has her own money.
    You are already comparing yourself with others. Pray for your own husband. Haven't you seen men who are rich now but paupers later.
    The most important thing is to marry a good man.

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    1. This is so true. Please, if you can,get a Masters. Financial independence before marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. I am talking from experience.

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    2. This is so true. Please, if you can,get a Masters. Financial independence before marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. I am talking from experience.

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  22. I know poster would be greatly critized but our economy is somehow and I don't blame her stand. Who wants to suffer? I know women need to work hard and bring something to the table but we all know that money is important. Dear poster, I don't blame you... I reason this way too. Women want security and money provides security. Poverty is not good...too much struggle, who doesn't want a rich guy as husband

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    1. Who dont want a rich woman as wife??
      Men are now wise oh, if youre not bringing something to the table, you have no bizzness sitting there, Nyash & breast are becoming cheaper by the day, it can no longer keep a man.

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    2. Oh please! Stop defending the poster. The economic situation of the country is no basis for a person to be this myopic. What’s wrong with making her own money? Why wait or search for a ready- made man? This right here is the reason many ladies fall into the wrong hands!

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    3. Trust me I totally understand the poster being worried and all, but she should not just sit idle and expect a rich man to come beam her up. When it dawns on her she will realize that money isn’t the most important thing in marriage. She should strive for herself as well. Of course every girl wants to marry a rich man na.... but unfortunately it isn’t a fair world. There’s nothing wrong in her trying to be rich herself. She should not think it’s nollywood movie that she will be hawking orange then one rich guy will splash water on her and then she faints and gets rushed to the hospital, and then the love starts. She has to get herself prepared ni o, and that can be done by her working for herself.

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    4. At poster please don't listen to people saying that you are still young...Age is an advantage in hooking a well to do man... infant you suppose to start hunting at 21yrs but it's not too late...Make sure you dress sexy all the time because you don't know where your luck will come from....Good luck

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    5. I don't think poster is too young for marriage, it is her motive for marriage that is wrong and if she keeps at this, she might fall into the wrong hands and be done for.
      Marriage has a way of shaping people's destiny, poster be careful!!

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    6. Hunting kwa?

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  23. Poster don't be too greedy abeg. I started from the scratch with my hubby and now we are very comfortable. Don't end up marrying a very man that won't give you peace and love.

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  24. Marriage! Marriage!! Marriage!!! The rants of an average Nigerian girl. Hardly before you hear about self development, ambition, goals, societal impact. Just marriage!!!

    Most Nigerian men know this that’s why they maltreat women because they know how desperate most girls are to marry!!!!

    It’s irritating and SAD to see a 24 year old girl so concerned about marriage and seeing it as a stepping stone to comfort. The young hustler you’re putting down that doesn’t have a car or house, DO YOU HAVE A CAR OR HOUSE TO YOUR NAME?!?!?!?! I’m so irritated with young Nigerian girls and their obsession with marriage!!!! Get positively ambitious!!!!!

    Let me tell you this! The energy you are putting into bothering about marriage you can use it to develop yourself to a point where you’ll be surrounded by men who cars and houses will be the least of their financial concerns. Fuck it! By that time cars and houses will be the least of your problems! Be motivated for the right things at the right time!!! You’re aiming to be a kept woman and it’s your type that will swallow shit because they value marriage over all else.

    I’m sorry for being so vicious but I totally dislike marriage whores.

    Ivannah

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    1. You said it well.
      Me I’m arriving to move my business higher cause I know when I get high, I know the type of people I will attract. As a girl, there’s nothing as sweet as having your own money.....I tell this to my bf, he provides for me yes... but I still tell him my dreams and aspirations. Damn! Pleas poster have a vision, please.

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    2. Thank you o. A word is enough for the wise. There is always a reaction for every action taken.

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  25. I could have sworn to have read this before.

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  26. My sister was dating this guy she went to school with and he was a correct guy. I remember once asking her to consider him for a life partner, but her response was that he was just starting life and wondered when he was going to find his feet. That’s how my sister ended up with one mumu man like that. The first guy has become so successful, a multimillionaire 10 times over. I always saw that he was extremely brilliant and smart..

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    1. Village people gave her short sight.

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  27. My dear you are still too young to be this frustrated. I had not even graduated when I was 24. I got married at 28 to an amazing man that treats me very well - and I was not even searching or stressing like you are presently doing. My advise is that you should just focus on YOURSELF now. Develop yourself: get a good job/business, get certifications/trainings/higher degrees, exercise/keep fit, carry yourself with dignity and generally look good. Stop comparing your friends' lives with yours and dont envy them because nobody knows tomorrow - they may not end up as good as they started and/or you may even end up much better in the long run. PLS FOCUS ON YOURSELF. Of course you also need to pray to the Almighty Lord about your needs and desires in everything in life but stop stressing yourself like this. If you keep going like this, guys will see through your desperation and you may end up in the wrong hands. I wish you all the best.

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  28. I am just here shaking my head for you.you go day alright last last

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  29. I don't blame you for thinking like that. The country is hard. Assuming we are in a country where things work and one can easily find a job after graduation,ladies wouldn't be rushed to get married but here,with no good job in sight, ladies especially ones from less privileged backgrounds tend to use marriage as an escape route from poverty. My dear, I advise you to calm down. Don't rush into marriage because of fear of tomorrow. But if you must, go with the hardworking young man. My uncle had nothing when he got married but today, his wife has every reason to thank God. So marry a man with vision. If things get too tough after marriage, do family planning when you've had 1 or 2 kids

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  30. Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere17 March 2019 at 15:49

    Please be very very careful at this stage, you may not want to hear it but you need to PRAY, tell God what you want and wait on Him. Never marry under pressure. We all have different destinies so don’t compare yourself to anybody and just run your own race. If you want a rich man, believe and you will receive it. I am not very tall and I used to say in my mind that I will never marry a short man and God gave me a very tall husband. I also didn’t really believe in ‘struggling’ with a man’ , I entered my marriage and had a car and driver and domestic staff, stay true to yourself, work hard and make your own money while you are waiting for your ‘rich’ guy to surface. Also keep your mouth shut and talk to God silently in your spirit about what you want and how you want your life to be, DO NOT TELL ANY FRIEND/FAMILY ANYTHING because next thing you will hear from outside is that ‘she is not married because she is waiting for Buhari/mike adenuga’s son to marry her’ and they will laugh at you, you will hate yourself if this happens. Remember that people of the world would rather see you ‘manage’ with your husband than live in ‘abundance’. I am telling you what worked for me o! Be as wise as a serpent.

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  31. Marriage is good, 24 is a good age to be married and there is nothing wrong with desiring to marry rich. Is not a crime at all, just don't make any mistake in your decisions. After marriage what next, what are you bringing to the table?

    Seriously I don't understand what is wrong with someone wanting to marry at 24, was it not here that we read Ebube's post and most women commented that they regret not marrying on time. Please let's stop bashing people that desire to marry early biko. I have an aunt that married at 20, had all her kids at 25, she went back to medical school and is already a consultant. Marrying early is good.

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  32. Everybody wants a good life but I won't blame the poster. Poverty is not good. Shay na love go pay children's school fees and this life is in various way u can marry a poor guy and yet he won't be rich and he would blame u for his misfortunes. But poster,if u are looking for a rich man u also av to be rich bcus like mind attracts and iron sharpenth iron.

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    1. Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere17 March 2019 at 17:20

      @ Natasha, NOPE, my friend’s younger sister married igbinedion’s son and they are not rich but average, will not mention names though, we all grew up in Surulere! Just be presentable, clean, neat, confident !

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    2. They are divourced ohhhh
      .DB

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  33. I literally stopped reading when you said you were 24 and "seriously need to settle down". Sorry, in the part of the world I am from no 24 is looking to seriously settle down, if it happens it happens. But at that age they are primarily looking to develop themselves in their chosen careers, pursue advance degrees, create financial wealth and other forms of self development. If you need to settle down, put both guys name in a jar shake it up and pick one, whichever name you pick marry them.

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  34. Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere17 March 2019 at 16:17

    Lastly, poster, ignore all the comments that are questioning your quest for wanting ‘the best’ in life. Nobody will wish you well like you can wish yourself, you are not too young, I started ‘wishing’ at 22 and got what I asked for by 27 years old. I was working all the while and doing business at the same time. I make my own money still but my husband doesn’t need a dime from me and he buys me everything I want that he can afford, he has never maltreated me before even when I am being high handed, he just ignores me for a few hours and that’s it. Poster, you can have what you want. Too many bitter people in this country, nobody is stopping them from living the best life but they will drag you if they see you attempting to live the good life, too many people with Crab πŸ¦€ Mentality. Haba !πŸ™„ awon kenimani

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    1. Iya oshoronga, the difference between you and this poster is that ou were not sitting idle waiting for Prince rich and charming to DROP into your laps, you were busy with making something out of your life too.
      This girl here is doing nothing asides fantasizing about a rich husband.
      The difference is quite clear.

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    2. @ Dainty T: exactly.

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  35. Dear Poster,
    I think I know where the pressure is coming from, with such desperation. Its a 3-faced pressure: from within the family, from very close peers and competition from cousins within same age bracket. Who might have had such success at what you craved for.
    But the truth is, such "luck", often comes from sexually active and street wise babes. Not those with your mentality. Your is too cheap, without sacrifices. Like those fellow Christians, who spend good workhours praying for 'imaginary riches' in various church houses. Instead of hustling.
    While I agree that not all is cut out for business or handwork as excused above. Yours is a fantasy best served of romance novels.
    At your age, you should endeavour to have a source of income (no matter which) and a semblance of happiness. Before thinking of marriage not to talk of getting married to a rich guy. Even the rich guy, needs a hustling babe.
    Your mindset from this post, sums up that you are the laid back type. Naive, easily deceived due to your greed for easy life - for even the runs babes don't dream this cheap.
    Wake up, your field is yet untilled.

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  36. Gurlll, it's okay to aspire to marry up and get set for life so imma give you tips.

    * Rich recognize rich so you better get money too.
    * if rich men ain't coming you, go to them.
    * you can go the old daddy route like dabota Dem.

    OR You can focus on yourself for now because you are still young to be this desperate for marriage.

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  37. Nobody should blame her hardship no easy, some get it easy with life and some don't. I was 20 wen I got married and my husband didn't have it all he was trying but I knew I had wanted to be with this person, somehow along the line he began to make it and became successful only because God made it happen we got married, had a car as a wedding gift, we moved into our own home and today we give God the glory. So my dear follow ur mind but don't fall into traps and be wise.

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  38. Sweetheart, who or what is chasing you? I understand the need to plan your life and set goals with a particular time frame like a 5 year plan or a 2 year plan. Work towards your goals but it's unwise and unhealthy to give yourself ultimatums on issues you can't accurately predict.

    I met my Heartbeat at 22 and got married at 24 but I was already established financially and to be honest, marriage was the last thing on my mind when I met him. I had the luxury to pick and choose the best of the best because I wasn't doing badly myself, I was independent and didn't NEED a rich man, I WANTED a rich man because I already had a standard of living to maintain and improve on. Even after I met the man of my dreams, I didn't rush into marriage in spite of our burning desire to make it official. I made him wait for 2 years and I'm glad I did.

    Darling, at the rate you are going, you will end up with the wrong man because it appears you want marriage more than you want a good man. It should be the other way around. You should want a good man who will inspire the desire for marriage. Honey, you are 24 years and you aren't financially stable, if you're searching for a rich man without first enriching yourself, you will end up with a rich man who will treat you like a wife who married for money.

    Darling, who are the ladies who married rich men, the ones you're comparing yourself with? Do you have any idea what they are going through? I'm not saying ladies who marry rich men aren't having the time of their lives, I'm saying you can't really tell because things aren't what they seem, so don't assume. I will not encourage any woman to marry a man who can't provide for her but I will also not advice a lady to get married until she can hold her own. Sweetie, you are a Queen. Queens don't leech off their Kings, they support them.

    Perish that mentality that the only way you can be comfortable is to marry a rich man. Instead think of how you can work hard to earn your OWN money, that way you already have a standard for yourself. Sweetie, stop obsessing over marriage because, clearly, you aren't ready. Work on being a self-sufficient lady and you will attract the right kind of guy. Good luck.

    e-hugs and kisses.

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  39. You wanting to get married at 24 isn't a problem. But your desperation and the fact that you will bring nothing but your body (and maybe cooking skills) to the table will be your undoing if you don't stop this dance you're permitting Satan to do on your head. What value will you add to your husband's life? Why will it be you?

    The way Nigerian women play with their destinies in the name of marriage.

    Before I got married, I asked God to bring my own husband. The day I removed EVERY idol from my heart, was the day my husband showed up. But one of the things that worried me was I looked at what he showed me in the physical. We were in our 20s and he was already very accomplished. And I said, "God, one of the reasons I can't marry this man is he has no need for me. Where is the problem I'm supposed to help him solve?" I wasn't looking for a poor man, before anyone will misread. But I was looking out for the man who needs ME to fulfil what God has called him to accomplish, yet will also let me thrive on my own, and also be my friend, lover, partner in life and by God's grace - a fantastic father to our children. I grew up in a very dysfunctional household and it's always been very important to me that if God chose to make me a mother, that the father of my children not be an idiot. I felt peace and great love (that I knew came from God) for my husband, so I married him.

    And the why that God had in mind has now been revealed. I can honestly say if I didn't marry this man, if I had hurried and married someone else, my life would have been ruined.

    Young lady, better prayerfully work on yourself before you help the devil destroy you. Bad economy or not, you have no right to be asking for a man of means when you are not on his level in any way. Even those Nollywood films where a prince marries a poor girl, the girl always has something crucial that the prince notices is lacking in the girls that seem facially prettier or financially richer than the so-called poor or ugly girl.

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  40. Poster, from all these you wrote down, it is very obvious you have zero plan for your life. Husband this, boy that.. You are setting yourself up for 'iya'
    You just graduated from school and all your brain is filled with is Husband!!!
    Is this all you went to school For?
    You want to become an 'NFA' like this so with the way things are playing out.
    I have no advice for you other than to DROP that idle thought and find a way to make something good out of your life!

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  41. Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere17 March 2019 at 17:56

    What kind of bullshit talk is this that I am reading, some people are asking the poster that ‘what is she bringing to the table’ to warrant her wanting to marry a rich guy. Despite having my office job and business, my husband never asked what ‘I was going to bring to the table’ . You people don’t know God’s grace, when it locates you, you will think you are dreaming. Princes and princesses of Persia truly live in this country, people that will question God when they see Him blessing people they feel are ‘undeserving’, Thunder fire all of you.

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    1. Iya, don’t be hasty in your reaction. Understand why others are saying ‘you have to bring something to the table’. Married life is different for everyone. Take for instance you, you had a business going on and did not lack financially but still met a responsible and comfortable spouse. There are some others out there that were financially comfortable and still married ‘wrong’, while there are some that did not have anything and married responsible and financially okay spouses. Some were drained financially and emotionally by their spouses while some quickly cut their losses. Others were built financially by their spouses likewise others are in the business of showing that it is okay with their spouse, when it is not.

      All these are advices given. She has the choice to decide what route she will take.

      My two cents

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    2. o kwa ezigbote thunder!

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  42. Please don't do that... Marriage is not everything.. Wait and get more matured and meet with responsible and wealthy guys if that's what you desire..... Plz don't manage try and get the best... Wait upon the Lord...advising from fatal experience..

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  43. Poster,i want to answer one of your questions, why are the rich not coming your way?
    Ans:You need to be in that class or very close to it to attract such people. Please you are supposed to be single and complete before you marry ooo.Build yourself my sister.@Unknown 17:13.thanks for your advice to the poster.

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  44. Dear poster,

    Repent of your selfish gold digging ways and a set a path to enrich yourself by the works of your hands and maybe you will get lucky with a husband with means. Without this even if you do get a rich man to marry you, you may never really enjoy what you think you have found. You're just 24, get a life.

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  45. Please u all take it easy with this what are u bringing to d table, the fact that she has graduated, doesn't that count for something, in an economy like Nigeria that's where the fact that you are a graduate does not count. What are u bringing to the table, I am so tired of that phrase.

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  46. Don't mind anyone, you are not young to think of marriage and its okay to want a good life. It was on this same blog a lady complained that her husband is chooking eyes inside her #19800 corper allowee, if he was well to do all that won't be happening, don't settle for less, your story doesn't have to end like everyone else. Its not easy to be suffering from the beginning. Abeg

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  47. Chill poster o. you are just 24yrs. you have your whole life ahead of you. Build yourself and mingle with the right people. The husband will come so dont be desperate.

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