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Saturday, April 20, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative


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Hello Stella. I have been an ardent follower of your blog for more than five years now. Kudos to the good work that you're doing here. Please I'll really need your opinion on this issue.


I have been married to my husband for more than 2years now and God blessed us with a baby girl. My baby is 20 months old and she likes to be carried by her dad whenever he is at home. I don't have any problem with it cos it relieves me of the stress of her many tantrums. But what I have a problem with is the fact my husband allows my baby play with his nipple every time he's carrying her. To me, his nipple is part of his private part that should not be my baby's play thing.


I have talked, reasoned discouraged and done everything possible to stop this from happening. I have also said that this baby will see this as a normal thing with other adults, so we should train her to know what is right or wrong and how to act even when we're not there.


After a while, he agreed with me and started cautioning her but I later realised that he encourages when I'm not there. I have walked in on this act many times and that's when he'll now dust her hand away.


Now my baby will be looking at my face when she wants to start, the moment she sees I'm not looking, she starts touching his nipple. Then when I see her she quickly removes her hand.

Now the whole essence is that this baby is beginning to know that mummy and daddy see this differently where daddy allows her and mummy doesn't.


I don't want to train my children with two mouths. We should always agree on these kind of issues, with the kind of molestation stories we here everyday cos she will not always be with us all the time forever. My husband told me point blank that there's nothing there and I can ask other experienced mothers and they will tell me its no big deal.


But it is a big deal to me. I was molested as a child and I don't want the same to happen to my baby. That's why I am trying to teach her what is right or wrong from now but my husband sees this differently.


I really need the opinion of BVs on this especially experienced mothers. Should I be worried or am I overreacting? Kindly advise me.



*You should be VERY VERY WORRIED.....Your hubby is a sick man,please do not allow him carry the baby anymore and do not leave him alone with her again!!!!

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  1. I think your husband gets pleasure when he's touched like that..... You should be worried but thread carefully!!


    I might be wrong though...... I never marry or born!!

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    1. You are right. 100% .. he derive pleasure from it.. imagine d baby soft hand on it... too bad. Molestation alert

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    2. I think so too... but in another way poster what if your baby is a boy would you feel this way also?

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    3. ..... do you know that pleasure you derive when you're cleaning ur ear hole? Thats the mind of pleasure he might be receiving, not the sexual kind, i dont see anything wrong if you ask me, not like they do it in a dark room, well if it makes you uncomfy then he should quit it

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    4. @pearl gender have nothing to do with molestation at all
      @ poster you should be super worried biko put this matter to God then talk to your husband again I pray he listen to you because you can't stop him from carrying his child

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    5. @Pearl, whether boy or girl child, genitals/private parts are what they are, and should be kept so-private. Na from clap e dey take enter dance.
      Madam discourage that act vehemently. Your husband is already enjoying it, that is why he is trying to explain it away-(imagine you should go and ask matured women), in this age and time? Stand against it totally before devil will whisper to him to take to another level, since he now sees it as harmless; by then you would have lost both husband and child.

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    6. Pearl both boys and girls are abused this days so vice versa

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    7. This is very disturbing to me. I am most worried that the person in question is your husband who is meant to protect this child.

      The nipple is a sensual organ containing very sensitive nerve endings which can cause sexual arousal in men.
      If this child continues to do this with your husband, assuming he is not "mentally sick", have you wondered what will happen if your child ends up romancing a strangers nipple???
      A stranger that you do not know his sexual orientation /preference. Please protect this child at all cost, you can show your husband all these comments

      People are sick and are only looking for an opportunity to strike. Your daughter now knows good and bad and please don't let this continue. Let her not go and use the experience she gathered from your husband to go and romance a pedophile . Abeg. If it will lead to divorce then so be it. Cos I don't geddit. If he needs to pleasure himself, he can do it himself or get you to do that.

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    8. I think it's wrong cos my husband beats my daughter anytime she does that

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    1. Stella how will she stop the father from carrying the baby? I'm not worried about the father he might really not hurt the baby but the problem will be the strangers....if the child starts doing that to them.

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    2. I just showed my hubby the chronicle and he said it is extremely wrong for the man's behaviour and the woman should be worried!

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    3. Yess o, you should be very worried,what rubbish, she even looks to see if you are looking, meaning she knows mummy doesn't approve but daddy encourages it, so it's like baby and daddy's secret, when it becomes worse she will not be able to tell you

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  3. He encourages her? Na wah for that man

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  4. In my opinion, there was nothing there, maybe he allowed her play with it innocently as a baby with nothing in his mind.

    Now you sowed a seed mention his nipple as his private part, nipple DAT guys sample in gyms n beaches as nothing.

    Even if he wasn't thinking in DAT direction, you have steered his mind there.

    Anyway its okay to be alert, granted u don't trust your husband with ur baby again, Becos this chronicle as about your husband allowing his daughter play with his nippke, not d other way round.

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    1. God bless you anonymous 15.09, dear poster for me I think your past experience with molestation has messed up your mind. I choose to go with everyone saying you are right and maybe your husband is enjoying it, I tow this line because of your write up. People should be careful, your husband is that babies father and for me you are indirectly scared that your husband is enjoying your babies touch, this thought is very gross and inappropriate and you should be careful not to give ur husband the impression that ypu don't trust him with his daughter. While molestation is rampant we should be careful not to see every man as a molester. It is possible she sees his breast as an organ like the one her Mom has. Now let me give u a thought process to follow, would it be okay if your baby was a boy and then at 2 years old he touches your nipple and your husband insists that it's inappropriate or that you carry your baby boy a certain way and your husband begins to feel some kind of way about it. Please what am saying is some thought processes are inappropriate abeg and this your own follow. Back in the days my Dad use to bath us and wash our cloths cos my Mom owned a restaurant and 4 of us were ladies, if it was now someone would have had one messed up thought like this ur own. It is well she is his daughter and trust me not everyone has a dirty mind.

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    2. Anon, remember that whatever she learns with her dad doesn't end with her dad.
      She will most likely do it to another man who might be aroused sexually.
      Please, let us be progressive in out thinking. This girl is forming a habit that could land her in the trap of a pedophile. Or even an opportunistic sexual pervert.

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    3. I agree, daddy might not mean any harm....never even thought of it that way...

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    4. All this senseless brings division in family. What if the baby is a boy..what if what the baby plays with is the navel..will you have been uncomfortable?

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    5. @ poster, my son no dey take eye see my nipples.He comes rushing to play with it, he is 18 months. Then he also plays with my husbands nipples. In fact when he was breastfeeding, he used to try and suck his dad's breast thinking he will get milk. But I understand your fears, tell your husband you don't like it, let him wear his shirt. Don't make it seem like you don't trust him.

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  5. Sick man Stella says? I disagree!!
    You and the poster have a sick mind, would it be a problem if its his ear or nose she like playing with?
    I'd only agree if he gets an erection while the baby does it, the innocent child just played with it and youve made her know theres more to it... as long as shes not sucking it, me i dont see the big deal there oh

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    2. Oooooowwwwwkkkkkkk until he gets an erection oooowww I see I wonder if you are a man or a woman hmmmmmmmmm

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    3. Anon the problem with encouraging the little girl is it'll make her think it's normal and thus do it to outsiders who might end up getting an erection and abusing her. I feel the poster...

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    4. He is very sick. She will be worried too. Some men get aroused when their ear is touched

      I know men that get aroused when their nipple is touched. What if the baby meets that kind of man tomorrow? 

      Poster,a 20months old child already knows wrong from right. I think you should talk to your daughter. Make it a duty to tell her everyday not to do it again. Please don't do it in the presence of your husband. You can use a doll to demonstrate. May God help you.

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    5. I agree with you anonymous, she has a very dirty mind that's why she can even think of such. For God sakes babies touch, they touch other ladies breast cos they think it's like their mother's. If u carry a little boy child he will try to, should another person now see it and say that they think the person must be enjoying it, which kind of dirty talk be that. I bet u if this lady sees her baby trying to touch her house girl that carries the baby, will she start to say it seems the house girl is a Lesbian. This poster has issues based on how deeply she is stressing this act.

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    6. Oya nauuu, since the nipple is now same as nose and mouth. Let him bring out dick and let her play with it, afterall that's where the sperm that formed her came from. And afterall it is a flaccid dick and not harmful. Afterall, it is a part of the body and it's no big deal.
      NIPPLE TOUCHING AROUSES BOTH MEN AND WOMEN SEXUALLY. Of all the play in this world, it is nipple play they want to play, in this evil world.
      Oya nauuu. When you have your own child, encourage them to insert hand inside a strangers nipple and be pinching it. Nonsense

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    7. Swag fresh no ..you are getting it wrong. A man gets arouse when you give him sensual feeling. Don't expect him to be arouse from his child touch. God help all this indomine generation

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    8. Please this poster is just too sick does that mean she doesn't breast feed her child? Or when she's breastfeeding she holds the baby's hand or she feels aroused if the baby touches her...?
      Why would a mother all her leave her kids unattended to be playing with strangers nipples? I played with my dad's infact I dragged the hairs on it and plucked it as a kid, made stupid noises on his pot belly. Post I hope it's ok by you if your husband doesn't allow you to breast feed your male children and cuddle them because of this thought process of yours. I am just tired and confused with this our generation. Tomorrow you would complain that your husband is not bonding with you and the kids.

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    9. Aunty poster please you didn't even tell us, were you playing with your molester's nipples before he raped you? "As a man thinketh so is he" please start eliminating negative thoughts because more children will come and these evil thoughts will drain happiness from you or bring them ill luck.

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  6. Ewwww...... Why should you husband encourage such lewd act from his own daughter, does he enjoy it? Or does he just want to make baby feel happy? Why why?

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    1. If our minds could just be clean for once, we'd see that hubby meant no harm.

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  7. 🀣🀣 Stella you vex more than the poster sef lol. My dear poster you have every reason to be worried but one thing I've noticed is people who have never been molested are more careless about things like this than those who have. Kindly send your husband the link of this post and I'm sure he will see reasons with you. If after that, he still continue, please know he might be molesting your child already (in fact my mind is telling me he's doing that already) please you have to leave him if he continues.

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    1. If I am her husband if she sends me a link to the story, she will be in trouble with me. I will call a family meeting for her to explain. Cos it's one thing to think it but to write it in this manner, I will think you are accusing me of being a child molester or something else and I will be mad at you.

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    2. Who cares if you are mad. I am a child psychiatrist and this is an unacceptably potentially harmful thing to teach a child. It is not about doing it once, at this formative stage they find it hard to let go of anything they learn. She might do it to the wrong person. Breast is a secondary sexual organ. If this case gets to court, the man will not be allowed joint custody. It can be regarded as sexual assault on a minor. Ignorance is not an excuse.

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    3. Anon 17:14 so you are saying it's ok for a child to play with the Mom's boobs but when it's her dad it's sexual assault? Please throw more light keep in mind that mother's can assault too

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    4. Tiana when you have a girl child that does that biko keep encouraging it until she does it to a stranger that's when you would know what you have done

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  8. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm this is serious.

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  9. Poster you should be worried because your husband is feeling your baby's touch. Because if he is not feeling it he would have stopped her before now. Infact he is already addicted to it. Which means that he will graduate to something serious soonest.

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    1. My thinking too. Na from clap dance dey start. If he is not he would hv stopped her. How about him wearing a shirt when he carry the baby. With time the baby will forget that spot. I mean let him wear thick shirt if possible with jacket. Buy it for him biko. Hian

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    2. thank you sexy hips he should always wear a top with time she will forget abt it and if he refuses to wear a top then poster you should be worried ooooo

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    3. No necessarily. He might give the baby free hand when her mum is not around simply because he feels the mother is taking things too serious and being hard on the child.

      The real issue here touches the fears of the mother but also goes beyond the fear of sexually molestation by possibly the father or a stranger.

      The issue I see here is the parent giving a united front in training their child.
      The girl already knows that she can choose sides. Her husband should have respected her fears , there are more than nipple touching ways to bound with ones child

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  10. You have to be watchful at all times, you are not overreacting just been an observant mother. God will see you through

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    1. I thought u were just corrected yesterday that it's 'being' not 'been'

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  11. God forgive me o, hopefully I'm wrong but your Oga seems to derive pleasure when she touches him and that's twisted considering she's his daughter and a CHILD. Not sure what advice to give but may God guide your steps.

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  12. Stella which kind advise be that. How can you say dnt allow her husband carry their baby anymore.... that far impossible if you ask me... my dear is obvious your husband get aroused or pleasure wen your baby touch him there. That's one of d weakest spot for men especially during sex. Touch their nipple or suck it is like HEAVEN.. I agree with stella that your husband is sick nd wat he is doing is dangerous... tooo bad I dnt know wat to say.

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    1. Poster ur point about ur daughter doing it to every man available is my worry... some men don’t use their senses at all.

      Bdw...Not all men likes it when their nipple is being touched. My husband said it makes him angry(na real wa)
      Very dry man.
      Where am I supposed to start from if I want to tickle u Biko.
      I’ve never heard a man say that. He said he’s been wanting to tell me he doesn’t like it. He now waited till after marriage. Maybe I would have given it a second thought.

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  13. Child molestation alert! Madam you have every reason to be worried o. Since he has refused to heed your advise, it is time to involve your family and his. Forget about trying to preserve your marriage. You owe that little girl your allegiance and her future is on the line. Your daughter does not understand this now but she will thank you someday.

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  14. It might be very innocent at first but after a while, your husband is human and blood flow through his vain, he got to like it and enjoy the pleasurable moment whenever she does it. It is not wrong because it is her daughter but it is wrong because he enjoys it reason he does not discourage her.
    If she was touching his balls playfully, will he let her be or stop her? We all know the answer to that, so why is it different from nipples as we all know nipples, females or males are very sensitive part of our bodies, some people even cum just by touching it. He must desist and tell him point blank that you don't like it!

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    1. It is sad that the baby has already learnt to do it when mummy is not watching.

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  15. I don't know if this comment will go south but when we were way younger my siblings and I would play with my father's nipples. He would even tease us to suck which we didnt less than we did. Never affected us or start viewing anything anyhow. I don't know sha

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    1. Wait o, your own father told you to suck his nipple, as in suck?
      It may not have affected you in anyway but your father was doing something very wrong

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    2. Lovetoloveu please don't mind them you are saying the truth, why are they not worried about the mother's thought process when the baby squeezes and suck her boobs? Why is nobody worried about this woman twisted thinking? I think men have lost so much value to women of today n their every move is seen in a derogatory manner which is sad. Please don't marry if you jumping up each time a man carries his child!

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  17. One thing I discovered in Marriages is that the Wives barely know whom the husband is. Most of you married occultic men that are ready to sacrifice you and your children for their selfish wants. Ask God to reveal to you whom you married. If he is not occultic, wizard or ritualist just relax he will do no harm.

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    1. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£

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    2. See your mindset na, babalawo pikin, abeg get out of here.

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    3. What if he is a perve? Poster your husband may not have anything in mind but it is wrong for him to undermine your decision for her to stop. This will affect the discipline of the child to know that she should hide from mummy and daddy is softer. Just calmly talk to him that you want her to stop that habit for her protection and propriety as a girl child. And to help the child while carrying her he should wear a shirt, so that she can forget the act with time. Then observe him with eagle eyes (she is the minor here, a baby at that). If he doesn't change, you know you have a big problem and have to get her away from him completely.

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    4. God will Punish you and may Thunder fire you for giving a woman this type of advice. What did she write for you to assume her husband is occultic. You are an evil person and I bet you attend mountain of fire, you see cobwebs and see witches. Be walking about with sick twisted mind.

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    5. Back to sender Tiana. I jump and pass you by.

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  18. This is a serious one...speechless

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  19. I feel it's just an innocent act by your hubby,you are the one putting such thoughts inhis mind.

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    1. God bless you Sugar babe, I agree with u 100%. The man is playing with his baby she is thinking evil. If the man no dey carry the baby people will talk. The poster should see a therapist, for repair of her damaged mind

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    2. You call that an innocent act, wait till she starts doing it to other men that carries her then you people will know there's a problem. It's like you people don't know a habit picked up as a baby without correction when much older becomes a norm

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  20. Poster go get secret cameras (nanny spy cameras) and place them in strategic places in the house. This will help you understand the extent of your husband's possible decacdence with his daughter.

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    1. See what you have caused by your write up, oya go buy spy cameras na as adviced. Blame no one na you tell us say your husband na child molester from your description. If he is innocent better go and kneel down and ask for forgiveness.

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    2. More than half writing posts her are not even married.

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    3. Pls shut up you clearly don't have a child

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  21. He encourages her? If you mean this encouragement in the real sense of it, then you should be super worried.
    Hopefully, you are trying to say he ignores her when she does that and only brushes her off when you approach. But even that does not sound right...
    But some guys don't feel anything no matter what you do to their nipples, except you inflict pain, so maybe..

    Jesus fix this πŸ™πŸΎ

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  22. Poster, I think your husband derives pleasure from what she is doing, cos I don’t understand why he will leave his nipple for her to play with when it isn’t a toy. Pls take his issue seriously with him there is more to her just playing with it innocently

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  23. I am sorry for people like the podter who brings such sensitive issues to a blog like this.

    Now that madam Stella and her BV's have sown these kind of sour seeds in your mind towards your husband, I hope you receive divine wisdom to discern rightly.

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  24. NNE,my kids do that...even the one that is four but my husband always remove his hand.In case you also allow her touch your nipples,she won't stop it ooo.Please don't think negatively about that,na tmch suck suck by the baby cause am.

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    1. Gbam! You have said it kids do it and the only problem is not removing her hand, maybe feeling if he does she will cry, out of love o. U don dey tag am molester. Mchewww! This thing dey pain me wella

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    2. Thank you...with free mind. Most of the advisers here are not even married. Thanks for sharing your experience

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    3. Good you said your husband removes his hands meaning he knows its also wrong but the posters husband sees nothing wrong with it. Imagine the innocent girl does that to another man that's preverted he will just start looking at her in another manner

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  25. If you don't trust your husband playing with your baby girls, tell him not to bare-chested with the girl. Or not to play with the girl or divorce your husband. Simple

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    1. Please listen to anonymous 15:39, I have never commented this much on a post but something just irked me about the way u painted a man u call ur husband and am a woman.

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    2. Yes. It is enough reason to divorce because this is a disaster waiting to happen. The fact that you complained about it should make him stop her if he's innocent. Now he's making the girl more vigilant in the act. This will make it easier for people to make her do things while people are not watching cos it's normal to her to spy on people while doing things.
      Sexual development makes children wiser than their age. Same way Adam and eve became aware of the nakedness that has been there since. That spirit of hiding and doing something is the mother of so many dark habits. Pedophiles are everywhere and we should guard these kids with our lives.

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    3. It is now clear spiritual husband is holding half of the women here. See that one he should divorce the husband...lol this people

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  26. I actually don't see this as a big deal.. My son like to play with his father's nipples while making beep beep sound with his mouth. Hubby sayvstop but DS has turned it to a play thing that he uses to terrorise his dad.
    As for assuming her husband derives sexual pleasure from it, Biko let's not put ideas into ppl's head cos u were molested. Do u derive sexual pleasure when ur baby sucks on your breast? And I'm sure u do when hubby touches it.. I understand we should be weary of child molesters but madam did u marry a child molester, please don't be unfair to that man.
    Thread softly b4 making sure accusations on man against his own daughter bcoz of ur own paranoia. Abeg don't create issues where there's none...

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    1. Good argument!

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    2. Thank you. I was so shocked beyond words reading such assumption from bvs.

      Poster, u better not go and ruin ur home because of something innocent.

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    3. Your husband says stop. Hers doesn't. There lies the difference. Until you've walked in her shoes, don't wave her concerns away

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    4. Thank you, my dad have a big breast ,growing up I remember we all touch and make fun of it. Just that the world is somehow now.

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    5. Nooo madam if you are like this woman anonymous 15:45, you would have called your husband gay! Because his son is playing with his breast. You are paranoid and have a sick imagination.

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    6. πŸ‘ she is so wrong I have told her that and thanks for asking her that question.

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    7. I agree with there’s nothing there to worry about. Poster google and you’ll see other kids do same

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    8. Eka Joy can we be friends, I always rush to see your comment and 99% you no dey disappoint me. Let's be friends cos I think we have similar thought process. The poster no well for head.

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    9. How can you compare breastfeeding to nipple caressing? Is the man breast feeding? Have you breastfed before? Cos if you have, you will know that the breast feeding breast is different from the breast in ovulation.
      The breastfeeding breast goes through wear and tear and desensitization happens to the nerve endings, the non breastfeeding breast has sensitive nerves that can arouse sexual pleasure.
      Please get educated and stop spewing trash.
      It's like comparing when a doctor inserts his hands to check how the cm when a woman is in Labour to when you are having sex and fingering. It is people like you that believe that women in Labour enjoys the doctor inserting his hand inside.
      Please adi eji ihe eji agba nanti agba n'anya. (you cannot use what you used to clean ears to clean the eyez), a word is enough for the wise.

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    10. Jeezz!! Anoy 17.32 are u sick. So what the baby is doing is nipple caressing like the way the mother will touch here husband nipple u mean? Omg you guys are just sick seriously. This is am innocent thing please stop putting thoughts on this woman's head . sick indomine women everywhere

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    11. @ anon.17.32 you can actually pass your opinion without asking me to get educated. I believe I'm better educated than you are...
      Secondly I mentioned I have a son, that should tell you the very educated ITK that I have had the breast feeding experience.
      Now using your theory, you inferred that a nursing breast looses sensitivity, does it also loose sensitivity when hubby touches it during the nursing months...
      Does it also mean that when your son (I'm assuming you have a son) touches or rubs against your breast by mistake or on purpose when you ain't nursing a child, that you get aroused???
      If you do, then that's a pervert there... I did not see the poster say her hubby get sexually aroused by the touches..
      We mess up our minds soo much that we being to see things that are not there as though they exist.
      I still insist that except she knows she married a perv, she is just causing issues in her home...

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  27. I have one question for you poster will you feel differently if the baby was a boy? will you feel differently if the baby was a boy and enjoys playing with your nipples? please don't start trouble where there isn't. that child is innocent and knows nothing about ur fears. you should be worried only if your husband have an erection while at it. until then please calm down.

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    1. A boy that plays with his mama's nipple na pikin wey like breast.

      Of cos she's innocent,it's the man that is not and that's her fear. She no go know if the man dey get erection because he no longer allows it in her presence.

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    2. Swagga la fresh .. sounds like a double standard to me .

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    3. Finny na God for heaven go bless u.

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  28. It is highly appalling how almost everyone on here judged poster's husband as deriving sexual pleasure from 'his' daughter's touch, shows such a sick society we indeed live in..so a father can not hold his baby daughter without people terming it as 'paedophile' alert
    . ..Madam if you do not trust your husband with his daughter then what the hell are you still doing with him! You need therapy mbok!

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    1. The thing taya me... the poster doesn't trust dh that's all. If she knows what's good for her she better not show him this link. Its absurd.

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  29. My dear... this is so wrong.. no matter how you want to look at it... make sure to keep that man away from your baby... yes he is the dad but the man is a red flag...tomorrow they will graduate to sulking the nipple... and not just her father but everyother male that carries her... how can!!!! At this day and age and with so much horrible stories out there on child abuse and molestation... we are still hearing this... my dear react now before you cry later..

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    1. The mom breast feed the child .. are you saying the kid will start sucking on every female around because mommy breastfeed 🀱 her ?

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    2. Chinwe, check into Yaba left this Easter. You no well o. Le gi ki ina han aga vu. Otele! She should keep her husband away from their baby. Chiwe ga za role call na Yaba left. Onye ala!

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    3. Tiana drink water, haba!! we have seen your stand. O zu go

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  30. Poster you have every right to be worry, if you tell him to stop the act he is teaching that little child, he refuses then involve your family member about it ,as for me I don't like it at all my baby does it alot with his daddy ,but my husband will take his hands of it immediately,p pleas do something fast about this situation,me am not acussing your husband,but be watchful.

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  31. Wait o you guys. Let’s look at it from another angle. If it was her nipple the child was playing with and the dad has cautioned against it, would you still think it’s lewd?
    Let’s reason this situation well before calling a man what he is not o! I’m talking from experience. Hmm.

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    1. God bless you. I tire for these people that can't even reason on their own.
      I don go jare.. 🚢

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  32. Beeves una calm down. I am convinced the mind plays a great role in his reasoning. Eg sucking a woman's breast during the do is different from when she's nursing but I don't know that she will be s3xually stimulated while her baby is sucking. He may truly see it as harmless. Quite a number of children play with their mother's breast and I have not heard anyone raise alarm.

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    1. Thank you! some BVs are awake and that is why I love this blog. We all don't think alike and some BVs are awake to the fact that you madam poster might be the issue here. Looking for things where there is none.

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    2. The truth is

      The man is not wise
      Consistency is needed when bringing up children

      You both agree on a thing and you both enforce

      He has started with your mummy is not fun , I can indulge you when she is not here


      That is indiscipline loading

      Weaker daddy
      Tougher mummy leads to manipulative children as time goes on

      He is myopic

      If baby is allowed to think it is normal

      She may carry such behavior and display it to an already set peadophile

      In this world we live in we need to teach children to keep their bodies to themselves, lest we encourage foolishness

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  33. I must say I am shocked by Stella and most BVs outburst. Granted there's a high level of child molestation these days but common, the level of distrust is too much. My son is 3 and I am still struggling with him to leave my breast and his Dad's nipple. It's okay you want her to stop now but don't attack your husband because of your experience. Sit him down and really talk about it, it's not about him it's about the oupside world.

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    1. Thank you madam please help us to educate these internet generation that see and have negative name for everything

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  34. "....please do not allow him carry the baby anymore and do not leave him alone with her again!!!!". She shouldn't allow him carry his own baby ANYMORE? Madam Stella, are you okay? Don't get this woman into trouble. In as much as I find his action reprehensible, she has no right to prevent him from having access to his own child. What's wrong with you women? You're taking this shitty feminism of yours to another level. This is Africa. That child belongs to him. We should proffer advice on how to get the husband put a stop to the despicable thing he's doing instead of restricting him access to his own kid. Poster, you need to be very firm. Make it very clear his action is affecting your psyche.

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  35. Madam be alert, your hubby is a pervert. He derives pleasure from it. You need to be strong & make him stop, don't leave your baby with him anymore.

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  36. What rubs me the wrong way is that he pretends to caution her when you are there but encourages her to continue when you aren't there. This has totally erased whatever "innocence" there may have been. This establishes a guilty mind, in my considered view. Sweetie you know your husband's body, does he have sensitive nipples? If he does, then that the piece de resistance! That seals the deal and you should be very worried because you've married a man with perverted proclivities.

    Darling, let's be generous and still give him the benefit of the doubt, in spite of the overwhelming evidence, for argument sake. Let's assume it's an innocent gesture, if he derives no pleasure from it, why wouldn't he stop her immediately you voiced your concerns? Secondly, if he notices the "innocent" gesture arouses him, a normal father will stop her immediately whether you are present or not. It's human nature to keep repeating whatever gives us pleasure. The only plausible reason why he keeps allowing it is, he derives pleasure from it. Also worrisome is the fact that your baby now looks at you to see if it's safe to continue, it shows even at that tender age, she knows she's doing something mummy doesn't like but daddy likes. It's possible your hubby has told her not to do it when you are around.

    My fear is, acts like these tend to degenerate. From playing with his nipples, he can allow her play with his manly bits. There was a man who taught his 3 year old daughter how to suck his dick. The pervert actually filmed the act with his phone. He made sure only his laps and dick were in view but his daughter's face was captured. As fate will have it, his wife got a hold of his phone and stumbled upon the video. I can only imagine her reaction! Of course she knows her husband's body and the sounds of pleasure he makes. She used the video as evidence for a dissolution of marriage. Due to the graphic contents, the judge watched it in camera and recommended that charges be preferred against the husband for defilement.

    It's a crazy world we live in and unfortunately, you may never really know whom you are married to. Please guard your angel from any sexual experience. Do whatever it takes to keep her safe. This is super sensitive, I pray God gives you the wisdom to handle this the best way possible.

    e-hugs and kisses.

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    1. Made senseπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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    2. typical nigerian.you have drawn conclusiom from her own side of the story.well, lets hear from the man's side.most ladies dont tell stories as it is! they speak from fear and emotions.

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    3. It’s not a guilty kind
      It’s I cannot come and fight so I won’t do it in your presence

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    4. Ronalda you are one BV whose inputs I always trust but today, the wind has blown and the anus of the duck is seen. You are very very wrong today and your argument is flawed 100% am a woman and I know how we think, this poster did not walk in on her husband saying to their baby touch my breast, touch it na, hence her saying he encourages it is born from a mind that's ill. You should tell her to seek help. I now see it u are not all knowest after all.

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    5. Tiana go find one corner rest your head. So because your opinion differs shes wrong?

      You're just everywhere making friends with those that agree with you and tagging others wrong.

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    6. Hmmm Tiana don vex oo. Don't mind ousie Ronalda, she's like this sometimes πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    7. Bia this ignorant Tiana, U re becoming an irritant on this post. Ronalda made an objective point, if it doesn't concur with urs,simply skip & keep scrolling.. How can she be 'all knowing"?,is she God? U have got some ish abeg!

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  37. Why are you these now a days women are so paranoid. The essay nothing there, she's just a baby and ate could have done that to your nipples too.
    I remembered my immediate younger sister did that to my dad when she was a baby, i senior with good five years, so i saw her doing that whenever my dad carried her then, that didn't stopped her from turning out to be among the best girl in our house.

    Enough of all these rubbish you guys come here to spew just because you're trying to be a woke mom.

    Nonsense.

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  38. Hmmmmmm! I don't even believe men's nipple is a private considering the fact that they can go shirtless anywhere and no one screams at them to cover up instead we see it as normal.how is it a private part?

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  39. So he never wear shirts at home?

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    1. Noooo he should wear pyjamas all day na so your husband dey wear shirt all day. Be asking question. In side heat the man should wear sweaters so him own baby no go touch him breast. Mchewwee

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    2. See question!?

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  40. when I was a child I loved to play with my father's hairs on the chest,legs,thighs. he was very hairy. there was nothing to it. I don't think there's anything to this

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    1. Thank you o, the way people reason now. Poster you better don't scatter your marriage with your hand, apply wisdom to it and explain to your husband why you want him to stop her.

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  41. I know children, especially those still breastfeeding, play with their mum's breast. They fondle and suck their lips or fondle to stop crying or sleep. But I don't even support that, irrespective of the sex.. I disapprove of it.

    I don't understand why your husband is still encouraging her to keep touching him. It isn't proper and you're right to be worried.

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  42. ter shame on you
    I read all the comment and felt sad for your husband how he married a psyco
    My father was hairy ,so we enjoyed playing with his chest, I did it till I 14, my father never for a day molested me
    you just painted your husband as an animal
    tueh tueh.

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    1. The animals in human skin were less in number while you were growing up
      People had more conscience then


      Is it so hard for the man to stop after his wife had said she didn't like it if he is not deriving pleasure from it?

      He SHOULD STOP

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  43. Poster,if ur hubby is my brother maka chi,agbaram gi ugbo nwa mkpi back to ur house Asap..

    I hope u are happy as most bvs have confirmed ur hubby as a pervert u see him as okwaya..

    Nne do the needful and tell ur hubby ur mind ka nwoke mmadu mara ebe okwu.While ur are on it,mk sure na ur bags di very packed makana I ga elu uno ga kpota ndi nwee gi, makana di okwu apugo na be careful..Udo!

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    1. Marriage keeper
      Mind your business
      Enforcer of other people's homes
      2 cartons of Eva water
      Another persons home is CROSSING your boundaries

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  44. Poster please Dont allow paranoia to kill you,the fact that your father,or your uncle's,or your brother's or male member's of your family are pervs does not mean that your husband is one,you need to leave that your husband's house before you destroy him.

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  45. I don't blame the poster. Its the after effect of the cheating culture in men. Shebi guys feel they can cheat and get away with it. The after effect is lack of trust and value. Ntor

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    1. What has cheating got to do with this? Are you thinking right at all?
      SMH.

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  46. If your baby was a boy and at twenty months he touches your breast will it be termed molestation? Pls poster renew your mind, while molestation is rampant it doesn't mean you should totally loose trust in the man you married (or has he raped you before) and tread carefully so you don't use your hand to scatter your marriage because of suspicions that you can't backup.

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  47. Pls ooo, my people, what if this baby was a boy not a girl, will you people be say all dis thing. That is why I will prefer a boy as my first born not a girl.

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  48. Pls ooo, my people, what if this baby was a boy not a girl, will you people be say all dis thing. That is why I will prefer a boy as my first born not a girl.

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  49. As a mother of 3, including twin boys, I disagree. Sometimes my boys will play with hubby’s chest and nipples. The issue is YOU! You never received counseling for your molestation so it’s affecting you. That is what you need to address, it’s the elephant in the room! If not, you will find fault with everything he does, whether giving her a bath or helping to change her clothes. This is a 20 month old.
    Even as a doctor, I disagree with Stella. The poster needs help!! Her past needs to be addressed so the devil doesn’t use it to sow seeds in her head, and scatter her marriage!

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  50. Where I have a major problem with the husband is that he encourages the baby to do it when poster is not watching and stops her when poster is watching that doesn’t sound right at all. What happened to being united in training the children by both mother and father? It’s an easy thing. Mum sees it as wrong and has voiced her displeasure, if you are not gaining anything from it why then do you allow the child to continue? It is all shades of wrong.

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  51. I think you have taken it way too far. Babies always play with nipples in short my 19 months old girl does the same to me n her dad and anyone who carries her n I have never thought of it was weird because I know they outgrow it. They are too innocent to think it was sexual it is more like a button to them.

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