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Sunday, May 19, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.......

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ADVICE ON HOW TO LEAVE NIGERIA NEEDED


Dear Stella,

I would like to ask Bv’s how I can relocate abroad and start my life over, I have been in Nigeria since 2017 post schooling abroad (degree and masters), and I pretty much have nothing to show for it my salary barely caters to my needs talk more of assisting others, I fear if I remain in this country I will rot away, It does not help that am an introvert which I can’t change overnight and clearly Naija is the land of “who knows who”.



I truly hate my job as I find no fulfillment there I want to switch field’s and I believe if I successfully relocate abroad I can work with my degree while trying to get into school to study something more fulfilling, so much to say but I will make it short.

I am a 28yr old lady depressed, unfulfilled and broke yet I am not lazy, I have thought about starting a business I cannot seem to come up with anything the whole situation is draining me and mosts times I just want to hide forever, my relationship with my friends and family is becoming strained as I can’t help but keep to myself.

I have started getting documents ready for Canadian express entry although I haven’t applied yet but I don’t want to rely on that alone.


Please Bv’s I need advice on education friendly countries I can relocate to and how I can do that with minimal funding as I am basically on my own doing this, at this age I am not comfortable bothering my parents besides I do not think they would support my option of relocation but I believe it is the best option I have.

Thank you so much for this platform, I will be in the comment section.



*Education friendly countries?Try Germany!

56 comments:

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    1. This sounds like me did both degrees abroad came back and now working but the pay is nothing to write home about, in the process of relocating as well. Introvert and just frustrated and tired. If you can drop your contact I’ld love to advice u on the process

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    2. Sadly , it seems alot of us are on this table. I constantly feel my parents wasted money sending me to UK. I feel like a constant disappointment to them.

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    3. Anon 17:30
      My case is even worse as i single handedly sponsored myself through school. I wish i had stayed back after my first degree, now i feel like i wasted my time, energy and money. Sad

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  2. Relocate legally so u don't stress, don't let no one discourage u, you might get there n be successful more than your discourager.

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    1. And who the discourager come be na, eh nwanyi Pharisee? 😊😊😊

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  3. So how you waka go the first time and which country you go?
    For this second "missionary journey", why you no wan go the place wey
    you return from abi them don lock gate?
    E get any Naija babe wey no wan waka go abroad?😊😊

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    1. Hahahahaha una get mouth for thus blog

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    2. You be troublela like my village girl said it.
      @Them don lock gate line lol

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    3. Myself and I am Nigerian girl .

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  4. While reading your chronicle I could sense the frustration and fear of been seen as a failure in your write up.

    Well the country i feel that can help you work and migrate easily is canada,so do your ielts exams and get a good score, make sure your degree and masters is evaluated, get the remaining documents and then put in for your express entry.

    If you feel you can't meet up with CRS points of CanadIan express entry pool, there are other ways you can still get in there also....Also check out Austrian immigration procedures online,it is an education friendly country and migrating with a good degree from outside Nigeria will help you.

    In all you do DONT MIGRATE TO THE UK or US for now as you will regret it as Brexit is having its tool on the uk economy for now and immigrants are been treated as hostiles in the US for now.


    LEPπŸ˜›

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    1. Very soon Canadians will relocate to Nigeria, and leave their country for Nigerians πŸ˜‚

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    2. @Tohtoh chopper,
      Fear of BEING seen...

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    3. Anon: 15.38 they have not left for Indians, Chinese or Philippines na Nigerians.

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  5. Ten years from now, Nigeria would be empty, and abroad is becoming tougher and tougher...

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  6. I have this conversation almost weekly but you didn’t provide helpful details. What did you study? Do you have the money to pay for tuition? Without those answers I can only suggest applying for nursing in the u.s. the need is there and you can do quick one year courses

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    1. Exactly. What did you study?

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    2. What school can i do a 1yr nursing course as an international student?

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    3. pls do you know of any scholarship i can apply for in canada

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  7. Since you already made up your mind to leave, why not try Canada,I have some friends there and they seem to be doing good. You can even work and school. please try and research more. Best of luck.

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  8. Tuition free university try Germany, Norway, and Finland.

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  9. Anybody that wants to leave, Gods blessings.

    Buhari no be person at all. Everything about this government is bad luck. Next level suffer suffer awaiting people who voted change.


    Anyway wicked people deserve wicked leaders. So that is what our people got.

    Congrats to all leaving

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    1. Even if you got dumped by your boyfriend, it's Buhari's fault.

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    2. May you suffer all you wish this country , Amen. Fake christian.

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    3. Says the person who admitted "sorting" in university and fully supports those doing so. It's Buhari that asked you to sort? You better accept you are one of the corrupt people pulling this country down.

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  10. The grass is greener everywhere, people are still making it big in Nigeria but if you insist, no wahala.

    If you have one million naira cash, show me the prove that you have the money to pay when visa come out, i will connect you to someone reliable that can help you with no down payment but you must be ready to pay a million naira once your ( Canadian) visa is out but if you have applied either in America or Canada before but you were denied, the case will be slightly different.
    Good luck.

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    1. Does this apply to citizenship . Pay the money get the passport . I’m not looking to leave the county only looking for a passport for easy travel

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    2. Don please connect me, I can pay onei million cash. Studied biochem hnd. I am not the poster.

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  11. What you need is not geographic relocation but mindset relocation. If you relocate with this same mindset, you may probably end up being in a worse situation. My advice is for you to engage in enquiry prayers; ask God where he wants you to be and what he wants you to do, find fulfilment in anything you do. Bible says " whatsoever your hand finds to do, do it with all deligence" Eccl 9 vs 10.
    However, there are principles to finding fulfilment as a christian
    Pay ur tithe
    Give to ur parents
    Give to the needy around you
    Contribute to the growth of ur local assembly.
    Be kind to people.
    Pray always
    Build ur confidence
    Be positive.
    Read books relating to your emotional and physical needs authored by men of God.

    Your's faithfully,
    Tried and tested with visible results.

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    1. Word - ask God where he wants you to be and what he wants you to do

      So true! That is the starting point of everything else. Not where man (society, your parents etc) wants you to be, but where God wants you to be. That could be Canada, Nigeria, or somewhere completely different. When you are in that place, you will find fulfillment and peace and satisfaction and joy ecen if there are challenges around.

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  12. Canada is VERY HARD to relocate to. Nigerians are just loud talking Canada up and down. It is one of the hardest countries to relocate to. If you want tuition free countries try European countries. Those ones are also quite difficult as well tbh but they are easier to live in and in Europe tradesmen are very respected so you don't have to be a really educated person to thrive. Your mindset is terrible though. No where is easy.
    I was in Canada before I moved to Chicago and most people I knew in Canada have gone back to their countries or relocated elsewhere. There is a reason Canada can't get people to stay in Canada. It's not an easy country to progress in.Anyway goodluck!

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    1. You have a good point there.
      Why is Canada always looking for people and why haven't they retained these people since 4 years ago of CIC EXPRESS ENTRY VISA started ? There's something no one is saying besides the hype?😏🀷🏽‍♀️

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    2. Anon 16:08, God bless you for telling the truth. Wise people are leaving Canada in droves. I recommend that Nigerians read the comments on "why immigrants are leaving Canada" by IgorRyltsev on YouTube. The video itself is very politically correct - he didn't want to get into trouble. Read the comments before applying to Canada so you would know what to expect...

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    3. Canada is easy if you fall into this category of immigrants:

      1. Educated but willing to work in factories for the rest of your life.

      2. A medical Doctor/Pharmacist or Nurse who is willing to work as a caregiver or nanny cleaning up after their old parents and children. For children, you could be Filipino or any other Asian but certainly not black.

      3. You show no signs of ambition, intelligence or potentials. Even if you have the qualifications, they must see that your qualifications are useless to you that way you are not a threat.

      4. The Canadian work environment is like the Big Brother's House; survival of the fittest. You are a prime target anywhere you go if you are perceived as a threat.

      5. If you drink heavily/smoke/club/party endlessly/do drugs/sleep around/gossip/into office politics/bully they would love you because you are just like them so you are seen as the right fit.

      6. If you have unusual and in demand skills and are hired by a fortune 500 company or some other large corporation where you don't stand out, you are relatively safe.

      7. Best advice I can give is: don't stand out in Canada except if you are very close to God for His protection. It is very dangerous to be a gold fish in Canada;they hate greatness...

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    4. I went to a Canadian University (outside Canada)and I honestly agree with the don't stand out statement. Wish I had know this earlier because I didn't only stand out but I challenged the system as well. I had people who would tell me that I was a smart student and wouldn't want me in their class because I was smart. One instructor even told me that she feels nervous having me around because she feels that she has to actually know her content when I am around. She told me she had heard about me even before she met me (other instructors had talked). From my experience, Kiss ass and being politically correct is the way to go. I don't even want to mention the amount of gas lighting and passive aggressiveness I experienced. Even after everything, there are still Canadians who would push you to do more once you stand out. I found people who were willing to push me and I am thankful that it's all over.

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    5. Ahh, anon 18:05, you are right o! From my experience, it is better for your skills/potential to be at par with your colleagues wherever you work in Canada if not you will be frustrated out of the place so quickly that your head will be turnioninown. Too much bad belle in this place, tufiakwa!

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    6. @Anon 18.05 The problem we as Nigerians dont make it in Canada is our over bloated Ego, I am/was in that second category. A pharmacist, when I came I did care job and saved for 1year, after that I stopped face PEBC like they were owing me and cleared most of my exams in one sitting. I failed only OSCE and went for The pharmacy bridging program and it opened my eyes to something, see all this Indians,iranian, Egyptians with their little English were clearing the exams, why? Because they came and believed they needed to learn not show themselves. We are too proud.

      Secondly everybody wants to stay in Toronto, that's not the only city in Canada, it becoming ridiculously expensive. Move to somewhere else. Up north Ontario pays very well.

      When you come, try and upgrade your self, get a new degree be it post graduate diploma, masters or anything, get that Canadian degree. Dont come and say my degree is from the UK so so I should get this that.
      My friend and her husband who came in 2015 are good now because when they came with their masters in public health both from UK and went straight into nursing @ York university(fast track 2 years RN offered to people with a degree already) and they have gotten job and forgotten they went to school,one of their friend they came with, refused to do anything feeling he had a masters from uk, he is doing care job.

      My point is this, when you come to Canada melow down, do what you need to do to get to where you want, stress dont grow overnight.

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    7. Stella, could you please do a post for those who have migrated to Canada and what their experiences have been so far, both pros and cons.

      Migrating to another country is not a silver bullet, so just make sure your expectations are not out of this world. It is when you immigrate you begin to realise there are some little thinga about Nigeria that you actually miss. Anyway, whichever one you choose, good luck!

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  13. Hello poster, if you are on Twitter or if not kindly join now and all these your frustrations would be over.

    Kindly search for the @funmioyatogun who has done an extensive thread on how to relocate to Canada πŸ‡¨πŸ‡¦ easily and legally.
    Search for her thread on moving to Canada.

    And a Bren lady, she gives excellent threads on schools that offer free scholarships etc.

    Twitter is a treasure trove of information depending on who you are following so please follow sensible people who give info such as Dr. Dipo, Moe, flying doctor Naija etc.

    I wish you all the best

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  14. It's all your perception.

    If you relocate without correcting your mind, you would find yourself in same situation even in Canada.

    Your problem isn't about this goddam country.

    It's yourself. Your state of mind.

    I don't know why you people keeping throwing 'I am an introvert' all the time.

    And so???

    Stop putting yourself in a box!

    Intro rubbish.

    You become who you set your mind to be.
    You being an introvert has nothing to do with your current situation.
    Get out of that box and appreciate life.

    If you wanna do business, then do it.
    If you don't like your job, resign and look for something better.

    Stop the pity party and take charge of your own life.

    And please have a good relationship with your family and friends.
    A lion preys on a lone sheep.
    Same with the devil.

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    1. Calling herself an introvert is another form of excuse, helping herself to feel miserable the more.
      People are making it big in Nigeria but her mind is messed up, thinking she has to travel out to be successful in life.

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  15. I bet lots of people don't know that schooling in France is/if not one of t
    he cheapest in Europe. Public schools of course. The school fees is less than 500 euros a year and you still get accomodation allocation from the state to help in paying your rent. Plus free health insurance. BUT then you have to speak French to have admission. Chidinma in France.

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  16. Please bvs... talking about abroad, you guys should please come to my rescue.
    I live in the Uk, i have been thinking of a business to do that can really sell well in the Nigerian market.
    This my 9-5 job after which tax go collect the whole money. I want to try business and see how it goes. Please recommend a good business i can venture in, maybe sending things to Naija, but dont know what to venture in. God bless you all

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    1. Gas station and farming but i don't know if you have trusted families back in Nigeria that could help you oversee the day-to day activities as the businesses need monitoring.(You can also send cars if you have people that can help you sell).

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    2. If this reply get to you reach me on alalolgbo@gmail.com let me open a gold mine yet untapped in Nigeria to you

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  17. Come to USA , the best country in the world! You would fit in easily

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  18. Move to Turkey! And open an African restaurant there, it’s very easy to get residence permit and be moving between naija and turkey, you can even do business alongside

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  19. Stella, now you are talking. I almost got depressed at that point in my life though I live abroad but I wasn't fulfilled.
    Now you know what people are facing abroad too especially when you don't know how or who will put you through...hmmmm

    #observer

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  20. I am an introvert and it’s not a mindset. You want with all your heart to try but, it doesn’t come out right. Everyone thinks you are laid back but they don’t know how much you drive yourself to mix, to even do the normal things. it doesn’t just come out right. I live by grace each day because every other thing I have tried has failed just because I find it difficult to mix. I am married to an extrovert and the early part of our marriage was war because he didn’t understand why I kept smiling even when everyone was gisting together.So please show empathy because you don’t know how much we want to be like that lady in the marketing department that keeps meeting her target or that man that is not meeting his target or not been paid enough but yet still finds joy to come to work everyday. We are driven by passion and if our passion is not recognized and rewarded we quickly fall into a depression. If I relocate abroad I don’t want to be a star, I want to be happy with what I do. Since it impossible to find that here, there is no harm trying elsewhere. So poster, don’t worry it will be alright. Just pray and let the Holy Spirit led you. If you can’t find any business you want to to it means there isn’t any one you can do! So don’t bother because been an entrepreneur is not as easy as thought about and because of your nature, you might need a front to help you drive and that is another round of capital too. Be calm always and try write your feelings down in a book. You can get codes to help you so no one can read. It will help so you would fall into depression.

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  21. Babes I can relate. Since you have studied outside the country already. Telling you to go through the education route is of no use to you.
    Learn a skill. An IT skill. Learn one programming language, python or JavaScript they are easy to learn.
    Go to sites like udemy free, edx and cousera and learn IT skills free of charge. Keep practising and start applying for jobs outside the country. There are plenty jobs opening in IT sector. If you pass the interview, they will process the rest for you of course with a work permit. Give yourself 6 months of intense practice and give it a shot. Don't give up hope! There are plenty ways to kill a rat! It's not easy buy with perseverance, you will success and turn around to encourage others to follow this path!

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  22. Ur dawn will surely come soon. With ur qualifications have tot of applying for international jobs? Google is ur friend. It won't be easy and fast but u shall succeed. Who said Brexit is affecting jobs in the UK?

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    1. Brexit IS affecting jobs, from a first hand source.

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  23. Poster, your narration did not say what and where you studied, the kind of job you do as well as how much you currently earn. I don't know how to advice you without such information.

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  24. Why not try relocating to a different city within Nigeria? PH, Abuja etc.. you can get a fresh start that way.

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