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Friday, May 31, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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INSULTIVE WIFE



Good days guys......



 So i want to know your opinion on something please. My husband cheated on me and i found out, I gave him the insults of his life, I said a lot of horrible things to him that'd break his heart because i wanted him to feel the same pains i felt and he said no man would take those kind of insults from any woman (the insults can make a weak man commit suicide, true!. i also stopped cooking in the house.


Okay, i want to know if i was wrong for insulting him and for not cooking anymore, I'm asking because I won't want him to have anything against me when both families will gather to talk becos I already have plans of getting a divorce or separation at least.


I have had to put up with a whole lot of rubbish in the name of marriage! And is it possible for me to get custody of the kids seeing that I don't really have a tangible source of income and still young ?




*I dont even know what to say to you...... so because he cheated you insulted him to this extent and even feel proud?And now you want to take off with the kids?Maybe you should work on yourself first cos the next man might also wanna run...most of you use bad vibes to chase your men into the arms of other women...Oh I know a man that will cheat will cheat but this your case needs Jesus!!!

242 comments:

  1. I'm not married yet so let me mind my business and read comments.

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    1. Cheating with another man? Very possible dude need something light.

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    2. Madam poster hope small girlie is not worrying you abi?

      Please get something doing before you subject those kids to poverty all in the name of divorce. No income and you want to copy others...

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  2. Madam the madam.......


    See as you de use your own hand give your hubby to sidechick"





    There are better ways to treat a cheating man's fuckup.












    Far better ways.




    Stop being the fuel and fire.






    Be the ICE

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    1. Be the ice ko, be the sugar ni.

      Babe, divorce is not the first step, you need to empower yourself or get a job first. Start earning something tangible, start saving, just start doing something.

      You need to plan your exit if you must leave but I will say try and work things out and see mayb he will turn a new leaf. This is not a family meeting affair, both of you need to sit down and talk and forgive each other, who knows he may change.

      You insulted your husband, don't feel bad about it as long as you didn't insult his family, he deserves the insults to reset his brain, he should be the one apologizing and seeking forgiveness. Do not let him turn the tables on you, the issue here is his infidelity not the insults.

      I am sure if it was you that cheated you may be dead by now. Most men can't take what they wish out.

      All the best.

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    2. If you want to use children as a leverage to collect money from an ex husband in Nigeria, you are on your own o. Court will say he should be giving you 5000 naira only every month.

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    3. This woman just want toeave, cos she is tired of being disrespected. I don't know why she is being blamed here. Madam, you Insulted him, cos u were hurt, and it is normal. First find a job, and file for divorce if u are not happy. Your husband has no shame, see him still talking after what he did? African women have suffered. This man would have called this woman an ashawo of he caught him cheating, and we all would have supported him.

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    4. Madam I’m in ur shoes exactly. I did exactly what u did. At that point it’s only saying all that that will make u feel better. U didnt do anything wrong. It’s only in Nigeria that a man will cheat then people will say u shouldn’t have insulted him. Meanwhile what he did was worse than insults. If ur kids are young and he’s ready to make amends pls try and do so. As for me my kids are almost of the legal age when no one needs to have custody. I am just waiting till the last is 18 and I’m out. In my own case I still insult him when I feel like. He is trying to make it work but I think I’m finally done. Good luck my dear. Like I said take the kids Into consideration.

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    5. Ani 17:49 thank u so much. He did something wrong and she insulted him cos of his actions and people are castigating her??? Why not castigate him for what he did to her?? Do u know how it hurts??? U guys don’t even know the details of the cheating and all u are focusing on is that she insulted him? Even u Stella?? I weak for Nigeria o. If it was the woman that did this and he insulted her everyone will say she’s a whore

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  3. This your rebuke, Stella. 😳😳😳
    So cheating is just because.. Cheating? Am I missing sonething?

    Cheating as in had affair, could bring STD home, destroy marriage and insult is too much?

    I will see myself outta post. 🚢‍♀️🚢‍♀️

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    1. I just weak for Stella. I hope she will say same when a woman cheats. what I'm I saying women as always been their worse enemies. infact a man will even support what this woman did than a woman. we are all pains in the neck.

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    2. I tire for Stella.Cheating is a big deal!..sadly by way practice it has over time become acceptable.the lady is scorned and ths her way of ventng her anger.pls do not justify the man's action.keep quiet if you don't have the proper advice to her marital challenge.

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    3. Persian I follow you weak for this Stella's rebuke o. Ordinary insult fan! Being cheated on too can drive some people too to commit suicide.

      So what should have been her reaction to infidelity? She didn't beat him up o or trailed the woman involved. She didn't even arange for his car to be stolen or mixed a small doze of otapiapia in his food. Just insult.

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    4. My sentiments exactly!

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    5. Thank you! I don't understand Stella's red pen...smh

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    6. Nawwwaaa for u Stella ds kind advice today... a man that vowed to be faithful to his wife in the presence of God n Igwe mmadu broke that vow, broke a hedge around his family and exposed his wife n children to Many STDs even HIV n what u do is rebuke her for ordinary insult... her own non violent way of releasing her emotions. Instead of applauding her for not chopping off his blokos already or or going after d side piece...
      women have seen things in ds world.

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    7. I follow you waka. Someone is seriously pained and lashed out at the said husband, the husband should be the one trying his best to make atonement.
      Poster are you sure your case is irredeemable to warranty a divorce?

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    8. I follow weak for Stella red pen too if reverse was to be the case here marriage don end for the woman be that but I just think she shouldn't have stopped cooking for him shaaa still perform some duty until you settle or get a divorce it is well

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    9. As in ehnnnnn

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    10. I don't understand Stella sometimes ooo, when my husband cheated and I found out, I really cursed the shit out of him, and he kept begging, so I don't know what Stella is going on about here. A man has not done a woman a favor by getting married to her. Madam, your husband has no shame, I can't believe he had the guts to tell u, other men won't take these Insults. Who are men? Like some special being? Mtcheew. If he doesnt like to be Insulted, he should respect himself. This is how he will bring home hiv. Madam, i am so proud of u, even proud that u dont carry marriage like fifa world cup.

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    11. Honestly this Stella sef, Am I reading what I am reading from u, so cheating is ok and she gets all d blame ... chai God make we women supporters of one another and not pull ourselves down. Infact I am so angry at Stella for this comment. Madam poster pls empower yourself first and get a good source of income. The insults came from a hurt heart, if you can, apologize for the insults but does not mean you accept the cheating

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    12. See Stella saying just because he cheated hmmmmm,na wa oo Stella,if na you,you go take am??advice well abeg!!!!

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    13. Me sef weak for Stella red pen, ah ah. Poster don't mind that your hubby o, he wants to turn the blame on you but don't cave.
      He cheated, so he should bear the grunt of your anger

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    14. So, cursing the husband is the best way to make him sit up? Wow!

      If you are to follow the biblical standard, cursing him is not the solution.

      You can confront him, report or hold a family meeting. This is exactly what I advised my friend’s wife to do. I pleaded with her not to shout so that their neighbors won’t know what was going on. So she quietly confronted the husband without insult in the evening, warned him that she won’t tolerate such again. She also complained to his mum the next day. The husband was really remorseful, he was always on his kneels begging for almost two weeks. It was a terrible moment then, because the wife was always crying.

      It shouldn’t always be settled with fight and insults

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    15. Thank God for Una. I was beginning to think everyone here was mad. Stella weak me no be small. I think she just put that to stir up controversy. Cheating is not just because. I insulted my husband and still do when he did it to me. I broke his phone and practically cursed him. U don’t know how hurtful it is. I’ve told u Stella be thinking b4 u pull out this ur red pen. U dey reason like my old aunty for village sometimes.

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  4. If you are in Nigeria, first of all you are f**ked! If the children are still in baby stage, you are even more super fucked and finally if you don’t have rich parents or siblings that would have you with bills, you are triple fucked!
    No tangible source of income yet you burn bridges with your mouth? The joke is on you o! When they tell you to work and get your own money, you think it’s joke abi?
    It’s not today couples have been cheating but you don’t burn bridges. You just leave the bridge Incase you need to use it some other time. The guy too doesn’t have sense sha but it doesn’t warranty this.
    All in all, you have decided what to do, what are you now writing to Stella

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    1. We should change our mindset please. So supposing the man was dead nko would she still survive. she is not fucked anything, she just need to start something and pick up from there.

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    2. How many housewives want to start something? Most of you sit there collecting money for crayfish and pepper thinking you are married until gbege like this happens. That's why these men rub your faces in mud. Which idiot husband wants to mess up with a woman that can stand on her own anyhow?

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    3. I can stand on my own and my husband messed with me. Pls stop all this shaming women cos they don’t work. A bad man is a bad man. So cos she doesn’t work as he cheated she shouldn’t insult him??? What the hell is wrong with the people in this country???

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  5. Sometimes the insults are necessary to make the man's head to reset.

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  6. Hope you feel alright after insulting and not cooking for him?
    How do you women even starve your husbands with food?
    There’s a lot of ways to make him pay for cheating, this your move is a wrong one.
    Two wrongs can never make it right.
    He wronged you greatly by cheating on you.
    But now you have made it worse with your insults...if he commits suicide as a result of what you told him, how would you feel?
    Have in mind that if a family meeting is set up, they won’t applaud you...we all know how that endsπŸ’πŸΏ‍♂️
    Your husband should marry a second wife sef.
    But since you say you want divorce, it’s fine.
    Who wouldn’t cheat with this character of yours?

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    1. Its like you dont have sense. You are asking if she feels alright after insulting her hubby. But yiu didnt ask if tge horse of a band felt alright after cheating on and disrespecting his wife. Sometimes we women are our own problem and enemies. God help us all

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    2. @Slut
      Ehhhhhhhhhhhhhheeee? 😯😯
      Na you type all these one aby persin hack ya account?
      Anyway, na dat second wife wey you talk there be the misyarn.
      But you try no be small inugo?
      I still dey wonder at that ya name up there πŸ‘†
      Sometimes I confuse cos when side chickens gather for meeting,πŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒ
      na you dey come be secretary
      Ngwanu make we dance πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ as you yarn Naija girls truth here

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    3. Have you heard the man’s side?
      It’s easy for us woman to always condemn the men even without hearing their own sides of the story.
      Women support woman bawo.
      I don’t support blindly.
      Yes some men cheat, but there are better ways to handle such.
      If men are so terrible,how come people are still marrying and doing despicable things just to wear that title?

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    4. Slutty, talking from both sides of your mouth. So it’s ok to condemn the wife even though you haven’t heard the husband’s side to really know who’s “mainly” at fault? You see how hypocritical you sound? And to answer your last question, it is due to decades of brainwashing, suppression, oppression and stripping of dignity. Look at Nigeria as a whole and the truth isn’t hard to come by. Women are condemned for insulting men after cheating, their reaction to cheating is even blamed as the cause of cheating! Can you imagine?! A place where women are arrested and called prostitutes because they’re not with men in a party or club. A country where landlords will not rent to women if they’re not married, not to talk of the societal stigma that comes from fellow ladies if you’re not married by a certain age and the list goes on; while the men just sit back and take advantage of all the desperation that comes with it all. They cheat because they know society frowns on Devore, heck! Wives are now even rebuked for reacting to cheating husbands! While men feel free to beat their wives, take advantage of single girls who want to marry and get rid of the stigma, they even abandon kids now and expect to be looked for once their kids achieve something in life or when they want to get married. Of course! Women need to support women because women are still the ones that suffer.

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    5. Yes I condemned what she did cos she didn’t do well and we have only heard her own side of the story.
      Did you also read where I condemned the man for cheating?
      Some of you women are just keypad queens..... you come here to blab.
      Some of you have babes you lick like every time ..... even in your matrimonial homes but don’t see nothing wrong with it....after all she doesn’t have a dick πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      Poster better go and find a way to make peace with your husband. You have no job to sustain yourself and the kids alone.
      If you follow some posters mouths, na hole you go enter.
      Some of them feed their husbands and take all sorts..... they can never leave those men.
      Find something to do no matter how small and some some respect.

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    6. Slutty, you are some Bush woman. How would the husband also feel, if he brings home HIV? If he wants to commit suicide, cos of Insults,let him. I have zero respect for cheats. He doesn't respect himself, why should the poster respect him?

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    7. And her husband did well πŸ‘πŸΎπŸ‘πŸΎπŸ‘πŸΎ

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    8. Anon 18:00 we come from same bush....bush mates.

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    9. Slutty chic, you are very stupid in your thinking.
      Yes, I think you deserve some of the insult to reset your brain.
      Desperado... Marriage is highly overrated. BTW I am a married woman.

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    10. If you think you’re dealing with someone with common sense, read her comment and responses again and you’ll realize this slutty is not worth the bother. Imagine someone talking about marriages and ills of the society and she’s talking about lesbian sex. #smh

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    11. Sluttychic I understand you are trying so hard to get in the good books of the male BVs so, they'd see you as non problematic and marry you ba?
      Its alright, you've been noticed!
      Congratulations...

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  7. Stella really?

    Yesterday you asked the poster to enquire from her cheating husband "if he uses protection to cheat"

    Their is this trend of attributing cheating to what the woman is doing or not doing and how the next man may do same.

    I'm not here to put anyone down but we need to revise our value system, somethings are now viewed as "normal" and overlooked.

    Please the next generation is looking up to us.


    Thanks.

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    1. Fact is when you hear someone you dont know died,it doesnt matter to you,until you hear your loved one just died,then you will know what wailing is. All the people saying she over reacted by insulting the community penis,should shut their eyes and imagine catching their husbands with another woman,then we would know their reactions.

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    2. anon 16:13,I wish I could hit the like button a 1000× for this your comment,it is easy to give advice when one is not the victim,some will start hating you cos oga said good morning madam,talk more of cheating. mshewww.

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  8. Madam poster, u over reacted, he didn't do well but then marital issues are handled with maturity... I think you are even encouraging him to cheat more. Better apologize to him

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    1. Wow! Just wow! Why wont men continue to feel like its their right to cheat? O ma se!

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    2. unbelievable, she should apologize after being cheated on. Nigeria can't move forward with this mindset. A man cheat the wife apologized. una try.

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    3. Seriously? its obvious you are not married yet, wait till your darlyn husband breaks your marital vows and maybe brings in loads of STDs,then you will apologise to him for enabling such character. Anakogheri#

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    4. Excuse me!!!!! Apologize for what exactly!???being cheated on??? SMH. E be like relaxer dey your brain

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    5. Na wa.what won't I read here bikonu

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    6. Cute delight, please, let me apologise on her behalf:
      My beloved husband and King, I am So sorry I led your penis into another woman's pussy. Please I did not intend to make you cheat let alone insult you after all I did to push you away.
      Please forgive me and it would never repeat itself ever again. I promise that no matter how badly you cheat, even if you bring other women into our home, I'll entertain both of you very well by preparing your favorite meal.
      I promise to do better my King.
      I hope I've been forgiven?

      Rotten, foolish, gutter advise!

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  9. So you are the one without peace even
    after all your insults on
    this weakling of a man?
    Let's see another scenario -supposing
    you kept quiet after he knew that you
    know what's going on... cook food especially for your kids, serve him etd.? Then you quietly and digitally
    plot your move, come here and ask
    these questions, seek legal input etc.

    Won't he be the one trying to decode your next move?

    A lady I know behaved exactly like
    I described above and for 2 months,
    the man was really in real pain,
    sending her texts of pleas everyday
    and reporting himself to both
    families to come and beg her.
    The man stopped eating the foods out of guilt, did not ask for sex... even when
    the lady did not shut it.
    After the fourth month, the woman
    knew that the husband was truly remorseful and pulled the plug off
    the divorce suit she had already asked the lawyer to file.

    Today, this couple had three more kids
    making it five. The so called lady that did this with the husband had sent a clergy they know to beg the
    woman for forgiveness and confessed to
    having used marine powers to get the man to dump the wife and marry her.

    Sometimes, it is good to be silent, while you think clearly and
    plot your next move.

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    1. Tell them. I dont have time to shout and nag. I make plans and execute, that's more painful for the man.

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    2. This is more like it, not for people to be advising her to go and apologize!

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    3. it's not in all cases, and not for a man without a conscience,my friend dis all you said, he was remorseful for few days, after which he increasesd his time for coming home from 10pm to 1am, she was still forming good wife and sense until he started sleeping out in the name of clubbing.
      A woman should always react so that her hubby will have a kit to fear for her.

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  10. Oh God! The rate at which men break their vows is really dusturbing.

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    1. Applicable to both genders.
      If I am correct,women top that list.

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    2. Madam slut,speak for yourself. And if women are cheating on their husbands,lets not forget that men have been doing so for centuries

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    3. Ano slutty is right. Go out and see what's up. Women have been doing it for centuries too but with so much fear and secrecy but not anymore.

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  11. Poster you funny gan o! So after all the rain of insults & bad vibe displayed you plan to divorce him and take the kids too huh? No doubts, he did you wrong... But aku na esi obi ike nnwanne. How do you plan to achieve all these when you ain't got no money? Wetin you gain if you suffer those kids for nothing. Pls relax, fix your fury...you go dey alright.

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  12. Uncouth woman, you have lost out.
    Probably you pushed him to cheat on you with your loose mouth.
    Court won't give a jobless Wos like you a custody of your child.

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    1. Lost out you say. is a cheating husband a prize. I hope when your sister come crying about her husband cheating you will go give her husband a pat on the back and call your sister uncouth mouth. You are just irredeemable.

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    2. Isnt it ALWAYS the woman's fault? Women,ndo.

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    3. Are you normal? She pushed an adult to sleep with other women? radarada...

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    4. It's like you're all mad.
      Advice her differently and leave me alone. Is that too hard?

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    5. Don,I have officially confirmed that you are a fool

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    6. Yes it too hard, don't always be too fast to condemn women even when it glaring the man is at fault. All of you always supporting thrash I hope you will do same when it happens to your sisters

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    7. Dont mind them. All of them claiming saints and human rights activists here all cheat on their husbands. Push her to leave her matrimonial home without any income na.

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    8. Anon 17:19 thank you.
      If she listens to them, she will suffer greatly.
      She should get something to do and be happy.

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    9. Don, you are not only mad, but also sick in the head. All these backwards bunch on here.

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    10. Faceless hypocrites. Are you not the same women that write on anonymous post here, committing all sorts of atrocities in your matrimonial home?

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  13. Sisto, wetin make I say, all men cheat abi, watch war room, join a gym, get a job and like Stella says, the next man, an angel,like the devil you know, some women cheating is a deal breaker, I know you are hurting,but you need to be realistic here, can you forgive, if you can’t, I won’t want you to be hasty in divorcing him, give it time, move out, work on your self esteem, learn a skill or get a job and guard your heart but still give time for reconciliation, and if you can’t reconcile with him, move on, this one too shall pass, all men are scum

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    1. You obviously haven’t met a good man.
      Check yourself first before “scumming” all men.
      Some of you have bad characters and spirits.

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  14. Stellz, there was no true love in the marriage. This is always the consequence of a loveless marriage...

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    1. This is not about love or no love, cheating is a deal breaker for a whole lot of people out there. I am glad she insulted him and hurt him with her words, i would probably do worse.

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    2. True love doesn't cheat, neither does it habour hateful feelings towards the other...

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  15. Stella i don't agree with ur notion that 'so because he cheated ..." she lashed out from a place of hurt. Only those who have been dealt the piercing knife of infidelity would understand her hurt. Poster I think your emotions are all over the place, understandably so, but u must calm down and think carefully. You can also talk to your husband when you are calmer. Am sure most of the things u said were said from a place of hurt so calm down and think. You mentioned seperation or divorce but I think you should calm down and think before making grave descisions. All the best.

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    1. You made a very valid point...Some people need to wear others shoes before giving their opinions.

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  16. Stella,sometimes your advice no dey make sense o.
    If the tables were turned in this case, the man would probably beat her up and send her packing. Why should she stay calm?
    Y'all steady make men believe they are doing us a favour by staying with us, even though commitment should be both ways.

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    1. 15:21 chop knuckle abeg..Imagine the opinions littered here. Would the man have simply insulted her if she was caught cheating? We all know the answer. So shes supposed to accept his misdemeanour and probably even apologise for enabling such. Rubbish!

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    2. It's this blog I've actually seen that even women are misogynists.

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    3. Can I chip in?
      Women are always at the receiving end of everything.
      A man cheats on his wife and women are blamed for either seducing him or pushing him out.
      C’mon! Are men baby dolls to be controlled and defended?
      They are human adults with minds and the will to make decisions.
      Nobody can “make” another person do what he doesn’t.
      We all have choices, men and women.
      The posters husband CHOSE to cheat on her.
      If he discovered at the last minute that the chic he was about to sleep with had a deadly STD will he still go ahead “because his wife pushed him to cheat”?

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    4. Beat her up or even kill her. The idiot is talking about insults, he is mad!!! Were you supposed to pat him on the back?

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  17. Naija 21st century wives!😯😯😯😯
    Okwa unu no dey take nonsense?
    Ngwanu, after you dish insult serve,
    no be you dey write chronicles?
    Ajuju n' ese okwu
    You finish scattering ya marriage come dey ask us to do magic okwa ya?
    So how you go collect children na -you go kidnap them vamoose?
    Ajuo m ajuju πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♀️
    Now, you wan on top of the insults call family conference say oga
    play away match -you be match commissioner? πŸ“£
    True true, ya oga behave like nama, like nkita or anything but you come
    behave like nkita wey carry ganja cook soup for.

    Sisi, make you cool down, you no go fit get those kids for Naija o.
    Make you settle this matter for between two of you and no bring third party.
    If at all you wan inform anybody, make im be ya dad wey collect bride price from this man.
    Many Naija women dey talk tatatatata
    before them begin think. Instead of
    thinking before they talk.
    You just show say you be Naija woman true true. πŸ‘Ά

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    1. You think betrayal is easy? Some of u have no sense. You don't have to agree with everything Stella says... Think for yourself. How is she suppose to calm down after catching a cheat!? People react differently to situations. Madam poster, you did nothing wrong.

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    2. Idiot, would have been shocked if you made sense.

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    3. @18:49
      Wawu
      Them do do wine carrying for ya head
      You come change ya name to that first word wey
      you write there?
      E good o -congrats inugo?
      😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

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  18. Infidelity ajoka! Nne I wish you good luck ahead. Woman look for ways to empower yourself financially. Stella subtly condones infidelity. But all persons are not the same. From asking people not to snoop and then telling off this woman.

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  19. Haa! Stella im trying to understand your red pen lines here! Her life partner offended her,she reacted in the way she deemed fit and youre saying what exactly? Would you rather she poisons him or better still cheats back? You dont beat a child and tell the child NOT to cry or HOW exactly to cry,who does that? If the husband broke their marriage vows,whatever comes with it is up to them.
    Madam,poster do not rush to make a hasty decision because of a wayward husband.Ask yourself if youre ready to train your kids alone? Are you going to re-marry? Can you live with the community penis without sleeping with him again? Take time to sort your self out before you take any life changing decision. Stella enable my post ooo...ok bye!

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  20. Chio my husband just found put that I paid our children's school fees waiting for him to pay so I can get my money back he over heard me discussing with the head mistress what do I do now.

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  21. All of you that are insulting her for insulting her husband have obviously not been hurt! Are you guys kidding?!!!. So she should have just kept quiet abi? Do u know what kind of hurt she has gone through?

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    1. Marriage is not for the faint hearted!
      If you cannot tolerate infidelity,dont get married!

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    2. Says a side chick. Just shut your trap abeg and let sensible people talk.

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    3. I pity you pinklady, it like you have never experienced love pls pray for one. So women should married with the mindset that the husband will cheats. This is unbelievable.

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    4. 16:33 it's like you don't know her story. I genuinely feel sad for her to have reached this level of life.

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    5. I honestly can't believe that Stella dished out such an advise. She seriously fall my hand.

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    7. Chai pink lady... I don't think men in Nigeria will ever stop cheating... See the way u think? I'm so sad reading this... I'm gonna triple my daughters self esteem, and I will train my son to sooo respect women, mehnn...

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    8. 18:10 she apparently lost her self esteem ages ago. Sad to see.

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  22. Poster men are like that except for few that understand the Biblical principles.

    You shouldn't have insulted him the way you described here. I pray God restored peace in your marriage. Divorce is not an option. Go on your knees.

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  23. I can't believe Stella wrote that, in this same Nigeria that a woman is thrown out immediately after cheating is what you are saying the woman was wrong for just insulting the man. I hope women would also only get insulted after cheating. I can't believe people are really against this woman. with all the STDs flying around town.

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  24. You insulted him after he has cheated na, so why do you people say she has pushed him in the arms OF another woman?

    Don't mind him abeg, this 1 na 1/1.

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  25. You are a stupid woman who thinks she's smart!
    First of all,you have no right to insult your your husband,no matter his offence(except violence).
    You dont have a tangible source of income and you decided to be stupid and unapologetic!
    Since you are already planning on leaving him,why did you give him bullets to shoot you?You could have tolerated him for a bit longer and then execute your plans.
    If you are not careful,you will lose everything and end up on the streets where men will take advantage of you!

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    1. Dear pinklady... apparently you are not married. You know nothing about the feeling of betrayal that comes from been cheated on. I pray karma visits you soonest, and because you said anyone that can't stand being cheated on shouldn't get married, May you never get a faithful man.

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    2. Stop posting nonsense, it really disgusting. get married first and be cheated on before posting trash.

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    3. She was a side chick who is now being dished her karma raised to power 100, so this is pinklady's consolation πŸ˜‚

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    4. Useless side hoe

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    5. people like you are out there to destroy marriage...you said she has know right to insult her husband simply because its a right to cheat in marriage isn't it?.
      you are so lost and all you need is love to cure this madness of yours veteran side vulture.
      stella pls post.

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    6. A woman does not need to go gaga because she caught her husband. It's painful, it hurts but a woman can look for a better way to deal with such men. Imagine after all the insults, you are not sure if you want to stay or go rather than the man crawling for you. And on top of it all, at your young age, you want to call family meeting. Tufiakwa

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    7. This is steffy so fly, oh yea it is you. You changed ID again?

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    8. YOU are actually the STUPID one who thinks she's smart.

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  26. The way you blame women whose spouses cheat is unbelievable. If she accepts the first, more will follow as the man isn't even remorseful. If she gets HIV through him, you would blame her too. The way some people blame women for every issue in their marriage eh, I pity their daughter in laws. They would be shooting themselves in the foot going to you guys with issues because everything will be their fault.

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  27. My dear you don't need any family people to come and settle quarrel between you and your husband. Try and forgive him. Thee option of getting a divorce because he cheated on you, pls squash it. No man is a saint. Just make sure he takes care of you and children and that he uses protection. May God give you grace and wisdom to handle this.

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  28. Before every woman gets married, be prepared to face infidelity. Pray against it but still be prepared. Play out the scenario in your head of how you will react if he does cheat on you. If you see yourself as someone who will not be able to stay, start working towards financial independence very early. Or any other kind of exit that makes sense. If you intend to stay, make sure that you have non negotiables. For example, flaunting it in your face or getting an ogbanje prostitute pregnant. If you intend to stay, make sure your staying is tied to a goal that is very very worth it and you could probably intend to leave at the end; but at an appropriate time. For example, some women marry all their kids off and then file for divorce. Some of them want to get their immigration papers first. Decide all of these things in your mind before getting married. You don't have to tell him all of these details. He should just know that infidelity is a deal breaker for you. You don't have to explain why or what you will do if he plays away match. Keep your plans to yourself. This woman's emotions are all over the place seemingly because her expectations were high. She went in not prepared and that is why it hurts this much. It's not like it's not supposed to hurt at all but it would have been a bit more bearable if she was a bit more prepared. I know what I can take from a man. Some of those things will even sound crazy to another woman. If I say some of it, you will shout God forbid. But when I will leave him, it will be lightening fast and a really zen process.

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    1. Ajebo confidential,i agree with you. Even though no woman prays to be so disrespected,we should always be prepared and guard our hearts. May God help us

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    2. This is easier said than done. The hurt is usually so much especially if it's the "first" time! Nothing can actually prepare you enough for it, except for those who already knew he was a chronic womanizer....

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    3. master strategist.. little Finger herself..... No truer advice has been given...

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  29. Poster, there are other ways of dealing with a cheating husband. You went too far using insulting words that would break a man and make him commit suicide according to you. Control your anger and deal with issues with wisdom.Though what he did was wrong but don't push him too far if you don't have source income.

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  30. She only use her mouth to pour out her anger. My dear just forget about it and make up with him even though I know it will not be easy especially wen u trusted the person with all your heart.

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  31. Let me also tell you that leaving a cheating or abusive spouse you already have children for is not as easy as it sounds. Except your ex is Ted Bundy, he will have joint custody with you. He will remain in his children's life forever. Then, he will remarry. Your children now have a step mother who will potentially have a major say and control your husband's decisions, concerning the children you both have. This woman can even be the person he cheated on you with. It can be one small dirty girl that you thought was below you. This is why it is not easy to just pack your bags and go when children are involved.

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    1. And this kind of mindset is the reason why some Nigerian women stay and die in the process. Most 2nd marriages are the best.

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  32. If you can't tolerate a cheating spouse,please leave and stop disturbing!

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    1. Mscheeeeeewwwwwe, see them

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    2. πŸ‘..you forgot to put they shouldn't even get married at the first place. I wonder what our mothers teach before most of these marriages take place

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    3. Steffy rest oh , we know it is you. Only you can support this.

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  33. Why do we judge differently when it comes to the issue of cheating. if it was a man that wrote this, everyone including Stella will be so aganist it but now that it a man people are leaving the bone of contention to rebuke the woman for mere insulting. which man will take a cheating wife back. mere insult the man can't take it. nonsense.

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  34. I don't know how your hubby takes silent treatment, I would have suggested that. When you give him serious silent treatment,and suggestive behaviours that will indicate you're aware of his cheating, he'd become uncomfortable, guilty and restless. I mean you'd go about your normal routine in the house, but very cold towards him, he won't even know what your next line of action might be ,hence making him become fidgety and sober. There is tendencies he might come around afterwards repented, while you guys make up. I'm only painting a scenario /making assumptions. I don't live with you guys ,but I don't really think insult is the best bet in situations like this. Now,you'd be forced to say sorry.

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  35. I really can't fault you for insulting your husband because he deserves it. What else are you expected to do in such circumstance. Any woman will be angry and lash out.
    However I will advice you to think well before leaving your marriage. This only doesn't affect you but affect your kids life also. So don't be rash to make a life changing decision out of anger.
    You can move in into your kids room. Take some time to reflect on everything that has gone on. Also cook for the family. Don't your kids eat?
    Don't make him any special meals but general food for the family and get one of the kids to serve him his food.
    Your next step is trying to get a job. You cant divorce and get custody without means of livelihood and shelter. Madam so think well.
    But my advice to you is to not leave your marriage if this is the first mistake he is making. Give him space in the house while you clear your thots.
    All the ndi you don't have self esteem bla bla. I hope you all will donate money for her when she leaves her marriage and don't shame her for being a single mother.
    I am of the school of thought to work out a marriage if DV isn't involved and the man makes a promise to change and work on their marriage together.

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  36. SERIOUSLY sTELLA YOUR COMMENT GET K leg. We women are the one helping men to cheat and eventually they come home to give us deadly diseases and God forbid one lost her life, abeg who will take care of those children. is it not better to live all this randy useless men alive than to be dead. for everyone saying the one did wrong i swear you are wrong. it is high time we women begun to speak against all these useless men that think they are gift to us

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  37. It baffles me how a woman would divorce her husband because he cheated..all these 21st century wives, I wonder. I know there is a question of STD and what not, but what happened to our long lasting marriage of old days. Pls madam go and sit down with your husband and sort out this problem. And to top it all you are jobless and penniless..like are you kidding me..all of them that are shouting divorce him,walk away are just deceiving you. Most of them are working class ladies and can own their own if anything. And before you start judging me,I'm a very comfortable married woman of many years by God's grace, American based at that. So I've seen it all my dear. Forget what is trending and put your family in order. A word they says is enough for the wise.

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    1. What is this one with zero self esteem saying abeg? So in Amelika where you enable your dogband who brings home stds you have seen it all that it's a taboo to leave a cheating spouse okwa ya? You be original Busu cat.

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    2. Anonymous thanks for for the compliment dearie

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    3. America based so we should now clap for you or what? Mschew

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    4. Comfortable married woman πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

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  38. Poster, what your husband did was very wrong. Cheating is highly prohibited in my book of principles.

    It seems you said some very harsh words to him which he really deserve for breaking the vows that both of you took before God and men.
    I do not support you not cooking though.
    I will advise you to start cooking and remove your mind from divorce for now.

    You don't have a tangible or sustainable business or job and you want a divorce and then, seek for full custody... This will not work out to your favour.

    You can actually call your husband this evening and tell him how you feel for hurting your feelings by defiling the bed.

    My dear, try and work things out with him (at least, there is no domestic violence involved)

    Divorcing with little kids can take a very bad toll on you and then, you will be going from one social media forum to the other just to trash talk men, even though it's just your husband that offended you.

    Getting full custody is not an easy thing in Nigeria (so I heard).

    Please, do not settle for divorce, work things out with him and start cooking.
    Never you punished any one with food.

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      Dalu -thank you
      You don yarn my Naija 21st century women some sense
      Ha ga anukwanu?
      Either them go brand you "MAN" or them go send
      thunder and nkita are come ya smooth 🀐🀐🀐🀐
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  39. I will not cheat to revenge a cheating patner but trust me my revenge is always brutal,not for the emotional ones.you ain't perfect which is why u retaliated with insult.if you feel remorseful kindly beg for his forgiveness who knows he might also beg for his too if he hasn't.if he doesn't just know you freed your mind already.

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    1. Poster, don't beg him... Never do that. He is the one who betrayed your trust. It is not easy to be betrayed. You have done nothing wronged.

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    2. Wrong... Sorry

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    3. Maybe all the judginas judging her who have preferred her to say she will cheat in retaliation. A man breaks his vows he took before God and his partner, his partner gets upset and curses him out, the wife is at fault.

      Madam, just know that if you go begging and groveling, you have officially endorsed cheating in your marriage.

      You guys need to thrash out the infidelity first before talking about insult. Insult is inconsequential and not the bone of contention here.

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  40. You lashed out that much because it hurts and coupled with the rubbish you have been taking from him for so long. Madam,you didn't overreact,ko easy jare. Please,tread slowly about the issue of divorce;how do you intend to care for your kids? E fogbon se o

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  41. Stella, you now titled the chronicle "Insultive Wife" instead of "Cheating Husband." What led to the insult? Wasn't it cheating?

    Weldone.

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    1. You see what I seeing, sis. Title is foul af.

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    2. She has every right to insult the man, she is human and hurt.
      But one shld never make a hasty decision when angry. She needs to think..She can't even support herself or kids right now.

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  42. My comments are here and there, I know.
    You didn't mention the rest of the rubbish you have gone through in your marriage. Case in point, if he beats you or is an occultic man then leave and file for divorce immediately. If he consistently cheats and has infected you with an STD, you should be at least, seperated from him and you can pursue a divorce at your discretion or based on your assessment of his willingness to work on his weaknesses.

    What should you do now? (Based on the assumption that it is just cheating and an isolated incident)

    Do not apologize. Start cooking for him. You need to talk about this and he should show remorse.
    Go for couples counselling (not at church). If you can't find or afford a professional, look for a God fearing, very educated couple who have been married for at least 35 years, to counsel you.

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  43. Poster, you are reacting in a very very emotional way. Cheating is the worst. I have been there. But you need to control your emotions. Think like a man. Revenge is a dish best served cold. 1. Get the evidence of his cheating and or abuse of you if there is any. Screenshots, printed emails, photographic evidence, receipts etc 2. Build up your war chest. Gather as much money as you can and I mean serious money. Gp back to work. Set up a small business. 3. Do not reveal your plans to separate or divorce. Nigeria favours men. He will throw you out and you will be homeless and lose your children on top. 4. Leverage any feelings of guilt (if he has any) to get money and other material things you can sell off him. 5. When you have enough money in place, sell anything sellable in the house such as the generator if you have one. Next, leave as in disappear with your children. Do it during the week or when he is away. 6. Change your phone number and be prepared to shoulder all the responsibility of looking after your children for a while. 7. Do not tell even your people your location. 8. Start divorce proceedings

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    1. My personal person, we think alike, "stoop to conquer" then disappear. Checkmate.
      We women need to put our emotions and tongue on check, be more calculative, give it time to sink, cry it out, think it through, weigh your options, then act.

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    2. Very very very childish I swear.I am a man.Been married for 10yrs.She will live to regret it if she tows this path

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    3. Anon 16:09..i love u

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    4. Emotionally damaged woman @anon 16:09

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    5. And I'm a married woman. . I "towed that path, and I'm happily married to my second husband for 15 years. See this cheat hyping his fellow cheat@anon18:33

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  44. Poster I dont blame you, I believe he pushed you to the wall.
    The pain of being cheated on is something else.

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  45. This life is hard o... See how everyone is descending on the woman as if she lashed out for no reason. Even the caption sef as if she insulted the guy without provocation.
    I don't understand you o!!!!
    First it's don't snoop, now it's bear it if you are cheated on. Ok so please tell us what she should have done na?? Pray?? Close her legs? Or the most ridiculous, stupid and dumb of them all ' insist on using condom'
    Anytime I see that insist on condom rubbish here eh?!! I don't know whether to laugh or to cry. Please who has given her husband condom to use on her before and he actually did ?? Let the person come out hereπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.
    Na so them go dey sharp mouth.
    Not like I subscribe to the idea of raising hell if a husband cheats. IMO, a man is the head of the family and any behavior he exhibits will be adopted as the official family guideline as the humble and submissive wife that I am πŸ˜‡. No time for ntikasi isi.
    Madam please take it easy. You are jobless and penniless so this battle is beyond you. As it is , if you are going, forget the kids cos you can't care for them.
    Let them call the meeting nne. When you reach there humble yourself. Act film for them. Be very sober. Any apology they say you should do, just do it. Nobody will allow him to send you away because he also did a bad thing. They will only advice you to bridle your tongue and respect your husband. Take that advice seriously. Console yourself with the fact that you have told him your mind. I'm not talking about your divorce or seperation because I know you are just joking. If you really wanted out you would not be here writing dear Stella. A husband should be worshipped. How you worship him is a different matter all together😈😈😈. Guard your peace jealously.

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    1. HahahahHa my aunties friend of about 50 that wanted to divorce her husband for cheating in US and she was damn serious. Kids are already out of university anyway.She already saw divorce lawyers.
      Both families started begging her and the man too. I was just laughing how I see the man using her DP up and down now,smthn he never did before.
      He has sobered up now. Took her on 25th anniversary holiday and new car. And the lady still looks damn good and has a good job. He knows what he cld have lost.
      But she showed him. See both sides of family begging her before she agreed to stay. They need to show some of these men sometimes.

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    2. Shakara is you me? Are me you? This write up here seems I wrote it...Chop knuckle jare. Dear Woman,that has sense wear your thinking cap tightly...Kapish!

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    3. Oh thank you. You just typed what I didn't have the presence of mind and strength to type. I don't understand half the comments fa!
      Ordinary insult and not cooking? So she should be cooking while she's hurting? Lmao I just weak abeg. Like you said, poster should just calm down and strategize herself but the man deserves the insults

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  46. No man likes a woman that has no reaction to his cheating.

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  47. Stella this your comments sounds somehow abeg.

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  48. Wow! Quite the firecracker, aren't you? Sweetie, maturity is needed before you get married. Age is not as important as maturity when it comes to marriage, unfortunately, a lot of immature people are still rushing to get married.

    When you don't handle issues appropriately, you, the offended, become the offender and suddenly your husband's infidelity lacks the gravity it deserves. Most of us are now distracted by your suicide inspiring insults and how reckless it was of you, than to concentrate on consoling you for being cheated on. This is what happens when you can't get a grip on your emotions. Your hubby's infidelity now takes second stage.

    I can appreciate the sentiment behind your lashing out or wanting to hurt him the way he hurt you but, darling, did you have to go that deep? You are financially handicapped and you have kids, what if you succeeded in making your husband commit suicide, do you realize the precarious situation you would have been in? When your temper finally cools, let's say 4 months, perhaps after he has been buried, do you think you would be able to live with yourself? The guilt alone may make you take the same path. So what happens to the kids?

    Honey you goofed big time, there are better ways to handle a cheating husband. What's even more infuriating is, you don't have the balls to back this up. Your immaturity is shining through like a polished shoe. You've done the deed and you are the one writing in to ask if you were wrong? Now you are concerned about not being faulted in the family meeting. You shouldn't care. So what if you are faulted? He cheated, didn't he?

    It's probably a good idea that you've stopped cooking for him, because with your fiery temperament, you could poison him and justify it. Darling, it was wrong of your husband to cheat. Now you've made up your mind to at least separate, hoping to divorce. Wanting to take the kids with you when you can't take care of yourself let alone the kids, is a very selfish move. Don't snatch your kids from the comfortable home and the normalcy they are accustomed to when your life is not in danger through physical abuse. You can remain in the house and keep your legs closed so you don't get infected. That should be easy for you, you've stopped cooking for your husband already. I know your emotions are all over the place now but the main concern should be the welfare of the kids, not your crushed pride and broken heart. That's what motherhood is all about, sacrifice! A mother will gladly swallow a bitter pill just to make sure her kids are safe and secure. It's a different matter if you didn't have kids.

    You should really work on your temper and how super reactive you are. This time it can be fixed, your next fiery outburst may come with deadly consequences that you may live to regret the rest of your life.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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    1. Matured people don't cheat. The only person who lacks maturity between these two is the poster's husband.

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    2. Nice one. Thank you.

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  49. Pink lady, your comments are so appalling, it's either you are encouraging a man to cheat even though he clearly stated he chooses to be faithful to his wife, or you are justifying cheating. Please live with the consequences of YOUR past choices abeg and stop projecting this onto others.

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    1. Heheheheeee you are right! I remember how she was encouraging some men on this blog to commit adultery even when you could clearly see they weren't interested.Like she was really trying to force them ehn😩😩. But I understand if they don't cheat how would she get customersπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Even Ajuju n'ese Okwu avoids her. he/She has seen her case is irredeemable.
      You right about your last paragraph too she is always seeking consensus.

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  50. I can't believe most of the comments here. Just wow! Seriously, you people don't think the highest form of disrespect for a marriage and a spouse is infidelity? So since he first insulted and disrespected her by cheating, it's too much to return the favour by only using hurtful words. We are all entitled to our opinions but Stella's comment and the comments here have left a bitter taste in my mouth.

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  51. lol your husband wants to flip everything around and make you be the one to plead for forgiveness.

    My husband knows that cheating is deal breaker for me. I will not only insult you and all his generation, but throw him out of the house and change the locks. I told him already, he's aware of what I can do.

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  52. Stella you are not serious. So cheating is just? He had the guts to sleep with another woman and had the guts to say the wife insulted him. This wife is a quiet one ooo, if na me his family will be picking up the pieces of his skull from the floor by now

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  53. poster i hope you are not amongst those women cursing out feminist...see what changes you coukd have achieved. Better look for work..and if you stat judt know he will cheat again

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  54. Poster, sweetheart you haven't done anything wrong. You can take off with your baby and nothing is wrong with it. I would do the same.

    Don't you ever apologise to your husband for this. Don't you! Cheating is the worse you can do in a marriage. What an insult to an institution ordained by God.

    You haven't done anything wrong, you hear me. I would do more than that if found in that situation.

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  55. When you are not in someone's shoes sincerely you don't have an idea of what that person is going through, me before I for married I would have said exactly what Stella wrote up there, but see me, married for just 6 month and carrying a child, my darling husband is already cheating, at a point after crying my eyes out in this condition and almost going nut because of his infidelity I have started making plans for myself and unborn child or children as the case may be as we are both from families where to divorce sef go hard. Cheating hurts period, so whatever you can do to ease the pain please do

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    1. I'm so sorry!!!!! I hope you find peace!

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    2. Amen..Thanks

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    3. He was cheating before you got married. Hmmm... if only you had snooped.

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  56. Sdk and Nigerian women on one side.
    Naija girls and them 🐺πŸ˜₯😜on the other.
    Whosai
    No be to dey offload horseband collect child support be una aka oru? 😏😏😏😏😏
    Ajuju
    Ngwanu make una dey write chronicles
    We go dey read am like that
    😏😏😏😏

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  57. I tire for marriage matter oh. Hian!

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  58. Why is Stella rebuking the lady.There is sooo much hurt that comes from cheating especially when you are doing your best as a wife to keep your home.If a woman retaliates and cheats back,una go abuse am.If she insults the man una go abuse am. Why did eve eat the fruit first naa?

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  59. To be honest these days I don't relate with Stella's red pen biko.A woman caught her husband cheating and you expect her to say "Thank you sir, you are the head of the home, please go ahead and give other women head".Why did eve eat the damn fruit first, women have suffered.

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  60. DEAR POSTER, LAST LAST YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN. YOU SEE ALL THESE PEOPLE TELLING YOU THAT YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING? THEY WILL GLADLY MARRY YOUR HUSBAND AND TURN TO PRAYER WARRIORS AND DUMMIES. WORK ON YOUR TONGUE. IT APPEARS TO BE VERY CAUSTIC. LEARN TO RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND(EITHER THIS ONE OR THE NEXT ONE).I AM MARRIED AND MY HUSBAND HAS CHEATED MANY TIMES, I USED TO BE LIKE YOU UNTIL I WORKED ON MYSELF. WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO DIRECT. GO AND READ THE POWER OF A PRAYING WIFE. MARRIAGE IS NOT A COMPETITION.

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    1. Hope you have also done hiv, hepatitis, syphilis test. If you haven't please do for your own sake. My beautiful aunt died because her husband who cheats gave her Hiv. Very tall woman she looked like miss world, she had skin like milk but she is gone now.
      She knew he was cheating but they never used protection and she never left neither did she get tested.
      Till it got to that stage she didn't know until it became full blown Aids *crying while typing*.
      Like how many wives would boldly suggest to their husband to use protection. As if the man will even accept or agree to it sef if they do.
      The only way you can stay with a man who cheats and still be safe (that is if you do not want to leave)is if you don't have sex at all. I am begging you please ma consider this not only you but all women who know theri men cheats that includes you poster. Thanks.

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  61. These days I don't read stella's red pen,I just read the comments.Women have suffered because Eve chop apple abi na strawberry first.

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  62. Poster, if you were the one who cheated, don't you think your horseband would tell you more hurtful words? Yes insulting him wasn't the best move but it was a well deserved reaction to his action and Nobody has a right to tell you otherwise. A repentant man wouldn't mind the insults cos he knows he deserves them.
    See, you say you are ready for divorce so I don't know why you care whether the family says you are wrong for insulting him. In fact I don't know why you wrote to Stella cos people will tell you things that they cannot apply in a real life situation.
    Just start planning your exit covertly. Get a job/business and get an actual life for yourself before you file divorce so you can get custody of your kids. If you have friends and family now is the time for them to support you so you can get the hell out of that place.

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    1. A repentant man would even tell her to insult him even more because he knows he deserves it. This one is using revere psychology to shut her up.

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  63. Sometimes silence commands. You shouldn't have insulted him, when you don't have a exit plan. Check yourself to know if you are driving him to another before making any decision.

    Goodluck.

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  64. I still maintain that if you cannot tolerate cheating,dont get married o,remain in your father's house and build your self esteem!
    I am a married woman and if I find out that my husband is cheating,I would not leave or insult him.There are better ways of dealing with him and he knows it.
    Most of you that are convulsing under my comments are hypocrites!
    You advice women here to leave their husbands for cheating on them yet you tolerate your husbands for;
    1. Cheating on you with impunity!
    2. Impregnating your maids(that's if you can afford them)
    3. Sexually abusing your children.
    4. Beating you at the slightest provocation.
    5. Abusing you emotionally and blackmailing you.
    6. NOT PROVIDING AT ALL.
    Are these offences not worse than cheating?
    Did Hillary divorce Bill?
    Did beyonce divorce Jay?
    How about our randy politicians here in Nigeria?
    How about our so called pastors who cheat and their wives know?
    Are they stupid for staying?
    Do these woman have low self esteem?
    If I have a low self esteem,e concern you?
    Make una take am easy with una hypocrisy o!!
    If you can cheat on him too,go ahead but make sure you have a solid exit plan.
    I am out!

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    1. Of course you will not leave him afterall you were a side chick before getting married so another side chick is simply taking her turn with your husband. See yeye epistle.

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  65. Poster, you've done nothing wrong. You have the right to vent your anger but please don't take it further. Calm down so that you can think straight. Make concerted effort to empower yourself financially. Focus on your career and on your children
    Time heals all wounds forgive him and please don't open leg until he goes for medical check-up. Best of luck. MARRIAGE TAKES MORE THAN LOVE

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  66. Eeyah! Sorry dear. You should have come here to seek our opinion before insulting him. Kinikan e ti pa aro gidigba nisin, oo le da je. I discovered they fear and respect you better when you more when react by doing nothing. It's not easy but it works. On what to advise you now.I handle people usually based on the recommendations for dealing with their zodiac. Find out how to apologize to people of his sign and apologise for insulting him. For instance for a Pisces, you have to beg, cry and explain in details. The more details, the earlier you are forgiven. Let him know you're apologising for insulting him and it doesn't change the fact that he hurt you. Start cooking already. Don't let him involve any third party.

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