STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
EXTREMELY DIRTY HUSBAND
Stella I am so fed up with this man.how can a grown ass man not take his bath for two to three days or more?he has changed the smell of my house I cant breathe well.
Stella I am so fed up with this man.how can a grown ass man not take his bath for two to three days or more?he has changed the smell of my house I cant breathe well.
I keep complaining to him on this same issue,take your bath use deodorant or body spray but that's a problem for a grown human,he enjoys smelling because he does not have nose to perceive. Because of this I have withdrawn from him,we don't cuddle or hug as couples because I hate the way he smells.He doesn't mind wearing smelling shirts that he has worn for many days. Even when he manages to take his bath,he still smells.
He is so dirty he can live with pigs if you let him and to think that he is a medical doctor. He is a disgrace to his profession because I cant imagine a medical doctor as dirty as he is,I find him so irritating that I don't really know what attracted me to him in the first place when I agreed to marry him. I just feel so disappointed in him,I am trying to love him but he is not making it easy
What do I do?
He is so dirty he can live with pigs if you let him and to think that he is a medical doctor. He is a disgrace to his profession because I cant imagine a medical doctor as dirty as he is,I find him so irritating that I don't really know what attracted me to him in the first place when I agreed to marry him. I just feel so disappointed in him,I am trying to love him but he is not making it easy
What do I do?
*JESUS!!!......I dont really know what to say oh..For someone who cringes at anything dirty or that smells,this was a horrible read for me..I cannot even imagine living with someone like this...If i give you advice eh,I will be really really harsh so let me just keep quiet and i hope i dont throw up from reading this...My skin is already crawling........
Eh,if your house is already smelling like him,you must be also smelling oh!
Could be demonic attack.start fasting and praying, give him ultimatums.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeletePlease there was a similar chronicle shared here some time ago. That one was even worse. See if you can get the link and take advices from there also.
However, one may say that this behavior couldn’t have started after marriage, wasn’t he smelling during courtship? If the answer is ‘no’ then my own advice is to create space between you both at home, even if it means moving out of the room, so he will know it’s not a joke anymore. If he knows what he did to prevent his foul odour during courtship, he had better continue. You may also help by throwing his clothes into water so they can be washed immediately (by washing machine, house help, etc, I believe you know by now that he won’t wash them)
If your answer is yes, please bear with him, as you did during courtship.
@ Mystic are we sure it’s not the same person as that last chronicle? Cos that one’s husband was also a doctor
DeleteExactly Ada Becker,I think it is the same woman
DeleteI tot so 2 Ada, except na Dr secret society code o😀🤣, is he rich? Anyways buy plenty air freshener the type that can choke,drop them in his room and move to another room.
DeleteIf he wasn't like that before you got married, your husband is DEPRESSED! Seek help. Forget the fact that he is a medical doctor. Is he gainfully employed? Does he have any medical conditions known maybe unknown to you? Something is amiss.
Delete@Adabekee and Y, true, I think that was also a doc. If it’s the same person, then water don pass garri. Madam needs serious help!
DeleteMadam, can you convince your husband to see a therapist?
Anon 18:32...you are spot on. I suspect DEPRESSION if he hasn’t always been like that. Trust me, I have lived with a loved and be in this situation, I know.
DeleteDoes he work?
DeleteIf yes,does he carry the offensive smell to work?
I know there so much chaos in a lot of places.
In the end,I’m short of words.
True, I lived with a depressed person once. They literally won’t bath for days. Book an appointment with a psychiatrist/psychologist for him
DeletePoster try this. It works like magic. Tell him you want to massage him and use your left small finger to press on his butt hole. You will see black dirty substance under your nail. That is the cause of the smell, use your nails to pack it out from there. Especially if he has hair in his buttocks.
DeleteAre you sure you have not nagged him into depression? Check what you do to him. Check could be wrong, can you be a little nice. Sometimes when we are angry we tend exhibit such character just to get at u..I remember my ex wife nagged me at a point I don't even brush my teeth's again. Lol..just for like a day anyway. She gets so irritated. That woman can nag for Africa. I have my life back. So woman check.
DeleteRead this here before.
ReplyDeleteMadam rent your own house, let him be visiting.
This is a different pig in te same profession
DeleteAnon 15:02
DeleteLol, really?
Poster didn't say if this was the situation before she got married to him though...
Anyway, I think this is the "worse" part in the marriage vow that says 'for better for worse'...
Nne, please don't abandon him, seek help with him. I only hope he's not the stubborn type...
He smells even after a bath? He must need medical attention, and ironically, he's a doctor...
U must let him know how bad it's become, make him understand the damage it's doing to ur marriage...
I can only imagine the stench it leaves in the house...
He'd need ur support to go through any treatment plan though, don't give up on him just yet, inugo?
He is seriously depressed and has lost self worth. You need to talk to him not question him or talk him down. This is one of the boldest sign of psychological /mental changes in a person.
DeleteThank you. You said it all ..
Deletemedical doctor or native doctor? He is really a disgrace to his profession! How can you change a full grown man? yuck!!!! What message is he passing to the kids and his patients? Can't deal mehn....
ReplyDeleteMy own question is, didn’t you date this man before marriage or he started to exhibit this behavior before marriage? To be honest, the change lies with him because there’s only so much you can do which includes getting his clothes cleaned and buying deodorant. If he decides not to apply the deodorant or use the bath water you have placed for him you can’t force him to do it.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know what to tell you but perhaps get a nose mask 😷 and maybe he truly doesn’t know he smells. Take him to the hospital to have his nose checked too. His problem apart from dirtiness is also laziness, there are people like him everywhere. To lazy to even brush their mouth yet they won’t keep shut in public.
Doppel will always ask DIDNT YOU SEE THIS ATTITUDE BEFORE MARRIAGE???
DeleteYou think you can have all on black and white before marriage? There are things u will never know till ure under one roof living as man and wife.
Anon, so you will not know a dirty person if you meet one?
DeleteThank you Anon 15:48
DeleteWhen people naively insist that one spouse must have seen a particular character of the other spouse before marriage, I just laugh!
Human beings are so deep, even after ten years of being together you are still discovering things, both good and bad!
If you haven’t been in it, you won’t know
Anon 16:48 and AdaBekee, you can now kiss yourselves.
DeleteSo you’d court someone for two years and not know if they take their hygiene seriously. You people always try to be contrarian even when common sense should apply. We are talking about poor hygiene here, you’re saying something else. I wonder what attracts you people in men; so when you meet a man you just go blind, deaf and dumb and miss something as little as how he dresses, his nails and other physical attributes. When he hugs you, you can’t tell if he used deodorant or perfume or worse of all brushed his teeth? Ewww I shudder! No wonder you all end up with men like these. My sincere apologies.
If I saw anon 15:48 I would kiss her/him.
DeleteI made a general reply to him/her and concurred with the truth he /she made. You can never finish knowing a person in two years. People generally put their best foot forward when dating and sometimes just turn into something else when they think they have you.
As much as you would like to close your eyes to this fact, one day you will remember it.
Doppel is just one naive single girl, you think you know it all or u can be too cautious and get it all right before marriage abi? I just laugh at u... you'd know better! You think ppl are mumu abi? They just jump and marry then write chronicles....na only get sense before marriage abi?
DeletePeople are deep like you all said. People change , lack of money change people more money change people. Job change people. Environment change people. Getting married change people. Kids arriving change people. Losing someone dear to you change people. We are human we are dynamic we are insatiable. You never can knows all. Someone can fall into depressed and that neat and lovely person becomes toxic and dirty. Just hold on to God
DeleteSmelling den. Na wa
ReplyDeleteThis doctor never begin baff since. I read this same story here early last year. Na wah o, madam you might consider contacting those people that wear white and brown, i.e environmental people, na serious health hazard. Pele.
ReplyDeleteBuy big air diffuser, big one o, not those tiny ones, with aromatic oil, keep it in every room, help him wash his dirty shirts, or no washing machine?...endure it or...u know naa....
ReplyDeletePoster u didn't date this man or what??????
DeleteI thought guyz claimed to be neater than us
@Blackey
DeleteYou yarn sense
but this "or...u know naa..." be like say e dey pregnant o
Make you come explain nkowa?
How e no be wetin I understand?
Ajuju
😉😉😉😉😉
@Lilly
DeleteWetin you mean by "date?"
No be fork them they do?
Proof?
No be Naija girl dey well stocked shop,
dude come dangle car key, mention "India/doctor",
where them end that day... no be fork for the sisi
house? oooooo
😉😉😉😉😉
If I explain, you go call me herodian or pharisee 😁😁, so I ain't explaining.
DeleteANY and Blackberry ooooo you two won't kill me
DeleteWasn't he dirty when you guys were dating? you people just get married to men with habits you can't manage/tolerate thinking you can make them change.
ReplyDeleteMadam this is your cross, bear it
As harsh as it sounds, it's simply the truth!
DeleteSome women are so desperate to marry that they willingly choose dogs and pigs as spouses. Then after the wedding and festivities, they start sending in chronicles!
nothing wrong if he doesn't bath,I don't usually bath for 2 day, and I don't smell.
ReplyDelete🙄🙄🙄🙄
DeletePoster see your brother inlaw
Nah dem
DeleteAnon 15:10: There's a whole lot wrong if you don't bathe!
DeleteMost times, people with mouth and/or body odour don't know they smell.
You need to hit the showers dude!
🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆
DeleteIt is finished!
See pig in human form.
Delete😳🙄🙆🏿♀️🥺🚶🚶🚶🚶. Dustbin 🧐.
Delete😂😂😂😂... abandoned poultry.
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteC'est fini o
I think most doctors are like that especially the ones who trained abroad.my hubby does that too.he has his own toilet and he smokes and shits there.he can poo and poo and poo for straight two weeks without flushing.
ReplyDeleteJesus is Lord!!! 2 weeks without flushing??? The entire house will be smelling. He probably would care less about cleaning himself up after pooing Pls tell me why you are still with him? Yuck!
DeleteAre you for really 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄my 🧠 aches cos of what u just post
DeleteIn chinwetalu agu voice* ekwensu enwe phone number
DeleteEwww😷😨
DeleteHaba mana!
DeleteSAY WHATTTTT😲😲😲😲😲
DeleteJESUS wept!! 🙆🙆🙆
DeleteAbeg na Pig you marry, no normal human being behave like that. He's a sick animal.
DeleteI wonder how you live with him at home and come out to be forming beautiful woman.
I know of a medical doctor couple(both Dr's) back then... They don't flush their poo until toilet is full plus other dirty acts..
DeleteHe might forget to clean his bum too. 🏃🏃🏃
DeleteThis just remind me of a female Indian medical doctor I know then with her husband, their house is the dirtiest I have ever seen ,they don't flush toilet and they pile up dirty plates in the kitchen ...very dirty couple.
DeleteOmo!!! No be lie ooo!!! My uncle and his wife are doctors, their house STINKS and they are not bothered at all. That my same aunt that saw black snake in her bathroom and calmly shut the door on it and went back to sleep.
DeleteIt seems they are so used to yama yama things like ordinary shit and dirts are just normal to them. Na wa!!!
Also dated a doctor guy that had live worms and dead cockroaches in his bathroom the first time I went there with slimy walls and oh gosh 😣😵😵😵I just faked panic attack. I gave him hypo, Ariel, hard sponge and broom ngwa ngwa ngwa start scrubbing. Funny enough he did and became obsessed with that cold sweet feeling when you enter a spotless bathroom.
Jesus ovie 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱. Thank God for my dad and my boo. Once my boo uses the toilet he must bath after sometimes I quarrel with him about it. I have even named him bath police because he disturbs me to bath always.
DeletePoster the only way you can help him is to make sure you take care of the laundry at all times, buy him deodorants, when he comes back from work and he's lying down before bed sponge him with soapy water at least the vital areas it will reduce the smell. Buy or download messages on cleanliness and make sure you always play it when he's home.
Isi gini 😫😫😫
DeleteChoi, how can I unread this especially that doctor that poos and poos and poos then won't flush....eetas finish!
DeleteThank you guys for your shared experience. You see this life is funny. Because Doctors deal with life and death at some points in their career it affects their psych. What they are showing you is they don't care. Some of them have seen death as a brother and are mentally unstable. What they see you don't see. Poster stop nagging him. Clean him up as much as you can accept him as much as you can. Except you are thinking of leaving them God be with you
Delete"You don't know what attracted you to marry him...?" Really?😯😯😯😯😯
ReplyDeleteWhy not tell the truth; you married him because he is a doctor and you think that
doctors have money or perhaps you saw the money. Do not tell us you did not
see him during "dating/courtship" with
same shirt for days.
So you want to know what to do?
Those shirts he wears, once he remove them, go and wash them. Yes.
Just be sincere, if this man finds a
business that rakes in millions in a
day or hits a political post that
brings in such, will you remember all
these.
I've seen Naija girls date/marry ritualist/yahoos that smell like rotten corpses. All they are mindful of
is spending the money and eventually they
are spent too.
A lot of them will soon come here to
chant "offload him", and they won't
blink an eye to marry him. Be wise.
15:19... U said it all...
DeleteHaba! Did you people not date? Did he just become a pig overnight? Oya divorce him na. What other advice do you want. Once marriage tire una we go dey hear different different tory. Please divorce the pig, you deserve better. I'm sure you are happy now.
ReplyDeleteShe no fit divorce dockitor ooooo. No be because e be dockitor she first marry am.
DeleteYou should have known all these while courting but the urge to answer Mrs blinded your sense of reason. I don't have an advice to give jareh cus i feel disgusted already.
ReplyDeleteIs this dirtiness new behavior? If so maybe he's going through a bout of the blues/depression.
ReplyDeleteIf it's not new... pele dear
😂😂😂 sorry poster, Stella’s comment made me laugh
ReplyDeleteWhy not talk to him and make him understand how you feel, he is a grown up man only God can change him except you starve him of s** and tell him to take his bath before touching you. That means he will only be taking his bath anytime you people want to do the do....I no know wetin to advice you jare, make God help you
You dint talk about sex, how do you make love to him? Only doggy or what? My goodness. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Maybe you should report him to his family.
ReplyDeleteStella, she’s already going through a lot... you’re being too expressive/dramatic... I now wonder what sort of advice you have for her o! Since you think you’ve not said it despite all what you’ve written.
Get a maid.
ReplyDeleteIf he pulls his shirt soak it inside water.
Buy lots of air freshener.
Buy this one is critical Sha ooo.
A day without bathing is irritating.
Or pack out and give him some days .if he begs tell him if he does not work on it u are done.how do u f.how do u suck him sef.how does he suck u.yuck!
God help u ooo.
Get a maid?
DeleteYou wan read chronicle part two...
Say fork dey cause belle?
And the maid na odor neutralizer okwa ya?
😊😊😊😊😊
A maid will bath him abi?
DeleteShe say cuddle is a thing of the past youre talking of sucking.
Mind you.... not all wifes suck, some ppl are not into that.
Sorry poster, lol @ "change the smell of my house" you hubby is an original air diffuser. God help you.
ReplyDeletePoster some men are like that, I used to know guy in my former area that smells so terrible, the first time assisted him to pack his clothes when it was about to rain the whole place was full of his body smell. Since then I stopped packing his clothes. If he enters your house the whole place will be smelling, yet I see beautiful girls coming to cook for him. I am sure they do make out.
ReplyDeletePoster involve family members and see if there is any change, if no change just give him some space. I cannotstand dirty guys.
This one weak me oh!, Ana m abia nu bikonu 🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
ReplyDeleteI have read this before, or maybe it's in comment section. How then does his patients cope if he stinks at home. Maybe you have to talk to a dermatologist to appeal to him. If his fellow health practioner talks to him, he will listen.
ReplyDeleteOr, when next he is in the bathroom to pee, put on the 🚿 on him, or pour a bucket of water over him.
This calls for a drastic intervention.
Are you not his wife? Help this man and stop complaining. Once he remove his clothes,soak them in waterms or wash them immediately,once you want to have a bath, be it morning or night,drag him along. He's your hubby for Christ's sake.Byou the time you do that for a week,he will start on his own.
ReplyDeleteBy time she is 40 she’d look 80. She is his wife, not his mother or slave and I’m sure his mother played her part well. An adult shouldn’t be dragged or forced to do something as basic as taking their bath, it should come naturally to them. You people always have something to tell women to do never the men that’s why they don’t care to learn.
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ReplyDeleteMadam,I hope you don't poison him one day because I can smell your hatred and disgust towards him from here!
He is your husband and you should find a way to fix his mess yourself!
If you are tired of complaining and you can't tolerate his dirty ass,divorce him before you strangle him one day.
I fear for his life.
Do you have a job?
DeleteAbeg manage the disaster you married as your husband. You must have seen something before you said yes to him.
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My husband and your husband are in the same whatsapp group. His own happens during the weekend and public holidays that he doesn't have to go to the office. He won't bath or brush on saturday even if he ran errands that day till mid night when I have started complaining and shouting. Some Saturdays he still won't brush or bath no matter how much I complain till Sunday night. I have washing machine so I always do his laundry(undies, T shirts and house wears others go for dry cleaning). If for some reasons I can't do his laundry he will start picking them from the laundry basket and wear them all over again. His undies are over 50 pieces so he has never repeated undies.
ReplyDeleteHe only started using deodorant and perfumes because each time we try to cuddle at the end of the day once I put my head on his chest I will perceive his armpit and i will scream. He never takes his night bath no matter what he went through the day so I always remind him when dressing up to use roll on so he won't smell.
I'm currently pregnant and I can't kiss him anymore.Each time he tries to kiss me I run away or I close my mouth and hold my breath.I hope after delivery I can still tolerate kissing him.
Help him in ways you can like doing his laundry,remind him to use deodrant and brush his teeth before leaving for work.just see it as sacrifice for love. I have a stressful job but i still make out time to monitor him.Obviously you can't bath him so keep talking about it. I don'tknow what your relationship with him is like. For my husband if I talk kindly and he doesn't listen I start nagging; in fact I start scolding him as if he is kid since he wants to act like a kid. I even threaten to tell people. When joking I call him piggy,any day he is neat I praise him. If he ask's for BJ in the night I will tell him that dick he has not washed he wants me to carry disease and I will ask him to go and bath before any show. If he wants cuddle a times i will tell him he is sticky. Keeping making drama out of it and at the same time still show support. Hopefully he will get better.
So many of you got married to animals in human form.
DeleteIt's a shame.
Don vex 😂🤣as in ehh proper animals oo they’re married to pigs and they be forming wife upandan pig wives
Delete"things we do for love" in courage the cowardly dog's voice.😨🤧😳
DeleteSome of the things people tolerate in their marriages are shocking.
One's weakness is another's strength.Kudos to you.
My God, so some men are actually like this for real?
DeleteReal pigs o ..yet if they call married women they would run out.
DeleteTueh!
Oyibo people don't bath every day ooo! So it's not about bathing every day.
ReplyDeleteEven if they don't, they make it a point to have a proper wash before going out and they brush. Person wey dirty just dirty.
DeleteThere weather is different from ours by the way most of their roads are not dusty.
DeleteExactly. It’s not about bathing every day. It’s about how well you bath. Getting the right antiperspirant too. Most people make the mistake of using perfume as deodorant, makes them stink more. As for the mouth own, sometimes it’s tonsil stones. Not because the person doesn’t brush.
DeleteWhen it comes to bad things we would remember oyinbos do it. Oyinbos are homosexuals too nah, why are we against it?
DeleteMeanwhile, the Nigerian humidity/weather is not one where you don't bathe at least twice a day. In America you can walk under sun for 1hr and not sweat...even ordinary south Africa sef weda dey different from ours.
Anon, 19:40please that tonsil stones is doing me strong thing, how can I get rid of it?
DeleteI'm sorry but you are probably not squeaky clean yourself to be able to stay around him. I cannah..
ReplyDeleteTry washing his cloths. Mob his body while his sleeping, if he refuses beat him up, stop making his meals, stop sex. Just stop everything. Someone up there doesn’t flush toilet for two weeks, some don’t bath for two days. I will use nagging and push you out of the marriage.
ReplyDeleteBest comment. Women married to pit latrines.
DeleteBeat him up? I'm filled with horror at this post and some of the comments.
DeleteAre you all sure these men aren't really kids with some sort of hormonal imbalance that makes them look grown?
I know a family where the husband and wife are both doctors and have two kids. The husband is the dirtiest person I've ever known. His dental hygiene is zero, like he's got plaques and all in and around his teeth, very disgusting yellow plaques and the last thing you want to do is to be 5 feet within his reach you'd suffocate from the stench that oozes out of his mouth. His clothes, his armpit, his living quarters you just can't stand. Very stifling odor. And I just concluded that if the wife could endure and stay married to him and even have 2 kids for him, then they've got to be birds of a feather.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. This sounds like my ex husband's wife Lilian. Very dirty and smelling doctor
ReplyDeletewow, women suffers oooo
ReplyDeleteI don’t bath everyday on weekends except I am going out. Sometimes when your work is brain intensive you just want to rest and take care of certain things. I don’t smell though. I suspect for a doctor the guy is just mentally tired. Some of us, when we are mentally fatigued we can’t do much! I am the same o!
ReplyDeleteSuch highfalutin excuses! Your intense dirtiness must have fried your brain hence the mental fatigue .
DeleteYou must be smelling, it's like people are yet to tell you.
DeletePig.
Hian!!!! Is the bath not supposed to rejuvenate you? Na wa for you oh
DeleteVery disgusting story
ReplyDeleteHmm. Can't deal abeg. I'll read comment
ReplyDeleteMadam, be on the look out . Your husband may be abusing drugs. Drug abusers are usually unkempt and drug abuse is common among health workers esp the prescription drugs
ReplyDeleteEarly signs of depression and he probably wont notice.please get him checked.Its unusual for a medical doctor not to be concerned about personal hygiene.
ReplyDeleteIf he's not depressed, then either his parents did a terrible job of raising him or he's a disgusting pig! Either easy, he's still a pig!!!
ReplyDeleteI had a corner house mate when I was serving who doesn't use sponge to bath. His skin is flaky, his head has white spots and his soles are terrible! Funny enough he doesn't have body odour but I and the 3rd corper (a neat freak) who happens to be a guy yabbed the living daylight out of him. We didn't allow him to rest until he finally started using sponge few weeks before we passed out. He's also very dirty, with dust,sand and what not in his room, doesn't see the big deal in ironing his clothes etc I hope he changed because na clap e dey take enter dance.
I know of a guy who also happens to be a heavy drinker on top of his other dirty habits. His wife has complained tire but guyman has refused to change. Comes home dead drunk and then proceeds to throw up everywhere on the house. The woman will be wiping up vomit and then drag his dead sleeping weight to the bathroom to clean up.
Madam poster, the Lord is your strength oh! Different crosses one has to put up with in the name of marriage because fathers and mothers did not impress on their kids the importance of cleanliness, leaving them for the spouse to start saying... Pick up your clothes, take your bath, brush your teeth, scrub your armpits,wipe your ass😭😭😭😭 God forbid bad thing oh! Tell me how such an individual will change in his/her old age!