MARITAL ISH
I need advice on religious beliefs in marriage.
My husband is a Jehovah’s Witness but I am not. He was not a serious believer when we met.
My husband is a Jehovah’s Witness but I am not. He was not a serious believer when we met.
It was a big issue before we married as my family opposed the marriage but he constantly assured me that it won’t be a problem for us. One year down the line, he turned everything upside down and insisted everything must be done JW way which I stood my ground that I won’t do that because we clearly agreed that religion won’t be a problem.
We have kids now and he has said that they will be trained JW way but I said no. We have to find a common ground that will make everyone happy. I told him that they should celebrate birthdays and Mother’s Day only but he refused. He said I should stop singing religious songs in his house because of the kids or pray with them because they (JWs) pray differently.
We have kids now and he has said that they will be trained JW way but I said no. We have to find a common ground that will make everyone happy. I told him that they should celebrate birthdays and Mother’s Day only but he refused. He said I should stop singing religious songs in his house because of the kids or pray with them because they (JWs) pray differently.
I don’t really know what to do. I don’t want my kids trained and trapped in such religious environment.
So ths is how Jehova witness people have started tricking other religions to marrying them? This is so wrong oh......
You and your husband need to agree on a shared middle ground, and if he refuses to honour the original agreement you both made before marriage, you need to firmly set boundaries and insist on a neutral mediator to help enforce fairness, because no parent has the right to unilaterally control the children’s religious upbringing or silence the other parent’s beliefs.
Please also note that your marriage might break up in the process of trying to set trligious boundaries....
He’s a deceitful man… he knows what he’s doing…make trouble and stand ur ground…
ReplyDeleteIt's just so annoying when some people don't stick to what was said during courtship in marriage.
ReplyDeletePoster, I really don't know what to tell you cos this is why people should marry who shares the same belief and values as them. I wish you well.
E con be like JW marriage is now the same with Christian and Muslim marriage o.
ReplyDeletewhat church do you and your children attend? If you attend JW with him then you just have to blend o if you want your marriage with him to work but if you attend a different church, you will have to involve people he listens to who can mediate
Sweetie,
ReplyDeleteThis is a serious one, and I’ll say it plainly. It sounds like deceit from your husband. From what I know, if it's the Catholic Church, it can declare a marriage null if there was deceit that affected consent at the time of the wedding. I’m not sure what Nigerian law says about it, but there may be a provision for that.
About the JW side, I know them well. Congregants can be very stubborn. He won’t give up today, tomorrow, or anytime soon. At the end of the day, the choice is yours. A man’s word should be his bond. If a man can’t honor his own bond, what kind of husband is he? No honesty, no integrity, no discipline. That kind of foundation won’t stand the test of time. If he truly wanted a JW partner, why marry you in the first place when he could have picked someone from the Kingdom Hall?
Sweetie, please start making a plan B, just in case. Your marriage is already on shaky ground. There’s no gainsaying the importance of partners aligning in the same spirituality and religious beliefs. Resentment will creep in soon, just like it already has with him condemning your prayer style and worship songs. It’s just a matter of time before he starts exercising full authority banning you and the kids from attending your own church activities.
I’ll repeat it again, start saving for uncertainty. You will need it when things eventually fall apart and the center can no longer hold.
©️ TEEJAY
My dear I am JW married to my husband who is not a JW. I can't and will not allow religion dictate to me because Almighty God gave me a brain and I am supposed to use it. I married a man who is not JW because he is a human being first of all and he loves me. I can't discriminate because of religion. I live right and use my brain and will not be brain washed as a christian. There are somethings they do that I don't follow. That your marriage is dead on arrival you shouldn't have married him. I don't force my husband to go to meetings with me. My child goes with me sometimes or stays with her father if she chooses. I will not force anyone to accept JW teachings it is a matter of choice.
ReplyDeleteStand your ground!
ReplyDeleteHe turned around one year after marriage and you went ahead to birth kids for him?
ReplyDeleteYou know what to do when you are ready
This is so wrong from the Man, and you nrrd to thread with caution as not to jeopardize the peace in your home.
ReplyDeleteI would advice you call a mediator,and invite those he respects to talk Senses into him.
DOZZYBEST.
Pele
ReplyDeleteJw men are wicked tricksters, that's there format o, believe me he won't relent o
They hardly marry their sisters in church, but will troops out to marry from other churches and add to their misleading wicked flock
Pele
ReplyDeleteJw men are wicked tricksters, that's there format o, believe me he won't relent o
They hardly marry their sisters in church, but will troops out to marry from other churches and add to their misleading wicked flock
Stand your ground oh. Fight till the end. If you don’t he will tell you to join the church or leave. As it is now you need to start planning your exit. Because it will come except you convert to JW
ReplyDeleteAll the best and fight more with wisdom than with hurtful words
Wishing you all the best
Zendaya
Stand your ground oh. Fight till the end. If you don’t he will tell you to join the church or leave. As it is now you need to start planning your exit. Because it will come except you convert to JW
ReplyDeleteAll the best and fight more with wisdom than with hurtful words
Wishing you all the best
Zendaya