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Monday, June 10, 2019

Monday In House News

Mondays give me Orgasm and I squirt with excitement on Friday...lol
How is your day going?Lauft es ihnen gut?










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URGENT RESPONSE NEEDED


I have been an ardent reader of your blog for years and you are doing a marvellous work.


Please I'm not sure if this qualifies as a chronicle but I really need advice from BV conerning the below. Please could you help me post this on Monday as I would need t to read the comments before Tuesday morning. I appreciate your work. Thank you.


This lady at work, she’s white British and my co-worker. Her desk is right beside mine and we have a good work relationship. This girl is always making jesy of my culture and religion. When I tell her something about our culture, she will twist it to look bad and then call in other colleagues and tell them while laughing at me. She knows what I’m a Christian too, and she will abuse God and even calls Him cunt. She does this almost everyday and I keep correcting her and I have also let her know that I dont find them funny.


So last Monday, she started again, told people that in Nigeria, they sell women to men in the name of marriage. I tried to correct her but she insisted and kept laughing at me and even called my sister in law hungry and can’t afford a plane ticket. One of the guys here told her to apologise to me, that’s not fair saying stuff about people she doesn’t know. She said no she's not apologising. I let her know that I’m really pissed about it. Also she has told me before that I’m too tall for a lady and no man will find me attractive.



At the end of work day, I went home really pissed. I had a lot on my mind to tell her, but didn’t want to create a scene at work, because it’s an open workspace. So When I got home, I went in my Watsap status and vented my annoyance. I knew she was going to see the story. I blocked everybody on my story except her and my other colleague, both are close. Some of the things I said on my status was “she’s way out of line today, she can insult me but not my sister in law. How dare she call her hungry and all, while she earns 10 times her salary. She likes making fun of my physical attributes while she herself is fat, short and ugly.”


She and the other girl read the status. She came into work the next day and refused to sit on her desk. She went and made a formal grievance to HR. On Friday, our line manager called me and told me and said I will be getting an email from HR in lieu of the grievance. On that spot, I decided to launch a formal grievance too. My manager said he doesn’t think it’s possible since I have a grievance against me already. I asked him to find out from HR, which he did and told me they said I’m within my right to do that. I went back to my desk and sent a letter of grievance to HR.


HR will be having a meeting with me on Tuesday to investigate my colleague's grievance against me. I heard she mentioned something about social media, that is the Watsap rant. She’s made them to believe she’s the victim while I’ve been the victim all the while just that I hate reporting people in other not to create a hostile work environment for everyone.


So now, in my rant I never mentioned her name or my work. I was just using the pronoun ‘you’.

My people please how do I defend myself on Tuesday?

Thank you all for your input, I appreciate.





Why did you take the issue to the social media?you could have just ignored her...If she has set you up by provoking you then you have fallen for it ..


If she can prove that you were referring to her and have a witness,that work place will not be a conducive place for you to work anymore...you need to get it it right...Why is your work colleague saved on your private whatsapp number?why are you discussing about your Country at the work place?why are you trying to build a personal relationship with a colleague in the office?You live abroad for Christs sakes and this is just wrong!!!...Taking that matter to the social media automatically reverts to bullying on the social media....If she has saved them and has a witness,you have no say at all.

Please from now on you need to be careful how you talk....

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BOILS EVERY WHERE



I've been treating boil since September 2018. It first started on my thighs, just when I think I'm free from the one drying up after taking antibiotics boom! Another one poops up. The ones on my thighs are dried up and now it's on my armpit.

I was at the lab in January where sample of the pus was taken for pus-culture, the results came out and I was told to use Ciprotab for another 7days, after I had already taken lots of Becham ampiclox. So I've practically taken not less than 8sachets of ampiclox between September 2018 and now. Ciprotab and even Vitabiotics Immunace.

At times I apply shear butter to soften it before pressing. I'm in severe pains as I write you cuz I have lots of it on both armpits, I refused taking ampiclox again been applying shear butter but these ones have refused to ripen. I'm in pains Stella.

I would be in the comment section. Thanks n God bless you for this platform.






Dear GOD!!!...Boils popping up everywhere?what could that mean?sounds like some kinda terrible infection  OMG,imagining it is irritating,i hope that you find help quick!!!





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COMMENT SECTION -SERIOUSLY!!!


I want to ask questions bothering me. 

Number one is I am engaged to be married soon. My man is from Abia state and I'm igbo as well but the thing is I can't speak igbo to save my life. And I'll be meeting his parents soon and they'll expect me to communicate with igbo. Pls is there a place where i can go to in Lagos to learn how to speak Abia state type of igbo. Not the central igbo o,Abia's dialect. Pls help me out!!! 




Pressure already and you are not yet Married......why dont you take it easy and learn as you go along....If they want to love and accept you,they will no matter the Language you speak.






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COMMENT SECTION


My hubby was talking to his parents and I joined. It was about him coming back by 12 midnight last night. The next thing he said was that I should stop interfering when he's talking to his parents. That instantly made me feel like an outsider. Who else has felt this way with the the hubby and in-laws. Feeling like an outsider in their midst??? Tor. I just told him sorry sir oooo. Na only u get parents. Plus I can't help but think he did that to show his parents he's the man in charge so can talk to me however...





You sef,Madam i too know,why go and join in such a sensitive conversation?You are right,he probably told you off to show them hes in charge cos you probably tried to be Boss with your words and embarrass him before his parents..

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Feeling like an outsider happens every now and then and its OK....dont take this overboard.




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COMMENT SECTION - YES OR NO


Good day all, I need advice on this issue.


 My married bestie, introduce a guy to me 2weeks ago, he said he needs a wife and we have been chatting on phone but I hardly give him much attention the way I usually do. Haven't been in a relationship for a year plus now, just decide to focus on myself and my career after my relationship of 4years ended up the drain. I will be 31 this year. 


Last week I had a program in his base and so we decided to see. I actually told him I will sleep over in his place so we can have time to talk more since I will be going back to my base immediately after the program. Got to his base late and this guy prepared the food I told him I wanted to eat when I visit, slept on same bed and he didn't lift a finger to touch me, woke up following morning, prepared breakfast for me in bed, had my bath and he dropped me off at my program venue. 


I was so amazed cause have never experience such even in my last relationship the ex was a lazy ass. Now I'm beginning to catch feelings cause he ticks my ideal type of man couple with his cute physique ( didn't know he was this cute oh cause the picture he sent me didn't do justice to him).


 We have been chatting since I came back but within me I just want him to ask me to be his babe already. I want to know if I should give him green light or just be cool as usual?





Just be yourself,you might give him green light now and he will think you are loose...just be yourself and hope for nothing until the genotype issue has been cleared with tests that you will see with your two naked eyes....









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ACCOMMODATION


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DRESSES;SHOES AND BAGS FOR SALE


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VACANCY


An International School in Owerri, IMO State is seeking qualified applicants for the role below:


Head of School/Principal

The successful candidate must be passionate about learning and show great commitment to children.

Qualifications:

-A University graduate with Education qualification.
-Must have about 5-10 years managerial experience in the education sector.

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-Experience in similar role is an advantage.

-Excellent communication and Leadership skills.

-He/She must be willing to live in Owerri, Imo State.

Method of Application
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GIVEAWAY


 I have some new born(baby girl) items for giveaway to a less privileged mother. Items have been used but still neat.
Contact- 09055992413
Location-Amuwo-Odofin/Festac Town








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POP CORN MACHINE NEEDED IN ABUJA


Does BV has a working pop corn machine to sell in Abuja?
Contact is 09037434401
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REQUEST FOR LAND OWNER IN KUBWA ABUJA


I'm looking for land to buy in Kubwa Abuja, 450-900 sqm. I would like to deal directly with any landowner rather than an agent.



 Please anyone that has Land in Kubwa FCT in areas like FO1, extension 3, FCDA, Army Estate and will like to sell can contact me on 07064815393
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140 comments:

  1. You may think you’re in the worst situation ever but you forget that where you are right now is NOT your final destination. Keep going. The Almighty will bring you from trial to victory, from feeling lost to feeling on top of the world. No one can stop His Plans for you.@muftimenk

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  2. hiiii everyone. Hope you are up to something good.

    *Health Giveaway Update

    Four Bvs have been credited with 10k each courtesy of an Amazing Angel.

    Ma'am, may God release his hands of divine protection and healing as you have redeemed your promise to God. Sickness will not befall you and your family. May God continue to bless and grant all your heart desires. Amen.

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    1. Amen, God bless you Amazing Angel.

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    2. Why you no announce their names?
      I'm sure some chronic beggars will be among

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    3. Thank you for all you do SDK, thanks to the giver. May God continue to keep you and your family in divine health

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  3. Nice wig braids... Good afternoon all..

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  4. Ihn is here.aunty stella welldon o

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  5. Good day all! More buyers to the seller's up there. Maryjuana, happy camping.

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  6. This rain nawa o.cold everywhere.see as preek dey tanda anyhow.n my sexy colleague boobs is not helping matters.na only me know say no be work i dey do today for this office

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  7. Pls,who knows how I can retrieve my PUK number. I called customer care but I was told the name on it isn't mine . I changed it then when my brother gave me his SIM card.I do have money for retrieving my line. Abi, where i for get 1500naiara?
    Pls,who knows how I can go about it. All my numbers are on sim card.
    Can't eat and thinking joor

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  8. Plenty customers fall on the sellers. Good afternoon

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  9. The lady with the boil try longrich toothpaste apply some to the boil and thank me later

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  10. People are hypocrites.so nobody is even mentioning Regina married a muslim with many wives.people are only talking of how young she is.hmmmm.christians

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    1. That angle has been talked about here so let us have peace. People be quick to call others hypocrite for the same thing they do.

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  11. Office Poster Tell the HR and those involved that whatever she read on your status was not referring to her. Did you call her name.

    Prove that you have remained cool with all numerous jest of you at the office. Bring in those colleagues she calls in as witnesses.

    Do her like One Mr Churchill will do his ex wife. Deny everything as long as you didn't include her name in your status. Is she the only fat and short person in the world.

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    1. She definitely roped in herself by sending HR that line of defence. Secondly, it's illegal to talk about religion in place of work, as this could be term Crimes of Persuasion or Religious hate crimes. The scripture says "therefore be wise as serpents, and harmless as doves". Good luck!

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    2. Thank you.

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    3. Zinny’s blog10 June 2019 at 18:12

      All these Nigerians in Uk that want to have by force oyibo friend. Uk doesn’t joke with any case relating to bullying and harassment at the offie space because of mental health/ depression related issues. It’s against most policy for you to discuss anything relating to religion et el. She threw you a bone and you fell for it. That girl will go Scot free believe you me. U be black black black and she be oyibo. No chance for you at all. The only thing you gave to do is to play smart. Tell them that you are depressed about the whole bullying and harassment you received from her and make sure you go to the GP and inform them about your possible depression. Google up signs of depression and start acting oooo... you need that documented.

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    4. You should have sent this in before submitting your grievance letter so we tell youbwhat to write. Well, Insist that the whatsapp status was not for her. Never, I repeat, never admit you were referring to her. Even if it's obvious you are, as long as you don't admit it, they won't have concrete evidence against you even if she has the screenshot.
      Tell the HR that she is a racist and has been bullying you and causing you distress which has been affecting you immensely. You should have used other instances of her abuse which are not related to what you posted on your WhatsApp in your grievance letter. If you did put same stuff on your WhatsApp in your letter, tell the HR that she has been racist towards you and have bullied you on a daily basis. Call the people that told her to apologise as witnesses (don't be surprised if they deny you though).
      Next time, report first or ignore and don't rant on social media. You need to understand how things work in the system where you work. It's not like 9ja.
      After this, face your front and do your job. Friendship is not by force. Say hello to her and others and communicate when required about thr job but all person stuff should be off limits. Why you kept talking about your country, sister in law and all that at work to someone who did nothing but ridicule you is what I don't understand.
      Whatever happens, act the victim. Don't loose your temper or raise your voice at the meeting, they will say you are aggressive. You know black people with raised voices are usually found intimidating by oyibo so be very calm and articulate. If need be, cry when you are describing the torture you have endured from her and how she makes a mockery of you. If you can't cry real tears, then be sober but calm all through.
      All the best.
      This too will pass if you handle it well and not let the girl drive you to raise your voice or react in a way that will make them a kick you out because that is what she obviously wants by refusing to sit near you.

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    5. Many thanks for your advice, I appreciate.

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  12. People are hypocrites.so nobody is even mentioning Regina married a muslim with many wives.people are only talking of how young she is.hmmmm.christians

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  13. Please is Lawanson a good area to relocate to in surulere?I am looking for a good area with good security there.

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    1. Over crowded. Security might be poor. But again no where is safe. You only create your own security.

      Since it is crowded, you can stay in the place

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    2. It's lively and central. You can get access to other areas from there easily. It is however noisy and highly populated. There are some very dirty and ghetto-like areas there too. Just get a clean house with fence and gate and you will be good to go. Check the street too. Some streets get flooded and very rough during the rainy season like this. Lastly, their light is average. I prefer Iponri and this area where we have Rita Lori hotel, I have forgotten the name, adeniran Ogunsanya, Akerele, etc

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  14. What a fully loaded IHN.Congratulations to sellers and buyers.....

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  15. A lady i met in the last s/m just confess that she has a daughter.a baby mama after almost two months.i no fit carry second hand abeg.i am not crazy.how will i introduce her to my people.she just wasted my time.

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    1. With the way u type, I'm sure u are the one that wasted her time.

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  16. Is it only me who hates braided wigs?
    Good luck to the sellers.

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  17. This day you should've reported her to HR first and stop correcting her for such rubbish. Really why are you discussing about your sis inlaw at work and your country with someone you can clearly see that is out to mock you. You went off to rent on social media instead of telling her off right there and then since you couldn't report first. You're the one pissing me off here...

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    1. Exactly! Office poster you seem very childish. You should have reported her from the onset of the insults and mockery. Learnto speak up and defend yourself through the right channels, not social media. I suggest you rally witnesses to back up all your claims and grievances against her, she sounds like a racist so maybe you can accuse her of making racist remarks towards you, your country and your family. In the future ignore her totally and do not strike up any conversation with her outside of your work stuff. I hope it all works out for you.

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    2. Honestly.. Why not tell her immediately, I can't stand people like that,even if u let ur grievances known now, she will be treated as the victim

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    3. Thank you, I appreciate your input.

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    4. NwamgbotoOwerre10 June 2019 at 16:21

      Abroad poster, what that lady did can be classed as Discrimination and harassment. What you need to do is write a well detailed letter giving instances when she has said things to you and what exactly she said to you and how she made you feel.
      Say you did not report earlier because you thought she will stop.
      Try and stop discussing your personal life at work, I know it hard because you want to feel like part of them but try.
      Don't allow oyinbo people to walk all over you, some of them like to think that they are superior to us.
      Try not to go out with them, they will call you antisocial but I have learned my lesson. Because the very ones you go out to eat with will be the ones taking your case to the Managers.
      I wish you all the best

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    5. @NwamgbotoOwerre thank you. I appreciate.

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    6. Stella, maybe make a post to share experiences of working with yoinks, strategy, the good, bad and the ugly. Lots of people don’t know where to draw the line and get into trouble. Thanks

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    7. It's better not to send them. They will be the ones coming to look your face, admiring this and that about you but the moment they feel you are desperate to be friends, they start acting up. I will say hello with a big smile and discuss any office stuff I need to freely but anything outside of the job is my business and private life and none of your business. Even when we go for happy hour/hangout, I go so as not to be termed anti-social but I don't suck up to anyone. I walk around, to be sure everyone has seen me, talk to people, and quitely leave once I am sure my presence has been noted and no one will accuse me of not being there. Poster, I have written by advise up there. Just be strong and play your cards well. It seems this is your first job, you will learn from this and become smarter in navigating office politics and the characters you would meet along the way.
      Remember, don't act angry or become agitated during the meeting with HR. in fact go and study the company values once more and make sure you highlight how you are all those during the meeting. You need to convince HR you are a great fit who has endured a lot of bullying and racism from the lady.

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  18. mis_moboutique, you have lovely items.
    Where are you based?

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    1. Thanks so much,we are based in Lagos,but we deliver anywhere in and outside Nigeria

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  19. Am so down dis afternoon. My son was sick throughout last week. He could not eat nor take drugs. He has to b admitted on friday to sunday. Woke up dis morning to meet dat our generator, fuel and hubby's shoe has been stolen. Tired

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    1. OMG. Please don't be tired. Just hold on to God.

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  20. Poster with the British colleague, develop thick skin and ignore her from now on. You told her so much and now she uses them against you. At your place of work, try to keep to yourself stop overfamiliatity.

    And one more thing. Stop defending your beliefs. She has God to answer to, not you.

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    1. Exactly o, i dont make friends at work. strictly official

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    2. Thank you.

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    3. Some people are just difficult to relate with, they hate on you with little or no information about you.

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  21. Good afternoon BVs. I was mobilized to go for Nysc,my name came out on the graduation list but when ever I try to register it keeps saying no record found.my sister in his insists that the guy at the cafe saw my name on the senate list but the cafe I visited in Lagos still have me the no record found report.please is there a solution?

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    1. Happened to mw too last year. I kept searching. Even my friends joined me(i gave them my details). It was one of them who eventually found it. So keep at it. Ur sister and others can help tooo

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  22. Beautiful things for sale
    May plenty sales and profits fall on all the sellers

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  23. The baby walker seller,no phone number?

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  24. Poster with work issues, you could easily deny u weren't talking about her, by the way, you talk too much, over familiarity breeds contempt.

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  25. Work place Quarrel and social media

    If una wan poop, una go run to social mmebi
    Now you don carry ya hand scatter ya work
    The time you should have written us was when
    she was dishing out all those insults
    But now, just state your case and apologize.
    Apology takes nothing away from you. I would even
    advice that you apologize to her personally before
    the panel and it is possible when she gets there,
    she can say that "it has been settled".
    If not, them fit offload you o
    As Naija people dey worship oyinbo too much.

    ๐Ÿ“ฃ๐Ÿ“ฃ

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    1. Don't listen to this person's advice.

      Do not apologise, never try it.

      Just calmly defend yourself. Tell HR that you told your colleague a little about yourself and she has been making jokes about your religion, race and physical appearance etc. That you have tried to have a chat with her but to no avail.

      Meanwhile note, the fact that you also put in your grievance doesn't mean your whatsapp message was targeted at her.

      You can deny the WhatsApp message that it had nothing to do with her.That you are shocked at her reaction.

      Meanwhile, in all of this be sure those witnesses are on your side.Weigh your options, you either admit with evidennce + witnesses or you claim the mesages had nothing to do with her.

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    2. Thank you.

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    3. What kind if stupid advice is this? Never ever meet her to apologize and expect her to go and tell HR it has been settled. You are trying to save your job and this silly advice will get you fired faster than you think.

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  26. Goodday aunty stella.ihn is here

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  27. Poster who's tensed that she can't speak Igbo. Ekenekwam gi! We're in the same WhatsApp group. My hubby had no issues with that before we married so every other person fell in line๐Ÿ˜.

    Don't comman goan kee yourself๐Ÿ˜˜

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  28. The girl that slept over

    You have already cheapened yourself by sleeping over
    in his place on the "same bed".
    You wanted fork, didn't you? Ajuju ajuru aju
    But if you ever move to throw yourself his way
    na dump go follow ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‰

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  29. I hope they dont sack or suspend you.

    Na who report first get case.

    You should have reported her to the HR since you started getting comfortable with her insults.

    Tell them.you weren't referring to her. Or let them know what she did to you.

    Office Wahala I dont like it.

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    1. Thank you, I appreciate your input.

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  30. Boils everywhere

    Will you tell us what has been happening around
    and in-between that your laps?
    Please in everything, go and see a doctor and he
    will quickly order for hiv tests.
    You immunity seems suspect already.

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    1. Anon 14:33 don't be stupid you women always try to bring yourselves down.

      Dear poster I had similar experience years back, its called recurrent boils, you need to request for incision and drilling it's a minor surgical procedure. Most times its as a result of contaminated water. The doctor will need to drain all the purse from your system might last up to a week.

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    2. @Anon 15:22, All the same she needs to carry out HIV test but I detest the statement made by anon 14:33 to explain what is happening between her laps?That is an insensitive and careless statement.I had the same boil appearing in different part of my body some years ago.I took different anti-biotics to no avail.The doctor carried out an HIV test, which was negative and also told me to come back in another 3 months to do same test.It was equally negative and in-between he gave a stronger anti-biotics and the boil stopped appearing.Kindly carry out the test to be on the safe side.

      Cheers and Love

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    3. Boil poster, please if you 're hiv negative stop all antibiotics and stop using disinfectants in your bathing water.
      Eat lots of fruits and vegetables

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  31. Poster with recurrent boils, go n do HIV test.

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  32. Why do girls do this. You meet a man online
    and boom, you are sleeping on the same bed in his house?
    This is sad. No values or self respect. As a guy, you do not
    worth anything in my sight anymore. And I will personally book
    hotel for you and that will be the end of our communication.

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    1. Someone connected them not online na. Her friend did the connection

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    2. None at all, it's very embarrassing to read sef. It so cheapens a girl. Ladies, please let's place some respect on ourselves biko.

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    3. So? Does that make any difference?! Connected or online, it shows zero self respect.

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    4. I totally agree with you.

      I was also linked with a man by his brother .

      Even tho we're in the same state, I hardly see him because I'd like to take it slowly.

      He keeps chanting he doesn't have enough time and only came into the country to get a wife.

      He invited me over days ago to come cook and I turned down the invitation.

      See 'trial and error' with me.
      Just cos I wan marry.

      I personally don't visit any man at home unless we're dating.

      Saves me a whole lot of stress

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    5. She could have just lodged in a hotel than pass the night at his place.

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  33. Office poster have no fear, in the Legal profession, we refer to it as " your words against mine " you didn't mention names, therefore your case is simple, tell them her conscience is picking her for all she did to you

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  34. Maryjuana congrats. May your hustle pay Amen

    Girl and oyibo worker. Bible already said don't argue with fools. You went too far in trying to correct her. You try. Seems both of you dont have much jobs to do. Next time stay clear of foolish argument. Read the Bible well and know when to keep quiet. I wish you goodluck with your HR.

    The woman that shook mouth in her husband matter, next time keep quiet except you are called on it. Una body too quick to sratch una. Itching mouths everyqhere.

    Lovely sales. Goodluck to all g

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    1. Thank you.

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    2. Love me jeje.

      How you manage to "advice" and still insult in one sentence continuously baffles me.

      How you manage to quote Bible and still encourage sin is yet another thing that just makes me shudder.

      Na WA o.... You are veryyy shady. Tufia.

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    3. Poster I don't mean to say ugly things to you. But have to tell you how it is with me. If I don't castigate you small, tomorrow if the lady comes back to be your friend, you will accept sharply and I don't want you to fall for her tricks.

      I pray nothing bad comes out and sorted amicably.

      Next time, chose who you like to be colleagues with.

      Anon please put me down, I no wear pant

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  35. You have time o, madam ranter. such people you just ignore or use prayer to suppress their life. i dont have time for such. Read about how to defend yourself online, google may help.

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  36. To the lady who is engaged. No need to fret. I am sure boo knows you don't speak igbo so well, he should inform his parents so they don't expect much from you. You can start by learning how to greet and let him teach you their dialect. It can be worked on and with time you will improve if you have the interest.

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  37. Hellooo everyone, new week, new blessings upon us all.

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  38. Madam, the guy respects you and probably wants something serious like marriage. just continue being his friend but make him know that you are available.

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  39. Boils everywhere, it happened to me last year. For one whole year I was treating boils. Untill March this year. I went to different hospitals, bought drugs every damn time. But for where? Nothing walked, until I started using dettol. (soap inclusive). Stopped using sponge and soaked my clothes in hot water. Surprisingly, it worked. Try this OK? Pele.


    Hi IHN.

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    1. How does one bath without sponge???

      I don't t think I can o... I'll feel like I haven't bathed.

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  40. That white girl wants to lose your job. Since you noticed her behaviour, you should have stopped discussing anything outside of work with her. May God see you through

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  41. The lady having problem with her colleague at work, i blame you for everything. You are the architect of your whole problem. You dont discuss personal issues with your fellow members of staff, they are your colleagues not your friends. You should learn to keep shut and not yapping away all the time.
    About the whatsapp status rant you made, if you are sure you did not mention her name in the post, just stand your ground and insist you were never talking about her.( You could possibly be referring to someone else innit...). Learn to mind your business, all this white girls can be very rude, just learn to mind your business, get yourself a CUPPA with a big mug that will take long to finish and only say hello/hi to them when need be. Strictly on work relationship no famzing

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    1. Thank you, I appreciate your input.

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    2. Honestly,she goofed when she started gisting and sharing personal info with the useless girl. Just keep her at arm's length and ignore her, she will fade out.

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  42. BV with the British colleague you made a very big mistake. With white people especially white women, they love to attack first and then play the victim, they will even cry on top. You should have reported to HR since teytey that she is being racially bigoted to you, she’s making jest of your culture and religion. Trust me those are a NO No in the work environment. Instead you carry naija sense and went about it the petty way.
    Now the mistake has been made. When you get there, tell them you were referring to someone else in your former workplace, and that why is she feeling guilty if she didn’t do anything, after all other people saw the rant and didn’t feel it was for them. Before she starts crying, you start crying. But the problem is, whatever you have said in your rant is going to be the same with your complaints against her to HR so that might implicate you. I really hope you can get yourself sorted.
    To whoever is reading, don’t let oyibo frustrate you into making a mistake. Always be the first to report to HR or your boss or the police as the case may be. These people know that the law works for them and they use it to its full extent. Don’t let them use it against you.

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    1. Thank you, I appreciate your input.

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    2. Good day good people, I saw someone write about 35k washing machine the other day, pls I want to find out, is it good and big enough for family use?, how big and effective is it?, how and where can I get it?, I'm in the south south.

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  43. I just sent my cv for the vacancy at the law firm, I pray they call me. I'm fed up of staying at home.

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    1. Poster of job vacancy at chamber in oniru, I tried sending my cv I was told the email doesnt exist. Kindly confirm

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  44. Still for the poster with British colleague. What did you hope to achieve with your rant. Even if she didn’t report you, your rant would have let her know that she’s getting to you and that’s exactly what she wants, to piss you off. She would have just increased the tempo of her jesting. Don’t be a toothless bulldog, all bark and no bite. Your story just gave me headache this morning

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  45. The lady with boil, buy augmentin tablets. You take it for seven days morning and night. Sold for 3,500 to 4,000. Very efficient.

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  46. Customers fall on you @maryjuana..

    The lady with the evil colleague, you shouldn't have taken the issue to social media, you should have dealt with her there at the office without causing a scene.
    Never let anyone bring you down, especially not a fat ugly Caucasian.
    I dealt with one like your colleague recently in the presence of every one. She's now trying to come close to me.

    The lady with boil all over her body, you should try and run a staphylococcus test.

    Madam that is feeling like an outsider, please don't take it to heart.

    May you all succeed in your various endeavours.

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  48. WOW!! IHN fully loaded. I say a big AMEN to the sign out meme prayer. Its for me!!.... Stella you remain the best. Thanks for being YOU!! Happy birthday to the celebrant, more graceful years. More customers on all sellers. Beautiful items every where.

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  49. I work in the UK and I keep my personal and work life very separate. I can't even imagine what would make me be discussing my family with any colleague. Oga, are you a learner?! These people are perfect in back stabbing while smiling with you, do not underestimate them for your own good.

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  50. When you emigrate to a new environment, please do not carry the Naija mind set with you. Work colleagues are not your friends! Particularly white women who do not like black women. You do not discuss other colleagues, the boss, family matters, culture, politics or religion. If you must talk, make it about the weather and innocuous TV shows. If there are other black people in your office, don't do parapo with them in any shape or form. I was friends with the other black in my office for 4 years and none of my oyinbo colleagues were even aware. It gave us both the opportunity to know what was being said about us when they tried their divide and conquer bull shit. You have nothing to fear from HR. Be confident and speak in a low modulated voice. Feign innocence and talk about how you get on with everyone and how you are a consummate professional. The whatsapp message was a private and personal and outside of the office space. I hope you have learned a very big lesson. Keep your mouth shut, document everything and face your work!

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    1. Thanks for you input, I appreciate.

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    2. Poster with workplace issues...The above advice is a good one.
      Additionally, if you work in the healthcare sector(which i doubt, kindly contact your indemnity provider before responding).
      If not, contact any lawyer friend abroad for advice...because the way they turn cases abroad is very surprsing and may escalate to a level you didn't expect. Your papers can even be at stake! Do not take this issue lightly please.
      Do not be quick to respond to any email, think deeply and rationally before you respond! Do not speak with your emotions.
      I cannot retriate the fact that your workplace colleagues are not your friends. Oyibos are very sly and you have to use thier own sense to match them, drop naija sense abeg. The only thing i ever discuss with them is weather and perhaps food. Goodluck and ask God to give you wisdom.

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  51. You need to check if you have any evidence to prove your point e.g. skype chats, before she pours it on your head. Most importantly, you need to PRAY HARD.

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  52. Please bvs help!
    My wedding is coming up in 2 months
    I’m light skinned but my face is darker than my body, what can I use or do on my face to rhyme??

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    1. You don't have to do or apply anything. Just get a good sunscreen and apply accordingly. Also, try to avoid over exposure to the sun. For those days that you will be out in the sun for more than 30 minutes, wear a hat or use an Umbrella and do not apply an oil-based lotion on your face. Personally, I use moisturizers in the morning and creams at night. You can try that too.

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    2. go get kojic soap nd rub whenever u wanna have your bath,leave for few mins and rinse..i use kojie san nd it worked for me without even moisturizing or better still just go get ctplus serum and use,then stop after a while

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    3. Hey i am light skimmed also. Pls apply lemon it works 110%. I squeeze the lemon juice. Dab cotton wool inside the lemon juice and apply it on my face overnight. And wash in the morning. Remember it should be used only at night. I wash off in the morning while bathing. It works trust me. U can add little water to the lemon because of its acidic nature. So it won't burn your skin. Trust me if u do this religiously for a week or more you will see changes. Lemon is natural. Don't use any expensive cream . Lemon is the best. Thanks

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  53. Maryjuana ur wigs r so beautiful....keep it up

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  54. Madam with the white co worker.Next time talk to HR before and not Whatsapp.you have witnesses and I’m sure she would’ve been fired if you did the right thing quickly enough.Now it is your word against her visible evidence.The urge to run to social media when something happens is becoming a huge problem.i pray you get out of this.

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  55. No nau. You don't discuss such at work. You gave her the liver to talk down on you and your culture/beliefs.
    Some of us are always so quick to make friends in a work environment. Its not necessary, especially in a foreign land. And you too, why do you talk down on your culture? Do hear indians or chinese talking down on theirs?? Whats your own with 'buying women' in your country?? Who ask you. Cant you carry yourself with pride, no matter where you come from?
    These oyibo will come at you as if they are interested in knowing about Africa and you too will be spilling, if you aint careful. They are very passive-aggressive and mask bullshit with a smile. You better respect yourself and stop trying to get others to see your POV. Cos when sh*t hits the roof, no one will defend you.
    Defend yourself well with HR and act better going forward.
    Good luck!

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    1. Everyone please advise me o!

      Something similar is happening to me only that it’s a fellow Naija who befriended me. All the rest are oyibos, we’re the only blacks.

      This person has turned all the oyibos against me and pretends to be my best friend. I can’t get rid of the person as they keep coming to me. I blame myself for poor boundaries at the start. It’s a mess. The Naija feeds them with fabricated information pretending that I said things when it was them thar said it. I was just lucky to find out from another source.

      This Naija person na the devil and reminds me of what the said about how it was fellow blacks that they used to sell us into slavery.

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    2. Thank you Chikito. Ididnt talk down in my culture. We were discussing about marriage ceremonies and I told her how things are done from our side. She was the one that twisted it and said we sell women.

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    3. You need to be wise and pray for the spirit of discernment. Last last say something generic and then change the topic. Don't fall into the trap they set for you by asking supposedly innocent questions.

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  56. The lady at the office, apparently even the HR dey jobless. Did u call anybody's name? Did u mention ur organization? So on what basis are they taking the matter up? When u guys get there,anyhow,just innocently ask ur obnoxious colleague, in front of everyone, why she thinks it's just herself out of everybody on earth that u could have been referring to. Let her use her mouth and report herself to HR. Then remind them that u didn't call names. Abi, freedom of expression no dey for UK? U stated an opinion which u were in ur rights to. If she starts crying, follow her and cry. Na like so e be. Don't rely on other colleagues to feature as witnesses o! If they kdn't support u while she was going at u in the office, they'll likely not support u before HR. It kd even all be orchestrated to get u out of the company, u never know. Just maintain composure and on top of everything, go to God in prayer. He takes care of His own.

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  57. Thank you soooo much Stella. I appreciate this. Please bvs patronize me ooo.what you see is what you get

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  58. Office poster, You will certainly lose if you follow most of the advice here. I live and work in the UK

    Google signs of depression and start acting accordingly.
    Make sure you go to your GP and inform them that you are depressed so that it can be documented so that when push comes to shove, you have documented evidence to build your case when the need arises. You have experienced bullying and harassment far too long... you need to tell them that you get agitated anytime you get to work and it’s affecting your mental health. Protect yourself now! Go to your GP!!! Run fast!!! Oyibo will always protect Oyibo but you wey be blackie, nobody go send you. If you mention depression, that case will be dropped and everyone will be very weary of you.

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    1. Don't say you are depressed. It goes into your record for life. HR could suggest you take time off work abi can a depressed person add value at work? They may not fire you but may look for other ways to offload you in future.

      Just state your case, you need those witnesses and let HR know the lady has been making racist remarks on your race, religion, etc, add jara one or 2 lies to make it weighty. Go and read Equality Act 2010 on discrimination.

      Your whatsapp message was not to her, it was to your sis in law, kapish.

      If they ask you why you didn't report, say you didn't want her to get in trouble.

      Please let us know how it goes and all the best.

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  59. I learnt not to leave evidence of quarrel along time ago, BV rant , your post can be used against you. Why didn't you drop your lines in her hear . Like walk past her her and say fat and ugly people too dey talk when I dey talk. She will catch it but can't say you sasaid it

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  60. Beautiful wigs by Mary Juan and Yoyos

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  61. Poster with recurrent boils, please go for diabetes screening.

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  62. The lady with the issues at work you're learning the hard way. Document everything that has happened, all the harrassment you received from her with dates and witnesses. Make a thorough case for harrassment. Next time, apply emotional intelligence. Our people do not have a high dose of that culturally but it's one of the first things you need to acquire ro be succesful if you relocate abroad.

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  63. The lady with the issues at work you're learning the hard way. Document everything that has happened, all the harrassment you received from her with dates and witnesses. Make a thorough case for harrassment. Next time, apply emotional intelligence. Our people do not have a high dose of that culturally but it's one of the first things you need to acquire ro be succesful if you relocate abroad.

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  64. LADY WITH HR ISSUE

    You messed up big time o thats not how to do things at all. I live in the UK and I am the head of the Union in my private company. I work in the corporate world in the energy industry.

    ThIS is MY UNION ADVISE

    get a union rep ASAP do not go into the meeting this morning without this. If you cannot get a union rep get a colleague to attend the meeting with you for support.

    Since you did not mention any names DENY DENY DENY and you cannot say you are actually the victim by producing all the evidence so time and dates that she insulted you and your family and name drop witnesses. Sit down and start writing those time dates and her words as soon as you see my comment.

    Remember DENY DENY DENY since you didn't use any name so they cannot prove it is about her. She will have screen shot the status and HR have a copy and will present it to you at the meeting they will ask you was it about her deny deny deny o.

    Worst case senario you will get a warning but be smart and wise next time as you let your emotions get you this time.

    End of advice

    Next time you are in his situation you keep a daily record of the things the idiot said or says who heard who got involve. You either email it to yourself as it is time stamped or you keep a written diary. Email is better sha.

    If you need more help on this case drop a message to sdk to post again and include your email and i will eamil you as i am a union rep.

    Join a union ASAP

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    1. Thank you very much. I might be going in with a colleague for support. I appreciate you taking out time to write this. Thank you very much.

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  65. BV with HR case, you are in my prayers this morning.

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    1. Thank you very much. You don't know how much this means to me. I appreciate.

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