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A STORY TO LEARN FROM

Hi Stella.
This is my older friend's journey of love and stupidity.


I met Ms Gloria when I worked at a factory. She was already 12 years old in the company when I joined. She was the second in command's PA. I was a purchasing staff.

I am charismatic and jovial. When the 2-i-c recovered from a surgical operation, I was 3 weeks old in the company but I helped his PA plan the thanksgiving party at the office. That was how we became friends. Other ladies tried to warn me of her but I like to discover people. I don't treat people based on what I heard but on what I have experienced from there.

Before long, I realised why I was being warned. This lady was dating her boss and she didn't give a hoot about it. She embarrassed every female visitor the man had. If a lady was on business, she would stroll in and out of the office just to make sure it was only business that was discussed. She was in charge of the man's breakfast and lunch and she carried out her duties judiciously.

 She had the password to his emails and made sure no romantic or suspicious mails were received by the man. She was so in love with the man and quite possessive. Twice, she warned me subtly that the man was a no go area for me. If the man gave you money in her presence, she would complain of how he was wasting money. If he gave her the same amount or even higher, then he would be hailed by her as a caring partner.

 On several occasions, she wouldn't come in her car. Oga will drop her off. She was Oga's unwedded second wife. Whatever she wanted in the company, she had. She never feared redundancy or sack because oga was in charge of hiring and firing. Through Oga's connections, her 2 brothers were established in major companies.

One day, I was so irritated by her behaviour. I insulted her by saying," most girls date married men with respect. It is like stolen goods. You don't flaunt it with reckless abandon. You chop,then clean mouth.You date this man in the most annoying manner. Your mates are almost expecting grandkids and at 43, you are still here fighting over pen#s". She cried and then opened up to me.

Her story:
She started dating Oga when she newly joined the company and when he newly got wedded. She had had 5 abortions for him. Oga took very good care of her and warned her to be faithful to him so as for him not to contract any STD. Oga likes raw(as a raw material as per factory worker).

He never came in a condom. All the times she would have met eligible men, she didn't because Oga set her in a standard where young eligible men could not compete. She was already big and didn't want to start small with any single guy. She also said that Oga's wife was unusually very healthy and happy. 

She didnt look like a woman that would die any moment for her to take over because Oga cannot divorce because he is a devout Catholic. After 5 abortions and 11 years of dating, she couldn't leave him alone since no suitor was forth coming.

Oga later abandoned her. He told her he has found Christ. True or false. 

She is 50 now. No child. All she gained were a house, 2 cars and good living then. She knows about adoptions but would have preferred her own biological kids. No man either. 25 year old girls never see better husbands finish, much more an older lady;according to her. She wasted her youth loving and fighting for another woman's husband.



My verdict

In my aunt Gloria's case, just like in the first episode of this Love and Stupidity, you can tell that these women knew that the men were happily married, but they were expecting divorce or natural death of their lovers' wives. That is wickedness. Have some empathy. 

This expectation of theirs made them go the extra miles for the sake of their loves.
"I am getting a divorce" is not a marital status. You can't find that section in any application. 

"My wife is a trouble maker" is not a matital status.

"She has agreed that we will go our separate ways" is not a marital status.

"Just say yes and I will inform her" is not a marital status.

If you ever date a married man and hope for marriage, ask to speak with the wife to know the real situation. If he says no, take that cue. 

If demand is always high, run. 

Another problem with being stupid in love is the "What if's". What if I give him this and he marries me? What if I do this and he does that? Most married men would do everything to date and keep desperate women, except marry them. 

The best "What if" is "What if I receive sense to stop this foolery?"

Hell has no fury as a woman whose love is scorned. Brain has no emptiness as a woman madly in love with a man not in love with her.
You deserve better and the best love is Self-Respect.

*WOW so many wasted years for a man that is taken ooooooooh...wow...She is there full of regrets and he has returned to his wife and kids and she is alone.I hope someone learns from this story and makes the right decision.....