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WHEN LOVE TURNS INTO STUPIDITY



Dear Stella,

I read Monday's Chronicle  about the lady who blindly dated a married man in the hope that he will marry her and how stupid she was bla bla bla.

My own stupidity is worse.

In Dec 2016, I met someone on Single and Mingles.

We started communicating and soon relationship started albeit long distance. I lived in another country..

I have a heart for people and will share my last dime if someone is in need. The sob stories started. 2k today. 5k tommorow. I think he quickly understood that I am a generous person and took advantage of my niceness.

His name is Chuks and he is a twin. He has a twin sister and lived in Abuja until this year when I brought him to Lagos.

I digress.

I kept sending money to him even when I didn't have, I borrowed.
This relationship continued for months until 2017 when I sent a friend to give him some native already made shirts, palm slippers. His thank you was that the palm is fake and the shirts too big. I remembered on Valentine's day, how I contacted a popular BV that bakes to deliver a cake to this guy I had never met . All the way from another country, I sent money to her. She delivered the cake and his response is that the cake is bad. 

The taste is not nice. Even his dad and step mum ate the cake and everyone said it's not nice.

I decided I was done with this entitled man who behaved and talked like a kid. I took stock of how much I had sent to him from Jan 2017 until June that year. It was almost 300k in bits and pieces. I counted my losses and broke up with him.
Somehow we came back together again and relationship continued. I relocated to Nigeria in late 2017 and we kept planing to meet. In all of this, I was still sending sending sending.i was based in Lagos and he in Abuja. 

My business packed up when I relocated, things were not like it used to be financially so I got a job. In all this time, I kept sending his CV out, I opened a professional email for him. I am sure I sent over 100 CVs out for him. I kept editing/ updating his CV and kept giving.

Finally in August 2018 we met.

I paid his transport to Lagos, Booked a hotel and we spent the weekend there. I paid for everything including water he drank. I wasn't comfortable with his eating habit and so many things I observed in that short period, I told him that I didn't have any more money and gave him his transport back to Abuja earlier than planned.

He bade me farewell and went to Ogba to meet another lady he met via singles and Mingles. He is a BV and reading this, till date he didn't know that I read all his chat with her and knew all about her and his visit to her place.
I got a job as HR in a small firm. I tried to get him onboard , it didn't work. 

I got another job after 8 months also as HR and was able to bring him to Lagos from Abuja. He lived with me in my apartment. I paid his transport to work, I bought breakfast, lunch and dinner for him I helped out with his job cos he didn't know much about the job but I just wanted him to work. I fed him. He slept with me. I washed for him. I kept giving money.

The only time I tested him and collected 3k to cook, he asked me to give him back."babe you know you owe me. This guy is 38 years old although he looks way younger.

I lost this new job and he was sacked although no one knew we had a thing going.
He left back to Abuja with my money even though he was paid off when sacked. I got yet another job as HR and brought him back to Lagos. This time I was tired of his misbehaviour when he stayed with me earlier so I insisted he got somewhere else to stay. He did all he could to stay with me, I refused. He finally located his aunty's house in sangotedo and started living with them.

I got him a job in my office and the pretense started again. No one had to know that we were dating. His entitled give give give behaviour did not stop. All his work clothes he owns, I bought for him. All. Except maybe 1 or 2 trousers.
I got pregnant 2 months ago and didn't know. When I discovered, I started bleeding. It was so bad , the pain . I saw a doctor and long story short, I lost the babies but one placenta did not die, it started replicating and attached itself to the walls of my womb. Started growing and this cyst filled the whole womb. Molar pregnancy was the diagnosis.

 Doctor was worried about cancer as well cos of the rapid growth. Mecure became my home cos u kept going back and forth for beta HCG and other tests whilst in serious pain.

Brother had managed to save 40k with me so we can rent a place in Dec, get married etc.we planned to save together. I paid 250k cash for this procedure of removing this growth in my womb.He didn't give a dime. He even left me in the hospital to go home to sleep after collecting money from my bag to go buy fast food. I was disgusted.

I got better, resumed work and on one fateful day his phone rang and kept ringing. I picked. I have never picked his call in all the time we have been together.( He guards it and locks it with finger print . I lobbied for him to be given money 80k within a week of resumption to buy a phone. He didn't have one, he lost it just before he came to Lagos to resume) the caller called him baby. I quickly saved the number and checked the person out on Whatsapp.

He told me it was his friend that sells singlets. I didn't believe. I contacted the girl and she was really cool. She and I talked maturedly. She is a single mum just as I am. He has also promised her marriage and they have been together for 2 years. They met on Facebook. She revealed that he has a 2 year old son with a married woman in Abuja. 

Nothing broke me more than the fact that she said he gave her 7k to cook jollof rice/ chicken for him. He collected that money from me saying he wanted to send it to his Dad. I felt so bad. Rather than apologise. He starts to misbehave. Demanding his 40k. This is a man that I feed, clothe, a man that I have spent over 1 million naira on. A man that I loved with all my heart.

I got angry and we exchanged words. He mocked me with the molar pregnancy and said it's my body that destroyed the babies and it wasn't his fault so why should he give me money to take care of myself. 

He contacted my sibling to report the 40k, I reached out on Facebook to his twin and younger sister Rita. I explained to her and she has never heard about me.4 years secret that's who I was. He didn't tell them I got him his 1st job since 2015 when he lost his job, didn't tell them I got him his current job, told them nothing about me. It dawned on me that I was played by a 419. I was his local maga.

He never loved me but was with me for the benefits. It's not as if I am rich. I bent over just to make him happy.
I saw him in Lekki gate heading to work. I was ready to tear him to pieces cos as HR I can't misbehave at work, he ran when get saw me charging at him.
I lost it. Couldn't sleep at night for days. I cut my hair sef and just wanted to harm myself. The thought of my child saved me.

Chuks you are reading this. Probably searching for the next victim on SDK or Facebook or wherever. I take back all the curses I laid on you. I don't need to curse you. Karma has your address.

I see you every day at work and regret ever knowing you. A love scammer. A liar. A cleat. This morning during the meeting you were video chatting and kissing another victim. You will reap what you sow.

I am resigning and relocating. 

You know that you will never find another woman like me. No more fools out there bro. Even I am now smarter.

Someday you will weep bitterly for the games you play with women .
Stella thanks for posting. I have accepted the marriage proposal of someone that has been on my case for a long time but I kept refusing cos I was in love with Chuks.

I will love my husband someday. Marriage and relocation is the next plan.
Life goes on. Ladies on this blog, be wise. Don't love anyone more than they love themselves. Hide your money. Love with your head intact.

I will be alright someday.
Mummy J

*wow.....I am so sorry about this...

You should have dumped him long ago but you kept holding on and hoping he would change.

Please move on from this wicked man in the Narrative..

If you are the Chuks and you read this,please mail me cos we want to know why you are so wicked..If you are a B please mail me to avoid call out by anyone else cos  am sure your victims will know you from this story.

We are supposed to be one family here...we fight and make up and move on but not scam each other for money and love...its wrong!!!