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Friday, September 20, 2019

Comedian Alibaba Outlines Why A Lot Of Successful Women Are Still Single + Says A Lot Of Young Men Are Not Eligible To Marry

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You need to read this to the very last dot if you have time........










''And when the young ladies decide to pocket the achievements and advantages they have, so they can submit to a man in that their age bracket, many of these men have been sooo beaten by the tides of life, that they are too busy fighting the wife they should work with.
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Any attempt by the wife to suggest to him to get up and do something to succeed, is treated as disrespect, nagging, pressure and sometimes stress.
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One guy was so broken by the frustration of not having made it since he graduated in 2010, and still without a job, that he wanted his Assistant Manager fiance, to move to his father's house in Magodo, from the Oniru 2 bedroom, she presently occupied.
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Why don't you move in with her and make your great moves from there? "Never. I can't marry and move into my wife's house." That is from a 32 year old guy, who still lives in his parents house.
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Don't get me wrong ooo. The economy is messed up. Our politicians have not done much to drag us out of the down turn. After elections, they start working toward the next election.
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The problem has left many young men, not ready to be married. They are not prepared or do not have what it takes to be a man that can take a woman as wife. And not just as wife, to even be able to provide as the head of the house.
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So the few men who are loaded and ready, are few and in very high demand. Many ladies can hurt any other lady who tries to take any rare find, of such a man. Especially if he has a house, good job, good car, looks good, dresses well and has very few defects.
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So what's the issue? The issue now, is that, even when these kind of young men, meet young ladies, who (by any reason) had a headstart, the young men are too faaaaaar behind, ill equipped and unprepared in the sourcing for opportunities and management of the relationship.
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They are now slaves to ego, frustration, pride, peer pressure, poverty of mind and sometimes total disillusionment.
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Look around. Don't say I told you. Everywhere. There are many, who don't know what to do, how to do it, where to do it, when to do it... Even with a Masters Degree in Bus Admin, LL.M, BA.Arch, Bsc Statistics. Everywhere.
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THIS IS THE REASON FOR "Still single"


80 comments:

  1. Everyone can't go for Patricia Leon.

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    1. Hahahaha
      You bad oooo...you are definitely not an indomie generation someborri. For you to know Alibaba's Patricia Leon 😅😅

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    2. The truth in this write up made me cry.

      This is the story of my life 100%. Nothing gives such men pleasure more than to bring you to your knees. Their life mission becomes how to break you.

      When a man is busy fighting his own wife, then water don pass garri

      5 months of marriage brought to the ground. The end has come.

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    3. Focus on the message and not the messenger!tell us why his relationship to Patricia ended? Even if he was living off her,he did not make it a lifetime career,he is a successful man in his own right...he worked hard to get here....

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  2. And one is saying that he hasn’t found the right one cos the ones coming to him all want commitments.

    Guy is almost forty years oh

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    1. Don't mind him...he is looking for easy prey..Silly pussy...

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  3. Some young men are like alibaba, some can move in, ask her to take loans from banks on their behalf, suck her dry n move on if the grass ain't green again, while some, self respect won't allow them move into their wives house n be humble...some will move in, be loyal and become great....

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    1. Yeah a lot of hungry mongrols..That's how one was asking me if I am still single when he was displaying his hunger...

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    2. Babe, you harsh ohh. Na direct abi indirect message to Alibaba be this. Good thing is that he is still with her and hasn't moved to the greener grass. But then what do I know..

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    3. Hahahahaha I see the SHADE 👏👏

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  4. If you're a woman and you're fine, successful or both and you desire to get married, better lie on your face before God and beg Him to i) send you your own husband, ii) open your eyes to recognise him when he arrives, iii) give you patience to wait till the right time.

    Else the devil will specially package one of his sons and send him to you to scatter your life.

    I nearly sent my husband away cos we weren't moving as fast as I thought we should. Meanwhile, I wasn't ready at the time. But because everything must be done yesterday, I would be fighting unnecessary fight; they must have been waining my button from his village or my own. I had to trust the God I called and remove my hands. When the wedding actually happened, I was so shocked at the speed that I didn't believe it.


    OA

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    1. I hope both of you are good..It will end in praise..

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  5. My husband is gallant on this table. Trying to pull me back because he himself doesn't know what to do with himself. Ego, depression, frustration have set in. Small thing, I don't have respect. E Kpele sah.

    Well said Alibaba

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  6. The truth is it’s harder for a man to make it in today’s Nigeria. Who wan help you? I remember when I was in school, the kind phones wey my females course mates dey use dem no born any guy well make e use, except na yahoo or rich parents. The truth is the average female has way more access to resources than the average guy today. She gets lots of “gifts” from suitors, including the broke ass dude that is her so-called peer.

    She is also way more exposed. Every guy wants to take her out, she can go out without a dime while the broke dude cannot even dream. If you no get money, siddon for house.

    But can’t women take broke guys out? Haq haq haq. Maybe a unicorn. Like Chris Rock said, there’s something that makes a woman’s vajayjay dry up as soon as she reaches for her wallet. There’s a signal that tells the pu**y that this deeq is not worth getting wet for.

    So, as the saying goes, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. The truth is if you regularly have an above average access to resources, the chances of eventually being successful, even with minimal application are higher compared to someone with relatively lower access to these resources.

    The cause of the problem of being single is that as Alli said, men with such resources are not enough go round. Most of such men are taken, this is the truth. Sugar daddies have always been a thing, and I foresee a renewed adoption of polygamy and babymamaism. I have come to realize that most women would rather be rich man’s kept woman that be loyal to a broke dude, which is totally understandable.

    If there be any broke dudes among you, admonish then to hustle or die with dry deeqs. No padi for jungle.

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    1. Depends on what you mean by "success". You are wrong with some of your assumptions. Not all of us take "gifts" from suitors to prevent stories that touch. That guys want to take us out doesn't mean it actually happens.

      And some of us give. It's just that some of you are so used to wicked women, you think the good ones that really like you for you don't exist. My husband is not broke and he's a kind man, but the first time I sent airtime to his phone, he asked me why. I think he's still confused. If only he knows what I'm saving up to buy for him.


      OA

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    2. Stop looking for excuses!!! You Naija men have seriously embraced this spirit of self pity. Naija women are more successful because society has better prepared them for success while allowing men to be useless all in the name of “male child”. Pick yourself up and hustle and stop looking for somebody to pity you. Who has your time?

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    3. We have had numerous chronicles here of women who cater for their men.I'm sure you even know one or two. It is just easier to believe that such women do not exist.

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    4. Anon 12:36, I tried not to generalize, hence my use of terms like most and average. There definitely are good women, but there’s a reason there is a stereotype, hence the use of most and average. The exception does not invalidate the norm.

      Another 12:44, Please read my last paragraph and stop foaming at the mouth.

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    5. Rambo even with your 'most' and 'average', you are still wrong. There are many women who have never collected a dime from a sugar daddy and even a bf. It is not the norm. Maybe you think so because these are the women you meet and hang with.

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  7. I am a guy and I say this is very true. Guys let's take away sentiments and focus on the message and we would agree that this is so true.

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  8. He said it so well that it couldnt have been said any better.

    May

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  9. Yes, I believe him.

    I am in my very late forties at the very top of my career spanning over 25 years. Multiple Master's degree holder.No husband, no child very successful. I am finding it very difficult to meet someone of my taste. Though I command respect and power at work due to my position, I am worried. And I have resigned my fate to God and take life as it comes.

    But come ooo, Ali too is sitting on this very table. Don't ask me now, go back to memory lane.

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    1. Yeah..I remember sha...He married one big lady like that in the heydays of Ovation magazine..She was very rich but He later dumped the woman..at least he is a better man...Please dont worry you own will come just pray God opens your eyes..

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    2. I hope your standards aren't overly higher than your achievements if not you will continue to look for husband. it really depends on individual,there are many ways of achieving one's goals. Who says you cant marry a man and polish him to your standard while trying to balance all. Remember life isn't fair and won't change cos of one person. Well what do I know.....your choice, your life.

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    3. Wait, Alibaba has been married before? And he left her? Are you sure? How, when?

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    4. He was married oh...I wish I could get my hands on Old Ovation magazines especially the early 2000's

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    5. Patricia Leon of DStv West Africa. They wedded with t shirts and denim way back. She was much older than him. She was from one of these Caribbean islands I've forgotten which.

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    6. Yes that's true. I remember when he married that lovely lady though she was older than him just like his current wife Mary. Who knows where that Patricia is now. Chai

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    7. Patricia did not have money eeeh. Make una slow down. Please I'm not in the mood to type. All na hype!

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  10. I might be in the minority but i see this viewpoint as a coping mechanism sold to successful single ladies and I don't subscribe to it.

    Let's face the truth.. most of these 'successful' ladies pay dust to struggling men. And just because you are successful does not automatically mean you are a wife material.

    Dem ladies wants to marry up not well cos you can level up your potential partner if success is the only glitch.

    He wrote the truth but running with this kinda truth might do you more harm eventually.

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    1. True. And some women assume they're ready to marry because they're over 21 and/or are successful in their career or business. Lol!

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  11. We would rather remain single than settle for men that will drag our destinies to the mud.it is God that blesses.

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    1. True talk

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    2. Very wise decision. I married a man who DESTROYED my life. It took me over 20 years to recover. I have decided to remain single, so history does not repeat itself.

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    3. Preach it sister

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  12. JESUSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS, PLEASE HOW DO I FORWARD THIS TO THAT MAN THAT CALLS HIMSELF MY HUSBAND ON WHATSUP. THIS IS SO TRUE

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    1. Hmmm but will it change him? some men with stubborn ego..

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  13. This is so true.My ex is on this table, after nysc 3 years ago he got a contract job with a bank.The pay was not even up to 45k, i was still struggling to get a job.
    In February this year,his contract expired and in April I got a federal job.Uncle became paranoid, always suspecting me.He even asked me 2 resign from my job and join him in his state and be doing mobile kitchen since i am a good cook.I refused and we ended up breaking up.I was helping him with the little i could but he was busy sleeping around..It hurts tho but i will be fine.

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    1. My dear..Na societal pressure...They have been brainwashed that once a woman does better,they are just pussys..You go see better man that will appreciate you even if you are doing 'better' him.

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    2. Thank you dear

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    3. Be grateful to God for delivering you from ever lasting bondage

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    4. Thank you for not yielding to such request.

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  14. Sad truth.

    Many Nigerian men have extreme cases of inferiority complex.

    We have been beaten down by ego, frustration, pride, peer pressure, poverty of mind , total disillusionment and patriarchy.

    God save us.

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    1. Ali Babba speaking the truth since 19 gbogboro.. However a lot of pressure has been placed on our men for too long..A lot of social ills, society breeds..

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    2. Even abroad many of these men import their crappy mentality till it infects everything they touch.

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  15. This is so true! That's how one human being told me he didn't want a help in his house but he wanted a working class wife. Like do you want to kill her with stress coupled with the one she will face at work just cause you want to prove that you are "an African man

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    1. This is so true. But you 'll never believe it will happen to you and its always people around that will talk inferiority complex in to him.Chai God I thank you for delivering me from the hands of the devil himself in the form of my ex husband. God I thank you.

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  16. Hear the message, not the messenger

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  17. So many successful women are even ready to marry down but the problem is that there are very few men ready for marriage in Nigeria because of hardship so the ones that are ready financially behave wickedly to the women because they feel they're doing you a favour. My only problem is that we don't have enough nursing homes in Nigeria for old people. Otherwise I wouldn't bother about getting married. I'd simply live my life serving God in truth and in spirit and when old, I'd check into an old people's home. But as it is, one needs children mostly for old age.

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    1. True but dont use your kids as retirement paycheck..Still plan towards old age and have your own money..So my children are dying in silence as their parents have taking them as their take home pay..

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    2. *so many

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    3. I hate it when parents use or plan to use children as their retirement package. A young man/woman cannot plan well because they are carrying the burdens of their parents, especially those that their parents would expect them to train their younger ones thru school.

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    4. NOBODY NEEDS CHILDREN FOR OLD AGE! Children are not your insurance plan or social security. Save and plan for your retirement. Don't give birth or adopt children to be your slaves. You can start a nursing home yourself and you would be shocked at how well that business would thrive. DO NOT, I REPEAT DO NOT have children because you are looking for who would wipe your ass when you can't. You are part of Nigeria's problem using children as insurance policy. The funny thing is that MOST people I know that are old still support their children financially because life's a bitch and nothing is guaranteed.

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  18. My brother,May the good lord bless you for this hard truth! When i see the role reversal happening all over the world and the attitude of men these days,i weep for the future generation!so many insecure young men looking for a woman to pull down to their level, instead of working with her to acheive their aims....so disheartening!!

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  19. That was how my ex and his foolish mother wanted me to resign from job after our first child refusing me from hiring a nanny with my own money. I bluntly refuse and told my ex i rather leave him than leave my job. His mother turned against me not been submissive and so on. Anyways we finally separated because of the maid issue and i'm not moved at all.

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    1. leave your job so that he can feed you with his poo and his mum will fart inside your mouth. Time has come when women need to stand up for themselves.

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    2. My God. This nanny issue also happened to me. I heard he was saying lemme see the nanny will bring to this house .This was few weeks after my baby was born.hmm it's all coming back to me. Thank God for saving me. You are lucky all they want to do is pull you down

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  20. A lot of young women are unmarried as well. Whose reproductive years are set?

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  21. The conclusion:
    They are now slaves to ego, frustration, pride, peer pressure, poverty of mind and sometimes total disillusionment.

    OR, some of these young men because they are so disillusioned, some lazy, some feeding their useless egos, keep hanging on a 1st class, they will not start small from somewhere.

    To some the easy way out is to have a sugar mommy or run to America to find one thru dating websites. We know them and their escapades in Yankee.

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  22. This is very apt and timely. I'm presently on this table. You meet a man you know you wouldn't even give a second thought to his advances. But you discover somehow that he seems intelligent. You do everything to help him put his life in order, but he turns out to be proud and manipulative. Everything you do turns out to be an insult. He does something bad and then turns it around and then you are the one at fault. Money you no get, influence nothing, you come dey form one thing. I'm not pained. Just sad that I wasted my time.

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    1. Nwanne...you're soooo right. he wasnt my spec in every sense of that word..but i had to come down to his level coz i thought i saw some intelligence and potentials..for where?! He cursed and ridiculed me at will. Even prayed that i would lose my job..same job that was feeding him and paying rent. when my eyes opened...i jejely walked away.

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    2. I'm sitting on this table

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  23. Truth be told, our generation of young men were pampered from babyhood. In many homes, the boys are exempted from house chores while the girls must pick up after them. In primary and secondary school, the boys are made class captain while the girls are made assistant class captain even when the girl is better qualified, the Head Boy is made more superior than the Head Girl. The girls are chastised for their bad behaviours while the boys are excused with the "boys will be boys" phrase. There are even occasions when a teacher would deliberately give the boy a higher mark so he can get the first position so a girl comes second.

    When they become adults, these boys feel they must get the best. It doesn't occur to them that they must start from scratch. In the past, most women didn't go to school and many who did chose to be house wives or do business. Today, more ladies are moving into the corporate world with the willingness to start from scratch and learn the ropes of the business. When the boys see their girl mates doing well, they begin to wail and attribute her success to one sugar daddy.

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  24. Very difficult to be submissive to a man that can’t or won’t provide for his family. Especially if the woman is performing all the traditional roles expected from a wife.

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  25. how can you be submissive, caring, loving to a man who cannot provide for his family? you feed, cloth, pay the bill and still cook, serve him and he is expecting you to be submissive how nah? is very diffult for you to do that, some will even cheat on you with another woman, bring the woman to your bed and still expect you to be submissive. Haba cos you are mature and successful you should settle for anything no way.

    if i don't find real and true love, i will get pregnant and birth a child that will give me, that will keep me company and face front. Is better i remain single than to be in a loveless marriage.

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    1. Only if women will wake up to this your statement. Been there before, nothing dey this marriage, a point came, I had my own child. I am a single mum and very happy. Happier than when I was married. Nothing beats happiness. These men dont care about us. Women strive to be financially sustainable, then you will realise you dont need any man in your life because they are a HEADACHE.

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  26. The Truth is that there are many successful women in present day Nigeria. you see a lots of wives who are the sole bread winner in homes and all what is needed is support from their husbands which seems difficult sometimes. The world is changing and our men needs to know this My two kobo.

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  27. hmmmm , the men of these generation needs to up their games.

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  28. My hubby is sitting gallantly on this table

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  29. Hmmmm, this is women's world. When things go wrong in relationship, it's the man. We shouldn't forget in a hurry that the character, attitude and the role most women play in a relationship is what you cannot wish your enemies. Even some women cannot pray that their sons and/or relative marry their folks. Don't tell me you don't know why some men choose to remain single or have them as Babymamas, because that was the mistakes of most men. You rather stay single than stay under the same roof with an ego driven woman. Yes neither is it funny with a man of this nature, but the few women of this nature are thunderous. No wonder I heard my neighbour tell his younger brother searching for wife not to think of love, that there's nothing like that today, instead he should first think as someone going into contract. Why say so? His experience where he is. Some women are marriage looking for marriage even, likewise men. Generally speaking, it's better to stay alone and have peace of mind than being in a wrong relationship! What some species need is your blood and not your love or care. That's why you will see a man or woman doing well on his/her own and after the so called marriage he/she will turn a ghost! Regrets!! Devastated!!! For those of you who are lucky, kudos to you! I jealous you. That has been my prayers but what I received was totally different. Meanwhile, God has reason for everything. My advice to the singles is, do rush into it! All that glitter are not gold!!! If you don't know, ask!!!

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