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Sunday, September 01, 2019

Sunday In House Gist - Fake Friends Versus Frenemies...

I am about to surprise you with this post.....






Do you know that One fake friend can do more damage than five frenemies?Well,now you know!

Frenemies are easier to spot but a fake friend you will not easily spot until they are done chewing off your flesh..

You might not be able to comment if you do not understand what i mean....

Fake friends are always closer than Frenemies because we spot our frenemies and keep them at an arms length but the fake friend appears genuine and is not easily spotted and they are left unwatched whilst they do damage...


I have frenemies and i know them but OMG,how can i tell who my fake friends are?Are there any giveaway signs?Can you share if you know?

Have you been able to spot your fake friends and separated them from your frenemies?
Let's gist!!!

45 comments:

  1. Na who gather friends go dey worry

    I’m my own best friend,I only tell you what I won’t be ashamed of hearing from another person outside.
    You don’t even come close to me or mine...let’s just be friends at arms length.

    Since they’ve showed me shege in the past,Oga Ade I don dey my dey!

    Cookie is that you that I saw ??? how’s fabbie?!!!
    Kaiii I miss you people and our yeye fights o
    Sugar is that you too?
    Chaaaiii

    Good to see your comments darlings♥️

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    1. I am loyal to a fault.I stick like a burr.I'm like a vault.I never let out anything told me in confidence.You dare not speak ill of my friends in my presence.Are you mad?I carry their matter on my head. I am the type of friend that would help you distribute CV,talk to whoever I can on your behalf,even beg so long as you benefit at the end,I am willing to toss pride and dignity for my friends' sake. My friends have done same for me and more.
      I have said it here more than once.I am very lucky in my choices of friends and in these girls that chose me as their friends over 10 years ago. Because of them,I don't know what frenemy and fake friend are.

      It is so easy to point fingers but what kind of friend are you?

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    2. Thanks Kamikaze... am blessed too when it comes to making friends,i have friends that are fiercely loyal. Most people always talking about being betrayed by friends,when you look closer, they are the ones with ish

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    3. I've got a great and loyal friend too.

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    4. @Asher exactly. In my opinion if you can't keep friends and you are always fighting everyone and friends are always betraying you. Then you should also check yourself. Maybe you are even the one that isn't a good friend.
      I hardly do new friends. I have a group we all went to same school since we were 10/11. Some of us are more closer than some,some are bestie in same group,we all go out together. I have never been betrayed by any because I move with ppl with similar values as me. We all grew up together. We are like family. We call ourselves sisters sef.

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    5. Asher and BandB your assumption is not always true. I am a very very loyal friend but I keep getting betrayed. So I decided to dey my dey. I can tell you that in the last month, no less than 6 former friends have called to apologise profusely for what they did. Now I am extremely careful about who I let into my life. Sometimes, a person can be unlucky.

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    6. 21;51 am unlucky with life and everything inside it. Very unlucky

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  2. Its easy to caught a fake friend... Just tell two friends different versions of your story, then wait for the version that spreads.

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    1. Yes you will really "caught" them πŸ˜‚

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    2. Yes you are right!! Very easy to CATCH them.

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    3. Lol... BB even you self. I have been exonerated hahahaha....

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    4. TJ lol so BB has replaced you ok.

      The most Complex

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    5. 😁😁😁😁 all of you are not well, thanks..."catch, I mean"

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    6. Both versions will always spread

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  3. I doubt if I even have friends. I hardly keep friends let alone having a fake one. I grew up with the habit of keeping to myself, that people often asked if I really have friends. I prefer knowing people online or at a distance and chat with them online without physical closeness or visitation.

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    1. Hmmm Slutty u dey hear TJ well, forget all these his fake show of lust(not love)here. Dont get serious with this man up there☝️

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    2. Sometimes,the fake friends are the sycophant, the praise singers and asslickers. They are the fair weather friends I called them. We often mistake them for good friends but the ones that tells us the truth before our very eyes as it is, we often turn to hate them. A good friend wants you to improve, so they politely point out your weakness. The fake ones will lead you on in order for you to be destroyed at the long run cos they envy your happiness. You know what? When shit finally hits you, they will all run away but those you never expect are always the ones to dust you up again and encourage you to do better.

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    3. Enter your reply... correct πŸ˜πŸ‘ same here

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    4. Sexy TeejayπŸ•΅πŸ‘Œ
      Dey hide dey go, we dey your back dey watch you Baby man.
      Till then. E go beπŸ‘ŠπŸ‘

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  4. By their fruits, you shall know them. Everyone has a personality disorder & that's what I look out for in people I meet. I,as a person don't believe all what I'm told till I see it in black & white. So whenever my friends or colleagues say things, I look at them with side eyes & take it with a pinch of salt except I'm convinced it's the truth.

    Beware of friends always going back & forth on your matter. Always wanting to know what's up with you even when they're uninvited. Most of the time, it's not always genuine.

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    1. As u speak about ur previous friend or friends helps me categorize u, NO SECREAT NOT EVEN MY AGE will b disclosed.
      I will feed u with what u want to hear, now , wen fight start, d way u react tells me all. πŸ˜‚.
      I will only open up 15% of me, the rest r GLARING LIES! Call me a liar Na for ur pocket o!
      My gain my pain,that way, u can’t abuse me with any truth about me, rather fictions I feed u and Na so I go laugh for my mind. Trust me d relationship won’t even break but I already know u r an Enemy!I go Dey observe u Dey go MUMUπŸ˜‚

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    2. This your last 4 lines are apt. One lady in my new employment always do that I have advised her to desist from it. But I noticed that she stopped cos i hardly respond to such Judas questions but when i started being nice to her she started again. As from tomorrow which i know that she'll ask some Judas questions I'll reply her with diplomacy why making her look foolish cos I mind my biz so should the rest of them.

      Note those fake friends are easy to spot cos they are always inquisitive, acting nice necessarily.
      I experienced it wella at my former office but before knew it a lot of damage has already be done on my personality.

      So anywhere I go to and I see unnecessary likeness I'm always scared.
      The most Complex

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    3. 15:14. Feed her with what she wants to hearπŸ˜‚. Trust me it works. Protect ur secrets, bury it deep down in ur stomach, no one needs to know, that way u watch them Dey MUMU Dey drag ur shadow( lies u feed them). Me I b AGWO TULU MBAπŸ˜‚. I target what I want from u, strike once and off I move, will never hurt u but instead Na u go lose

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    4. ANG it is Agwo tulu mbe

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  5. Chai Blackberry I hail o πŸ˜‚ πŸ‘Œ πŸ‘ πŸ’―

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  6. One friend asked my hubby for money behind my back and he never told me until recently. When I called her l told her to not do that again since I wouldn’t ask her hubby for money without asking her first she got angry. Btw, I have given this girl money so many times oh.

    Anyway she never apologised till date, in fact she even sent me a stupid message to say she has forgiven me. Who should forgive who? The worst part is that I am going through a very rough patch at this time in my life and where is she? No where to be found, cos she’s still angry I told her not to go asking my hubby for money. This is a girl that I have been there for during thick and thin. I loved her like a sister oh!

    The only reason I found out she asked him for money was because when we argued one day, he said that if he was a bad person, he would have been giving her money and one day sleep with her knowing her financial problems.

    I have kuku realised she was a fake friend and hubby sef ...let’s leave his matter for another day.

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    1. WTH! God pls let a good man find me

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    2. Anon. 14:24, this your hubby sha.....

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    3. She was wrong asking your hubby for money without coming to you first, but ehn? That your hubby na wa.

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    4. what is with your hubby nawa oh up and down... Most men don't tell their wives the money they dash out, men don't talk like women so to avoid problem, he probably knew the wife will react, we all know our spouses and how they react to things, that why he kept his mouth shout. My sis husband gives out money alot and won't tell my sis, and he 101 percent very faithful, everyone in town knows he bad market even when he filthy rich

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  7. Frenemies have made their ways into most peoples lives. Interestingly, I have never heard or seen anyone admit to bring the frenemy. πŸ™„πŸ™„

    Is anyone willing to admit that they were/are the problematic friend?

    Let me tell y'all. Someone on this blog is a frenemy.
    * That one person that likes to dish out insults in a joking manner.
    * That person that will smile in your face and then try to clown you when around other people.
    * That person that doesn't have your best interest at heart and always try to downplay your achievements.
    * That person jealous or competitive.

    We can't all be the victims, hunni.

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    1. Perxian,

      You have some good points there. In addition, we are quick to identify the "bad" eggs. Yet in reality, we are also bad eggs to some. Whether knowingly or unknowingly.

      We have hurt friends with our words, actions and sometimes by our inactions. Our excuse is that we didn't know. Well, maybe these frenemies also didn't know or mean to hurt us.

      We must also learn to accept that not everyone will like you or me. We aren't that perfect guys.

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  8. I'll be sleeping on dis post today, I really need to know how to spot a fake friend cos I think I have them around me

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  9. I can be very friendly, ( (call me Miss nice), and I could be very skeptical of people.
    What I know about me is I'm a One Girl Squad. No drama zone. My man is my friend- apart from man- woman relationship, we are best of friends- we gist, gossip, fight, encourage each other and every other things that friends do.
    Some babes come to me and tell me stuff they consider secrets and they add "I'm telling you because you're my friend". These days I cut short some discussions and excuse myself. I Love my Life. I Love my peace. Who friend- friend help?

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  10. If you see anybody that wants to be friends with everyone, I mean the gum- body kinda friendship especially if 'happening people", abeg run away from them.

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  11. Fake friends are different from Frenemies although we now use both terms interchangeably.

    We’ve all hurt people or been an unreliable friend but a Fake friend is different abeg! They pretend to you that they are loyal and trustworthy but plot behind to finish you. They are evil but many of them believe that they have reasons or are justified to destroy you. Many will even make you out to be the bad person when you catch them out and dump them. You can’t always spot them until they’ve done the worst to you. They can be male or female and carry out all the duties of a great friend in front of you but inside them they don’t send you at all.

    A true Frenemy on the other hand, you will both have something you are contentious about but will maintain a level of friendship. You will know that you will watch your back and that the relationship is not deep. This differs from the fake friend who appears to love you like themselves so you feel no need to guard yourself. You may not know that they are fake for many years.

    I can’t help with signs to spot fake friends, if you like to carry friendships like gala for your head, then make room for fake friends.

    Enjoy this blessed Sunday and pray.



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    1. To me the term frenemy and fake friend is the same thing. Both mean someone that pretends to be your friend but really isn't and is actually sabotaging you in some way. Some actually change to become your enemy in your face when they can't stand you any longer. So I would say it is easier to know your enemies and know where you stand with them and how to manage them, than a fake friend or enemy that is not always easy to detect because they pretend a lot. But believe you me, with time you will know. Once I identify you I cut you off, because keeping such people as friends is like having a cancer that can destroy you if care is not taken.

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  12. I have said it sometimes ago when Stella posted something about friends, they showed me sege, the ones we eat, drink and hanged out together laughed at me cos I made mistake. I told them what happened to e before I said my gist was all over the place. When I confronted them all of them said nope. I went back to those people they gave the gist to and they confirmed all their names. Well I decided to slap myself so hard, I don't have friends anymore. We are friends from far but not friends that I can tell you my personal problems.

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  13. This Friendship thingy when, that's how in my Nursery school days we were asked to write composition on 'My Mother'. I wrote and mentioned my mother's best friend (indeed they we're besties) my mother looked at my homework and said I was correct about all that I wrote about her.
    When it was 'my father' composition and I mentioned that woman's husband as my father's friend, she asked me to clean it off and write that mummy is daddy's best friend.
    I remember my dad was just laughing and shaking his head.

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  14. I have acquaintances and no friends. Nothing to worry about. Even your trusted friends can switch on you at any time for the right price. Trust will get you killed.

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  15. I just feel like calling out names here but make I just respect myself. Yet even when u keep them at shoulder length, they still monitor you religiously.

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