“Yes I’m ready to go, in fact, I’m not with him right now. I just have to run for my life, my life is very precious to me. I can’t just allow someone to kill me like that and I want to address some ladies out there that they should not love a guy because of what he gives them.
They should be sure the love is genuine and not be fooled by money and comfort. I’m leaving right now, I need to run away for my life. I need to save myself. My life will be in danger if I continue to stay with him, so I’m leaving right now, she said in a chat with Potpourri.
Highlighting the gory details of the abuse, Bose Oladimeji said the beatings start whenever he comes home drunk
“Whenever he’s drunk he’s out of his senses and starts misbehaving, beating me. He acts very crazy. Any weapon he sees around he uses it on me but when he is sober he starts to regret whatever he has done. What I’m saying is that in the process of beating me what if I collapse and die or get injured, what will people say?” she said with agony in her eyes.
When asked if she didn’t see it coming, Bose Oladimeji said he pretended and hid his true nature at the beginning of their relationship, explaining how they met and how all the abuse began.
“We meet in the club through a friend and he was well presented and loving, humble and respectful and he spent a lot of money that night but after everything, to be honest, we went home separately. The following day we hooked up and that was how it all started.
He was taking good care of me and that was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. But what I found odd about him is the forceful way he has sex with. No foreplay, nothing, just to jump on me and forces his way through. No affection, no cuddling, no romance just brutal s#x. I was raped like this most nights, and usually followed by beating and insults,” she added
Though not legally married, they lived together for two years with issues between them. But Bose Oladimeji would not want to drag the children into it.
Highlighting the gory details of the abuse, Bose Oladimeji said the beatings start whenever he comes home drunk
“Whenever he’s drunk he’s out of his senses and starts misbehaving, beating me. He acts very crazy. Any weapon he sees around he uses it on me but when he is sober he starts to regret whatever he has done. What I’m saying is that in the process of beating me what if I collapse and die or get injured, what will people say?” she said with agony in her eyes.
When asked if she didn’t see it coming, Bose Oladimeji said he pretended and hid his true nature at the beginning of their relationship, explaining how they met and how all the abuse began.
“We meet in the club through a friend and he was well presented and loving, humble and respectful and he spent a lot of money that night but after everything, to be honest, we went home separately. The following day we hooked up and that was how it all started.
He was taking good care of me and that was one of the reasons I fell in love with him. But what I found odd about him is the forceful way he has sex with. No foreplay, nothing, just to jump on me and forces his way through. No affection, no cuddling, no romance just brutal s#x. I was raped like this most nights, and usually followed by beating and insults,” she added
Though not legally married, they lived together for two years with issues between them. But Bose Oladimeji would not want to drag the children into it.
From Vanguard.
*WOOOOOOW,it is good she had the courage to walk...
Lord have mercy. It is well with you
ReplyDeleteWhy are the husbands of all divorced actresses domestically violent?
ReplyDelete@10:31,na dem!
DeleteWhenever they get tired of their husbands,dwindling careers and they want 'Shine' like their colleagues,they suddenly remember how abusive and violent their husbands are.
I am not blaming them for walking away because I would do thesame if my peace or life is being threatened but the last thing I would do is to tell everyone who cares to listen that the man I choosed to spend my life with and the father of my children is a monster!
God forbid!
I sympathise with her for what she went through and I applaud her for leaving such a monster but highlighting the gory details of abuse and violence and other details wasn't necessary.
What was she trying to achieve?
Sympathy or fame?
Mercy Aigbe,Tonto and Tiwa must be her mentors!
Pinklady, you are right,most of them leaves when the man's money finished,they will now tag it violence!
DeleteIt is likely most of these actresses are very bad mannered or they just crave for public sympathy
Deletein labeling their husbands with DV. All the men married to actresses cannot just be violent. It doesn't add up
Add INI and Chika Ike. Chila’s Own VEXED me ehennnnn
DeleteCos crying domestic violence is the easiest way to gain sympathy. A few tell the truth and were abused. But many of them are LYING through their teeth. Either the man didn't touch them at all, or they were the instigators and the man hit them back in self-defence. Some sleep around, want to be allowed to keep hoelosho-ing in their husband's house and will go as far as telling their husband that if he says a word, they will say he abused them.
DeleteAfter I walked in on a semi-popular woman who was dressing up and I saw her back even clearer and more flawless than my own (she had her back to me), I started to realise some women are crazy. She had told everyone that there were still lines and welts on her back from where her ex used to hit her. It was a lie, she left the man when he no longer had money and she spread stories of how the guy is into yahoo. She even wanted me to commit a crime to hide her lies. Biko, it wasn't Tonto oh!
If you don't see video footage of the so-called abuse or scars/bruises/wounds, take their stories with a bag of salt. Stop being unnecessarily moved by their tears; these are women who are paid to cry fgs!
The moment a guy insults you please just port. Even if the insult was laced with jokes don't take it lightly please. That's how it starts I am sure during their courtship period he wasn't physically violent but the signs are always there.
ReplyDeleteFrom insults to small spanks to slaps then beating. If you don't nip it in the bud fast kindly run away.
Pretty actress you should have left the first time he hit you. For he will do it again.
Hey ya...it is well
ReplyDeleteYesterday's chronicle poster abeg shift come i want to tell you something
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteAproko !!!
Your name is everything 😂😂
Key point...he spend alot of money
ReplyDeleteLesson learnt....all that glitters r nt gold
At least she is saying the truth, she followed him for his money.
ReplyDeleteNa wah! Thank God for your life Bose
ReplyDeleteOh!! I am so angry right now..Wat is the world turning into..Employee fraud trending on twitter between Hyperfactory..Why is wickedness on the increase on a per second basis...Its hard to find honest people...Chai...
ReplyDeletePlease ma, you sighted them red flags but drove on because"he was taking good care of you". Then the last paragraph, doesn't that contradict the headline since they were just cohabiting?
ReplyDeletePlease Stella dont approve if I'm not anonymous. Everything she described up there is the story of my life. Any day he is coming home from past 9pm, my heart begings to beat faster as i know he will be tipsy. And when he comes, his voice is as loud as thunder. After all the pushing around, accusations and insults, he will force himself on me. By next morning, he will be acting all cool. Some weeks ago, he smashed the breakable plate with which i served his food, i was lucky not to get injured. I just dont have the courage to leave yet as i have no job to fall back on. The last time i left back to the village, he came begging and every member of my family kept pushing me to go back. They were worried about how i would take care of my two boys alone as none of them can assist me. I went back in tears. I was really trusting God for an interview i did some weeks ago, asides several others that if i get the job, even though it was just for a maternity cover, then it will be my breakthrough. unfortunately, i got a mail last week saying i was not successful. I have been broken since then but what ever happens till next year, if i survive till then, job or no job, I'm leaving. If i perish, i perish!
ReplyDeleteThis is heart breaking!
DeleteIf you are still under thesame roof with that man,please do everything within your powers to avoid another pregnancy because that would ruin your plans.
For now,go back to the village with your kids and if he comes begging as usual,tell him to give you money to start up a business or else,you wont go back to him.
If he falls for it,use that money to plot your exit because men like him will never change!
Please be strong.
😥😥
Cohabiting gone wrong.
ReplyDeleteThank God she is out of the relationship.
Next time, please take your time before taking any major steps like this and besides he didn't marry you so stop calling him your husband.
Money blinded her. See where una meet. Sorry oo. Good you are no longer with him. No marriage, boom you enter house begin born.
ReplyDeleteSee finished be this
"He takes care of me" - the lie that removes many women's brains.
ReplyDeleteBut he beats you.
"He takes care of me."
He's cheating on you and you've treated STIs thrice this year.
"Let me manage this one cos he takes care of me."
They caught him raping the neighbour's housegirl.
"I won't allow one small girl take away a good man who takes care of me."
But she's underage and it was rape.
"Go, abeg. He takes care of me."
He hasn't married you and he's not talking of seeing your parents. Why did you pack your things to go live in his house, cooking, cleaning and all he asks?
"He takes care of me."
Don’t mind Nigeria Wives. By force MRS. It’s not an achievement biko
DeleteSo you wanted a "good husband" and you went to night clubs?
ReplyDeleteOkay, you found exactly what are in night clubs; drunkards and
"rapists" (note the quote please) and heavy money spenders for the nights. Yes, that is the
stuff in night clubs. Those are the things they do in night clubs.
In your myopic mind,there are no "good men/husbands" in night clubs.
DeleteIf only you knew!
“He was well presented, loving, humble, respectful, and he spent a lot of money that night” your dreams came through.
ReplyDeleteMost times, we ignore the very important details and cling to the fact that money can fix it all.
“He was taking care of me, that’s one of the reasons why i fell in love with him” what did you expect in return?
It was obvious you stuck with him cos of what he had to offer you.
When you make a man believe it’s all about his money, he’ll treat you like scum.
You stayed with him all these years and didn’t care about the beatings and forceful sex.
Money don finish, you don waka.
Sorry Dear
ReplyDeleteHow did she end her marriage when they were never married? Na wha for bloggers oh
ReplyDeleteHmmm. There is always a two side to every story. Good you left.
ReplyDeleteI can relate with these stories. It takes so much courage to leave abusive husband. Some women get signals of abuse early in their relationships while some unfolds as time goes on. He that wears the shoe knows where it pinchs. I'm not absolving anyone it's really a sad ending.
ReplyDeleteI have seen where a guy openly boasted that he will spend money on a girl then get her in his bed and have rough sex with her. I always wonder that what is the joy of rough sex until I understood that the man saw sex as exchange for money.
ReplyDeleteAs for this lady, I love her honesty. She has learnt her lesson and shared her experience.
Also I notice that this upcoming generation of ladies are now very open about issues and don't seem to care about family name or public shame unlike my generation