Why do families fight spouses when their loved ones die?
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Monday, October 07, 2019
Dead Body And The Owner Of Dead Body....
Why do families fight over dead bodies?..............Like why!!!!
Why do families fight spouses when their loved ones die?
This comment caught my attention and i would like us to discuss it...
Why do families fight spouses when their loved ones die?
This comment caught my attention and i would like us to discuss it...
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When a man treats his wife badly, and the wife's believes that's she died due to domestic violence/abuse. They tend to snatch the body or collect or steal the bodies. Some detain the body and bury when the woman is taken to her father's house for viewing.
ReplyDeleteTrue Olive K. They didn't treat her well while alive so they believe her husband does not deserve the honour of giving her a burial. Had it been they were asking for money...but they buried her. They probably suspect the husband killed her.
DeleteWhere I come from( Northern Cross-River)incidences like this happens when the Brideprice was not Fully paid or when there is no Brideprice.
ReplyDeleteThe Man will be asked to remarry the Corpse and pay the Brideprice, if he refuses,the Corpse will not be released to Him. The Children will can be taken from him,although it depends on how connected both Families are.
The Family of the Woman will,must Take the Corpse "By Fire by Force
Yeah ,I witnessed something similar to this in my area.
DeleteThe woman just moved in when she discovered she was pregnant for the guy and she died during childbirth, the man requested for her corpse but her family refused and also kept the baby, asking him to perform all the rites of marriage first.
Which LGA?
Deletehmmmmmmmm na wa o.... wonder shall neva seize.... did he not marry the late wife properly and paid her dowry as expected? this is common in the east if u steal their daughter (as in i give am belle so na my wife)
ReplyDeleteYet, they enjoy proceeds from the man then remember that he stole their child after she passed.
Deleteyou think your in laws love you until something happen to your partner. then stupid traditions will surface
DeleteI don't know if my gist is the same but something similar happened to my paternal uncle.
ReplyDeleteHe was married for years but didn't pay bride price. So in 2002, she died. In Lagos.
As it is in our tradition, ukwani delta state, you cannot bury the woman without paying the bride price first. They all travelled down to the village with the body on getting to the lady's family compound, they seized the body. Their argument was that he will not just pay bride price but he will marry her well, I mean full traditional wedding. It was mad. My uncle cried, even my dad joined in.
They begged for where! For days they had the body until we arranged for a wedding with local music band and all. Village people gathered sef to dance and merry. Then the real plan for the burial commenced after one week.
Chai it was sad. Finally she was released and buried in our compound.
I don't know jare but tradition is tradition.
God help us
Can imagine the trauma
DeleteThis is crazy mehn, you called musician and people were actually happened for a dead person's wedding? What were they looking before she died?
Delete*Larry was here*
I will voluntarily leave the dead body for them and go my way.
DeleteI don't want to imagine what you explained up there.
Gosh this crazy!
DeleteI cnt even imagine me or people dancing n eating wen someone u loved just died!
I cringe!
Same thing happened to my mom's cousin. The lady had a child then died while giving birth to a set of twins. He first had to go and pay her dowry before he could now start burial plans. And to imagine he just completed a house in her name but he couldn't pay her dowry. I think this men stay to carry out this traditions cos of the kids already involved.
DeleteFrom where i come from(delta state)mostly the the urhobo's when a woman dies she must be taken to her family for burial even if she's married or she isnt.
ReplyDeleteSame goes for Benue state. Whether married or not, the wife must be buried in her father’s compound
DeleteException of the Tivs. My sister was married to a Tiv man, she was buried in tiv land.
DeleteYou must be from Ughelli-North, they practice such traditions as well. I am Urhobo too and nobody is taking me back there when it is my time. I will have a written plan along with my will on how and where I want to be buried and it will be up to my children, if my husband is no longer alive that is. No ancestor will decide for me. Enough of all the unnecessary barbaric traditions.
DeleteSome areas of Akwa Inom too. Like my moms village. If you wanna marry the person, they will give you a list- that includes yam, goat etc. if you fulfill the list you bury her as you wish. This is in the case where the woman had been properly married oh.
DeleteIf you guys weren’t properly married, it’s a whole other game similar to such expressed above.
It is a vile custom and I detest it.
#passes
ReplyDeleteDead body matter for Nigeria na real matter. When my mother died according to our tradition the mother owns the child so must be buried in maternal village. My mother stayed in her father's house all her life as she lost her husband very early in Life we the children planed to bury her for her papa compound for where na so her maternal people bring fight come jam us. We no kuku get power we do service of songs carry body enter Anglican Church do burial service see her maternal people dey wait for us to carry dead body, na so we bring coffin outside drop for front of church Rev and children do ashes to ashes dust to dust we leave coffin Waka go house. They actually carry her body to thier village and bury her there. Sorry for the long write up jare I no dey wan remember that day
ReplyDeleteSo sorry
Deletecan you imagine ....
DeleteSame thing happened with my mum. This woman was married for 50 years. My dad had a very good relationship with her people but they didn't let my mum stay a night after she passed.
DeleteSorry Dear but can you tell us the complete story.
DeleteThe most Complex
Most important thing is she was honorably buried.
DeleteIf the woman is uhrobo or from some places in edo state her body will be taken back to her father's village to be buried that's their tradition.
ReplyDeleteBenue state too. Idoma people
DeleteIshan
ReplyDeleteReturn their corpse or ask permission
If in doubt ask Obasanjo about Stella
Aunty Stella you are right, the man never took care of her when she was alive of which i can attest to, he was a serial husband, in fact the man deserves no woman in his life, anyway the woman spent 2years at the mortuary yes you heard me right, and she died of breast cancer, i heard the woman told her brothers that the hubby used her for money rituals, so the family was angered coupled with the negligence she received from her wicked husband they decided to bury her, every one in my street is happy with what the woman's family did because he did not deserve the honour of burying her at his compound, oh lest i forgot, he wanted to bury her at his maternal home inside the bush, not even his home town,biko the story is long but am just glad he was disgraced .
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