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Friday, November 15, 2019

Actress Padita Agu Opens Up On Her 3 Year Old Crashed Secret Marriage + Shares Regrets And Gives Advice...

Nollywood actress, Padita Agu has finally opened up on her crashed Marriage which lasted only three years...
In her You -tube channel 'Padita's pages'',she explains that they married the day she met him for the first time time,they used taxi drivers that conveyd them to the Registry as witnesses and why the Marriage eventually crashed......

Shocking Narrative...



 
She says.............



''Marriage at first sight!

 This is the story of how l married a man the very first day we set eyes on each other. The marriage lasted for only 3 years and those 3 years were the most miserable 3 years of my life. So miserable to the point that l attempted committing suicide.

I am sharing my story to serve as a lesson to other girls cause l don't want other girls to go through what l went through.



How She Met Her Husband



She narrated how she met her husband at a friend's place. She didn't take notice of him then. But later that day when she got home, the friend called her that the guy who was around when she came to visit, the friend said he was interested in her. She told her friend that she couldn't recall him and that she wasn't interested, but her friend kept calling and pressured her into exchanging contacts with him.


"So he called me and we started communicating over the phone and that was how we got into what we were not suppose to get into that l regret till date. We got along well. He would call me in the morning and we could talk till 6pm or at 10pm and we talk till day break. We were doing this daily and in one week, it already felt like l knew him so well like l know my family. And before you know it, we started dating, talking marriage and getting committed".


"When we finally met, he was not my spec. But because l had already committed to him on phone without meeting him, l just let it flow. But l wished l had waited to see him in person".


We talking over the phone and we got to the point of agreeing to be married. So he decided to sell me this wonderful idea, that how about we go on some adventure, lets get married the very first day we get to see because all this while we have been talking, I don’t remember his face. I haven’t seen him. He just saw me once when I came to my friend’s place to console her. He might have seen me in my movies, I don’t know. All I know is that at this point, we don’t really know each other. We haven’t seen each other but we have been talking over the phone and we were so familiar.


So he said okay, how about we try some adventure, we arrange a marriage and we just see ourselves right at the registry when we are getting married. I was like wow, that’s deep, that is serious. I was like what would my family say? What would I say to them. I was just scared but excited at the same time. So he said for my family, we don’t have to tell them about the secret marriage. So once we are done, we would just go and meet them as though we were dating and we tell them we want to get married and we take it from there.


So once we get married, maybe years later, if we had kids and all that, we can now open up to them and say ‘oh by the way, we had a secret wedding. At that point, it wouldn’t matter because then, we are already married. And as for him and I, once we do it and we meet ourselves and we realise we don’t want this anymore, as quietly as we did it, we would just go and undo it.


So I thought to myself, there is no harm in this. If we don’t want it again, we dissolve it quietly like he said and my family don’t have to know about our plan because eventually we would wed properly before my family. So, I thought it was a nice idea.


So we went ahead. I went to the registry because he was out of the country at the time. I went to the registry, got us registered. The day came, it was my birthday. He also chose my birthday to make it special. So I felt wow, this is amazing. That day I didn’t tell anyone. In between, he told me not to tell anyone. that if I tell people, nobody would encourage it for some negative reason. Some might be jealous. Tho l eventually told a friend and she was mad about it, discouraged me, and told me not to go ahead, l still went ahead.


On the wedding day, I arrived at the registry with a cab. He arrived with a cab. The cabman who brought me signed as my witness, and the cab man who brought him signed as his witness. and we wedded. From there, we went to see my family to tell them we were dating and wanted to get married and we continued from there.


Time would not permit me to tell you about the horrible experiences l had in the marriage, but the marriage lasted for three years and that three years is the worst I have ever gone through in my almost four decades of living to the point I attempted suicide.


 I just wanted to kill myself and end the trouble. There was this thing about actresses not staying in marriage so I just couldn’t see myself leaving and so I just wanted to stay there. Since I couldn’t leave, I thought I should just end this whole trouble. I know some of you would be like this is why this girl left the industry. Yes, this is why I left the industry. He didn’t tell me to leave directly but indirectly, he got me out of the industry, cut me off everyone, everything…my career, my school, my family and friends. Well, except friends he was okay with ”. I wasn't doing anything (starts sobbing)..


I would tell you more about the experiences l had with him in the next episode

Lessons she learnt from the marriage :


◼️Never give into pressure. Be it peer group pressure, societal pressure or pressure from friends or family.


◼️This goes to people in a long distance relationship. Never assume you are familiar with someone you are talking to or chatting with on phone or social media. Never commit deeply until you see that person.


◼️Never settle for a spouse that you are not compatible with. Be it emotional, intellectual, financial compatibility and spec as well. Go for your spec. Also don't go for someone you are not physically attracted to.


◼️Never live in isolation.





Oh My Padita!!!....You didnt really give much reason as to why the Marriage crashed but you will be fine darling.....πŸ‘πŸ’ͺπŸ’ͺπŸ’“

70 comments:

  1. Ahhhh...how time flies. I remember her movies those days.

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    1. Did they have a kids in the marriage?

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    2. A kid or kids I mean.

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    3. there's some really good advice up there but sabi sabi people won't take time to read and digest. enu e le wa yen

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    4. Those advices ehn, they are life saving. If you know: you know.
      Especially those that marry people living in the abroad hmmmmmmmmm.
      May she find healing

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    5. Enu re lon wa yen ooo, ti o ba wun won ki won gbo 🀷🏾‍♀️

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    6. If you know, you know o. Same mistake i made. 21, met an abroadian. Married him secretely to escape naija life. Manipulated me ehn, isolated me from friends and family, he wasnt particicularly evil to me, but he was controlling my thoughts, mind and decisions on everything. My mum forced me to have kids for him, maybe that will sort issues out. It helped for a minute but issues came back. Infact, who can write all the little things down? Nobody is perfect anyway, i wont say i was perfect too, but i wasnt experienced for marriage, in isolation. Now am starting again, just me and my kids. God will see me through. I am used to isolation, my family made me see hell when i said i wanted out, so i blocked them all out of my life. I dont miss them, am used to isolation. Instead, am looking desperately for another man, but i am reading books that is helping my psychology, telling me to calm down and get the right man, instead of jumping again. The anxiety i get when am without a man, is crazy. I feel like am gonna lose it. When i get a text from the man i have a crush on, i will be so happy. If he doesbt text, i will be so depressed. I am getting better now, thank God for that, plenty men want me esp white males, because i am very sexy even after 2 kids, but i end up chasing them away with my neediness. Some tell me, i am too needy or coming on too strong. I read a book called the rules, that book thought me so much. Now i have 3 guys who want me, i am now learning how to play how to get. Hopefully, i can book a good man down for 2020. I am very successful, buying a house, have a good car, doing a post grad next yr but very needy. That is what getting married early to a manipulator does. There is so much to write people, but i will let it pass. It's me who was dating a married man writing sone chronicles once, but i have left him. Lemme stop

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    7. Anonymous 00:38, either way you will still need people in your life. Don't just rush into marriage especially because of your childrens mental health or do i use the word "emotions".. You might be desperate but take it step by step.
      I'm not saying have plenty friends but when a man knows you don't have family support or any friend at all he might not treat you right in the future or take advantage of you. I dont have friends too but the few I have we see: we laff but I don't discuss my marital life or issues with people since my mum died. I have been married for over 15years and I'm still learning so I know its a no go area. Adult conversation is just needed once a while especially if you live in the abroad if not na depression go kee person 🀷🏾‍♀️.
      Give your heart to God, surrender completely to him and he will heal you. Your children look up to you daily and they learn and pick up habits very fast.
      All the best πŸ€—.

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    8. Thank you for the comment. I have few friends, but i flee from my family, they were making me more depressed becaise of my decision to leave the man.

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    9. Anonymous please send Stella your number I will like to have you as a friend, it seems like we are in the same boat. I live abroad too and don’t mind being your friend.

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  2. ANG food has landed.
    She left her relationship once she heard "abroad ".
    Ikwakwakwakwa

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    1. You dey mind her???? Abroad bobo don land, she no know say water no dey the coconut...

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    2. Please watch the video. In the video she explained that she started her relationship with this guy a while after her relationship at the time ended. She was even rude to the guy because he called her at the time she just broke up with her current boyfriend and she was in a bad mood.

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  3. Marriage, If they tell me i will move out o my matrimonial home i will never believe. Upon all the good girl i be this guy showed me. Although i showed him too. But i eventually left withmy kids when i realise that life no get duplicate.

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  4. The guy did not lie to you na, na part of the adventure you dey so... You don turn motivational speaker na from being an actress. Your CV has been upgraded, so thumps up to him... You siddon finish agree to this kain mumu idea? Lets go on an adventure... That na cartoon series na, Am happy you're alive o, at least to tell your story...

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    1. I don't feel pity for her, she was greedy and naive. She went with the ridiculous arrangement with all her mind, no lesson to learn here. Any woman who do what she did, will still end up like her. Imagine marrying someone you have never seen, just because he is based abroad. smh...

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    2. Yaba left escapee15 November 2019 at 15:07

      I dont pity such people, at your age you cant recogniz a bus filled with armed robbers going the opposite direction, simply bcus theres AC & cool music playing.... you jump in, and later jump out with motivational talks, who send you? Anyone who'd be bold to point out the red flags will be tagged bad belle... your type only learn when burnt

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    3. YLE, she didn't ask for your pity so you can as well pocket it.

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    4. Wow. The way blogs summarize stories. Please watch the full video on YouTube.

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    5. Did she ask you guys for pity, some of you are bitter, always defensive and that's why I find it hard to relate with people of colour especially Nigerians. They can argue and always trying to prove a point.
      YLE, you are a man so you might not understand.
      For ladies, it can happen to anyone. I also married someone in the abroad that we were coursemates in Unilag, very lovely guy even though we never dated while in school but we would talk for hours over the phone while he was abroad and we eventually decided to marry and I relocated only to find out this wonderful mans family members are mad people who treat him anyhow and they decided to turn me into a slave because their bro brought me abroad.
      I'm not from a hungry or bad background so I had to give it back to them hot hot πŸ”₯πŸ”₯ after I behaved like mumu for a while.
      So I know what this lady is talking about.
      Marriage isn't an easy thing, not even someone that you see everyday before marriage. Na another level once you enter 🀷🏾‍♀️.
      May God heal her completely πŸ™πŸΎπŸ€—

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  5. Chia,God's comfort already. Mmmm

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  6. Why will she give much reasons; the truth is that there is no reason that is secret.
    Don't you see their lifestyles displayed all over social media?
    Which man will stomach that kind of outright flippancy and craving for vanities???
    I need answers to my ajujus this afternoon o 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

    I have a distant cousin who is in Nollywood. Of course her marriage has crashed twice with
    kids littered all over...and I do not have any sympathy for her. I only pray that she will
    learn her lessons and repent. Of course, she loathed all my pieces of advice to her
    when the husbands were complaining to us.
    If you see her on social media you will think that the world revolves around her...but
    we the family people know the full gist.
    These ladies live for vanities! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

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    1. Yaba left escapee15 November 2019 at 15:21

      ANG for life... dishing the truth hot hot since the days of $1 matching N1.

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    2. Jesus is the ...life😊😊😊😊

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    3. I hope you have a perfect life too

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    4. Anon 23.03, you must be new on this blog. Ang is perfect and lives a perfect life.

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  7. She was sooooo stupid! Marriage of a lifetime is what you are doing adventure over? In this day and age,who marries a man they have never met physically,never spent time with,never even kissed?/I m shocked.

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  8. This is somehow oh. One man will tell me to marry and hide it from everyone. Looks like he had ab ulterior motive or some dark secret. Must be a controlling man

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    1. My sister!!!
      Theres a yoruba proverb that says that the boyfriend that is well brought up and means well, is not afraid to knock on the door and ask your father that he came to see you. It is the one who hides behind the gate that doesnt mean well

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  9. How I hate men like this...they will make sure you don’t do anything meaningful with your life. Enemies of progress.

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    1. Hello, having a cab man as her witness during her wedding wasn't a bright idea either. What was she thinking, what if he was a serial killer, doesn't she have sense?

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  10. God is your strength Padita.

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  11. Padita, rumours have it that you made the man broke, he built a house for your parents, he sold his business to fund your life style and when he got totaly broke you left.

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    1. I believe you o jare… If u watch d video as she dey talk, dey pause like say she wan cry? Na so I begin laff… That na old format na, make pple think say d guy na d worse person on earth. My dear Padita, we know your type, obviously looking for another target.

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  12. This is real life no be fairy tale.
    Thank God you came out from the "adventure" alive and with your head high.

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  13. Adventure kwa! This is serious, thank God you are alive to tell your story

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  14. What did I just read , sorry about your crashed marriage, but sister you brought this upon yourself , what kind of stupid adventure is that, or you wanted to say greed, anyway thank God you are fine.

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  15. Am glad you are in a happy place, but Truth be told you were greedy and thought you got a meal ticket not knowing the guy has his own plans too.

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  16. Sorry dear. But some that are married almost the same way you did are still happily married together. The differences are the things that attracted you.

    I am on this table but no regret ever because I didnt see money or abroad but a true, reliable and hardworking Christian who strive to please God and work towards making heaven. Although, We are not the ideal perfect couple but we wax stronger everyday in this very institution, and also not carryovering our anger has helped in a great way.

    NB: please mine was not an adventurous marriage.

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    1. Your disclaimer got me 😁😁😁

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    2. I tire o. If you know how seriously God views marriage, you will not use it to form adventure.

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  17. Learn your lessons and come out a much better person. Hold your head up Padita...that is if this your story is the accurate version.

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  18. Only God can judge and knows what truly happened...

    For those of you mocking her, please desist from such. You don't want karma coming to your end years down the line.


    It could happen to those who dated for donkey years.


    Sending her strenght and love.

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    1. TPY, well said o jare. Don't mind the idiots yarning dust. It could happen to anyone who dated for years 🀷🏾‍♀️.
      Wishing her complete healing πŸ’•πŸ˜˜πŸ€—

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    2. @17:43 you had to call other Bvs idiots to make your own comment?
      Please, go get your manners from where you dropped them.

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  19. Hmmm... I will like to hear his own side of the story too .

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  20. I will wait for the part 2 to know exactly what the man did to her. This adventure story is not cutting it for me

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  21. Enter your comment her life

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  22. lovely hair style, she is so beautiful.

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  23. She didn't mention domestic violence? This story is incomplete. DV is the new king in the block whether true or not

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  24. Wasn't she married to a white man? It's been years ago but when I was in school at university of Abuja I knew her former boyfriend that they weren't serious but he was so in love with her. He was heartbroken when she married the white guy. Padita was quite popular then and its been years ago so I've forgotten a lot but i remember she got married to a white man, Italian or Spaniard I think and travelled out. Or did she marry another man after the white guy? I know he had money sha.

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    1. I think her sister is presently married to an Italian.

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  25. I love her innocent looks and roles in movies.

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  26. I just watched the video. Why is she wearing pant? 🀷🏽‍♀️

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  27. I havent seen the man who will keep me on the phone for more than an hour a day. If we speak for 6 hours, that's for the whole week.

    Everyday??! Hours on end?? Never!

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    1. Yes you haven't seen the man who will keep you on the phone for more than an hour because you haven't found love and gotten really serious with a man. Agreed a whole day is too much but hours is what lovers do.

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    2. @01:50, Chikito is busy running her business. No time for sweet nothings.

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  28. I watched to the end. Hmmm... I like that she spoke about her temperament and advised her kind, at the end. That was the best part of this video, for me. It shows that she knows herself better and is using this knowledge to build her life.

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  29. She also spoke about men being able to identify the women they can prey on, who live in isolation. True!!!

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  30. Just as dumb as her BFF red vigor.
    The whole story is annoying
    Like how dumb can you be.

    Nope I don't feel sorry for her. Cry me a river

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  31. Padita, please how were you raised that you went on an adventurous marriage with a total stranger WITHOUT A WORD TO YOUR PARENTS?!!!
    I mean, your parents raised you from birth, made sacrifices for you to succeed, watched over you for years into adulthood say 25 or 30 years and you did this?!!! SOMETHING IS REALLY WRONG.
    It's not that you eloped with a family friend's son, your school boyfriend or 'the guy next door'.
    Keep your story, advice and lessons to yourself.

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