Actress Padita Agu Opens Up On Her 3 Year Old Crashed Secret Marriage + Shares Regrets And Gives Advice...

Nollywood actress, Padita Agu has finally opened up on her crashed Marriage which lasted only three years...

In her You -tube channel 'Padita's pages'',she explains that they married the day she met him for the first time time,they used taxi drivers that conveyd them to the Registry as witnesses and why the Marriage eventually crashed......

Shocking Narrative...

 

She says.............

''Marriage at first sight!

 This is the story of how l married a man the very first day we set eyes on each other. The marriage lasted for only 3 years and those 3 years were the most miserable 3 years of my life. So miserable to the point that l attempted committing suicide.

I am sharing my story to serve as a lesson to other girls cause l don't want other girls to go through what l went through.



How She Met Her Husband


She narrated how she met her husband at a friend's place. She didn't take notice of him then. But later that day when she got home, the friend called her that the guy who was around when she came to visit, the friend said he was interested in her. She told her friend that she couldn't recall him and that she wasn't interested, but her friend kept calling and pressured her into exchanging contacts with him.


"So he called me and we started communicating over the phone and that was how we got into what we were not suppose to get into that l regret till date. We got along well. He would call me in the morning and we could talk till 6pm or at 10pm and we talk till day break. We were doing this daily and in one week, it already felt like l knew him so well like l know my family. And before you know it, we started dating, talking marriage and getting committed".


"When we finally met, he was not my spec. But because l had already committed to him on phone without meeting him, l just let it flow. But l wished l had waited to see him in person".


We talking over the phone and we got to the point of agreeing to be married. So he decided to sell me this wonderful idea, that how about we go on some adventure, lets get married the very first day we get to see because all this while we have been talking, I don’t remember his face. I haven’t seen him. He just saw me once when I came to my friend’s place to console her. He might have seen me in my movies, I don’t know. All I know is that at this point, we don’t really know each other. We haven’t seen each other but we have been talking over the phone and we were so familiar.


So he said okay, how about we try some adventure, we arrange a marriage and we just see ourselves right at the registry when we are getting married. I was like wow, that’s deep, that is serious. I was like what would my family say? What would I say to them. I was just scared but excited at the same time. So he said for my family, we don’t have to tell them about the secret marriage. So once we are done, we would just go and meet them as though we were dating and we tell them we want to get married and we take it from there.


So once we get married, maybe years later, if we had kids and all that, we can now open up to them and say ‘oh by the way, we had a secret wedding. At that point, it wouldn’t matter because then, we are already married. And as for him and I, once we do it and we meet ourselves and we realise we don’t want this anymore, as quietly as we did it, we would just go and undo it.


So I thought to myself, there is no harm in this. If we don’t want it again, we dissolve it quietly like he said and my family don’t have to know about our plan because eventually we would wed properly before my family. So, I thought it was a nice idea.


So we went ahead. I went to the registry because he was out of the country at the time. I went to the registry, got us registered. The day came, it was my birthday. He also chose my birthday to make it special. So I felt wow, this is amazing. That day I didn’t tell anyone. In between, he told me not to tell anyone. that if I tell people, nobody would encourage it for some negative reason. Some might be jealous. Tho l eventually told a friend and she was mad about it, discouraged me, and told me not to go ahead, l still went ahead.


On the wedding day, I arrived at the registry with a cab. He arrived with a cab. The cabman who brought me signed as my witness, and the cab man who brought him signed as his witness. and we wedded. From there, we went to see my family to tell them we were dating and wanted to get married and we continued from there.


Time would not permit me to tell you about the horrible experiences l had in the marriage, but the marriage lasted for three years and that three years is the worst I have ever gone through in my almost four decades of living to the point I attempted suicide.

 I just wanted to kill myself and end the trouble. There was this thing about actresses not staying in marriage so I just couldn’t see myself leaving and so I just wanted to stay there. Since I couldn’t leave, I thought I should just end this whole trouble. I know some of you would be like this is why this girl left the industry. Yes, this is why I left the industry. He didn’t tell me to leave directly but indirectly, he got me out of the industry, cut me off everyone, everything…my career, my school, my family and friends. Well, except friends he was okay with ”. I wasn't doing anything (starts sobbing)..


I would tell you more about the experiences l had with him in the next episode

Lessons she learnt from the marriage :


◼️Never give into pressure. Be it peer group pressure, societal pressure or pressure from friends or family.


◼️This goes to people in a long distance relationship. Never assume you are familiar with someone you are talking to or chatting with on phone or social media. Never commit deeply until you see that person.


◼️Never settle for a spouse that you are not compatible with. Be it emotional, intellectual, financial compatibility and spec as well. Go for your spec. Also don't go for someone you are not physically attracted to.


◼️Never live in isolation.

Oh My Padita!!!....You didnt really give much reason as to why the Marriage crashed but you will be fine darling.....👍💪💪💓