STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CURSED OR JINXED?
Stella am I cursed or jinxed?
Stella am I cursed or jinxed?
I'm confused,this has been tormenting me,I need answers.
So I meet men, well meaning men, men that could help me in life coz seriously no man is an island but then after the first visit, with no tangible reason or excuse,we won't see again.
Funny thing is that, before they drop me off,they talk about the next time they'll see me as if they can't wait,how intelligent and a great conversationist I am,and seriously I am a great talker and listener, there's no dull moment,most times theres a good vibe going on between me and them,great flow too, nothing awkward.i get home, they also call me,we talk and plan the next time and all off a sudden they ghost me, either a day before the proposed visit or just few hours to it, no calls,no text,no explanation, nothing.
And I'm not talking about s#x,they don't even talk about wanting or not wanting s#x, they don't know my stance about s#x or know that I've been celibate for so long and whether I'll give in or not to their s#xual demand before some bvs will say it's coz of s#x that they are running away.
And I'm beautiful too, blog visitors I am not ugly, I pride myself on being tall, busty, straight legs,fine face d way God gave me,great smile,I don't have smelling mouth,I rub deodorant and perfume,i dress well with a good walking step, almost like catwalking,Im a good girl with a solid head on my shoulder,I'm business oriented and an enterpreneur with a growing business, Im well put together, my conversation skill is okay,most times i and the men share good laugh and jokes,we talk on vast topics but I can't fathom why all of a sudden they up and run,with no chance of a second outing.
I'm talking about them not talking to me again,from the time they disappoint me to forever, I'll call them,they won't pick, I'll send them msgs asking them how they are faring and hope everything is alright, they won't reply. Most times I end up deleting their numbers coz I really do not know what I did wrong and it hurts so much, I'm a very emotional person,my heart can't take it.
I'm talking men that are knowledgeable too, so it's not like they are men with no purpose.
I'm a young good girl,I can count how many bad things I've done,men can't keep running away from me like this now,it's not fair,it's not NATURAL. I refuse to believe it is, pls bvs with good intentions,wat can I do? I believe a problem shared is a problem half solved, I need solutions.
*Maybe its cos you are too beautful and too perfect (from your description oh)
Maybe they realise that your ITK (I too know) is a turn off after they drop you have have a selah moment.
I dont know oh,just thnking.........
If you think it's not natural, pray and fast about it. We can't do anything for you here. Or maybe you send mail to Stella for SNM post
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
It was like that with me. I could go 3 years straight up, and no man will even say how are you?
DeleteUntil I realized that all I needed was God. I started seeing the beauty and blessings in every disappointment that was when things changed. I went from complaining to thanking him for every disappointment. One came, I was expecting him to leave as usual but he did not. My wedding is on the 21st of December.
ANON,i key to your testimony and hope God will help me. mine is that when ever men collects my number, they will never call but when they will be asking for the number, they will be asking for it as if their whole life depend on it. but once i manage to give it to them, that's the end of it. they won't ever call, it will look as if someone went to warn them never to try calling the line. but if i give out my number and get called, the person must be a married man which i don't have time for them.
DeleteCheck carefully online do you have a badoo profile
DeletePoster, go to MFM Ajangbadi for deliverance. That’s all I have to say.
DeleteStella please match me with this poster. I am seriously and genuinely interested in her. Thanks
DeleteThere's a spiritual veil covering your face. It's nothing you did or didn't do. Go back and know God for yourself not through any pastor, if you must have a prayer partner, let them pray WITH you and not FOR you. Lastly fast for 3 days and on the third day place your hand on your head, one hand on your abdomen and denounce your membership( knowingly or unknowingly) of any kingdom contrary to God's. Live a Godly life after this and come back to share your testimony here. Remember God has good thoughts towards you and not evil. He knows your needs. God bless you. I'll be praying with you from this post.
DeleteI stand with Stella maybe they feels that you are too full of yourself
ReplyDeleteMy dear, there is nothing like being full of yourself here. Just know that you deserve better than them- you deserve the BEST and it would come, it would be like magic to you.
DeletePray and fast very well, I will advise that you to do white fasting, maybe for like 3days, you can include Midnight prayers.
Meanwhile, get busier, make more money and never be desperate. Move nearer to God too.
Please, do not be in a hurrry for a relationship, everything will fall into place. Best of luck. E-hugs.
No this is a clear case of spirit husband. Go to mfm.
DeleteActually Stella was too judgmental and insensitive in her comment in her comment. This girl is truly hurting and seeking answers. There's nothing wrong in one feeling or thinking highly of herself especially if it's in fact the truth. My understanding of her description of herself is for the readers to understand that she's not lacking in beauty or behavior wise hence, the confusion as to why she never gets a call back. As for the writer, I'll say draw closer to God for only He can help. I would have said deliverance but how do you know which pastor to trust these days. Just keep developing yourself, do things that make you happy and always table your desires to God daily in prayer and He never fails. Also, try and do good for other people as well; as Christmas is approaching, you can help a family or anyone that you know needs help to have a merry Christmas that is of course if you are financially able. Also, just always offer little kindness whenever you can, you may one day encounter an angel that will change the course of your life. My little nuggets tho, good luck.
DeleteAnon 20:36 best comment so far.dont mind Stella poster please and follow exactly this advice.thank you
DeleteMaybe they are all off the market n were just passing time. It they've covered your real face with that of a wolf or a dirty cloth.
ReplyDeleteYou described your physical attributes, "tall,shapely, pretty face, good business etc." but nothing about your character traits and relationship with Jesus which is a driver of the "godly characters".
ReplyDeleteYOu can't be a "good talker and listener" at the same time.
If you prepare only your natural body for marriage but not your spiritual body for eternity, the tragedy is that you probably lose out in this life and definitely lose out in the life to come.
For the Scripture says that "godliness is profitable unto all things..." 1 Tim. 4:6-8... "all things..."include
your welfare here on earth -talking about emotional/spiritual welfare.
Lady, if you humble yourself (in fasting/praying/studying the Word of God), you will be amazed at the light
and beauty of your inner being which is of great worth in God's sight.
He will lead you in paths of righteousness, besides still water... to that person that will add beauty to your life.
That is my yarns for today... 🌹🌹🌹😊
To think some mgbekeish sister somewhere who is socially ackward is struggling with who to choose?
DeleteYou sound desperate.
ReplyDeleteMen can smell desperation a thousand miles afar. Calm down, focus on yourself and your God. Be prayerful. You will be fine dear.
You probably talk too much and overtly excited.
Cheers.
Political anonymous greets you!
Delete😃😃😃 with all that info up there, she really does talk too much. Nne take it easy, let them discover you in their own time. Do not be in a hurry to expose yourself to a total stranger out of excitement.
DeleteDear poster, I get you totally. I’m just like you. If everything you’ve described is true, then start praying seriously. I mean serious prayer. It’s not natural like you suspect. At all at all. I get men tell me I’m addictive and that I’m fun to talk to and they always want to hang around me. My own problem is that I haven’t seen the one I like and the ones I like behave like NEPA. Very annoying.
DeleteHmmmm at 34 years of age and I am on this table my heart was broken once the rest I never see the person I like, I leave them and go🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆🙆😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
DeleteProblem different in this life oh.. Ototo Logun 🤷
ReplyDeleteMay God intervene!
Haba Stella! All men can't be running because she is perfect
ReplyDeleteOr because she is ITK(I too know)
Poster I believe it is a spell or cause put on you by your village people or blood relatives ,might be someone you unintentionally hurt in the past.
Think about it this way cos its not natural at all.
Take it to God in prayer, I know you will ask 'have I not been praying? But still pray more.
If you are tired of praying go meet spiritualist let them do spiritual work for you.
Go to a powerful native doctor that can help beg on your behalf for the spell to be broken.
Then go meet a strong herbalist that will do soap or bath water or cream for you when next you meet good man that show interest so they won't run again. At least you get the chance to know the men then choose, after choosing tie one down with spiritual means & fiam you get married cos he will be the one crazy begging you to marry him.
Na so my aunty friend take marry, they are 13yrs & counting ,a happy,almost perfect marriage.
ANON this your advice na wa o
DeletePoster, I am begging you in the name of God and anything you believe in, DO NOT TAKE THIS ADVICE. Yes! I’m shouting.
DeleteYou will not know peace.
Wait on God. He is the only one that can give good gifts without sorrow attached.
This advice is twisted to say the least. It is good to get married, but at what cost?
DeleteEven if you were an ITK,not all men would run away from you just like that.
ReplyDeleteMaybe..just maybe God is protecting you and your heart because you are a very emotional person.
ReplyDeleteMaybe..just maybe God thinks..no knows they are no good already.
Maybe..just maybe God has your helpers/partner prepared already and they are already on their way to you, and you just haven't met him, her or them yet.
It always looks/seems like God is never going to show up..just until he actually does.
I really don't think you are cursed or jinxed. Encourage yourself and be positive..everything pans out eventually.
I'm not the poster but thank you for this message Essa.
DeleteThis one Na true o. He may just be protecting you like he did me 6 times.
DeleteMy first boyfriend would have killed me in the house with beating and emotional violence.(1 year and 8 months)
The second one and I are both AS and the idiot is actually beneath me but I didn’t see it like that. I fed and clothed and trained the idiot in scholl(3 years)
The 3rd one has madness in his family with so many other vices i can’t even begin to talk about (2 years and 5 months)
The 4th one was a pretender( 5 months of dating)
The 5th one was the love of my life. I hate to say it but I still love him but he didn’t want to marry me and his family would have given me hell im sure(4years).
The 6th one was using me to feed and shine as I was his Oga at work and my level was not come chop. Thank God it ended. He had been trying to relocate abroad and would have used me to enter Canada. (5 months).
My dear sister, all these people ended the relationship and I cried and prayed to die at each time and thought they were the best there could ever be but I realized after each episode that I deserved better and would have been a very unhappy married woman.
Now? I’m still single but my peace of mind is heavenly. I’m so happy. I have been single for over a year now but I won’t lie to you, I love it. I’m so emotional as a person and this break has helped me to reevaluate and put a lot of things into perspective.
Do your part and leave the rest to God.
Let me still tell you what a colleague told me today.
DeleteWe were talking about marriage and she explained how she was madly in love with one guy and he seemed to love her too. She used to go help him check his building that was still on. She was so sure they’d get narried.
Out of nowhere, she started having bad dreams. The day the guy Came see her, she saw him and felt something was off.
One month later, she heard the guy was getting married. She almost died. Not that he was dating someone else o, marriage?!
Well, long story short, Mr joined a cult( he was already doing well but got greedy and mixed with the wrong crowd), killed his wife’s brothers, started attacking her people until they went to different places to ask and he was revealed as the culprit.
After sometime, he started acting strange and would go mad at intervals. Not madness inside he house o, he comes outside and eats from the refuse bin and gutter and afterskme time, he recovers and gets back to normal.
His accomplices, one has been sick for donkey years while the 3rd one has a messed up life. He didn’t even make as much money as you’d expect a ritualist to have.
My sister, hold on. It will happen. God knows, sees and feels everything we feel.
Something is wrong somewhere.
ReplyDeleteI hope you're not self absorbed.
Go to God in prayers fasting.
ReplyDeleteAsk God to break the York of disappointment in your life.
Girls can hype themselves. How can someone be a good talker and a good listener?
ReplyDeleteJames 1:19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone
should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
Please look inwards before you begin to go to those who will tell you
that someone in your family is responsible. Look inwards and change your
attitude. Marriage is not by pretty face and good shape. It is all about
character.
I think as a talker she was focusing on the quality, so yeah both's possible.
Delete@16:30
DeleteWell some people especially men are so sensitive to that your "quality" talkativeness
and they will avoid you like a plague once you show up. All they see in you is a
nagging woman, very cantankerous one at that.
Zip your lips 🤐🤐🤐🤐
Madam ANG, if you had calmed down to read my short comment, instead of rushing to respond, you would have noted that I was not referring to myself. You don't know me, so pocket your advice. You must be a very loquacious person yourself. Learn to agree to disagree with people sometimes. You can't always be right.
DeleteWith your descriptions You are so full of your self
ReplyDeleteShe has a healthy self esteem and confidence and it ain't her fault you can't process that.
Deletesorry you don't think so highly of yourself, some people do
DeletePoster, talk to God about it. He will send your own at the right time and your own will have tooo much time for you. That is how divine blessings come.
ReplyDeletePoster relax, yours hasn't come yet; when he does, he won't leave.
ReplyDeleteJust pray about it, this is really strange, nke a agbaro aka biko.
ReplyDeleteStella I don't agree with you,if first one run,2nd 3rd 4th 5th and 6th won't Na,I understand you poster,the only thing to do is to go for mfm deliverance,fast as much as you can then pray,after that when next you go out with a guy ask him his turn on and off,his likes, dislikes and all those,don't change your character BC of them,be you if trylt what you wrote up there are your characteristics,yours will come.
ReplyDeleteAlso ask Stella to add you to that snm.goodluck girl
Yes poster go for mountain of fire deliverance. It is either you have a spiritually husband or you are been afflicted by the marine spirit they are very wicked. Spiritually husband are very jealous they don't let any man take over their physical wife if not proper deliver they kill any man that take over their physical wife same with spiritually wife many people are afflicted but they don't know. The earlier you start your deliverance the better for your freedom from them. Continue being in christ never let Him depart from you if you are a catholic join the charismatic and visit the monastery always sow a seed about your case to God that you want to be set free. May God Almighty deliver you in Jesus name Amen.
DeleteBabe, you too dey show yourself for where man dey. Try calm down small. No be everything wey man talk you go get answer to, sometimes act like you don't know, tell him you don't have an idea, you would appreciate it if he can put u through. That way, you're giving him an upper hand and allowing him take the lead. No be oneday person meet man, e go show all him qualities finish, na small small you go dey dish am out. Men love to be in charge, even if he's saying rubbish. And if you feel it's beyond all these suggestions and advice, seek spiritual help ASAP. Nothing hard enemy DO!!!
ReplyDeleteSmh. If I understand you well, she should act dumb to show that the man is more than her to boost his ego just because she wants to be in a relationship? Like what the heck!
DeletePlease if I may ask, since when has it become a crime if a woman is more intelligent than a man? Since when has it become a crime to be more than he is?
Poster please relax and please don't ever ever lower your standards for any man. A man that is deserving of you will come if only you can be patient and pray.
I think what you need is God, i know somebody that has similar issue, good girl and all the like, Men sees her and love her like no tomorrow and suddenly they disappeared without reason, it was a concern, it was in the place of prayers it was revealed that there are forces saying she cannot marry. mercy located her and finally she got married
DeleteMay be you have not seen your own man..You are yet to locate your boo from God..
ReplyDeleteJust pray and fast concerning the issue.Give God praises all the time..
If you are doing i too know please stop it..it's scare some people off ..
It is turn off to some pple.
Good luck to you..
Stella some will even want to chop and run, if it's her i too know character. So it not natural at all
ReplyDeleteposter is possible during your outing with those men you talk too much, you give every detail about yourself before asking. You may be a proud person when you talk, you may be saying things that anger them . Another thing is that it could be a spiritual thing, i said so cos you cannot be the way you describe yourself and still no man want to be with you for anything.
ReplyDeleteGo for deliverance, seek for the face of God. Talk to your parents about it especially your mum. open up to her and have a good discussion with her is possible someone has covered your face with a dark cloth and that will make any man that comes around you to run away.
Well i dont think she is priding herself too much, she is just trying to explain how she looks and to me its not priding pls....
ReplyDeletePoster, you need to pray and fast oo, seriously becos this is not ordinary the way you are looking at it. Go to any bible believing church and talk to Gos the way you wrote to stella here....
I wish you the best
Yes you got it, it's not pride at all; she's just describing everything into details so we get her well to give her advise.
DeletePoster please follow Kalomita's advise do not be discouraged
DeleteHmm my dear They are not that into you period!! Just be yourself always..However I will advice that when you are having a conversation, listen more and talk less...Yes you are intelligent and all but it will give you time to know the kind of men they are and if to continue the friendship thing or not..Sometimes even when am vast on certain topics, I tend to say I have little knowledge and hear them out so I can weigh their IQ..Sometimes sit back and relax without having an endgame or endpoint..If it happens, it happens...When you meet your man, you will be so surprised and happy these men were never in your life...All the best...
ReplyDeleteHmmm...I’m speechless
ReplyDeleteSometimes, people don't realize that they are actually a favored child of God because bad things are happening to them or around them. These men could have really hurt or damaged you if they remain in your life but ghosting you could be God's way of protecting you. You gotta look back on all those moments and realize that.
ReplyDeleteDo I believe in curses and jinx? Yes but i also believe in Restoration. God will give you double for your trouble, sis.
You didnt talk about your spiritual life but now is the best moment to have that talk with God.
I don't know what happened with my comment but what I typed is similar to yours Perx.
DeletePoster pay attention to this comment pls.
Truth💯
DeleteNice one
DeletePerxian, Thank you for this
DeletePerxian I this perspective of yours
DeleteHonestly this is too true.
DeleteFor me I’ve learnt to trust my instincts about people. Listen to that still small voice I’m your heart. I’ll never forget the guy that I was dating during my masters. This guy was professing undying love, there’s nothing he didn’t say. I liked him too, I’d fallen for everything but I didn’t have peace. My sister felt it was because he was white. I didn’t make it official. After he got tired, he dumped me and started dating another girl. A year after the dumping he got arrested FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!!! He beat his other girlfriend.
When I showed my mom and sister they were shook because even they were telling me to give him a chance but I couldn’t.
I just Thank God for my life
True
DeleteJust go for deliverance dear. You might do multiple deliverance o. It is not normal.... speaking from having had same almost felt experience...I like you stole my story. There's a God who rules in the affairs of men.
ReplyDeleteBeloved, your solution is here and now. Wherever you are right now, stand up on your feet and spread your legs wide and pray this prayer: Enemy from my father's side THIS SIDE(INDICATE BY MOVING THEM TO YOUR LEFT HAND SIDE) Enemy from my mother's side THIS SIDE(INDICATE BY MOVING THEM TO YOUR RIGHT HAND SIDE) then scream on top of your voice... AK 47 from heaven what are you waiting for???????? Begin to release heavenly bullet upon them, shoot them, fire them, destroy them before they destroy me... Then take a cold bath, dress up and go out. The next man you meet, don't talk too much, you shall testify HALLELUYAH!!!
ReplyDelete😳😳😳
Delete😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭
DeleteHahahahahahahahahahaha
Delete😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 are you not just an ewu Gambia 🤣🤣🤣. Like I’m literally picturing this scenery in my head and laughing like maaaaad. You are a 🐐, aswear 🤣🤣🤣.
DeleteOperation fire and shoot them spiritual exercise!
DeleteI'm reading this comment again and in stitches. Can't really tell if it is serious or a joke.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Chai! Who did we offend that wrote this kind of comment??? Like the way I am laughing in public is not good at all... Stella... please, where did you get these your BVs please?
DeleteWith the description of yourself 👆my dear a lot is wrong with you but you don't know it yet. You seems like a braggart with entitlement mentality. You really need to work on that and see the way men will be running after you like house flies.
ReplyDeleteNa wa for you sef
DeleteThat's not true. Do you think it's all the men she meets that wants a relationship ? A lot wants just sex and when a man wants just sex, he cares not about bragging or beauty infact they both turn men on.
DeleteI think it is spiritual.
Because she took her time to make us get the full picture, she's now a braggart?????
DeleteThe way u non braggarts think tho. You will be fine las las
Comot here with ur smelling low esteem
Deletethis is spiritual, i hope you get the help you need.
ReplyDeleteAwwww! Sorry my darling. Could it be that you are too eager? Personally, I prefer ruling out all the possible and probable physical problems and potential problems before delving into the spiritual. I don't know you personally but from what I deduced from your writeup, you have a preconceived notion of what most men want. It may surprise you to know that different men want different qualities for "wife material", bedmate, side chic, platonic friend, etc. As gorgeous as you are, you aren't every man's cup of tea.
ReplyDeleteIt's a bit tricky, sweetheart, because you can't be a judge in your own case. You may think you're having a pleasant or intelligent conversation with a man, but that man may perceive you as overbearing and full of yourself. It's also possible that your desire to get a man or prove to yourself that all is well with you, makes you come off a tad desperate. Yeah, I know, it sounds ridiculous but sometimes the problem is right under your nose but you may still be looking out the window for it.
The wrong attitude can drive a man further away than a bad smell. You may be the poster child for personal hygiene and wear the best perfumes but there might be something about the way you relate with men that puts them off. Perhaps, have an honest discussion with a male friend of yours or a male colleague you relate well with, ask them if you have certain mannerisms or attitude that put them off. Search from within before you get tempted to start messing with the wrong crowd for spiritual help. I remember when I asked my kids to write down what they like about me and what they dislike. Oh my! What a revelation! I read their lists laughing and crying at the same time. It was funny yet heartbreaking. There I was thinking I was the best mum in the world... apparently not. Sometimes you need another pair of eyes to give you a proper evaluation.
Darling, please calm down and don't be too eager. Focus on other things. Sometimes, love finds you when you aren't even looking. The right man for you will come at the right time.
e-hugs and kisses.
Good advice! I like that statement...messing with the wrong crowd... You don't want to know what's on the other side of spiritual matters. Make you no go run from fry pan to fire
DeleteI love you Ronalda. May God bless you with more wisdom.@ black diamond please learn the sandwich approach from Ronalda.
DeletePoster pls take this advice
You sound quite mature and kind. I like you:)
DeleteIf truly what you said is exactly what is happening I'll advice that you go to a bible believing church for deliverance probably MFM prayer city Lagos,explain to the deliverance ministers you meet thr,ur case isn't new to them,it could be a spiritual problem,maybe you are Ogbanje or spirit husband wahala but if it's also natural God will sort it all out.
ReplyDeleteHe's the God of all flesh and thr is nothing too hard for him to do. So be still and know that he's God okay!
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ReplyDeleteBeauty is also a problem to some men, they blv that beautiful girls are never truthful.
ReplyDeletePoster also part hard about your situation.🤗🤗🤗
Check Ur attitude and the way you talk,are u domineering type,just check yourself and pray to God
ReplyDeleteEverything is not spiritual tho we can't rule out spiritual aspect of things. Have you gone ahead to meet them face to face after ghosting you? I mean, if they see you physically, would they decline to continue from where you left off?
ReplyDeleteBut since you're convinced it's not natural, maybe you should intensify prayers dealing with disappointments, failure & half ass breakthrough.
There is nothing wrong here. Being turned down is part of life, business and the dating scene. I disagree with Stella here about your being "perfect". You have not described yourself as that. Rather, you have listed features and qualities all if not most see as desirable. Which one would you give up for attention or help from these men? Good hygiene, your smarts or your looks? Don't sacrifice the end for the means- it may just be that you are better off not settling for any business or professional relationship with them so that you can be available for something or someone that suits you better in the near future. These people are not the only ones who can help out there. Don't let desperation set in: even the most basic character can smell that a planet away and swoop in to wreck your self-esteem. Low self-esteem is a magnet for high-handedness. Read books that build resilience so you can bounce back after a "no" and on communication, selling or influence so you can communicate your brand better but I think dating should be more organic. If even Jesus was rejected by mere mortals, who are we? Can two walk together lest they agree? You probably are not in soul-sync with these guys. Don't cast your pearl before swine. Even if these people are all that to you, they may not be for you. If you have the same issue with women, it may be an attitude flaw self-help books and motivational speakers or videos can help- we all have those flaws. If it is just guys, you are lucky they don't hang around to spill blood, blurring the view and making it harder to spot Mr. Right for marriage or Mr/Mrs Right for business. You don't need stories that touch etched on your tender heart.
ReplyDeletePlease, don't go kneeling anywhere for fellow human beings to touch your head and pray for you. Even Jesus did not blow from his debut at 12 till when he was 30. If you think men who drop you off and go are bad, may you not meet men who use the name of GOD (not even President or Prime minister) to wreck desperate women and cause untold havoc. Pray by yourself in secret and the God who answers in secret will reward you. Peace!!!
You have a father, His name is Jehovah, call on Him and His son Jesus the Christ, they will surely answer you. Do midnight prayers with 3-7 days fasting and ask for revelation of what the problem might be. God will give you direction and bless you mightily.
ReplyDeletePlease go to MFM for deliverance. You'd be amazed at what a time apart with God in prayers and fasting will do for you. Third one na small matter for God. All the best.
ReplyDeletePoster, count is all joy my dear.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of a time in my life, I went for two years without any tangible relationship with guys. Anyone I meet never stayed, some i liked some i didnt. The truth was if I meet them and they start talking about relationship i usually go back and pray. I was very prayerful, in fact fire brand. I had peace and i was truly happy.
I remember one calling me after he ghosted himself and not me and telling me my spirit is too strong. I much later found out that his wife that he lied was dead is actually alive.
I later dated one but no sex, but he was busy gossiping that he doesn't like skinny girls. And I am skinny. I just realized that he was just waiting until I could give in to sex. After that I was done I cried to God and prayed.
I remember him telling me that he was just saving me from heartbreak and keeping me for marriage but that if I want to go on I should.
At this point I was very lonely or so I thought. That very day I met someone I liked and he was very reciprocating of everything. He never left or ghost or anything. So I settled in for this one. My spiritual life started fading. I ended up having sex. We dated oo. But I left that relationship with my heart broken and my self esteem empty.
Then I remembered how God was always saving me from myself but I wanted to be in a relationship so badly.
I am working out my salvation in fear and trembling now, returning to my first love and building my relationship with my maker. I still pray if I meet anyone, they dont ghost again but they are willing to remain friends. I have had suitors also but if I pray and I dont get answers I politely tell you that I am praying and haven't heard from God. Luckily, they all understand that my relationship with my God comes first.
The peace is back, my heart is still healing but I always pray daily that God should save me from myself.
Poster, pursue God. Relationships are not always validation of being wanted or success in social life. You have business focus on it. Be happy and wait for Gods plan for you. If you keep on running from one relationship to another being that you are emotional, you might be scarred, and the damage done by the time you meet your life partner.
Thank you. This inspired me
DeleteGod Bless you for this
DeleteGod Bless you for this
DeleteThere is no curse anywhere. You are gravitating towards men that don't want you. Go out and socialize and stop thinking every man you meet is a potential suitor. Some just want to be friends. With the way you described yourself, I don't even want to be friends with you. Life and relationships and even love are more than hygiene, beauty and qualifications. Live your life and stop thinking men are the end all be all. You probably always come off as VERY DESPERATE and even a desperate man does not want a desperate woman. Please forget men and just live your life for you. Somebody might come along or not but you would always have you so treat yourself well.
ReplyDeletePoster before I say anything I will like to ask these questions, Are you a virgin? Have you ever been in a steady relationship? The problem you just stated above is it since childhood? Honestly I think the men you meant are all married men who don't want to mess up with your heart. You need to pray for God to give you your own man. My dear poster you have a good guiding angel that is saving you from being played by married men and fuck boys cause your desperation to have a man has terribly blinded you. Please stop worrying yourself about men and grow your business cause you are not the only one facing rejection and disappointment.
ReplyDeleteI have not commented on this blog for some months now but your story really moved me.I am a lover of Christ and I use bible principle for all issues in my life and it has worked for me.The book of Matthew 6:33 states that "Seek yea the kingdom of God and HIS righteousness and every other things shall be added unto you.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with you as you are fearfully and wonderfully made.Always declare the word of GOD and psalm 139 in your life.When this become your lifestyle,you will witness drastic changes in your life and every other things will fall into place.
U probably try to hard to impress and it shows. If u are not careful u will end up with an abusive man. Or maybe u smell. BO or MO!!
ReplyDeleteI like your confidence.. its obvious you have built your self esteem and have developed yourself for that perfect guy.it takes time to get to this point. my advice is dont feel bad when they leave but relax and look forward to the next big thing.. you didnt say how old you are,that wud hv settled a lot of question about you coming out as desperate or in a hurry..But if u dont pray i guess its time you start cause all good and perfect gift comes from the lord
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please don't go anywhere for deliverance. That's how you become a "miracle harlot" and be vulnerable for abuse. Nothing, absolutely nothing is wrong with you. You will bloom in your own time... and if perhaps you feel troubled, that there might be a spiritual angle, you have the same access to God as every other 'deliverance pastor.' This life is only one, don't become less than you are in order to win and keep any man (or woman for men). Cheers to an amazing end of year for you!
ReplyDeleteI use deodorant and perfume made me laugh. Read psalms. Wake up at night(1am)and pray. I wont recommend a church cause I dont trust pastors anymore. Then just maybe is not yet time for that miracle, so just calm down but be prayerful.
ReplyDeletePlease go for deliverance, its a spiritual husband issue. Run to MFM fast and come back to testify.
ReplyDeletePoster, my advice to you is Get Busy!
ReplyDeleteGet Busy with expanding your growing business, get busy with acquiring professional certificates or get busy with helping the underprivileged. This will help remove your mind from 'man troubles' and also help strengthen your self esteem.
Another advantage is that while you're engaged being Busy; quality men will start finding you very attractive and won't leave. You may not be aware of this but your mind is occupied with finding Mr. Right now and that desperation attracts people who don't stay. Nothing is wrong with you; just refocus your thought process and you'll be good.
Think of when you have 3 exams to write and you're running a business? You won't even think about questioning your selfworth; this is when you really become Very Attractive to Quality Men!
talk to God and wait.
ReplyDeletecome and join us at d waiting list of God.
First of all, pray about it. Then change how you react and behave when you are with them. Act like you dont care and speak less. Expecting a positive write up from u soon!
ReplyDeleteMaybe you are giving off a desperate vibe. You have to no matter how much you are liking a guy you have to keep it to yourself. Men know which women are desperate and it is a turnoff because it makes you appear clingy. Also take stock of your conversation, you should not be talking about marriage on the first date, past relationships, family issues or money issues. Don't relay your entire life story, there has to be a mystery about you. Heavy conversations spoil dates and make you appear as though you have a whole lot of baggage that is going to weigh down their lives. We have all made dating mistakes. Also remember these times of trial will make you appreciate your king more when he comes along. You will value him in a different way because of all the bumps in the road you had to take before he entered your world.
ReplyDeletePoster maybe you have strong body or mouth odour, these people run for their lives. It is not easy to correct somebody with these deficiiencies, so they just run. It may even be spiritual odiur. Cois i have heard of a wicked uncle that did that to his niece. She smells spiritually.
ReplyDeleteI had to read through again. You give too much information away on your first dates. You said you talk on vast topics? On your first date? You probably wear the men out that they even lost interest even in sleeping with you. Let the men talk more; talk less, laugh and smile more. It will even help you to know if the man is who you want. The man will want to find out more about you on subsequent dates.
ReplyDeleteYou talk here only about dates? What happened to men in your neighborhood, your business place, customers, church? Why are they not asking you out? You are probably not approachable.
I noticed as a young girl that girls that had the most offers were the friendly ones- not the most beautiful or the most intelligent. Be friendly, don't always wait for men to greet you first. Smile and radiant happiness. Learn to make little everyday conversation with the opposite sex-about the weather, traffic etc nothing serious.
When you talk to men around you on just little chit- chat (don't talk to them with the hope that they must ask you out), they will be bold enough to ask you out and even recommend you as a nice lady to their single friends.
I don't think they left cos she was a talkative or had the ITK syndrome. People date such girls,and even worse. I don't believe in spiritual husbands and stuff, I'll just advise you to pray fervently and trust in God. And then go about your normal activities, to keep you busy. Your man will come and he'll stay. Best believe✌
ReplyDeleteI don't know if you're going to see this and I wasn't going to say anything but pray for God to send you your own, to open his eyes and yours. It's like jeans trousers in the market; if you try to manage straight cut when your hips say fit-and-flare is you, you'll just suffocate.
ReplyDeleteA couple of days before I left Nigeria for the second time, the pastor of the church I was attending at the time, was praying for safe journey. He suddenly stopped and looked at me. Told me God said I'd decided to marry an oyibo man when I got there but I shouldn't try it cos a) my husband is a Nigerian, b) He'd send him at the right time, & c) bring me back home. I kept my face unmoved so I don't know if the pastor realised he was just confirming what I'd already heard in my spirit.
I was so angry that God had caught me. I had chosen NOT to pray about it cos I wanted to be able to at least try and tell myself it was just my mind. SMH. I travelled out and whenever I met a guy that I thought was OK, I'd try to negotiate with God. For a while, God didn't answer me. But when I refused to wait, He arranged a Saul. Saul will hold you in place, and teach you that there's a reason God makes a distinction between height and heart.
When my husband came, he didn't look like what I had thought he should. Plus he's from the one place in Nigeria that I'd sworn by myself not to go - this is the thing that legit made me cry like my life was over. Yet, we just... fit - down to the very things we each craved in a partner, but we'd both been trying to cover to please past partners. The internal peace, gosh! And the first time I saw him laugh, time stood still for me and I asked God to help me give him more reasons to laugh like that. When the time was right, we got married so quickly that my head spun.
I don't know what you're looking for, but I asked God to "send me my own" and definitely hit jackpot that only God can give. May God grant you the grace to be found by the right man cos there are people/things that can't be located without divine help. May He open your eyes to clearly see your husband for what he is, so you don't accidentally put him in the wrong category. A man that when you recognise him, you'll UNDERSTAND WHY it couldn't have worked with anyone else. May God envelope both of you in a love the kind of which you've never known before and you sef will say "This one is different." May your marriage be the witness God can use to show your family and friends that He is intentional and doesn't forget. May He accelerate time to deliver you a testimony that will sound like a lie and blow your mind.
I am not the poster bit this really ministered to me. Thank you
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