Yes,you read me right!!!
Some even consult their close friends to get tips on how to get rid of you...
When they walk away telling you they cant deal,you are shocked and cannot even grasp what you did wrong...ever happened to you or was it you that did this to someone?
These kinds of break up happen mostly during festive periods,Valentine or when one party is demanding for commitment or wanting to know where the relationship is headed..
This Christmas,some lovers parted ways because one probably needed to travel alone to either Marry or be with someone else....
Do you know any story like this or was it you......
Let's gist!
Anybody that gets tired of you is not worth being with. And it looks like when sex is involved in a relationship, it becomes a boring routine for the two because they do not know where they are headed. The man thinks he is being tied down prematurely. The lady thinks she is giving away herself and being taken advantage of without commitment. Both try subterfuge and deceits and it is tiresome really.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't dumped. I dumped him when I realized the truth. He simply did not deserve me and I made the mistake of getting him hooked on sex. It is not worth it. It became like drugs for him and he began to do it just to thrive and make his day. I was hurting. I knew freedom after he left and of course in my next relationship which was without sex, I was in charge. He wanted the whole me and not just the cookies. I told him point blank that if he wants me, he has to be up to the responsibility. He caught the message and that was marriage at point blank range. Now both me and the cookies are his.
An interesting read
DeleteNicely written .
DeleteWhoa! I agree that we ladies need to stop accepting rubbish in relationships.
Delete@Anonymous 15:36
DeleteAnd also stop dishing out rubbish. It was the lady in this story that dished out rubbish and is being dumped like rubbish.
Anon 15:58 the thing pain you well well, sotey you were reading upside-down. 2020 is around the corner so stop dishing out rubbish to ladies, gbenshing ladies you know you will not marry. Help yourself.
Delete@Anonymous 15:36 who is the lady in this write up cos I can't decode
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Once I am tired of a relationship and can no longer cope, I tell you straight. Don’t need tips from anyone. Some relationships are draining and if you don’t take a walk, you’d get depresssed.
ReplyDeleteSometimes, we find ourselves in “by force” relationships....even when you tell them you are done, they won’t let you be. I hate to be choked.
Never experienced valentine or festive season breakups. If you decide to breakup with me during one of these seasons, Na you sabi.
There comes a time in one’s life you don’t worry much about relationships.
The only thing that will make you tired of a relationship is absence of svd. So how many has there been?
DeleteLol @don't need tips from anyone.
DeleteMe, I tell you straight up or cut you off
Abi...
Delete😂😂 slutty, even when you telling them you are done, they won’t let you be. Babe, I have been in that situation countless times. I started questioning what vested interest he had because it ain’t normal. Someone said, I don’t want to go further, guy man refuses to leave. Tried to patch things up (in his words) . Tell me what I’m doing wrong. Tell me why you want me to do. I’m like 😳 moi, tell a whole African man (idolizes himself) what to do! Naaaaa I won’t fall for this trick. I just want to be happy and I can’t find it here anymore. Damn!!
DeleteThe journey to finding life’s partner is tedious.
White enchantress, you just said it all. They can be manipulative like that. Very annoying.
DeleteI just finished twerking on a d***
ReplyDelete.sierra its so true,he doesn't make me squirt!so i had to tell him that i am tired of the relationship....shakena.
PlS NO ONE SHOULD SMOOCH ON MY COMMENT
What you said up there is the real gist.
ReplyDeleteSome have blocked their gf or bf during this season, just to see space and cheat or to see road and get engaged.
We die here today.
Let the comments keep coming.
ReplyDeleteOnce your bf or gf starts showing signs of withdrawal,try finding out d reasons, if no standard reasons is given, please withdraw, don't be the clingy type, the clinging will make u hurt more, so toughen up...if guyman behaves anyhow, u ghost him before he says Jack.
ReplyDeleteReminds me of one Dele that was chyking me back then. Dude lied his birthday was Nov. 16th too so he was going to organise a double birthday party for us as per birthday mates nau. LmAO!
ReplyDeleteBaba had an "emergency" and had to travel few days before the birthday. I called the first day to find out if he arrived safely but he didnt pick, same thing second and third day. And he always online on whatsapp. I became worried thinking the worst had happened. Someone sent me a footage of an accident scene on whatsapp and said the owner of the phone died in the accident. O how I mourned Dele!!!
Poor me was busy begging the good samaratin that found the phone to look for the phone number of his family on the phone and contact them. I even offered to pay him but he blocked me.
Long story short, I stumbled upon his profile on facebook few months later, checked and saw that Dele was alive, hale and hearty. Apparently he travelled to get married and the whole accident and death thing was one big fat lie!! I wanted to flood his inbox with cusses but I held myself. After all is it my death? SMH
Huh??? Miss Aboki you mean the guy was that wicked to himself????
DeleteSounds like same story with me...fake death
DeleteDid I mention that I almost booked masses for the repose of his soul? Chai!
ReplyDeleteSo, I did not directly set up my guy but I have evidence of him threatening my life because I kicked against his controlling ways. Hes an abusive manipulator and has met his waterloo. We have started proceedings for my departure but he's ignorant till it hits him.
ReplyDeleteI and guyman almost broke up yesterday, he did hurt me real bad
ReplyDeleteHe apologized for his mistake, I knew I caused most of it but I won’t let anyone make me feel as if I’m at fault
I put up a straight face too and we later apologized to each other!! We cried together and forgive one another
I’m not ready to let go too, just exercising my woman’s power
Dazzal
We are good now
Nice 😊
DeleteI remember when my ex husband walked out when I was 8 months pregnant. Unbeknown to me he had married another woman behind my back. I let him go and my family returned the bride price. I don't mind when people walk away. It's the lies they spew to justify their cowardly action that weakens me. Well thank God for God. 5 wives later and the rest is history.
ReplyDeletewowww...thank God for you
DeleteHope you're better now. Please can you tell us the full story
DeleteMy boyfriend is a philanderer #inJobesvoice#, he feels he is losing his freedom so started becoming so aggressive verbally and even tried to hit me because dem no am well. He kept trying to set me up but no way. I just jejely set him up this Christmas and God, I had the best Christmas ever. I'm so done and I feel so cool so I know I've done something right. The fear of loneliness sometimes put people in the way of abuse but sometimes, being alone is bliss.
ReplyDeleteThis was me this festive season... still hurting badly. this was a relationship i have been very committed to. Met him when i was 19. Now i am 32, and just when we plan to walk down the aisle next year, i find out it's all been a farce. This last year, we have been in a long distance relationship, because his job took him to a state very far from mine. we communicated very well and chatted and nothing seemed amiss. We were both looking forward to seeing each other and having some quality time together before he goes back January. i meet up with him and in the midst of being happy that he's back and the gisting and all, a call comes in, he had saved the contact's name as "my own". So what am i? What have i always been? What were all those plans for introduction and marriage for?And do you know what he said when my countenance changed, that he is the victim in all these. that it is what i think it is. that he misses and loves me . He went on to pretend that i didnt see what i saw... Stoped picking calls and when the " my own" persisted, he picked and asked if she saw a package he is looking for.. Wow. so obviously, he had seen her before we met up. This was a man who said, he needed me to be the first person he saw immediately he got into town, cos he has missed me badly. i am so broken. so sad. He is acting like nothing happened. He is not remorseful or even communicating anymore. Makes me wonder, if this wasnt a plan all along... if it, then by jove, Eugene, God will pay you back in your own coin. Because, i never ever for once stressed you or caused you the amount of pain you have caused me, this year alone. i leave you for God, Eugene.Thank you Stella, for this, i needed an outlet for this pain.
ReplyDeleteEyaaa, you didn't know you were the side piece. Thank God for revealing it to you. You are free babe! Take yourself out and celebrate!
Deletesorry my dear..but please move on...if he didnt marry you in all that 12yrs, he wont now
DeleteMadam you are being too bitter, it's not the end of the world. How can you date someone for 13 years, you allowed him do this to you. Please move on already, you doing all these will be causing you more pain while he laughs when he sees it, move on.
DeleteAwwwwww. You deserve a hug. Don't know what to tell you but be strong. These things happen hence the danger of long courtship but I believe God has other plans for you. You won't end up like I did by His grace. I made the same mistake and I'm paying dearly now. No family of my own today because I loved and trusted and never knew there was anything like disappointment. I was young and naive, grew in the relationship only to be chucked away. I never married or got too close to a man again.
DeleteHow can you date a man for 13 whole years? Is something wrong with you? God forbid
DeleteSorry. The next will be the best.
DeleteBut that his name sef!
Poster nothing wrong in dating long. Don't mind these anons.
DeleteDated mine for 13yrs. Today we are married with four beautiful kids (2boys and 2girls).
I must confess however that it wasn't easy waiting for him.
After the 7th year; he truly started acting out like he was withdrawing from me as things were not fort coming and I sensed he was cheating because we were not in thesame location.
I gave him an emergency visit and dropped my ultimatum that my family has found husband for me and since he's not serious again with me, I will move on. He wasn't too fast in fighting back because a part of him felt freedom, so I went back to base and blanked him off like it was over. That was when it dawned on him I was serious. I started trying to see other people but I just couldn't. When I almost got someone else, from nowhere he was everywhere begging. All his family members begging.
I told him the matter was now beyond me that my people are ready to take bride price (all lies). He had to travel to my villa to meet my favorite uncle and beg him to give him time that he'll do right by me. My uncle who is a guy man coded and told him that if he dare messes with me they will report him to village oracle cos it's because of him they are stalling my trad.
For the next 6yrs before he balanced reasonably, dem no born am well. And I was never afraid. A part of me believed my uncle will carry out that threat.
Today we are 7years in marriage and I told him the truth after we had our boys(twin). He was laughing and screaming.
It's not wrong to date long. But when it's getting longer, please be shaking up things small to be sure your seat is secure because this people called men are easily distracted and don't count relationship the way we do.
May God give you wisdom on how to get through this. Sending you love❤ and kisses💋💋💋
Lol, Stella this is where I am now. My girlfriend just abandoned this festive season and cancel all our plans.
ReplyDeleteMaybe in favour of abroad people - to think we already started talking marriage this time next year.
Only for her to ghost me, sadly I met her on this blog through single and mingle.
I'm just broken. It would have been fair if she had given me her reasons.
She stopped, calling, texting and chattingall at once. Like they say, if it's important to you no matter how busy you are, you'd create that time.
Sorry about this. We will both be fine eventually... I am going through this right now.. my bf is probably with ' his own' but i know i will be fine eventually.. We will be, okay?
DeleteMaybe ya'll should get together and celebrate your freedom from fake people.
DeleteAwww!Perfect match.
DeleteI only read less than five M/B stories whike my friends drowned in the lies therein, maybe that's why I am 'stone cold.' I do the dumping, burn the bridge, gather the ash and scatter it on the high sea. If a person is not matured enough to love, respect and place a value on himself, he cannot love another, that is my view. No time to waste with any low life. I also pay close attention the quality of convwrsation and kind of company he keeos, as they reveal a lot.
ReplyDeleteI called off my engagement. I din't have to set him up for any reason. Woke up and told him let's breakup. We both came to an agreement, tho he resisted and made effort to try making it work,bringing in family members and all that but it was too late, my mind was made up. He realise it wasn't gonna work, so he accepted the situation. At some point we were both frustrated and if we had eventually agreed to proceed with the wedding it would have been a disaster.
ReplyDeleteI think its childish to set someone up simply because you don't want them no more. Its a very foolish thing to do.
What happens to simply ghosting them?
To me ghosting is cowardly too just tell them up front might hurt for a while eventually they get over it.
DeleteGhosting is a mean,wicked thing..same as setting up. Just say you no do again
DeleteI set my ex-boyfriend up for breakup before the holidays. He’s a very stupid guy. I had people interested in me but this idiot is only interested in his friends and party. Who knows if he’s even gay sef. Anytime I want to break up he makes me feel bad. I have communicated to him several times that I am not happy but he won’t change either.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, I met one guy I liked and the guy even kinda knows him. Happens the ex is a cheat and he has seen him with girls having a good time, while I am at home. So, I simply told the fool that 2020 will not meet us in this situation ship. That so he’s been cheating, I was even laughing. I knew he was as I was too, but no proof. He begged, asked me to chill and show proof. For where! I had started a new relationship already and this is the best decision I have made this year.
New relationship, new job... I am so grateful as everything is falling in pleasant places. The new boo is also planning wedding and we are planning for our first child. He has even met my parents and life is so easy and simple with him. I just realize that I wasted so many years with someone that had no direction in life, places value on very stupid things, probably bisexual and lack complete focus.
You don’t know what I lost as a result of that foolish relationship investment wise. I hope the young ones learn from my story. If a relationship is too dramatic and difficult, please leave it alone and never go back or be shamed to make it work. Just leave it. It will cost you so much because you will spend valuable time being unhappy. Which can damage so many things in your life.
Some people can never be happy, so don’t let them destroy you. Run from people who don’t value you or their relationship. But are expert beggars for your affection. There is someone out there who will come in and really love you. While in a relationship, get to know people. Don’t let anybody who has not married you, lock you down.
Which story?
DeleteBia Kami, be Nice 😊.
DeleteKami, gtfoh!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWhich story I follow you ask o? the story no get head or tail
DeleteDullard. You read but can’t understand.
DeleteVery true, happened to me.It took a while but I realized uncle wanted out and for some reason couldn't say..The ghosting,situationship finally registered. I tried to talk but when I wasn't getting through,I went my way..Few months later,he was married. I finally understood..
ReplyDeleteI didn't understand why he tried to paint me black to close family though
I didn't realize he was a coward,I would liked to know instead of all the drama. It would hurt but its far better being straightforward
Anyways I learnt forgiveness on a new level..I have forgiven,moved on..Time is a healer
Y'all making me fear relationships....biko
ReplyDeleteMay God heal all the heartbroken people and provide them with people that will show them genuine and everlasting love
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