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Tuesday, February 25, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Hmmmm........







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE LIES


I'm just confused, I lost a relationship of 3 years because of lies I was told and I believed the lies.

This is what happened,Nov last year a lady chatted me up claiming she is dating my boyfriend and that they are both church members.I was shocked and I actually continued the chat and I told her i needed to hear more from her.she told me how she is always visiting his family blah blah,I was shocked cos his family knows we are dating.I felt betrayed .For like a week,I didn't communicate with him even though he calls and chats me up,I just read his msgs and ignore his calls.He came to visit after my silent treatment and I had to tell him with tears ,what i did to him to deserve his cheating.


He was shocked and surprised and told me nothing like that,that he has never cheated on me.I broke up with him that instant,he cried and begged,I refused to listen. Then he asked for the lady's name and number that chatted me up,I told him and he was shocked again.He said they are just church members and that the girl has been disturbing him,telling him that she likes him.He told her,he wasn't interested and that he has someone he loves and wants to marry.He said she made up all what she told me.I asked How she got my number,he said he doesn't know.


I was not convinced,I told him ,that cheating is a deal breaker for me.Bvs ,this lady knows so much about me ooo.All what i did when i went to visit his family,the food i cooked and places we visited.She told me how he is deceiving girls up and down, how he is always going to clubs with friends,she even said some stuff about his family etc.It was so disheartening, my yoruba angel can't be a demon over night(we communicate and discuss about almost everything and we are practically almost together). 


How come?

I ended the relationship, he begged and begged , I refused.I blocked him everywhere.I blocked the lady too cos the information was just too much.


Fast forward to yesterday,a number called but I couldn't pick up. I wanted to call back,then a msg from whatsapp just came in with that number.

I just opened it and the first words I saw was I'm sorry.

I was curious and i read through,bvs,hot tears started falling my eyes,chai,I was just shaking.It was that lady that sent the message. She said she lied about everything, all what she said about him and his family were false and that she said all those stuffs so that I can dislike him and his family. She wanted him but the feeling was not mutual,that whenever she was talking about her feelings, he was always talking about his feelings for me and she became jealous.


I asked her all told her stuff about me(not bad stuff tho),she said it was the girl that stays with my bf's family.she said she asked her,if my boyfriend has a gf and she said yes and the girl told her,that I'm nice to her,and that her problem with me is because I'm not yoruba.see devil. 

This is a girl that was driven out by whoever she was staying with(her family abandoned) and she came to school with her baggage crying.My bf's mom(a teacher in the sch) saw her and asked what happened,she narrated her ordeal and that moment,she said she will take her home without even informing anyone about it at home.she has been with them for over 5 years.They take care of her and they don't hide anything from her,any family discussions,she is there,no secrets and she still betrayed them like this and I'm still shocked.


I believe she must have been telling others about their family secrets too.

She said she has confessed and asked for his forgiveness because he left the church after he confronted her.

I have not been myself since yesterday,I don't know how to apologize to him,he begged me,his family begged too,he told me to trust him😭😭😭.






*Madam leave him and move on,you didnt trust him well enough and if he marries you now,when you go and listen to lies,that is how you will walk out without trusting or believing in him...

If the same lady comes to you and says he asked her to lie to you that she lied,who would you believe?

The best thing you can do for him is to save his family from that inside rat that went to inform that lady....tell him about her role in the brouhaha.
If cheating is a deal breaker for you,for some lack of trust is a deal breaker as well.....
Dont go and beg him oh,please move on......

58 comments:

  1. Hmnnn, please do not listen to my oga's advice o. That is a good man. Its time for you to beg, crawl and plead with that man to forgive you. He is a good man. You sef, doubting thomasie, relax especially when you have a good man, do not listen to lies. I wish you the best boo.

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    1. You’re the stupid one. Sorry you lost him already because if he’s my brother I won’t advise him to come back to you. You didn’t believe in him and you took a stranger’s words over his.

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    2. I agree with the PA. Abeg good men are rare. Go get your boo sis. You shouldn't even be ashamed to beg. Also he has seen before hand that you won't take cheating lightly and next time get your facts right before jumping to make decisions. All da best.

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    3. What if the girl was actually right?
      What if the boyfriend threatened her to contact you that she's lieing?

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    4. LOL. Bini, I know jor, no loud am. xoxo

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    5. Same thing happened to me, he pleaded worse is that the lady happens to be my friend, so I believed her. She got married to another person and he did same. While I'm here licking my wounds. I wished I sent my story when it happened a long time ago, would have belived him. Poster if he is single go and beg, fight for your love and learn.

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  2. Poster you are a big fool,tufia. Good riddance,see your yeye life,I wish you were someone I know so that I'll give you plenty 'tongues out' . You don't deseede that man,take a walk and hopefully I pray u get to meet the real yoruba demon. Long hissssss

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    1. You have to apologize for disbelieving him, if he loves you he will understand that you have an issue with cheating... If he were in your shoes he would do the same.
      Even if he doesn't take you back just apologize... But why would your boyfriend be gisting the lady that stays with them everything about your relationship? No one should blame you.

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  3. You need to block that Lady again! She is evil. Giving the church and other people bad name. As for your ex, I'm sure guy man gas moved on already. If the lady is saying the truth, you need to chat him up and tell him your fears and reasons for breaking up with him. As for the house girl, she needs serious beatings.

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    1. It is nat super story. I have experienced it too. My in-law's girlfriend would go to my husband's ex and tell them everything I did in the house. From what I wore to what I cooked. Everything happening in my house they knew about it. My husband had to beg the sister of his ex to reveal how they knew everything about me and that was how we knew the source. It is the rat in the house that invites the one outside. Let's be careful.

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    2. Poster u fuck up small Sha, did u see any signs of cheating from your guy? So u just took the word of a stranger above that of ur guy. Guess you should have done some investigation yourself and not just blank him out. Try and reach out to him, but be prepared for whatever comes, cos it might not be nice. But I think he deserves to know all what really happened.

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  5. Go back and apologize.. Haba Stella, e easy to just let go of someone like that knowing fully well you were wrong

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    1. If the lady never called to confessed, would she have choosen to stay with the guy?
      She should just apologize to the guy for not trusting him and move on.
      If the relationship was meant to be, they'll be back together again.

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  6. My advice, reach out to him ask for forgiveness, you made a mistake, we all do, but fight for your love. If he doesn’t accept you back, then move on knowing you tried, but do fight for him if he’s worth it. Don’t listen to Stella
    PS. Try to give your partner the benefit of a doubt next time

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  7. Reach out to him,tell him you are sorry for believing a total stranger over him. Explain everything to him.

    If he still wants you back,fine.if he's moved on,let him go. That way you'd find closure. All the best

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  8. Beg him oh, beg him, now that u know you made a mistake.

    Or maybe first find out from the girl staying with them if she did tell her that. I believe she did though. If this is the case, u need to apologise and even if he doesn't take u back, he deserves the apology.


    I have a good feeling he wii, if he hasn't started another relationship.

    I repeat, u need to apologise.

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    1. EXACTLY!!

      Apologize to him Biko..... You believed the lady because she told you things only an insider would know.... It's hard not to believe!!


      Beg him and also tell his people about the traitor!!

      I feel like hugging you, Pele dear!!

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    2. Cookie, take it easy with this your follow follow. Chill.

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  9. You never trusted him.
    Leave him alone and let him fine someone better that will trust him. You must have been waiting or the guy to fail.
    Go with your "deal breaker" logic.

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    1. How? She was told things only an insider would know.... You guys should cut her some slack!!

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    2. Why believe a total stranger more than her boyfriend ??

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    3. stupid Don....what do you mean she has been waiting for him to fail. who even dates a man who tells all they do to everybody..total stranger that knows everything in the house can you blame her?.anyway na Yoruba people na dia way. she made a mistake and could have done a proper investigation. but i cant blame you, men do worse things

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  10. Poster, how old are you again?

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  11. Mami stellez will just be dishing advice like it's easy to actualize,
    The babe fucked up sha but it's not easy to let go n move on like dat knowing u r d cause of ur own downfall

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  12. What if he asked to remedy the situation by asking her to say these things?

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    1. Gbam,I just dropped same comment.
      Pray for God's direction.

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    2. I think the poster should apologize but don't go back for whatever reason, broken trust like this is hard to mend

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    3. In this age of SM , A1 evil hearts people will stop at nothing to spread false Jist and impersonate their obsession
      I hope her life is better now
      Mtchewwww
      Uju anne

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  13. You were so angry and refused to even listen to your boyfriend.
    What happened to getting to the root of the problem?
    You allowed your anger ruin your relationship. You have trust issues...normal.
    Call him up and apologize.
    Be serious and show him how truly sorry you are.
    Use your magical powers to get him to forgive you...you know what I mean?
    And also, know it won't be an easy thing, it will take sometime.
    Since his family like you, go there and talk to them to help talk to him. You messed up greatly.
    Let's learn to give our partners benefit of the doubt while you do your own secret investigation.
    When your boyfriend told you it was all a lie, you should have asked the lady to meet you up somewhere without mentioning to her that your boyfriend would be around.
    Some ladies are agents of Satan and would do everything to ruin a relationship. My anger is that you gave the stupid girl the opportunity to break your relationship. Why did you believe everything the girl told you easily? Did your boyfriend cheat before the evil girl came along with her stories?
    I hope he forgives you.

    Sluttychic.

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  14. Send him a long chat on WhatsApp explaining everything, from the girl at home that said stuff to the intruder apologising and end it with I'm really sorry. Don't say I still Love you cos he will see through that. Tell him whatever he wants to decide about the relationship its upto him. Wait it out. If he still wants you, he will reach out and you two will make amends if not my dear move on and learn from it. If you go on begging him and following him everywhere you will make a fool of yourself and hurt more. Let him decide the next step.

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  15. Please move on. You should have asked for more concrete evidence. Obviously a vital foundation which is trust, was not so grounded after all. What is done is done. Move on. It should serve as a lesson to you in future.

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    1. What other evidence is needed when the lady told her things and insider would know??

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  16. Poster that relationship is long dead and buried. Keep it moving. You've lost him due to your lack of trust. So,no need crying over spilled milk. Count your losses and keep it moving.

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  17. Madame koinkoin aka the 'peace maker'25 February 2020 at 15:23

    I pray this your Bobo has a new babe, so that he won't have to beg for your trust.

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  18. Most times it's good to hear someone out and do an investigation if you have doubt. What has happened has happened. Like you said, he loves you very much and might still want you want since you already know the truth. Take someone you respect so much, go meet him and apologize to him. I believe he will forgive you if he hasnt changed his mind about you.

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  19. Women are our own worse enemy. Shebi it's in this blog I sent in my chronicle one time, about a girl that chatted me up saying she was dating my guy. And I ended things with him only for the stupid girl to start dating him...When I found out, I accepted him again and even married him to shame the stupid girl. Poster, get your Man back...I don't blame you for calling it off...But just like me, you've learnt the hard way. Women are devil's...thunder for all fire any side chick that'll ever call to tell me she's dating my hubby. Na acid I go use baff you...

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  20. This is the reason why my mum no longer alloows anyone stay with her. She has been so badly burnt in the past by all these good deeds that now if you like shed blood, my mother will not let you stay wiyh her. Look at that little rat they took in, divulging such sensitive information to a complete stranger. So sad. Poster, pls go and beg your ex, if he accepts and takes you back, good, if not, kindly move on and learn from this

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  21. Darling, does it mean some random chic can call you up and say whatever and you'll just believe and breakup a relationship of 3 years without you first doing your due diligence? If it's that easy, it means you had doubts about your relationship in the first place. Why are you still dating a boy you don't trust? Personally, I find your actions precipitous. The least you could have done was carry out the necessary investigation, gather facts then confront your boyfriend. Give him a chance to defend himself, at least. If you're observant, from body language, you will know if your boyfriend is being shady.

    How would you feel if you were treated that way? Assuming you are now in a new relationship, then your boyfriend just breaks up with you, out of the blue, accusing you of cheating and offering you no opportunity to defend yourself? Sweetheart, for the very fact that cheating is a deal breaker for you, you must have solid and credible proof before you use the sledgehammer. So if you start dating someone new and his jealous ex tells you that they are still "kicking it" by the side, you will end that relationship as well?

    It's possible that he is guilty as sin and he put pressure on the girl in question to do damage control by telling you she lied, but there's also the probability that she lied just to break you guys up. I know an older sister who broke her younger sister's relationship out of envy and fear that the younger sister would marry before she does. Your hasty and rash decision has robbed you the opportunity of knowing for sure. Now, you'll be haunted by the ubiquitous chants of "what if" playing in your head every now and then.

    You still have feelings for him, that's why you're so emotional. Even if he cheated, there's a way to breakup the relationship that, though you may be hurting, you will have peace of mind because you did the right thing. I see no big deal in apologising for you abrupt decision. I feel you should apologise for the way you ended things, you don't have to get back together if you don't want to, but err on the side of caution just in case he is innocent. A simple "I'm sorry for the way I handled things", will take nothing away from you. Honey, If you want to move on, move on but don't allow history repeat itself. Always have evidence so you don't end up second guessing yourself.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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  22. You were too hasty to act based on hearsay. Cheating is a deal breaker for me too but I always give a benefit of the doubt especially when the person has shown no such signs in such a longterm relationship.
    Lastly, we have intuition. Start to get in tune with yours.

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    1. Poster go and plead with him and explain what happend to him.

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  23. What if he threatened to kill her if she didnt go and remedy the situation. My dear also look at it from this perspective. Anyway you know your guy more than we do, if you believed everything she said hook, line and sinker then you dont trust him that much.

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  24. I don't blame you for reacting the way you did as sadly many guys are known to date multiple girls at the same time, especially when she gave you specific details.

    I'll advise you reach out to him, apologize and see if it's possible to be together again. Good men are rare to find. If he says "No" or he tells you he's with someone new, then move on with your life. He's not your husband.

    It's best you reach out and know if it's possible as you would deeply regret it if years later, you found out he would have accepted you back if only you reached out.

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  25. If this lady had come here about a lady telling herto leave her bfand says so much about herself and family that only an insider knows. Many of you would have ask her to leave her bf cos the guy is lieing to her and that if he wasn't dating the guy how will she know a lot.
    Poster just apologise to the guy because he deserves it

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  26. If this lady had come here about a lady telling herto leave her bfand says so much about herself and family that only an insider knows. Many of you would have ask her to leave her bf cos the guy is lieing to her and that if he wasn't dating the guy how will she know a lot.
    Poster just apologise to the guy because he deserves it

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  27. You could have listened to him, could have tried to find out more, when his family intervened you could have obliged aleast everyone deserves a second chance especially as this was the frist time you heard of him cheating


    Anyways moving forward trust is a great deal in relationship,if it's not there no need moving forward

    How would he even trust you enough to know you won't hear another gist and walk out

    I wish you luck, apologize for closure if he's still available he would reach out, also inform him of the in-house mole
    Goodluck

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    1. So cheating is good if it’s the first time. Because it takes only two times to get HIV or for someone to pour acid on you

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  28. The issues so confusing to me is; how do you ladies go to church and still fornicate
    and return to same church to hear sermons: What really do they preach in those churches of yours?😮😮😮
    If you weren't having sex with this guy, how would the issue of "cheating or not" come in?
    If you want to talk about cheating, talk about it in marriage. If not, you both are cheating on your
    creator who says that we should flee fornication and that he will judge adulterers and sexually immoral.
    🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

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    1. Are you okay ?

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    2. @20:06
      Answer the question or move. How do you go to church and still fornicate and talk about cheating, which "god" do you worship?

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  29. I'm the poster,Aunty Stella thanks so much for posting my story.I reached out to him three days ago, I begged nor be small.We met yesterday and he said he is still single and was broken to even think of any relationship .He said I should give him time to think everything through.He took me home, so that I can apologise to his family because they begged on his behalf then.
    I was surprised I saw the girl was still staying with them because he told me, she denied everything after she was confronted, but she confessed after she was told she will be sent away.I asked them, what she is still doing in the house, his parents said,when they wanted to throw her out, she ran to call people to beg on her behalf.So the conclusion was that, after her waec in May,she will be sent away because they don't want her to leave empty handed after 5 years with them.Atleast make she get waec result, before she start her new life.
    She came to apologize to me and I was just looking at her with side eye.She lost a great opportunity because they were planning to sponsor her university education.
    I just pray the situation gets better for us.Thanks for all your comments bvs.I appreciate. Namaste 🤗🤗

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  30. This story get as e be. What if the guy paid the girl and asked her to say she lied about everything? What if the guy is really sincere?
    Too many what ifs.
    If at this level, there's so much distrust, how then do you go ahead and live forever together? Well, search your heart. You know the answer

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  31. I don’t think You did anything wrong. The evidence was overwhelming and you stood your ground. You also have to confirm that she hasn’t been blackmailed/placated into retracting her story. Do your research and you may be surprised what you find. If truly he’s innocent everything will be fine

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  32. Hmm chances are this guy isn’t that innocent. How could he be innocent and his entire family was begging you. Watch out to see if he reaches out soon or accepts you too readily if you reach out. Sorry to be so cynical but things are happening. All the best. Please give us an update when you find out

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