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Monday, March 02, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative / RIGHT OF REPLY

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Dear SDK,

More grace to you.

Please keep me anonymous.

I am the accused in the last Chronicles, Broken Engagement.

Firstly, I had written long epistle same day to address every item in the previous subject chronicle, but I felt, life is beautiful, whatever we say now doesn't matter nor change what has happened, so I deleted and ignored.

But today, after reading some comments, I thought to let everyone know that "the first person who comes to the police is not always the innocent one".
It is easier to talk and condemn people from one sided story.

It hurts me to read all that was posted, but in the end, I thank God for life and Grace.

When Chronicle started, I just knew it was whom I know and sincerely, I thank God I was able to laugh, unlike when issue started, I cried and beg, but today, I worship God for everything.

She didn't say "I stole, or cheated, or insulted. She concluded I am stingy, childish, and a liar..... Lol...
Hmmmmmm...... Its well.

Dear All, everyone saying "thank God, you dodged a bullet, you did the right thing, etc." .... I understand your points, at least, you are judging from what you were told. But if you should hear the other side of the story (70% of the full story, Maybe, just maybe the person who dodged a bullet will be different.)

I also want to let everyone know, NOT ALL MEN ARE WICKED, or wayward, or heartless, etc..

I see how everyone condemn men, men are wicked, trash, ungrateful, etc, all because most chronicles sent are written by women, but what if we hear the other side of the story?, we might just be dumb founded.

Now I would like to address in very short summary , the 10k issue.

Note first: Am not from the wealthy home like that, use to have a car, etc, but issues came up and we had challenges, which she knows about.
Even my mum told her, you are my daughter, not my DIL, and begged her to be patient with me, that all will be fine. (Financially), This is because I support financially my family for now.

I got a new job middle December, in a new city, got paid in full.
I planned to rent a house end of January, with salary, and lil savings I had.

2 weeks into January, we were chatting and she said I'm broke.
I didn't say anything because I was trying to settle down in the new city.
Next morning, I beeped her and said I always feel hurt whenever I hear she's broke.

Pls note, 2 weeks before that day, I sent 10k to her mum as new year gift, after sorting some home issues. and I promised her that I would make it up to her with all gifts I am owing her. I almost didn't have much to go out because I was about renting a house.

January ending, I was paid half salary, because I resumed middle of December, and then I beeped her immediately, saying, this is what I got.
I asked her, "would the person who lended you be angry if I delay a lil"?, because I needed to sort things out here first. And that's how hell got loose. Not as if I said, I wasn't giving the 10k again.

Cut story short, she didnt state that I still sent her the 10k that same day after many insults and yabs.
I sent it and apologised for "Always giving excuses".
She didnt state I cried and beg her not to leave, but she left.

I always begged her that things will be ok, and I will make it up.
She didn't tell the house how many times I sent to her things selflessly without giving excuses.
I agree sometimes, there were hindrances and I defaulted in sending whatever I promised, yet, I always told her, to bear with me for the time being.

If I go into details about ALL She said/accused, it might just be a tale of "Potiphar's wife reporting first".
The table of childishness, etc might just turn around so fasttttt.....

I hear I'm greedy, a liar, etc Lol.
It's well.

Whenever I sent anything at my freewill, I always tell you "pls bear with me, all will be fine soon, and I will make things up". you didn't state this.

The boxed up statement, the BVN, etc you stated, you didn't state them in FULL how they were said, and WHAT PROMPTED the statements!

You say I ask you for money, LIE
You work with a loan firm, and I thought I had someone who could assist, since you were there as a staff. Yet I was wrong.

I have NEVER asked you for "dash", i only asked for loan twice.
(Now I feel betrayed, because I thought I had someone who I could build alongside with).

(you must know, not everyone is like your Ex. Get healed about your mentality about men, else, you would keep misreading people's innocent acts).

We got engaged in August, so how is that " almost 1 year"?
We planned wedding in February, but things didn't work as fast, how is that a crime?.

Dear All,

we all have bad sides, but I always chose to overlook because NO ONE is perfect.
I have seen MANY, Many " Red flags" in her, from the first day we met, but I chose to ignore and stay, because there isn't a perfect being/partner anywhere.

You know how much I loved you.
You even say it yourself whenever I say so.
I always loved you.

I still sent you the 10k same day even when my plans for the month were shattered.
(You weren't even concerned how I would survive, your focus was what I promised you),
I begged you to please come back for days, But you said No, but I thank God for everything.

You will get a perfect partner, and so I pray for myself.
I always cherished you, no bad feeling.

Will keep the rest of the story to myself and God.

If I no get am today, then surely tomorrow.

The rest of your story is fine.
I never thought to reply cos life is beautiful. Chronicles will pass, but life goes on.

Dear All,
Not every guy is a demon,
Not every man is a drunk,
Not every male is a cheat.
You didn't hear the full story, and even if I was wrong, I apologised to her.

We are all beautiful and different in our ways
She is a good person, I believe I am. But we are just different

I am not writing to ask for comments or contributions, but to state that you might just be hearing 30% of the whole story that favours the teller. Don't rush in concluding Men are trash.

One love all.



Na wah,Oga your explanation is even longer than the original complaint..lol
If your Narrative is true as you stated,then it looks like you people had a communication break down...
Have you moved on or you want to try and get her back?

162 comments:

  1. Make I ask my ajuju n'ese okwu for which I received enough arrows from ndi uta 🀐🀐🀐
    If this dude were earning $120k, will that Sisi have written a chronicle or found him childish?
    Ndi uta, make una shoot more oo
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    1. Choi... your 100% on point on this...

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    2. She wouldnt write anything oh, na lack of money kill that relationship.

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    3. i will still ansa the questions. i wont have married him.@anon 15.35 did u tell them how you made the bvn statement you said and i quote. DO YOU KNOW I CAN CHECK ANYONE ACCOUNT WITH THEIR BVN??, SEE FORGET,I AM A COMPUTER GREEK, USE YOUR SAVING, YOU ARE MORE BOXED UP THAN ME. did you tell them i was never after your money??? did you tell them how i said i understand you were not paid full that i understand it but just that u give excuses all the time which i dnt like. that was when you made me know that u hv access to my bvn. did you tell them how i chatted u up the next day day baby, these is our normal argument and you shout that pls go... mary go, go( not real name). how you wanted to force me to sleep with you??

      i never went into details, if i do with all the evidence, then stella will know the liar.
      yes u later sent me the money after few days of this fight, begging i come back. but you stated you sent it the exact day. did you tell stella how i told you to tell me the situation on ground so that i will know hoW much we are planning the wedding with, so that qe can put our money together??? .
      there is so much lies here.

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    4. Wey all the arrow shooters? 🏹😊
      Have they all disappeared (in shame?)
      πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    5. no be lack of money. you people have never been in a situation. guys like this are manipulative and their money will usually be going to someone else if we check apart from family. he knows shes independent snd doesnt think he should spend on her.the babe wants security and a stingy man is worse than a terrorist. trust me , i have been in this exact situation. Mr i dont have money even when you dont ask, Mr be patient all na scope

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    6. I encouraged to reply. But obviously he came to lie more. Stella if you are not tired of this story let me send you the full story. There is more to this.

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    7. No be lack of money kankan.....na lack of compassion on this guy's part. you gave her mother 10k dec so? Is that why your gf should not get gifts from you? Moreover why does your gf not get carried along with your problems? If you marry her and she looses her job is this how you are going to be telling long story?

      As far as I am concerned you have too immature or burdened to be engaged.
      My advice is go an grow a lot and learn more through friendship with ladies before you enter the next relationship. You dont understand what it means to be a man yet...........

      To the lady, abeg I still insist you dogged a bullet, Dont go back, he talks too much of irrelevancies. If he could explain fight with several pages of non coherent story like this why could he not explain his predicament to you? Abeg run fast and dont look back. Refocus, build yourself, be happy, exercise well and good will come your way

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    8. SOME BLOG VISITORS ARE SUFFERING IN REAL LIFE BECAUSE OF THE WICKED COMMENTS COMING OUT OF THEIR MOUTH. IF STELLA IS DOING GIVE AWAY, YOU WILL SEE HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE BEGGING. YET THIS GUY SAID HE IS STRUGGLING AND THE STRUGGLING BVs ARE INSULTING HIM. DOES IT MEAN THAT A POOR PERSON WILL NOT MARRY? HE JUST STATED THAT HE JUST GOT A NEW JOB AND YOU PEOPLE ARE CRITICIZING HIM. i FEEL HE IS A GOOD MAN. THE POSTER WHO LEFT HIM MADE A MISTAKE. YOU DONT KNOW WHERE HE WILL BE TOMORROW AND YOU DONT KNOW IF IT WILL BE EASY FOR YOU TO GET ANOTHER GUY LIKE HIM. NO MAN IS PERFECT. SOME MEN ARE RICH YET ASSHOLES. THEY DONT RESPECT WOMEN AND WOMANIZE. IS THAT WHAT YOU PREFER?

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    9. @Poster 17:05, 17:18
      When did Sdk become a judge or member of the jury bikonu?
      Instead of you and this dude to come clean to yourselves, you
      are here on a blog dragging who is right and who is a liar, really?
      Wawu, una get time and fighting energy.
      Olympics dey come o, Nigeria needs a gold medal in women's wrestling unu anugo?
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    10. what struggling? is he giving her money everyday? struggling is part of their line i have heard it all. manipulator and gas lighter oga go to therapy you have deep rooted issues

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    11. Oga you did not address the sex issue. Also do you think because she works in a loan company she should be loaning you company money with ease? Many women have suffered in their place of employment because of this. Also, being generous means even out of the little you have you can give, but in your case you always expect her to understand because she also is earning a salary. Hmmmmm. Some men may refuse to understand this, but when you can't show a woman care consistently (and not just monetarily, like being true to your words) you are likely to loose her. I think there is little understanding between you two. Maybe it is best you both go your separate ways quietly. As you said, life is beautiful, maybe you will soon find somebody you are more compatible with.

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    12. Poster even with these long write up, you still didn't explain anything. You are still A child. Please grow up. You can't marry with this mentality. Men even if your salary is 50k once a while still surprise your woman with a small gift. Even with 2k you can get her something and believe me she will appreciate. Must you always wait till she ask? Men learn to spoil your woman even with the little you have.

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    13. I new this girl was not hundred percent trsight forward, she only wanted to paint the guy bad just to leave him .
      Like someone said the last time, if the guy's in money, balling hard, you wouldn't have thought of leaving him or wrote any chronicle.

      Greedy ass nigerian girl.

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    14. @20:35
      Why must we ladies always receive? I buy things for my husband and vice versa, no big deal.
      If you have this receiving mentality, you will always be poor.

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  2. Shes finding someone with more money, simple and short... all these ones na long talk

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    1. Read properly before commenting... this isn't about money... it is a low self esteem issue

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    2. Anon 15:51,which of then has low self esteem?
      This issue is far from it!!
      They dont communicate well,the SEX stress is there tugging at thier relationship, the lady is tired of the "excuses" and compares what she gets to the guys!!
      The comments might not help you,you both know if u want each other and if its total bai-bai
      The bros sounds broken and hurt...
      The lady sounds like she dodged a bullet.....
      U both make your choices and move!!

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    3. My guy, poster, move on, you don't need this greedy girl.
      You can't please her and don't try to, I advice you.

      God will give you your own girl that will understand our ahd give you peace, that won't bring your stoy to the blog.

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    4. poster. this babe is the best babe because she didnt look outside instead she confronted you about it that tells you enough about her character. on the other hand i dont think you deserve her

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  3. This guy seem so petty like bv Dante. See him throwing lol up and downπŸ˜‚ for a man you must be a hot body. Your body too dey pepper you.

    You claim she didn't mention what led to a particular statement. However you also did the same thing, jumping over explanations and this got me wondering why you sent in a right of reply. Is it not to shed light on a few things you felt she kept quiet on🀷‍♀️? But you also jumped and passed.

    You kept mentioning 10k have some shame please! You talk too much without really saying a thing.

    You both agreed to no sex right? Why disturb her to show her your bedmatics skills in the bedroom like she demanded for it? You kept quiet on that one too. Mtsheww


    Someone who is stingy in little things will be stingy when rich. You sent her 10k out of 120k just once in the relationship and YOUR PLAN WAS SHATTERED? πŸ™†‍♀️

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    1. Aunty original Poster, we have seen you.

      Keep on chasing good men away because of what your exes did to you.

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    2. Lol, you are wicked.

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    3. Haaaa....Annoy 15:44. Did he say he sent her only once.
      You should read well and dont just come up to tackle the writer.
      He didnt address the no sex, so dont go there.
      I think we are being partial in oir judgements.

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    4. Anon 15:44,shut up. Oh, now that he has said his own part, he is petty now? You don't have sense.
      That's how some of you come here to lie to gain sympathy. Nonsense.

      Sluttychic.

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    5. Please don't be silly. I am not the poster and will not be in Jesus name. Abegii I only deduced that from what he wrote. The guy talks too much

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    6. Noc-turnal I wish you what you wish me ooo except I am the poster but as long as I am not the poster you are talking to yourself you hear. I gave my own analysis give your own and move on or are you the guy?

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    7. Nkay you should be the one to read again abeg make una leave me for waistπŸ˜‹

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    8. My dear, the guy is a manipulator. I know his type, always forming victim upandan. They never see they're wrong. Abeg babe RUN

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    9. The anon up there can ask whatever he or she likes please.

      Why didn't he talk about the sex part? He was supposed to tackle every angle his ex tabled on here by shedding light on every details but he left so much out.

      Why was he asking her for a loan, is he the owner of the company? Must he get a loan through her?
      He mentioned 10k and if you read well, the 10k was the same one he mentioned from the onset of his post to the end or where did you see another 10k? If he had sent her more than once this talkative man would have mentioned it up here.

      "He saw many red flags in her" but he couldn't mention just two or even one knowing fully well this was his opportunity to clear his name but he had enough time on his hands to repeat the same sentences over and over again.

      So repetitive and that is typical of a person who doesn't have anything to say in their own defence so they keep beaten around the bush to garner sympathy.

      If she didn't mention what vles to the BVN statement, why didn't you mention it and put her to shame?

      Oga too many loopholes in your dry story. You tried painting her like a gold bigger meanwhile you are just a man who doesn't see the need to take care of his woman as long as she has a job.

      I just hope your ex won't see this and send in another story because we want to take a break. You both have broken up please kindly move on make we see road.

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    10. I agree, he talks too much without saying anything. and he is a manipulator.
      I believe he only gave the MIL 10k once and we will not hear word.

      if he had understanding of these things he would understand that his 10k with genuine love would have served her and her entire clan better than fake 10k he is talking about.

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    11. I agree with anon 15:44. Many loopholes in his reply. Pls come and tell me how you can tell how much I have in my account if you know my Bvn. It seems to me you are here more to tackle Bvs that you feel did not give you a good look, based on what your fiance posted. But rather than giving good points you were just saying we shouldn't paint men bad, bla bla bla. You said nothing to convince me that you are really after her best interest. Just harping on 10k and saying you are begging and begging. Are you a beggar? Something is off, real off to me. Anyway, it is your life and this is my opinion without apology. Those who will want to insult me with their pretend, holier than thou, none objective mindset, be my guest. If he was more convincing my opinion would have differed.

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  4. The whole relationship was like a web already. Even best as you went your separate ways.

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  5. I will be back to read comments 🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢

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  6. And you did not add not every man is a scum

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  7. Na wa! Abeg you people should go your separate ways

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    1. @Omah
      But you were among those casting stones at this guy that day?
      You see why you should not judge with your emotions?

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    2. They've gone their separate ways already

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    3. Casting stones keh......
      Stating one's opinion is casting stones.......
      Welcome poster

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    4. Anon 18:31 do you have sense at all. What did this poster say that has made you believe he is a good man. Most of you are so blind that is why it is easy for men to keep manipulative you ladies. From his write up, a smart person will know the guy is immature. He still have enough growing to do. The guy kept beating around the bush. He didn't address anything at all. I am happy the lady left him. You didn't see another bank to borrow from, you must borrow from her bank. Gold digger of a man

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  8. Why is it that broke guys r always in a hurry to marry. If u feel u dont have, why force starting a family. This is the problem in Nigeria.they ll be faithing it until the marriage crumbles. The bible says- who starts building a house without finding out cost of completion . Oga I think u need to have a lil more financial weight cos to me u r struggling.

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    1. Common now, engagement no mean say I must to marry you today today naa...

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    2. Mrs rich, did you reach well at all??? Did he say he was ready to marry, or only had challenges...??
      You ladies are always partial in ur judgements.
      I understand the writers complain because I once had such experience, so pls, let everyone live and lets live

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    3. Shey he said they should shift the wedding and it was still you people that called him names in the first post.

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    4. If he was not ready to marry why tie the lady down with an engagement ring? If you propose you are ready to marry or must have discussed your plans with teh lady and she has agreed.

      Ladies you too if a guy you are not certain about proposes to you dont feel compelled to say yes, say i am sorry i need more time to get to that point. and if he says why didnt you say that all along say you are yet to get clarity on some aspects that are important to you simple. Its not everyman you dtae that you will marry.

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    5. The bottom line is that he is not yet ready to marry. Can't he be patient and wait till he is? After marriage comes children. Is that how he will continue borrowing bearing in mind he is also catering for his family? Or maybe he is looking for a rich woman that would take the burden off him. No wonder he was monitoring the fiancΓ©'s salary with goggle. Na wa ooo.

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    6. That is how after observing a guy, I realised he was a no go area. When I refused his proposal the next thing he did was to try to spoil my reputation in public. But as God will have it, it backfired because people who know me, know me and my God is not asleep. He made me realise I made the right decision. So I cut him off completely. He tried coming back, but I didn't even give in an inch. Once bitten........
      Marriage is not by force.

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    7. Anonys 15:49, 17:34, 18;35 and 18;39 you all have good heads on your shoulders.

      Marriage ain't for broke, immature, stingy or selfish guys.


      Mine makes lots of money, spends crazily on himself and to impress others then borrows my hard-earned money from me. I took a walk.

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  9. You both are better off apart.
    I actually fear men who write like you.
    You rambled and rambled but explained nothing.

    I'm glad she was wise not to have gotten a loan on your behalf. If you need that loan, walk into that firm and get it yourself without mentioning her name. If she did otherwise, she'd have been stuck with you cos of said loan, even when her heart is no longer there.

    I like that ladies are becoming intentional about their happiness in a relationship.
    No one is building for/with anyone again.
    The street is too harsh.

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    1. In my opinion, he explained something.

      I agree with you on your second paragraph.

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    2. Don't mind him. He wants to put wahala on her neck. If she works in a loan firm must he get the loan through her? Why couldn't he go there like every regular customer? You want to get a loan that she will be the one who ends up paying on your behalf? Are you a baby that you don't know how to get a loan? Is it her company? If she refuses to help you why can't you go get the loan yourself be it in her company or another company? She dodged a bullet.

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    3. True... I have a problem with men who talks too much and they always end up saying nothing while playing the victim

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    4. I agree with both points

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    5. Anon 15:52 you are a thinker.

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  10. Chronicles long sha but it was worth it..... this guy seem calm and calculative.
    possibly, Aunty cant wait any more, She wants to get a Fast train.
    reason some ladies miss a good guy, cos this guy seem lie a gentle man, and the future can be brighter if he remains focused

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    1. The guy seem really crafty and cunning. It's obvious he is all over the post in anon modmode supporting himself.

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    2. We argue ladies dnt want struggling guys. If I can put up with him when he was earning 50k. Even when he changed job I never asked him for shishi. Will u still remain with him after making the bvn statement. Telling you despite we are engaged let's wait to know each other very well becos I refuse to spread my legs for him??? I reminded him you said no sex before marriage. Why asking for sex. Becos I noticed the changes in him. So a guy dat tells you! I can search thru your acct with ur bvn before I send money to you is a good guy??...

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    3. gaslighting is real oh

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    4. cunny and crafty indeed

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    5. Gentleman ko.mtcheeew!I ran from one like this o.popping ring and wanting us to build together. As long as I can help access loans and grants for him.I borrow myself sense by reminding moi meme of his last relationship.... she's still paying for loans she got from her office.... over ten million naira.the one before her is still hounding him for her cash.
      Udeme Akpan,be there feeling fly.Na gbese be ya new name.

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    6. I am not the poster,please all this your ranting. Did you collect the 10k after abusing him. Yes BVN issue is within you, but he is stingy.. did u or not collect the 10k which u still came to report. I own ajuju

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    7. Very cunning and crafty and manipulative. They can never admit to wrong doing. Always excuses and trying to gloss over issues and play victim. It is not only some men that are like this. Some women are this way too.

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    8. Good guy my arse
      The way u brand people "good guys" is hilarious or are you the poster?

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    9. anon 15:54 you are not smart at all. your type are the ones men decieve with so much ease. This guy didn't explain anything meaningful. He was beating around the bush.

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  11. The fact u had to send money after plenty insults and yabs proves one point...u r struggling. Marriage isnt what u need. U see, if u guys keep fighting over money in marriage the love ll disappear like a flash. Oga money is necessary in marriage dont be deceived. U guys dont need to settle down now. Keep pushing to u r financially ready. Excuses r ok but when they r frequent its disgusting.

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  12. My guy, I believe you. Drop her like bad habit that she is and move on.

    Women are golddigger scumbag .

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    1. Broke nigga

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    2. The women in your family you mean? Cos I ain't one.

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  13. Hain did we read the same thing, yes it's a long read but I dont see any communication breakdown here, but a selfish lady.
    Like seriously Yes we have very funny breed of men lately but the kind of entitlement mentality ladies we have lately is worrisome.
    Ladies now look at men as superman, once your in a relationship your meant to solve all her problems both personal, financial and family also, if you dont fit that bill your stingy ..

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    1. 10k will never solve her problems but it will make her know that this man is not ready for marriage and she is not a serious priority to him. This is one 10k incidence in how many months? This is why women suffer more than usual and for longer than needed in these climes. Because a man responded vaguely to a few of the many accusations and he says he begged, pitchforks and kerosene are at the ready.

      Baba cannot afford to date outside of his local government of origin for now. He should stop looking for a woman he will be begging and who his mother will adopt simply because he can't pull his own weight. The man who wrote Proverbs 31 was not a stand-up husband but at least, he had enough to add a queen to his harem. DATE YOUR WAGE so your rising pants won't be an irritant. you don't need to manipulate anyone into bed or the bank if both of you are able to do the basics for yourself.

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    2. The lady's self centered, thinking she can crucify the guy just because he want the guy to meet all her demand.
      They rush down to social media to cry foul.

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  14. I don't think I commented on that chronicle because I felt it was half story.

    So aunty you left because brother is broke(couldn't send you 10k) but you conveniently left the part where he later sent you the money. Who is the liar?

    My take? You fell out of love cos oga is not that rich. You want a rich guy and marriage(desperate).

    Oga, don't sweat it. Move on, build yourself , make more money and be ready financially before proposing to any girl, because girls of today no get patience as soon as you put a ring on it.

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    1. Did he tell you he Sent it days after. Begging that I come back. Use the 10k to bring me back. Oga I have the evidence. I never sent Chronicle. I only commented on it in one of d post and stella help me make it Chronicle. I believe you could see how short my explanation was. If I send full Chronicle with all the evidence. I bet he will be ashamed of himself.

      Stop saying girls no get patient. Should I stay with a guy who I dnt know many tins about?? Who lie alot?? Let him go and make money! I have moved on. It does not matter anymore. I wanted to be patient but I saw myself in a place I dnt understand the man i claim to love.

      I told him not to send it becos i am not interested. He has my acct all along and sent it still. I never begged him. If i was after his money i would be drying his pocket. I dnt beg him for any moni. The first time ever the guy gave me personal money for upkeep was when I travelled to see him. Then this fight. For more Dan a yr we dated.. have I ever asked you to send me money??? PLS ANSA THAT AND STOP LYING.

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    2. my dear dont explain to no one. i have been in your situation and i ghosted him till now i no even wait to break up. its all a tactic to tring you along and they will say they are testion you blah blah blah. what stupid patience? was she asking for a lambo? na so my own go complain of all him many troubles even without me asking, e go collect present, say his ex wants him back blah blah i still dont know who the guy is and we dated for a while. they are manipulators. ditch his ass and if you decide to take him back make him accountable very childish behaviour

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    3. why did oga that engaged somebody need so much pressure to send money?
      If you dont have explain why and if your lady is not the understanding type you have no business trying to marry her. Meaning there is also lack of maturity on the part of the soon to be family head.

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    4. I put it to this oga that he sent this 10k intentionally because he knew he was going to reply the chronicle. So that he would appear more better. His whole reply was 10k,10k.

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    5. 17:20 stop explaining yourself to these people abeg
      You are free to make ur choice.
      If you want a rich man, go for him and don't allow anyone manipulate you with pity

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    6. Anon 18:49 i swear all i saw in that chronicle was 10k 10k
      The guy didn't say anything. He should grow up

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    7. Poverty tinz

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  15. Hmmm
    It's well with both of you
    Relationship is a work load,it takes two to tango!

    Communication and understanding is key

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  16. I don't even know what to type.

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  18. This guy has said nothing. Just dey yarn round about

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  19. You wanted to use her kpekus to cool off ya stress when food no dey her belle. Oga gan sit dan

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    1. Lol. Thank God the lady had some sense.

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  20. Please, every woman has needs, she needs to be sure you can take care of her even though she is working. She can't be lying all through.
    Oga, I advice you to make money and settle yourself first before you bring in a woman.

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    1. This kind of guy would be looking for Bob the builder on whom to how his sexual prowess then divorce her later for his spec because she nagged him for cash in the beginning.

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  21. What of the allegations of bad temper, demanding for sex, childishness and other things? Mr. Man, I think you should have just kept quiet. This is a shallow defence.

    Abi your defense is that you are everything she alleged but you always beg her to overlook them and stay with you???

    And Leave your mother out of this. If you were rich, your mother may have seen her as a gold digger. Moreover, if she herself isn't s good girl, why was your mother calling her child and wanting her to stay?

    Men sef. They never see anything wrong in what they do.

    #boybye

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    1. Don't mind him. His mum was begging her to be patient but does his mum knows he was begging her for a loan? It is one thing to expect a woman to manage with you but it is another to expect her to give you money while managing with you. What nonsense is that. It says a lot about your shameless ness as a man. If you are broke and your lady is not bothering you for money respect yourself and don't ask her for money too. Throughout the relationship you have her just 10k out of 120k you receive every month and you won't let us hear word.

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    2. May the financial prospect was even a cosnideration for the relationship sef.
      And to commit her further the proposal so she feels like a stakeholder, then when that was not really working the sex stuff so he doesnot loose completely

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    3. πŸ‘πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘

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    4. Very clear Mr man didn't have good intentions for the lady. The girl is smart. I like her.

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  22. What of the allegations of bad temper, demanding for sex, childishness and other things? Mr. Man, I think you should have just kept quiet. This is a shallow defence.

    Abi your defense is that you are everything she alleged but you always beg her to overlook them and stay with you???

    And Leave your mother out of this. If you were rich, your mother may have seen her as a gold digger. Moreover, if she herself isn't s good girl, why was your mother calling her child and wanting her to stay?

    Men sef. They never see anything wrong in what they do.

    #boybye

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  23. I think the biggest fear some girls have in leaving a broke, good man is that he might make it big in future and she may be with someone not as rich. What do you guys think?

    If I had the resources or wherewithal, I'd help lift my man, so that we can both be super rich and powerful.

    I'm just thinking aloud o. This has nothing to do with this entitled man. So because you begged and begged, she must stay and stay? What about her? Is this relationship about you alone?

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    1. Wtf are you saying?
      How is he entitled?,
      I also begged my ex to come back, bcos i loved her.
      So?

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    2. You man was not a clean broke guy. Ladies everyday date and support broke guys if they see genuineness. Your is not genuine in his intention, he should learn to wrk hard by himself and not get into relationships and be evading the responsibility while asking too much like the lady should go and take a loan for him. If she was your sister would you allow her do that because her bf is broke? especially one who had not been good to her when he had?

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    3. If you must build, build for yourself or with a legal arrangement that covers you. The moment you sweat for someone else with no receipts, it would end in tears. Humans, both of us included, have a divinely imbued capacity for stepping on anyone who makes themselves a doormat.

      Don't be the Moses that would suffer and slave but will be banned from paradise because of one slight imperfection that had been with him from the beginning when there are Rahabs that would see a glorious future and key in with minimal time investment.

      There's this Tyler Perry movie women keep gisting me to buttress the fear that their father's colleagues are scum. They miss the message- be a co-investor and have your receipts. No court wants to know how you washed plates and succumbed to anal or how you took money from your inheritance or salary and wrote your husband a private cheque- what matters are the names on the documents, the list of directors, the co-owners of the land, the next of kin etc. The commenters on Stella or Linda's blog will not get justice for you- only those papers will.

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    4. Your comment 16:13 reminds me of the movie Acrimony........
      Life sha...........

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  24. Don't understand why women will be asking money from a man who isn't their husband and same goes for the man asking a woman who isn't his wife for sex, relationship like we know it these days is highly flawed...tufiakwa!!!

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    1. Very flawed. That was why I ran away from one nonsense relationship like that. One kobo I made sure I didn't collect only for him to start giving me attitude because of sex. Like Am I your wife?🀷‍♀️

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    2. Love gives

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  25. You talk too much without really saying any thing. Why were you telling her girls were asking you out and pressuring her for sex at the same time? So she could easily give up the cookie right?

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  26. No explanation or clarification whatsoever..Just a long write up,not sure what it is about.

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  27. After reading SDK for 12months, I woke up this night to ask God for just one thing..; my OWN woman! There are lots of damaged women out there. Please allow me say this Stella..."woMEN are scum"

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    1. This comment made me laugh

      I ask God every day for my OWN man. There are ALOT of damaged Men out there, most especially faworaja men. MEN are scum!

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    2. This comment made me laugh

      I ask God every day for my OWN man. There are ALOT of damaged Men out there, most especially faworaja men. MEN are scum!

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    3. And plenty of over damaged men. In fact the society is full of them. Hence the original saying "men are scum". Plenty men sef agree that they are scum and attribute it to different things.

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    4. Oga poster, we see you
      Keep roaming about the blog space

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  28. Much ado about nothing.. uncle, did you check her account using her BVN or not? Wat about the sex issue? You wanted her to use her influence to secure a loan for you, when we all know how the story changes when money exchange hands? Girl.. you did great not falling into that trap.

    I agree you tried to please her & she had her faults too but please, all these you said doesn't exonerate you.
    Aunty, it's up to you oo

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    1. No o! Leave him to be LOL-ing.

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  29. Hmmmmmm..... Now I see never to judge anyone from what I hear first.

    If he still sent her the 10k, why will she still come saying he is greedy?

    I would have loved to hear the other sides of the story, the things you are keeping to yourself.

    My observation here is ladies are still bashing this guy, after explaining the 10000 naira issue.
    Can we pls be factual. The girl need money, not love. Period

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    1. I'm telling you, she wants someone with big pocket , don't get me wrong ain't nothing with that, just dont disturb us with Chronicle when you no catch big fish.

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    2. 10k he sent after her chronicle?
      Lmao

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    3. Adanne you are not making sense. They been together for a year. She wasn't asking for money Na me una dey read

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  30. This one talks too much like my husband.
    Like someone said, broke men are quick to get engaged and get married.

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    1. So what are you still doing with your husband?

      Sluttychic.

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    2. That's because they have lost focus of their goal and see marriage as the quickest accomplishment. They use marriage to compensate for their lack of achievement in life.

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    3. Because she is stating her experience she should run and divorce?

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    4. @ Sluttychic, so I should divorce my husband because he talks too much? You are not serious, are you? No wonder marriages don't last these days. Divorce is the answer to every problem in marriage.

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  31. exacmple of a manipulator - so all these you explain here did you explain like this to her? this is gaslighting acting like you are a victim. if you want her back then change your immature behaviour

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  32. Simply because you sent this in, means we must support you? Even when we see through your crafty self?

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    1. That is what he thinks. That lady dodged a bullet.

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  33. @poster,you confirmed all she said.so why talking about reading from one side of the story. That statement u made about checking her savings and using it as a yardstick not to give her anything is wrong. Yes ,none of you owe each other money but for the fact that you are a chronic promise nd fail gent when it comes to money is an indicator that you were playing her. Your type will leave all the responsibilities for the woman when you marry her. A broken relationship is still better than a broken marriage.I wish you both luck.

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  34. Poster The same way you are scared about her being a gold digger is the same way she’s seeing you as trying to use her.
    1.Communication between you two is not nice.
    2. There is no trust from the both of you. All I’m seeing is money money, there’s no love from either of you.
    Please leave each other and build yourselves first.

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    1. he is the one making it about money money because he is insecure. i just left my so called boyfriend because of this EXACT issue. like you want to live like kind but never once you asked how i was maintaning the castle. not one penny but you make a good amount anyway another woman is collecting the money best believe

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    2. Anon 1737, both of them will share the blame, all they care about is money. They don't have reason to stay together.

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  35. U no get today..should marriage be the 2st time on your mind..I see u not financially stable to settle down.u plenty excuses..not like 10k is much
    How do u intend taking care of her when u dont even give her allowances for the money?focus on your family since u the one bearing the ginanancual burden.Tbf,I wont even date u with all these u excuses..u engaged someone yet see it a burden supporting her with small small money.howndo u intend paying the loans u intended borrowing from her office..from ur 120k salary..abi na the loan u wan use sponsor the wedding?Pls work harder ,change your mentality, quit being stingy ,be more supportive in your relationships ,etc..
    Keep up with the good sides..

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  36. Poster also see things from the girl’s perspective. You said it yourself that she’s had this type of issue in her past relationships, so understand where she’s coming from. Girl, if you are reading this, please stop being entitled to his money. He will give whatever he can, whenever he can.
    But the fact remains that neither of you are even in love in the first place. This relationship is about money on both your parts. You both still need to become financially stable on your own before looking out for one another. it’s better to be single than going through this “oh she left me cause I don’t have money” or “oh he’s asking me for money too much.”
    Damn I’m tired of chronicles like this.
    Don’t go into a relationship if you are still struggling... To avoid stories like this.

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  37. You owe her nothing. let everyone hustle for themselves.

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    1. yes he does. when he marries her her does

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    2. Anon 17:31 you must be a stupid man. A man is the head of the family. If he can't be the head in a relationship, how will he be the head in marriage. I am a man and i owe my wife everything because she is my family. She works but i don't care or even put my eyes in her money. Before i married her, i always support her financially with the little i have

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    3. na wa ooo

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  38. Baba explained nothing at the end . Just mumbling words up and down .Awon manipulators. I really wish more women will put their emotions aside and learn to do things with their minds . I really love that the former poster did not fall for this man's antics . Man, i know what it is like to be manipulated . pls poster don't listen to this guy.

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    1. you get sense. The guy thinks he is smart but he Jam woman wey get sense pass am

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  39. The lady's post showed me the economy is just harsh and most young people cannot afford to date. You guys have no business with getting hooked for now because scarcity is no friend of romance. If you had some more, you may have had a cantankerous union because you both have issues with finances and perhaps from your past, a mindset of scarcity, which is not always a terrible thing.

    Oga, you thank God, wrote epistle, put LOL but forgot to talk about your sexual demands. You decided not to elucidate the BVN question.Even if she stupidly gave you before, why still be checking it like scoreboard? With all these your problems, you are still noticing other girls whose BVN you have not acquired. So she should derail and start sleeping with you? Don't you know a broken condom would cost more than 10k? You want someone to build with but you cannot afford to build with said someone- you are not ready and have not learnt enough from your previous relationships. If all you can tell a woman is "I'm coming", don't ask her to take a loan from you at work- how will she pay? You don't have money but have an erection and want her to borrow money so you can travel down and do- how won't you remind her of her exes?

    10k shattered your plans but you want this woman to risk her career for you to take a loan for a guy who wants to have sex without plans despite being the breadwinner of his family and unable to spare 10k a month. Your family will not die when you get married, that is how you will keep checking her BVN and posting her.

    Bro, think this thing now! You are not ready for marriage but just looking for a "ride or die" woman till you can afford your spec. There are fine girls in your village who will love you with 3k a month so why add to this girl's problem? Madam why manage this situation till a ring entered the picture? No boundaries, no set minimum on the sufferness scale before marriage?

    Of course, you will beg her to stay as she is a potential source of loans, a potential bedmate and someone with good prospects. You begging does not mean you don't have good reasons to beg. Not everyone loses objectivity at hearing that a man knelt down.

    You have rambled and repeated the earlier accusations but have not stated your own case. Only 30% of your write-up contains facts but you claim to have 70% of the story- oya, prove it now! Your police analogy may be right but in People's court, you will be found guilty as you have not said anything but LOLed.

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  40. A woman can check a man's account balance, a man can not check. A woman can explain the cause of the breakup, when a man explains it means it talks too much. 80% of women here beg for living, yet they are calling a man that earns 120k a broke man. A won know it all. Check their homes, check their husbands...beggars

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  41. This poster is so fake.

    I see through you. If you want to be a player next time go for girls that are desperate to be Mrs. This your ex girlfriend ( I won't call her your ex fiancee, and I will explain why later) has been on this blog for long and she has learnt from the experience of others who act like miss independent only to marry and start complaining on this blog that their men doesn't take care of household bills.

    She has seen how blog visitors ask them the usual mocking questions "didn't you see the signs before marriage?" That is why she gave herself sense. I am happy she left your behind for it shows all the advice we have been giving here hasn't gone to waste.

    You were trying to play smart with her. YOU WANTED SEX but she refused so you strategised by deceiving her with a fake engagement so soon thinking she would be stupid enough to open her legs.
    You thought she would instantly believe you were serious about her enough to want to marry her and glady let you sleep with her but she still refused you access.

    You wanted to use the engagement card to deceive her to have sex with you while at the same time using the
    "Let's get to know ourselves better card" as an escape route in the future when you want to make your grand exit out of her life when you would have succeeded in having your way with her. Then you would now drop the "WE AREN'T COMPATIBLE CARD".

    Who engages someone they are still trying to get to know better?
    Is it just me? but I believe when you get to that stage when you engage a woman you must have gone past that onset stage of getting to know her for you have already known everything about her to your satisfaction( spiritually, mentally and all) and you are okay with her.

    You were trying to sleep with her while trying to play safe at the same time pending the time you would want out of the relationship hence the " let's get to know each other better statement".

    I went back to read and I saw you told her girls were giving you attention when she refused you sex. Which girls?
    where do you meet hem to receive those attention? You gave them attention to notice them giving you attention too if I am right. It's obvious you cheated on her in that relationship with those girls who gave you attention. Where did you meet them? How did they get your number to continue with the attention which you obviously encouraged to and enjoyed.

    You Are very manipulative and she was smart enough to see through you.

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    1. Your head get oil.@ gbam

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    2. You made sense die. You must be a psychologist

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    3. πŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

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  42. I really don't understand is what you guys share a relationship or a financial support system?

    Your Bf isn't an ATM
    A relationship isn't a financial support system

    Guys don't ask girls for financial support and don't take over their financial troubles except you are a Yahoo boy that is buying them for ego boosting


    Infact the world have gone crazy🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢

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    1. Did you read to comprehend or read to reply? Mumu

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    2. But it is ok for the guy to want to get a loan through her? Is that not gold digging? What happens if he cannot pay, they start deducting from her salary.

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  43. Let us remember this- the woman who started the story started dating him when he was making a miserly 50k a month (my God Oh!). So she was not looking to hammer on this guy. The 10k issue and BVN sent a strong message on where he sees her in his life.

    I know a couple who started like this with the man seeing his woman as someone who should come second. Even the suit for their wedding, she had to pay for it. Back then there was no mega engagement but the rings, she was made to pay. Today, the attitude has not changed- even after decades of marriage, there is no financial support for her dreams and he will complain and discourage her when he had but when it is about to take off, he suddenly becomes supportive and volunteers to monitor work that has finished. He did not assist with a single contract when he had influence and helped others and himself. He doesn't drop money for food. He calmly relies on what she gets from family and her businesses. If she complains he will say that is why he married her. The lovey-dovey from the woman has soured because the businesses are feeding both of them and despite not helping out, he is always of help to his own family members and anxious to assist with extended family engagements while not giving her a dime when her own parents passed or any other thing is happening on her side.

    Female poster, in the next one, start how you want to finish. It's not the amount, it is the attitude. He may not even know he has this problem so just leave the work for his destined load bearer.

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  44. This man sounds like someone i know, his name starts with J from Rivers state. If he's the one, original poster you really dodged a bullet. If he's not the one I shake my head at the kind of men some mothers raised.

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  45. From what I've read here , it seems all that ladies care about is money.

    Ordinary 10k is what is making everyone shout up and down. When you people finally get that rich guy that will take you for granted and cheat on you, you'll still come here and start writing chronicles for us

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    1. Broke nigga's anthem..Argh!

      Always associating brokeness with good behaviourπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ™„

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    2. Ndooooo, sorry poster. That 10k really pain this guy well well sha.

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    3. πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚
      Like there are no rich guys who don't cheat
      Mtcheew

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    4. Poverty does not mean piety. Even poor men cheat. Go to Ijora Badia or Ajegunle and see them playing love under their side chick's fish umbrella so they can collect money that their 6 wives will not see.

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    5. Better a rich guy cheat on me than a broke guy. It is an insult for a broke guy to cheat

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  46. relationship matter dey complicated.
    men also have stories.

    my then girlfriend said she was leaving to marry someone in America.
    I begged she refused...I wished her well.
    Five years later l met someone and got married.
    The guy in America disappointed her.
    Do you know that people who knew us then, still think I was the one that broke up with her, in order
    to marry someone else?

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  47. This guy should own a school of CRAFT!.Cos he is that good.

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  48. Bravo to the lady! You actually dodged a bullet. This guy stingy to a fault. I once dated likes of him. As soon as I noticed his behaviour, I quit the damn relationship

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  49. I can bet that, this couple with settle after all these plenty comments from bvs🀣🀣🀣

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    1. thats fine if they settle atleast dude knows she has standards and will come correct

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  50. Bros move on... a box would be just an empty box until the both of you put items in it. she likes to withdraw and you have a lot of responsibilities.. its a 2 way thing bridge.

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  51. Uncle youre a thief. you want her to give you company loan so that you will dissapear with the money. thunder faya you o. ole.

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