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Saturday, April 18, 2020

Actress Sylvia Ukaatu Advises Ladies Approaching 40 Years To Become Singles Mothers Because They Dont Have Time

No one should be put under pressure to have baby please!!! 





According to the Actress and single mom of one;

“If at 38 or 39 years old you are not married yet, and you don’t have a child of your own, it is such a pity for you as a woman. Try as much as possible to be pregnant and have a child. 


Women don’t have time. At 35, some have already gone into menopause. I do hear people say having a child or children outside wedlock is a sin. Don’t worry, don’t be the judge.

 Those same people that you fear would mock you when you have kids out of wedlock would also be there to make jest of you when the days are dark. At old age, when you look around and no one to help you or ask about your welfare, then you would regret your huge mistake.


 Get a child of your own now. Get pregnant and become a mother. Be wise and don’t others fool you.


“Six years ago, I got pregnant and friends advised that I should get rid of the pregnancy and move on with my career. I asked myself, which career would be better than having a child that I can call mine? 

Then I decided to keep the baby. Now, she has grown to someone I can gist with. Someone that I would look at and never back down on my pursuit for greatness,” she explained.

 from the sunnonline

157 comments:

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    1. Oh really, what happened to adoption?

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    2. She is very very correct. At old age nai woman dey know the value of pikin

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    3. What is true about the talk??

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    4. Never have a child for selfish and flimsy reasons


      Old people in old peoples homes that their children are overseas and they don't see nko

      Nothing is a guarantee

      That boy who killed both patents in Lagos nko?


      Only GOD is Sure

      Have a relationship with him o

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    5. I wonder how I would have couped without a child in this lockdown. Nne LOUD it ooo. The lucky once with husband and children or d once under 35 will dispute this. Loud it oooooooo. My pikin my joy

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    6. Only a fool will sit around waiting for a useless man before deciding on having kids. What if after waiting for the so called soulmate and he ends up cheating, running off with someone else or you end up divorce.

      Not everyone want to adopt, some want to experience the joy of carrying a child.
      I tell people don’t let society tell you how to live your life. We are all sinners and nobody has the right to judge anybody.

      If you are a financially independent woman and has the means to cater for a child and have a very strong desire to have one by all means go it if age is no longer on your side. Adopt, IVF, sperm bank, carry belle. Do it however it suits you.
      Some people claim to have married in their 40s and had children, ask how many of them are happy with their choice of partners. Marriage is not the end of the world if you are miserable in it all in the name of answering Mrs.
      I will rather have a child on my own and live a peaceful life than be married to person that will make you wish you were never born all in the name having a child in wedlock.
      I will not deny myself the joy of being a mother and go into menopause because of waiting for a man.
      Everyone is entitled to how to live life happy. If sister A find more fulfilment without kids, that her choice. If sister B will be happier having a child that’s her choice too. We should stop judging people in this part of the world and respect choices.

      When I turned 30 and financially independent, my plan was to have a kid by 35-40. Luckily met my soulmate before then, now married for 10yrs with 4 kids.
      As lovely as hubby is today, he knows very well that I will not hesitate to bounce with my kids if he messes up. That is why I work hard everyday to remain financially independent.

      If I had not married before my goal, I would have been happy with just having kid/s.
      That is why some people almost run mad when a man disappoints them because they place too much attachment.

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    7. That YOU would make that choice doesn't give you the right to call others that decide differently a fool. We obviously all have different MORAL standards so do your thing, and let others do theirs. We don't all have to agree.

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    8. 22:02 your post would have made sense but you spoilt it by saying CARRY BELLE. Smh. With all your financial whatever if you don't live a holy life before God everything is a waste. Even the child that pushed you to carry Belle won't save you. Its a different thing to have an unplanned pregnancy but another to carry your two legs and go and fornicate or have a child for another person husband because you want to be a mother in life. Rebellion against God is never advised. That happens when you sin on purpose. Also stop saying we are all sinners to feel good about yourself because God Himself never asked you to use another person's life as your benchmark for Holiness. The holy person he asked you to emulate is himself so stop creating consensus where none exist just to feel good about your sins. Back then in the days of Noah so many people would have said the same lines "all of us are sinners" until it shocked them. Speak for yourself alone. You called people who live their life in total submission to the one who created them and knows the total number of the hair on their head a fool then what does that make you? So much for your wisdom. You can't be smarter than God what if the child you carried Belle or fornicated on purpose just to have eventually dies when you are already in menopause? You are very wise indeed, old one.

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    9. 2202 they can carry belle for ur husband Nah! Since that is how it suit them hope you won't run back to stella with chronicle when they follow your advice. Saying those who marriedblate and have children aren't happy. You think is everyone who have children that are happy. You don't have confidence in your husband but you have confidence in your children. Children who can do anything when they grow up. Read anon 16:52 comment below and receive sense. The only person you should have confidence in is your creator.

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    10. 22:02 the reason You were spewing all this is because you were blessed to have been married. I bet you, if you were single, you would never have done all these things you said. Easier said than done. Some people think it's easy to take such a decision. We still have people with high moral standard and everyone must not reason like you.

      This was your statement below:

      "Only a fool will sit around waiting for a useless man before deciding on having kids. What if after waiting for the so called soulmate and he ends up cheating, running off with someone else or you end up divorce"

      And I ask, so you knew men can be useless yet you ended up with one? You should not have gone ahead with the marriage now.
      Please, let us be guided in our utterances. Remember, one man's food is another man's poison. What you cannot not do please don't advise. Just because you are already in a comfort zone does not mean you should open your mouth and say things that are capable of damaging ones life.
      Don't put issues into people head, allow people to chose their paths in life.

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    11. 22:02. Best comment ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    12. Shadrach, Meshach and Abdnego said "even if God will not save them from the fiery furnace , they will not bow in worship to the idol" of Nebuchadnezzar.

      Daniel took the same stance.
      They chose death over disobedience to God.

      What you break God's Word to get will certainly not give you peace and eternal life.

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  2. Keep opening leg and birthing any how. Useless fellow. You can as well adopt. Only senseless people will follow this advice. Awon baby mamas oshi.

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    1. This girl na grade one bush meat. See advice. This type go dey go visit dibia. Suwah!!

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    2. I have a husband, a good one at that but you see the smile my kids put on my face... Thats different and can't be explained.
      They may have gone to shower for a lil bit but once they step into the room, it lights up my world. They are my heaven on earth.
      Let everyone do what they want but if you are in your 40s il advice you experience it, its beautiful.
      Whatever means you choose is fine, i support it.

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    3. Your last paragraph? Even fornication or having a child for another woman husband when you can't afford the scientific method?

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    4. Push up, whatever means they choose is fine, abi? Including having one from your husband as someone below has shared was her experience.. 2

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  3. Advising people to get pregnant out of wedlock is not a good norm.

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    1. But you can have sex out of wedlock?

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    2. Getting pregnant for another woman's husband to cause her pain.God will punish you all.Go and adopt a child before you scatter another woman's home.nonsense and ingredient.

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    3. Why must it be another woman's husband?

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    4. She didn't say get preggy out of wedlock she said get preggy before old age comes

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    5. Pidgin if no husband na out of wedlock be that

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  4. To each his own.
    God doesn't work with time.
    I have seen women who have gone into menopause giving birth.
    The God that I serve doesn't bless base on time.

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    1. Lovely comment!!❤❤❤❤

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    2. His ways are not our ways

      His thoughts not our thoughts

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  5. She has a point though,except the person doesn't want kids.

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  6. What is all this bikonu? At 35, some have already gone into menopause. Please, tell us how many you know?

    This kind of advice should just be trashed cos she isn't God that gives people spouses and kids at the appointed time. Smh.

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    1. I know someone that entered menopause at age 26

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    2. Educate urself Cynthia. Watch Fertility by Nse. Medical Docs saying same thing

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  7. Her last paragraph is a summary of where her loophole lies, enjoy your reggae nne.

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  8. Why do people with kids say these all the time"At old age, when you look around and no one to help you or ask about your welfare" this right here isn't a good reason to have kids. So many people have kids then end up in old people's home with no one checking for them. Having a child isn't a guarantee that they will be there for you when old. So many kids hate their parent, some are busy with their own family to stop by. Some are selfish and just don't care. Some die before their parent. No guarantees in life.
    All these up here won't be our portion Amen. What I am trying to say is, ONLY HAVE KIDS BECAUSE YOU KOVE THEM not because of any other motive .

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    1. Another beautiful comment ❤❤❤❤πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

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    2. πŸ™ŒπŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌπŸ‘πŸΌ

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    3. Thank you! They even forget not everyone wants children.

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  9. Misery they say loves company

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  10. Having a child in or out of wedlock is no guarantee that you will have someone to look after you at old age. There are many lonely mothers in the society. She should please keep quiet

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    1. I know someone that has 5 children but will not stop disturbing me, even when she knows myself and my siblings are taking care of my widower Father. It gets irritating all the time because she likes to gossip about other people's kids

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  11. Truth but not everyone can afford it

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  12. very true.

    I am sitting on this table. I am full of regret now as I am now menopausal.
    Iam going through very serious depression. Extremely saden by my situation

    I regret not making up my mind to keep all those pregnancies thinking genuine man as husband will come.

    This is very apt. Ladies just as she said, Please, make haste while the Sun shines.

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    1. There are so many kids in the orphanage that needs love, they too are humans. Its not only when a child comes from you,that qualifies him/her as a child.. go and adopt one

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    2. U will be ok. I always tell my younger sister who is 35 now to do so because I Kno what she will face in future

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    4. What do you people have against adoption bikonu?

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    5. Why so judgemental @macbeth

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    6. @Macbeth you need to get a life,saying trash like this to someone who is depressed speaks a lot about you and your upbringing. You never know what awaits you in the future,watch it!!!!

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    7. Legal adoption process no be moi moi oh, so many people on the waiting list already

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    8. You people keep saying adoption as if it is easy to adopt in Nigeria. Go and try it and come and give us result. Its very hectic and 96% doesn't scale through.

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    9. Kamikaze pls help me to ask..nne. Haba pls adopt a child love him/ her as yours or if you must experience pregnancy then go to a sperm bank...you can even narrow it down to tall, Caucasian etc through this option.

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    10. Anon 19:23 please where did you come to with that statistics from? Don't say what you don't know,I can bet you haven't even tried it but cause "dem say dem say" you have already concluded.. go out there and see people that are adopting kids everyday

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    11. 21:12. We're talking of legal adoption not buying babies. Go and do your research. Very few people can scale through the requirements abi you think one government ministry will allow you adopt when you're not very comfortable to look after them. Those you know are buying babies from illegal orphanages/ baby factories.

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  13. Very correct. Tears in my eyes now. I wish I knew.

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    1. Wipe away your tears and adopt. I am telling there is a fulfilment you get caring and loving a child that is not your biological child.

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    2. The same anon up there ☝️ 16.56

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    3. Legal adoption is very difficult in Nigeria except you people are advising her to go buy children from baby factory and that is illegal.

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    4. Legal adoption is very difficult in Nigeria except you people are advising her to go buy children from baby factory and that is illegal.

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    5. Legal adoption is same everywhere but I guess you are used to having things the easy way that's why you term it difficult

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  14. This kind of person would have told Sarah to try her luck with another man when after so many years of marriage yet couldn't get impregnated by Abraham.


    Whatever my God can't do, I will rather leave it undone.🚢‍♂️

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    1. My dear ehhhhhhhh, see the rubbish she's saying trying to justify her decision to be a baby mama!!

      Misery really loves company!!

      Nothing is guaranteed in this life and God always always has the final say!!!

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    2. Thank you sabella and cookie.she is just talking in the rubbish.if you are looking for a child and you are not married, go and adopt a child.

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    3. @Sabella pls rephrase, whetever God does not do.. Because there's absolutely nothing that He can't do.

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    4. Sorry Midas, I know there is nothing God can't do and my life is a living testimony of that fact.
      I only wrote it like that because that's what people who go out of God's will, indirectly implies. They are indirectly saying he can't do it so they chose to help him out because if they know deep down and agree in their hearts he doesn't want to do it for whatever reason there is, they would sit still and let God.

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    5. Whatever God does not do, I will rather leave it undone.πŸ™‚

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    6. Jehovah has the final say

      His ways are not our ways

      Trust GOD, Leave sin
      Do Good, Always Pray

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    7. Thank you @Sabella.

      The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Prov 9v10

      My people are *destroyed because they lack knowledge of me*. Because you rejected that knowledge, I will reject you as a priest for me. Since you forget the Law of your God, *I will also forget your children*. Hosea 4v6

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  15. Story.....madam maybe dat is ur own story and destiny. To be a single mother,not everybody is cut out for it besides it is also not alighned with sm ppls faith. Iv seen women marry at 40/41/43 and still have kids.
    If you mistakinly get pregnant at 38/39 by all means keep it. But if your wish is to get married and then have kids,pls it is still possible at dat age.

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  16. its better to be in ur 40s with a child rather than been single and without a child, at the end of the day you will fall back only on you kids as a source of joy. me if i can see someone with mutual understanding i am ready to av at least 2 kids now, b4 getting married

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    1. Which source of Joy? You've not seen kids that die before theri parent? Or kids that are useless?? Jesus is the only source of Joy!!

      If this align with your faith, by all means go for it but do not say 'it is better', better by whose standard??

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    2. GOD no teach us all these things

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    3. Cookie, you got that right. πŸ’―%πŸ‘Œ

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  17. Gods does not work with timing. I got married at age 38, had my 1st son at age 39/and my 2nd son at age 41to the glory of God. When I was age 35 a male friend advised me to get pregnant by all means. I said I wont do such. His daughter got married at 25 its been several years now she has no child yet. Gods time is the best.

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    1. God bless you. I love you!

      I hope the 34 years old lady on spontaneous post planning to trudge the path this actress is clamouring for, gets to see this.

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    2. I married at 39 and had my first child at 40 and funnily i got pregnant immediately after wedding.
      People gave me this advice in my 30s too to the extent one man in my area who he and his wife didnt have kids said i should come and get pregnant for him. Atleast i will have my own child since marriage is not coming. I stopped greeting him.

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    3. Thank God for you... Our ways are not His ways... Some marry early and no issues while some marry late and have kids immediately.

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    4. Thank God for your life and testimony!!

      Whenever they do rubbish they begin to post to justify it!!

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    5. Lol at I stop greeting him

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    6. Thank you for speaking up @17:09 and 17:33.

      God Almighty is never later. He's always on time. πŸ™ŒπŸ™

      Folks don't rush into ways of error by taking ungodly counsel.

      Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it comes the issues of life.

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  18. Stupid ashawo advice.
    So shes saying ignore the bible and fornicate abi? Senseless women all over

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    1. Are you saying all the women who havnt had kids are not fornicating. I'm just being neutral here. Fornication is a sin. Having a child is not. Go figure

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    2. U are the best

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    3. Shey you know a woman can get pregnant without having sex thanks to advancement in science.

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    4. Who out of all these ladies goes through the stress of science and the money involved when they can just get a child from any man they are familiar with that shows interest in sleeping with them.

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    5. @20:24 advancement in science or not, what does God say about having children?

      Is there anywhere in the Bible God instructed women to get pregnant outside marriage and have children?

      Advancement in Science should be used in line with the Bible not against it.

      The Word of God takes pre-eminence over every other thing - as the FIRST and FINAL AUTHORITY!
      God is Alpha and Omega.

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  19. This kind of person would have advised Sarah to try her luck with another man when after so many years of marriage she couldn't get impregnated by Abraham. She would tell her she is getting old. If you lack faith please don't bother serving God. Since you believe he is handicapped or blind to see you.

    Whatever my God can't do I will rather leave it undone.🚢‍♂️

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    1. Abeg tell them ooo!
      The moment you move out of God's will to sort yourself out biko don't ever bother looking up to him any more just live your life on your terms till the end you hear? See her talking like it's not the path of sin you will follow to get the baby nawa o

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    2. Sabella and 18:10 πŸ’―%πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘πŸ‘

      Proverbs 14:12
      New King James Version
      There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death.

      Prov 16v25
      Contemporary English Version
      SOMETIMES WHAT SEEMS RIGHT IS REALLY A ROAD TO DEATH.

      The same warning repeated in 2 different chapters of Proverbs.
      It calls for wisdom.

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  20. If you intentionally get pregnant out of wedlock good for you but don’t publicly serve this kind of advise as many are just waiting to take the bait.

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  21. 😏😏😏😏😏

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  22. Hmmmm don't even know what to say. I will be 40 this year & I dread it like hell. Don't even know how i will handle the birthday wishes and all.i have being married for 8 years and still TTC , I had one failed ivf. Sometimes I think my life is a bad dream. God pls show me mercy

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    1. Madam save money and go for surrogacy. At 40 you still have healthy eggs. Another woman can carry the pregnancy for you. Dont look at people,the child is still biologically yours.

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    2. We are same age. The God that did for me will surely do it for you. This is what I did - I lost weight, I stopped taking dairy foods due to my fibroids, I was on supplement with my husband for four months and more importantly prayers. God heard my cry after six years of ttc, two failed painful ivfs, and one miscariage. I took proceive maximum supplement, one sachet a day. My husband took proxeed plus for men, two sachets a day. It's very good for sperm counts, motility/morphology, how sperm swims to meet the egg. You can order it on Amazon or ebay.
      God will remember you in Jesus name. AMEN. HUGS.

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    3. Can you explore adoption?

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    4. Dont forget to buy clear blue digital to monitor your ovulation,it's very helpful.

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    5. The promise of God towards you shall not go unfulfilled,you will surely birth your kids in God's name.

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  23. Unless via ivf or adoption but no to premarital sex please.

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    1. Please are IVF, egg donors, sperm donors, surrogacy approved for single women by God?

      So, they introduce a man's sperm/eggsinto their bodies using medical instruments? You claim it's fine because there is no sex?

      What did the Bible say about the SINGLE woman? Devote yourself to God. Mind the things of marriage WHEN you get married.
      It did not say go and have babies outside marriage. Or introduce sexual gametes from someone you are not married to into your body.

      Some advice married couples to use egg donors, sperm donors, surrogacy?
      Please, are you not introducing a third-party's sexual gametes into your marriage?

      What did the Bible say about marriage? The man finds, cleaves to his wife and the TWO shall become One not THREE!

      Science should be used in line with God's Word and not to break it.

      That you do these things and God keeps silent DOES NOT MEAN HE APPROVES.
      There are consequences here and hereafter.

      Abraham and Sarah used Hagar for surrogacy and the consequences was pronounced in the Bible. The Jews suffer opposition from the descendants of Ishmael till today.


      God's Word is TRUTH. Use it as the STANDARD for your life

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  24. Awon feminist gang gang18 April 2020 at 17:31

    You are advising women to go and sin by fornicating just to bear children because menopause is ticking. Woman...fear God o!you didnt read the sin abraham ( father of all nations ) committed with his house help given to him by his wife sarah because he needed a child and his biological clock was ticking. If you cant have children for any reason then adopt as many as you want. Children are gifts from God and they shouldn't be gotten through sin but through the institution of marriage. Children are not tickets to heaven. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul. If you like marry or no marry, born or no born,if you miss heaven you cant miss hell.
    I repeat again Fear God o! Stop giving wrong advise.

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    1. Please all these children you are advertising for adoption, were they birthed by married women or single mothers? You see this thing called "hypocrisy", it was born and bred in Nigeria. Just remind me of that bird in "Beautiful things are not yet born". Bless you Amah.

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    2. There is a difference between someone who got unplanned pregnancy and someone who got pregnant on purpose because they want to play God in their own life.

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    3. You can get pregnant without sex.

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    4. 20:26 be deceiving yourself. Like they don't take the easiest way out to achieve this. I know someone who got pregnant for her boyfriend because she needed a child and was getting old. He got upset broke It off and she laughed saying she has achieved her aim. She agreed to the relationship to get a child from him. So let's stop pretending.

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    5. Don't break God's Word to get what you want. You will suffer the consequences for generations.

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  25. If they want it that way. If a woman is desperate for a child and no man is coming to offer marriage and she is approaching 40, then I see nothing wrong with the advice, because the woman is desperate for a child. There are other women who are not desperate to be mothers so this message is not for them. If your desperation is high and prospects low then you may have to make harsh choices you never thought to consider.

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    1. Nobody cares how you see it. You are not God neither are you his mouthpiece. You don't see through his eyes and when you can create a human being just like God then you can come back and dictate to the work of God's hand how to manipulate their ways and go out of his will.

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    2. You are a darn liar, you cared enough about how I see it to leave a comment. And please don't tell me about how God sees things because you know nothing about the mind of God. You think this world was populated by strangers? Hello! Families had to mate together to build up humanity to a point where there were enough ppl for them to come to a place where they could choose to mate outside of their known family members. That kind of mating happened for thousands and thousands of years. There are places in this world if you were to test everyone's DNA they would all be related to some degree. So having a child out of wedlock is Nothing on this earth. Life did not begin with the writing of religious books, God existed before religion and God will exist long after all religion has been destroyed.

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    3. 1926❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    4. You are the blantant liar here and it's a shame you can't see your hypocrisy.

      If I care about how you see it, I won't leave a comment but walk past your ignorance, instead I care about how others whose faith are shaky right now may decide to follow your confused reasoning.

      Nobody knows the mind of God? Speak for yourself please. If you grab the Bible you would not only know the mind of God but also his heart. If you have a close relationship with him he will reveal it all to you. But if you don't know that, then the joke is on you. I can give you up to 50 verses to back up that fact. God's word is ultimate and he gives more importance to his word than his name. You can never twist what he says to suit a worldly narrative. I would only take you serious if you can back up your first post with biblical verses. Quit all these childish history and drop seasoned scriptures to support your beliefs of having a child out of wedlock except you are talking about adoption which is understandable then please let it rest.
      Families were mating?How about you advocate for a bill of incest to be passed now since it happened back then? Did You even have a Bible that you read? Do you know there were a lot of prohibitions afterwards on that or you skipped that part? Even the example you gave of families mating since time past has no correlation with having kids out of wedlock. So what point we're you trying to make?
      You may practice religion but I don't. Christianity Is not a religion, it's a way of life. And one more thing there's nothing like a religious book. It's called the word of God except you are talking about something entirely different which only you read.

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    5. 19:26 weldon So fornication is the right option or having children for another person husband? Na wa oo And don't talk about science this is Nigeria biko most of them just look for the next available prick and get a child from him. All those science method is not cheap and most can't afford it so what would you advice fornication ba

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    6. Both of you missed the point. Fornication is nothing because we would consider incest to be worst than fornication, but it was a necessity at one stage of life on earth and it was OK by God. Now, nobody needs to mate with their family, because there are close to 8 billion ppl on the planet. Jesus is a descendant of a prostitute. The great King Solomon was fathered by a man who sent one man to his death to take over his then wife. What the point is, sin and righteousness will always walk hand in hand. It is the yin and the yang of life. The God you serve make harsh decisions every nanosecond and even what we call sin is sometimes what God will let you live in peace with. Many of you who cry God this and God that would despise God if you were to meet Him, you would question the way God chooses to do things because you would want it differently. Even God is evolving, even God changes His mind and the way of doing things check the difference of personalities in the Old and New Testament. Nobody who is rigid and with a fixed mind who cannot look at situations outside of their rigid beliefs and what they are taught is not of the God consciousness, because the God consciousness calls for evolution and marinating in love. However, free will is here for all. No, I will not be rigid or hold on to any belief that does not come from a place of love. If that means I am bound for hell then I will be the first in line. You think I am afraid of a burning fire. Didn't God show up as a burning bush one time, so I am I good companyπŸ˜‚

      Any woman who wants to experience motherhood who can afford it and is mentally, emotionally, and spiritually healthy, go have your child whether by fornication or scientific means. Let nobody make themselves a God over your life on earth because the ones who will judge you have their own skeletons in their closets. They will laugh and mock you for having no husband and not even a child of your own. They will cry fornication because in your choosing to have your child or children it takes away what they will have to hold over you. They will cry fornication because their ego will not get the satisfaction of calling you motherless or a mule. Go have your baby and when anyone comes to you using religion remind them that Jesus is descended from a prostitute. Go get your baby and enjoy your blessings and experience of motherhood if that is what you want!

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    7. 19.26 God already showed us His mind in THE BIBLE.

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    8. 22.35 Even God evolves and changes ke?!

      I rebuke that spirit of error talking, in Jesus name. Haba!!

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    9. 23:33 God evolves? God doesn't change. Heaven and earth may pass away but his word will always remain the same. They can have a child by fornication if they like? Please Quote a verse that supports fornication. Have been asking of you but you won't. Whatare you scared of? It's so sad you know nothing about God and sees things from an upside down angle and still laugh in your folly.

      Christ came from the lineage of prostitute and incest? Do you know why? Do you know the reason for that?

      The great king Solomon was fathered by a man who killed someone else's wife? Do you know why and the reason for that? . If he evolves like you claim that would never have happened. Read up.

      And because it happened that Solomon was chosen as King doesn't mean he approved of what David did or Do you know the grave consequences and enormous price David paid for that? Read your Bible.

      All that history you wrote up there is because God doesn't change, he doesn't evolve he is the same yesterday, today and forever. You first claim No one knows the mind of God even when the lord himself promised to reveal it to you then you came back with proofs which ended up supporting everything I wrote before. Now I am begging you take up your bible and read if you have one. You don't know anything🀦‍♀️

      You keep asking me Bible related questions like you know who you are asking. You can't teach me the Bible. I can't despise God when I meet him rather I would love him even more because I know him but you would get upset if you don't dump all the surface knowledge of him you possess on a minimal level and you end up paying for your sins after you have been confused to think your lifestyle and reasoning was pleasing to him and he tells you otherwise and you try to tell him how he allowed Jesus come from a descendant of prostitute and he laughs at your silliness.

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    10. Do you also know why there is a difference in the ways things were done in the old testament and the new testament? Do you know? Because he does not change and evolve like you are confused to believe. You only have surface knowledge go back and have an in depth knowledge of God.

      You say you will not be rigid or hold any belief that doesn't come from love but rather go to hell if that's is what your ways affords you? Well I understand when you don't even love yourself and live in fear when as Christians you are called to live by faith, how can you love your creator or submit the life he has given you into his hands and let him take control when fear has consumed you. Fear of tomorrow, fear of loneliness, fear of waiting on God who may never come through for you right? So you would rather cut corners and achieve your aim through sin then pay the price later like David after Christ himself has beseeched you to take the narrow road.

      Yes God showed up in a burning bush my dear. But do you know God is also a God of consuming fire for those who rebels and at the same time he is a wall of fire around those he loves and who surrenders their lives to him? This fire can be whatever you want based on where you stand. Be it the path of sin or righteousness. The ball is in your court.

      No one is making themselves God over anyone. Explaining the word of God and bringing clarity to it to those who do not understand it to shield them to false doctrine which doesn't exist in the word of God is not judging or playing God. You are the one playing God telling them to fornicate but still can't back your word of wisdom with the word of God which shows the advice you give is your own. I don't know who you serve but the word of God says "by their fruit you shall know them". Your words are not from God and no true Christian should take you serious. You talk about Christians calling them motherless if they refuse to fornicate and have a baby when it is evident you are the one mocking them and writing them off after God himself has said none would be barren in the land, after he has said " nothing is impossible for him. You project your fear unto them them because you believe if they don't fornicate to have babies the God they serve can't do it for them irrespective of their ages when God himself has asked they have faith but that part isn't in your Bible I believe?

      One more thing, No Christian will scoff at another for not having children or husband yet because it's a known fact God doesn't work with time he can do it anytime even after menopause or without a womb any woman in Christ Jesus can still have a child. Besides a true Christian knows that having a husband and children isn't the key to the kingdom of heaven or the path to salvation.
      So it's not the be all as you making it sound.

      Based on the power and authority vested upon me in christ Jesus I bind every doctrine rooted in fear, ignorance and folly that doesn't align with God's word sowing a seed of confusing in the lives of his children who are already facing the dilemma of believing in you or doing it their way in the mighty name of Jesus Amen. I come against and rebuke all spirit of error, and darkness pretending to be a light of hope over their situation and may your children have clarity of hope deeply rooted in their trust of who you are and may their faith be strengthened in Jesus name I pray Amen.

      ✌️

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    11. πŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½πŸ‘πŸ½@5:40. To think he /she called STEADFASTNESS in Christ being RIGID just tire me.
      I pity whoever takes that commenter serious.

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    12. Anon 5:40;56 God bless you!

      "They who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint"(Isaiah 40:31) I choose to walk by faith and not fear nor the ways of the World.

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    13. All this Jesus assistants I do hope ur life's r perfect. Christians like u r the 1st to judge others. U say no Xtian will laugh at another woman but hey here in Nigerian they r d 1st to carry other women matter for head. Jesus was born from d defendant of a prostitute. If God was soooo against it, it wouldn't have happened. No one knows his mind. He is not RIGID . Anon I love ur plain explanation. C them ndi Bible. Hissss

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    14. Glory to God! Hallelujah.

      Thank you Anon 5:40 , 5:56 for responding to 23:33 with scriptures.
      That spirit of fear, error and false doctrine is bound in JesusChrist name.

      God is love and there is no fear in love for perfect love casts out all fear.

      Our confidence in God is that when we ask anything according to His Will, we know we have those things we asked for. Amen

      @ImageScale, the 'Christians' you claim that mock their fellow women are
      churchgoers not believers who serve God in spirit and truth.
      Please, not that Rahab was once a prostitute who ACTION and WORDS showed her FAITH in the God of Israel from what she HEARD of God's mighty works against Egypt and other heathen nations to preserve Israelites. Joshua 2vs1-16, Hebrews 11:31.

      She believed and asked to be saved along with her whole family by and become part of God's chosen people.
      DID SHE CONTINUE AS A PROSTITUTE? NO.

      When you fall down or make mistakes and get up and take corrections, do people keep calling YOU THE FALLEN OR MISTAKE? NO.

      RAHAB got MARRIED to Salmon. an Israelite and became part of the lineage through which Jesus Christ came from the root of David.

      It SHOWS that God loves and gives EVERYONE the same opportunity to hear, believe and come to Him, and be SAVED.

      Please, you can do the same Read Romans 10;8-10, meditate on it, BELIEVE and CONFESS JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR LORD AND SAVIOUR.

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    15. ImageScale, hiss right back at you. Have dignity mr man instead of supporting devilish things all over the place πŸ˜’πŸ˜’

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  26. if you can have sex out of wedlock..
    you can have a child out of wedlock.
    everyone has to decide for himself

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    1. Since you started on a sinful path and laid a sinful foundation you continue in your since ba? Instead of having sense and repenting?

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  27. Please let us Flee fornication and all forms of sexual immorality. It's not worth the loss of our souls. And at a time of mass global deaths like this when we are reminded of our mortality and God's sovereignty.. a child will not save you, only God can. In my prayer this morning the holy spirit repeated sins of the flesh hurt the Lord and hurts our souls gravely. He was in tears for the sins of mankind that grieves him deeply. Let us pray for grace, it is possible.

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    1. NiB, God bless you for these words....

      **"a child will not save you, only God can" **. In my prayer this morning **"the holy spirit repeated sins of the flesh hurt the Lord and hurts our souls gravely.**"

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  28. @sabella thank you , whatever God cannot do my sister please forget it . Never you help God because if you do be ready for the consequences.Asked brother Abraham the husband of Sarah.



    FLAWLESSLY.

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  29. Maybe it is good to establish old people's home
    Telling women to give birth just because they need someone to take care of them when they are old is too ambiguous.
    Some women make shifty mothers
    Some women need the other parent to be there

    The advice does not fit all
    Those who wait on the Lord for their own single husband will not be ashamed

    Moreover, women are freezing their eggs now
    It's a thing

    Dear ladies,
    You have the money et all
    Consider getting your eggs frozen while you wait for the one

    KING XOXO MYSTERY

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    1. Honestly, I think that's rather selfish. What about that child? Who thinks of the innocent child who has no say in the matter, may never have siblings, no complete family.
      And God forbid in our "all-wiseness", what if something happens to the woman? the child faces a lonely world without family.
      God still has the final say. What He "chooses" not to do, let it remain undone.

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  30. Why do people always tell other people to try as much as possible to have a child?!
    Like, a child is what you go to the supermarket to get.

    The last time I checked, sperm does not fal from the sky. Even those that go to sperm banks are not πŸ’― sure of getting pregnant.

    A child has the rights to know both the father and the mother.

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    1. The problems from donor sperm have started manifesting abroad and waiting to manifest more in future

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    2. Ms A and Jet li, God bless and empower you to keep speaking His truth in Jesus Christ name. Amen


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  31. I think it should be a personal opinion and shouldn't be taken as a norm

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  32. My aunt adopted a son at the age of 42. The boy is so in love with her. Infact the boy is chopping life. My aunt is happy and we are all happy. She’s found a companion in him. Adopt rather than give birth out of wedlock. I married at 26 and a family friend married at 24 same year. I’ve had 4 kids and she’s not been pregnant before and my other friend got married at 33, several years after we got married. she got pregnant immediately and had 2 boys. God knows best and does best. You can’t run faster than God. I had a family planning nurse friend at island maternity hospital. She had a son who went to their estate pool at Ikoyi. Alas the boy drowned and he happens to be the only child of his parents who are both doctors and nurses. .....my dear, in our life journey let’s acknowledge God and please him. We can’t run faster than Gods time.

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    1. Don’t mind these local girls that feel cos they have acted in one cheap movie they can give advice. Trying to make herself feel good for having a child out of wedlock

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  33. I hear people, mostly women unfortunately, say this all the time but they seem purposefully silent on whom the proposed fathers should be. If you are determined to spread the "gospel" of birthing babies because of age and marital status, why stop there? Why not go further by recommending possibly ways this lofty goal can be achieved? I'm open minded enough to appreciate an ideology I don't necessarily believe as long as the presentation is sound.

    What makes her think babies are like items at a supermart, just sitting pretty and readily available for the picking? Let's assume, for argument sake, that there's a guy ready to sire a child, who told her man+ woman = baby? Is it that absolute? Just because you got knocked up in your 30's doesn't mean you are the S.I unit for when a woman should have a baby. Even married couples have been ttc for eons without any meaningful progress, some are in their 20s. Please stop making older ladies feel incomplete because they don't have biological children yet. I have always said this, God made every woman complete, children only makes you feel fulfilled, and that's if you want them. There are mothers constituting nuisance in the society and women without children, breaking barriers and being valuable assets to the society, nationally and internationally.

    Now to the crux of the matter, where are the single men in their 30s or 40s who wouldn't mind siring children or a child with a woman they have no intention of marrying? Or does the end justify the means? Is it okay to intrude on another woman's turf because you, a fellow woman, is hard pressed for a baby? If you are a married woman, would you readily encourage your husband to be generous with his "seeds" and go-a-planting on another woman's field because you think women approaching their late thirties are subhuman because they are single and have no kids? Are you so desperate for a child that you wouldn't consider the family history, health issues, behavioral patterns and other genetic traits of the potential father? May God not allow you birth a child that would strangle you later in life. I hate to sound morbid but are there not women who had children and lost ALL of them much later in life when these women were already menopausal? So what happens then? Should they kill themselves?

    We didn't choose the hand of cards life dealt us, so don't be too hard on yourself when life doesn't turn out the way you planned. If you are lucky and blessed to be a mother, thank God for His mercies but please, don't intentionally or inadvertently thumb your nose at those who are still hoping. Children, biological or adopted, are blessings nonetheless. If you can't have them biologically, there are several other dignified ways of having children without causing pain to another. I wonder if she would be this "eloquent" if she had clocked 40 without a man nor a child?

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  34. Same thing I will do if at 35 I'm still single,and basically if I happen to be financially balanced;i'd happily adopt 1 and birth 2..Yea..esp..with a foreigner...love mixed kids.

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  35. I’m 38 and I will not have a child without my husband. I’m getting married this year and I pray for all single ladies that God will give us our soul mate in Jesus Name Amen

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    1. Amen. So shall it be. We will testify of His goodness soon.

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    2. Amen. I tap into meeting my soulmate this year 2020 and getting married shortly after

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    3. Amen,i tap from this in Jesus name amen

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  36. If you want a child, have the capacity to love and care for the child, then you should try to have one. If you don’t want a child, then you should not be pressured to have one. You are living your life. You have to live it in a way that suits/pleases you.

    If you are a single woman—no partner—and you can love and care for a child (you want), then try IVF, IUI, surrogacy, adoption, embryo donation, freezing your eggs etc, with zero shame and apologies to anyone.

    Of course, if you have a partner and you are having issues conceiving, you can try the options above too.

    Let’s stop shaming women, single or married. Let’s stop womb watching. Let’s stop counting clocks for people. Live and let live. Please do you!

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    1. First paragraph.... It's never your life. You don't own the life you are given. You can't even create a single hair from your head.

      Second paragraph....most single women can't afford those things you mentioned up there so they fornicate to get it or sleep with someone else's man without his permission and get a child for him. Who knows her child may be a daughter/son of a married man.

      Third paragraph..what do youu mean by partner? Husband or wife? or boyfriend? Fornication again.

      Fourth paragraph...Correct advice.

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  37. I hate such advice. Why not also advice them not to do it with peoples husbands??? All this is to make urself feel better as u are a single mother. Who cares??? Inferiority complex at its height!!

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  38. Thanks for ur advice. That is how a 33 year old took this kind of advice and had a baby for my husband. Ruined her life and my marriage. Pls when advising try and give a rounded one enh.

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    1. Anon 19:26 this is what I just asked you oo come and say something to this. They will be advocating for women to have children.... have children.... out of wedlock like they don't know how those women would go about getting the children...using science to cover face with their usual rant "you do not need to have sex before belle enter nah" at the end is to cause kasala for another woman marriage. Smh. Anon 20:42 don't mind them. It is when these women they are advising take their advice and come to have children for their husbands that their eyes will clear .

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  39. Nonsense advice. My friends sister married at 39. She had a set of things b4 she turned 40 and had another child at 41. She don born finish. God knows what plans he has for us. Urs was to be a single mother. Stop leading others astray.

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  40. This woman is obviously delusional ...like someone said misery loves company. I know a woman who married a virgin and she has never been pregnant. I have one who married at 40 and she is yet to have a child. What will they do based on this incredibly stupid advice up there. Janet Jackson gave birth at 50...where were u with your iberibe epistle. Man plans God laughs...remember that .

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  41. Such wrong advice, who says its all kids that takes care of their parents when they are old?? My neighbour's biological father went blind and was dropped of by his own daughter at our gate Man's house, with is lil belongings and a pack of gala and fanta. My neighbour wasn't even home when the dad was dropped off, he had to wait outside for hours before we took care of him. 4 years later the dad still lives with his son but has never been brought outside or taken to d hospital for check up. Rather he's been locked inside a room for 4 years, I hear him shout at night sometimes, ve spoken softly to my neighbour but nothing. This is a father that was dropped of at his own son's house?? I feel bad most times but what can I do. Is not just to have kids but pray God gives u good ones and try ur best to give them good upbringing.

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    1. Such a pity but like you said at the end that parents should give their children good upbringing;some parents were bad to their children when they were younger. Lots of children grew without love and attention which included abuse too in many cases. If such children grow up and decided to turn tables around too? Maybe that is the case of your neighbor although some children are just wicked and selfish

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  42. Time flies. Most people will say not my portion until they turn around and they are 40. Time flies. Only those who have lived it could attest to it. Keep playing around until it hits you.

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    1. Keep playing God till he shocks you. Even the baby gotten out of fornication or for another person husband out of desperation can still die at anytime. God can humble the wise. fornicate if you want,snatch another person husband if you want and carry belle for him, but have sense and know that Even the child or husband doesn't guarantee anything. God can humble the wise he can't be mocked.

      If they turn around and they are 40 they can still do it God's way and adopt he blesses them.

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    2. 7.06 thanks for a wholesome response! πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

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    3. Anon 7:06 πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘.
      God cannot be mocked.

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