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Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
USELESS HUSBAND


I have been married for 5 years, 4 out of this 5 years husband has been jobless. We have 3 kids including a set of twins. 


Me and husband were working in the same organization before marriage, so I had to resign immediately after marriage. 


I quickly started a business because I hate being idle. One year into the marriage husband committed fraud and was sacked.

 I left him because I was heartbroken, he started telling people that I left him because he doesn’t have money, I was too ashamed to tell people what he did, so I came back . Since he lost that job,I have made contacts for him to travel abroad multiple times, he refused. His uncle saw a vacancy in a bank called him to bring his cv, he refused saying he doesn’t want to work for anybody. My sister asked him to call her, so that both of them can talk so that she would help him with a contact of her colleague that is into travelling to help process Australia visa for him, that she will bear the expenses, Oga refused. 


Along the line we saw a house that was for sale in my area, he sold his car and I added money, we bought the place. Since we moved to this house he became worse, the only thing this guy does is to play game on his phone and sell anything he set his eyes on. 

That made me put a hold on childbearing but it breaks my heart because am not getting any younger, am close to 40. I live like a single mother, the only thing he does is to get an erection every night, if I refused, he will start calling people that he caught me masturbating.


To the reason why am writing this, recently he developed the habit of asking me to leave his house, this 2020, he has said it 3 times . I had to invite his father and mother the second time he said, when they came they were very angry with him that his mother asked me to carry my kids and move in with them. When they left , after 2 days he started begging me.. 


when his father called, I told him that he has begged me, his father called him and he told his father that he didn’t beg me, I was angry, his mother begged me to Ignore. 3 weeks later we had a little misunderstanding, this time he extended it to my own family. Sent all of them message that they should ask me to leave his house. But I couldn’t make any move, because of lockdown. 


As lockdown is coming to an end, he started acting all lovey dovey but I sincerely want to leave because this guy has hurt me immensely. I don’t deserve it. His father has washed their hands off me and my family has too. To everyone am living here on my own. His sisters are like how can I be feeding a man , yet every morning he wakes up to ask me to leave his house meanwhile the house belongs to the two us.. 


I forgot to add that he has hit thrice. I don’t know why am afraid to move on. His dad and mom said I shouldn’t call them again since I don’t want to receive sense that it’s because am there feeding him that’s why he refused to do anything with his life. I don’t even know why am afraid to count my losses and move on with my life. Please my fellow BV what advice can you give a sister


Collect this.....................



136 comments:

  1. Wait... you have 3 kids, yet you are not happy. Or did I read well? You are close to 40 with 3 kids...a d you no thank God, you want for ball team? I dunno what to tell you sef....

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    1. Ayam not understanding that part..

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    2. Number one

      Pity your 3 children and call it a day on childbearing
      Face then and take care of them well


      Number Two

      Accept that you have been very stupid but from now on you will not continue to be so


      Number Three

      Stop looking at the activities of a creature who doesn't know what he wants , is on self destruct and wants to drag you down with him

      Number Four

      You are not a victim just a stupid person blindly hoping that a fraudulent and irresponsible leopard will suddenly turn into a peaceful reasonable dove

      Number Five

      Get your shit together and decide if you want your children to grow up despising you for allowing swine step & crush your pearls (future, health, time & attention)

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    3. Thanks Stella for that slap. I think her head is already resetting. My dear poster is ur Name NoT on the house deed? U tell him to leave. What are u doing feeding a man and complaining about when u have not thrown him out? If u can’t throw him out then u leave. His people are even nice self. As for wanting more children are u well?? With all the wahala 3 is not enough? I think u have some personal issues cos u are actually not making sense.

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    4. When I saw that part eh I was like huh๐Ÿ˜ฒ! Some people like plenty kids sha.
      Poster you are lucky you have such supportive in-laws honestly, see eh you have to take drastic measures before that your over grown baby will receive sense. The trouble with this sort of shameless men is that you as a woman will go out of your way to be supportive but will be resented for it.
      I wish you good luck dear poster.

      Melancholy

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    5. Stella thank you for that hot slap! Jet li thank you for saying it all.

      Poster, get a lawyer involve a lawyer, get the house sold and split proceeds 50:50.
      Be sure to get a mini-flat before that to move in with your children.

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    6. Poster with 3 children is talking about putting child birth on hold, how many kids do you want to have, 100?
      What exactly will you be doing with more than 3 kids? Give them substandard education and release rascals to the society or what?
      As for you and your husband matter, I won't put mouth, obviously you are foolish and also fraudulent since you are comfortably living with, feeding and taking insults from a thief.
      I just pity those 3 innocent children, they deserve better.

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    7. All the village witches in naija are doing press up in his brain

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    8. Anon16:50, even if she gets a lawyer and sells the house, the idiotic fool will still come and beg so that he won't be stranded.
      If she gets to sell the house, she can decide to relocate and start afresh so that the fool won't come and beg and still beat her and deny it to his father. Proud and broke fool.

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    9. I'm so sorry you are going through all this. I was in a similar situation as you with an abusive lazy husband. I had two kids for him and every time he messes up he comes back begging and I feel sorry for him and feel I dont want a broken home. But the vicious cycle continues he hits me, messes up and beg and I stay. The hitting will only get worse so you need to be strong and find the strength to move on. I love kids and wanted plenty but not in a toxic environment so I packed my bags and took my kids and left him in 2015. Today I'm doing well with my kids, I am glad I left him. Two years ago he died from multiple organ failure following use of contaminated cocaine. I never knew he was a drug user but after he died the truth came out and that explained all the nonsense he was doing then. My dear sister pls leave him dont let him destroy you, dont let your daughter or sons grow up thinking it's ok for a man to be irresponsible. God will see you through but you need to take the first step

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    10. Leave,except you are happy with marriage.

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    11. Child bearing on hold after 3kids. Pls madam what do u want to do with more than 3kids and a jobless husband in dis economy.
      Infact you shld have stopped at 1child since he was jobless from the start of the marriage.
      Everybody has washed their hands off....better you do same and add hand sanitizer to dat washing bcos dat man isnt it.

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    12. Brown Sucre you made a valid point. I really don't what to advise again. The poster seems to have a weakness for that her loser of a husband.

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    13. 17:58, I hope poster sees this part of your comment, "Give them substandard education and release rascals to the society or what?"

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    14. Deafening slap๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. I thought I was the only one that saw the 3 kids and almost 40 part.

      Poster, do you think you know that man more than his parents? They’ve advised you to move on, yet you remain. May God grant you wisdom to do what is right by your kids. Amen.

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  2. No Waooh, but why will a man see opportunities to be better and earn money and turn it down, whereas others are fasting, praying and crying for breakthrough no matter how small?

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    1. People in self destruct mode

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    2. The slap stella gave you is enough. No need to talk again.

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    3. Twins squared he refused those opportunities because his wife is stupid enough to feed and take care of him, if he has nobody to take care of him he will get up and do something for himself

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    4. You all are wasting your time advising her, she won't leave nor will stop feeding him. Women with low self esteem hardly take advice.

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    5. Dear poster, its like you are addicted to suffering o.
      Even his parents aren't in support, just leave now before you have another child, you have three already.
      You can even move in with your parents since they are in support of you.
      Marriage is not a do or die affair, you dont have anything to prove to anyone.
      I dont know why you bought a house with an irresponsible man, if you both cant sell it, then leave him in the house and get your sanity.

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    6. He refused the opportunity cause he has someone feeding him,if she wasn't doing that I'm sure he'd go for the opportunities.

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    7. His village people are on his case ni

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    8. Queen Amy has said it all. This poster will breed more kids. Please work on your self esteem. I wonder what you teach your kids.

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    9. To his parents now you are his enabler. You really need to leave now while you are still living. A man is lazying about, feeding off of you, beating you while at it and you are here talking about how to have more children. It is your 3 kids I pity. Leave that man now!!!

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  3. A corpse is not afraid to move..remember that when next he hits you cos he will.

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    1. ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Œ

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    2. All I saw was the part of wanting more children after 3! Poster "woman, know thyself"...

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    3. In addition, poster are you trying to say your name is not in the house document? Please don't tell me you made the foolish mistake of writing Mr&Mrs o! I hope you clearly stated "Mr foolish & Mrs stupid Okoro" ! Because of this whole "get out of my house" situation...

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    4. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ What a name @"Mr foolish & Mrs stupid Okoro" !

      Poster, I can only say this to you, "Nwanyi nke aa, ike gwuru!" ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜‘☹️

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    5. Poster, the day that lout of a husband will kill you, your own family and in-laws will not shed a tear.
      You have been adequately warned.

      I don't know how some women are born so foolish, raised without a grain of dignity and once they are with a man they become a Lilac-breasted roller.

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    6. It is obvious her name is not on it @mama Mia else the man won't remember to call it his house...umu nwnayi ibem na di

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  4. Aunty it looks like you are attracted to toxic affairs. This your story sef suppose shame you write and you still tell yourself that you are afraid to move on.
    Maybe there’s something he does to you in the bedroom that you think you wouldn’t get elsewhere. I wonder the day God created some people sef

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  5. Looool in addition to stellas hot slap. Let him know as u r moving u r getting lawyers involved to get ur share of d house too, so you have to sell the house Nd split the money. Secondly STOP giving him money !!!! Thirdly pls do what is best for u Nd ur kids kapish!

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    1. Wise... If he says leave my house, get lawyers involve, so you can sell the house and share the proceed.

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    2. Leave which house?house you co own,and you're still thinking of birthing more children,who do you like this?

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    3. When women are abused it's hard to leave. You guys cannot understand but I have been there and I know how she feels. She needs people to support her and help her find the strength to leave. She is scared and just need a strong support system.

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    1. A round of applause for courageous people that will not cover up or condone bullshit from one of theirs๐Ÿ‘

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    2. As in, good family sincerely!

      One of my coursemate in school almost got married to a fraud and lazy guy too, thank God for his parents who came clean to the girl just for her to know what she's about getting into and how they have tried and done with giving the guy money. That's how she dodged a bullet

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    3. As in eeehen, lazy men that are not ready to be responsible at all.

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  7. I dont know what to tell you.

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    1. Better say something Don.

      Madam, get a lawyer and stop wasting time.

      You were ashamed of telling people why you left him. Must you even tell people...

      Now see where you landed yourself

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    2. @Jessi. This woman would have been a very good wife for a right thinking man but oga doesn't have good head on his shoulder.
      I just wish this woman can summon courage and have the idiot thrown out of the house through the window.
      I wish.

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    3. Don you have to tell her something, after all she is suffering with him and that has always been your joy

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  8. what a hot slap from sdk๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    Without any due respect, your husband is a baby(imagine denying he begged you to his dad and also lying that you were masturbating because you did not give in to his advances)

    Madam please leave him like a bad habit that he is and focus on your kids, am happy you are not the idle type and that his own parents seem to like you, so focus on you and your kids and am certain you will be fine okay๐Ÿค—

    Don’t go back to him no matter how much he pleads unless you see change in behaviour, job employment and a responsible man who has cleaned his act okay, God got you ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

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    1. Emotionally immature creatures in adult body

      Tufia

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  9. What I have noticed as a recurrent decimal on this blog is that once the husband loses his job, the wife begins to plot her exit. She nags and kicks.
    Yes, this man lost his job due to his greed and professional misconduct but that shouldn't have spelt doom for the marriage.
    If you the lady are the one working and able to sustain your family, thank God. If the man was insisting that he does not want to work for anybody, engage him in a dialogue and
    reason with him to define what his plans are.
    The point is that none of you are considering the kids who want their dad and mom to be together. It is all
    selfish reasoning from both of you.

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    1. Stop enabling bad behaviour! A grown man sits and plays video games all day! It's like you did not see that.

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    2. Anon 15:08 didn't you see how they tried to help the poster with a job and also tried to help him travelled abroad,and he still refused.
      Didn't we read the same chronicles together anon please open your mind if this issues happen to someone close to you how will you feel??
      They tried to give him heads up to cater for his family, the poster just have bad habits

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    3. The man isn't ready for any of that. Won't his kids resent him as they grow older, seeing their mum suffering alone without any help from him? There are cases that require both partners staying away, this is one of them.

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    4. His inability to think outside his greed cost him his job

      Children need quality not dross

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    5. We can tell a toxic person from comments, I'm sure your wife has been feeding your jobless and lazy ass for years Anon 15.08. Even bible kicks against laziness.

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    6. @Black
      "Travelled abroad?" or whatever you mean by that does not cut it. Unemployment in say US is the highest since the great depression and that is for American citizens not to talk about someone who came in from Africa.
      @Yellow Sisi
      If you Nigerian girls haven't used the words "toxic or narcissistic" then you haven't started discussion. Even when perhaps, you have absolutely no clue as to what they mean. And I like as you quickly jumped into the conclusion that I am a man. ☺๐Ÿ˜Š Because women do not tell the truth?
      You all want her to divorce the man, how does it solve her problems, how does it make her richer and her kids happier?
      Keep putting asunder what God joined together.

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    7. @Yellow Sisi
      A "lazy man" sold his car and bought a home, did you read yourself and your rants?

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    8. You did not read that even his own family have washed their hands off him? You didn't read that he has been asking her to leave the home they both contributed money to build? You didn't read that the ogbeni has refused to be useful to himself? So she should wait until she fends for the family until the children are adults, abi?! Supporters of lazy useless men.

      Heck, that he committed fraud in his place of work is enough to walk out of the marriage to some people. It shows that he's not trustworthy.

      Women have suffered Sha! They are expected to tolerate bad behavior so people don't insult them for leaving when the husband is jobless. If a wan who lost her job was behaving the same way, the man and his family would have thrown her out since.

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    9. Keep deceiving yourself Anon 15.59, stop treating your woman badly the only reason you're here spewing rubbish to enable and encourage your kind.

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    10. @17:18
      Advocate of divorcing him when he "commits fraud in his place of work"
      Wow!
      Nigerian hypocrites and their double standards.
      So has all those married to political looters, convicted political looters,
      Yahoo, yahoo dudes etc. all divorced them?
      If that husband had succeeded in covering his tracks in that company, would the wife
      have written this chronicle? same you will be hailing him here. Hypocrites!

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    11. 15:08 and 17:55 your reasoning leaves much to be desired. Quite a shame! SMH

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    12. This one that most people are against that particular Anonymous...maybe he's the man in that chronicle. Anyone considered that possibility? He sounds like the man sha๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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  10. Since you don't want to move out ,stay with him and pls don't write to us again,but what do you want us to do since his family asked you to move but you did not ,since it is hitting stay till he stab you ok,when you died he will bring in another person who is not a co-owner so that his saying of"My house "can be fulfilled

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  11. This Stella's comment is funny and true at the same time. Lol

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    1. goke you got that right. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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  12. This chronicle to me appears to be asking for drumming of support to leave your husband taking the kids with you..
    You have come to the right place.
    They will all line up, crucify the man; the father of your kids and tell you to run.
    But you know what?
    What? You left him because he did not have money. Period.
    Ask yourself this question. If he has been undiscovered after defrauding his company, will you have left?
    ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Anon 15.11, please read your comment carefully and ask your mother who she offended that placed this curse on you...

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    2. Did you read the chronicle. Weyrey

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    3. At poster, Anon 15:11 is advising yoi to stay with your husband till he kills you ooo, in fact Anon 15:11 is implying that you beg him each time he tells you to leave his house(sic).

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    4. Mama Mia and her entourage attacked the anon. without answering her question;
      If the man had succeeded in covering his tracks in his company and became "rich"
      will anybody have written you a chronicle.
      Nigerians worship wealth irrespective of how it was acquired.๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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    5. 15:11 and 17:58 that would mean the wife isn't aware of his fraud. You two have no shame!


      Do you think everyone will cover up fraud or accept a fraulent partner? Do you think it's everyone that partakes in the proceeds of crime? The reward for a fraudster and the one that supports fraud is the same.

      There are people that are not "rich" as you implied but they won't trade their good name and peace of mind for ill-gotten wealth.

      You conveniently overlooked that his wife, parents and in-laws forgave him, gave him another chance time and again.

      If he isn't a greedy and lazy turkey, why didn't he take the opportunities offered by his family and in-laws to rebuild his life? His head is obviously filled with fraudulent schemes to get-rich quick.

      You want poster to stay with an idle, abusive man until he hits her a fourth time and propably send her to an early grave.
      I bet you know that saying about an idle mind.

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    6. 17:58 how will she know the husband committed fraud to become rich. Will the husband willingly divulge such information to her.

      You people will just be talking anyhow. It shows that you guys will encourage your husband to steal to become rich so you can be called oga madam and remain in a hopeless and thieving marriage.

      At poster I support you left your thief husband initially to state a point. Hard work pays and say no to unscrupulous behavior.

      Lovelace

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    7. Anons, stop feigning ignorance. The poster is not angry or wanting to leave because he lost his job, but because he refused all other opportunities presented to him to better himself.

      Please, go through the chronicle again but this time, slowly...

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    8. Mama Mia she is afraid of the unknown, that's why she hasn't left and that doesn't mean she is not angry or want to leave.

      If she's willing and happy to stay in the marriage, why isn't she giving in to her lazy husband's nightly sexual demands? Why is she writing a chronicle?

      Fear of the unknown.
      Fear of being a divorcee.
      Fear of being mocked by society.
      Fear of being a single parent (though she's already one right in that marriage).

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  13. My dear,sorry about your present situation, that's life for you
    Kindly move out after the Covid 19, take him unaware, move to a place where he would not know, ensure you take your kids with you. When he comes to his knees begging, make him sign an agreement never to utter such ruthless word to you again.
    Also, put him in prayers cos the spirit of pride has enveloped him that's why he is saying no to good opportunities that comes his way.
    Pls don't even if you leave the house, dnt leave him to his fate, always pray for him
    I believe in prayers, it works wonders.This evening, I would say a prayer for him too dearie
    Get this E-hug from me.

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  14. Haha haha ๐Ÿ˜‚ , Stella this your response got me lmao, dear poster why do you want more kids when you already have 3, please leave that man before he kills you and marries someone else, if your business is doing well, please leave him and the house, believe in yourself and know that God can replace all you have lost

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  15. This Stella's comment is funny and true at the same time. Lol

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    1. That Stella's slap means, "WOMAN, THOU ART LOSED!"๐Ÿคฃ

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  16. Suffer! Nigerian women are sufferers!! Enjoy your marriage..stay and fight. Nonsense! Una no dey learn. You women have low self-esteem, you don't love yourself one bit. How una dey take live like this? I'm not perfect but no man treats me like trash. I love myself to walk away. Marriage is not bondage dear suffering Nigerian women.

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  17. Jesus take the wheels..

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    1. Jesus ke.this one is common sense.please leave Jesus to answers coro prayers

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  18. The advice you need is in your last paragraph. It's not easy to leave all you've laboured for but at this stage, please take your parent-in-law's advice and move on.

    I guess it's because you both own the house, sort that out with him and move on. I'm finding it difficult to say all this but it so glaring that he's not ready to do the right thing? How long will you continue like this? This is sad. I wish you well.

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  19. Madam Haaa this one okpoju oh..Your husband is a chronic lazy man and he seems not to learn his lessons. Please for the sake of your kids, just rent a place for your sanity and separate from him. He had the audacity to hit you. What an infidel.

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  20. Reading your chronicle reminds me of those Ghanian dancing pallbearers. Do you want that as your case?

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  21. Someone once told me that Nigerian ladies hate a husband that lost his job more than labor pain. I argued for my dear ladies but all I've been reading on this blog proves that assertion right.
    There is no gainsaying that you left that man because he became jobless, not at all due to his bad manners or playing video games.

    The only one I won't tolerate is a man that raises his hands to hit a woman, he has failed. But let's not forget that in the "quarreling" that you
    talked about, you were a contributor to the quarrel; your words that cut like shrapnel. A man in the state of joblessness could of course tip over; still does not make him less a failure for beating his wife.
    But think about it, will you in your children's shoes want your parents to be apart? If your life is threatened by staying there, that's different. But do not leave because people are telling you to leave.

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    1. His own family are not supporting the man o. Abu am I the only one seeing it?

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    2. @17:19
      Than his family isn't supporting him does not mean he should be divorced. If the man had succeeded in defrauding his company, same "his own family" will be worshiping him and perhaps get a second wife and chieftancy title for him.

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    3. Get his number and Marry him if you feel bad for him,those things you feel she didn't do right,make you correct them.

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  22. Poster, you were a working class lady and I believe you're supposed to be smart and intelligent!

    So, you bought a house with your husband, please, whose name was written on the documents? I don't want to believe you were stupid enough to buy a house and put only husband's name.

    Please, come under my comment and answer.

    Don't even think about moving to his parents house, you're going to a second round of slavery.

    He should be the one moving out of that house for you and the kids.

    Some men are just useless. Ladies, stop taking the role of a man in your home. Support, yes but, don't carry all the home responsibilities on your head.

    I bet, you look like you're 55years old because of the abuses and all the stress.

    Tell him to move out, that house is also yours and please, stop indulging him. Stop all the sexual activities and face your kids.

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    1. Ms.A, thanks so much for this.
      In my own case,I packed all d responsibilities on my head...he was dismissed from work n became lazy...stays at home, watch movies n sleep..at d end,his parents said I was d one that encouraged him.
      I got my own reset slap after I fell into debts!!!

      My parents were against me living d house with my two kids but I said he won't stay in d house as long as I pay d rent!I stopped all sexual activities...n suddenly he said he has gotten a job somwer,he left o...but am happy he left,I pray God sees me through this debt n face my kids!

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  23. Until you discover your worth outside that man..You will keep living for him.

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  24. Dear poster can you please just leave him with his bad habits and hire a good lawyer
    You need your own happiness back

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  25. Toxic men must be a turn on for some of you. You are single but married. Better run far from that man child. That Stella's slap ought to reset your settings!

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  26. Man loses job, he is
    a beast
    a useless man
    a bastard
    a domestic abuser
    ehmmm, what's the other one
    Narcissistic.
    Women! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

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    1. Did you read the chronicle? Werey

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    2. Lost his job? Why? Because of fraud, is that not embarrassing in its self! Then he turned violent, why can't you advisers, advice the man to pray? Abi men no dey fight for their marriage?

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    3. You should have written "man loses job through fraud"
      I love how you conveniently left that out.

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  27. But this man sold his car to buy a house or did I not read well?
    He isn't as bad as you have painted him here. You appear to me the impatient and
    greedy one. My opinion, my freedom of speech. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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    1. Buying a house? Did he buy the house alone? Abi no be money dem dey use maintain house? He bought a house and sat on his arse... Lazy he goat!!!

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  28. His family are a very sensible and amazing set of people.
    You already know what to do and you even have all the support you need, it's left for you to choose.

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  29. Poster I hope the slap resets your brain. Please leave the house for now until he comes to his senses. Life no get duplicate ooo.

    You have three children and you are still complaining that they are not enough for you. Just take care of yourself and your children, be contented with what you have.

    Lovelace

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  30. My dear think about this moving out very well if it is really what you want. On the other hand you can choose to ignore him and leave your life fully while in that house.

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  31. ๐Ÿšถ‍♀️๐Ÿšถ‍♀️๐Ÿšถ‍♀️๐Ÿšถ‍♀️๐Ÿšถ‍♀️

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  32. Thank you Stella for the hot slap, she deserves it to reset her brain ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    And did she imply she has three children, and 40,and still wants more but can't due to her husband's attitude?

    In fact Stella make it 3 hot slaps๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜ž

    Someone that his parents asked you to leave, and you are still there.
    Do you think it's easy for a parent to give up on a child? They must know something you don't.

    Na you sabi ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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  33. Poster the reason you are afraid to leave is because you joined funds with him to buy the house, hence you are scared that if you leave he might sell off the house.

    So I suggest that you lay your hands on the house papers and then pack your load and leave the house.That way he won't be able to sell the house without your consent.

    Stop wasting your life with a man who has no plan for his future, your feeding him is what is making him lazy. Protect your sanity by leaving and also remember you have children who are watching you, don't plan in them the knowledge of it is okay to be a last parent... Leave and watch peace return into your life

    LEP

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  34. Madam u are not tired yet, when u are fed up u will know what to do. Make I go sleep joor

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  35. You already have 3 kids and you r still looking for more I'm this economy? You said you r close to 40, do you know how many close to 40 singles both Male and female that do not even have a relationship not to mention marriage? Thank your God. Your destiny is in your hands. Since you are the one feeding him,why are you afraid to leave?
    Any man that has hits you will do it again.Abusers do not usually change.

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  36. Stella, slap her again please.
    Upon say your in-laws have washed their hands off you and your hubby, you still de dia?
    Are you waiting for Angel Romero to visit you personally?

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  37. Suffer no dey tire u?
    Domestic violence no dey tire u?
    If you're scared of divorce, his parents have offered you help, go and stay with them, your kids don't deserve to grow up in that toxic environment, you'd be teaching your girls that suffering is ok and he will be teaching your make kids how to hit and depend on women, he's even a fraudster๐Ÿ™„
    Biko for the kids sake, take them to their grandparents, you can go back and stay in your house.
    Bettwr receive sense!

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  38. poster I hope the house also bears your name...if it does you can claim it.

    One of my distant aunt advised that if a couple wants to buy a house ,For instance the name shouldn't be Mr and Mrs XYZ,instead MR ABY& MRS AdE XYZ to avoid stories like this...it shows dual ownership in law

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    1. Gbam!! Every literate adult should know this & spell it out.

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    2. Your aunt is wise mr and mrs xyz joint buying has killed many destinies. A friend made that mistake. Her husband then claimed the house was bought by him and his mother o. My friend nearly ran mad.

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  39. His family has given you the right to leave the house to stay with them yet you are still debating. The only way your husband will come to reality is when you take actions like moving away for a while if not, he won't change. His family know him too well and that is why they are not soft on him. Just move away if you can.

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  40. I understand it's difficult to move on with three kids but trust me you are not divorcing Jim just give him some space for him to receive sense. When you leave him to pick his calls and block him on all social media handles for like 2 months am sure his brain will reset within 6 months to a year and he will definitely received senseby starting something meaningful with his life and come looking for you cos he will surely miss his kids.

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  41. Suggest you move out and give him some time to wake up. He needs some space to rethink his way back to normal

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  42. Nothing wey I no go hear..madam Stella she deserves a second slap.

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  43. What!!?people are really suffering o,it's well worth you ma'am
    #LADIESKNOWYOURWORTH

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  44. Madam please you need to take the bold step and move on with ur kids. Leave the house for him and get a small place for ur self even if its one room move in and take care of ur kids, he will look for who will be feeding him if he doesn't reset his brain.

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  45. You are even lucky his parents and siblings are nice and are not supporting evil. Most of this irresponsible men their parents especially their mothers support them and always blame the wife for not being humble. It is impossible to respect a fool. Poster, you are dealing with a fool, you better live that arrangement you are calling a marriage.

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  46. LEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAVEEEEEE AND DON'T LOOK BACK!!!!

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  47. It's clear that something dey work you...oya receive another cerebrum resetting slap... Mtshewwww

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  48. Follow your Parent in law advise, if you can law hands on document for the house it would be better for you. Don't die there, an idle man is the devil's workshop

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  49. A man loses his job because he committed fraud and within 4 years during which he had 3 kids;

    Rejects job offers because "he doesn't want to work for anybody"

    Rejects opportunities to move abroad

    Refuses to build a business

    He and his wife contribute resources together to build a house after which he has started asking her to leave HIS house.

    And somehow according to some commenters, the wife who has been taking care of the household financially for the past four years with three kids and with the support of family members is to blame? ARE YOU ALL FOR REAL? Even his family know he is at fault, yet you all blame the wife, REALLY?

    I feel bad for women in Nigeria. I wish I was born in a country where women are protected by law. Chai, God Why?

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    1. The people supporting the useless man are useless too.

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    2. 17:29 someone needs to take up a "Lamentation" for such Nigerian women.

      Thankfully there are still some sensible ones left.

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  50. He behaves like a child and you can see his family doesn't support him, All the opportunities you were offering him why didn't you take one yourself.plus how can you stay after he has hit you thrice, woman pick yourself up and do the needful.

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  51. @ anon 17:12 you is a wicked sadist, she should leave and don't look back after 3 kids, go and marry her now

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    1. Your name should be Ori e baje.

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  52. leave this marriage before you lost your self in the process.

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  53. Madam when you decide to have sense; get a divorce, sell the house to someone you know who will return the house to you. Better still give him half the money to the house and let him move out

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  54. Madam, since you are working and can take care of yourself and your children, leave the house for him, rent a place n pack out. He will come 5to his sence one day. Keep putting him in your prayers for Go( to touch him

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  55. Separation doesn't mean divorce. Just separate from him for some time and recover yourself first. Otherwise, there will be two insane people under the same roof with innocent children whose lives are at stake.
    You're even lucky that his own family understands you and the situation. So move on!

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  56. Receive sense sister... Na wah ooo, u never suffer reach??

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  57. Madam pls don't forget to leave with the house documents else he will sell the house and lavish the money,

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