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Wednesday, May 20, 2020

Lady Who Had 'Half Past 4 Eyes' Recounts How She Fell Into Depression And Became Suicidal

Chelsea went through hell as family and friends mocked her for having crossed eyes and she had to go under the knife to correct the problem that sent her into depression and made her consider suicide...

This is her story......Stop making fun of people's handicap!!!













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    1. My mum has it,same with my husband and son. You dare not make fun of them in front of me,because you go say craze run. I wear glasses and when people wanted to start calling coke bottle, they had it hot from me.

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    2. Nobody should come here and claim goody 2 shoes, we've all body shamed someone at one point in our lives

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    3. I use to have it.i had a surgery to correct it at eye Foundation hospital

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    4. My Nephew has got it, please Anon 11:12 which of the eye foundation hospital? I need a good hospital to do it for him.

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    5. Waooooooo thank God 💋💋💋💋💋💋

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    6. Anon 11:07 talk for yourself and the people you surround yourself with. I have never body shame anyone in my entire existence.

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    7. You must have done it in your mind, dont lie

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    8. Anon I've been a victim and I knew what I went through then and how it felt.

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    9. @ anon 12.15.eye Foundation at Ikeja .ask for Dr Mildred , don't know if she is still there.i did mine in 2011.i came all the way from the east to Lagos to have the surgery,she was highly recommend by a friend the daughter did her own there.

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    10. Many thanks Anon 17:23.🤝 God bless you.

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  2. It is well....love will rule

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    1. This is my MIL's talent. You can not sit with her and watch a movie in peace, you will hear stuff like - This person's mouth is so big, the ears are huge, nose is this, she is too fat.
      My husband also has the same attitude, he will keep mentioning that thing till I say, I heard you the first time. There is this newscaster he always picks on that she bends her mouth to talk. I said to him, do you know If she has a stroke? He said No, she is doing it deliberately.

      May God help us to be better individuals.

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  3. Stella very true but Nigerians will stigmatize everything even when you lose a pinky finger..Comedians nko it really disgusts me when they imitate those with Down Syndrome..

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    1. That and the vulgarity are the reasons I don't watch or go to comedy shows by most Nigerian comedians/comedienne.

      Bullying is mean and body-shaming is bullying.
      Sadly, children copy this nasty habit from parents/adults.

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  4. Congratulations... I'm happy for her. I can imagine what she went through.

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  5. I didn't know they could correct crossed eyes... Thank God for you

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  6. And some with it have married, some are even grand parents.

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    1. How marriage take enter this gist now?

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    2. I guess @Mao's point is that some would have settled for less in choice of a spouse because of that not knowing about corrective surgery.

      A childhood friend got his bow-legs corrected as a child and a coursemate had his bent legs(K-leg) corrected as an adult.

      The sad thing is that there are lots of limiting factors in Nigeria - financially and lack of advancemmeant in the health sector/medical research.

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    3. Anon help me ask. Everything marriage marriage!

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    4. i dont understand oo

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  7. Eeh yah. Thank GOD for her life. She's done her surgery and she's happy and cool.

    Growing up, there's a girl Ifeoma(i wonder where she is now?) that had that kind of eyes and we use to call her anya 4:30 during children fights ,kai!!!. I'm now imagining how she felt then
    GOD please forgive me oh, na childishness cause am oh

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    1. Hmm.
      To those i've fat/shamed through their pics on this blog,i'm sorry.

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    2. May God forgive me I use to call people half past four eye. I will never do it again

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    3. ifeoma had it corrected. Dont worry shes doing fine with her family. Just forgive yourself and sin no more

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  8. Back in high school, we didnt know it to be called Strabismus, so we described them as "the one with 4:30 eyes".... not making a mockery of them though, just a honest descriptiom. Body shaming is bad

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  9. Honestly, once you have a defect or something the world doesn't know your name again, ur problem becomes ur name.hmmmmm

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    1. I swear.
      That will be your identity.
      Even in hospitals, nurses dont refer to your name but your disease.... "Wey that man with gonorrhea??" Lol.

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    2. Lol, gonorrhea. I doubt any nurse will describe someone with their std.😂

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  10. People should stop the stigmatization already! That was how i broke my teeth in junior secondary school. People never stopped making jest of me. It really affected me. It made me see my self less. Still battling with low self esteem. I can't look people in the eye. Always covering my mouth while growing up. Yea I fixed my teeth some months after it broke.....it fell off after 6months.......bvs how can I overcome low self esteem.

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    1. Read about self respect and please focus on your positive parts

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    2. Surround yourself with positive people,

      Constantly remind yourself of how wonderful and beautiful you are.

      Develop awareness -- you need to know how you respond to fear and insecurity, this would actually help you to better


      Let go of those words people said to put you down,

      Forgive yourself for letting them get to you and finally remind yourself that you deserve love by treating your own self lovingly .

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    3. Please go and visit a dentist. There are detachable dentures now and you can get your confidence back. I know someone who is using it and you will never know..

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  11. Thank God there is a solution and the resources are available! Human beings really don't care about the feelings of others. Some even find joy in others sadness

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  12. Lesson learnt. Never body shame anyone. Emotional abuse is a killer.

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  13. SO this half past 4 eyes can even be corrected by surgery and so many people are living with low self confidence with it. We need ministry of information and NOA to sensitise people who have it.
    Also for those who have bad dentition. Those overgrown incisors and canine teeth can be corrected by dental surgery and it's cheap too.

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  14. Nigerians have a way of using one's deficiencies to insult someone jokingly,they will describe you with your deficiency..They abandon your name and coin another for the person whether the person finds it funny or not.
    I remember one aunty in my childhood area then,we call her "aunty baby",even as an adult,people call her baby..when I asked why,I was told she had a tiny baby voice when she was much younger and they named her "baby"...people have gotten used to the name "baby" even as she's older

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    1. It is not only Nigerians. Even those who read of how Bartimeaus was healed of his blindness still refer to him as blind Bartimeaus

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    2. Aunty baby 😂😂

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    3. This one isn't shaming nau. It's even cute

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  15. Good to know it can be corrected surgically.

    I knew someone with crossed eyes while growing up. It was later corrected naturally

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  16. That's people for you. They will tag and label you with your predicament either on your body or issues in family and life challenges...

    Even the woman with the issue of the blood no body knew her name but the name of her ailment.

    This life learn to ignore people and develop thick skin.

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  17. My friend corrected hers by wearing a patch on the straight eye , it made the lazy eye straight by force .

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  18. Bvs please help me I have very big bulging eyes that have affected my looks can surgery correct it..if yes where can I go ?? Children even run from me because my eyes are scary

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    1. No go kill yourself oh

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    2. Enjoy your bulging eyes, they can be sexy

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    3. You can Google it - corrective eye surgery for bulging eyes. From what you learn, you still need to see your GP to refer you to a Consultant Ophthalmologist.

      Prepare for the financial aspect of the process.

      Be doubly sure of the procedure before you go the surgery preferably in US, UK, Germany or Israel.

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    4. Is it hereditary or some underlying condition? Che k graves disease, please go to a specialist hospital and check ENT, Internal Medicine specialist

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  19. Hope all of us admonishing those who stigmatize others or make reference to their deformities or even their God given body structures, are not guilty of same offense , but differently? I read a lot of that from BVs , while commenting on posts or pics of certain celebs that they probably don’t like. No body created of God is complete, not even U. Happy for that poster.

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    1. You're right,
      We need to look inwardly and do better.
      If only people know that words kills faster than a sword sometimes.
      It's just that I've put my struggles behind else id have talked about mine.

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  20. wow!thank God for her.Life can be a bitch at times,everyone gat to "man up".

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  21. If you're depressed because of squinted eyes, what do you want those that are blind to do ?

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    1. Don you see this thng you've just typed?
      It is a problem because people are built differently, words are very powerful you don't know what was said to her .
      It doesn't mean she wasn't thankful that she could see , but why should people make jest of a person's situation ?
      Are battles are different.

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  22. Yoruba's call people with 4:30 eyes awoyo beni nyoibadan... May God forgive us for our days of ignorance. Even me that's using medicated glasses they nicknamed me oju igo. Nawaaah ooh.

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  23. I have a black lips from birth, my mum said it's my birthmark. While growing up, it wasn't easy. I usually fold my lips together in order to avoid being insulted or called a smoker or questioned. I was really shy then, because of the lips. But thank God for lipstick and being an adult I can withstand any insult from anyone now.

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    1. What are you withstanding when youre covering it with lipstick?

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    2. I don't use lipstick all d time, even if I use , before evening it has cleaned off.

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  24. Wow! I didn't know it could be corrected by surgery. Mine stopped being so noticeable when I grew up. Someone even told me she loved my eyes. God is good.

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    1. As in eeee, there are some days I would be stopped by on the road jest because the person wanted to me how beautiful my eyes are... they will be like oh “ I love ur eyes, were u born like that” and I will say yes

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  25. this lesson is also for those of you here who just love to insult people especially celebrities..yes they are human. you can constructively critisice without insults as if they had personal quarels with you. yes they put theirbusiness in your face is no excuse. people know them and expect them to live a certain level of comfort lifestyle and always being in the news too helps them to be popular and eventually make money..stop the insults its is very ungodly. you cannot claim to be God fearing and not know that the words we speak have a very huge impact on people. i am not a celebritybut i always just wonder how you just insult someone who has never done anything personal to you. critisize constructively. you can correct with love please

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    1. Thank you for this @ correct with love ,
      This life is deeper than we think ,you might say the wrong thing that would lead to the end of a person that's already down.

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  26. Cataract made my eyes crossed, I’m still living with it now till when I have gathered much to fix it..
    (Cataract + crossed eyes) gosh I was taunted ooo, I gained my confidence when I started caring less about what people say..I remembered how I use to wear glasses through out my ND days just so pple don’t ask me unnecessary questions..... someday I’m gon fix mine too

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  27. I am so happy for her,never knew it can be corrected.I have learning something today.

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  28. I have a colleague her daughter has this eye...she has booked her daughter's surgery more than four times but fear has been problem.Its well

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  29. I remember a secondary school mate. Nobody really knew her name, or we probably didn't care.

    Everyone called her Yam Leg.

    Even the Junior students called her Senior Yam Leg.

    I wonder where she is now.

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  30. I've never and can never body shame anyone,cos I knew what went through as children of an handicapped man,it was terrible.

    Daddy losed proper use of one of his legs when he was a kid due to polio complications. People call us omo aro and even my school mates then.

    At a point I started cursing them back with lots of tears. It was really a bad experience I tell you.

    One thing people fail to realize is that we all have our insecurities and we don't need to rub it on their faces just to make yourself feel good.

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  31. Some stupid things you do ehn... I remember back then in ss1, 2006, one boy and I were exchanging words. And I just said "with your one leg when long pass the other one" and that was the end of the fight. I feel so bad till this day. And i didnt even apologise! I don't know where I can find that boy to apologize.

    IK I'm so sorry.

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  32. Me too when ibwas younger, my two front uper teeth were very big. People used to call me hoe teeth or shovel teeth. I used to supress laughter so they would not see the teeth if I laugh. I hardly laughed or talked in in public. It was so bad. As I entererd my twenties, they became better, they are still big but better as my face has added flesh and the teeth have arranged a little. Body shaming is very bad. I still dont laugh much in public till today

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  33. Some people don't really know when to draw the line and it hurts.. I had similar experience of being mocked in school, pry, sec, university even at my work place.. My dentition is scattered, I don't even know how to describe it. The upper part is like vampire kinda teeth, lower part is somehow.. I don't have bad breath, when ever I talk u must notice how scattered my teeth is.. While in sec school, some teachers will deliberately ask me questions I don't know or tell me to read in front of the class, just to make mockery of my teeth..
    It was that bad.. It affected my self esteem even till date, I hardly talk except I know you too well. I isolate myself from others alot to avoid being called vampire or other funny names, I was called a snub etc..
    I wanted to fix it with braces last year but the cost was exorbitant, I couldn't afford it.. I just have to accept my fate that way.
    If you someone with bulgy eyes, 4:30 eyes, bow legs, k legs, scattered teeth, big nose or any slight deformity , please don't mock the person, u aid to kill the self esteem left in him or her..

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    1. Eyaah, you really went through a lot. Even teachers? Nawao

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    2. How much. If you 're in Nigeria try using a gov't teaching hospital, it would be cheaper.

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  34. I body shamed my friend in secondary school, many people laughed at her because she has an unusual growth on her head but I mocked her the most.

    She eventually left the school cos she had surgery and it affected her memory, she never came back. She reached out to me on FB and I responded but I observed that the surgery left her mentally retarded.

    I have forgiven myself especially as a family member developed a mental issue much later so I understand the struggle too well. I will teach my kids to be sensitive and kind to everybody including those who are "different".

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  35. I have K-legs, before I entered secondary school nobody really cared about my legs, as I entered Js1 the intimidation started🤣🤣🤣, me sef no send o. After a while if I have issues with anyone, I start by telling them I know I have K-legs and it's very fortunate that I grew this tall with them. The person won't know what to say again, I start my own firing ooo. Them tire for me eh, thank God for my mum, she kept telling me I have very beautiful legs and I shouldn't let anyone pull me down or make fun of me because of that.

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  36. Wow this reminded me of how I grew up with insecurities. I had flat ass, as in like a rail way ooo. I have two colours of lap.one totally fresh n very fair, the other totally black with yeye spot. It was difficult because people called me different name plus amoeba. Lol well as I grew up I read alot and got confident. Before you even insult me I will help you and laff over it. Me that look like agege bread de forgot in water. But I have the most amazing man who worship me like say na jazz😂😂😂. Even some nay Sayers are even wondering what Bobo is enjoying with my railway inspired bum bum.

    Everything God created is beautiful Biko.

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