This write up is so annoying that i feel like giving Oko ashawo a hard knock on the head....Mscheeeeew!!!
Last week, I picked up a very young girl who should not be more than 15 years old from her looks, though the request was made by a man. She sat in front with me and the man who should be in his forties strolled to the car and asked me to drive carefully as he handed over cash of about 4 thousand naira to the girl.
My first thought was that the girl should be the man’s daughter or a relative but was surprised when he drew her closer, gave her a deep kiss as he caressed her bre@sts lightly and told her he couldn’t wait to see her again :.....
What!!!!!
I didn’t even know what to do or say. The girl seemed somewhat embarrassed as our eyes jammed. I just drove out of there slowly with different thoughts in my head. I was curious and came up with a plan on engaging the girl in a discussion as I drove her home. I needed to clear my head to be sure that she didn’t just have a baby face ...
I became friendly and chatty...
As we talked, she told me that she’s in SS2 but presently assists her mother in her shop where she sells provisions as schools are not open. I now wondered if that was where this man met the girl but didn’t probe any further..
As we talked, she told me that she’s in SS2 but presently assists her mother in her shop where she sells provisions as schools are not open. I now wondered if that was where this man met the girl but didn’t probe any further..
My suspicion was confirmed that indeed she was really young.
This reminds me also of an experience I had a few years ago. A regular client called the previous night and asked me to pick up his guest at the hotel where he lodged as early as 5:30am the next day, which was a Saturday. Taking a glance at the lady as I took her home showed that she was really young and may not be more than 16 years in age.
As we got to her residence, she asked me to wait for her to change her clothes and pick up a few things as I would be taking her to her Center for JAMB exams. I was gobsmacked and kept my thoughts to myself.
This is a call for parents to be very watchful over their children. Men are preying on the younger girls now...
This reminds me also of an experience I had a few years ago. A regular client called the previous night and asked me to pick up his guest at the hotel where he lodged as early as 5:30am the next day, which was a Saturday. Taking a glance at the lady as I took her home showed that she was really young and may not be more than 16 years in age.
As we got to her residence, she asked me to wait for her to change her clothes and pick up a few things as I would be taking her to her Center for JAMB exams. I was gobsmacked and kept my thoughts to myself.
This is a call for parents to be very watchful over their children. Men are preying on the younger girls now...
*You kept your thoughts to yourself but had a mouth to talk some sense into both girls?You also failed in your duty as a citizen to protect another...
You only intervened or became chatty out of curiosity and not out of genuine care....You probably didn't see anything really wrong..
Gobsmacked my fat fat asx
Sterra e yaff vex for oko ashawo ooo... Sorry. God help our daughters to be good and responsible mothers to their children like we were to them 🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️
ReplyDeleteHmmmm. So the responsibility lies only with mothers??
DeleteNa wa oh
DeleteStella don vez. Oko ashawo please anytime you come across such girls, a little advice will go a long way.
DeleteIts not the guys place pls. Lets saw he was female he can advice her woman to young girl. But in dese days of rape,kidnapping and all sorts. I wont advice any man that isnt related to a young girl to advice her such.
DeleteNot only will the young girl be uncomfortable its coming from a man,a wayward one can accuse the man of anything.
Its her parents duty and the people in her life to watch her movement. All this man can do is to take her home safely and wish the best for her.
Nigeria of nwdays is hard. Sometimes i see some young kids walking going to school,u will want to do a favour and drop them. But iv heard of a woman do dis and dey tagged her kidnapper.
Do you live under a rock?
DeletePeople are quick to castigate and blame but even faced with similar situations, they may not even act any better.
DeleteIn all, everyone should learn from these things. Parents see their children bringing things home and they don't question them on how they got those expensive things.
I even hear that some mothers encourage their girls to date very rich men, not even minding the source of income.
Oko Ashawo, I think in the prevailing circumstance, there was nothing much you could do. You're not their parent.
I hope we all learn from all that has been said here so far.
Have a good night everyone
Some men have no shame. Poverty is not good o. God help us to raise godly kids.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame you, speaking up probably wouldn't have made any positive impact/difference as you have no authority over her.
ReplyDeleteShe would have just rolled her eyes and if she's the respectful type, tell you to mind your business with a withering look or keep mute till she alights.
Making a difference will take more than one meeting and consistency as well as making sacrifices in whatever form they come.
You are right
DeleteThank you! especially for the last paragraph.
DeleteThe moment you witnessed the caressing would had been a good opportunity to talk to the girl when you drove off...
ReplyDeleteLet's remember that it's not in all cases this drink water and mind your business comes to play..
Do your bits, talk, encourage in a polite manner and you can never tell when you save a soul...
Why is the onus on him to encourage them? You really think that'll stop them from doing their runs abi. Abeg you people should use your brains
DeleteThank you @ your second paragraph.
DeleteI've been saying this and I'd not stop saying it.
Stella talk wat sense. Gone are those days elders talk sense into teenagers and you will obey and feel ashamed. These days small small girl 14. 15 don tears eyes reach yash. If u try to advise dem go insult ur life and their generation
ReplyDeleteI think she was referring to d guy. But even the man for report am to Uber sef. This days na mind ya biz and face front o! Working mothers should pay more attention
DeleteThank you abeg
DeleteI tell you. You will just regret opening your mouth to advise them
DeleteOMG
ReplyDeleteFirst of all let me laugh😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂(I find the post and Stella's comment funny, i don't know why😂😂😂😂)
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all, you only asked out of curiosity and after that you faced front, shame!!!!
Today oko ashawo bvs are going to finish you😂😂😂😂
@Nne nwa, on a more serious note, what could Oko Ashawo have done or said in both circumstances?
DeletePutting the question in another way... What would you have done if you were in Oko Ashawo's shoes?
It takes a village to raise a child,
ReplyDeleteThe fact that she seemed embarrassed shows she is not beyond redemption.
Let's all play our part and lend our voices whenever we have the opportunity
I also read a story of a 26 year old man that had been taking turns with his madam's 11 year old twin daughter's😲😲😲😲
What's wrong with the world?
Unfortunately this is the sad reality of our society.
ReplyDeleteStella what about their parents? A child brings stuff home and has no source of income yet the parents cant question or scold such child.
Where did she tell her mother she was headed?
And then the he goat of a man taking advantage of a young girl.
Our generation really needs to do better in raising our kids.
This is so annoying.
I understand your concern about advising them but at that stage do you really think it would work? We don't know the story of the first girl whom he dropped off at the jamb centre but the second girl, the situation at her home front was pitiable and giving her advice alone may have worked but not for long. What effect would that have in the long run? I say this based on what my brother told me once. He travelled for business and met with a client. They lodged at a hotel. After the whole dealings were sorted out they decided to relax before coming back the next day. He noticed a really young lady was with their client and the other one came with her friend, whom the man was trying to introduce to him for the night. He saw that as an avenue for evangelism. From his description, she was really young. He preached, advised, cajoled and she listened patiently. When he was done she told him she appreciated him but if he knows he won't help pay her mother's medical bill, house rent, send her three younger siblings to school (which was her responsibility as the first child) then he shouldn't bother. Advising them would be his way of doing his own bits but it really isn't effective at the point. It takes more than that to make them change. Most need orientation change, financial support and a lot more. He advises her and she gets hungry and goes back there the next time. So I wouldn't be so fast to blame you, poster.
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DeleteI totally agree with you @Sabella
DeleteI honestly wonder what Oko Ashawo could have done in both circumstances. What if they insulted him or told him to mind his business? Is he their father?
ReplyDeleteOr you think small girl that has started receiving dick-tation classes will listen to advise?
To me, the best place for a child to receive training is in her home. That is the reason why parents have to do their best in this regard from when the child is still very young and be close to them.
Finally, it takes the grace of God to bring up our children with the fear of God these days, not with all the distractions on the television and social media with sëx appeal.
Let me come and be going 🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️🚶🏽♀️
I just tire. Oko you did well!
DeleteStella haff vex😭
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of an incident I saw sometime last year. It was getting dark. I was inside the bus, and there was traffic. I sat close to the window and I was able to see as this little girl(yes she couldn't be more than 16) came down from this car, scantily dressed. The man in the car would be old enough to birth her. As our bus finally moved, I Kept wondering what sort of man he is. He probably has a daughter he is very protective off but he is ruining others . May God protect young girls.
Some mothers r carried away with work. How can u be so engrossed with gossip and allow a less than 12yrs old pretty girl roaming ard d compound? The parents were lucky because honestly I didn’t know y I found myself going to d window I saw d girl at, handymen were fixing an empty flat and d child obviously bored kept walking about, sported her 2x talking to one of those dirty looking men but ignored, by the time I went to my 2nd window ( honestly for no reason at all) this girl was haf way inside d flat and she had a short cute shirt on, d way I jumped out and banged my door, d fool ( handyman)ran back inside.
DeleteWhat the hell is he supposed to do about it??
ReplyDeleteOko ashawo, just one question; if this 15 year old tata was your younger sister, will you be gob-that thing you wrote there?
ReplyDeleteWhat do we expect from a man who has fallen before into the cheap bait of a prostitu🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
and had the temerity to write it and post?
When I say, parents, take every smartphones away from teenage girls, they call me🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
Oko Ashawo, tomorrow, if oga that suppose be on top calls you to drive tata that sucks pacifier to
her mother, and you write it and post, we will hand you over to be "koboko-smacked" 🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
Somersault into the hole your crept out from
DeleteI've a question for you .
DeleteWhat should any man fancy sleeping with young girls ?
Whether the word you used up there or not ? Why should any man conceive such thought without conscience ?
@Shooter
DeleteWow! how can someone somersault into a hole 🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
And who told you that human beings creep out from holes 🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
We all creep out from "birth canal," let me just call it that
No further lectures because you have it 🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️🤸🏻♀️
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DeleteSomersault i agree with you completely!
DeleteNigeria is just a festering shit hole, the girl is just 15 years old FFS and her predator is a grown ass depraved man in his 40s. If this had happened here, he'd be sent to jail for years and would be listed on the sex offender's registry. He'd probably not make it out of jail alive because paedophiles and rapists are hated by inmates. The Uber driver would also be convicted by not reporting what he saw to the authorities.
I am even more sickened by female BVs trying to justify this and put the blame on the little girl, talking about "her eyes have torn", "children of these days" and other crap. like WTF is wrong with people?? Kids that age are very impressionable and naive, he might have coerced her into this depravity. It is NEVER the child's fault for goodness's sake. The least that Uber driver could have done was to probe further into the whole mess and tell the girl's mom. Yes, it was his duty to do so, minding your business is not always the optimal reaction.
Maybe it's the Nigerian mentality that's doing all of you because for the life of me, I cannot understand why you people do not see sense in what Stella said. Nawa oh. This is truly repulsive.
@Snarker, you can go ahead and report the driver. I don't understand this your ranting. So tell me, how is he in connivance? So you're inadvertently saying that he should have tried to trace her mother and report to her? I don't understand. Does he even know her? What if he didn't drop her at home? Or are you saying that he should have anonymously reported to the Police with the man's number? What proofs does he have? So he should go and take Panadol for another person's headache? What if the
Deletetables were turned against him?
What if the girl is actually up to 18, which is the age of consent but just looks younger and still in school?
You people are just blindly supporting Stella because of her comments.
Abegi ....
18:28
DeleteThe silliest thing you'd do is to tag my outrage as blind support. I am a grown woman capable of forming my own independent opinion, don't blame me for having empathy and for seeing how depraved and disgusting a grown man is for taking advantage of a child.
You people obviously do not see it as such a big deal but maybe if you live in a sane clime where pedophilia is an abhorrent crime and where the child involved is NEVER blamed , you'd begin to have a perspective shift on certain issues, including pedophilia.
😂😂😂 Anon your last paragraph make sense.
DeleteUnfortunately, Nigeria cannot be said to be 'sane clime' because if it were to be in Europe or America, I doubt, I seriously doubt if Oko Ashawo would have minded her business.
DeleteIn sane climes, all you need do is call the police and they will see the matter to It's logical conclusion.
DeleteIn Nigeria, what will you do and who will you call? Who will prosecute the agbaya man esp. If he is wealthy, absolutely nothing will happen.
That is the sad reality in Nigeria. A country where we still blame victims.
Me and a friend spoke at a length concerning this stuff. The virtue leaning exposes them to social media without being properly monitored.
ReplyDeleteStop gossiping baby mamas and face your growing children to avoid baby embarrassment o
Stella why blame him? He didn't force them to prostitute and 'talking to them' won't make them stop their stock in trade.
ReplyDeleteWhat did he do wrong here? Na wa
I had to re-read to be sure I didn't miss anything. I really wonder why Stella is blaming him as if it's his responsibility to have trained the girls to be morally upright 😏
DeleteWe are talking about a 15 year old here. Don't you people have any sort of emapthy? Does it seem normal to you that such a young and impressionable child would be out there prostituting? Don't you think there are underlying problems? Don't you think the depraved paedophile should be held 100% accountable?
DeleteI am really confused here.
Snarker, calm down! Don't get too emotional. The uber driver wouldn't have been able to do more than he did.
DeleteBlame their parents for raising irresponsible kids and not oko who was only doing his job.
Let's keep sentiments aside biko
@ Snarker, this is Nigeria. These things are non issues in Nigeria. The law protects children where you live but Nigeria is just gradually 'trying' to get there.
DeleteI say this because some of our mothers, grand mothers got married before they clocked 18. A 16 year old is deemed 'ripe or mature' in Nigeria context.
No police man will even take you serious If you go and report cases of these nature except they see it as an opportunity to extort the parties.
There is little or nothing Oko Ashewo would have done.
Educate yourself on what statutory rape means before spewing your ignorance of "What could he have done?" under all comments. If she was as young as he claimed, then drinking water and minding your business in this case is wrong. The least he could could have done is to encourage her to focus on their studies and not let a man use her for 4k. Those words, said kindly, will sow a seed with great possibilities.
DeleteMeanwhile Oyinbo girls dey born at 15, 16, 17yrs etc with boyfriends ooo not marriage. So snarker I don't understand what you're on about.
Delete@ 20.06, don't make me laugh abeg.
DeleteDoes statutory rape exist in Nigeria? What is the age of consent? Your law is silent on the Age of consent and you know why. Till tomorrow Northerners are still marrying minors.
It's a sad thing to see how men prey on these young girls by giving them money after sleeping with them.
ReplyDeleteI don't blame oko ashawo much because these girls of nowadays ,they might insult him but he should have tried talking .
Many depraved men in the society. They see nothing wrong with their actions. Hardly can such help anyone without getting something in return.
DeleteEven if she had insulted him, he'd have played his part.
DeleteWell said Snarker. They sit their asses and point/blame government for everything going on when they themselves aren't any different.
DeleteOko Asewo, what could he have done in this situation.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of a story I heard of a place in Lagos, I think there is an Asewo hotel there, where even mothers do bring their young girls there to start work. A mother brought her very young girl one day, and other asewos nearly lynched her(the mum), cos the girl was really too young,
Everyone that reads this blog is either a parent, currently, or will be one someday. The onus is on us to do the right thing. Chastising Omo Asewo is t the solution because a couple of us are guilty of such. When you dress up your kids in outfits that are endearing, that’s invariably giving those predators reason to fantasize. They compliment them and try to get close and gain their confidence.
ReplyDeleteThe mother that was chastised for making up her daughter, some weeks back, had the guts to make a video to warn the public. She is yet to comprehend what she has exposed her daughter to. She is spitting fire.
The onus is on everyone to contribute something positively tangible into the lives of the younger ones........ my 2cents.
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Delete👌👌👌👌👌 Apt.
DeleteI watched that video and I was weak!
DeleteI can only imagine the future that lies ahead for such daughter and mother.
In as much as advising the girl wouldn’t have done much at that point, there still is nothing wrong in talking to the girl. Who knows she may just need just one more voice to stop what she’s doing and that could have been your voice..... that’s what I’d have thought in that situation. At times people just need one voice to correct them. Just one.
ReplyDeleteStella, post my comment biko
ReplyDeleteThese days matured men use small girls for other things outside from sex. Let's guide our girl child
ReplyDeleteI do not see any reason for blaming oko ashewo... He's doing his business and minding his business... What if he spoke to the girl and the girl on the other hand report to her sugar papa.. And the sugar papa sef go report oko ashewo for not minding his business.
ReplyDeleteHe should have done better by speaking to those children! No one here knows how effective his advice would have been to those girls.
ReplyDeleteThere’s a wise saying that
A child is only yours when he/her is in your belly, once birthed, we all have a responsibility towards them.
So yea Stella is right to be angry at Oko asewo
Kids of these days knows what they are doing. They want to slay, use expensive weavon, wear trending clothes and feel among. So, they follow the next man who as much as smiles at them. I started minding my business when one told my " Anty Martha, we know what we are doing just leave us alone"
DeleteHe/she
DeleteI understand what you mean but my point is that, it is still better to say something at least. No matter how defiant they are, a time will come when all that have been said to them will bring sanity to their head.
DeleteI've been reading the comments and I must say that everyone has spoken well. We're all different and unique so I wouldn't expect everyone to reason the same way.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion, I can't blame Oko Ashawo. You people want to turn him to Moral Police or what?
Abroad, there are so many teenage pregnancies. It's the same thing everywhere. My prayer is that God helps us to bring up our children right and it starts from the home.
Sometimes, parents get so busy chasing money and leaving the children at the mercy of househelps and relatives. I no get power to type....
Thank you @anon 19:09 dont mind those ones up there talking as if it doesn't happen in their so called sane clime. Odiegwu! You want oko ashawo wetin? What would he achieve by talking to the girl? Advising ke? Do you know if her mother is even aware of the relationship?
DeleteTeenage pregnancies by teenage boys not by older men, educate yourself.
Deletehmmmmm u somehow make sense shall.
ReplyDeleteThis column just keeps getting more annoying by the day.
ReplyDeleteSkip then. There are other columns
DeleteUp bringing is really important both in boys and girls, they parent will have to be good role model whether rich or not, be strict when is needed and gentle when needed other wise the children behaviour will go out if hand.May God help us all.
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