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Friday, June 12, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

OH MY GOD!!!!!








STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HUSBAND WITH A SECOND AGENDA



Dear BVs,


How can one silence one's conscience? This has been my major problem since I was little (though some will claim it's a virtue but to me it's been a weakness). I remember when I was about five or six years old, I broke the family picture in our living room accidentally. My parents got home and asked. I denied ever touching it or knowing what happened to it. 



The matter was already forgotten but I couldn't sleep for a very long time. I often thought I would go to hell if I died at that moment (maybe going to catechism worsened my case). I can't remember how long it took but I later confessed to my Dad. To my surprise, my Dad hugged me and said that he already knew. He asked me to promise never to lie again.


Another incident that stood out to me was after my Secondary School. I gained admission to study Medicine in one of our institutions even before my WAEC came out ( then they allowed for awaiting results). Unfortunately, I got a pass in English and that same year, the school had a new VC. 



The VC gave those with awaiting results 6 months to rectify their documentation or else forfeit the admission. Although I'd already registered for GCE, my sister convinced me to go along as she engaged the services of her bestie who made a living then by writing exams(GCE and Jamb) for people. We both wrote GCE at separate centres using my name. Unfortunately, she got the English and I still got a pass. (I'm having a flash back on how I thought my life had ended). My sister tried consoling me and told me to be happy since we still had the opportunity to use her friend's result.


 I battled with my conscience for a long time and later concluded that I couldn't use it. Didn't trust myself not to 'confess' to someone 20 years down the line. Even though my sister thought I wasn't serious, she supported me all the same. I re-registered for another GCE. Looked myself in the room and prayed(the Rosary) and read at the same time. I also registered for NECO too. Results came out, I had C4 in English in my GCE and A1 in my NECO. Anyway, l lost one year of school because of this.


I met the love of my life in my 4th year in the university. He was my first and only relationship. He was so caring, compassionate and not domineering like most guys that were then toasting me. It was easy for his personality to win me over. I became convinced that all guys weren't the same. We got married immediately after my NYSC. Yes, we were deeply in love! Both families were happy with our choice. We discussed our finances, the number of children we would have ( I wanted 5 but he insisted on 3 since he grow up in a large family and said he wouldn't want his children experiencing what he had to experience growing up). Under 12 years of a blissfully married life, we had the gift of 3 Children ( 2 girls and a boy. The boy is the middle child) with the oldest being 11 and the youngest 7.


Sometime during the lockdown, I got a anonymous message that my husband wasn't who he seemed. That because of what I've done in their family, the 'texter' felt I needed to know. The message urged me to dig deep. The tone of the message sounded urgent. But I ignored. I was a health worker that was still very busy regardless of the lock down. 



Two days after the message (I've almost forgotten about it), I needed to place a call to a friend but my mobile network was acting up, I reached out for my husband's phone and discovered that it was using a different password from one we shared in common. I called out to him and told him that I needed to use his phone. I was surprised at his change of continence. He hurriedly went and got his other line that he uses for business calls(he sometimes supplies medical equipments to my hospital and some other contacts I got him). I wouldn't have thought much of it if not that at that instance the message I received earlier played in my head. Being in the medical field, it was easy for me to get access to sedatives which l used to knock him out at night. Using his fingers print, I went through his messages/chats. 


I looked through his frequent contacts and somethings stood out like a sore thumb. I quickly sent the messages via email to my office email address(cos our personal emails were linked). I screenshot those that I could and deleted all evidence of my gaining access to his phone. I also added my thumb print to his device. I was restless the next day and my husband noticed something was off. He tried asking me if there was any problem and I hurriedly lied that the hospital wanted me to work on a night shift. He looked like he didn't believe me but he let it slide. When I got to work, I read the shock of my life! It all started with his family in their personal WhatsApp group (I didn't even know the had another WhatsApp group meant for only his parents and siblings). 



I started going through their conversations and noticed them urging my husband that only one son was inadequate to inherit all the 'wealth he has'. That if I was busy doing Mrs professional, they get him a wife willing to birth other children for him. At first, the conversations showed that he resisted. A week before the lock down, he told me he was traveling to see his parents because we all suspected that there was going to be a lockdown. I then noticed that the tone of the messages changed to one of teasing during this period. He started concurring that 'she' was indeed 'beautiful and well-mannered'. 



As the conversation progressed, he said he was going to come down after the lockdown (I guess after they've lifted interstate travel to see her parents and pay dowry). I felt and still feel like my world has ended. They asked him how he'll handle the woman he has at home and he said that they shouldn't worry, that he knows how to 'keep me under check'! At this point, I totally lost it! He knows he was my all! He knew how to manipulate me. He knows when I'm angry, bothered or hurt; even when I didn't want to admit it myself. He always had the right things to say! This was the reason I fell out with the rest of my family because they said I empowered him to much(besides this is only how I know to love). Before I give one naira to anyone, I let him know, even though he didn't stop me from being charitable.


Did I mention that I bring in 95% of the household income since we got married? He's a Ministry worker who earns not more that #60,000 monthly. Yes, I work in a Federal Government owned hospital. I have my private practice and also have hospitals that I work as a consultant in. I earn between#800,000 to #1,000,000 a month. I've bought choicest houses and landed property in our name and also built their personal house in the village as well as built and funded a big school in the village that is run by both his mother(a retired Principal) and two sisters! 


These same people I opened my heart to are the same ones making arrangements for him to take a second wife! I don't want to remember how I paid for and funded his father's trip to India for a major surgery. These are the people that openly celebrated me and called me the best wife ever! I still get to pay his parents monthly stipends (which is only what my parents enjoy). I opened a community borehole for the villagers to fetch water and still send money for bags of rice, vegetable oil and salt for the most venerable in their community to benefit from. 


I'm not wealthy by any means just that I've been blessed and believe in giving back to the community. I don't know if it's all these acts by 'us', that lead them to believe that there was plenty to share with another family!!!


Back to his WhatsApp messages, I saw one chat with a young lady who looked to be in her late twenties (I checked her out on social media platforms). I'm 38 years while he's 41 years. If not that I was already heartbroken, I would have been swarmed by the level of flirtation I was reading; how much they missed each other and couldn't wait to rip off the clothes off each other! He also promised taking care of her for life and ALL the kids that they'll have.



I worked 2 days straight and refused going back home cos I was sacred that he was going to read through me. I just needed to clear my head and re-strategize. I refused telling my sister, who's my closest confidant for fear of being talked out of my plans. It's been a month and 5 days since I made this discovery. It's been hard keeping a straight face and playing the dutiful wife. I've taken this time to change the properties in our names to my maiden name. Taken all the documents out and left slightly altered coloured photocopies. His parents have been calling him to ask about their monthly stipends but I informed my husband that I was being owed.



My resolve: 

1. Not to fund our joint account ever again. I've already emptied what was there in the first place. This action angered him, as to him, I would have sought his opinion (more like permission). I had to tell him my parents house that they built for over twenty years was licking, I had to send money for the renovation at the spur of the moment because of the rains.


2. Make sure he's unable to impregnate any woman in his life. Again, with my medical training, I can administer a general anaesthetic to knock him off and do a vasectomy which is a very minor surgery. My fear is, what of if she gets pregnant elsewhere and passes it off as his child? That brings me to my second option which is to ensure he never has an erection ever again. I've been researching on how it can be done and I'm coming up with something.


Here's why I'm writing in:

I hope that tomorrow I wouldn't suddenly grow a conscience and confess to him or someone else. How do people do it? Do you think I'll be sinning against God? Would I be judged harshly in the afterlife if I carry my plans through?
I believe a lot of you would give me honest opinions.

N.B: Sorry for the long epistle. I'm not a good writer...I'm writing with my phone cos I don't want any record of this correspondence on my computer.

Lastly, I need your suggestions fast before the ban on interstate travel is lifted as the clock has been ticking.

Thank you






*Are you planning to castrate him and still be his wife?that would be wrong!!
Since it has become like this,your mind is already poisoned and the best thing would be to walk away since you have secured everything....

The house you guys live in make sure you sell it and have the owners come for the property after you move out.....Please set him up to travel before you attempt to move out...

Do not touch anything on his body,you have no right to do so but u have every right to strip him off everything that is yours material wise...
Good luck.

325 comments:

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    1. I go with Stella.

      Castratung him and all is not worth it.

      Some men are evil.

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    2. As in , real shocker...... Very vindictive woman.....

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    3. If he loved you, he would ask u for another baby instead of getting a new wife. Probably married u 4 money

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    4. Damn it!!!! Hell has no fury like a scorned woman!!! Wow!!!! This woman is a gentle cobra whose tail has been stepped on, damn!!!!

      Dear poster, I praise ur strong mind and resolve, but pls, don't turn any biological weapon on him, allow him to remain complete, but as u've ensure, do not let him fund his betrayal with ur money. Let him and his family members enjoy their son's resource and the woman he wants to take care forever shld live within his 60k means.

      You have secured your resources, pls ensure you don't renegade on ur resolve and when you have finally reached your limits and break down, pls do not feel shy n embarrassed to tell him what u did and why u did it. All the women in the world are proud of your bold move, you have done us proud and we applaud you!!!

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    5. I feel like you gave too much info. Make pesin no decode you and send him a link to this post. If he tell you, he is sorry, know he is restrategizing

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    6. There's Yoruba adage that says " nigbati oyotan ounwa bekun bekun kiri" shior. What exactly is the problem of Nigerian men and in-laws? See the man earning 60k and God blessed him with humble wifey earning one million monthly. Poster is humble, she's a good Wife to her hubby and good dil to her in-laws. Still yet they're not satisfied. They had to scheme how to bring in another woman who will bring forth bastard children to inherit her wealth. This is the height of wickedness. Thank God their secrets has been exposed and poster is now one step ahead of their evil game. Poster pls don't castrate nor do vasectomy on him without his consent. That will be termed medical malpractice and criminal offense. It can lead to withdrawal of your Medical license. He doesn't worth all that stress at all. Allow him to go ahead and marry the second wife then take all your belongings in his possession including the house you currently live now and cars and then take a walk. Strip him of every damn thing. Let him and his new wife with the wicked in-laws go ahead and make their own money. They're all gold diggers including the second wife to be. Planing to come and ripe where she didn't sow. Blank them out without them knowing what's coming there way. I hate ungrateful felas.
      E-hugs madam.
      God got you 200%.

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    7. This life is deep. Don't even know who to trust again. See me crying while reading this. What an empty life

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    8. I'm okay with all your plans except the castration. Just note that if you carry out that plan and he finds out later; either by your confession or convenience, he can sue you and win hands down. You have no right to do such at all.

      Make sure you secure all properties and strip him of everything so he can go and enjoy his 60k salary with the new woman.

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    9. Please don't castrate him. Instead, secure assets and stop funding his family. Cut away from his family by not picking their calls.

      Don't tell him what you found out because they can kill you. Send copies of everything you have secured, including exhibits to a trusted person in your family and a lawyer that no one knows. This will help them fight for you in case anything happens to you.

      Lastly, sell the house over his head and divorce him so that he can train another kid with his 60k.

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    10. @Golibe, this one you're calling the poster vindictive, would you have clapped for the man if you're in the her shoe?

      Poster, please follow Stella advice, there is no need to castrate his ungrateful p3nis.

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    11. Omg the heart of man is desperately wicked

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    12. Madam,please carry on with your plans apart from rendering him useless.
      Leave that sham called marriage to save your life and that of your kids because that man and his family can end up killing you o.

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    13. Poster you are very brave, if this marriage continues that man will surely kill you somehow, thank God for lockdown, it favoured you. I will say you file for divorce sell the house and move. See you covering his shame and his family thinks he is that rich. But why will they think so? Are they not aware that his salary is not huge. I love you already, I pray God will strengthen you in this rough journey.

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    14. Firstly I'd commend that you are right on track but pls don't do anything eternal or damaging to him because you also have a son and would want no woman doing same. Another thing is to make sure you change the ownerships of that big school. Woman count yourself lucky that you knew this on time so do not overdo things

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    15. Madam don't leave him and if you are, change ownership and management of that school, rip him also of the medical supplies he does stylishly

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    16. Poster i hail you. Please follow stella's advice. Something like this happened with our neighbour while growing up. The man was a spear part dealer while his wife was a hustler but very beautiful and hardworking. This man would beat and dehumanise this woman. My mum settled case tire. Her children were our adopted children. But this lady endured. The house they lived in was bought by her. She sold it on his head and relocated her children and herself abroad. She told my mum very step. When she was leaving,she told him they were going to the village. That was the last time he saw them. The children came back to visit when they were done with their university, and went back.

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    17. That woman up there is so kind hearted and so in love that she isn't going anywhere(she won't leave her husband). Didn't you all notice that she never made mention of leaving. But don't touch him leave his body alone. Enough of doing things together start doing your own. Y will you spend so much on in laws and less on urself and your family how in love are you? You have to let him know that you are aware. You need answers face the battle don't run from him. But before you let him know make sure you have cleared the money in the account, change the name on the document. And don't forget to pray

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    1. So they need more sons from an outsider to inherit your wealth? Hian

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    2. This husband man is very wicked. The family, betrayal without conscience. I feel so bad for her. Just walk away and go with your properties. File for devorce and inform your family.

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    3. You don't know what you have until you lose it. It's funny how gullible men can be to give up such beautiful gift of a peaceful home because of a strange woman.

      Poster, no matter what you do, like Stella advised, please don't touch that man. Go with Stella's advise.

      Sincerely, your husband needs to be taught a hard lesson.

      Believe me, he will soon realize he made the biggest mistake of his life by listening to his family. It is his loss, not yours.

      So sad.

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    4. Poster, take Stellas advice. After all the amendments, do not live with him again under the same roof. Your life is in danger.

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  3. This betrayal is heart breaking. See family you are feeding o, planning to undo you by arranging a wife for their son. See secure your future, secure everything in your name and be careful so he does not kill you. If you are planning to remain with him.. else if I were you, I would divorce him n FLEE with my small wealth.

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    1. Very wicked family! Ungrateful leeches!

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    2. He might have told his family that he's the one bringing all the money and funding all expenses.

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    3. If to say she no get son, e for dey different, she has a son but they said not enough...jeez!what is wrong with people?

      Btw how to you link email please....Martin over to you.

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    4. @mystery woman told them what. Lmao. E be like say u Neva jam some greedy families encouraging their sons to marry for the money. Pray u never jam them

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    5. I am so angry!!!!! It is no like you both don't have kids, it is not like you don't have a Male child what else, what else!!!!! On top your money

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  4. Stella You said it all. Poster you got balls. Secure everything you can and leave him and his family to their fate. Don't tamper with any part of his body.God will surely punish them.

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    1. Please take Stella's advice. Make sure all your properties are secured, let him travel. Then you move out. Since his family thinks they're wise, youd show them.youre wiser. Wicked people with no fear of God

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  5. First of all ! YOU ARE A VERY SMART WOMAN! pls don’t spoil his ofikitum... leave it for him. Secure every single property!!! Like if possible dat school in the villa shld b in ur name! And stop sending his parents or anyone in his family money!!!! U see that 60k let him send them money from there. Men will embarrass you ๐Ÿ˜ญ. He has been cheating so u v a right to walk away !

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    1. I just love how brave and strong she is to secure everything she has back. I love this chronicle, women should learn from this poster you need not to sit down wailing just do the needful.

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    2. I love her for that too @Yemi7up

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    3. Just walk away with all your achievements,and do him no harm,your story just made me weak,I hope he doesn't find out you know and plan on hurting you making it look like accident,he doesn't deserve you at all.

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  6. I love Perxian12 June 2020 at 15:12

    Poster, Stella is spot on, strip him of every penny that belongs to you but don’t touch his body.
    So painful

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    1. The painful part is that she wanted 5kids and he said 3.They probably would have had more than a son if they had gone along with her suggestion.
      Poster, every woman on planet earth is so proud of you, your wonderful heart and your achievements. Please don't shame us (women) by touching any part of his body. Just take your properties and your kids and leave.

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  7. Family from hell! So 3 children is not enough for you people. One son is not enough. That family can Kill!

    Plz do not hurt him! You have a choice to leave him if you so desire. If you hurt him, your conscience will hunt at you!
    You have what some women who are stuck in some marriages do not have which is FINANCIAL FREEDOM, so use it to your advantage. All the best.

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    1. They are looking for more boys stupid family and he couldn't open his betraying gutter smelling mouth to tell them he was the one that plan for just thre kids. Idiot.

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    2. Exactly Yemi. Such a evil man!

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    3. They want to bring in more useless boys like their to planet earth. Useless family

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    4. Where's the like button. A 100 likes for this post

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  8. Please harm him,since you have already started putting only your name on your properties and investment.

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  9. Some aspects of this story sound far fetched... like administering a sedative to someone just cos you want to get their password. Now you want to put him under again and do vasectomy. Madam are you using our head to write script for film? It’s never that serious, nobody in this life is worth that kind of risk to your conscience and career. Inukwa vasectomy?!

    So the other parts of the story... where they need another male son to inherit the money you worked for, thunder needs to fire those his family members, they are very greedy things.

    Since you have secured all your assets, you should let your husband know what you found, let your marriage shake small, that will foil his plans and he will retrace his steps as he wouldn’t like to lose his moneymaker. Unfortunately all trust is lost, your marriage might never fully recover, but you’ll still have your marriage

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    1. You are making a point in this 3rd para. At least let her confront him with the facts. It might stop the man from marrying second wife or at least let him know she is aware of what is going on.

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    2. @Adabekee sometimes if you don't have anything to say you keep shut. She should tell him what, so that he will murder and enjoy her hard earned money.
      Dear poster don't follow this advice ohhhh

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    3. AdaBekee, have you ever heard of a woman scorned? They can do worse than this poster has planned to do up there.

      This woman married her university sweetheart. She gave her all and sacrificed a lot. The very family she made sacrifice for are now planning on how to take away her and her kids rights.

      I am happy she has not carried out her plans yet, at least she will be reading comments and I pray God touches her not go on with the plans of castrating the ingrate of a husband.

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    4. Nothing to Savage anymore here. That marriage is dead and gone. The betrayal will be difficult to forgive and let go. What if the man kill her later on just to go ahead with his evil plots? Trust is the foundation of all marriages and once broken can never be rebuilt.

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    5. And marriage to you is the important thing in life??? Nigerian women.Our mumu no dey do. Poster, Dump his Ass.He will beg you like his life depends on it. Please do not accept. You are just his ATM. Men like that can kill.please be careful

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    6. Anon 15:31 you shut your smelling mouth, if your brain no reach you give advice, instead of flying round comments disparaging the ones others give, you close your eyes and go to sleep! She should take your own advice and leave others because you are Princess Solomona?! Taaa gerrout! Idagburu onwe gi na iberibe!

      @Peace, Ms A and NFG, this woman is not ready to go anywhere, I will not advice her to go anywhere except she wants to go, someone that is planning on castrating the man doesn’t sound like she’s planning to go anywhere, she has invested so much love and devotion in the man and marriage. The deed has not been done and some parts of the marriage can be salvaged. However I agree that the trust is gone, not just for her husband but for any other man

      And to the person who is going on about how marriage is the most important to Nigerian women, the abroad women who leave marriage at the drop of a hat are jumping from man to man looking for the same happiness that they will never find. Let nobody deceive you into leaving a marriage that can be salvaged, except you by your own self weigh the pros and cons and decide to leave.

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    7. @AdaBekee So you insinuating that a divorced woman has to jump from Bed to Bed seeking happiness?? You are trying to justify infidelity because you want to remain a 'Mrs'. You no get Shame. Stay in that bad marriage you hear.

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    8. Now to any other ITK and divorce merchant who might think of coming under my comment when I refuse to chant “divorce him, divorce him”, I am not an advocate for divorce after one misdoing. I always give people a long rope because I believe no one is perfect therefore no marriage is perfect.
      You hurt me the first time, I’ll forgive and secure everything that’s important to me including my assets and my heart and depending on what I sense from the man, we can continue but he will reap some consequences, I’ll make sure of it.
      When one becomes a repeat offender, then I can think of separation/divorce.

      So when you see my comment, resist the urge to tell me how abroad women do this and that, na this same abroad we dey and we dey see every every! ‘Abroad women’ will never be the standard I set for myself concerning marriage. I do what feels right and comfortable for me and what will bring me the most gain.

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    9. @AdaBekee after reading your comments ehhhhh, I had to cool down a bit before typing because my head was aching from it. Please I want to ask oooo, which part of the marriage can be salvaged?

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  10. This is heartbreaking, please like Stella said, don't alter anything in his body. But withdraw all the monetary support to him and his ungrateful family, let him and his new found love manage on his 60k per month,and see how suffer ness will be his and his family middle name.

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    1. Heartbreaking indeed. Even if you decide to confess afterwards, you are about to do nothing wrong besides castrating him.
      Now,he wants more kids after convincing you to stop at three.
      You are very smart with your decisions, please go ahead.
      Thank God for lockdown, Corona is a blessing in disguise for you, Poster.

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  11. I hate it when good people are taken for granted. Just leave the marriage, instead of castrating him, let's see whose money he is going to use and claim wealth. Bunch of wicked family. My fear now is that since this information is public, what if someone close to them reads this?๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ

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    1. I hate it too... It doesn't help humanity

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    2. Good people are always taken for granted, always! Sigh!

      Poster hit this ingrate in a way that he won't see coming. Ungrateful people everywhere.

      Melancholy

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    3. Sometimes as a woman who is working a well-paying field you have to do a lot of digging before you marry any man. Some men and their families strictly look for rich man's daughter or woman with high salary job to marry. Many men are gilddiggers that way.i know a family like that. I won't mention names. The first born son already married a doctor based abroad obviously because she earns her money in dollars and way more than him. The guy comes back occasionally to Nigeria to sleep around with different women al under the guise of "doing business" that is yet to solidify. His younger brother is trying to follow in his footsteps . Tailoring and lawyer jobs can only pay so much before you have to look for girls to fund your lifestyle n use them to level you up. He is being linked up with a girl studying gynecology in California. He is priming her for proposal but goes around saying all manner of evil about how he is going to use her for green card and her doctor's salary. He has tried to keep their relationship under radar because he has 100s of fuckbuddies and ex gfs all over Nigeria that he still does not want them to find out about his "future wife" those ones are mumu. They don't even know that he has no plans for any of them other than to collect pussy. Some men are evil opportunists sha. Women open your eyes!!!

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    4. Men with deep wickedness like ds hardly change

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    5. Oh my God. What an ingrat of a husband and in laws. With all your sacrifices you made for them they still went this far. Poster, you are a brave woman. You can stripe him of everything that belong to you but don't castrate him. It may affect your career. Stop sending allowance and every other gifts to his parents. Let them feel the heat. They are wolves in sheep clothing. May God strengthen you. I feel so sad on your behalf.

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    6. Oh my God. What an ingrat of a husband and in laws. With all your sacrifices you made for them they still went this far. Poster, you are a brave woman. You can strip him of everything that belong to you but don't castrate him. It may affect your career. Stop sending allowance and every other gifts to his parents. Let them feel the heat. They are wolves in sheep clothing. May God strengthen you. I feel so sad on your behalf.

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  12. Stella I couldn’t have agreed less
    Pls o,do your thing and leave him,think of your license woman and all you’ve achieved through hardwork dnt let anger take it away from you
    As for family,dnt mind them,no matter the sacrifice you make as a wife,they’d always choose their own(child)over you...

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    1. 'I couldn't agree less' means you do not agree at all. It means that you do not agree so much that you couldn't agree any less than you already don't.

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    2. Anon 15:29
      Now that you've pointed out the error, kindly tell the right one to say.

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    3. 15.29 you lie.
      "I couldn't agree less" means "I agree totally"

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  13. Pls follow Stella's advice,

    This is the most hurtful painful thing ever, why are some men like this? You have a good thing going but choose to spoil it, your wife wanted 5 but you insisted on 3 and now you betray her this way. Why are some men so foolish, they cannot recognize a good thing even if it slaps them in the face, as for his family members I have no words, they will meet their Waterloo.

    I hate deceit, this chronicle just messed up my day. I am so sorry ma for every thing you are going through.

    Melancholy

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    1. Melancholy, I feel the same way too!
      I really feel bad when I see good women being taken for granted.

      This poster is a treasure and I pray God heals her broken heart.

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  14. Oh dear poster, you are such a good woman that is married into a wicked family!

    Please, do not go ahead with your plans. Abort that plans of knocking him out and performing a surgery on him. Abort any plans that has to do with you altering his body.

    You have done well so far by moving the documents of the property that you both shared.
    Just make sure all the documents are now legally in your name and also go to all the necessary governmental agencies to legalise the documents.
    Don't allow him have access to your money ever again. The money you're making is now for you and your children. The properties are for you and your children.

    You have serve them well enough... Don't fight him, allow him go ahead and marry another woman. When he's done, prepare your divorce papers and set him free from your life. He can have access to his kids if he want.

    Ungrateful husband and ungrateful husband family.

    Don't hurt anyone!!

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      Dearest poster sending you plenty e-hugs. May God comfort you and judge your case.

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  15. Stella had said all that is on my mind, please follow Stella's advice

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    1. My dear I feel your pain.

      I must commend the actions you have taken so far and that is brilliant. PLS DO NOT CHANGE THEM. EVEN IF YOU BOTH SETTLE THIS MATTER TOMMORROW.

      concerning your plan 2, abort pls. Don't castrate him, don't perform vasectomy or anything like that. Leave that for God to fight. The end will be good. (No matter the pain it might bring)

      Lastly, you haven't sin. God loves you so much and alerted you on time. Wisdom was what you put into action.

      PLS GO RIGHT YOUR WILL AND WATCH YOUR BACK.
      your husband will soon discover and he will try take you put of the way by all means and gain control of your possessions.

      If you must change your signature, pls do. He might be familiar with it and forge...


      You are doing good. Keep it up. Just love yourself, children, God and face front.

      Lastly, why are you desperate to keep a cheat, liar, backstabber by your side? He has broken your love and trust.
      Don't you know right now him, the girl and family will fight you if anything happens to him?

      Still pretend you don't know anything and watch him deceiving himself, while you keep ALL your resources stylishly.
      Pick up a project and start investing in and tell him it's taking all the funds

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  16. Your husband is evil , Do not castrate him but make sure you get every of your property before leaving ....Damn I am speechless

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  17. Poster my heart is broken for your sake. I'm happy you've changed all documents back to your maiden name. Please look for more documents and change, don't leave his name on anything you contributed to. Let him go ahead and get married thinking he is still a wealthy man. I say it again, my heart is broken for your sake.

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  18. Stella has said all that is on my mind, please follow Stella's advise and pls let your family members know what is going on

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  19. Some men...give them the world and they'd still come for your head.
    Poster please dont do anything to him. But make sure every single thing is reverted to your name and let him start paying for stuff at home so he doesn't have excess money to spend on a new wife.

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  20. If you pull through all you listed up there, you become mates in crime or worse than him.
    You won't like your brother's wife to castrate him, will you? And if he finds out, which he will and sues you, you'd forfeit all those wealth you are trying to protect.
    Conscience; is a good attribute, in the later days, people's conscience will be like seared with hot iron. 1 Tim. 4:2.
    A good conscience makes you to keep within the limits of godliness and have peace of mind.
    And your kids? Yes, there are things you will do to their dad and they won't forgive you ever. You will probably live and die a desolate woman. Please do not go further.
    What to do? Open up to him what you know is going on without telling him how you got to know. If he presses, tell him that your "God is a living God...and he should watch his back because those same people scheming with him in the village are working against him".
    Keep calm and watch his fingers burnt and he will come to his senses.
    God's Grace. ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

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  21. Hi dear, change the ownership of your properties to your name,stop all the allowances you give to his parents or to him.
    Then reveal your discovery to him,I believe you can still salvage your marriage since it wasn't his idea from the start.
    I wish his family and your own family lived in the same as you,so you could set up a meeting.that would have been the best place to reveal
    your discobery. And tell them who the provider is.
    People can be so mean, how can they do this to you?

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    1. I won't even advise her to stay married to such people at all. Do you know that they can connive to kill her because of money?

      Shut them out totally and move on. Thank God you're financially independent and kudos to you for your courage

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  22. Jesus is Lord!!!!


    Men will sha embarrass you... na curse!

    How do u throw it all away? For what? I hate sissies. So 3 kids are not enough?

    This Chronicle is annoying abeg.

    Madam do everything to strip him of all you both have! All!

    Ingrate ni bobo yen๐Ÿ˜ก

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  23. Stella you said it all. She should not tamper with his health. So that she will not have anything to regret or confession to make in the future.

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  24. I dont even know what to say. Pls calm down. I beleive he can still be talked back to his senses. It's good you have secured everything.

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    1. Talked back?
      Someone that can be talked into taking a secret wife,can be talked into killing. Think about it

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  25. What kind of mind do some people have? I mean she was and is still there for you but e no do! You have 2 girls and a boy when some are still begging God for one! His family are also ungrateful.

    Please, take all that is yours and leave but DO NOT TOUCH HIS BODY. You have your kids to live for, don't so what will send you to prison for a long time and someone else will take over your kids and properties. Be wise!

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    1. My Aunt has not had kids for close to 20 years. Yet someone has 3 and yet it's not enough ๐Ÿ˜ข

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  26. Ahhh,some men are deadly o๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ
    Ma'am please don't do anything to his body. Please he's not worth you doing what your conscience doesn't want.

    Just walk away as Stella said and don't give him and his family audience when they come crawling to know what happened.
    Thank God you changed all other things and properties binding you two.

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  27. Poster, please take Stella's advise.

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  28. I love you madam, I love your courage of not just sitting down crying but took the best action that most weakling will never have done to secure there future. He has truly buy market, แปtรญ fi ojรบ olore gรนn gi. His family doesn't no his income and he that knows the truth compromised to spend your money raising another family o ti yร  were. I don't know if you still want to stay with him with this level of betrayal but if you try anything to make in sterile and he finds the world may turn against you, l will advise you let him to start putting more on the table from his #60000 monthly telling him your family demand have increased let see how he has enough to give to his parent and side chick.
    Ole แปkรนnrin.

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  29. Na wa! Kudos for being clear headed enough to set some your assets straight.

    Make sure you have everything you need before confronting him, and you need to decide if you’ll be leaving or staying...and bury your heart in a whole abeg.

    He should go and marry new wife with his 60k salary.

    Do not touch him though, you do not have any right to do that.

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  30. Just negodu ... God bless the whistle blower. Madam strip him and his people of everything but don't touch or do anything to him for your peace of mind.

    Chase the mother and sisters from that school let their brother take care of them with his 60k salary... Nonsense and Buhari.

    Biting the finger that feeds them and still have the guts to ask for monthly stipends.

    Boy child and inheritance kee all of them nonsence

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    1. The whistle blower knew she has a good heart. God will continue to fight for his own. Evil family.

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    2. They want their son to have another male child when their own male child is earning 60k. That part is so wild.

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  31. Chei!!! Umu nwoke!!!๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿ™†

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  32. Madam I must say you are very very smart and I applaud that. When I read that part where you said you've renamed the properties to your name, I felt relieved for you. Follow Stella's advice, don't touch his body and plan a good exit. Goodluck

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  33. Madam I’m so sorry but pls don’t perform any surgery on him or make him never to have an erection. Since you are very stable financially why don’t you get separated. Your husband doesn’t love you, he has only been manipulating you and my fear is that if you will soon open up to him and when you do that he’ll manipulate you by telling you that it’s the fault of his parents and that you are catholic, and that catholics frown at divorce blah blah. Pls you need to be strong for your self and the future of your kids

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  34. Wow. You are smart sha. No more joint account. No more stipend. He is using your money to marry new wife

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  35. Nicely said Stella

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  36. Dear woman, pls forgive him for whatever he has done and take him back, don’t go anywhere o. We die there!!! ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿฝ

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    1. ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„ you no serious oo๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    2. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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    3. @marriedchick, isn’t it same advice they gave Chioma this morning??? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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  37. You are the real MVP. Don't do it because of God, the one who blessed you with all you have.

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  38. Wow. Wow. Wow. This Chronicle is just a wow. Poster please don't do anything to his body. Remove that thought out of your mind completely. Just make sure you secure all the properties
    I also suggest you confide in your sister since you said she is your confidant. Two heads are better than one you know.

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  39. Wow I really feel your pain and don't blame you for thinking this way... Stay strong and take a walk dear and leave him with nothing

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  40. Are you sure your husband wasn't telling everyone in his family that he has been the one sending the money and taking care of them. Cos this is wickedness.

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    1. Ehnn no problem, let him continue sending now. People can be wicked sha

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  42. OP I support you.
    Fuck his nasty, trifling ass up, but abeg don't cause him any bodily harm. He derves it but then you'd implicate yourself in the process and you can't go to jail because of that scrote. Just gather all your assets, cut him off from everything you own, kick him out of your house and leave. His family too, stop extending any form of assistance to them and take back all the shit you've given to them. Bloody depraved ingrates.
    He can go and marry 3 new wives and bear 5 children each with them on his N60k salary. The audacity.
    Women should wise up in marriages abeg.

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    1. Jeez! Made me so angry! 60k salary with a supportive wife, yet you still want to stab her like that. Good luck to him sailing into the sunset with his new wife, 500 children, family responsibilities with 60k salary.Rubbish

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  43. Jesus Christ. I am so scared. Will think about this and comment properly later. Father help us

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  44. Strip him off No Mercy secure your children stella said it all the gold digger and his acomplise need a big slap.

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  45. Madam, please no matter his offence you don't have right to touch his body... That's grave crime and tomorrow your sins might find you out...

    Please, walk away with your own property and children.... Instead of carrying out your plans...

    It's not right to make someone infertile because he wants to marry a new wife although I'm not in support of what he and his family planned against you....

    Please, you can leave without hurting anyone...

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  46. Family members go chop you, kill you and smile with you. Women ! Women! Hide your money from your men . Invest in your kids instead. As long as dey have a penis they will cheat when the opportunity comes

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  47. what did i just read??? So it is the 60k salary (i'm not mocking him tho) that is too much for one son to inherit??? What is it with people and greed biko nu? So they want to bring in another woman to enjoy the sweat of this lady? Chai!!!! Like Stella said, since you've taken the step in securing some of the property in your name, just make sure you block every access he has to your finances,he should finance his intending lifestyle with his own finances.Also cut off every financial help to his family. Thank God you can take adequate care of yourself and your kids. Pls, don't do anything to his body, just leave him to thread the path he wants,the best you can do is divorce his silly ass, including his family. He can go an and birth a football team with the new woman,na body and brokeness go tell am before im eye go clear.Wicked,greedy and ungrateful set of people. See as i just dey vex on your behalf here.

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  48. Don't walk away but don't give him sisi again. Don't give his family kpom again. Don't castrate him

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  49. Find solace in these words from the Scriptures:

    Proverbs 17:13 If anyone returns evil for good, evil will never leave his house.

    That is the lot of all those people that are working against the good you have done for them.
    Do not take revenge, but leave roof for God's wrath...Romans 12:13

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  50. What a wawu wahalahi you got balls and I like it you are being logical and not emotional but don't do castrate him just strip him of your cover, and be careful people like him can kill if his family ask him to.

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  51. Hmmmm. Men!!!

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  52. It's very sad that the love of your life could have hurt you this way. It is very painful,the betrayal is very deep considering how good have been to him,his family and their community. But two wrongs can never make a right. Confront him firstly and then his family in his presence. Let there be no time interval between both confrontations. Don't ever think of paying him back in his own coin. Your labour of love will be rewarded. If they aren't remorseful about their deeds,then you can take a graceful bow.

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    1. Please pay him back in his own coin and do not confront him ejor.

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  53. Thank you Mrs Korkus for that advice.. Don't touch anything in his body, your conscience won't let you rest at all oooo and you will be called wicked at the end of the day!!! I want you to walk out free with no baggages, sell that house.. Take charge of everything you guys own together! Clear everything and take your kids with you (finish what you started codely) Your labour must not go in vain, lastly God will fight for you, he already began sef!!! Women eyes have seen shege

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    1. And poster please don't sleep on it.. Watch your back!!!! Don't let them kill you before your time nor make your children motherless, those family are very wicked, very very wicked!!! sleeping is dangerous! Somehow your husband might know you know, please seek safety!!!


      Yes, I have to shout!

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    2. Yes I was going to suggest she sleeps with one eye open now.

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  54. i believe it is important for family (husband's family) to be aware in this kind of case that it is actually the wife who contributes the most. From the conversation they said if she's busy forming professional without knowing it's the professional that's fetching the money

    besides family members should learn to mind their business. Did they ask the man if he had discussed the number of kids they wanted or they just jumped to conclusion to poison his mind. The husband too is not loyal,not grateful and I'm sorry doesn't love his wife as claimed cos no amount of poisoning will make one who claims to love his wife do this.

    Madam you did well reclaiming everything to yourself sit and watch how it will unfold and yes as Stella said,do not alter anything on his body.

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  55. Many men feel they can be wicked to their faithful spouses and later ask for forgiveness. Women too can ask God for forgot later na. The man doesn't serve any sperm or erection! Honestly!!!

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  56. Hmm this is much, I would have supported your castrating him if not for the fear of God but any other thing that will make you happy do it and damn the consequences, if it's possible to wipe out the money in his bank account, go ahead. I may be young in age but I do advice women never to invest their money on any man, you are free to buy any property but in your name and if he can't cope, let him use the door. That is why I don't joke with my mum, although my father saw her through school, she is now by far more successful than him but she will never make any investment in their name together let alone using only his name, she does she can to keep the family together and it ends there and I am following her foot steps not minding the amount of love my husbands shows me. A woman may cheat on you but won't go to this extent of betrayal,be wise madam, don't ever let him know your plans, silently correct your mistakes cos if care is not taken, they may even kill you.

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  57. Jesus Christ!๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿฝ

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  58. Poster, relax and calm down. I give you thumbs up on all your resolve except for the castration one. Please do not do it. You see, right now you are the victim, don't make him the victim. You would have gone too far and you will regret it. Since you are the reason why the family belives he too much waelth that your male son alone cannot inherit , strip him off everything. Kudos to the ones you have done so far. You see , without you, theres no how he will be able to forge ahead with his plans, or 60k monthly salary. Change all the properties to your name. Withdraw all the financial contrubutions you do for him and both his family. Let him fend for himself wiyh the 60k salary, he will be too overcome with suffer to think of housing another family elsewhere. And finally, after you have done this, let him know that you know. If i were in your shoes, that marriage is over. That level of betrayal is too much for me to remain married to that man. I will lewve the house with the kids and write him a note stating all i know and wish him the best. He will come crawlimg back to you begging with all his family.

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  59. I salute your courage madam!!!! We need more of you amongst women so men can learn to treat women as flesh of their flesh and bone of their bone. Change all docs to your name, sell the house you pple live in right now, change the mgt of that school in the village and divorce him straight up. Because you both can't be married once everything is out. Either he likes you or you will hate him forever. I salute you again ma!!!

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  60. Stella, I'm very angry with you.
    Lady, your husband is lucky you are not even using juju because I know women who would have turned him into their houseboy using jazz. They will even bring other men to fuck in the house while the house boy watches.


    You are far too kind.

    If it was me I have no qualms with doing this. I'm even surprised another woman knows about this because it was one of the things I've thought of to deal with an erring husband. I don't have conscience because the says in Ezekiel "the soul that sinneth shall die"


    I'm very proud of you.


    If you don't want to make him impotent, find a way to make him loose his job.

    Make sure you watch your back.

    His family might be on stella's blog and know it is you based on all the description.


    Move out of the house asap to an unknown location preferably an estate with tight security.

    Withdraw your kids from their school to a new unknown school.

    Tell your parents asap so if anything happens to you someone has your back.



    To the ladies reading this, never give a man you earn more than so much power. Men will always be men. Their ego is tied to their wallet. If he didn't feel inferior to his wife, there is no way he would have agreed to his family's plan. The lady he is taking care of is the one he loves more.



    I'm proud of you, my dear.

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  61. Oh my God!!! Some men can be wicked. Please go with Stella's advice. That's the first and best. Don't touch his body in anyway just strip him of everything you've given( let's see if he'll still gain any stupid erection) I must say I feel very sorry for you. You're hardworking and you don't deserve this. Please in the eventuality of anything coming out, even if you have to confess anything don't allow yourself to be guilt tripped. Don't let anyone talk you back into sharing property or money or anything with him again!! Believe you me, he'll still go back and do it again.I feel for you and love your person already. Be strong, ok?

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  62. Poster please, do not touch any organ in his body, go with Stella's adivce. Strip him of everything that belongs to you and move away from him completely.
    As for his wicked family, may thunder fire them very well.
    They are even waiting for monthly allowance..mchteeew

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  63. I am very sorry you had to go through this. Why are men so so selfish??? He conveniently forgot that his wife is bankrolling his life. That man doesn't deserve your mercy madam because he never even remembered you in all of his wicked plans!

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  64. Please be careful with this man. He and his family can plot your death. Secure your properties and divorce him. What a wicked family!

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  65. Bvs have said it all, the only thing missing from your plan is divorce, that your husband can kill him. Madam, you have the upper hand, so you are to call all the shots. Do as clean up and throw him out, he is in love with the other woman so send him straight to the dustbin.

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  66. Please poster, make sure you don't forget any document at all. As in leave him with nothing, even the projects you did for his community, change it to your name as well. Lastly, don't let him know your plans before he travels to pay the dowry. Let him travel after the ban has been lifted with him still thinking he's a rich man. Before he is back, sell the house and move out. Let him and his new wife come and meet the shock of their lives, then you serve him divorce papers. He thinks he is smart and moving mad, show him you're the boss with moving madder.. Please remember to give us an update

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  67. After you leave him, be prepared that him and his family will most likely come to beg you. DO NOT EVER GO BACK TO HIM. If you ever go back, also know that there’s a high chance that he will end up killing you. He will get you to relax and scheme with that same family to eliminate you.

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  68. Madam, just follow Stella's advice pls. More grace to you❤❤❤

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  69. Women, if you're earning way more than your husband, invest in your properties and put them in your name! Men are not loyal and the Nigerian law doesn't favor women.

    Can you imagine? The man who insisted on having just three kids now wants to have more with another woman. Chai!!!!

    Poster, please be careful and let us know what happened next.

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  70. The heart of human being is desperately wicked. Who can know it! I feel so heartbroken on your behalf madam. Thank God you have the financial capability to fight back. Because this is what most niaja wives lack that make them victims in their own homes!

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  71. Bvs have said it all, the only thing missing from your plan is divorce, that your husband can kill you. Madam, you have the upper hand, so you are to call all the shots. Do a clean up and throw him out, he is in love with the other woman so send him straight to the dustbin.

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  72. I honestly think the poster's mind is made up. She is just confused about the fact that her conscience might betray her or guilt-trip her into confessing.

    But Poster, if you are seeing this, I pray God gives you the wisdom to make the best decision. For the sake of what you have toiled for so many years to achieve and also your children, just leave. I beg you in the name of God.

    This was the same issue my mum faced. She thought she could handle it well by not leaving and keeping my so-called dad to herself but he beat her to it.

    By the time she was even considering a divorce, he frustrated all her plans, both financially and otherwise.

    Now she is left to live in misery with that wicked man who of course has nothing to show for all the years of philandering and wastage.
    My heart bleeds for you poster.
    Anytime I see a story like this, I just remember my mum.

    May God help you make a wise decision. Amen.
    I pray for the strength of God over your life, strength to carry on, strength to know that it is only a man/woman who wants to remain faithful and committed that will remain so.
    Amen.

    BV Vicky E.

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  73. Lest I forget poster, when you have moved from him and his family make sure you get a retaining order from the police against him and his family.


    Please, do not underestimate what the family can do against you because their cash cow is gone.


    Also, go to the state ministry and ask you want the school closed down. Or you can plan an accidental fire for the building. Make sure you are careful not to be caught because arson is a crime.

    They will all starve to death. Bastards.



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    1. "retaining order?" ๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค๐Ÿค

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  74. WHAT!!!girl I'm so happy that you took the tight steps to change the name on the properties to yours alone. I was dreading getting to the end of the narrative for fear that you would have stated that you lost it all to him.

    Now let's talk.
    The first step you took was beyond awesome because the needs of your children would definitely fall on you so kudos on that
    For the vasectomy idea I would advice to let it be. What if something goes wrong in trying to carry out with the plan, then your children have no one to look up to.
    How do you move on from here?
    You've done alright by keeping it a secret for a month,you can still keep mute for as long as you feel the need to stay in that deceit called marriage.
    Don't let people make you become who you are not and trust staying back and pretending all is cool whereas you are plotting evil(vasectomy and all)against him is all wrong.

    Move out of the house and take your children with you and when you've done that,you then let him and his family know that you know all about their shenanigans.

    There no longer love in this marriage. Dont kid yourself that it can be salvaged because it can't

    My story
    I had the same experience with you. I got his phone cloned and was able to read his messages. My mistake I told his people first and then confronted him with it. He promised he would change and I was pleased with to forgive and forget.

    Well guess what?They changed tactics.His people decided to switch to calling him and speaking in their native tongue(I'm igbo,he's Isoko) to plan against me.

    I finally left the marriage with my child. He even wanted to lay claim to the property I bought but was in his name.


    Dear bv, please leave because if you don't do so now you risk the chance of wat thing your children grow.

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  75. That family needs to be punished! The mom and sister sacked. No more stipend. Divorce their son. Secure all properties in your name . Sell off the house you guys even live in. Take off with your kids. Get a good lawyer because he will want to fight to get his kids back. Wow! A man just wakes up and destroys his own home. How sad...

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    1. As in....Just wakes up and destroy his PEACEFUL HOME. It is very painful

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  76. I can't begin to imagine the pain and hurt.
    Please don't harm him physically in anyway.

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  77. Please don't touch his body. Your conscience will haunt you plus if anyone finds out you can be persecuted and jailed. Since you have secured your properties in your name, make sure the school you built is also in your name and employ a new principal and new teachers, also if you can change the documents of the family house you built for his family in the village, into your name and send them out and sell it to someone else, do it. When he travels to see his parents get ready to change the locks of your house or move to a new place with the kids. Hire a good lawyer and go ahead with the divorce proceedings. You are financially stable so you can take care of your children. Show the messages between him and his family as evidence in court and after the divorce begin to live your life knowing that God is still on His throne and if it's your desire to get married again, He will make a way for you. Look at haviladivas101 on instagram. She is a divorced woman close to her fifties and she has found a handsome man that adores her. Your husband and his family are selfish, greedy and wicked people. Even if they beg you don't go back to him because they can poison you. May God give you wisdom to handle this situation.

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  78. This is an ACRIMONY story right here. Hmm, so painful.

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  79. Don't touch his body. I'm happy you have changed the names on document to your maiden name.

    If I find myself in this situation, I doubt I will still want to be married to him. He and his family are evil. These type can kill you

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  80. Umu Nwoke!! They never seize to amaze me..And it was you who wanted 5 kids, he said 3..Why didn't he tell his parents that it was his choice to have 3 kids..Why did he have to ridicule the wife of his youth..Please do not castrate him, it is not worth it and stop giving him sedatives as well..You are indeed a smart woman..Change all ownership now and get a good lawyer to handle the case very well..I believe your children's education is secure..Be very careful and prayerful..I will advice you leave that environment to have a clear head..Just separate from him..Just be calm..The best revenge is when he sees you winning, keep smiling and keep your head up..All the best..

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  81. Hmmm! Things I read, hear and see ehh.
    Does this now mean that men especially the man's family see good women that supports her husband and his family as a fool or a desperate woman doing all what she does because their precious son did her the biggest favor of her life by marring her??
    The poster wanted five children but the hubby refused and told her he only wants three, why didn't he tell his shameless family that he was the one who wanted only but three children?? Abi didn't he know that having three children entails that a gender/sex? must dominate?Did he demand for another child from the poster and she refused?? Why is he ruining and allowing he's ingrats and shameless family members to destroy his blissful and beautiful family why??
    Dear poster, he and his family members are not worth you soiling your beautiful blessed hands, since you've secured everything, just divorce his unworthy ass and move out with your beautiful children and please,make sure you take back the school you built for the wicked mother and sister to be managing, take it away from them and hand it over to another person that should be your worker, let me see how their wicked and ungrateful lives and that of the new wife they're planning to marry will turn out without you funding their excesses. Wicked family! Some men are really useless in this world I swear. And please try and let your own family know should incase he finds out that you're already in the know of his and his evil families plans.

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  82. You are doing well so far.
    Don't harm him or castrate him, let him carry his oriburuku away from you and not put more on your conscience.

    Let him go and marry a second wife on top his 60k salary,start breeding and enjoy his wealth in peace.

    Abeg forward the family group messages on his phone to all his family members and tell them thank you.(I'm sure it's one of them that sent the warning message to you though).

    May the peace of the Lord be with you.


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  83. AdaBekee, I am aware some vasectomy and sedating can be done by just adding liquid in your food or water. No operation or injection. Which one is far fetched? Anyway madam, you are the real MVP! I hail you. May God guide you in taking back your life because honestly, this man no deserve any mercy at all!!!

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  84. I agree 100% with Stella’s red pen

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  85. Wow poster... just wow.
    You are a very lovely person and may God bless the anonymous person that sent the first message.
    You are handling all this well so I’d suggest you don’t do anything to hurt him physically or otherwise. He’s not worth it anymore and you’d regret any harm you wish to inflict on him more than you’d regret confessing to the crimes.
    The next question is how to make him know you are aware of what he’s doing...something tells me you still want to pay him back. Honestly this is hard..... I’d say you make sure you get everything you know you contributed more on from him.
    His family is the worst tho. I don’t think they ever liked you from the onset tbh. And I don’t think their pressure was what made your husband agreed to what they wanted. He wanted to do it right form the beginning. He’s always been intimidated by your success Subconsciously and the way he chose to make himself feel better is by doing this to you. His family merely fueled his fire.
    I must commend you for how you have handled this issue so far!

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  86. Very wicked family, that's why i stopped doing too much for people. Most people don't deserve kindness. This chronicle made me angry. #spot remover#

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  87. I would have liked you castrating him but there's God and I think your conscience will judge you, please secure your property and cash to the last Kobo and leave for your sanity sake,and I would really love to get a feedback after all these play out.Please don't let this change the good heart and good person and daughter you have always been,God will comfort and help you
    SHALOM

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  88. Poster please collect that house and school you built for his parents and every other thing you bought in your names. Then send him packing. Let him go and get all those luxuries with his 60k. I hate rubbish.

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  89. Let me go anno on this. Baby girl pls FLEE when the ovation is hurt. Most families are from hell. Though l don't have much like you. Never gave them a child but l got to know my husband had a second home when we went for my mum in law burial. They hide it from me. I was the bread winner before this incident. L treated them better than my parents but what did they pay me back with. Another woman. It was as if l will die. As if the whole world should end. I almost took my own life. I became scared of every human. But then l woke up one morning with a resolution to start all over again. To live for the sake of my parents. I left him and went far away from them. They never expected it but yes l left. 4 yours down the lane. My God has vindicated me. The second woman is best described as Jezebel herself. Let me not bore you with all l have heard about them. Too many deaths in their family. She made the man a working corpse. They are looking for me like American Visa. But guess what. I have gone too far to look back. Leave them alone. Thank God you have children and a good profession. Invest all your love on your children and your careers. Sweetheart. Trust me. You will be fine. Believe it when l say you will be fine. I have gone that road. It was not easy but am here stronger. Please don't touch his body. Don't do anything you will regret in years to come. He is about to enter express. Allow him and his family. Dangote trailers are on high speed on their lane. God loves you

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  90. Dear poster, my younger sister story is similar to your although they are in Us. Same thing 3 kids, mother in-law always bragging about her son’s achievements though my sister was paying for all even private schools. This is what I told her, told her to look for a better offer in another state, so they sold their house when they moved, they leased another house, she put every bill in his name and the school in state owed school while telling him she was saving so they could build from scratch, now whatever she wants is what she contributes, the hubby can’t meet up the bills so his parents now know it is the wife that earns more as a doctor .
    Get a buyer for your house, sell it when he is gone, move to a rented apartment, don’t live in any of your houses in your name, rent them out, remove his name as you have done from your properties. Someone in the family loves you hence the info, try to get details of the wedding, two days before the wedding, inform your parents and let them return the bride price The man can kill someone but if you still want your marriage , send a text to all his siblings and explain how you wanted 5 kids and how you had to sacrifice to paint a united family but how they have stabbed you in the back. Tell them you wish them well and may the new wife give birth to many boys. They won’t know who told you amongst them and the marriage plan will scatter but don’t ever trust that man again.
    Best of luck and please keep your license by obeying your oath of service.

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  91. I AM DEAD PROUD OF YOU.....GOD ALMIGHTY BLESS YOU...

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  92. Hey this is so me. I found out about 3 years ago hubby has a 2 year old child with another woman. We have been happily married(or so I thought) for 20 years and have 3 children. Initially so many evil thoughts entered my mind. But now I have decided to just walk away. He has no property as he used all his money chasing women. I have my own property and money. All the landed property I bought in our joint name I have changed to just my name. I recently saw a lawyer and he will be presented with divorce papers soon. Poster I beg just walk and never look back. He is a bad man.

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    1. I love when women take their destiny into their hands..Right from time, I have said I will not have any joint account with any man..never never

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  93. See me screaming my head off๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿพ, some people wickedness na follow come๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฉ, aunty biko collect all your properties and investments you made with him, do not do anything to damage his health. Send him abroad for holiday and move out before he comes back. Or you can relocate yourself and the kids and thereafter send him a divorce paper to sign. Please be careful while you carry out your plans. God forbid bad thing.

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  94. This is the most sad thing I have ever read in a while. I just wish you can open up to someone close to you, cry as much as you can on her arms inorder not to take a decision that will drag both of you down(going to jail).

    Poster, stella's advice is a go go for me. She gave you this best advice here. Please don't act when you are boiling in a bottled anger. Please I beg you
    ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™.

    The nicest and tender person can change to something opposite if been bretrayed or limits are crossed . That is exactly your case poster, but remember God loves you so much that is while HE didn't let them take you unaware (I believe HE used that anonymous message to alert you fisrt), HE prevented such evil from befalling you and I hope you will make HIM(your creator) proud in any decision you are about to take. Sending you ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’– and strength through this period๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ.

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  95. Do not touch anything on his body please so it doesn't affect your career.


    1) tell your sister ASAP

    2) continue to change all docs into your name including the school

    3) the school in the village hire new management and tell them to go there when school re opens with security and sack your in laws and the security should escort them out. Keep security staff in the school henceforth.

    4) let your husband go after the lockdown to marry. While he is gone change the gate man at your home gate, move to another location. Empty the house or put it up for sale with the gate man there. When your husband is back the new gate man should give him an envelope with the divorce papers.

    5) at work beef up the security and they must never allow him into the compound or anywhere close to you.

    It can only get better

    Shalom

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  96. If this is a true story, since you've already secured your assets... WAKA. Or you confront him and tell him not to go ahead with it. That's if you're ready to forgive and continue the marriage. If he agrees, good. If not,still WAKA.

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  97. Ewoooo!!!Wat did I just read....

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  98. Poster you are a good woman. Thumbs up to you, pls do not hurt any part of his body. God wanted your husband to be exposed. Pls take Stella advice.

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  99. I'm not married yet but i made a decision that for every 5 naira my in laws gets,i will give my family triple that amount. From the stories i read here and other things i have seen around me, i realized that any in law will always pick their children first before any wife.

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  100. Why can’t you just divorce him and walk away with your properties and conscience free? If you stay in that marriage just know he will marry a second wife and are you willing to live with that? Divorce is an option and the easiest option in your situation. I stand with what Stella said don’t touch his body. Vengeance is the lord’s. You are even lucky you are the one that is financially secured. Lots of women I know that has crossed this road before were financially broke. These types of stories are common and you have an option, which is divorce and that is your safest option. I pray you make the right decision.

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  101. I remain team snoop any day.
    Some inlaws are from hell walahi.i salute your courage ma'am,you are a wise woman.

    Pls dont castrate him for the sake of your profession

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  102. On the flip side though,you did all these for a man and his family while you gave your parents only monthly stipend.. People of the world no matter who you marry never forget your nuclear family.

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  103. Please do know that the marriage is over as any attempt to give in to forgiveness...the said HEARTLESS family can plan your DEMISE...Abeg o...FLEE before it becomes story that touches and do not forget to give us AN UPDATE...AS I'M WAITING!! AJO NWOKE

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  104. Poster please make sure you give us feedback.

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  105. you are a smart woman, these was what my uncle did years back, he changed the whole documents without the wife knowing, just imagine they want another son from another woman untop of your wealth, ungrateful souls they will wait for that monthly stipend tire mtswwwwww.

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  106. Poster dear...so sorry for what you're passing through! So heart breaking story seeing all you did for your husband and family yet they are planning evil against you! Follow Stella's advise pls..don't do any bodily harm to him,just leave it to God! He will fight for you! Glad you have secured some of your properties back to your maiden name,cut off the incentives to his parents and make sure nothing you strip him off every other joint assets! For you to go this bad or hurt him,you rather walk away instead...don't stoop so low like he is about to do, you're more compassionate and reasonable,don't be evil like him! Just do the needful and walk away!

    All the best

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  107. He has the means to kill you. Cos telling them you've been the bread winner will hurt his ego .he is too far gone. Walk a way. Things will never be the same in your marriage.

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  108. Dear poster you have won my love already, you are the most brave BV so far. Kudos to you MaMi!
    Back to the matter at hand, u have done well in securing your properties back. Take Stella advice by not harming him physically.

    1) dont confront him yet, Get a good lawyer as your support system.

    2) retrieve every properties both the school in the village and many more.

    3) Allow him to travel for the dowry, move your kids and every other things from the house and sell it out, if you have not seen a buyer, seal the property with good padlocks to avoid him gaining access into the house when he returns.

    4) Get your divorce papers ready

    5) Call your parents and tell them all they need to know.

    6) upon return, if he call you about the strange sealing of the house, tell him to meet your lawyer in the court.

    7) be strong in prayers bcx him or his family may come after you spiritually.

    8) Make him right an undertaking with the police that nothing most happen to you.


    NB: please I beg you don't listen to who ever that will ask you to stay for the seek of kids ooooo else him or his family will kill you for disgracing them and take over your property.
    That man married you bcx of your wealth not because he loves you. Because if he loves you, he shouldn't have gives room for such discussion with his family in the first place talk more of to conquer with their dirty idea.
    Pls no matter what, don't stay back and never relent in prayer... Yes am shouting bcs am talking from experience of someone that it happened to and she was later killed spiritually by the said animalistic husband and his family.... The woman passed on in April during the lock down.

    May God give you the wisdom and strength to handle this situation....

    God gat your back!

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  109. Please poster, don't touch his body, stripe him of everything and walk away.

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  110. Golibe how can you call her vindictive after what you just read? The man brought out the vindictiveness in her. Haven't you heard that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned? Poster, please follow Stella's advise. It's better to walk away with a clear conscience and while at it mak sure you strip him bare. He's a miserable excuse of a man.

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  111. I commend u but u really have to end this marriage! Ur write up didn’t seem like I will leave this man, this marriage is over cos anything from now is fake! U can’t salvage this situation at all! Don’t do anything to his private, if he is infertile, don’t make his dick not to be erect, just leave him. I would encourage u to strip him and his family of everything and let someone in your family know what’s happening, then let him and his family know that u are aware of his plan , I f at allow the fool to go and marry in s village and come back, note that this guy can kill u and no amount of beg can make this marriage work , be very careful as he has shown u that he can’t be trusted

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